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Following the controversial suicide of late Razorback drummer Brian Velasco last January 16, his girlfriend Portia Carlos finally put a rest to speculations with a detailed statement on Brian's medical condition and death.
Read below for the unedited official statements sent to Push:
Brian’s medical condition: AN OFFICIAL STATEMENT
Brian had bipolar disorder. A mental HEALTH CONDITION that causes extreme mood swings that include mania or hypomania (emotional highs) or depression (lows). These episodes would happen fast and last for a short time, hours or a few days at the most, unlike depression that could linger for months or years.
On our first year together, he would tell me he had post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. I believe he used this disorder as an explanation for his sudden mood swings because it does not have the stigma of other conditions - just a consequence of a traumatic event.
But having seen all the extreme behaviors, and knowing about major life events in his past, I knew it could not be PTSD. I had a hunch he had bipolar condition.
What are the emotional highs and lows that I have observed? A not-so-happy event can make him giddily happy, just as a manageable issue or problem could make him feel as if it’s the end of the world.
He was staying at their family home during our first year but would go to his condo and call me when he was having an episode because he did not want his family to see it. He did not want to burden his mom, and was careful of what his brothers would see. He was supposed to be their role model. He was more a father to them than an older brother as they grew up without a dad and the brothers were way younger than him.
Sometimes, without any trigger, he would have manic episodes, quickly followed by depressive ones.
Early last year, he asked me to stay with him because he said thoughts of ending his life were creeping in in short waves.
For a week, he was either very angry or depressed. Raging or crying. Hyper or unable to move.I think because he saw what we went through together due to his state --- that I had to tie his wrist to mine while we slept, had to ask him to stand in front of the bathroom when I had to pee, I could only take a bath or buy something downstairs when someone visits, and that I had to miss work for a week --- that he finally agreed to see a doctor.
I will try my best to explain what the doctor said to us to remove the label that just because the definition of bipolar disorder is a “mental” condition, it means anyone diagnosed with it is crazy, because the word “mental” connotes craziness.
The doctor said that when you have the disorder, a part of your brain (not the MIND) does not function in the way it should.
Neurotransmitters that are supposed to meet/pair/ connect - these make persons without the condition react to events normally - do not meet/pair/connect in a person with bipolar disorder.
Before you judge someone with this disorder, I hope you can remind yourself that it is just similar to other disorders where some physiological part of the person does not function as it should, say an inefficient kidney that needs dialysis. In this case, the manifestations of this disorder is behavioral. The usual go-to of most doctors is to prescribe antidepressants, to address just the depression part, which just pulls them all the way up, at risk of crashing all the way down.Another is anti-pyschotic meds. This makes people on it feel numb, dead, and like a zombie, incapable of reacting to any happy or sad event.
So, he was put on medication and he agreed to take it religiously. The medicine was none of those I mentioned above.
If a person with the disorder experienced the highest 10 and the lowest 1 (when experiencing events that only warranted say, a 3 or a 7 reaction) the medication Brian received made him stay in the normal range, in the middle where we, who do not have the condition, are.
But the doctor said that it will take a few days before the meds would take effect.
Knowing that I was watching him 24/7, the doctor told me I can rest when he’s in the low state. The doctor explained that people with bipolar disorder, unlike people with functioning depression, do not have the energy to kill themselves. SO, NO. HE WAS NOT DEPRESSED. And I have seen his few-days-only depressive episodes several times. He would just lie on the sofa or on the bed, and can’teven bring himself to the bathroom to shower, nor feed the dog or himself.
The doctor said what I have to watch out for is the manic episode or a mix of both manic and depressive, because it is during such an episode when they can have an impulse and are capable of killing themselves.
But the medication was not a forever thing. A combination of regular physical activity, plus a special diet, will produce the same effect as the meds, the doctor said.
He has not been able to consult a dietician nor has he been able to start a strict workout regimen. Thus, he continued to take the meds.
And he has been okay since.
We know he also loved his drink, drinking was “part” of their profession, and always present at gigs. And while he still experienced “bad drunk” episodes, they were just that. He either had bad or happy normal drunk episodes, JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.
A few weeks ago, he started being snappy. But apart from snapping at me over petty stuff (one of our recent fights was over a kitchen colander when he was cooking, and my saying the pasta he cooked seemed undone), he was his usual kind and patient self 95% of the time.
I just put it down to him being stressed out from the combination of losing his dog last November, exhaustion from seeing to me when I was recently ill and single-handedly taking care of a new puppy (Panchito) 24/7.
Why would I think that a puppy could cause so much stress? Because Brian would sometimes come up to me and say “Love, I’m so exhausted! I just played with Panchito to expend his bottomless energy supply”... “he’s like the flash!,” and in my mind I would think “Wow! I’m the one who just came from work and you’re exhausted over a puppy.”
But this was before I experienced dog-sitting Panchito. The first time I did, I wanted to escape from him even before Brian got home from a rehearsal. Even if Panchito is extremely adorable and I love him almost as much as Brian did. I even started making excuses after, telling Brian I couldn’t dog-sit when he had rehearsals or recordings (the only times he would leave Panchito) because I had to craft a presentation. This, so Brian could call his brother to watch over Panchito.
At the wake, his brother said “I cant even sleep coz he (Panchito) munches on my hair or whatever he can reach”. So yeah, it was not so far off that Brian was being snappy because he
was exhausted training and taking care of extra-hyper Panchito full-time. He loved the new puppy so much and wanted to be a better furparent to the new dog that he didn't go out unless it was for work. SO, NO. WHAT HAPPENED WAS NOT BECAUSE OF THE DEATH OF HIS DOG
ALFIE LAST NOVEMBER.
At the wake however, the helper who cleaned his condo unit once a week and bought his meds told us Brian had not asked her to buy his meds. After his death, they also saw some meds in the condo when his supply should have been used up by then. The helper knew when she was supposed to buy the meds if Brian had been taking it regularly.
A few days before Jan 16, he had also been drinking because his friend came over that weekend. Once he starts drinking, it would be a 3-4 day drinking spree. Everyone close to him knows this.
But while he loved to drink, Brian could also go without drinking for days or weeks. Once he starts though, when he had friends over or he had a gig, he would be drinking for days.
His manic episodes were VERY SIMILAR to his bad drunk episodes. And we all thought he was taking his meds, specifically because he has not had a manic episode since he started taking them.
SO, NO. HE WAS NOT ALONE NOR ISOLATED IN HIS LAST FEW DAYS. WE HAVE SEEN WORSE AND WE JUST ASSUMED THAT IT WAS ALCOHOL AND THAT HE WOULD BE SOBER IN A FEW DAYS.
I was a few floors up and just couldn’t go down much since Sunday because I was closely observing my dog who was very ill. But he would come up to my unit and we had our meals and usual routine together. His brother had been staying at Brian’s condo because his internship and classes were near Brian’s place. His best friend also just visited. The band had meetings and rehearsals and recordings more frequently these past few weeks. His mom was always messaging him “Good morning baby bly bly” and we have been eating out with her often recently because her office is in Manila and there are a lot of new restos to explore in the area. HE WAS NOT ALONE.
So, imagine it was like having hypertension, and you were not taking your maintenance meds regularly or you stopped, and when your BP finally went up, you ate a bag of chicharon (in his case, hard alcohol).
But unlike other illnesses, by the time your body needs the medication, you already do not have the mental facility or capacity to know that you needed to take your meds. This is how the doctor saw yesterday explained to me what was happening in the last few days of his life.
I learned that intermittent taking of the meds, or waiting a few days for the meds, could cause a withdrawal.
He wasn’t depressed.
He was actually making plans prior to Jan. 16. On Jan 12 and 13, we spent hours training my always angry shih tzu Jack and Panchito to co-exist because we planned to live together this May, so we won’t have to pay for 2 broadband accounts, 2 meralco bills, 2 assoc dues, and decide each night which unit we were gonna sleep at, only because we needed 2 units in the same building to
separate my dog from his Alfie (his recently departed dog). We thought a puppy would be easier for my dog to learn to co-exist with.
On Jan. 13, he messaged another drum teacher-friend and asked her when their drum recital was.
On Jan 13, over dinner, we were talking about the color of his suits for two upcoming weddings in my family.
On Jan 15, OR A DAY BEFORE THE INCIDENT, he spoke to the mom of a student and asked if they had plans to go on a trip because he is scheduling a recital soon.
BASED ON HIS MEDICAL CONDITION, HE HAD A MANIC-DEPRESSIVE EPISODE ON THE DAY OF JANUARY 16. This was confirmed by the psychiatrist I talked to yesterday (Jan. 26) based on the events and activities I revealed to her.
If you have a relative who has bipolar disorder, please talk to his or her psychiatrist so that you will understand your loved one and know how you can help. Those suffering from bipolar disorder can indeed have suicidal thoughts and behavior.
Please read up on bipolar disorder to know the symptoms If you suspect your loved one has the same problem. If the symptoms are present, please bring your loved one to a psychiatrist as soon as possible for the proper diagnosis and to come up with a treatment plan that is suitable to your loved one, which may include therapy, aside from medication depending on your condition.
If you are bipolar and contemplating on ending it all, please seek help. I have always sensed that Brian was kind of embarrassed about having the condition. Please do not be. Your illness is not something to be embarrassed about. Do find the help that you need.
To those who genuinely were affected by Brian’s death, you can help by not judging people with this illness.
Please be kind to everyone you meet. Your small act of kindness might save a life.
***This is the first time I am speaking up about the suicide. I disown
all STATEMENTS attributed to me in articles published before this
OFFICIAL STATEMENT.
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On speculations about Brian and his death: an OFFICIAL STATEMENT I WILL BE ANSWERING SPECULATIONS, GOSSIP, MALICIOUS RUMORS AND LIES THAT HAVE BEEN WRITTEN AND SAID RECENTLY ABOUT BRIAN AND WHY HE DID WHAT HE DID. I SHOULDN’T EVEN, BUT IT IS DISHONORING THE KIND OF PERSON THAT HE WAS, HIS OVER-THE -TOP LOVE FOR US, AND THE LOVE OF THOSE AROUND HIM.
1. HE FOLLOWED HIS RECENTLY DEPARTED DOG ALFIE – NOT TRUE. He wanted to be a better Dad to Panchito than what he thought he was to Alfie. He was even more careful with Panchito. We weren’t allowed
to smoke in his unit anymore since Panchito arrived. Brian even went out the week before and bought broccoli, because he wanted to give super food for dogs this early because he wanted Panchito to live longer than Alfie. He loved Panchito so much.
2. HE WAS BEATING ME UP –NOT TRUE. HE NEVER LAID A HAND ON ME EVER. Our worst fights were all shouting matches. Even my mom told him several times how much she admired his
patience and tolerance for my brattiness. This is a guy who would wake up several times a night to refill my hot water bag, because no amount of meds could ease the debilitating pain from my adenomyosis condition.
The guy who a few weeks ago, when I was still having a BIT of pain and had to go to work, on the same day when his gout flared up big time, and we only had one arcoxia left between the two of us, gave way and let me have it.
And because he could not walk to the drugstore because the flare-up was on his ankle, he waited for me to get home from work with a new batch of arcoxia. He endured hours of extreme pain for me. He is the last person who would want me to experience any pain. Physical, or otherwise.
3. RAZORBACK WAS ON ITS WAY DOWN – NOT TRUE. In fact they’re in the last stages of an extremely major project that he had been so happy and excited about. Something so big that, if I'm not mistaken, has never been done in the PH music industry.
4. THE FAMILY WAIVED THE AUTOPSY BECAUSE WE WANTED TO COVER UP DRUGS IN HIS SYSTEM – NOT TRUE. BRIAN DID NOT DO ANY DRUGS, NOT EVEN WEED. He just liked alcohol. Drugs was never a consideration in the “waiving” of the autopsy. To us, we just lost someone we loved in the most tragic way.
It involved SOCO so we couldn’t even move his body immediately. There was no question of foul play because it was live-streamed. All we wanted was to be able to take care of his body asap, and bring it to a funeral parlor. There was already so much delay waiting to see him and hold him.
And in fact, the NBI still came to the funeral parlor later that day to do an autopsy. HIS FAMILY HAS THE AUTOPSY REPORT. So we had to wait still, but at least we were able to bring him to a more
“comfortable” place.
5. HE WAS OA OR KSP FOR LIVE-STREAMING THE ACT – NOT TRUE. AS I SAID BASED ON THE DOCTOR’S EXPLANATION, HE DID NOT KNOW WHAT HE WAS DOING AT THE TIME DUE TO HIS MANIC- DEPRESSIVE STATE.
Also, someone with bipolar disorder can have the tendency to be flamboyant and to like the grandiose. Remember his dubsmashes, his fondness for anything “fasyon,” and theatrical gestures during gigs and parties.
6. WHY DID I POST THAT AT LEAST HE WAS FREE FROM PAIN. For a very kind and caring person like Brian, he felt guilty that his condition was a burden to us, unlike “narcissistic” ones who got off
on all the attention and disruption that the condition caused. We once talked about it, and he told me he felt bad that I had to experience and endure his episodes. It pained him.
Persons with bipolar condition may not remember exactly what they said during such episodes, but they know after that they were abusive to us sometimes (NOT PHYSICALLY). I knew it wasn't him and it was the condition. In his letter to me, he said “you have always been there...sorry for being impossible...”
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The only question in my mind left was why he recently stopped taking meds regularly.
I saw a therapist yesterday (Jan. 26) to help me process my grief and understand this part.
The doctor said it could have been because everything was going great--- new projects, new puppy, his family, and us and our happy plans for this year--- that he thought he didn't need meds every day anymore.
Unfortunately, he went on withdrawal unexpectedly and while he was drinking at that.
It was a mix, a manic-depressive combination which his doctor warned me about, apart from a manic episode.
Hence, he was able to write letters because even though the moods changed very, very fast in the last 24 hours, there were lucid moments...moments when he felt his recent actions were a burden...and then moments when he couldn’t think about us or anything else anymore and just wanted to end it all...a sudden impulse which could not have been predicted.
***This is the first time I am speaking up about the suicide. I disown all STATEMENTS attributed to me in articles published before this
OFFICIAL STATEMENT.
Tuesday, January 29, 2019
No Miss Congeniality
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The older generation of celebrities are always reminding newbies of manners and conduct as they progress in their careers. The main advice is to make sure they treat everyone involved in the production, from the ones who do the most menial jobs to the most senior cast member, with respect. Unfortunately, some young actors cannot seem to take such advice to their hearts and end up in the list of celebrities the production staff would least prefer to work with.
When Accomplished Actress (AA) was hired in a promising project, the production staff was disappointed at the attitude she showed. The cast of the project comprised many of the big names of senior talents as well as the network’s own homegrown ones. Hence, AA was expected to at least be cordial to them and the staff. Unfortunately, AA showed them her attitude that indicated she was moving on her terms.
AA would allegedly arrive late on the set and want an early pack-up. Thus, many scenes were hurriedly done to appease AA. For the accounting staff, early packing up of the set incurs cost as the taping day is not maximized. Moreover, most local shows have a schedule to meet and with delays or early packups, editing has to be rushed, as the taped scenes are likely to be shown the next day.
As AA continued with her indifference to the requests if she could stay longer, the production staff gave her what she was sowing. Eventually, AA noticed that no one was talking to her anymore. Even her co-actors were not minding her and were merely civil toward her. AA acted and wrote an email to the top management of the network claiming that the staff of her project were rude and treating her like a nobody. The executives investigated her complaint and were shocked at the result.
The report indicated that AA was unpleasant to work with and was allegedly tagged with the “b” word as a co-worker. Worse, no one from the production staff said a good word about her. The findings were short of saying that the network’s production staff loathed her as a celebrity they have to work with and they would rather work with someone else.
Sadly, the promising project ended shorter than expected. The ratings were low and the commercial load was minimal. However, AA still has another project to work on, as per her contract. The problem is that the production staff are wary of working with her unless she changes her attitude and apologizes for her indifference and lack of congeniality.
‘If you build the guts to do something, anything, then you better save enough to face the consequences.’― Criss Jami
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Monday, January 28, 2019
Moving Along
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After a disappointing relationship, Distraught Talent (DT) was still having mixed feelings as to why he was dumped. His relationship seemed perfect and His Partner (HP) complemented his talent. Everything was going well until HP decided to move on and explore other opportunities. Besides, the network seems to have plans for the career of HP. Meanwhile, DT had no idea as to what destroyed his relationship with HP. HP is not even talking to him, according to the grapevine.
In his sadness, DT found himself abandoned by A Bestfriend (AB), who has been rumored as a special person in his life. When news leaked that DT and HP were over, AB instead of comforting DT, avoided him. Allegedly, AB wanted to avoid a scandal that would link him to the breakup. He has a slowly moving career and he did not want to jeopardize the roles being given to him in a network.
One day, DT realized he was gravitating to Artistic Personality (AP), who was once controversial and was even thought to be the reason that made two famous personalities stop talking to each other. DT had the opportunity to become close to AP and they spent the time bonding with each other.
DT and AP started texting and talking. Their talks led to one thing after the other until they became comfortable with each other. DT would drop by wherever AP had a gig and after his performances, they would be seen together. They would hang around and visit each other at home. Lately, DT had become a more frequent guest at the place of AP, where they can have more privacy. To relieve his stress, DT lets AP play top while he stays bottom, which is not surprising, as AP is known for being gifted.
‘Anyone who is in love is making love the whole time, even when they're not. When two bodies meet, it is just the cup overflowing. They can stay together for hours, even days. They begin the dance one day and finish it the next, or--such is the pleasure they experience--they may never finish it. No eleven minutes for them.’ ― Paulo Coelho
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