Sa experience ko on 2 kids (first born breastfed for 19 mos, second born still breastfeeding now at 25 mos), pinakamasakit yung first month. Masakit kasi learning to latch pa ang babies. May time na sugat sugat talaga nipples ko and when they suck, as in parang bubog lumalabas hindi gatas. Ganun kasakit! But phase lang sya, pag nakuha na nila tamang latch at naka build na ng routine, nagstablize na supply, hindi na masakit. The more they grow, mas nakakangawit na sya sa likod at shoulders. Hehe.
If you mean masakit ba manganak? It depends sa pain tolerance mo tsaka sa laki ni baby. Ako i chose a hospital here abroad na natural method as in walang epidural. Kaya naman as in wala silang doubt na kakayanin ko kahit maliit ako. Kaya dapat sundin tlga ung advice na healthy diet with exercise para di lumaki masyado si baby at madali lang lumabas. Para sa health nyo din both ni baby ung pagmaintain ng healthy weight. Iwas complications. If you mean masakit bang magbreastfeed, challenging din sya for me. I even had mastitis. Inoperahan ako pero outpatient lang naman tsaka pwede na din magbreastfeed right after. Contrary to other beliefs, mas convenient magbreastfeed kasi cost-effective sya at hindi mo na need timplahin. Stay healthy tlga para kayanin ng katawan mo ung lahat ng challenges. Keri naman if you put your mind and heart to it
Really painful, nakakaiyak sa sakit. but more than that, it’s the stress that comes with it. It takes so much of you, your time, your energy, your body.
currently breastfeeding now and I would have to say that this is the hardest for me compared to pregnancy and delivery and to think CS pa ako. Mas masakit pa yung mastitis for me kay sa CS wound ko or even sa CS recovery ko
Masakit siya at first kasi magsusugat talaga yung nipples tapos imagine na nagfeefeed ka pa rin kahit may sugat na. Pero after a good 2 weeks, okay na. Ibang sakit na lang ulit kapag nag-ipin ni si baby. 🤣 Breastfed my child for 3 years, no regrets.
Yung first 3 mos oo kasi hindi pa marunong mag latch si baby tas flat pa nipples ko. Tas gutom na gutom na si baby and hindi marunong mag suck kaya nangigigil at nag cclamp mouth nya. My gahhhhd. Di ko na imagine 1 month old kaya mag clamp at ganun ka sakit kahit walang ngipin. Para akong may baby dinosaur. Tas stress kami kasi di sya naggain ng weight kasi di nga matunong mag suck. Nag aaway kami ng asawa ko kung give up ba kami sa breastfeeding at at bottle na. But once na gets na nya ok na kami at tuloy tuloy na. She's 3 now pero ayaw pa rin tumigil dumede. We only do it before sleeping na lang and mas madali patulugin kung dumedede. Yun lang kainis daming nag jjudge pag narinig nila na dumedede pa. As for pumping ok lang, nood na lang ng Netflix while pumping and si husband muna sa baby or I pump while tulog si baby.
Kanya kanya lang feeding jourrney and wag ma apektuhan sa nagjjudge kung mag formula ka sa baby but mas convenient talaga mag breastfeed vs formula. Tipid sa gastos kasi mahal formula, feed anytime and anywhere basta naka cover and wala nang titimplahin at wala din dalang abubot for mixing formula, wala din huhugasin and issterilize plus nakakapayat pa.
Breastfeeding for 32 months. No. Pag masakit it means mali ang latch position. Alam mo kung anong masakit? Pag toddler na tapos nakakatulog sila ng mahimbing nalolock yung nipple mo in between their upper teeth and tongue.
first tipid sa formula, second mas nakakatulog ako ng mas mahaba kasi di na kailangan magtimpla, third oxytocin.. i like the feeling of milk letdown, pag may sakit si baby mas mabilis gumaling... breastfed my first and secondfor 4 years, my third 2 yrs old lang, because of ppd..
Yes masakit sa umpisa. Dagdag pa na kaka CS lang sau or kung normal man kakatahi lang ng keps. Puyat at pagod ka pa dahil every 2-3 hrs ang bf (depends sa bata kung laging gutom.
Samedt. I dislike it. 3 babies ako since 2017 so breastfeeding na ako.
Sa simula masakit talaga, yung description ko parang hinihiwa, masakit yun latch. Nagkasugat sugat nipple then it gets better pero pag may teeth na yun baby, masakit ulit
I stopped when i learned preggy ako sa next baby ko.
It is draining, taxing. Una yun di ka makatulog diretso talaga.
I hate pumping also. Ang dami dami dala dala, ang hassle. Tapos araw araw hugas ng madami parts
Imo, definitely not a “one size fits all” thing. Everyone has different experiences. I’ve exclusively bf my first child. It started out rough the first few weeks— she had difficulty latching. We later figured out she was tongue tied. The moment we got that taken cared off, everything was great. My second was a bit rough. He wanted to bf so much that I had to result to bf and pumping to keep up with the demands. You have to do what works best for you and your child. All that matters is your child is being fed.
Sa experience ko hindi masakit basta proper ang way ng paglatch ng bata. Masakit lang sa likod at katawan kasi may mga bata na palaging gusto nasa dede esp sa fussy period nila o growth spurts. Tsaka kung may mastitis ka, masakit. I never enjoyed pumping so unli latch lang kami.
Im with Ellen. Mom of 2 and never liked breastfeeding. I dont know why diko ma explain but i dont like it. I breastfed my eldest up to 1 year and it was a miserable journey for me. With my 2nd child, hindi ako nakapag breastfeed kasi wala akong milk and as bad as it sounds pero i was so glad i wasnt able to produce milk. Dont judge me na lang, to each his own.
Ako one week lang nag give up mag breastfeed. Super stressful kasi hindi mo alam na ilang oz na ang naiinom ng baby. Plus pressure pa sa pedia na naglo-lose na ng weight masyado ang baby. Kaya pumping nalang ako, kahit tiring at least alam ko ilang ounces naiinom
Same here, I did not like it. It made me suffer mentally so I decided to mix feed after 7 weeks and stopped completely after 4 months. It’s not for everyone. At the end of the day, happy mom, happy baby.
I remember i breastfed for almost the entire day everyday. As in lagpas 1 hr per feed nakalatch lang ang baby ko, tapos every 2 hrs feed ako kasi iyak ng iyak ang baby ko gutom nanaman. Mga2 weeks na ganyan sobrang laki ng weight loss ng baby ko yun pala wala sya makuha na milk. So ending dehydrated sya naconfine pa sa hospital. Then paglabas pinilit ulit ako magbreastfeed as in buong araw iyak ng iyak baby ko gutom nagpapanic na ko ang pedia ko ayaw ako bigyan ng formula milk reco, ayaw din ako bentahan ng donated breastmilk kasi for confined patients lang daw. Then nagmastitis ako, naoperahan. Paglabas pinilit pa din ako mag breastfeed as in literal dugo na lumalabas sa bxxbs ko humahalo sa kakarampot na milk. Tuloy ko lang daw sabi ng lactation nurse ko. St lukes bgc to, feeling ko talaga ang sama mag formula kaya super stressful times. Hanggang naggive up ako nag formula kami at 3 mos. and both me and baby happy and healthy. Kaya sa next baby ko d ako nag st lukes ang pressure nila magbreastfeed as in ang tindi. Hindi lahat ng mom kaya so dapat case to case ang paghandle.
10:56, OMG grabe naman pedia mo. btw, im the original poster of this thread and like i said with my 2nd baby wala akong milk supply. Ilang araw na kami sa hospital as in walang lumalabas kahit anong latch. Ang pedia na mismo nagsabi to give formula kasi iyak na nang iyak anak ko. She just told me to keep it hidden since ini encourage talaga sa hospital to breastfeed pero she does not 100% support it. Ang importante daw ay fed ang baby. So ayun, everybody happy. My son is now 11 and di naman sakitin. Mas sakitin pa nga yung panganay ko na EBF ko for 1 year.
10:56 I gave birth also sa st Lukes BGC. I had low supply, my baby was super thin and was always hungry.. consulted my pedia after a month of breastfeeding and asking milk donation from my SIL, he supported naman mix feeding.. walang pilitan. I love my pedia.
But when my baby was rushed to the emergency room at 5 months, breastfeeding advocate ung pedia at the time sa ER.. I was told by her na formula is for cows not for babies… sort of shamed na I stopped agad…
30+ yrs old na ako pero naalala ko pa sabi ng mom ko na noong newborn pa ko hindi talaga ako makabreastfeed sa kanya. She tried for the first month, pero wala talaga kaya formula fed ako. Yung brother ko naka breastfeed si mother ng ilang months then formula-fed din.
Yung brother ko yung sakitin noon, pero ako hindi naman. Kaya to each his own, depende sa situation lang din.
Ngayon I am 4 mos. pregnant and I’m getting scared of breastfeeding 🤣 Lord sana easy experience lang sa akin.
Yes, ang breastfeeding ay hindi para sa lahat ng momma. Given na mas madami syang benefits and economical, pero ang hirap nya. Marami ka din need isacrifice.
It's none painful for me (sabi nila it should not be painful if no complications and you do it the right way) but it's really really exhausting. You need to pump or to bfeed your baby every 3 hrs or so. Bfeed can last from 30 mins to an hour. Some unli latch. Not to mention cluster feeding where baby wants milk every hour. Then you have to do this medyo religiously because it can affect your supply if you miss a pump or bfeed. Worst, mastitis which is so painful.
I wanted to breastfeed pero wala talaga akong milk. Ang laki ng hinaharap ko pero walang silbi. Lol. Nagtry ako magpump pero masakit. Bilib ako sa mga nanay na nabebreastfeed mga anak nila ng matagal.
8:52 Same din ako momshie! Super konti ng supply ng milk ko noon, hindi kaya ng direct latch kasi nagbi-bleeding na. Pumping only lasted me for 2 months kaya no choice but to rely on formula milk since day 1. Sobrang gastos and traumatic yung breastfeeding journey ko
Haha tawang tawa ko 1121. Yun mga katulad talaga ni 923 ang dahilan bakit and daming pressured na mothers na magpa BF then nagkaka-mental health issue kasi mahirap talaga sya physically, mentally and emotionally. Yun can still have a loving experience with your child kahit hindi yan breastfeed. Sabi nga nila, a happy mom, a happy baby!
11:41 correct! Some people just love to glorify everything about motherhood. Parang bed of roses ang experience nila walang torns! Kaya madami (Lalo sa mga “trying” ) ang nanggigil na magkababy.
True maÅŸaya magkababy, happiness is out of this world but let’s not forget the struggle that comes with it.
it was excruciatingly painful for me but i can attest for many of my friends, like 923 it wasnt like that. natural sa kanila.
after you get past, it was the most beautiful thing. consider mo iif pump may huhugasan. need yaya and yaya assistant. when you travel dala mo whole house. i also bought 2 sets of pumps (flanges ba yun? kasi hirap magpump then hugas.. pag bf i just babywore my child and we went and traveled everywhere. yun lang even with yaya sa akin nakadikit anak ko.i loved bf. i only did iit sucvessfully with my last child and it was beautiful. ang sarap makita na andiyan ka pa lang excited na siya. i did direct bf with another child din din kaya lang sa sakit 2months or 1month lang kami i reverted to pumping. i spent tens of thousands getting lactation consultant yung isang magaling lang nagiwork. still one of the best decisions i ever made. before then, i used to look longingly at others who direct bf.
Ayan tayo e. Pag nag-share about a negative feeling or sadness, nag-empathise or pag di maganda ang response sa sad feeling, sasabihin invalidating yung feelings. Etong si 923, nag-share ng experience nya. Kakaiba sa na-experience ng karamihan, including me. Ang daming mocking feedbacks. Di ba invalidating din ng feelings yan? So ang pwede lang mag-share yung may kapareho ng bad experience? Grabe. Ginagawang norm na talaga sa socmed ang bastusan kahit di naman kilala.
I'm a BF mom and yes masakit siya lalo na pag kinakagat kagat ni baby yung nips. Mahirap umalis ng di kasama si baby magkaka mastitis ka dahil naiipon yung milk mo. Although madami benefits pero i hate it too parang very old fashioned din pag direct contact si baby
Thank goodness for this post of Ellen and the comments here! It has been my secret shame and wala akong masabihan kasi napaka-self-righteous and sanctimonious talaga ng mga succesfully breastfeeding moms in FB groups na feeling mo you’re such an undeserving mom kasi di mo nakayang magkaroon ng milk supply.
Looking back, im glad i breastfed my kids all upto 2 years old. It was hard but the bond, the smell of the head when they feed them is forever etched in my heart and memories... plus mas maganda immunity pag breastfeeding.... Its easier to buy nalang formula, but try your best of breastfeed. Its so worth it
I want to say I love how this thread became a support group for breastfeeding moms. I love reading about everyone’s experience because it helps knowing I’m not alone in this! It’s sooooo hard and frustrating lalo na kung wala kang milk. Tapos pag meron na and super puno na you need to pump every 2 hours kase the girls will be super engorged, and that hurts. It’s not for everyone and that’s ok. It is your choice. Your baby is loved no matter what you give them. Fed is best.
Pwede naman. But pumps are expensive, especially if hindi ka mahiyang agad sa napili mong brand at model. Mas maganda na nga ngayon dahil may pump rentals na yung ibang momma shop, at mas marami ng brand na mura.
Pwede naman but mahal yung hands free na pump and may mga nagsasabi na magkaka nipple confusion si baby if masyadong maaga na introduce yung bottle meaning hindi sya matututo na mag suck sa mommy and puro bottle na gusto. Iba kasi technique ng oag suck sa mommy vs bottle. Strict talaga pedia ng baby namin and lactation consultant din sya kaya straight latch kami for first 3 months. But grabe din sa stress and pressure nung una kasi hindi marunong si baby din mag latch.
Pwedeng pwede. I exclusively pumped for 8 months. It worked for me and husband kasi he was able to help me feed the baby. Yung tipong pwede ako maka alis ng bahay kasi may milk available sa fridge. Bonding na din yun ng husband ko at ni baby.
Dito sa US, libre ang breast pumps sa health insurance. Tapos meron din mura sa Amazon na wearable breast pumps
Pwede but breastfeeding increases more the milk supply than pump. This is according to lactation consultants. I did both, and from my experience, both are painful at the start. Kasi ang problem sa experience ko, I was not able to latch my baby properly, until the lactation consultant saw how I was latching the baby. By the time it was corrected, masakit na. So need magtiis to continue breastfeeding. After a month or less of breastfeeding, wala na yung pain.
Breastfeeding mama here. Swerte na lang siguro ako na hindi siya painful for me pero I don’t enjoy it too. It’s very taxing both physically and mentally. Parang kinukuha talaga ni baby lahat ng energy mo. Pag gusto ko na mag give up, iniisip ko na lang talaga this is best for my baby.
Lol walang kinalaman ang breastmilk sa talino ng bata. Anak ko formula fed but graduated Cumlaude in Engineering and passed the board in 1 take. Now he’s about to finish his Master’s in UP. Just saying.
Ay for me its a myth. I was not a breastfed baby pero hindi naman ako lumaki na bobo. Jusko. Yung pinsan ko formula fed din pero latin honor sya nung pre med nya and is now going to med school.
Same. Super drained ako emotionally and mentally when I was starting. Ngayon going 4 months na baby ko, once a day nalang ako nagpapump. Ang gaan ng feeling. Di talaga sya para sa lahat
Im still breastfeedinf my 19months old. Needs your suggestion how to wean him off. I am having a hard time stopping it kasi 24/7 kami magkasama ng anak ko.
Same din naging prob ko mommy.. better to talk with your partner if he’s available at night. He can sleep with the baby while you take your rest. Until unti naman sa bottle. Sa una aayaw talaga yan but sabi nga nila pag gutom na yan no choice na… it’s a process but with support kaya. Goodluck mommy
breastfed my 2 girls and it was the easiest and most fulfilling ever as a mom. if you think negatively of it, talagang you won't like it. but if you are unselfish and focus on the baby's wellbeing, the milk production will be easy and baby will latch on naturally pag-abot pa lang sa iyo after baby is delivered... no more timpla-timpla, and the weight comes off fast yehey lol
I breastfed my 2 kids. Am 70 now. During those times in the 80s I wasn’t aware of breast pumps. My birthing coach and gynecologist taught me how to express my my breastmilk using my hands. It wasn’t painful. Once you get the technique the breastmilk freely flows into the feeding bottle. I kept them in the freezer for those days when I return to work. I did express my milk at work too. Simple lang nung araw.
Wala akong milk kahit anong maasage ng ugat na napakasakit ang konti ng milk na lumalabas 24 hrs kong iipunin ang milk tapos isang inuman lang ng anak ko omg talaga
From my experience, the first stage of breastfeeding was the hardest-walang milk na lumalabas, and it took weeks before it started flowing. Then, when baby’s teeth came out, it became even more stressful dahil bawat didi may kasamang kagat. The most painful part for me was when I stopped. My breasts became so hard, parang melon na may bukol, and it took about a week to completely dry up. Thankfully, with my second baby, it lasted only 1 1/2 years, and siya na mismo ang tumigil, making it much easier than the first.
I don’t like breastfeeding din! 1st born ko 1 yr and 8 mos kami pero lagi ako naiyak and sobrang uncomfy for me. Nagtiis ako kase sabi it will lessen the chance daw na ma aquire nya allergies and asthma ko. During that time, wala din ako option kase wala akong pera haha. Tagal bago ako ma convince para mag try ng 2nd baby, this time din nag decide na ko mag mix feed.
Ellen kung nanahimik ka sa pagbubuntis mo tumahimik ka na din sa mga ganyan di mo na kailangan sabihin sa socmed para lang me ma post ka. Just saying...
I was CS and I breastfed my first born for 3 years. It was my dream to breastfeed for children because i saw the benefits sa mga pamangkin ko. But breastfeeding is not for everyone. It’s a lot of work and yes sobrang sakit sa simula. CS ako pero mas masakit for me ang breastfeeding. Umiiyak ako sa sakit sa simula nung sugat sugat na nipples. Buti mataas pain tolerance ko so i kept going. Best decision ever. 4 years old na anak ko at di sakitin plus so many more benefits!
Gosh i developed a mastitis when breastfeeding my lo. Grabe ang pain and sacrifice… it was awfully painful most of the time and the pumping made it worst. Everytime mag breastfeed ako my toes curl sa sakit huhu. In the end i gave it up but was able to breastfed for a year on my left breast only. My first born was formula, second one was breastfed. Id say we do what we think is best for us.
And also it really takes so much of time and energy..naging dependent lo ko sa breastfeeding to the point na halos yun na lang ginagawa ko huhu.. as a working mom nun it wasnt healthy anymore. Super drained. But the good thing that came out of if my lo was super attached to me, super sweet.
Im ftm. Nakakadepressed sa totoo lang lalo na kapag hindi marunong maglatch si baby sa boobies mo, no choice ka kung hindi magpump. Sobrang sakit magpump lalo na kapag kont-konti lang nakukuha mo milk tpos every 2hrs kailangan mo magpump.
napaka-nega mo. this is actually refreshing kasi she's openly saying she hates to breastfeed, and I'm sure a lot of moms feel the same way pero they think it will make them a bad mom if they complain. with her celebrity status, I'm sure maraming moms ang nag-express ng agreement just like what you see on this thread which can be reassuring for others, esp new moms.
Sa first baby ko 3.months lang ako ng bf, sa 2nd 3 years, nung first week yata nagka-nana yung left n*ps ko kasi sobrang na suck ng baby ko ang sakit kaloka, tapos pag puno ayun masakit siya pero eventually nawawala, ok lang naman yung sinabi ni Ellen, kahit naman she doesn't like it tamo ginagawa pa din naman niya kasi love niya anak niya, we don't have to love or like something naman that we do all the time but we still go ahead and do it if makakabuti sa mga mahal natin
Bakit after manganak ang hilig mag explain at reklamo ni Ellen? Basta nanganak kna kesyo ayaw mo ng mga gender reveal, gusto mo ng privacy, ayaw mo padede... Ano pa ba pakialam ng tao. Basta nashare m na nanganak ka yun na yun.
Because she wants to give the impression na she’s cool and different. Alam niya ang pulso ng netizens regarding gender reveal, showing bumps, etc kaya kunwari wala siyang mga ganun. But give it a few days, she’ll be one of those who gives blow by blow account of her experience.
Galit na galit ka ante, problema mo ba? Kita mo buong thread kung paano nakatulong ang post niya sa maraming mommies to openly share their hardships in breastfeeding? At kahit hindi, ano namang pake mo ba eh socmed niya yan?
Fed is best mga momsh. First time ko mag pa breastfeed sa eldest ko naalala kong feeling parang hinihigop kaluluwa ko HAHAHA i have 3 kids all breastfed and another kid on the way. Basta wag ipressure ang sarili. Fed is best kesyo breastfeed or formula
Mga moms. I’m curious? Masakit ba? one of the thousand reasons kasi toh kung bat ayoko magka anak hehe
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DeleteSa experience ko on 2 kids (first born breastfed for 19 mos, second born still breastfeeding now at 25 mos), pinakamasakit yung first month. Masakit kasi learning to latch pa ang babies. May time na sugat sugat talaga nipples ko and when they suck, as in parang bubog lumalabas hindi gatas. Ganun kasakit! But phase lang sya, pag nakuha na nila tamang latch at naka build na ng routine, nagstablize na supply, hindi na masakit. The more they grow, mas nakakangawit na sya sa likod at shoulders. Hehe.
DeleteUna lang after that ok n
DeleteIf you mean masakit ba manganak? It depends sa pain tolerance mo tsaka sa laki ni baby. Ako i chose a hospital here abroad na natural method as in walang epidural. Kaya naman as in wala silang doubt na kakayanin ko kahit maliit ako. Kaya dapat sundin tlga ung advice na healthy diet with exercise para di lumaki masyado si baby at madali lang lumabas. Para sa health nyo din both ni baby ung pagmaintain ng healthy weight. Iwas complications.
DeleteIf you mean masakit bang magbreastfeed, challenging din sya for me. I even had mastitis. Inoperahan ako pero outpatient lang naman tsaka pwede na din magbreastfeed right after. Contrary to other beliefs, mas convenient magbreastfeed kasi cost-effective sya at hindi mo na need timplahin. Stay healthy tlga para kayanin ng katawan mo ung lahat ng challenges. Keri naman if you put your mind and heart to it
Really painful, nakakaiyak sa sakit. but more than that, it’s the stress that comes with it. It takes so much of you, your time, your energy, your body.
Deletecurrently breastfeeding now and I would have to say that this is the hardest for me compared to pregnancy and delivery and to think CS pa ako. Mas masakit pa yung mastitis for me kay sa CS wound ko or even sa CS recovery ko
DeleteYep! I hate pumping! Coz you have to pump every freaking 2 hours. Ngarag ka na nga, kelangan pang mag pump lol
DeleteMasakit siya at first kasi magsusugat talaga yung nipples tapos imagine na nagfeefeed ka pa rin kahit may sugat na. Pero after a good 2 weeks, okay na. Ibang sakit na lang ulit kapag nag-ipin ni si baby. 🤣 Breastfed my child for 3 years, no regrets.
DeleteOmg! Sa umpisa sobrang sakit.. mas masakit pa sa tahi ko.. to the point na nagdurugo na yung nipple ko..
DeleteNot at all
DeleteIt is satisfying actually esp pag nakikita mo un baby busog na busog. Haha. Iba ang bond pag BF grabe un pagmamahal sayo ng anak.
Yung first 3 mos oo kasi hindi pa marunong mag latch si baby tas flat pa nipples ko. Tas gutom na gutom na si baby and hindi marunong mag suck kaya nangigigil at nag cclamp mouth nya. My gahhhhd. Di ko na imagine 1 month old kaya mag clamp at ganun ka sakit kahit walang ngipin. Para akong may baby dinosaur. Tas stress kami kasi di sya naggain ng weight kasi di nga matunong mag suck. Nag aaway kami ng asawa ko kung give up ba kami sa breastfeeding at at bottle na. But once na gets na nya ok na kami at tuloy tuloy na. She's 3 now pero ayaw pa rin tumigil dumede. We only do it before sleeping na lang and mas madali patulugin kung dumedede. Yun lang kainis daming nag jjudge pag narinig nila na dumedede pa.
DeleteAs for pumping ok lang, nood na lang ng Netflix while pumping and si husband muna sa baby or I pump while tulog si baby.
Kanya kanya lang feeding jourrney and wag ma apektuhan sa nagjjudge kung mag formula ka sa baby but mas convenient talaga mag breastfeed vs formula. Tipid sa gastos kasi mahal formula, feed anytime and anywhere basta naka cover and wala nang titimplahin at wala din dalang abubot for mixing formula, wala din huhugasin and issterilize plus nakakapayat pa.
Breastfeeding for 32 months. No. Pag masakit it means mali ang latch position. Alam mo kung anong masakit? Pag toddler na tapos nakakatulog sila ng mahimbing nalolock yung nipple mo in between their upper teeth and tongue.
Deletefirst tipid sa formula, second mas nakakatulog ako ng mas mahaba kasi di na kailangan magtimpla, third oxytocin.. i like the feeling of milk letdown, pag may sakit si baby mas mabilis gumaling... breastfed my first and secondfor 4 years, my third 2 yrs old lang, because of ppd..
DeleteYes masakit sa umpisa. Dagdag pa na kaka CS lang sau or kung normal man kakatahi lang ng keps. Puyat at pagod ka pa dahil every 2-3 hrs ang bf (depends sa bata kung laging gutom.
DeleteMas uncomfortable ang engorged, once your milk is emptied it is quite a relief. Parang pee if you hold it long , you will not be happy.
DeleteMasakit yung machine pumping.
DeleteYung sa breastfeeding masakit din, dagdag pa yung kapag nanggil ang baby and makagat.
Mas masakit pa sa panganak ang magbreastfeed but the reward is huge
Deletesa may kaya masakit...sa homeless hindi tig sampo nga anak.
DeleteMy gosh! Reading all the comments… salute to all your sacrifices mommas!!!!
DeleteYes sa umpisa, super sakit, super hapdi, lalabas talaga dugo minsan.
DeleteSamedt. I dislike it. 3 babies ako since 2017 so breastfeeding na ako.
DeleteSa simula masakit talaga, yung description ko parang hinihiwa, masakit yun latch. Nagkasugat sugat nipple then it gets better pero pag may teeth na yun baby, masakit ulit
I stopped when i learned preggy ako sa next baby ko.
It is draining, taxing. Una yun di ka makatulog diretso talaga.
I hate pumping also. Ang dami dami dala dala, ang hassle. Tapos araw araw hugas ng madami parts
But for the love of my chikiting
Imo, definitely not a “one size fits all” thing. Everyone has different experiences. I’ve exclusively bf my first child. It started out rough the first few weeks— she had difficulty latching. We later figured out she was tongue tied. The moment we got that taken cared off, everything was great. My second was a bit rough. He wanted to bf so much that I had to result to bf and pumping to keep up with the demands.
DeleteYou have to do what works best for you and your child. All that matters is your child is being fed.
Sa experience ko hindi masakit basta proper ang way ng paglatch ng bata. Masakit lang sa likod at katawan kasi may mga bata na palaging gusto nasa dede esp sa fussy period nila o growth spurts. Tsaka kung may mastitis ka, masakit. I never enjoyed pumping so unli latch lang kami.
DeleteI also dont like the feeling na nagpa pumpa t breastfeeding anywhere.Parang lakas maka depress.
DeleteIm with Ellen. Mom of 2 and never liked breastfeeding. I dont know why diko ma explain but i dont like it. I breastfed my eldest up to 1 year and it was a miserable journey for me. With my 2nd child, hindi ako nakapag breastfeed kasi wala akong milk and as bad as it sounds pero i was so glad i wasnt able to produce milk. Dont judge me na lang, to each his own.
ReplyDeleteOne month lang ako nag bf sa 2 kong anak. Hindi pa palagi. Mixed feeding. Hindi ko gusto at napaka uncomfortable for me.
DeleteAko one week lang nag give up mag breastfeed. Super stressful kasi hindi mo alam na ilang oz na ang naiinom ng baby. Plus pressure pa sa pedia na naglo-lose na ng weight masyado ang baby. Kaya pumping nalang ako, kahit tiring at least alam ko ilang ounces naiinom
DeleteSame here, I did not like it. It made me suffer mentally so I decided to mix feed after 7 weeks and stopped completely after 4 months. It’s not for everyone. At the end of the day, happy mom, happy baby.
Deleteme too pero tyinaga ko na lang pumping para kahit papano breastmilk pa din mainom ng anak ko.
DeleteI remember i breastfed for almost the entire day everyday. As in lagpas 1 hr per feed nakalatch lang ang baby ko, tapos every 2 hrs feed ako kasi iyak ng iyak ang baby ko gutom nanaman. Mga2 weeks na ganyan sobrang laki ng weight loss ng baby ko yun pala wala sya makuha na milk. So ending dehydrated sya naconfine pa sa hospital. Then paglabas pinilit ulit ako magbreastfeed as in buong araw iyak ng iyak baby ko gutom nagpapanic na ko ang pedia ko ayaw ako bigyan ng formula milk reco, ayaw din ako bentahan ng donated breastmilk kasi for confined patients lang daw. Then nagmastitis ako, naoperahan. Paglabas pinilit pa din ako mag breastfeed as in literal dugo na lumalabas sa bxxbs ko humahalo sa kakarampot na milk. Tuloy ko lang daw sabi ng lactation nurse ko. St lukes bgc to, feeling ko talaga ang sama mag formula kaya super stressful times. Hanggang naggive up ako nag formula kami at 3 mos. and both me and baby happy and healthy. Kaya sa next baby ko d ako nag st lukes ang pressure nila magbreastfeed as in ang tindi. Hindi lahat ng mom kaya so dapat case to case ang paghandle.
DeleteWhen it comes to motherhood/parenting, you do you talaga.
Delete10:56, OMG grabe naman pedia mo. btw, im the original poster of this thread and like i said with my 2nd baby wala akong milk supply. Ilang araw na kami sa hospital as in walang lumalabas kahit anong latch. Ang pedia na mismo nagsabi to give formula kasi iyak na nang iyak anak ko. She just told me to keep it hidden since ini encourage talaga sa hospital to breastfeed pero she does not 100% support it. Ang importante daw ay fed ang baby. So ayun, everybody happy. My son is now 11 and di naman sakitin. Mas sakitin pa nga yung panganay ko na EBF ko for 1 year.
Delete10:56 I gave birth also sa st Lukes BGC. I had low supply, my baby was super thin and was always hungry.. consulted my pedia after a month of breastfeeding and asking milk donation from my SIL, he supported naman mix feeding.. walang pilitan. I love my pedia.
DeleteBut when my baby was rushed to the emergency room at 5 months, breastfeeding advocate ung pedia at the time sa ER.. I was told by her na formula is for cows not for babies… sort of shamed na I stopped agad…
Choose pedia wisely
30+ yrs old na ako pero naalala ko pa sabi ng mom ko na noong newborn pa ko hindi talaga ako makabreastfeed sa kanya. She tried for the first month, pero wala talaga kaya formula fed ako. Yung brother ko naka breastfeed si mother ng ilang months then formula-fed din.
DeleteYung brother ko yung sakitin noon, pero ako hindi naman. Kaya to each his own, depende sa situation lang din.
Ngayon I am 4 mos. pregnant and I’m getting scared of breastfeeding 🤣 Lord sana easy experience lang sa akin.
Yes, ang breastfeeding ay hindi para sa lahat ng momma. Given na mas madami syang benefits and economical, pero ang hirap nya. Marami ka din need isacrifice.
ReplyDeleteIt's none painful for me (sabi nila it should not be painful if no complications and you do it the right way) but it's really really exhausting. You need to pump or to bfeed your baby every 3 hrs or so. Bfeed can last from 30 mins to an hour. Some unli latch. Not to mention cluster feeding where baby wants milk every hour. Then you have to do this medyo religiously because it can affect your supply if you miss a pump or bfeed. Worst, mastitis which is so painful.
ReplyDeleteI second this anteeeh! Halo halo na e, puyat pagod and everything in between
DeleteI wanted to breastfeed pero wala talaga akong milk. Ang laki ng hinaharap ko pero walang silbi. Lol. Nagtry ako magpump pero masakit. Bilib ako sa mga nanay na nabebreastfeed mga anak nila ng matagal.
ReplyDelete8:52 Same din ako momshie! Super konti ng supply ng milk ko noon, hindi kaya ng direct latch kasi nagbi-bleeding na. Pumping only lasted me for 2 months kaya no choice but to rely on formula milk since day 1. Sobrang gastos and traumatic yung breastfeeding journey ko
DeleteSame, Ellen. If affordable lang ang formula milk, nagtake na agad ako ng meds to stop my milk production.
ReplyDeleteThere's a law for infant milk to stay expensive (no promos, no discount) to encourage mothers to breastfeed
DeleteIt wasn’t painful for me. It’s a wonderful journey for me knowing I was providing food for my little one. It was a loving experience.
ReplyDeleteIkaw na, teh.
DeleteHaha tawang tawa ko 1121. Yun mga katulad talaga ni 923 ang dahilan bakit and daming pressured na mothers na magpa BF then nagkaka-mental health issue kasi mahirap talaga sya physically, mentally and emotionally. Yun can still have a loving experience with your child kahit hindi yan breastfeed. Sabi nga nila, a happy mom, a happy baby!
Delete11:41 correct! Some people just love to glorify everything about motherhood. Parang bed of roses ang experience nila walang torns! Kaya madami (Lalo sa mga “trying” ) ang nanggigil na magkababy.
DeleteTrue maÅŸaya magkababy, happiness is out of this world but let’s not forget the struggle that comes with it.
9:23 isa kang pinagpalang nilalalang at wala ka naramdaman na sakit sa pagpapadede.
Deleteit was excruciatingly painful for me but i can attest for many of my friends, like 923 it wasnt like that. natural sa kanila.
Deleteafter you get past, it was the most beautiful thing. consider mo iif pump may huhugasan. need yaya and yaya assistant. when you travel dala mo whole house. i also bought 2 sets of pumps (flanges ba yun? kasi hirap magpump then hugas.. pag bf i just babywore my child and we went and traveled everywhere. yun lang even with yaya sa akin nakadikit anak ko.i loved bf. i only did iit sucvessfully with my last child and it was beautiful. ang sarap makita na andiyan ka pa lang excited na siya. i did direct bf with another child din din kaya lang sa sakit 2months or 1month lang kami i reverted to pumping. i spent tens of thousands getting lactation consultant yung isang magaling lang nagiwork. still one of the best decisions i ever made. before then, i used to look longingly at others who direct bf.
Ayan tayo e. Pag nag-share about a negative feeling or sadness, nag-empathise or pag di maganda ang response sa sad feeling, sasabihin invalidating yung feelings. Etong si 923, nag-share ng experience nya. Kakaiba sa na-experience ng karamihan, including me. Ang daming mocking feedbacks. Di ba invalidating din ng feelings yan? So ang pwede lang mag-share yung may kapareho ng bad experience? Grabe. Ginagawang norm na talaga sa socmed ang bastusan kahit di naman kilala.
Delete11:12 It’s 9:23’s pick me girl tone kasi. And, yes, you both should learn to read the room.
DeleteI'm a BF mom and yes masakit siya lalo na pag kinakagat kagat ni baby yung nips. Mahirap umalis ng di kasama si baby magkaka mastitis ka dahil naiipon yung milk mo. Although madami benefits pero i hate it too parang very old fashioned din pag direct contact si baby
ReplyDeleteThank goodness for this post of Ellen and the comments here! It has been my secret shame and wala akong masabihan kasi napaka-self-righteous and sanctimonious talaga ng mga succesfully breastfeeding moms in FB groups na feeling mo you’re such an undeserving mom kasi di mo nakayang magkaroon ng milk supply.
ReplyDeletekaya pala ganun feeling ng kapatid ko kasi kasali sya sa nga groups na un 😤
DeleteLooking back, im glad i breastfed my kids all upto 2 years old. It was hard but the bond, the smell of the head when they feed them is forever etched in my heart and memories... plus mas maganda immunity pag breastfeeding.... Its easier to buy nalang formula, but try your best of breastfeed. Its so worth it
ReplyDeletemmm pwede naman kayo mag bond ng hindi nag breastfeed
DeleteLoko pare-pareho lang ang bonding ng mag ina kahit hindi breastfeeding noh
Mas masakit at mahirap pa mag pa breastfeed kaysa manganak
ReplyDeleteI want to say I love how this thread became a support group for breastfeeding moms. I love reading about everyone’s experience because it helps knowing I’m not alone in this! It’s sooooo hard and frustrating lalo na kung wala kang milk. Tapos pag meron na and super puno na you need to pump every 2 hours kase the girls will be super engorged, and that hurts. It’s not for everyone and that’s ok. It is your choice. Your baby is loved no matter what you give them. Fed is best.
ReplyDeleteCurious question: d ba pwdeng pump nlng then bottle feed c baby? Para iwas sugat at sakit?
ReplyDeletePwede naman. But pumps are expensive, especially if hindi ka mahiyang agad sa napili mong brand at model. Mas maganda na nga ngayon dahil may pump rentals na yung ibang momma shop, at mas marami ng brand na mura.
Delete12:22 in my experience mas masakit mag pump kesa latch
DeletePwede naman but mahal yung hands free na pump and may mga nagsasabi na magkaka nipple confusion si baby if masyadong maaga na introduce yung bottle meaning hindi sya matututo na mag suck sa mommy and puro bottle na gusto. Iba kasi technique ng oag suck sa mommy vs bottle. Strict talaga pedia ng baby namin and lactation consultant din sya kaya straight latch kami for first 3 months. But grabe din sa stress and pressure nung una kasi hindi marunong si baby din mag latch.
DeletePwede. I have a friend na yun newborn niya ay ayaw maglatch. Nadepress pa nga sjya kasi nagbottlefeed siya e gusto nia breastfeed. Nagpupump lang siya
DeleteCase to case talaga. Pero whatever works, works
Pwedeng pwede. I exclusively pumped for 8 months. It worked for me and husband kasi he was able to help me feed the baby. Yung tipong pwede ako maka alis ng bahay kasi may milk available sa fridge. Bonding na din yun ng husband ko at ni baby.
DeleteDito sa US, libre ang breast pumps sa health insurance. Tapos meron din mura sa Amazon na wearable breast pumps
Pwede but breastfeeding increases more the milk supply than pump. This is according to lactation consultants. I did both, and from my experience, both are painful at the start. Kasi ang problem sa experience ko, I was not able to latch my baby properly, until the lactation consultant saw how I was latching the baby. By the time it was corrected, masakit na. So need magtiis to continue breastfeeding. After a month or less of breastfeeding, wala na yung pain.
DeleteSame, this is the reason why I stop having more babies.
ReplyDeleteMe too. Saving them too from this changing planet.
DeleteBreastfeeding mama here. Swerte na lang siguro ako na hindi siya painful for me pero I don’t enjoy it too. It’s very taxing both physically and mentally. Parang kinukuha talaga ni baby lahat ng energy mo. Pag gusto ko na mag give up, iniisip ko na lang talaga this is best for my baby.
ReplyDeleteGo mamas!! Kaya natin ito!!!
Mahirap pero sulit lahat ng sacrifices. Lumaking matatalino mga anak ko at healthy at di ka tataba.
ReplyDeleteAnother myth!
DeleteLol walang kinalaman ang breastmilk sa talino ng bata. Anak ko formula fed but graduated Cumlaude in Engineering and passed the board in 1 take. Now he’s about to finish his Master’s in UP. Just saying.
DeleteYes this is myth. Wala yan sa milk. Ke formula or breastfed.
DeleteAy for me its a myth. I was not a breastfed baby pero hindi naman ako lumaki na bobo. Jusko. Yung pinsan ko formula fed din pero latin honor sya nung pre med nya and is now going to med school.
DeleteMy 1st born was ebf for a year but he was so sakitin. My 2nd was formula fed & never naka experience ng breastmilk pero mas healthy sya.
DeleteSame. Super drained ako emotionally and mentally when I was starting. Ngayon going 4 months na baby ko, once a day nalang ako nagpapump. Ang gaan ng feeling. Di talaga sya para sa lahat
ReplyDeleteIm still breastfeedinf my 19months old. Needs your suggestion how to wean him off. I am having a hard time stopping it kasi 24/7 kami magkasama ng anak ko.
ReplyDeleteMy sister tricked my nephew by putting something bitter on her breast or something kids don't like..maybe kalamansi or ampalaya haha.
Deleteginawa ng kapatid ko baks inintroduce sa bottle. tas kusa naubos breastmilk nya. nung wala na madede pamangkin ko nagstop na rin sa pagbreastfeed
DeleteSame din naging prob ko mommy.. better to talk with your partner if he’s available at night. He can sleep with the baby while you take your rest. Until unti naman sa bottle. Sa una aayaw talaga yan but sabi nga nila pag gutom na yan no choice na… it’s a process but with support kaya. Goodluck mommy
Deletebreastfed my 2 girls and it was the easiest and most fulfilling ever as a mom. if you think negatively of it, talagang you won't like it. but if you are unselfish and focus on the baby's wellbeing, the milk production will be easy and baby will latch on naturally pag-abot pa lang sa iyo after baby is delivered... no more timpla-timpla, and the weight comes off fast yehey lol
ReplyDeleteI breastfed my 2 kids. Am 70 now. During those times in the 80s I wasn’t aware of breast pumps. My birthing coach and gynecologist taught me how to express my my breastmilk using my hands. It wasn’t painful. Once you get the technique the breastmilk freely flows into the feeding bottle. I kept them in the freezer for those days when I return to work. I did express my milk at work too. Simple lang nung araw.
ReplyDeleteWala akong milk kahit anong maasage ng ugat na napakasakit ang konti ng milk na lumalabas
ReplyDelete24 hrs kong iipunin ang milk tapos isang inuman lang ng anak ko omg talaga
From my experience, the first stage of breastfeeding was the hardest-walang milk na lumalabas, and it took weeks before it started flowing. Then, when baby’s teeth came out, it became even more stressful dahil bawat didi may kasamang kagat. The most painful part for me was when I stopped. My breasts became so hard, parang melon na may bukol, and it took about a week to completely dry up. Thankfully, with my second baby, it lasted only 1 1/2 years, and siya na mismo ang tumigil, making it much easier than the first.
ReplyDeleteI don’t like breastfeeding din! 1st born ko 1 yr and 8 mos kami pero lagi ako naiyak and sobrang uncomfy for me. Nagtiis ako kase sabi it will lessen the chance daw na ma aquire nya allergies and asthma ko. During that time, wala din ako option kase wala akong pera haha. Tagal bago ako ma convince para mag try ng 2nd baby, this time din nag decide na ko mag mix feed.
ReplyDeleteEllen kung nanahimik ka sa pagbubuntis mo tumahimik ka na din sa mga ganyan di mo na kailangan sabihin sa socmed para lang me ma post ka. Just saying...
ReplyDeleteI was CS and I breastfed my first born for 3 years. It was my dream to breastfeed for children because i saw the benefits sa mga pamangkin ko. But breastfeeding is not for everyone. It’s a lot of work and yes sobrang sakit sa simula. CS ako pero mas masakit for me ang breastfeeding. Umiiyak ako sa sakit sa simula nung sugat sugat na nipples. Buti mataas pain tolerance ko so i kept going. Best decision ever. 4 years old na anak ko at di sakitin plus so many more benefits!
ReplyDeleteGosh i developed a mastitis when breastfeeding my lo. Grabe ang pain and sacrifice… it was awfully painful most of the time and the pumping made it worst. Everytime mag breastfeed ako my toes curl sa sakit huhu. In the end i gave it up but was able to breastfed for a year on my left breast only. My first born was formula, second one was breastfed. Id say we do what we think is best for us.
ReplyDeleteAnd also it really takes so much of time and energy..naging dependent lo ko sa breastfeeding to the point na halos yun na lang ginagawa ko huhu.. as a working mom nun it wasnt healthy anymore. Super drained. But the good thing that came out of if my lo was super attached to me, super sweet.
DeleteBasta dapat mag agree lang tayo sa kanya.
ReplyDeleteMabuhay kayong mga mapagmahal at mabubuting mommies! No matter what journey, mga dakila po kayo!
ReplyDeleteIm ftm. Nakakadepressed sa totoo lang lalo na kapag hindi marunong maglatch si baby sa boobies mo, no choice ka kung hindi magpump. Sobrang sakit magpump lalo na kapag kont-konti lang nakukuha mo milk tpos every 2hrs kailangan mo magpump.
ReplyDeleteCan relate, yung tulog na lahat hindi pa pwede matulog kasi kelangan mo pa mag pump tapos ang tagal tagal para lang makakuha ng konting breastmilk.
DeleteIngay. di lang ikaw naging nanay. Alam n namen yan matagal na
ReplyDeletenapaka-nega mo. this is actually refreshing kasi she's openly saying she hates to breastfeed, and I'm sure a lot of moms feel the same way pero they think it will make them a bad mom if they complain. with her celebrity status, I'm sure maraming moms ang nag-express ng agreement just like what you see on this thread which can be reassuring for others, esp new moms.
DeleteSa first baby ko 3.months lang ako ng bf, sa 2nd 3 years, nung first week yata nagka-nana yung left n*ps ko kasi sobrang na suck ng baby ko ang sakit kaloka, tapos pag puno ayun masakit siya pero eventually nawawala, ok lang naman yung sinabi ni Ellen, kahit naman she doesn't like it tamo ginagawa pa din naman niya kasi love niya anak niya, we don't have to love or like something naman that we do all the time but we still go ahead and do it if makakabuti sa mga mahal natin
ReplyDeleteBakit after manganak ang hilig mag explain at reklamo ni Ellen? Basta nanganak kna kesyo ayaw mo ng mga gender reveal, gusto mo ng privacy, ayaw mo padede... Ano pa ba pakialam ng tao. Basta nashare m na nanganak ka yun na yun.
ReplyDeleteBecause she wants to give the impression na she’s cool and different. Alam niya ang pulso ng netizens regarding gender reveal, showing bumps, etc kaya kunwari wala siyang mga ganun. But give it a few days, she’ll be one of those who gives blow by blow account of her experience.
DeleteGalit na galit ka ante, problema mo ba? Kita mo buong thread kung paano nakatulong ang post niya sa maraming mommies to openly share their hardships in breastfeeding? At kahit hindi, ano namang pake mo ba eh socmed niya yan?
Deletejusko nahaluan na ng nega tong com sec hays ang ganda na ng thread e. dumagdag ka pa
DeleteFed is best mga momsh. First time ko mag pa breastfeed sa eldest ko naalala kong feeling parang hinihigop kaluluwa ko HAHAHA i have 3 kids all breastfed and another kid on the way. Basta wag ipressure ang sarili. Fed is best kesyo breastfeed or formula
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