Men grieve in silence. When my mom died due to cancer, my dad looked calm even before my mom's death. He never cried on the burial day.
But one day after my mom got buried/funeral, I went to the toilet to pee and I saw my dad weeping, sobbing at 5am. I just let him. Didn't tell him I was there and I saw him.
Sabi nga ni bo Sanchez If nakikita mo isang who are suffering we say the most iname things like “okay lang yan shes Not in pain anymore” “Thats okay, hinde na siya mahihirapan” — ito daw na wag na wag mo sasabihin. Let them grieve daw. If you do Not know what to say.. stay silent na lang or Just say “ do Not know what to say, but i Will be praying For you “ sabi nga niya warmth is better than words , silence is better than sermon.
Agree. I also lost my husband & father magkasunod. Di mo malaman irereact sa mga nagsasabing ok lang yan, hayaan na, di na nahihirapan. Worse, sabihin maedad naman na. Samantalang mas maraming matatanda pang malakas pa o kaya may mga mas malulubhang sakit. Prayers naman talaga ang best na maibibigay at sasabihin.
oh i felt the same way. When i lost my mom, sa mga msgs like: i am sorry for you loss (made me feel more sorry for myself); countless “our deepest condolences” (felt like a bday greeting one has to make); lalo na ang mga “uy nkakagulat/ang bata pa nya/ ang bilis naman/ shes in heaven now or with jesus” (made my sadness and even worst).
I know they are all with good intentions, but i would have prefered not hearing those words. Cguro nga nothing or no words could have helped my grief at that time.
Pero may iilan na appreciated naman, msgs like: “Hugs” and nothing else. Also “Know that i am here”.
Would you rather na walang magpo post ng condolences? Mas nakakalungkot naman ata yun. Imagine namatayan ka na pero ni isa walang nag comment or post ng pa condolence? It’s as if nobody cared na namatayan ka. Look beyond the message, yung intention ang magma matter dyan. It’s the thought that counts pa rin.
3:25 yung namatay din mom ko, tapos yung closed friend ko nung college na out of touch na kami, nagchat sya saken condolence tapos comfort nya ako at biglang sabi “mabuti ka pa nga nakasama mo mom mo 27 yrs ako nga 8 y.o pa lang ako when she died.” Pasalamat nalang daw ako. Jusko di ko na nireplyan hanggang ngayon & never again did i keep in touch with her. Mom died 5 yrs ago and it was a sudden death kaya ang sakit.
Agree. Lost both parents 4 years apart. There were times that I didn’t want to listen to anything they would say, even if those were comforting words. Parang nadagdagan lang ang grief. Esp when they said, “at least they’re together now.” Mas na feel ko ang pagiging orphan.
3:25 Hirap mo naman i-please. I’d prefer a condolence remark than not having any at all. Im sure may masasabi ka rin kapag wala ni isang nag condolence sa yo.
This is true. Kahit yung ako sinasabi ko na prepared na ako kung kunin na papa ko that time coz of liver ca, nung dumating na ang araw na yun , hindi pala Ako ready 🥲
12:27 I guess 3:25 is not hard to please. We are all different and we have different ways to grieve. Some people want to be with other people when grieving and some wants to be alone. No matter what we say, it's going to be hard for someone who had loss their loved one.
Ps. When my mum died, I've shut down everyone. I've mainly focused on my work until I've felt the burnout. That's when my doctor told me to see a Psychiatrist because little did I know, I'm already suffering depression that time.
Ang hirap nyo i- please. There is no absolute right or wrong way to say sympathy, kahit pa ano sabihin nyo the receiver is still grieving and upset pero will find comfort na kinausap mo sila , you reached out at hindi sila biglang naging invisible or naging akward i spproach sa inyo. Just say it what it is in your heart, so do not trivialize everything, kaya napakahirap ng gumalaw sa mundo everything is an issue, what we have become.
Nakakalungkot, pinaka naaawa ako sa mga anak nila 💔 napakahirap mawalan ng Nanay sa murang edad. hindi ko ma imagine kung ano ang nararamdaman nila ngayon kung pwede lang yakapin sila kahit di ko sila personally kilala :(
Idk if rhis is the right time… pero kung may pera ka, iba pa din ang magpagamot abroad… example sen miriam, kris aquino at yung isa pa na nalaman ko na kahit sa top hosp sya nagpagamot dito, iba pa rin ang diagnosis sa america at mali ang treatment na natanggap nya
According to an article I saw online, her doctors advised against going abroad for treatment as she was already so weak. Baka hindi daw niya kayanin yung biyahe.
I am a mother of 2 preemie babies born in of the top world renowned NICU hospitals iin Canada and I’ve seen babies die everyday due to different causes in varying degrees. And yet I’ve spoken to an 80 yewr old man who volunteers there that he was a 6 month old very sick preemie born during the time when NICU was never even thougt of. His mom just warm him using a light bulb close to his crib and he lived. God’s plan is beyond human conprehension. We can say we could have done this or that but no, God only knows when is our time and acceptance is easier than dwelling on what could have.
Siguro that was their plan. Pero pinapa galing pa nila si Alexa Or pinapalakas. May clearance kasi yan before they Let you abroad For check up and treatments
When its your time, its your time, im sure the family did their best and do not have to post everything online, you can do all the right things in the world but if life will not choose you, you cant do anything about it, and some people could do all the wrong things in the world but life still chooses them, the best you can do is to live life to the fullest.
Noo :-( last interview ni ruffa abt her she said nga in a way na parang delikado na. And that the treatment she needs is wala dito sa pilipinas and need lumipad ng america yata, not sure. Diko lang alam if naka lipad pa sila. Coz sabihin naman ng doctor kung may hope pa.
2:45, sometimes mali din mag diagnose ang mga doctors sa atin. My cousin was diagnosed with cancer and was given a few months to live (max.). This was during a consultation in one of the big hospitals in Makati. We took our chances and brought him to the US for treatment and 2 decades after buhay pa siya and enjoying the life with the grandkids.
Im curious also ano kaya yung symptoms nya (for awareness din natin)? Coz she spoke briefly about it eh. & She looked ok during their Dec trip to Japan pa. Then 1st week of January, may symptoms na daw sya and yun na nga.
accdng to an article, she mentioned night sweats kahit naka aircon or malamig ang panahon, nose bleeding, a wound in the tounge, loss of appetite, body malaise
kakalungkot ang bilis namn.. rip po
ReplyDeleteAno ang sakit nya? She looked well nung nag Jpn sila 2023
DeleteLeukemia ang sakit. Dalawa anak nila ang babata pa. Condolence to the family. May her soul RIP
DeleteLeukemia daw
Deletethey were in Jpn Jan2024. pag-uwi nila sa airport plang nag-collapse ndaw sya. after a few days na-diagnose na sya ng leukemia
DeleteSi Richard and Ruffa nahiwalay. Si Elvis naman na byudo agad. Observation ko lang. Wag niyo ko ibash. RIP kay Alexandra 🙏
DeleteOh no, she didn't make it 😢
ReplyDeleteMay she rest in peace 🙏🏽
Ang lungkot nito. Ang bata pa nilang mag asawa at ang babata pa din ng mga anak. Nakakalungkot mawalan ng nanay.
DeleteMakasad naman to. Too young.
ReplyDeleteOMG! Was not expecting this. I thought she was recovering. Condolences to the entire family.
ReplyDeleteI really thought she’d pull through, napaka bata nya :( RIP
ReplyDeleteNakakalungkot
ReplyDeleteMen grieve in silence.
ReplyDeleteWhen my mom died due to cancer, my dad looked calm even before my mom's death. He never cried on the burial day.
But one day after my mom got buried/funeral, I went to the toilet to pee and I saw my dad weeping, sobbing at 5am. I just let him. Didn't tell him I was there and I saw him.
Awww hugs to your dad. Yes, grief is not the same way for everyone.
DeleteOh no 😥
DeleteNakakaiyak naman to... i miss my dad. Virtual hugs to you and your dad...
Delete😭😭
DeleteMama ko rin, I saw her in the bathroom weeping few days after the burial. Akala ko okay lang sya. Iba talaga tayo magdala ng grief..
DeleteOh wow ang bilis. Parang kelan ko lang nabasa dito sa FP yung balita.
ReplyDeleteRest in peace 🙏 Condolences to the family.
Condolence . How old is she
ReplyDelete11:53 38 yrs old
DeleteSya ba yun kasama nila sa Japan recently? Grabe grabeeee 💔 mukang well loved din sya ni Tita Anabelle
ReplyDelete12:00 yes
DeleteOMG. This is so sad :( May she rest in peace 🙏🏻
ReplyDeleteThis is soo sad 😭😭😭
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to her family, especially her 2 daughters.
ReplyDeleteOmg, kawawa naman mga anak nila.RIP
ReplyDeleteSabi nga ni bo Sanchez If nakikita mo isang who are suffering we say the most iname things like “okay lang yan shes Not in pain anymore” “Thats okay, hinde na siya mahihirapan” — ito daw na wag na wag mo sasabihin. Let them grieve daw. If you do Not know what to say.. stay silent na lang or Just say “ do Not know what to say, but i Will be praying For you “ sabi nga niya warmth is better than words , silence is better than sermon.
ReplyDeleteCount on my prayers Elvis.
- classmate mo back in College :)
awww :(
DeleteAgree. I also lost my husband & father magkasunod. Di mo malaman irereact sa mga nagsasabing ok lang yan, hayaan na, di na nahihirapan. Worse, sabihin maedad naman na. Samantalang mas maraming matatanda pang malakas pa o kaya may mga mas malulubhang sakit.
DeletePrayers naman talaga ang best na maibibigay at sasabihin.
oh i felt the same way. When i lost my mom, sa mga msgs like: i am sorry for you loss (made me feel more sorry for myself); countless “our deepest condolences” (felt like a bday greeting one has to make); lalo na ang mga “uy nkakagulat/ang bata pa nya/ ang bilis naman/ shes in heaven now or with jesus” (made my sadness and even worst).
DeleteI know they are all with good intentions, but i would have prefered not hearing those words. Cguro nga nothing or no words could have helped my grief at that time.
Pero may iilan na appreciated naman, msgs like: “Hugs” and nothing else. Also “Know that i am here”.
I agree. I know some people mean well pero para sa namatayan, sometimes there are now words to console them.
Deleteagree ...no correct words can comfort a grieving person..
DeleteWould you rather na walang magpo post ng condolences? Mas nakakalungkot naman ata yun. Imagine namatayan ka na pero ni isa walang nag comment or post ng pa condolence? It’s as if nobody cared na namatayan ka. Look beyond the message, yung intention ang magma matter dyan. It’s the thought that counts pa rin.
Deletewould u have preferred then if dinedma kana lang? Or tiningnan lang with no words. Honest question
Delete3:25 yung namatay din mom ko, tapos yung closed friend ko nung college na out of touch na kami, nagchat sya saken condolence tapos comfort nya ako at biglang sabi “mabuti ka pa nga nakasama mo mom mo 27 yrs ako nga 8 y.o pa lang ako when she died.” Pasalamat nalang daw ako. Jusko di ko na nireplyan hanggang ngayon & never again did i keep in touch with her. Mom died 5 yrs ago and it was a sudden death kaya ang sakit.
DeleteAgree. Lost both parents 4 years apart. There were times that I didn’t want to listen to anything they would say, even if those were comforting words. Parang nadagdagan lang ang grief. Esp when they said, “at least they’re together now.” Mas na feel ko ang pagiging orphan.
Delete3:25 Hirap mo naman i-please. I’d prefer a condolence remark than not having any at all. Im sure may masasabi ka rin kapag wala ni isang nag condolence sa yo.
DeleteThis is true. Kahit yung ako sinasabi ko na prepared na ako kung kunin na papa ko that time coz of liver ca, nung dumating na ang araw na yun , hindi pala
DeleteAko ready 🥲
12:27 I guess 3:25 is not hard to please. We are all different and we have different ways to grieve. Some people want to be with other people when grieving and some wants to be alone. No matter what we say, it's going to be hard for someone who had loss their loved one.
DeletePs. When my mum died, I've shut down everyone. I've mainly focused on my work until I've felt the burnout. That's when my doctor told me to see a Psychiatrist because little did I know, I'm already suffering depression that time.
Ang hirap nyo i- please. There is no absolute right or wrong way to say sympathy, kahit pa ano sabihin nyo the receiver is still grieving and upset pero will find comfort na kinausap mo sila , you reached out at hindi sila biglang naging invisible or naging akward i spproach sa inyo. Just say it what it is in your heart, so do not trivialize everything, kaya napakahirap ng gumalaw sa mundo everything is an issue, what we have become.
DeleteIkaw lang yan. Ikaw ang mahirap i please @908. Kaya diba sabi silence better is than sermon warmth is better than words.
DeleteSad news. :-(
ReplyDeleteNakakalungkot, pinaka naaawa ako sa mga anak nila 💔 napakahirap mawalan ng Nanay sa murang edad. hindi ko ma imagine kung ano ang nararamdaman nila ngayon kung pwede lang yakapin sila kahit di ko sila personally kilala :(
ReplyDeleteI’ve read maganda ang fam background niya, Old rich daw frm Negros. Too young pa.
ReplyDeleteShe’s an uichico.
DeleteTito nya si Coach Jong Ulchico
DeleteSide yata ng nanay nya ang old rich from Negros. Maaga din namatay ung nanay. Sad it happened to her kids as well
DeleteOmg 😢 prayers to the grieving family. Gone too soon.
ReplyDeleteBakit ang mga mababait laging nauuna? So so sad
Rest in peace, Alexa.
ReplyDeleterip po.
ReplyDeleteKahit tlga may pera f@ck cancer leukemia
ReplyDeletethis is so heartbreaking.... ang liit pa ng kids nla. Condolence to Gutierrez Family!
ReplyDelete💔🙏🏼
ReplyDeleteMay your soul rest in peace. Condolences to your loved ones.
ReplyDeleteWhat? Nakakalungkot :( parang kelan lang yung posts nila. Rest in Peace, Alexa
ReplyDeleteIdk if rhis is the right time… pero kung may pera ka, iba pa din ang magpagamot abroad… example sen miriam, kris aquino at yung isa pa na nalaman ko na kahit sa top hosp sya nagpagamot dito, iba pa rin ang diagnosis sa america at mali ang treatment na natanggap nya
ReplyDelete4:47 Case to case basis parin yan. Her illness is Leukemia which, unfortunately, we all know na wala pang cure.
DeleteThis is not always the case. My aunt was misdiagnosed in the US. Decided to get treatment and care here sa Philippines instead.
DeleteAccording to an article I saw online, her doctors advised against going abroad for treatment as she was already so weak. Baka hindi daw niya kayanin yung biyahe.
DeleteI think it was their decision dito mag paggamot Or talaga hinde na niya kaya to travel because of her conditon
DeleteI am a mother of 2 preemie babies born in of the top world renowned NICU hospitals iin Canada and I’ve seen babies die everyday due to different causes in varying degrees. And yet I’ve spoken to an 80 yewr old man who volunteers there that he was a 6 month old very sick preemie born during the time when NICU was never even thougt of. His mom just warm him using a light bulb close to his crib and he lived. God’s plan is beyond human conprehension. We can say we could have done this or that but no, God only knows when is our time and acceptance is easier than dwelling on what could have.
DeleteDefinitely not the right time.
DeleteSiguro that was their plan. Pero pinapa galing pa nila si Alexa Or pinapalakas. May clearance kasi yan before they Let you abroad For check up and treatments
DeleteWhen its your time, its your time, im sure the family did their best and do not have to post everything online, you can do all the right things in the world but if life will not choose you, you cant do anything about it, and some people could do all the wrong things in the world but life still chooses them, the best you can do is to live life to the fullest.
Delete12:20, 1:58 truth!
DeleteAng favorite son ni Anabele. Too young nabiyudo. RIP, Alexa.
ReplyDeleteCondolences to you and your family. May her soul find her way to God's embrace. 🙏
ReplyDeleteRIP alexa :(
ReplyDeleteHala akala ko recovering sya
ReplyDeleteIto ata sinasabi nilang turbo cancer. Sobrang bilis. Kala ko nga recovering sya
ReplyDeleteNoo :-( last interview ni ruffa abt her she said nga in a way na parang delikado na. And that the treatment she needs is wala dito sa pilipinas and need lumipad ng america yata, not sure. Diko lang alam if naka lipad pa sila. Coz sabihin naman ng doctor kung may hope pa.
Delete2:45, sometimes mali din mag diagnose ang mga doctors sa atin. My cousin was diagnosed with cancer and was given a few months to live (max.). This was during a consultation in one of the big hospitals in Makati.
DeleteWe took our chances and brought him to the US for treatment and 2 decades after buhay pa siya and enjoying the life with the grandkids.
Hay, so sad naman… kawawa mga bata. Siguro there’s a group para sa mga naulila ng ina. Napakahirap nyan lalo na kung napakabait ng mother mo. Hay
ReplyDeleteThey still have their father and a very strong support system. Para saan ang group?
DeleteRIP po :(
ReplyDeleteMabait daw yan si Alexa.Rest in paradise..
ReplyDeleteIm curious also ano kaya yung symptoms nya (for awareness din natin)? Coz she spoke briefly about it eh. & She looked ok during their Dec trip to Japan pa. Then 1st week of January, may symptoms na daw sya and yun na nga.
ReplyDeleteaccdng to an article, she mentioned night sweats kahit naka aircon or malamig ang panahon, nose bleeding, a wound in the tounge, loss of appetite, body malaise
DeleteChineck ko pictures nila. Baka di na siya masyadong okay nung June. Wala siya sa 7th bday ng bunso nila.
ReplyDeleteang sad, you have to watch her daughter's video on tiktok, Ezra, yong gamit nia yong Alexandra na tiktok and Eddite Gutierrez, nakakaiyak!
ReplyDelete