7:31 hindi rin, kasi sa Pinas walang family planning at libreng protection para hindi nakabuo. Sympre kung wala pera hindi nila uunahin yun over pagkain at yung sa tingin mo kailangan nila. Despite of that binuhay parin ang anak, naghirap para makapagtapos, at inalagaan. Hindi natin alam kung aksidente ang pag buo sa anak pero yung sacrifices hindi dapat ioverlook. Human nature ang intimacy kaya hindi tama na sabihin wag sila maging intimate lalo na sa mag asawa
Ganito yan mga ka-maritess, di lahat nagiging mabuting magulang. Dahil kung lahat mabuti o responsableng magulang, wala sanang may depression. Dahil mag uumpisa ang lahat sa kung papano tayo pinalaki ng magulang natin. Now comes to utang na loob, gets ko si dani, di naman talaga dapat isinusumbat yon dahil obligasyon mo yon sa anak mo, kusang mararamdaman ng anak yong pagmamalasakit kung naging mabuting magulang ka sa kanila. To summarize it all, babalik sayo ang kung ano man ang ginawa mo sa anak mo. Kaya kabutihan ang itanim mo sa puso ng mga anak mo para ganon din ang anihin mo.
Comprehension!Let me summarise in two sentences: -She never say pag damutan ang parents nio. -She meant kids should not be obliged to support their parents using utang na loob card.
Yes my parents are like that using UTANG NA LOOB CARD for bringing me into this world.Growing up ayaw akong pag aralin at sayang daw pera.As akid they will always say wala akong pakinabang at lumayas daw ako which I did.I succeeded on my own.Now my parents demands sustento dahil if not for them wala daw ako sa mundo.Well having a parents like them I 101% agree with Dani.
Hello 10:29AM. Hindi lang po dahil sa iresponsableng magulang ang nagiging cause ng depression. It can be because of chemical imbalance in the brain...but yeah. Totally agree with Dani na hindi dapat inoobliga ng magulang ang anak.
1029 sabi mo kung lahat mabuting magulang wala sanang depression??? Malawak na usapin and depresyon hindi ito base lamang sa pagkakaroon ng mabuting magulang although napakalaking bagay na magkaroon ng mabuting magulang at responsableng magulang para matulungan ang isang taong may depression. Although your intention is good sana nag research ka muna bago ka nag preach dito. Baka kase malungkot naman yung mga magulang na makabasa ng sinabi mo na may anak na nagkadepresyon at sisihin pa nila sarili nila kahit naging mabuti naman silang magulang. Dont get me wrong bka sabihin mo tinamaan ba ako? definitely not im not a parent, I dont have depression either sa truth lang tayo.
Akala kasi ni Dani basta lang pag aaralin pakakainin bibigyan ng material things, di nya naiisip how much parents sacrifice and give up for their kids too. Pag may sakit aalagaan ka, they would stay up and not sleep etc. Dapat maisip nya yun unconditional love hindi yun akala mo yun lang ginagawa ng magulang to send kids to skul and feed them and thats enough. Shes kinda slow.
5:41AM parang ikaw yong slow. Obligasyon ng magulang yang lahat ng sinabi mo. Anong gusto mong gawin, iluwal lang ang mga bata tapos bahala na sila sa buhay nila?.. Palakihin mo sila ng maayos para kusang bumalik sayo yong pagmamahal na itinanim mo, kasama na don yong pagsuporta sa lahat ng pangangailangan mo kung di mo na kayang buhayin sarili mo.
5:41 Growing up in the Philippines really seeds that kind of mentality and it’s reeking from you. Children did not choose their parents nor ask to be born to whatever living conditions they are born into. It’s a parent’s duty to take care of their sick children and make the sacrifices for their child to thrive and succeed. If people can’t make sacrifices as simple as taking care of their children when they’re sick and providing them with the means to receive an education, they shouldn’t be having children and giving generations of their family such a poor quality of life.
Hindi naman nagpauto, ikaw kaya ang nagpauto. Watch the whole vlog kasi. I am giving my parents fixed monthly allowance. Its a sacrifice din kasi mahirap magpacollege at the same time magbigay sa parents. What i am giving to them is not for luho kasi talagang kulang din pension nila for basic needs kaya di pwedng pumalya. Kaya as much as possible I am trying to save money for my old days din para di mahirapan anak ko .
In many cultures, including the Philippines, there is a deep-rooted tradition of children taking care of their elderly parents. Beyond cultural norms and traditions, the legal system in the Philippines has provisions that speak to the obligations of children to support their parents.
Article 195 of the Family Code: This article explicitly lists the order of persons who are obliged to support each other, which includes parents and their children. As per this code, children are bound to provide support to their parents when they are in need.
Nature of Support: The support contemplated in the Family Code includes everything indispensable for sustenance, dwelling, clothing, medical attendance, education, and transportation.
Criteria for Support: The support should be in keeping with the financial capacity of the giver and the needs of the recipient. It's not about providing luxury but addressing basic needs.
Reciprocal Duty: While children are obliged to support their parents, it's essential to note that the obligation goes both ways. Parents are also bound by law to support their children, especially when they are minors or are incapacitated.
Limitations and Exceptions: If a parent has failed in their duties to their child or if there was abandonment, neglect, or abuse, the obligation for the child to support the parent might be negated or limited. Legal advice should be sought in these situations.
Enforcement: If a child refuses to support their parent without justifiable reasons, the parent can take legal action to demand support. Conversely, if a parent is demanding excessive or unwarranted support, the child can contest this in court.
Cultural Implications: Beyond the legal aspects, the Philippines has a strong culture of "utang na loob" or debt of gratitude. This cultural sentiment might often play a more significant role than legal provisions in compelling a child to support their parents.
In summary, while there is a legal obligation for children to support their parents in the Philippines, many factors come into play, including the financial capacity of the child, the actual needs of the parents, and cultural norms and values. Anyone facing this situation should consider both the legal and cultural aspects and may seek legal counsel to understand their rights and obligations fully.
Kaya lakas ng attitude ng generation ngayon cos “inanak mo ko so buhayin mo talaga ako.” Wala pa ambag sa lipunan, entitled na. Thank you kasi na-enable mo sila lalo, Dani. Sana hindi gawin sayo ng anak mo.
Dapat naman talaga! Hiniling ba natin na dalhin tayo samundong ito? Its our parents decision to have children. Responsibilidad naman talaga nila buhayin at gabayan nga anak nila. Yang ganyang mentality mo kaya madami di makaalis-alis sa poverty line.
12:37 - Pag ganyan mentality ng anak mo, good luck!
Scenario: Anak: ma, pabili ng sapatos. You: di pa pwede. Walang budget. Anak: problema ko ba yan? Anak mo ako, di ko pinili ipanganak. Hanap ka ng pambili.
1∶34AM,pag ganyan ang mentalidad mo,mas mabuti wag kang mag-anak,tama si Dani,deserved ng mga anak ang magandang buhay para sa kanila,kung sapatos lang di mo pa kayang ibigay,paano na lang yung mas higit pa dyan gaya ng edukasyon sa kolehiyo.Sa Pilipinas pa naman,kung sino pa yung walang maipakain,silang pa yung anakan ng anakan,kaya ang daming batang hindi makapag-aral kase magulang na anak ng anak ang problema,di naman maibigay yung magandang buhay sa mga anak e nagsasabog pa ng lahi.Kainis.
1:34 Kaya yung ibang bata ngayon, ang babata pa maalam nang mangutang kasi pag walang maibigay ang magulang sa kaklase o kaibigan manghihiram amd as early as 8 years.
Tama ang daming gen's ngayon ang sobrang entitled kasi feeling nila porke't kaya nilang mag-comment sa social media at aagreehan nf madami, feeling nila tama na sila or karapatan nila yun.
Hindi nila yan marerealize hangga't hindi sila nawawalan ng magulang.
134 sa ganyang scenario BAKIT ka magpapamilya/ mag-aanak kung hindi mo naman pala kayang suportahan yung tao na pinilit mong dalhin sa mundo? hindi ba responsibilidad mo yan gawa ng IT'S YOUR CHOICE to have a child? LMAO. kaya marami sa younger generation ngayon ang ayaw magka-anak.
1:34 lol what a silly thing to say. being a parent means you teach them critical thinking, sadly karamihan ng pinoy tulad mo wala nun. and if you cant discipline your kid properly to talk back like this then thats on you.
Good analogy 1.34- its true instead of kids being grateful ganyan magiging mentality. Magiging resentful dahil poor parents nila at di makapag provide.
1:34 kasama din sa pagpapalaki ang pagdisiplina, pagturo ng values. Yung sinasabi namin basic needs at karapatan ng lahat ng bata na dapat iprovide ng magulang. Pero syempre kung di kaya yung basic needs, di na muna nag anak.
1:34 grabe naman comprehension mo. 12:37 was talking about BASIC needs like food and education na dapat naman talaga magulang nagbibigay sa anak. Problema sa maraming pinoy, kakapanganak palang ng bata, expected nang iangat sila sa kahirapan sa future. Tao ang bata hindi future bank account. Kasalanan ba ng bata na pinanganak sila at wala pang ambag sa lipunan LOL kailangan ba may ambag bago sila alagaan?
1:34 kung wala ka pambili ng sapatos OR capacity to explain why a new pair is not needed when a child is asking for it - wag ka mag anak. Di yan ang sinasabi ni 12:37 kaloka ka
1:34am, sa scenario mo, sirang sira na ba ang sapatos? Then yes dapat bilhan ng bago ang anak. Basic needs incl proper education, obligation ng magulang yun. If hindi afford, sana hindi na nag anak (lalo na maraming anak) dahil kawawa ang bata. Iba naman yung whim or want lang ng new shoes at nag budget for basic needs ang magulang………...
1:34 dyan papasok yung bago mag anak dapat financially stable ka. kapag hindi mo mabilhan ng kailangan yung anak mo kasi wala kang pera fault mo yun as a parent, walang kasalanan ang mga bata dun, bakit mo nga naman sila ginawa hindi mo pala kaya? pero kung hindi ka mabilhan just for the reason na you're teaching them how to manage money yun ang responsableng parent. so yang reasoning niyo pang poverty yan. ok lang isang kahig isang tuka basta may anak? mas goodluck dyan sa mentality niyo. sa mga ganyan ganyang rason hindi rin malabong gawin niyong atm machine yang mga anak niyo, ano nga namang magagawa niyo, nag anak na kayo ng hindi kayo handa naibuhos niyo na lahat sa mga anak niyo ending mga anak niyo naman ang magsusuffer pag hindi niyo na kayang kumayod tapos ang ending dahil hindi rin makaipon yung anak mo walang choice yan kasi may pressure sa society na pag wala kang anak sino mag aalaga sayo pag tumanda ka so pasa nanaman ang burden sa susunod na generation? magiging cycle lang yan unless yung anak mo or ikaw maging all time millionaire na alam naman nating next to impossible mangyare. -so goodluck sa mindset ante, sisihin mo lagi yung mga bata sa kakulangan niyo bilang magulang na in first place kayo ding magulang ang pumili sa ganyang buhay.
Right naman talaga ng bata na buhayin dahil anak sila. lalo kung minors. may right to food, shelter, etc. Ang pag aanak eh major decision yan hindi dahil in love ka lang tapos bahala na sino tutulong sainyong mag jowa or mag asawa pag nairaos mo ang panganganak
Makapag saita mga tao dito kase akala mo ang dali maging magulang na kasalanan lahat ng magulang. Pano kung handa ka financially nag anak but due to some Unfortunate cicumstance nag hirap ko bumagsak negosyo mo. Makasumbat kasi kayo wait pag kayo na magulang malaman natin what kind of discipline or how u will discipline your kids esp in this day and age yan si Dani mapapanood nila sa tiktok. Good luck anong values ang meron mga anak nyo.
Kung di man ma achieve agad ang magandang buhay at the very least dapat makita mo ang effort ng parents mo to provide and have some domestic stability. I can relate kahit together parents ko one is abusive towards the other tapos Yung Ina abuse Gusto na until now matakot din ako sa abuser namin, I'm drawing the line. I'm saying no. Hindi excuse na parents sila so lagi sila Tama.
Penoys got butthurt again :D :D :D Tama naman ang sinabi nya... :) :) :) Just look at Sarah Geronimo and Ryzza Mae Dizon ;) ;) ;) Sila na ang nag taguyod sa kanilang pamilya and became the designated bread winner :D :D :D
So, nanumbat pa sila? May opinyon ba sila na katulad ng kay dani? Iba iba tao. Nagkataon lang self absorbed sya. Kung ganun views nya at nag broadcast pa sya okay wlaa problema..but then may views din ung iba at gusto nika icontradict un. Bakit sya magagalit.
Hindi nga ako galing sa perfect family kaya I would not dare give advice or my opinion about such matters. Dapat inisip ni Dani yan bago sya nag mukhang ipokrita.
12:47 Im not 12:17 Lol. There's no perfect family because there's nothing perfect in this world. However, there is harmonious, peaceful and family. Obviously, Dani didn't grow in such. She grew up having a lot of family feud. If you know what I mean..
actually mas credible nga siya eh, her mindset came from her own experience. not familiar with the quote "a wise men learned from other peoples experience"
Objectively na explain naman nya ng maayos yung side nya and i agree with her. Pero dito sa Pinas, obligado kasi talaga ng magulang yung mga anak nila dahil na din sa kahirapan. Nasa culture na kasi yan. It is a vicious cycle and talagang maraming natamaan sa statement nya kaya maraming tatalak. Dedmahin nya nalang
positive or negative, comments are engagement which she desperately needs for her social media career as that is primary source of income. kaya gagatasan at gagatasan nya yang issue na yan as long as people are paying attention and giving her engagement. more kita for her.
Bakit todo explanation kung mag lalabas ka ng ganyan content expect marami mag rereact. Hindi kayo known na mabubuting anak kaya ganyan. Iwasan mo nalang ang ganyan topic at may masasabi talaga sa inyo
OY ang kapal niyo naman. As if kung may taong WALANG ambag sa buhay niyo o di nagpakatatay obligado kayong tulungan? desisyon niya pa rin at nasa sa kanya kung gusto niyo at nagpapakaanghel kayo eh di kayo magbigay?
Utang na loob doesn't apply sa parents. Dapat marunong ka tumigin sa sacrifices nila para sa anak para makapagaral sila. Ano hahayaan mo magutom ang magulang mo kung alam mo kulang ang kinakain nila o hindi makabayad ng electric bill.
Di naman kasi lahat ng magulang kaawaawa. Totoo namang marami ang naganak para may magsalba sa kanila, o kaya dahil di lang marunong magkontrol, pero di naman nagpaka parent. Maraming tamad, sugarol, kaya walang makain. Swerte mo kung matino parents mo. Pero let me tell you, not all. Yung iba kasalanan nila bat wala silang makain ngayon.
Pag maayos mong pinalaki ang mga anak mo at minahal at inaalagaan kusa yan mag bibigay at hindi nya hahayaan makita mag hirap ulit yong parent ( back in the old days sa mga sacrifices na ginawa ng parent)
If you’re affected, it means you’re guilty of obligating your children to take care of you. Because in your head, I’m the one who brought you to this world whether I did a good job or not.
Nope kami yun anak na affected na recognise ang magulang dahil sa dami ng sacrifice and unconditional love and care na binigay samin growing up. And kahit anong bigay di mababayaran its priceless!
EXACTLY 12:51 or are a child raised to believe that you should be your parents' meal ticket. Nakakasad na most people here say kids should support their parents and walang utang na loob kung di tulungan. Responsibility po ng isang ADULT ang sarili niya. Kung magpapasok tayo ng ibang buhay sa mundo, responsibilidad natin ang sarili natin at bata. Not the other way around my gosh.
Iba iba tao. Nagkataon isa ka s mga self absorbed at madadamot. Pero wag mo lahatin. View na yun fine. Pero may iba rin vews ibang pinoy. At sa amin, hindi kelangan manghingi ng mga magulang kusa kami nagbibigay. Masaya kami dun. Well raised sila. Well mannered kami
707 applicable lang nman kasi yang pinagsasabi mo if stable ka rin as parents financially or ang ganyang reasoning eh nasa 1st world countries ka. Kung sa Pinas? Jusko, wag na tayo magpakaipokrita kasi more than half of our population eh mahirap kaya mahirap din ang mentality. I am actually a little bit relieve na lumaki sa mahirap na mentality kasi now that I can financially help my parents eh hindi ako magdadalawang isip na tulungan sila. Kung lumaki ako sa mentality na hindi nman natin obligasyon ang mga magulang natin, malamang maski pambili ng gamot ng nanay ko hindi ko sya tutulungan at bahala syang mamatay no. 😂It is just my opinion. Lol
3:14 anong klaseng reasoning yan? just because 3rd world country tayo hindi na natin alam ang magiging consequences ng mga actions natin. yun na nga ang problema eh, we should know better kasi nararanasan natin, nakikita natin sa paligid yung magiging outcome kung gagayahin natin. kapag lahat katulad mo ng mentality hindi talaga tayo mawawala as one of the 3rd world, pabulusok pa. jusme! ang SK te mahirap din naman yan dati ah mas mayaman nga tayo dati sa kanila.
12:55 1:23 agree with both of you. She never said don't support your parents - she said children shouldn't be FORCED to support them. Children should not be born to take care of their parents, the responsibility is the other way around. Ewan ko ba sa comprehension ng mga tao dito.
Sad proof that Filipinos really lack comprehension and emotional maturity. Ang linaw ng sinabi niya pero people DELIBERATELY choose to misunderstand it just to make an emotional reaction. Makes me think we really might be doomed as a nation.
I agree with her and all the others here who can see two sides of the coin. Nobody asked to be born. If you decide to have children, you should be responsible for their expenses. It’s your obligation to give them a good life. They didn’t ask you to bring them out in this world. You decided to bring a person into the world. You are obliged. You have duties to fulfill. Take care of your children and save up for your retirement.
That "save up for retirement" is for those who have stable jobs now. How about mere katulongs, drivers, farmers, fisherfolks, mag titinda and the likes? How can they save if what they're earning is not even enough for 3 meals a day.
I beg to disagree. It’s the parents’ obligation to provide for the BASIC needs. Anything beyond that is given to us by our parents are done so out of love.
We are not rich but I was able to graduate from really good private schools because of scholarships. Life as a scholar was never easy but I never took that against my parents because I know they gave us the best that they could give despite the limited financial resources.
If I were to go with the mentality of today’s generation, I could easily blame my parents for having kids when they could not even afford to give us “a good life”. But I chose to be grateful instead - grateful that I was even born because had they chosen not to have me, I wouldn’t be here enjoying my life now.
Was I obliged to give back? In many instances, I was. But because I chose to be grateful for having been born into this world and for their sacrifices, I never took it against them and held a grudge. I just gave and continue to give wholeheartedly. I spoil them with luxury stuff and travel. And taking care of my parents gives me a wonderful feeling; no amount of money or material thing can ever compare.
As a mom myself, I give my kids the best that I can afford. Not because they are an investment but because I love them dearly. I never forget to remind them that anything over and beyond the BASIC is a gift - something they have to be thankful for. It’s not an entitlement because raising them with the belief that they have a right to “a good life” is a surefire way of raising a self-entitled spoiled brat. I have met so many of these and they are the worst kind to deal with.
Between helping my parents and giving my kids a good life, I still manage to save some for retirement, despite not being a high-income earner. Financial windfall always comes unexpectedly (either in the form of a salary increase or sometimes a bonus) which allows me to save more for retirement. And at a time of a major medical emergency when financial resources were running low, relatives came to help (without me even asking for it).
Siguro nga totoo ang sinabi sa akin ng mama ko noon. Live simply, have a grateful heart, and pay it forward and you will see how blessings will come to you.
Asa ka pa sa pinoy na ginawang retirement plan ang anak.Yes galing ako sa pamilya na lage hirit ng nanay ko na kami tumulong kse kami may pera.Tapos mga kapatid ko na lalake nag anak at sa amin mga tiyahin pinaako ang responsibility nila.Kse nga lage nanay ko pinapa guilt trip kami.Eh kasalanan ba namin na ganun pinili nila na buhay? Ayaw magwork tapos kaming nagtratrabaho ang hihingan pag nangailangan sila.
7:17 illegal ang abortion dito ante so wala silang choice kundi buhayin ka kasi nabuo ka na. never magiging utang na loob yan ng kahit sinong anak. wala naman kasing nag force sa inyong "dapat magalit ka din sa parents mo kasi pinili ka nilang buhayin kahit hindi sila financially prepared" ang take lang ng iba dito maging aral sana sa mga young adults na wag muna mag aanak kapag hindi pa handa ang laman ng pitaka kasi lets be real here, limited na lang ang opportunities ng mga bata ngayon dahil sa hirap ng buhay. hindi lahat kasing palad mong umangat despite sa pagiging mahirap niyo ng parents mo before. dun tayo sa mas madaling gawin. mga bagay na kayang gawan ng paraan at iwasan muna habang bata ka pa. hindi sa kwento mo umiikot ang buhay ng ibang tao stop being pick me girl.
717 I do agree with you. Pareho kasi tayong lumaki sa hirap at medyo nakaluwag luwag na now kaya we are capable of helping our parents. Medyo ok nga sa akin na lumaki na may obligasyon tayo na tulungan ang magulang natin when they grow old. Kasi kung hindi, baka maski pambili ng meds ng parents ko hindi ko pa gagawin. Karamihan lang nman kasi sa mga nega eh abusive ang parents or hindi naging maganda ang childhood at hindi din naging maganda ang buhay now. Which I understand kasi hindi rin naging maganda ang childhood ko sa daming pinagdaanan but nasa better place na din ako now at looking back, everything were hard kasi mahirap talaga ang buhay. Sa akin lang nman yan. Sa mga kids ko, hindi ko na sila oobligahin or ituturo ang ganyang mentality kasi I am capable of taking myself at ang daming nursing home where I live. 😂
1:08 Wala ka lang naintindihan or kung naintindihan mo man, insecure ka sa happiness at success niya sa buhay kasi ungrateful at unhappy ka. Obvious sa rwply mo
@1613 kaya may mga katul9ng dahil yan sa mgaagulang na basta na lang nag aanak ng walang kaplano plano. Hindi ba dapat bago mo isipin mag dala ng panibago buhay sa mundo unahin mo.muna ayusin ang sarili sarili nila huhay. Mga Pinoy kase larga lang ng larga at tapos pag sinita mo sisihin ang gobyerno or gagamitin arguments ang kultura natin na sa panahon may mga kultura na tayo hindi na uubra.
Tama naman si Dani. Lawakan niyo isipan niyo. Utang na loob is used, more often than not, as a weapon by abusive parents. kung hindi kayo agree sa kanya, ok lang naman din. Pero ung mga kumukontra sa idea niya eh mukhang na brainwash ng mga abusive parents.
10:23 Wala naman sinabing madaming anak. For example, dalawa lang ang anak. Walang-wala ang magulang, nag-iiyu-iyuhan yung dalawang anak sa pagtulong kasi hindi nila kayang magbigay sa magulang nila dahil kulang pa sinusweldo nila sa luho at bisyo nila? Hijtayin na lang milang mawala mga magulang nila kasi hindi naman sila obligadong magtustos sa magulang nila. Wag lang silang iiyak-iyak sa harap ngbkabong ng magulang nila.
Sa first world countries kapag di mo kayang suportahan ang anak mo, the government will help, provided na kaya mong i-prove na hindi ka capable as a parent. You have to declare it and may agencies sila na ihahanap ka ng work so you can contribute to the society. Kahit disabled ka pa!Kaya doon ang mindset, if hindi mo kayang buhayin ang bata, don't even dare to procreate. Legal ang abortion, at maaga pa lang aware na ang mga bata about safe sex. Abuse ituring when parents guilt trip their children.
Yup, yan ang hindi alam ng karamihan here. In 1st world countries may agencies ng government na pwede mong puntahan if wala kang mahanap na trabaho or wala kang matirhan or wala kang makain. As in, may tutulong sayo. You can even loose your job at may subsidy ka for one year, as in pera sya, basta may proof ka lang na naghahanap ka ng work. Hindi rin ganun kataas ang requirement sa work lalo nat teenager ka at 1st time mo magwork. Ibang iba ang sitwasyon ng 1st world countries kesa sa Pinas. Kaya I don‘t get this kind of mentality na walang obligasyon ang anak sa parents. Lol, applicable lang yan if mayaman ka or nasa maunlad ka na bansa.
Yan ang hirap if pilit inaadapt ung western culture. I get what she’s saying pero hindi yan pwede sa pinas kasi iba ung culture natin sa family, it goes beyond obligation, it’s our nature to take care of of our parents. Hindi natin kaya tiisin mag ilang natin natin, imagine nag steak ka for dinner while ung parents mo Hindi kumakain? That’s against our morals.
The Chinese and Japanese are not like this. That's why they dont want their children to marry Filipinos because the Filipino parents have to be taken care of like they are little children too.
711 true. Nasobrahan din kasi ang ibang Marites here sa social media. Sa maunlad na countries, ok lang na walang tulong mula kids nila ang mga parents kasi may mga ahensya sila ng gobyerno na pwede nilang lapitan at tlagang mabibigyan sila ng tulong unlike sa Pilipinas. Hindi man ang anak ang tutulong sa kanila, they are not that helpless kasi may gobyerno silang tutulong. Sa atin? Baka mamatay ka na sa kakapila sa tulong, wala ka pa ring napapala.
10:20 nothing wrong with that. trabaho din yan ante malaki kitaan dyan specially barretto siya baka yung sinasahod niyan in a month sahod mo na in a year.
Look who’s talking about utang na loob may utang na loob ka ba sa tatay mong nagbigay ng buhay mo kahit pa d sya nagsuporta at nagpalaki sayo d ka magiging tao kung wala at tatay mo sa step dad mong si dennis may utang na loob ka rin ba na sa konting panahon na magsama mama mo an stepdad mo sya din tumayong tatay mo na sa konting panahon nagprovide din sayo tingin tingi sa sarili din d ka perpekto
Hindi naman si Dani nagdecide na lumabas sa mundo di ba. What her parents and step parents did where their responsibilities for choosing to have kids. All the "sacrifices" they made are not really sacrifices, it's just them doing what they were supposed to do, it's what they signed up for when they had kids.
5:12 she gave chance sa tatay niya, siya pa yung unang nag approach. kung hindi pa imemessage ni dani si kier hindi pa sila magkakasama. anak pa din ba yung problema? paki explain kasi hindi kita gets.
Truly!! Hanggat nasa Pinas siya ganun talaga, walang ibang mag aasikaso sa magulang nya kung hindi siya. If ayaw niya mag migrate sya sa ibang bansa, at least doon independent sya fully.
Ang mga Pinoy talaga may mali sa wiring sa utak. Siguro isa ka sa mga magulang gusto mo na lang umasa sa sistento ng anak mo dahil ikaw ang nagdala sa kanila sa mundo. Natamong ko ba kung gusto nila dalin mo sila sa mundo at lalo s bansa marami makikitid na utak?
Well.she is speaking from what she experienced and her point of view. Di mararamdaman ni Dani ang need to really help.her parents kasi they can take of themselves financially. Pero pag laki ka sa hirap do you think papabayaan mo lang parents mo? Kami kahit di kmi inoobliga ng nanay ko di mo pa rin matiis na magbigay kahit pakonti konti. Honor thy parents and helping them oit ia part of it. Paslamat lang siya kasi di siya kailangang tumulong sa parents nya. I hope na ma maintain nya ang financial stability niarjorie para di na kailangang tulungan ang nanay nya.
I don't think her parents can take care of themselves. Her mom particularly, may nasasandalan then until now kaya okay lang kahit wala nang support from the kids.
That’s not her point, girl. Pa ulit ulit. Wala syang sinabing huwag ka tumulong. Ang sinasabi nyang hindi dapat ay obligahin ang mga anak na buhayin ang mga magulang. Yung tipo ng magulang na hindi naghahanap buhay kahit kaya naman at sadyang umaasa lang sa padala ng anak. Gets na po ba. Yung mga magulang na “anak ko mag aangat sa kin sa kahirapan”. At dyan ka matutuwa kay Marjorie kasi she made sure she’s financially able to provide for herself and her family which sa true, bare minimum as parents.
hindi mo gets? yun nga yung point niya katulad nung sayo, never ka inobliga so hindi masama sa loob mong magbigay. eto naman, english ba kaya hindi naintidihan? pero taglish yan accla so anong nangyare?
Dani,stop hurting your Dad.Did your Mom inform you about their agreement in raising you as a child? Know the truth before judging your Dad and other parents.
Di pa pala to tapos? Haaaay, pa clout na naman. Sabihin mo yan sa anak mo. Most parents until pagtanda nila, anak ang iniisip. Tapos may mga ganitong anak na feeling kaya na nila lahat. Panget na nga mukha, panget pa ugali. If I were her, di din ako magbibigay sa parents ko, ni hindi nga nabup ang pamilya eh.
The goal is to UPLIFT the next generation and not to BURDEN them. Many Filipinos don't think this way that's why their children and grandchildren remain in the cycle of poverty. When you are a financial burden to your adult children you are hurting your future descendants. So stop having children if you're just going to hurt them.
Di wag ka nga mag anak kung "ganon lang" kinikita mo. Alam mo naman na pag nag anak ka, madami yan kelangan gastusan, food, clothing, education, etc...... kung alam mo naman na sa minimum wage mo, di mo afford yan, wag ka mag anak. As simple as that.
Dani wala kang magagawa dahil nasa Pinas ka. Nasa kultura na yan ng Pilipino na family oriented. Kung gusto mong ganyan na di mo obligasyon nanay mo manirahan ka nalang sa ibang bansa na independent. Para mafulfill hinaing mo.
Dani it will be always felt force kung labag tlg un sa kalooban mo. Huwag mo lahatin. Ikaw lang un. Sa ibang pinoy they give freely and wholeheartedly kahit hindi sapat pera nila. Overflow na ung sa inyo peeo ganyan pa din pananaw mo.
Wag ka na mag explain Dani, ignore them. You can only explain and discuss your points, but you cant understand it for them. Feeling ko butthurt lang talaga yung iba na their kids may not support their desired lifestyle in the future. If I know that you were a great parent and modeled love and care to my kids, hindi naman ako makakaramdam ng negativity sa mga sinabi mo kasi confident my kids love me and will take care of me not because of utang na loob.
Depende na kasi sa tao yan. Mahirap kung bibigyan ka ng responsibilidad na ayaw mo. Lol, pero minsan thankful din na maski papano nakakakonsensya din na hindi tumulong.
Dani nasa traits na kasi ng mga Pilipino ang pagiging mapagbigay sa pamilya. At wala naman ibang magdadamayan kung ndi yung pamilya mo. Its better to give than 2 received.
iba yun sa pagiging mapagbigay sa inoobliga ka na halos buong sahod mo kunin na ng parents mo. yun lang naman ang point ni dani bakit parang hirap na hirap kayong icomprehend, ganun ba kayo kasalat sa education?
hilig kasi magbuntisan ng maaga kahit walang pampalamon sa anak tapos ang anak ang gagawing breadwinner. kanino ba sisi dyan? malamang sa magulang bakit isisisi niyo kay dani. lol
Weird ng mga tao dito na nirelate na sa mga buhay nila haha. D ba kayo nanonood ng MMK or MPK? Ilang cases na ba yung mga OFW na hindi nakapag-aral para tumulong sa mga magulang na palakihin mga kapatid nila? Kung d toxic yan sa inyo, ewan ko na lang. Then nung pagtanda, mga walang savings, naubos sa mga kapamilya. Or basahin nyo, Maynila sa mga kuko ng liwanag para malaman nyo kung gaano ka-toxic ang culture ng utang na loob. Nag-aral ba kayo history? Yan ang isang Filipinino trait na kinakasira natin, paano? Ex. Mag-apply sa work, lalapit sa inong na mayor. Then for the longest time tatahimik kahit corrupt si Mayor dahil sa utang na loob. Tama si Dani, periodt.
Hindi din kasi sya marunong tumanggap at makinig sa opinyon ng iba. Hindi nya maintindihan na iba iba ang sitwasyon ng mga tao. Ang yaman nila, kering keri na hindi tumanaw ng utang na loob. At parehong artista parents nya step father at titas...im sure wala sya tinatawan na utang na loob na iba. Again, di masama ang tumanaw ng utang na loob as long as you know your boundaries. Hindi rin dapat pilitan, kung wala at ayaw mo magbigay stick with it. Its not bad to cut someone from your life din.
I support my mom kasi di niya kaya. Ganun din husband ko. He supports his parents. Pero di sila nag-oobliga. Kusa namin binibigay. Though we do that, I agree with Dani na di naman talaga dapat i-obliga ang anak to provide for parents. Hindi retirement or insurance ang anak. Mahirap din naman sa part ng anak yung ganun. Kaya kaming mag-asawa, nag-iipon for our retirement. Ayoko maisip ng anak ko na yung sana issave-up na niya para sa sarili niya or sa future ng anak niya, mapupunta pa sa amin na parents niya. Kahit sa bible, parents dapat ang magprovide sa mga anak. Not the other way around.
Ang hihina ng comprehension. Dani is addressing the parents n ginagawang investment mga anak. Kung anak ka at tinutulungan mo parents mo, good for you. Pro iba ang sitwasyon mo kay sa s may mga toxic parents. Hindi ikaw ang standard kung paano kikilos mga bata. this is not address to you. This is more address to parents
Neknek mo! Oo na!
ReplyDeleteProblema mo? Alam mo na may point siyq di mo lang matanggap Hahahha
Delete7:31 hindi rin, kasi sa Pinas walang family planning at libreng protection para hindi nakabuo. Sympre kung wala pera hindi nila uunahin yun over pagkain at yung sa tingin mo kailangan nila. Despite of that binuhay parin ang anak, naghirap para makapagtapos, at inalagaan. Hindi natin alam kung aksidente ang pag buo sa anak pero yung sacrifices hindi dapat ioverlook. Human nature ang intimacy kaya hindi tama na sabihin wag sila maging intimate lalo na sa mag asawa
DeleteIsa ka siguro sa mga magulang na ginawang investment ang anak.
DeleteGanito yan mga ka-maritess, di lahat nagiging mabuting magulang. Dahil kung lahat mabuti o responsableng magulang, wala sanang may depression. Dahil mag uumpisa ang lahat sa kung papano tayo pinalaki ng magulang natin. Now comes to utang na loob, gets ko si dani, di naman talaga dapat isinusumbat yon dahil obligasyon mo yon sa anak mo, kusang mararamdaman ng anak yong pagmamalasakit kung naging mabuting magulang ka sa kanila. To summarize it all, babalik sayo ang kung ano man ang ginawa mo sa anak mo. Kaya kabutihan ang itanim mo sa puso ng mga anak mo para ganon din ang anihin mo.
DeleteComprehension!Let me summarise in two sentences:
Delete-She never say pag damutan ang parents nio.
-She meant kids should not be obliged to support their parents using utang na loob card.
Yes my parents are like that using UTANG NA LOOB CARD for bringing me into this world.Growing up ayaw akong pag aralin at sayang daw pera.As akid they will always say wala akong pakinabang at lumayas daw ako which I did.I succeeded on my own.Now my parents demands sustento dahil if not for them wala daw ako sa mundo.Well having a parents like them I 101% agree with Dani.
DeleteHello 10:29AM. Hindi lang po dahil sa iresponsableng magulang ang nagiging cause ng depression. It can be because of chemical imbalance in the brain...but yeah. Totally agree with Dani na hindi dapat inoobliga ng magulang ang anak.
Delete10:19 AM libre ang contraceptives sa mga health center mumsh
Delete1029 sabi mo kung lahat mabuting magulang wala sanang depression??? Malawak na usapin and depresyon hindi ito base lamang sa pagkakaroon ng mabuting magulang although napakalaking bagay na magkaroon ng mabuting magulang at responsableng magulang para matulungan ang isang taong may depression. Although your intention is good sana nag research ka muna bago ka nag preach dito. Baka kase malungkot naman yung mga magulang na makabasa ng sinabi mo na may anak na nagkadepresyon at sisihin pa nila sarili nila kahit naging mabuti naman silang magulang. Dont get me wrong bka sabihin mo tinamaan ba ako? definitely not im not a parent, I dont have depression either sa truth lang tayo.
DeleteTama na ante ang palusot. Gets na namin na wala kang amor kay Kier o Dennis hahahah
ReplyDeleteMarami kasing reactive na pinoy kesa intindihin munang mabuti ang sinasabi
ReplyDeleteIsa ka pang nagpauto susme....
DeleteCorrect!
Delete1:25 At isa ka naman bulag bulagan
DeleteYou are close minded 1:25
DeleteAkala kasi ni Dani basta lang pag aaralin pakakainin bibigyan ng material things, di nya naiisip how much parents sacrifice and give up for their kids too. Pag may sakit aalagaan ka, they would stay up and not sleep etc. Dapat maisip nya yun unconditional love hindi yun akala mo yun lang ginagawa ng magulang to send kids to skul and feed them and thats enough. Shes kinda slow.
Delete5:41AM parang ikaw yong slow. Obligasyon ng magulang yang lahat ng sinabi mo. Anong gusto mong gawin, iluwal lang ang mga bata tapos bahala na sila sa buhay nila?.. Palakihin mo sila ng maayos para kusang bumalik sayo yong pagmamahal na itinanim mo, kasama na don yong pagsuporta sa lahat ng pangangailangan mo kung di mo na kayang buhayin sarili mo.
Delete5:41 Growing up in the Philippines really seeds that kind of mentality and it’s reeking from you. Children did not choose their parents nor ask to be born to whatever living conditions they are born into. It’s a parent’s duty to take care of their sick children and make the sacrifices for their child to thrive and succeed. If people can’t make sacrifices as simple as taking care of their children when they’re sick and providing them with the means to receive an education, they shouldn’t be having children and giving generations of their family such a poor quality of life.
DeleteHindi naman nagpauto, ikaw kaya ang nagpauto. Watch the whole vlog kasi. I am giving my parents fixed monthly allowance. Its a sacrifice din kasi mahirap magpacollege at the same time magbigay sa parents. What i am giving to them is not for luho kasi talagang kulang din pension nila for basic needs kaya di pwedng pumalya. Kaya as much as possible I am trying to save money for my old days din para di mahirapan anak ko .
Deleteok yung ngbibigay sa parents at your own will but for parents to oblige or expect their children to give is foul.
DeleteIn many cultures, including the Philippines, there is a deep-rooted tradition of children taking care of their elderly parents. Beyond cultural norms and traditions, the legal system in the Philippines has provisions that speak to the obligations of children to support their parents.
ReplyDeleteArticle 195 of the Family Code: This article explicitly lists the order of persons who are obliged to support each other, which includes parents and their children. As per this code, children are bound to provide support to their parents when they are in need.
Nature of Support: The support contemplated in the Family Code includes everything indispensable for sustenance, dwelling, clothing, medical attendance, education, and transportation.
Criteria for Support: The support should be in keeping with the financial capacity of the giver and the needs of the recipient. It's not about providing luxury but addressing basic needs.
Reciprocal Duty: While children are obliged to support their parents, it's essential to note that the obligation goes both ways. Parents are also bound by law to support their children, especially when they are minors or are incapacitated.
Limitations and Exceptions: If a parent has failed in their duties to their child or if there was abandonment, neglect, or abuse, the obligation for the child to support the parent might be negated or limited. Legal advice should be sought in these situations.
Enforcement: If a child refuses to support their parent without justifiable reasons, the parent can take legal action to demand support. Conversely, if a parent is demanding excessive or unwarranted support, the child can contest this in court.
Cultural Implications: Beyond the legal aspects, the Philippines has a strong culture of "utang na loob" or debt of gratitude. This cultural sentiment might often play a more significant role than legal provisions in compelling a child to support their parents.
In summary, while there is a legal obligation for children to support their parents in the Philippines, many factors come into play, including the financial capacity of the child, the actual needs of the parents, and cultural norms and values. Anyone facing this situation should consider both the legal and cultural aspects and may seek legal counsel to understand their rights and obligations fully.
From www.respicio.ph (a law firm)
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Delete@454 ayan na nga galing sa website ng law firm
Delete4:54 Ayan na nga sa dulo yung source eh chatgpt ka pa dyan 🙄
DeleteThanks for the clarification💕
DeleteKaya lakas ng attitude ng generation ngayon cos “inanak mo ko so buhayin mo talaga ako.” Wala pa ambag sa lipunan, entitled na. Thank you kasi na-enable mo sila lalo, Dani. Sana hindi gawin sayo ng anak mo.
ReplyDeleteDapat naman talaga! Hiniling ba natin na dalhin tayo samundong ito? Its our parents decision to have children. Responsibilidad naman talaga nila buhayin at gabayan nga anak nila. Yang ganyang mentality mo kaya madami di makaalis-alis sa poverty line.
Delete12:37 Super agree with you! At sana yan ang maisip ng mga pinoys na anak lang ng anak.
DeleteI agree with 12:13!
Delete12:37 - Pag ganyan mentality ng anak mo, good luck!
Scenario:
Anak: ma, pabili ng sapatos.
You: di pa pwede. Walang budget.
Anak: problema ko ba yan? Anak mo ako, di ko pinili ipanganak. Hanap ka ng pambili.
Hindi ba’t tama naman yun? Bakit ka ba mag aanak? Para gawing money slave pag tanda?
Delete1:34 nasa pagpapalaki na yan ng anak
Delete1:34 Exagerated na pinoy ikaw yan! Hahaha
Delete1∶34AM,pag ganyan ang mentalidad mo,mas mabuti wag kang mag-anak,tama si Dani,deserved ng mga anak ang magandang buhay para sa kanila,kung sapatos lang di mo pa kayang ibigay,paano na lang yung mas higit pa dyan gaya ng edukasyon sa kolehiyo.Sa Pilipinas pa naman,kung sino pa yung walang maipakain,silang pa yung anakan ng anakan,kaya ang daming batang hindi makapag-aral kase magulang na anak ng anak ang problema,di naman maibigay yung magandang buhay sa mga anak e nagsasabog pa ng lahi.Kainis.
Delete1:34 Kaya yung ibang bata ngayon, ang babata pa maalam nang mangutang kasi pag walang maibigay ang magulang sa kaklase o kaibigan manghihiram amd as early as 8 years.
DeleteTama ang daming gen's ngayon ang sobrang entitled kasi feeling nila porke't kaya nilang mag-comment sa social media at aagreehan nf madami, feeling nila tama na sila or karapatan nila yun.
Hindi nila yan marerealize hangga't hindi sila nawawalan ng magulang.
134 sa ganyang scenario BAKIT ka magpapamilya/ mag-aanak kung hindi mo naman pala kayang suportahan yung tao na pinilit mong dalhin sa mundo? hindi ba responsibilidad mo yan gawa ng IT'S YOUR CHOICE to have a child? LMAO. kaya marami sa younger generation ngayon ang ayaw magka-anak.
Delete1:34 lol what a silly thing to say. being a parent means you teach them critical thinking, sadly karamihan ng pinoy tulad mo wala nun. and if you cant discipline your kid properly to talk back like this then thats on you.
DeleteGood analogy 1.34- its true instead of kids being grateful ganyan magiging mentality. Magiging resentful dahil poor parents nila at di makapag provide.
Delete1:34 kasama din sa pagpapalaki ang pagdisiplina, pagturo ng values. Yung sinasabi namin basic needs at karapatan ng lahat ng bata na dapat iprovide ng magulang. Pero syempre kung di kaya yung basic needs, di na muna nag anak.
Delete1:34 grabe naman comprehension mo. 12:37 was talking about BASIC needs like food and education na dapat naman talaga magulang nagbibigay sa anak. Problema sa maraming pinoy, kakapanganak palang ng bata, expected nang iangat sila sa kahirapan sa future. Tao ang bata hindi future bank account. Kasalanan ba ng bata na pinanganak sila at wala pang ambag sa lipunan LOL kailangan ba may ambag bago sila alagaan?
Delete1:34 kung wala ka pambili ng sapatos OR capacity to explain why a new pair is not needed when a child is asking for it - wag ka mag anak. Di yan ang sinasabi ni 12:37 kaloka ka
DeleteTo 1:34
DeleteBUHAYIN. Hindi ibig sabihin bilhin lahat ng gusto nila. Buhayin meaning provide them with their needs. Shunga lang???
True. Tingnan natin pag 18 nila, palayasin na sa bahay haha baka iyak mga yan
Delete1:34am, sa scenario mo, sirang sira na ba ang sapatos? Then yes dapat bilhan ng bago ang anak. Basic needs incl proper education, obligation ng magulang yun. If hindi afford, sana hindi na nag anak (lalo na maraming anak) dahil kawawa ang bata. Iba naman yung whim or want lang ng new shoes at nag budget for basic needs ang magulang………...
Delete1:34 dyan papasok yung bago mag anak dapat financially stable ka. kapag hindi mo mabilhan ng kailangan yung anak mo kasi wala kang pera fault mo yun as a parent, walang kasalanan ang mga bata dun, bakit mo nga naman sila ginawa hindi mo pala kaya? pero kung hindi ka mabilhan just for the reason na you're teaching them how to manage money yun ang responsableng parent. so yang reasoning niyo pang poverty yan. ok lang isang kahig isang tuka basta may anak? mas goodluck dyan sa mentality niyo. sa mga ganyan ganyang rason hindi rin malabong gawin niyong atm machine yang mga anak niyo, ano nga namang magagawa niyo, nag anak na kayo ng hindi kayo handa naibuhos niyo na lahat sa mga anak niyo ending mga anak niyo naman ang magsusuffer pag hindi niyo na kayang kumayod tapos ang ending dahil hindi rin makaipon yung anak mo walang choice yan kasi may pressure sa society na pag wala kang anak sino mag aalaga sayo pag tumanda ka so pasa nanaman ang burden sa susunod na generation? magiging cycle lang yan unless yung anak mo or ikaw maging all time millionaire na alam naman nating next to impossible mangyare.
Delete-so goodluck sa mindset ante, sisihin mo lagi yung mga bata sa kakulangan niyo bilang magulang na in first place kayo ding magulang ang pumili sa ganyang buhay.
1:34 Girl, wag sana masyado literal. Kung ganyan anak mo magsalita sayo, madami ka pa dapat isipin bukod sa utang na loob mentality. Lol!
Delete1:34 di ka pwedeng maging lawyer… matatalo ka sa kaso
DeleteRight naman talaga ng bata na buhayin dahil anak sila. lalo kung minors. may right to food, shelter, etc.
DeleteAng pag aanak eh major decision yan hindi dahil in love ka lang tapos bahala na sino tutulong sainyong mag jowa or mag asawa pag nairaos mo ang panganganak
Makapag saita mga tao dito kase akala mo ang dali maging magulang na kasalanan lahat ng magulang. Pano kung handa ka financially nag anak but due to some Unfortunate cicumstance nag hirap ko bumagsak negosyo mo. Makasumbat kasi kayo wait pag kayo na magulang malaman natin what kind of discipline or how u will discipline your kids esp in this day and age yan si Dani mapapanood nila sa tiktok. Good luck anong values ang meron mga anak nyo.
Delete1:30 kung bumagsak negosyo mo it's still your responsibility to financially provide not your child's. Duh.
Delete1:30 kung iba circumstances mo bat ka matatamaan? if the shoe fits nga naman... para to sa mga nasa laylayan na hindi na maka angat anak pa ng anak.
Delete1:34 flawed logic. Balik sa sa school aral ka ng college, take philosophy classes.
DeleteKung di man ma achieve agad ang magandang buhay at the very least dapat makita mo ang effort ng parents mo to provide and have some domestic stability. I can relate kahit together parents ko one is abusive towards the other tapos Yung Ina abuse Gusto na until now matakot din ako sa abuser namin, I'm drawing the line. I'm saying no. Hindi excuse na parents sila so lagi sila Tama.
DeletePenoys got butthurt again :D :D :D Tama naman ang sinabi nya... :) :) :) Just look at Sarah Geronimo and Ryzza Mae Dizon ;) ;) ;) Sila na ang nag taguyod sa kanilang pamilya and became the designated bread winner :D :D :D
ReplyDeleteI may add Regine Velasquez.
DeleteSo, nanumbat pa sila? May opinyon ba sila na katulad ng kay dani? Iba iba tao. Nagkataon lang self absorbed sya. Kung ganun views nya at nag broadcast pa sya okay wlaa problema..but then may views din ung iba at gusto nika icontradict un. Bakit sya magagalit.
Delete10:19 may plan Kang umasa sa anak mo no ?
Deletekailangan ba nila manumbat bago mo masabi ang negative effect sa mga taong namention above?
DeleteKaya Lang naman may issue kasi Dani Yun family ninyo mismo magulo. Hindi credible kung ikaw magsalita kahit na may point ka.
ReplyDelete12:17 Is the comment from someone who is a product of a 100% perfect family? If yes, fine, but if not, hypocrisy at its finest.
DeleteHindi nga ako galing sa perfect family kaya I would not dare give advice or my opinion about such matters. Dapat inisip ni Dani yan bago sya nag mukhang ipokrita.
Delete12:47 Im not 12:17 Lol. There's no perfect family because there's nothing perfect in this world. However, there is harmonious, peaceful and family. Obviously, Dani didn't grow in such. She grew up having a lot of family feud. If you know what I mean..
Deleteactually mas credible nga siya eh, her mindset came from her own experience. not familiar with the quote "a wise men learned from other peoples experience"
DeleteObjectively na explain naman nya ng maayos yung side nya and i agree with her. Pero dito sa Pinas, obligado kasi talaga ng magulang yung mga anak nila dahil na din sa kahirapan. Nasa culture na kasi yan. It is a vicious cycle and talagang maraming natamaan sa statement nya kaya maraming tatalak. Dedmahin nya nalang
ReplyDeleteAba porke dumami abg nag comments sa issue nya e naglabas na naman ng iba. Feeling sikat yern?
ReplyDeleteKinaklaro lang siguro niya ang ibig niya pakahulugan. Low comprehension yern, 1227?
Deletepositive or negative, comments are engagement which she desperately needs for her social media career as that is primary source of income. kaya gagatasan at gagatasan nya yang issue na yan as long as people are paying attention and giving her engagement. more kita for her.
DeleteIkaw yung walang utang na loob haha.
ReplyDeleteShe only love her mother. Kumusta naman sa tatay dba?
DeleteWhy would she love his tatay na nang abandoned sa kanya? Hahaha matatawag ba talaga na tatay Yung si kier or sperm donor lang? 🤨
DeleteKamusta naman ang contributions ng tatay sa pag papalaki sa kanya ?
DeleteDI PA BA TAPOS ANG EXPLANATION?
ReplyDeleteBakit todo explanation kung mag lalabas ka ng ganyan content expect marami mag rereact. Hindi kayo known na mabubuting anak kaya ganyan. Iwasan mo nalang ang ganyan topic at may masasabi talaga sa inyo
ReplyDeleteOY ang kapal niyo naman. As if kung may taong WALANG ambag sa buhay niyo o di nagpakatatay obligado kayong tulungan? desisyon niya pa rin at nasa sa kanya kung gusto niyo at nagpapakaanghel kayo eh di kayo magbigay?
ReplyDeleteUtang na loob doesn't apply sa parents. Dapat marunong ka tumigin sa sacrifices nila para sa anak para makapagaral sila. Ano hahayaan mo magutom ang magulang mo kung alam mo kulang ang kinakain nila o hindi makabayad ng electric bill.
ReplyDeleteDi naman kasi lahat ng magulang kaawaawa. Totoo namang marami ang naganak para may magsalba sa kanila, o kaya dahil di lang marunong magkontrol, pero di naman nagpaka parent. Maraming tamad, sugarol, kaya walang makain. Swerte mo kung matino parents mo. Pero let me tell you, not all. Yung iba kasalanan nila bat wala silang makain ngayon.
DeleteJusko d ka talaga nagbasa. Kaya kahit anong paliwanag ni dani e hindi sya maiintindihan ng mga tao. Kasi eto yung mga tao na d nagbabasa
DeletePag maayos mong pinalaki ang mga anak mo at minahal at inaalagaan kusa yan mag bibigay at hindi nya hahayaan makita mag hirap ulit yong parent ( back in the old days sa mga sacrifices na ginawa ng parent)
DeleteIf you’re affected, it means you’re guilty of obligating your children to take care of you. Because in your head, I’m the one who brought you to this world whether I did a good job or not.
ReplyDeleteIsa ka pa.
DeleteAgree, 12:51. Up in arms because sapol.
Delete12:51 Ang daming triggered. Puro kasi nag-anak ng walang ipon at retirement plan kaya takot sila para sa future nila.
DeleteNope kami yun anak na affected na recognise ang magulang dahil sa dami ng sacrifice and unconditional love and care na binigay samin growing up. And kahit anong bigay di mababayaran its priceless!
DeleteEXACTLY 12:51 or are a child raised to believe that you should be your parents' meal ticket. Nakakasad na most people here say kids should support their parents and walang utang na loob kung di tulungan. Responsibility po ng isang ADULT ang sarili niya. Kung magpapasok tayo ng ibang buhay sa mundo, responsibilidad natin ang sarili natin at bata. Not the other way around my gosh.
DeleteIba iba tao. Nagkataon isa ka s mga self absorbed at madadamot. Pero wag mo lahatin. View na yun fine. Pero may iba rin vews ibang pinoy. At sa amin, hindi kelangan manghingi ng mga magulang kusa kami nagbibigay. Masaya kami dun. Well raised sila. Well mannered kami
Delete707 applicable lang nman kasi yang pinagsasabi mo if stable ka rin as parents financially or ang ganyang reasoning eh nasa 1st world countries ka. Kung sa Pinas? Jusko, wag na tayo magpakaipokrita kasi more than half of our population eh mahirap kaya mahirap din ang mentality. I am actually a little bit relieve na lumaki sa mahirap na mentality kasi now that I can financially help my parents eh hindi ako magdadalawang isip na tulungan sila. Kung lumaki ako sa mentality na hindi nman natin obligasyon ang mga magulang natin, malamang maski pambili ng gamot ng nanay ko hindi ko sya tutulungan at bahala syang mamatay no. 😂It is just my opinion. Lol
Delete3:14 anong klaseng reasoning yan? just because 3rd world country tayo hindi na natin alam ang magiging consequences ng mga actions natin. yun na nga ang problema eh, we should know better kasi nararanasan natin, nakikita natin sa paligid yung magiging outcome kung gagayahin natin. kapag lahat katulad mo ng mentality hindi talaga tayo mawawala as one of the 3rd world, pabulusok pa. jusme! ang SK te mahirap din naman yan dati ah mas mayaman nga tayo dati sa kanila.
DeleteThe fact that she has to release a statement and explanation pa. This just proves that Filipinos have a huge comprehension problem. 🤦🏻♀️
ReplyDeleteFinancial literacy is a must. Butthurt lang kasi yung mga magulang na nag-anak para may mag-aalaga at susuporta pag tanda nila. Filipinos hate facts
True pati comments dito cringe. Obvious na kulang sa comprehension.
DeleteKaya wag kau magwala kapag di kau inalagaan ng mga anak nyo later on in life haha
Delete12:55 1:23 agree with both of you. She never said don't support your parents - she said children shouldn't be FORCED to support them. Children should not be born to take care of their parents, the responsibility is the other way around. Ewan ko ba sa comprehension ng mga tao dito.
DeleteJusko finally may nakaintindi! I expected more from fp readers haha dami talaga d nagbabasa or d makaintindi
DeleteSad proof that Filipinos really lack comprehension and emotional maturity. Ang linaw ng sinabi niya pero people DELIBERATELY choose to misunderstand it just to make an emotional reaction. Makes me think we really might be doomed as a nation.
ReplyDeleteO di alis ka na sa Pilipinas, doomed pala.
DeleteMight be? I thought we are already doomed lol
DeleteI agree with you. That's one of the reasons why I tried my best to migrate to other country.
DeleteI agree with her and all the others here who can see two sides of the coin. Nobody asked to be born. If you decide to have children, you should be responsible for their expenses. It’s your obligation to give them a good life. They didn’t ask you to bring them out in this world. You decided to bring a person into the world. You are obliged. You have duties to fulfill. Take care of your children and save up for your retirement.
ReplyDeleteIf the child doesn’t want the life that was given to her by her/his parents cut it then!
DeleteThat "save up for retirement" is for those who have stable jobs now. How about mere katulongs, drivers, farmers, fisherfolks, mag titinda and the likes? How can they save if what they're earning is not even enough for 3 meals a day.
DeleteI beg to disagree. It’s the parents’ obligation to provide for the BASIC needs. Anything beyond that is given to us by our parents are done so out of love.
DeleteWe are not rich but I was able to graduate from really good private schools because of scholarships. Life as a scholar was never easy but I never took that against my parents because I know they gave us the best that they could give despite the limited financial resources.
If I were to go with the mentality of today’s generation, I could easily blame my parents for having kids when they could not even afford to give us “a good life”. But I chose to be grateful instead - grateful that I was even born because had they chosen not to have me, I wouldn’t be here enjoying my life now.
Was I obliged to give back?
In many instances, I was. But because I chose to be grateful for having been born into this world and for their sacrifices, I never took it against them and held a grudge. I just gave and continue to give wholeheartedly. I spoil them with luxury stuff and travel. And taking care of my parents gives me a wonderful feeling; no amount of money or material thing can ever compare.
As a mom myself, I give my kids the best that I can afford. Not because they are an investment but because I love them dearly. I never forget to remind them that anything over and beyond the BASIC is a gift - something they have to be thankful for. It’s not an entitlement because raising them with the belief that they have a right to “a good life” is a surefire way of raising a self-entitled spoiled brat. I have met so many of these and they are the worst kind to deal with.
Between helping my parents and giving my kids a good life, I still manage to save some for retirement, despite not being a high-income earner. Financial windfall always comes unexpectedly (either in the form of a salary increase or sometimes a bonus) which allows me to save more for retirement. And at a time of a major medical emergency when financial resources were running low, relatives came to help (without me even asking for it).
Siguro nga totoo ang sinabi sa akin ng mama ko noon. Live simply, have a grateful heart, and pay it forward and you will see how blessings will come to you.
Asa ka pa sa pinoy na ginawang retirement plan ang anak.Yes galing ako sa pamilya na lage hirit ng nanay ko na kami tumulong kse kami may pera.Tapos mga kapatid ko na lalake nag anak at sa amin mga tiyahin pinaako ang responsibility nila.Kse nga lage nanay ko pinapa guilt trip kami.Eh kasalanan ba namin na ganun pinili nila na buhay? Ayaw magwork tapos kaming nagtratrabaho ang hihingan pag nangailangan sila.
Delete7:17 illegal ang abortion dito ante so wala silang choice kundi buhayin ka kasi nabuo ka na. never magiging utang na loob yan ng kahit sinong anak. wala naman kasing nag force sa inyong "dapat magalit ka din sa parents mo kasi pinili ka nilang buhayin kahit hindi sila financially prepared" ang take lang ng iba dito maging aral sana sa mga young adults na wag muna mag aanak kapag hindi pa handa ang laman ng pitaka kasi lets be real here, limited na lang ang opportunities ng mga bata ngayon dahil sa hirap ng buhay. hindi lahat kasing palad mong umangat despite sa pagiging mahirap niyo ng parents mo before. dun tayo sa mas madaling gawin. mga bagay na kayang gawan ng paraan at iwasan muna habang bata ka pa. hindi sa kwento mo umiikot ang buhay ng ibang tao stop being pick me girl.
DeleteYung nag-sabi ng BASIC ang layo na ng sinabi. Nagyabang lang. Ikaw na!
Delete717 I do agree with you. Pareho kasi tayong lumaki sa hirap at medyo nakaluwag luwag na now kaya we are capable of helping our parents. Medyo ok nga sa akin na lumaki na may obligasyon tayo na tulungan ang magulang natin when they grow old. Kasi kung hindi, baka maski pambili ng meds ng parents ko hindi ko pa gagawin. Karamihan lang nman kasi sa mga nega eh abusive ang parents or hindi naging maganda ang childhood at hindi din naging maganda ang buhay now. Which I understand kasi hindi rin naging maganda ang childhood ko sa daming pinagdaanan but nasa better place na din ako now at looking back, everything were hard kasi mahirap talaga ang buhay. Sa akin lang nman yan. Sa mga kids ko, hindi ko na sila oobligahin or ituturo ang ganyang mentality kasi I am capable of taking myself at ang daming nursing home where I live. 😂
Delete1:08 Wala ka lang naintindihan or kung naintindihan mo man, insecure ka sa happiness at success niya sa buhay kasi ungrateful at unhappy ka. Obvious sa rwply mo
Delete@1613 kaya may mga katul9ng dahil yan sa mgaagulang na basta na lang nag aanak ng walang kaplano plano. Hindi ba dapat bago mo isipin mag dala ng panibago buhay sa mundo unahin mo.muna ayusin ang sarili sarili nila huhay. Mga Pinoy kase larga lang ng larga at tapos pag sinita mo sisihin ang gobyerno or gagamitin arguments ang kultura natin na sa panahon may mga kultura na tayo hindi na uubra.
DeleteI don’t think she should apologize for her opinion. Some people are butthurt because what she said were all true anyway.
ReplyDeleteTama naman si Dani. Lawakan niyo isipan niyo. Utang na loob is used, more often than not, as a weapon by abusive parents. kung hindi kayo agree sa kanya, ok lang naman din. Pero ung mga kumukontra sa idea niya eh mukhang na brainwash ng mga abusive parents.
ReplyDeleteOk na ante. Move on na. Next!
ReplyDeleteIkaw din ante magmove on ka na sa next na issue imamarites mo
DeleteMga mahihina kase kayo umintindi kaya kailangan ng madami explanation.
ReplyDeleteTrue
DeletePano kung ung magulang mo ay walang wala, ano gagawin mo
ReplyDeleteWalang wala pala pero ang daming anak?
DeleteEh di bibigyan kung ano kaya mo bigay.
Delete10:23 Wala naman sinabing madaming anak. For example, dalawa lang ang anak. Walang-wala ang magulang, nag-iiyu-iyuhan yung dalawang anak sa pagtulong kasi hindi nila kayang magbigay sa magulang nila dahil kulang pa sinusweldo nila sa luho at bisyo nila? Hijtayin na lang milang mawala mga magulang nila kasi hindi naman sila obligadong magtustos sa magulang nila. Wag lang silang iiyak-iyak sa harap ngbkabong ng magulang nila.
DeleteEdi tulungan kung kaya at maluwag sa kalooban. Ang point dito is for parents to stop expecting and obligating their kids na suportahan sila. Gets mo?
DeleteSa first world countries kapag di mo kayang suportahan ang anak mo, the government will help, provided na kaya mong i-prove na hindi ka capable as a parent. You have to declare it and may agencies sila na ihahanap ka ng work so you can contribute to the society. Kahit disabled ka pa!Kaya doon ang mindset, if hindi mo kayang buhayin ang bata, don't even dare to procreate. Legal ang abortion, at maaga pa lang aware na ang mga bata about safe sex. Abuse ituring when parents guilt trip their children.
ReplyDeleteYup, yan ang hindi alam ng karamihan here. In 1st world countries may agencies ng government na pwede mong puntahan if wala kang mahanap na trabaho or wala kang matirhan or wala kang makain. As in, may tutulong sayo. You can even loose your job at may subsidy ka for one year, as in pera sya, basta may proof ka lang na naghahanap ka ng work. Hindi rin ganun kataas ang requirement sa work lalo nat teenager ka at 1st time mo magwork. Ibang iba ang sitwasyon ng 1st world countries kesa sa Pinas. Kaya I don‘t get this kind of mentality na walang obligasyon ang anak sa parents. Lol, applicable lang yan if mayaman ka or nasa maunlad ka na bansa.
DeleteYan ang hirap if pilit inaadapt ung western culture. I get what she’s saying pero hindi yan pwede sa pinas kasi iba ung culture natin sa family, it goes beyond obligation, it’s our nature to take care of of our parents. Hindi natin kaya tiisin mag ilang natin natin, imagine nag steak ka for dinner while ung parents mo Hindi kumakain? That’s against our morals.
ReplyDeleteThe Chinese and Japanese are not like this. That's why they dont want their children to marry Filipinos because the Filipino parents have to be taken care of like they are little children too.
DeleteEwan.
Delete711 true. Nasobrahan din kasi ang ibang Marites here sa social media. Sa maunlad na countries, ok lang na walang tulong mula kids nila ang mga parents kasi may mga ahensya sila ng gobyerno na pwede nilang lapitan at tlagang mabibigyan sila ng tulong unlike sa Pilipinas. Hindi man ang anak ang tutulong sa kanila, they are not that helpless kasi may gobyerno silang tutulong. Sa atin? Baka mamatay ka na sa kakapila sa tulong, wala ka pa ring napapala.
DeleteToxic culture!!!
DeleteThe reaction to her statements and this comment section prove her point. We need to break this cycle, which only operates to keep people impoverished
ReplyDeleteIsa lamg meaning ng statement nya, panuodin nyo daw kasi. Need nya views haha
ReplyDeleteWala ba sya iba ginagawa kundi vlogging haha
Delete10:20 nothing wrong with that. trabaho din yan ante malaki kitaan dyan specially barretto siya baka yung sinasahod niyan in a month sahod mo na in a year.
DeleteLook who’s talking about utang na loob may utang na loob ka ba sa tatay mong nagbigay ng buhay mo kahit pa d sya nagsuporta at nagpalaki sayo d ka magiging tao kung wala at tatay mo sa step dad mong si dennis may utang na loob ka rin ba na sa konting panahon na magsama mama mo an stepdad mo sya din tumayong tatay mo na sa konting panahon nagprovide din sayo tingin tingi sa sarili din d ka perpekto
ReplyDeleteSya ba ang nagmaka-awa na iluwal sa mundong ito? Kaninong desisyon yun?
DeleteHindi naman si Dani nagdecide na lumabas sa mundo di ba. What her parents and step parents did where their responsibilities for choosing to have kids. All the "sacrifices" they made are not really sacrifices, it's just them doing what they were supposed to do, it's what they signed up for when they had kids.
DeleteSadly, yung mother niya lang ang inaacknowledge at minamahal nya
Delete5:12 she gave chance sa tatay niya, siya pa yung unang nag approach. kung hindi pa imemessage ni dani si kier hindi pa sila magkakasama. anak pa din ba yung problema? paki explain kasi hindi kita gets.
DeleteAko lang ba pero baket pag nag explain sya parang lagi sya galit haha
ReplyDeleteParang laging may gustong patunayan. Feeling Witty. Haha.
DeleteGanyan kasi tayo eh, pagdirect to the point, mean agad ang impression natin. di tayo sanay sa prangka
DeleteSadly, nasa Pilipinas ka ganyan talaga. Try go abroad para masaya ka.
ReplyDeleteTruly!! Hanggat nasa Pinas siya ganun talaga, walang ibang mag aasikaso sa magulang nya kung hindi siya. If ayaw niya mag migrate sya sa ibang bansa, at least doon independent sya fully.
DeleteAng mga Pinoy talaga may mali sa wiring sa utak. Siguro isa ka sa mga magulang gusto mo na lang umasa sa sistento ng anak mo dahil ikaw ang nagdala sa kanila sa mundo. Natamong ko ba kung gusto nila dalin mo sila sa mundo at lalo s bansa marami makikitid na utak?
DeleteWell.she is speaking from what she experienced and her point of view. Di mararamdaman ni Dani ang need to really help.her parents kasi they can take of themselves financially. Pero pag laki ka sa hirap do you think papabayaan mo lang parents mo? Kami kahit di kmi inoobliga ng nanay ko di mo pa rin matiis na magbigay kahit pakonti konti. Honor thy parents and helping them oit ia part of it. Paslamat lang siya kasi di siya kailangang tumulong sa parents nya. I hope na ma maintain nya ang financial stability niarjorie para di na kailangang tulungan ang nanay nya.
ReplyDeleteI don't think her parents can take care of themselves. Her mom particularly, may nasasandalan then until now kaya okay lang kahit wala nang support from the kids.
DeleteThat’s not her point, girl. Pa ulit ulit. Wala syang sinabing huwag ka tumulong. Ang sinasabi nyang hindi dapat ay obligahin ang mga anak na buhayin ang mga magulang. Yung tipo ng magulang na hindi naghahanap buhay kahit kaya naman at sadyang umaasa lang sa padala ng anak. Gets na po ba. Yung mga magulang na “anak ko mag aangat sa kin sa kahirapan”. At dyan ka matutuwa kay Marjorie kasi she made sure she’s financially able to provide for herself and her family which sa true, bare minimum as parents.
DeleteYou said it yourself, it's voluntary. Dami sinabi ganun din pala.
Deletehindi mo gets? yun nga yung point niya katulad nung sayo, never ka inobliga so hindi masama sa loob mong magbigay. eto naman, english ba kaya hindi naintidihan? pero taglish yan accla so anong nangyare?
DeleteDani,stop hurting your Dad.Did your Mom inform you about their agreement in raising you as a child? Know the truth before judging your Dad and other parents.
ReplyDeleteShe stopped studying daw. Now, want niya ulit kumuha ng Degree.
ReplyDeleteComing from someone na lately lang umalis sa poder ng ina. Kung d pa sya nag asawa malamang nakay M pa siya nakatira.
ReplyDeleteDi pa pala to tapos? Haaaay, pa clout na naman. Sabihin mo yan sa anak mo. Most parents until pagtanda nila, anak ang iniisip. Tapos may mga ganitong anak na feeling kaya na nila lahat. Panget na nga mukha, panget pa ugali. If I were her, di din ako magbibigay sa parents ko, ni hindi nga nabup ang pamilya eh.
ReplyDeleteMas nagiging madamot ang anak sa mindset na sinabi niya
ReplyDeleteNot really. Di mo lang gets.
DeleteThe goal is to UPLIFT the next generation and not to BURDEN them. Many Filipinos don't think this way that's why their children and grandchildren remain in the cycle of poverty. When you are a financial burden to your adult children you are hurting your future descendants. So stop having children if you're just going to hurt them.
ReplyDeleteSometimes kahit anong sipag mo kung ganon lang tlga kinikita mo wala ka magagawa. Swerte nga sila at artista sila at malaki kita nila.
DeleteTomoh!
Delete5:10 ante hindi mo kailangang maging millionare para mag isip na kung mahirap ka wag kang mag aanak.
DeleteDi wag ka nga mag anak kung "ganon lang" kinikita mo. Alam mo naman na pag nag anak ka, madami yan kelangan gastusan, food, clothing, education, etc...... kung alam mo naman na sa minimum wage mo, di mo afford yan, wag ka mag anak. As simple as that.
DeleteTama, wag mag anak kung di mo pala afford.
DeleteMinsan kung sino pa yung mga kapos sa buhay sila pa ang mga matutulungin at mapagmahal sa magulang
ReplyDeletetapos pagnag anak na din sila, yun ieexpect nila sa mga anak nila.....
DeleteDani wala kang magagawa dahil nasa Pinas ka. Nasa kultura na yan ng Pilipino na family oriented. Kung gusto mong ganyan na di mo obligasyon nanay mo manirahan ka nalang sa ibang bansa na independent. Para mafulfill hinaing mo.
ReplyDeleteKung pabayaan ka ng anak mo ewan ko kung masasabi mo pa ba yan
ReplyDeleteA matured person will do an introspect instead of labeling his/her child agad as walang utang na loob.
DeleteYung mga anak na pinabayaan ang mga magulang ay WALANG puso.
ReplyDeleteDani it will be always felt force kung labag tlg un sa kalooban mo. Huwag mo lahatin. Ikaw lang un. Sa ibang pinoy they give freely and wholeheartedly kahit hindi sapat pera nila. Overflow na ung sa inyo peeo ganyan pa din pananaw mo.
ReplyDeleteParang n experience nya maging OFW at. Breadwinner
ReplyDeleteKung hindi pa siya nag asawa for sure nasa poder parin sya ng magulang niya. Hahaha.
DeleteTama kasi kung naghirap o dumaan sila sa kawalaan i dont think she will have the same sentiments.
DeleteShame she has to explain her statement that cries the big truth.
ReplyDeleteWag ka na mag explain Dani, ignore them. You can only explain and discuss your points, but you cant understand it for them. Feeling ko butthurt lang talaga yung iba na their kids may not support their desired lifestyle in the future. If I know that you were a great parent and modeled love and care to my kids, hindi naman ako makakaramdam ng negativity sa mga sinabi mo kasi confident my kids love me and will take care of me not because of utang na loob.
ReplyDeleteDi ka sure. Lol
DeleteOA NA TO. SHE IS MILKING ON THE ISSUE. PARELEVANT NA ANG DATING. MANAHIMIK KA NA. KALOKA.
ReplyDeletereading all the comments here feels like reading a debate about which one came first chicken or egg? 😅
ReplyDeleteDepende na kasi sa tao yan. Mahirap kung bibigyan ka ng responsibilidad na ayaw mo. Lol, pero minsan thankful din na maski papano nakakakonsensya din na hindi tumulong.
DeleteDani nasa traits na kasi ng mga Pilipino ang pagiging mapagbigay sa pamilya. At wala naman ibang magdadamayan kung ndi yung pamilya mo. Its better to give than 2 received.
ReplyDeleteiba yun sa pagiging mapagbigay sa inoobliga ka na halos buong sahod mo kunin na ng parents mo. yun lang naman ang point ni dani bakit parang hirap na hirap kayong icomprehend, ganun ba kayo kasalat sa education?
DeleteWow.. Nakakahiya sa mga totoong breadwinner. If I know priveleged ka, may mga kasambahay pa nga kayo. Wag kami,
ReplyDeletehilig kasi magbuntisan ng maaga kahit walang pampalamon sa anak tapos ang anak ang gagawing breadwinner. kanino ba sisi dyan? malamang sa magulang bakit isisisi niyo kay dani. lol
DeleteDani isn't the breadwinner. Julia is. That's why Julia started her career at a young age.
ReplyDeleteNot Julia . Wala sa kanilang magkakapatid ang breadwinner . That is not so true !
DeleteHaha Marj is super smart for the kids to be breadwinners
DeleteWeird ng mga tao dito na nirelate na sa mga buhay nila haha. D ba kayo nanonood ng MMK or MPK? Ilang cases na ba yung mga OFW na hindi nakapag-aral para tumulong sa mga magulang na palakihin mga kapatid nila? Kung d toxic yan sa inyo, ewan ko na lang. Then nung pagtanda, mga walang savings, naubos sa mga kapamilya. Or basahin nyo, Maynila sa mga kuko ng liwanag para malaman nyo kung gaano ka-toxic ang culture ng utang na loob. Nag-aral ba kayo history? Yan ang isang Filipinino trait na kinakasira natin, paano? Ex. Mag-apply sa work, lalapit sa inong na mayor. Then for the longest time tatahimik kahit corrupt si Mayor dahil sa utang na loob. Tama si Dani, periodt.
ReplyDeleteMay point siya pero tumahimik na siya tuloy tuloy parin siya
ReplyDeleteHindi din kasi sya marunong tumanggap at makinig sa opinyon ng iba. Hindi nya maintindihan na iba iba ang sitwasyon ng mga tao. Ang yaman nila, kering keri na hindi tumanaw ng utang na loob. At parehong artista parents nya step father at titas...im sure wala sya tinatawan na utang na loob na iba. Again, di masama ang tumanaw ng utang na loob as long as you know your boundaries. Hindi rin dapat pilitan, kung wala at ayaw mo magbigay stick with it. Its not bad to cut someone from your life din.
ReplyDeleteIsa ka pa dami dami sinasabi pero mahina sin comprehension mo Ante!!!
DeleteAng runong runong niya kung magsalita pero point of view lang nmn nya lahat sinasabi niya.
DeleteDani has mellowed. Maybe she meant well pero nagkaroon ng malice because of her past tampuha with her dad.
ReplyDeleteI support my mom kasi di niya kaya. Ganun din husband ko. He supports his parents. Pero di sila nag-oobliga. Kusa namin binibigay. Though we do that, I agree with Dani na di naman talaga dapat i-obliga ang anak to provide for parents. Hindi retirement or insurance ang anak. Mahirap din naman sa part ng anak yung ganun. Kaya kaming mag-asawa, nag-iipon for our retirement. Ayoko maisip ng anak ko na yung sana issave-up na niya para sa sarili niya or sa future ng anak niya, mapupunta pa sa amin na parents niya. Kahit sa bible, parents dapat ang magprovide sa mga anak. Not the other way around.
ReplyDeleteFinally someone gets the message.
DeleteHindi ba dapat mag evolve din ang Kultura? Marami sa kultura natin tixic na sa panahon ngayon!!!
ReplyDeletehaha puro mental health alam nila ngayon yan bukambibig na palusot
DeleteThis !
DeleteAng hihina ng comprehension. Dani is addressing the parents n ginagawang investment mga anak. Kung anak ka at tinutulungan mo parents mo, good for you. Pro iba ang sitwasyon mo kay sa s may mga toxic parents. Hindi ikaw ang standard kung paano kikilos mga bata. this is not address to you. This is more address to parents
ReplyDeleteFeeling maganda sya lol
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