Kung pera mo un ok lang. Masaklap kung un ineenjoy mo eh pera pa ng tatay mo at di pa tapos ang period of mourning. Delikadeza at konting hiya lang yan.
May kakilala mga ako wala pang 40 days eh un tatlong anak ay kanya kanya waldasan ng pera ng tatay nila. May nag aral abroad, may kinasal ng bongga at pinatira un asawa ng lalake sa family home nila at may nagdebut sa high end bar sa BGC. All classmates invited. Thanks to their father's money. Wala namang kaso na gastusin nila pera ng tatay nila. But they can't wait to spend it. Tapos un nanay ng tatay nila eh inaway na and the rest of the relatives of their dad. Hindi na kinilala. Baka nga naman mautangan pa. So pano nga ba mag grieve lalo na at madaming pera un namatay at makapal ang apog ng mga anak? One day lang pwede na sabay palusot na they're still grieving in their own unique way. HYPOCRITE.
My brother passed away two months ago, di namin feel mag celebrate nung pasko at bagong taon, first Christmas na wala siya. Iba iba tayo mag process ng pain. Kaya di dapat mag judge. We may appear happy but deep inside we’re grieving.
Alam mo kun bayad na un trip before passing i would also travel. Wala nmn masama gumala. Kaso amusement park pinuntahan nila awkward. Sana low key nlng sila.
Golden pa rin talaga ang kasabihan: Kung wala ka masabi na maganda tikom mo na lang bibig mo, or in this case tali mo kamay mo para di makatype ng di kanais nais.
4:30 most likely, bago pa man namatay, napamahagi na yung ari-arian. Ano yun bonggang kasal, study abroad, wala pang 40 days preparation?? Pati pagtira sa bahay pinapakealaman mo. Sino ba dapat tumira don, ikaw ng mag-anak mo?? Kung ako mamatay gusto ko maging masaya mga mahal ko sa buhay and not wallow in grief. Pag kasi hindi mo dinistract sarili mo, lalamunin ka ng kalungkutan. Bakit nangengealam kayong mga kamag-anak, may interes din ba kayo sa mana? Check mo sarili mo baka naiinggit ka lang. Masama yan.
Yes . Iba iba talaga ng way pag mourn. When my dad died , i couldnt cry sa wake even sa libing. Nawirdohan ako sa sarili. Parang di pa siguro nag sisink in. Pero after about a week, i started crying everyday. Ako pinakamatagal nag mourn saming lahat sa family.
Ako rin. Sobrang tagal na wala akong gustong gawin dahil ang nararamdaman ko ay dapat nandito ang tatay ko na kasama ko sa pag-eenjoy. Hindi ko matanggap.
12:15, sa case ko bayad na ang trip at hotel ko months prior to my dad's unexpected demise. Kaya kahit 2 weeks lang na inilibing ang tatay ko, ay tumuloy kami sa scheduled vacation. So sa umaga nag-enjoy ako sa tour, pero sa gabi panay naman ang iyak ko dahil miss ko ang tatay ko. Minsan kailangan natin ng bakasyon dahil stressful ang work at buhay. Kaya naiintindihan ko si Janno. Some people wallow in sadness, while some people choose to move on quickly. But we have to remember that moving on does not mean you don't love or remember your deceased loved ones anymore.
12:31 same tayo. I was the one busy with the funeral and letting the relatives know kasi. Kaya pagkalibing ng mama ko saka palang nag sink in sakin lahat
Mine naman sa Papa ko, July sya nawala and may nakasched kami na vacation with whole family including apos sa HongKong with flights and hotel na nabook. Narefund ko lang yung airfare ng tatay ko so might as well tinuloy namin. Anyway, bday celeb un ng mommy ko. We still have our mom kaya cherish the moments na lang.
The day after ng libing ng lola namin, nagswimming kaming lahat mga tito tita at mga apo sa dagat. Nagsaya kami, bonding kasi hindi namin alam kelan pa kami makukumpleto ulit. Our lola until the end, kept us together. Pag-uwi, kanya kanya na ng pagmmourn. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you’re healing and in a better place now.
Isa ka pa! Iba iba ang pag deal ng mga tao with losing a loved one. They could be thinking , their dad would want them to be happy. At hindi mo alam pag mag isa lang sa room mga yan kung pano sila umiyak.
1:46 mas bastos ung mga pakielamera kagaya ni 12:15am. Wag kasing bastos na nanghihimasok sa coping mechanisms ng Ibang tao. Mga tulad mo at ni 12:15am dapat derechang sinusupalpal ng magtanda kayo. At sa totoong madaming boomer na bastos at walang pinagkantandaan.
1.46 Bastos talaga ang generation who invented Boomer to insult the older generation as if hindi din sila tatanda. They just hate being told off on their faces unlike before we listen to our elders and give respect but we still make our own decisions. We dont laugh or make fun of them just cause they were raised different in a very conservative setting.
1:46 I'm not 12:38 pero natamaan ka? Bastos po ang comment ni 12:15 in the first place. No one has the right to question how a family should grieve. In this context, very boomer naman talaga ang comment ni 12:15
Must be planned for months with all of them together plus very expensive to back off. And a change of scenery can take their minds off kung ano nangyari khit sandali. Iba sila ng coping mechanism from you
Feeling naman ng ibang younger generations. Making fun of boomers, using the term to insult (im not one btw) but diba mas bastos naman ang younger generations ngayon?
It doesnt mean na boomer kagad si 12:15am with that comment. Maybe, maybe not. But pa-cool ka 12:38am. Mas bastos ka at ang mga nagtatanggol kay 1238am because you are insulting a whole generation of people……….
513 just like you. Dapat cut it from the root ang kabastusan ng generation nyo. And you guys have reading comprehension problem. Ang sabi, she can reply to the comment without the insult. Without the boomer insult. Gets mo?
Kapal ng mukha ng mga tao para manghimasok sa buhay ng may buhay. Ano gusto niyo? Mag mukmok silang lahat? At saka, may possibility na noon pa yan nabook noh!
Ako nga paglibing sa dad ko sa mall kami tumuloy. The pain is there, until now. Pero life goes on. Pano ba dapat ang iasta ng namatayan. Dapat ba hanggang 40 days o babang luksa umiiyak lang? Nakakasama ba ng pagkatao umastang normal. Nagpapakasaya ka pero nandun pa din yung sakit na nawalan ka. O kailangan ba talaga makita ng lahat ng tao na malungkot ka hanggang gusto nila. Mga chismosang to.
I would have sudden bursts of tears in the middle of anywhere when that happened to me. Christmas was the loneliest, almost unbearable. They need to do that to survive.
Ano gusto ng netizen? Mag mukmok sila. I'm sure they are mourning, the photos they share are just probably a snippet of what they are going thru. What's important is that they are surrounded by their love ones.
We all mourn and cope in our own unique ways. If travel takes the edge of sorrow off, then go. Eventually, he will come home with a better frame of mind.
Iba iba coping mechanism ng mga tao. Others may prefer to be silent, still and namnamin talaga ang grief but there are those who want to carry on with their lives as normal as possible para hindi makaramdam masyado ng lungkot. I'm sure Janno's father wouldn't want his loved ones na malungkot ng matagal sa pagkawala niya. New Year din. Kahit may loss sa family baka gusto lang din nila na icelebrate kahit papaano pero hindi ibig sabihin they are not grieving. Karapatan nila to move on sa paraang gusto nila.
Yes. I would rather they show how life should continue to be celebrated after the death of a loved one, instead of trying to gain everybody’s sympathy through their tears or sad posts
Walang masama na tinuloy nila yung trip. Sayang yung binayad rin nila at para rin sumaya naman rin sila kahit sandali lang. Ang Shollow mo kung iisipan mo pa ng masama ang ganito situation.
Naka book na kasi yan. Tapos baka refundable. Mga taong ito talaga. Mas nakaka sad yung namatayan ka na nga tapos di ka natuloy sa pag alis at di mo na refund. So might as well ituloy mo na lang talaga kesa mabaliw ka kakaisip
ako nung 40 days ng daddy ko naginom pa ko with friends pero mag 3 yrs na until now umiiyak pa din ako bigla out of nowhere pag naalala ko daddy ko in the smallest of things. iba iba mag mourn yung tao may mukang chill merong very emotional etc but ultimately the sadness never really goes away for everyone.
Si mariel din naman nagtravel ngayon kahit less than two weeks pa lang since her mom’s passing. I guess this is their way to clear out their mind and also rest for a bit.
Wala naman masama kung life goes on and kung mag trip sila. Pero wag na i-social media. Kahit sila alam nila na it will attract criticism..hahaba lang ang usapan. There is GMRC kasi whether agree ka or not. Sabihin mo na na old fashioned ito pero it serves a purpose pa din in all situations para smooth ang lahat and walang away and misunderstanding
Sino ka para mag mandate na wag na ipost sa Socmed. Walang away and misunderstanding kung walang nakikielam kagaya mo. Eh sa yan ang way nila to cope up. May nalalaman ka pang GMRC, wala naman sila tinatapakan at hindi mo pera Pinang gastos sa travel agenda nila. Hindi lang sya ang gumagawa nyan na pwede mag travel pagkatapos ilibing ang loved ones nila. Mag travel ka din kung gusto mo.
Same sentiment. Tinuloy ko pa din bday treat ko sa 8yr daughter ko a few weeks after my father passed away. Kawawa naman kasi ang bata kung diko tutuloy at she was looking forward to the swimming. Ngwork ako sa US kasi. But diko na pinost sa socmed. Di kasi natin maalis sa mga tao especially our rrlatives na may masasabi. Saka respeto na lang sa deceased father ko.
Yung commenters ata ang kailangan ng GMRC and not the Gibbs family. Sila lang ang may karapatan magdecide how they want to mourn. The commenters don't need to add salt to the wound
Magpost man sila or hindi may masasabi pa rin ang mga tao. Malamang may makakakilala sa kanila while in Japan at i-post yan na na-sight sila doon. Much better sila na magpost.
Mukhang di nyo na gets yung sinulat ko..pakibasa uli. Im sure yung mga hindi naka gets is mga bata..reeking of self entitlement..me me me , ako ako ako!
siguro isang off din kasi dyan di natural ang ikinamatay ng Father niya. ok lang din sa kin ituloy ang trip pero di na muna ako mag-popost sa socmed bec. I'm not totally happy. opinion ko lang ito. just sharing
There is no established rule or standard in mourning. Minsan kasi we want to put ourselves in the shoes of others. Pinipilit natin na kung ako yan dapat ganito. Yun naman ang mali. Hindi tayo sila.
Ang dami tlagang pakialamero sa socmed eh. Kung mayaman din ako, magtatravel din ako kapag malungkot eh at mas lalo kapag nawalan ng mahal sa buhay. Wala nman yatang tamang pagluluksa, do what makes you help to move on, as long as wala ka nmang sinaktan na iba.
My mom and sister passed away in a span of 30 days in 2020.. I wanted to leave and all but because of Covid we had to stay at home.. But how I wish I was able to leave.. We grieve differently.. Isa pa may sariling pamilya na si Janno, he has to be present din sa kanila.. Di natin alam ang nararamdaman nya, wag i-judge ang nakikita sa pang labas..
Actually tayong Pinoy lang ganyan. Pag may namatay dapat bawal maging masaya! I dont think its disrespectful na pasayahin ang sarili mo while grieving. We have to move on, masakit pero dapat laban ulit. Kaya yung progress sa atin very slow, kase we are very emotional and not logical. Our lives shouldn’t end just bec our loved ones died.
One of my friends very recently told me that once your "normal" has been disrupted, you don't go back to it, you can't go back to living normally, you instead create a new normal. We carry a piece of everyone that was and is part of our life. They teach all teach us something by being by our side, by passing away and even after it. We don’t move on from grief, we MOVE FORWARD with it, we GROW around it. I pray for Janno, his family and everyone going through grief that you never give up, you keep living your life, and you have a BLAST doing it!
Anung problema kung gusto nila magbakasyon? This ba ang coping mechanism ng tao kapag nagrieve ang pamilya, mga NEGAtizens ang hilig makialam kulang s sense ang mga utak! Juice mio! Anu gusto nyo magmulmok sila?
I'm sure the trip was already booked before the unexpected death of his father. Why not continue the trip and magsaya kahit papano instead of magkulong sa bahay and umiyak ng umiyak. Mga pinoy sobrang pakialamero sa buhay ng may buhay.
nun nmatay tatay ko after libing nag cabalen kami buong mag anak, then nag beach kami at Baguio, pero hindi ibig sabihin non di kami nagluluksa. Di kami vocal magkkapamilya sa feelings namin. Pero alam namin na deep inside lahat kami nasasaktan. Hanggang ngayon.
I remember when my lola died, may naka schedule na summer trip yung company ng dad ko, super hesitant siya if we should join kasi nga fresh pa yung mga nangyari. But his siblings told him na ipush namin yung trip para rin mabago kahit saglit yung environment and makahinga hinga sa mga nangyari. Maybe ganon din sila. Hindi naman natin alam kung ano nangyayari sa life nila, isang picture lang naman yan. it doesnt mean na hindi na sila nagluluksa.
My dad died 2 wks before his birthday. We had planned a trip for his birthday months prior. Sadly nawala sya. We still pushed through with the trip, complete pa kami kasi the siblings abroad ay umuwi lahat because of what happened. We celebrated Tatay's life during that trip. Here we are, 6 yrs later at umiiyak pa rin because we lost a good man. The pain never goes away. You just get used to it.
Agree na ok lang yung travel. Paid na malamang and mahirap magtama uli schedule nila. But better if walang post na lang. They wanted to grieve privately so bakit may post. And medyo “off” kasi yung caption na “Happy New Year from the Gibbs”. No mention at all about his Dad. Or wishing his Dad was still there with them to spend the New Year.
Ang point lang dito, when you post be ready to receive comments especially what happened to his dad was sudden and shocking. Yang trip nila, kelangan ba i-post at mag greet ng Happy New Year? It wont take away memories of their trip bec they have pictures. Hindi lahat kelangan i-post sa social media……….
5:55 am ang point dito wag kayo nakikielam sa social media post ng iba lalo na at Di nyo pinagkagastusan ang pinangbayas sa trip na yan, at Di kayo kamaganak. Bakit sila ang mag an adjust para sa strangers sa internet. At pwede sila mag post ng happy new year , natural yun di ba kakapasok pa lang ng 2024. Kesa naman ipost nila ung nagluluksa at nagmamaktol sila which will not change the situation na namatay ang tatay nila.
Andaming pakielamera. Pera nyo ba ginastos dyan? Member din ba kayo ng pamilya nila? Anong alam nyo sa pag-grieve nila? Nasa puso ang pagluluksa. Hindi mo pwede itigil ang buhay mo just because me namatay. Buhay ka pa, so ang tanging magagawa mo na lang ay ipagdasal ang mahal mong namayapa na.
This was a planned trip months ago. Ano naman gusto ng ibang tao gawin ng mga Gibbs ihinto ang mundo nila. I'm sure kahit father nila eh gusto matuloy ang trip nila.
Just bec he spent the holidays and traveled to a diff country doesnt mean his not mourning for his father who passed away. Utak nung nagcomment nasa talampakan. Minsan masyado na nanghihimasok yung mga tao sa buhay ng may buhay. Kahit pa artista yan.
Sabi nga, be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
I can't remember if it was a Cristy Fermin interview of the manager but it was mentioned that the trip was scheduled long before and they couldn't refund, etc. Not that this should matter, as many here already said, kanya kanyang way mag mourn. Sa akin naman, I refuse to believe that nung ginamit nila mga tickets at accommodations nila para di masayang, that this automatically meant they love their father less or his death didn't break their hearts.
This one. Minsan di nila maintidihan yung mga preparation para sa out of the country vacation eh. Yan nga kailangan pa ng visa so it means probably weeks or months bago namatay si sir Ronaldo nakaplan na yan.
Yan ang pinagmamalaki ng mga Maritess lalo na yung ibang Maritess dito sa FP at sa ibang social media na mema lang at right daw nila magbigay ng opinyon. Minsan isip-isip muna bago ipost. Hindi lahat ng opinyon dapat ipangalandakan. Galit na galit pag pinapakialamanan ang buhay nila tapos grabe din namang mangialam sa buhay ng ibang tao office mates, relatives , celebs, etc.
ung matatandang kaugalian noon inaantay magbabang luksa which is 1 year bago bumalik sa routine nla. eh iba na ang panahon ngaun. noong nagkacovid nga walang lamay... halos cremated agad tas drecho libing na. virtual funeral pa nga. times have changed...at life is too short. ung mga nabubuhay pa at naiwanan kailangan din nlang ituloy ang life nla.
iba kse pagnag post ka sa soc media maraming interpretation yung iba pang flex which is not appropriate kung namatayan. parang pag may inaalala tayong namatay na tao di ba meron tayong moment of silence. a little show of sacrifice sana na hindi na nagpost
It is their living memory. So what kung ishare nila? First of all, his dad died under with a gunshot. Whether inflicted by his own self or not, it is his choice and peace. Why would the surviving family tie themselves to that emotion?
Sabihin na natin na hindi sila nagpost pero may mga kababayan tayo na nakita sila sa Japan at may mga stolen shots at nagviral, may hanash pa rin naman mga netizens eh. Let them spend their vacation
ako one year din yata nag grieve. sa Dad ko nung namatay siya we all didn't celebrate Christmas. sobrang sakit. parang wala kang rason mag celebrate. sa Mommy ko ganun din kami. one year yata kami malungkot/mourning
Excuse me... let them be. My dad passed march 2023. My mom flew here for xmas just because i cant look at our house during the holidays without my dad. Im pretty sure relatives or people will have sniding comments bout it. But theyll never know how hard it is to spend the holidays without your loved ones who have passed. Believe me despite of those happy pics, they're dying inside.
it's obviously a pre-planned trip. mas malulungkot lang sila if magmukmok sila sa bahay. people mourn differently. hayaan na, lalo na yung mga bata, they still deserve a good christmas/newyear
minsan naplano na kasi madami kaming trips na i planned tapos pag papalapit na i regret it or im too depressed to move pero i have to for my family. im a homebody talaga even travel effort for me maski excited ako, may dread na feeling din. because sarap ng buhay ko daming helpers clean lahat at home, tapos when you travel, public places even the plane, unless private jet, public, maski biz class maski mas malaki bathroom ganon pa din eh public. tapos syempre nakapapagpd din talaga. pero life goes on, you cant let sadness or depression overtake your life. so many times i just push through events kasi maski gusto ko magmukmok, i cant bec i have a family/businesses to attend to, projects to finish.
We lost recently a cousin. Ung family nya, a day after malibing nasa videoke at nag-staycation. It was ok sana to move forward until we realise na namamalimos nga pala sila sa mga cousins para sa funeral at hospitalization before she passed.
I understand we grieve differently and we don't know everyone's story. Ang nakaka-alam lang dyan ung malalapit sa kanila kaya sana lawakan pa natin ang pag-iisip.
Daming nega. Namatayan din kami pero booked na beforehand ang bday celeb ng pamangkin ko. Tinuloy pa rin naman, why? Di kami mayaman para magsayang ng pera. Its also our mini reunion para sa mga relative na di laging nakakasama. Yun naman ang realization pag may namamatay di ba? "Sana we spent more time together". So thats exactly what we did sa mga buhay pa. Sabay sabay din namin nireminisce ang buhay nung family member namin. Atleast magkakasama.
Let them forget about their loss for a while. Saka Baka non refundable naan uni trip, sayang naman. Isa pa, para s mag anak nay din kaman un. Leave them alone!
In Islam, it is highly advisable na wag mapag isa and libangin ang sarili pag namatayan nang sa gayon di masyadong mabigatan ang soul ng namayapa mong mahal sa buhay.
Ganyan mga aunties ko nang mawala dad ko. Pinapakelaman trips namin. Di nila batid na we mourn differently.
ReplyDeleteKung pera mo un ok lang. Masaklap kung un ineenjoy mo eh pera pa ng tatay mo at di pa tapos ang period of mourning. Delikadeza at konting hiya lang yan.
DeleteMay kakilala mga ako wala pang 40 days eh un tatlong anak ay kanya kanya waldasan ng pera ng tatay nila. May nag aral abroad, may kinasal ng bongga at pinatira un asawa ng lalake sa family home nila at may nagdebut sa high end bar sa BGC. All classmates invited. Thanks to their father's money. Wala namang kaso na gastusin nila pera ng tatay nila. But they can't wait to spend it. Tapos un nanay ng tatay nila eh inaway na and the rest of the relatives of their dad. Hindi na kinilala. Baka nga naman mautangan pa. So pano nga ba mag grieve lalo na at madaming pera un namatay at makapal ang apog ng mga anak? One day lang pwede na sabay palusot na they're still grieving in their own unique way. HYPOCRITE.
DeleteMy brother passed away two months ago, di namin feel mag celebrate nung pasko at bagong taon, first Christmas na wala siya. Iba iba tayo mag process ng pain. Kaya di dapat mag judge. We may appear happy but deep inside we’re grieving.
DeleteAlam mo kun bayad na un trip before passing i would also travel. Wala nmn masama gumala. Kaso amusement park pinuntahan nila awkward. Sana low key nlng sila.
DeleteGolden pa rin talaga ang kasabihan: Kung wala ka masabi na maganda tikom mo na lang bibig mo, or in this case tali mo kamay mo para di makatype ng di kanais nais.
DeleteIt’s actually good to have a trip after. Yan ang advise sa amin ng relatives namin when my FIL passed away.
Delete4:30 may pagka impossible sinasabi mo. It takes more than 40 days bago maclaim ng family ang naiwang pera ng namatay
Delete4:30 buhay nila yun, wala kampake. Hahaha! Wag kang ingetera at iwasang subaybayan ang buhay ng iba.
Delete4:30 most likely, bago pa man namatay, napamahagi na yung ari-arian. Ano yun bonggang kasal, study abroad, wala pang 40 days preparation?? Pati pagtira sa bahay pinapakealaman mo. Sino ba dapat tumira don, ikaw ng mag-anak mo?? Kung ako mamatay gusto ko maging masaya mga mahal ko sa buhay and not wallow in grief. Pag kasi hindi mo dinistract sarili mo, lalamunin ka ng kalungkutan. Bakit nangengealam kayong mga kamag-anak, may interes din ba kayo sa mana? Check mo sarili mo baka naiinggit ka lang. Masama yan.
DeleteSorry Pero pag ako di ko siguro kayanin muna mag enjoy esp the way my dad has left us ✌🏻
ReplyDeleteWell to each his own
Yes . Iba iba talaga ng way pag mourn. When my dad died , i couldnt cry sa wake even sa libing. Nawirdohan ako sa sarili. Parang di pa siguro nag sisink in. Pero after about a week, i started crying everyday. Ako pinakamatagal nag mourn saming lahat sa family.
DeleteBaka kasi non refundable te. Sayang pera ang dami nila o.
DeleteAko rin. Sobrang tagal na wala akong gustong gawin dahil ang nararamdaman ko ay dapat nandito ang tatay ko na kasama ko sa pag-eenjoy. Hindi ko matanggap.
Delete1249Oo nga Pero sana di n lng nag post
Delete12:15, sa case ko bayad na ang trip at hotel ko months prior to my dad's unexpected demise. Kaya kahit 2 weeks lang na inilibing ang tatay ko, ay tumuloy kami sa scheduled vacation. So sa umaga nag-enjoy ako sa tour, pero sa gabi panay naman ang iyak ko dahil miss ko ang tatay ko. Minsan kailangan natin ng bakasyon dahil stressful ang work at buhay. Kaya naiintindihan ko si Janno. Some people wallow in sadness, while some people choose to move on quickly. But we have to remember that moving on does not mean you don't love or remember your deceased loved ones anymore.
Delete1:17 natumbok mo
Delete1:17 bakit di dapat ipost? insensice ba sa family, which is sila naman din yun?
Delete12:31 same tayo. I was the one busy with the funeral and letting the relatives know kasi. Kaya pagkalibing ng mama ko saka palang nag sink in sakin lahat
DeleteMine naman sa Papa ko, July sya nawala and may nakasched kami na vacation with whole family including apos sa HongKong with flights and hotel na nabook. Narefund ko lang yung airfare ng tatay ko so might as well tinuloy namin. Anyway, bday celeb un ng mommy ko. We still have our mom kaya cherish the moments na lang.
DeleteExactly to each his own. Mariel Padilla went on a trip as well. Kanya kanya tlga. Lets just respect both the dead and the living.
DeleteThe day after ng libing ng lola namin, nagswimming kaming lahat mga tito tita at mga apo sa dagat. Nagsaya kami, bonding kasi hindi namin alam kelan pa kami makukumpleto ulit. Our lola until the end, kept us together. Pag-uwi, kanya kanya na ng pagmmourn. I’m sorry for your loss. I hope you’re healing and in a better place now.
DeleteKakalibing lang ng ama nya diba? Ano to?
ReplyDeleteIsa ka pa! Iba iba ang pag deal ng mga tao with losing a loved one. They could be thinking , their dad would want them to be happy. At hindi mo alam pag mag isa lang sa room mga yan kung pano sila umiyak.
DeleteGet lost boomer.
DeleteMost likely planned months ago. Life goes on po lola, it doesn't mean the one who passed away is forgotten.
Delete1238 using Boomer as an insult? Talaga ba? I’m not 12:15 but you can reply to her comment minus the insult noh. Bastos!
Delete1:46 mas bastos ung mga pakielamera kagaya ni 12:15am. Wag kasing bastos na nanghihimasok sa coping mechanisms ng Ibang tao. Mga tulad mo at ni 12:15am dapat derechang sinusupalpal ng magtanda kayo. At sa totoong madaming boomer na bastos at walang pinagkantandaan.
Delete1.46 Bastos talaga ang generation who invented Boomer to insult the older generation as if hindi din sila tatanda. They just hate being told off on their faces unlike before we listen to our elders and give respect but we still make our own decisions. We dont laugh or make fun of them just cause they were raised different in a very conservative setting.
Delete1:46 I'm not 12:38 pero natamaan ka? Bastos po ang comment ni 12:15 in the first place. No one has the right to question how a family should grieve. In this context, very boomer naman talaga ang comment ni 12:15
DeleteI agree 1238 napaka bastos.
DeleteMust be planned for months with all of them together plus very expensive to back off. And a change of scenery can take their minds off kung ano nangyari khit sandali. Iba sila ng coping mechanism from you
Delete10:04 walang natamaan. Baka ikaw. Isa ka sa pakielamera dito
DeleteFeeling naman ng ibang younger generations. Making fun of boomers, using the term to insult (im not one btw) but diba mas bastos naman ang younger generations ngayon?
DeleteIt doesnt mean na boomer kagad si 12:15am with that comment. Maybe, maybe not.
But pa-cool ka 12:38am. Mas bastos ka at ang mga nagtatanggol kay 1238am because you are insulting a whole generation of people……….
5:50, depende sa year kung kelan ka ipinanganak kung anong category ka kasali. May Boomer, Gen X, Gen Y or millenial, Gen Z, etc.
Delete5:50, hindi lahat ay tumatanda. Maraming bata pa lang ay nawawala na.
DeleteAgain you can reply to the comment and focus on the subject. But the inclusion of boomer sa reply ni 1238 is bastos to the nth level! Maledukado
Delete513 just like you. Dapat cut it from the root ang kabastusan ng generation nyo. And you guys have reading comprehension problem. Ang sabi, she can reply to the comment without the insult. Without the boomer insult. Gets mo?
DeleteKapal ng mukha ng mga tao para manghimasok sa buhay ng may buhay. Ano gusto niyo? Mag mukmok silang lahat? At saka, may possibility na noon pa yan nabook noh!
ReplyDeleteMga di nag tatravel ng malayuang ganyan at di maka relate, kaya mang ja judge na lang lol
DeleteYup. They're just trying to move forward
DeleteAko nga paglibing sa dad ko sa mall kami tumuloy. The pain is there, until now. Pero life goes on. Pano ba dapat ang iasta ng namatayan. Dapat ba hanggang 40 days o babang luksa umiiyak lang? Nakakasama ba ng pagkatao umastang normal. Nagpapakasaya ka pero nandun pa din yung sakit na nawalan ka. O kailangan ba talaga makita ng lahat ng tao na malungkot ka hanggang gusto nila. Mga chismosang to.
ReplyDeleteFully agree. We don’t have to mourn for show
DeleteI would have sudden bursts of tears in the middle of anywhere when that happened to me. Christmas was the loneliest, almost unbearable. They need to do that to survive.
ReplyDeleteWhere do you draw the line sa pag mourn? Mga pakilamerong to
ReplyDeleteAno gusto ng netizen? Mag mukmok sila. I'm sure they are mourning, the photos they share are just probably a snippet of what they are going thru. What's important is that they are surrounded by their love ones.
ReplyDeletePeople mourn differently, napaka mga pakelamera
ReplyDeleteSusko, Kaya nga. Ang daming makapag utos dito na sana wag na lang daw ipost. Akala mo ang laking langit at lupang kasalanan
DeleteWe all mourn and cope in our own unique ways. If travel takes the edge of sorrow off, then go. Eventually, he will come home with a better frame of mind.
ReplyDeleteIba iba coping mechanism ng mga tao. Others may prefer to be silent, still and namnamin talaga ang grief but there are those who want to carry on with their lives as normal as possible para hindi makaramdam masyado ng lungkot. I'm sure Janno's father wouldn't want his loved ones na malungkot ng matagal sa pagkawala niya. New Year din. Kahit may loss sa family baka gusto lang din nila na icelebrate kahit papaano pero hindi ibig sabihin they are not grieving. Karapatan nila to move on sa paraang gusto nila.
ReplyDeleteYes. I would rather they show how life should continue to be celebrated after the death of a loved one, instead of trying to gain everybody’s sympathy through their tears or sad posts
DeleteThis must have been planned long back pa. Malamang tinuloy na nila kesa masayang lahat.
ReplyDeletehis father died unexpectedly. wlang may gusto nun. maybe they planned the trip ahead of time. who knows
ReplyDeleteSiguro karamihan sa atin medyo nagulat lang na “uy nakapagtravel agad” pero isipin na lang natin iba-iba ang way ng pag mourn.
ReplyDeleteWalang masama na tinuloy nila yung trip. Sayang yung binayad rin nila at para rin sumaya naman rin sila kahit sandali lang. Ang Shollow mo kung iisipan mo pa ng masama ang ganito situation.
ReplyDeleteNaka book na kasi yan. Tapos baka refundable. Mga taong ito talaga.
ReplyDeleteMas nakaka sad yung namatayan ka na nga tapos di ka natuloy sa pag alis at di mo na refund. So might as well ituloy mo na lang talaga kesa mabaliw ka kakaisip
Then they could have kept those photos within the family na lang sana
Deleteako nung 40 days ng daddy ko naginom pa ko with friends pero mag 3 yrs na until now umiiyak pa din ako bigla out of nowhere pag naalala ko daddy ko in the smallest of things. iba iba mag mourn yung tao may mukang chill merong very emotional etc but ultimately the sadness never really goes away for everyone.
ReplyDeleteI guess iba iba tayo ng coping mechanism. Yan ang kay Janno and let him be
ReplyDeleteSi mariel din naman nagtravel ngayon kahit less than two weeks pa lang since her mom’s passing. I guess this is their way to clear out their mind and also rest for a bit.
ReplyDeleteWala naman masama kung life goes on and kung mag trip sila. Pero wag na i-social media. Kahit sila alam nila na it will attract criticism..hahaba lang ang usapan. There is GMRC kasi whether agree ka or not. Sabihin mo na na old fashioned ito pero it serves a purpose pa din in all situations para smooth ang lahat and walang away and misunderstanding
ReplyDeleteSino ka para mag mandate na wag na ipost sa Socmed. Walang away and misunderstanding kung walang nakikielam kagaya mo. Eh sa yan ang way nila to cope up. May nalalaman ka pang GMRC, wala naman sila tinatapakan at hindi mo pera Pinang gastos sa travel agenda nila. Hindi lang sya ang gumagawa nyan na pwede mag travel pagkatapos ilibing ang loved ones nila. Mag travel ka din kung gusto mo.
DeleteSame sentiment. Tinuloy ko pa din bday treat ko sa 8yr daughter ko a few weeks after my father passed away. Kawawa naman kasi ang bata kung diko tutuloy at she was looking forward to the swimming. Ngwork ako sa US kasi. But diko na pinost sa socmed. Di kasi natin maalis sa mga tao especially our rrlatives na may masasabi. Saka respeto na lang sa deceased father ko.
DeleteYung commenters ata ang kailangan ng GMRC and not the Gibbs family. Sila lang ang may karapatan magdecide how they want to mourn. The commenters don't need to add salt to the wound
Deletebakit sila magaadjust? diba ang dapat nagpapractice ng gmrc yun mga pakealamera at judgmental na netizen?
DeleteMagpost man sila or hindi may masasabi pa rin ang mga tao. Malamang may makakakilala sa kanila while in Japan at i-post yan na na-sight sila doon. Much better sila na magpost.
DeleteMukhang di nyo na gets yung sinulat ko..pakibasa uli. Im sure yung mga hindi naka gets is mga bata..reeking of self entitlement..me me me , ako ako ako!
Deletesiguro isang off din kasi dyan di natural ang ikinamatay ng Father niya. ok lang din sa kin ituloy ang trip pero di na muna ako mag-popost sa socmed bec. I'm not totally happy. opinion ko lang ito. just sharing
DeleteThere is no established rule or standard in mourning. Minsan kasi we want to put ourselves in the shoes of others. Pinipilit natin na kung ako yan dapat ganito. Yun naman ang mali. Hindi tayo sila.
Delete3:53 ngayon naman self entitlement, baket sila mag adjust para maplease ka. Ikaw ata ang may self entitlement noh.
Deleteo eh bakit si mariel rodriguez gnon din nman.
ReplyDeletePwede naman tumuloy baka bayad na kse pero sana di na lang nag post.
ReplyDelete2:10 sana di nalang kayo nagcomment
DeleteAng dami tlagang pakialamero sa socmed eh. Kung mayaman din ako, magtatravel din ako kapag malungkot eh at mas lalo kapag nawalan ng mahal sa buhay. Wala nman yatang tamang pagluluksa, do what makes you help to move on, as long as wala ka nmang sinaktan na iba.
ReplyDeleteIt's no one's business. People mourn differently.
ReplyDeleteI agree ako up to now I’m still mourning sa mom and dad ko they left me 30 years and 20 years ago respectively
DeleteMy mom and sister passed away in a span of 30 days in 2020.. I wanted to leave and all but because of Covid we had to stay at home.. But how I wish I was able to leave.. We grieve differently.. Isa pa may sariling pamilya na si Janno, he has to be present din sa kanila.. Di natin alam ang nararamdaman nya, wag i-judge ang nakikita sa pang labas..
ReplyDeleteActually tayong Pinoy lang ganyan. Pag may namatay dapat bawal maging masaya! I dont think its disrespectful na pasayahin ang sarili mo while grieving. We have to move on, masakit pero dapat laban ulit. Kaya yung progress sa atin very slow, kase we are very emotional and not logical. Our lives shouldn’t end just bec our loved ones died.
ReplyDeleteOne of my friends very recently told me that once your "normal" has been disrupted, you don't go back to it, you can't go back to living normally, you instead create a new normal. We carry a piece of everyone that was and is part of our life. They teach all teach us something by being by our side, by passing away and even after it. We don’t move on from grief, we MOVE FORWARD with it, we GROW around it. I pray for Janno, his family and everyone going through grief that you never give up, you keep living your life, and you have a BLAST doing it!
ReplyDeleteMove on. Hindi mo alam kung ano rin ang pinag-dadaanan nila.
ReplyDeleteAnung problema kung gusto nila magbakasyon? This ba ang coping mechanism ng tao kapag nagrieve ang pamilya, mga NEGAtizens ang hilig makialam kulang s sense ang mga utak! Juice mio! Anu gusto nyo magmulmok sila?
ReplyDeleteI'm sure the trip was already booked before the unexpected death of his father. Why not continue the trip and magsaya kahit papano instead of magkulong sa bahay and umiyak ng umiyak. Mga pinoy sobrang pakialamero sa buhay ng may buhay.
ReplyDeleteLife goes on, and surely gusto rin ni sir ronaldo masaya ang mga anak at apo nya
ReplyDeleteKaya nga may mga hashtags na si janoo sa isang post nya para sa mga tangang commenters
ReplyDeletenun nmatay tatay ko after libing nag cabalen kami buong mag anak, then nag beach kami at Baguio, pero hindi ibig sabihin non di kami nagluluksa. Di kami vocal magkkapamilya sa feelings namin. Pero alam namin na deep inside lahat kami nasasaktan. Hanggang ngayon.
ReplyDeleteEh ano naman ngayon kung may trip sila? Dapat ba huminto ang buhay at plano pag namatayan ka? It is a cycle of life.
ReplyDeletehindi na lang sana muna nagpost para wala ng isyu..hehe
ReplyDeleteI remember when my lola died, may naka schedule na summer trip yung company ng dad ko, super hesitant siya if we should join kasi nga fresh pa yung mga nangyari. But his siblings told him na ipush namin yung trip para rin mabago kahit saglit yung environment and makahinga hinga sa mga nangyari. Maybe ganon din sila. Hindi naman natin alam kung ano nangyayari sa life nila, isang picture lang naman yan. it doesnt mean na hindi na sila nagluluksa.
ReplyDeleteMy mom passed away dec 24,1992 until this very day I still mourn. We will be forever mourning with our dearly departed.
ReplyDeleteMy dad died 2 wks before his birthday. We had planned a trip for his birthday months prior. Sadly nawala sya. We still pushed through with the trip, complete pa kami kasi the siblings abroad ay umuwi lahat because of what happened. We celebrated Tatay's life during that trip. Here we are, 6 yrs later at umiiyak pa rin because we lost a good man. The pain never goes away. You just get used to it.
ReplyDelete808 I am so sorry. I feel for you, mahigpit na yakap.
DeleteAgree na ok lang yung travel. Paid na malamang and mahirap magtama uli schedule nila. But better if walang post na lang. They wanted to grieve privately so bakit may post. And medyo “off” kasi yung caption na “Happy New Year from the Gibbs”. No mention at all about his Dad. Or wishing his Dad was still there with them to spend the New Year.
ReplyDeleteYan yung gusto mong caption. May iba kasi to mention the person that passed away mahirap na. Kahit mag type lang. Iba iba talaga tayo
DeleteIf he mentions his dad, will it bring him back?
DeleteAng point lang dito, when you post be ready to receive comments especially what happened to his dad was sudden and shocking. Yang trip nila, kelangan ba i-post at mag greet ng Happy New Year? It wont take away memories of their trip bec they have pictures. Hindi lahat kelangan i-post sa social media……….
Delete5:55 am ang point dito wag kayo nakikielam sa social media post ng iba lalo na at Di nyo pinagkagastusan ang pinangbayas sa trip na yan, at Di kayo kamaganak. Bakit sila ang mag an adjust para sa strangers sa internet. At pwede sila mag post ng happy new year , natural yun di ba kakapasok pa lang ng 2024. Kesa naman ipost nila ung nagluluksa at nagmamaktol sila which will not change the situation na namatay ang tatay nila.
DeleteAndaming pakielamera. Pera nyo ba ginastos dyan? Member din ba kayo ng pamilya nila? Anong alam nyo sa pag-grieve nila? Nasa puso ang pagluluksa. Hindi mo pwede itigil ang buhay mo just because me namatay. Buhay ka pa, so ang tanging magagawa mo na lang ay ipagdasal ang mahal mong namayapa na.
ReplyDeleteAng ganda talaga ng panganay ni Janno sayang di niya pinag artista.
ReplyDeleteNag-artista yan nung bata pa. I remember she was in a movie with Janno and Bing. Baka di lang niya talaga gusto ang acting.
DeleteTrue. Let them be. Think first before commenting din. Sila ang namatayan hindi ikaw.
ReplyDeleteGrabe, sobrang pakialamero na ng tao sa buhay ng iba. Dati mga kapamilya lang pinapakialaman ngayon kahit sino na.
ReplyDeletebwal ka lumabas kpg namatayan ka. kailangan mo muna magbabang luksa. ska dapat nakaitim silang lahat. dapat malungkot pa kau
ReplyDelete10:43 may ganito pa pala magisip hanggang ngayon?
DeleteOo nga sis dapat nakaitim lahat sa bahay tapos naka black veil pa yunh mga babae ng isang taon no
DeletePanahon pa ni kopong kopong yan mga pinagsasabi mo
DeleteLola 2024 na po at iba iba ang pagluluksa ng mga tao.
DeleteDapat two years yan. Tapos dapat nakatakip din mukha mo pag lalabas ka... Wala nakagetz, I think 10:43 is being sarcastic
DeleteWala ng nagsusuot ng itim sa patay ngayon. Puti na, at sa busy ng tao ngayon walang time na para magmaktol at mag babang luksa ka pa.
DeleteAgree 10:43am is being sarcastic...
Delete8:44 sarcastic nga ba tlga?? 10:43's comment is pretty similar to what auntie (pinsan ng lola ko) used to said. 😑😑🤷🤷
DeleteThis was a planned trip months ago. Ano naman gusto ng ibang tao gawin ng mga Gibbs ihinto ang mundo nila. I'm sure kahit father nila eh gusto matuloy ang trip nila.
ReplyDeleteParang yung kay Isabelle Daza lang din. Gusto nila wag ituloy ang kasal kase nawala din Dad niya non. Mga tao talaga
DeleteJust bec he spent the holidays and traveled to a diff country doesnt mean his not mourning for his father who passed away. Utak nung nagcomment nasa talampakan. Minsan masyado na nanghihimasok yung mga tao sa buhay ng may buhay. Kahit pa artista yan.
ReplyDeleteSabi nga, be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
I can't remember if it was a Cristy Fermin interview of the manager but it was mentioned that the trip was scheduled long before and they couldn't refund, etc. Not that this should matter, as many here already said, kanya kanyang way mag mourn. Sa akin naman, I refuse to believe that nung ginamit nila mga tickets at accommodations nila para di masayang, that this automatically meant they love their father less or his death didn't break their hearts.
ReplyDeleteThis one. Minsan di nila maintidihan yung mga preparation para sa out of the country vacation eh. Yan nga kailangan pa ng visa so it means probably weeks or months bago namatay si sir Ronaldo nakaplan na yan.
DeleteYan ang pinagmamalaki ng mga Maritess lalo na yung ibang Maritess dito sa FP at sa ibang social media na mema lang at right daw nila magbigay ng opinyon. Minsan isip-isip muna bago ipost. Hindi lahat ng opinyon dapat ipangalandakan. Galit na galit pag pinapakialamanan ang buhay nila tapos grabe din namang mangialam sa buhay ng ibang tao office mates, relatives , celebs, etc.
ReplyDeleteung matatandang kaugalian noon inaantay magbabang luksa which is 1 year bago bumalik sa routine nla. eh iba na ang panahon ngaun. noong nagkacovid nga walang lamay... halos cremated agad tas drecho libing na. virtual funeral pa nga. times have changed...at life is too short. ung mga nabubuhay pa at naiwanan kailangan din nlang ituloy ang life nla.
ReplyDeleteLife goes on. Yung mga kukote nyo natuyot na kakacellphone hahaha
ReplyDeleteYung iba nga namatayn nag videoke pa sa lamay. Para masaya
ReplyDeleteiba kse pagnag post ka sa soc media maraming interpretation yung iba pang flex which is not appropriate kung namatayan. parang pag may inaalala tayong namatay na tao di ba meron tayong moment of silence. a little show of sacrifice sana na hindi na nagpost
ReplyDeleteIt is their living memory. So what kung ishare nila? First of all, his dad died under with a gunshot. Whether inflicted by his own self or not, it is his choice and peace. Why would the surviving family tie themselves to that emotion?
Deleteagree!
DeleteSabihin na natin na hindi sila nagpost pero may mga kababayan tayo na nakita sila sa Japan at may mga stolen shots at nagviral, may hanash pa rin naman mga netizens eh. Let them spend their vacation
Delete5:45 iba yun, hindi naman ikaw mismo nagpost, so wala kang dapat ika guilty
Deleteagree 3:07 tapos yung post wala man lang statement na inaalala nila si Romualdo or nalulungkot sila sa pagkawala nya
DeleteSo what if may makakita sa kanila? At least hindi galing sa family ang nagpost na parang walang nangyari….
Deleteako one year din yata nag grieve. sa Dad ko nung namatay siya we all didn't celebrate Christmas. sobrang sakit. parang wala kang rason mag celebrate. sa Mommy ko ganun din kami. one year yata kami malungkot/mourning
ReplyDeleteExcuse me... let them be. My dad passed march 2023. My mom flew here for xmas just because i cant look at our house during the holidays without my dad. Im pretty sure relatives or people will have sniding comments bout it. But theyll never know how hard it is to spend the holidays without your loved ones who have passed. Believe me despite of those happy pics, they're dying inside.
ReplyDeleteit's obviously a pre-planned trip. mas malulungkot lang sila if magmukmok sila sa bahay. people mourn differently. hayaan na, lalo na yung mga bata, they still deserve a good christmas/newyear
ReplyDeleteminsan naplano na kasi madami kaming trips na i planned tapos pag papalapit na i regret it or im too depressed to move pero i have to for my family. im a homebody talaga even travel effort for me maski excited ako, may dread na feeling din. because sarap ng buhay ko daming helpers clean lahat at home, tapos when you travel, public places even the plane, unless private jet, public, maski biz class maski mas malaki bathroom ganon pa din eh public. tapos syempre nakapapagpd din talaga. pero life goes on, you cant let sadness or depression overtake your life. so many times i just push through events kasi maski gusto ko magmukmok, i cant bec i have a family/businesses to attend to, projects to finish.
ReplyDeleteHey, this is not about you.
DeleteIba ang pictures, iba ang totohanang buhay. We have different ways to grieve. I suggest mag private muna c Janno. He has enough on his plate already
ReplyDeleteNot judging pa yan ha
ReplyDeleteWala naman masamang magpakasaya after mamatay ng dad niya. They are trying to move on so hayaan na lang sila.
ReplyDeleteWe lost recently a cousin. Ung family nya, a day after malibing nasa videoke at nag-staycation. It was ok sana to move forward until we realise na namamalimos nga pala sila sa mga cousins para sa funeral at hospitalization before she passed.
ReplyDeleteI understand we grieve differently and we don't know everyone's story. Ang nakaka-alam lang dyan ung malalapit sa kanila kaya sana lawakan pa natin ang pag-iisip.
Paki ng iba kung mag trip sila? Malay nyo yun din gusto ng tatay nila: magsama-sama na masaya.
ReplyDeleteDaming nega. Namatayan din kami pero booked na beforehand ang bday celeb ng pamangkin ko. Tinuloy pa rin naman, why? Di kami mayaman para magsayang ng pera. Its also our mini reunion para sa mga relative na di laging nakakasama. Yun naman ang realization pag may namamatay di ba? "Sana we spent more time together". So thats exactly what we did sa mga buhay pa. Sabay sabay din namin nireminisce ang buhay nung family member namin. Atleast magkakasama.
ReplyDelete“Grabeh nag a out of town agad kakamatay lang ng father niya” sabi nung walang pang out of town at hindi naman kaano ano. Hahahha!
ReplyDeleteSinabi mo.
DeleteLet them forget about their loss for a while. Saka Baka non refundable naan uni trip, sayang naman. Isa pa, para s mag anak nay din kaman un. Leave them alone!
ReplyDeleteBakit affected si basher. Haha maka comment lang eh. Papansin. Eh sa gusto nila magbakasyon, ano pakialam ning basher?
ReplyDeleteIn Islam, it is highly advisable na wag mapag isa and libangin ang sarili pag namatayan nang sa gayon di masyadong mabigatan ang soul ng namayapa mong mahal sa buhay.
ReplyDelete