Syempre hindi madali lalo na dito sa atin sa Pinas na judgemental. Pag na rape or sexually abused ka ikaw pa sisihin dahil maigsi daw suot mo. Kaya please stop asking that question na why now!
Ang salbahe mo. I am 38. I was r*ped at 7. Until now, only a few people know. Mahirap magkwento. Pero kung dumating yung time na madami akong matutulungan by speaking up, pipilitin ko magkwento din.
@12:29 SHAME on you. victim shaming is the worst. M can speak of it now bec she no longer allows the tragedy to rule her life. And she wants to use her experience to advocate awareness and healing. Sana naintindihan mo po
12:29 you're so cruel. Bata pa sya nung nangyari sa kanya yan. You think a child is brave enough to speak up? More than likely she was threathened if she did just that. New year na new year yan agad sasabihin mo
And? Wala bang kwenta yung cause na sinusuportahan nya?
Kaya madami ayaw magsalita about their abuse, kasi madami din na gaya mo na dismissive and lagi casting doubts agad. She is a victim and she deserves to be heard, kahit ano pang situation bakit sya magsalita.
Because by doing this she’s stirring the beehive so to speak. She wouldn’t be able to go back to showbiz and no one would want to work with her anymore. Specially it’s hard to accuse and give proof who her SA is.
12:29 So what? Para sa charity naman yang funds na yan. She decided na mas marami siyang matutulungan by being sharing her truth, instead of suffering in silence. New year na po, magbago ka na din ng attitude.
12:29 naexp ko yan, although once lang at super vague kasi kinder lang ako. comments like this, make me try to bury the memory again and again kasi nga, gusto ng marites like you, detailed ang kwento, para bang korte. na pag hindi full, hindi totoo. kala mo korete pero chismosa lang pala. compassion and awareness na lang habol namin at this pointz hindi na justice and revenge kasi nga wala na kaming proof e. sayo pa lang najudge na. why now? minsan it will just dawn on you. mahirap iexplain sa walang ganung exp, pero bigla na lang syang magreresurface
As a victim of abuse myself, pwede mong iblock sa utak mo unconsciously yung trauma. For me bumalik lang memories of the abuse decades later and it still haunts me today and I’m still unsure if I should share the story of my abuse to my loved ones or not. Stop being judgemental especially if you’re just in blissful ignorance. You wouldn’t fully understand unless you’ve been in the same situation.
I know of women and even men who have gone through the same. I hope you have come to heal Michelle. I also hope that somehow, you have also gained justice. Its tormenting the mind, sexual abuse.
Question mga ka-Fp. Child sexual abuse bang maituturing ito - I know someone who is 19yrs old right now. But when she was 17, she got into a relationship with a married man who was 25yrs older. Nagbreak sila a few months after nya mag-18 kasi syempre ayaw ng family nya at nakialam yung asawa nung lalaki. But she claimed to be inlove at may consent nya yung mga nangyari sa kanila. Naabuso ba sya sexually dun kahit pa sabi nya mahal na mahal nila ang isat-isa?
If she was under 16 yes even with consent it is considered statutory rape. The law is meant to protect children and adolescents as they are not of age to make the best decision for their own sake but since she was already 17 when it happened and with consent then its not assault. Age of consent is 16.
Girl importante pa bang malaman mo o natin kung sino ang nang-abuso sa kanya? Yun na lang ikwento niya uli ang experience is already a trauma, how much more kung alalahanin niya pa yung taong yun. People would just focus on that person instead of her story. Isa pa, if she mentions the name publicly lalo lang magiging kumplikado because it would only open a can of worms. May legal actions na involve.
Auntie, this isn’t a metoo movement na kailangan pang i-reveal kung sino unless she’s ready to file a case against that person. Baka siya pa makasuhan if she drops the name tapos walang enough evidence.
2:16 napakseryoso ng assault, if you ate going to claim being a victim, you should lay down all info hindi yung pa blind item. 2:18 kung walang evidence or hindi mapanindigan then its not an abuse then.
2:25, I was a victim myself, but I was soooo young then (GRADE 1 LANG AKO NUN!!!) and I didn't even know what happened until yearsssss later. So did it not happen to me kasi wala akong evidence or hindi ko masampahan ng kaso yung gumawa sa akin nun?? Gahd.
2:45 bakit kailangang ilatag ang evidence sa socmed? Teh, she was merely sharing her story! I don't think she's out to get that person who did it to her. Hindi mo yata naintindihan kung anong purpose ng post niya.
2:45 nasobrahan ka na ng pagkamarites. This isn't a blind item. This isn't a court of law na kailangan ng evidence. She's just shedding light to a grave problem na andaming in denial. Sana hindi mangyari sa pamilya mo ang maging victim ng sexual abuse.
Its ok naman if you feel better sharing your dark past in public but dont need to add drama, like she has to say that it explains her rebellious nature or taking drugs. I hope that ppl also be accountable and not always try to find excuse or blame their past for their reckless actions and bad decisions. Not all victims of assault become immature on the contrary most turn out to be mature, responsible and successful people. Such bad experience hopefully dont push victims to self destruct as past doesnt define you and surely dont determine your future.
2:45 new year na new year. For a moment, can you fathom Michelle's age when this happened? How could you even imagine a child being alone with a predator and abuser gather evidence of abuse? Kaloka na pagiisip naman to o!
This person was brave enough to admit she was abused tapos maririnig mo dito is why now, para lang sa fundraising and compelete detail naman for the chismis! My god paano kung sa inyo or anak nyo mangyari yan?
Some people are truly rude. She’s sharing tapos ang sagot ‘why now?’. Kung ikaw nasa kalagayan niya and you would be questioned like that, I bet you’ll be furious. Kaloka. I am a victim of abuse too and it’s hard for me to speak up my experience to others because 1) I find it embarrassing & 2) People like you will always have judgment. I hope it doesn’t happen to you @12:29. What a stupid comment.
Ito lang naman kasi. Alam kong case to case ang lahat pero if naabuso ka na foul talaga, tumalak ka kaagad. If pinatagal mo ng dekada tapos spill mo lang dahil may ganitong paandar, hindi genuine ang dating and you will be questioned kaagad. You are doing yourself a disservice if sobrang late bec pinapanalo mo yung suspect or bully.
Paanong talak agad eh bata pa nga raw siya noon!!! I've known kids as young as 5 years old get sexually abused and they only realized it and talked about it years later. Kakadiring ugali mo
beh 8:24PM, there is such a thing called “Trauma”. And iba iba ang pag process ng bawat victims so there is no timeline or deadline for any victim to speak up. They can only do that if they feel they are strong or secure enough to speak up. Easy for you to say things like that since you were not in that position to process and understand or make sense what happened, and the mere fact that it was done at a young age, do you think a child will fully understand what is being done to her?!
Easy for you to say kasi di mo naranasan mismo. Nahipuan ako sa jeep ng isang stranger; happened when I was 7 years old. Katabi ko mismo ang nanay ko. I literally froze. I zoned out hanggang pagbaba namin. Couldn't say anything to my mom. I was only able to let her know about it now that I'm already 46 and mom's 72. Mom's seething, saying I should have spoken up right there and then; she'd kill for me. If I could turn back time, I know I'd still be unable to do anything. Like what 10:03 said, a child's brain can't process and fully understand what's happening. I knew and felt it was wrong but I don't have the maturity and the decision-making skills to do what's necessary.
Sa mga ganitonb child abuse I always blame the parents, they should protect thier children lalo na nangyari sa pamamahay mismo at more or less mga relatives pa mismo kaya lage talaga tutukan mga anak
Not everyone has the luxury of time, safe space, at magandang environment for a child to grow up. Can you still blame the single mom or dad who has to work and be out of the house by by 7AM or earlier than this and come back home by 5PM or later? Na nasa lola or lolo lang ang bata and God knows kung sinong mga taong labas pasok? Buti kung may lolo at lola pa. Paano yung walang mapagbinlan ng bata? Ipagbilin lang sa computer house ng whole day or God knows where? Oo, nandun na tayo sa "huwag mag anak kung di pa kaya" pero wala tayong control jan. Oo, may mga parents na irresponsable - kung pwede lang sana ipakulong mga kagaya nila. But then please put on a little kindness and empathy to those who are struggling and don't have the means to create an ideal environment for their family especially their kids.
Sa mga gusto pang alamin kung sino ang nang-abuso sa kanya, hindi niya intensyong kasuhan ang taong yun. Sana naisip niyo na once she name dropped that person, she’ll have to go through legal process. Hindi biro na pangalanan niya basta basta. Sa tingin niyo hahayaan ng kung sinuman yun na tanggapin na lang na isa siyang kriminal dahil lang sa kwento ni Michelle? Regardless kung guilty siya o hindi, it has to be proven in the court. Michelle’s purpose is to share her story, and raise funds to help victims like her to build their lives again or maybe to help them financially on legal fees para dun sa mga gustong magsampa ng kaso.
Minsan ang taong pinakalamalapitat pinagkakatiwalaan , syaangnambibiktima. Most trusted ng pamilya. Just be cautious with people around us whether it’s family or friends. Mabuti ng she gave awareness about this topic a taboo dati s society. You can’t just throw this under the rug mapababae olalakeang anak natin , be cautious pa rin.sa mga shungaers na nagsasabibg bakit ngayon pa sya nagsasalita, the main reason why she kept quiet , s mga taong Nagtatanong why she have to talk about it, upsilin nyo sarili nyo out of touch kayo.
Unless pinagdaanan yung trauma, they will never know why we victims manage our trauma differently. Each of us react and act in different ways at walang iisang way how to get through it.
Why now? Kasi may nireraise na funds.
ReplyDelete12:29 try looking up compassion, wag puro nega, bagong taon na, magpaaalamat ka na lang hinde ikaw ang nkaranas, grabe ka
DeleteKelan maganda? Pag nag vlog?
DeleteSyempre hindi madali lalo na dito sa atin sa Pinas na judgemental. Pag na rape or sexually abused ka ikaw pa sisihin dahil maigsi daw suot mo. Kaya please stop asking that question na why now!
DeleteAside doon is to raise awareness. To let other victims that they are not alone and they can seek help
Deletegrabe ka
DeleteWhy not??? May expiration date ba??
DeleteWhy not??? May expiration date ba?? Negative mo, new year na new year
DeleteMga kagaya mo ang kaya natatakot at nahihiya ang nga victim na lumantad. Judgmental much.
DeleteWhy not now? Now is better than never. Why so nega?
DeleteHealing takes time. It’s easy for people to judge, you don’t know what the sexual assault victim went through…
DeleteAkala mo ba madali lang? Maybe this is the only time she is able to voice it out. And she has the reason to do it.
DeleteAre you serious? She is raising funds for an NGO and i think it is also part of her healing process. Comprehension and compassion goes a long way.
DeleteWhy now? Because she is stronger than before to face her demons. Ikaw alam mo sana hindi yan danasin ng anak or kamaganak mo nakakahiya ka
DeleteCge mag duda ka. New year na new year wag ka magtiwala kanino man
DeleteKailan dapat?
DeleteAng salbahe mo. I am 38. I was r*ped at 7. Until now, only a few people know. Mahirap magkwento. Pero kung dumating yung time na madami akong matutulungan by speaking up, pipilitin ko magkwento din.
Delete@12:29 SHAME on you. victim shaming is the worst. M can speak of it now bec she no longer allows the tragedy to rule her life. And she wants to use her experience to advocate awareness and healing. Sana naintindihan mo po
Delete12:29 you're so cruel. Bata pa sya nung nangyari sa kanya yan. You think a child is brave enough to speak up? More than likely she was threathened if she did just that. New year na new year yan agad sasabihin mo
DeleteAnd? Wala bang kwenta yung cause na sinusuportahan nya?
DeleteKaya madami ayaw magsalita about their abuse, kasi madami din na gaya mo na dismissive and lagi casting doubts agad. She is a victim and she deserves to be heard, kahit ano pang situation bakit sya magsalita.
Sama naman ng ugali, kaka-2024 lang. Ampalaya ba hinanda nyo?
DeleteBecause by doing this she’s stirring the beehive so to speak. She wouldn’t be able to go back to showbiz and no one would want to work with her anymore. Specially it’s hard to accuse and give proof who her SA is.
DeleteTe, new year na new ywar nega ka agad. Hahahahah
DeleteWow, ang hirap ng pinagdaanan ng tao at mahirap din itong i-share tapos pag iisipan mo pa ng ganyan? Nasaan ang simpatiya mo?
Delete12:29 So what? Para sa charity naman yang funds na yan. She decided na mas marami siyang matutulungan by being sharing her truth, instead of suffering in silence. New year na po, magbago ka na din ng attitude.
Deletedi ka ba kinikilabutan sa comment mo?
DeleteWhy not? Tumulong ka na langbto spread the awareness.
DeleteWhy not???
Delete12:29 naexp ko yan, although once lang at super vague kasi kinder lang ako. comments like this, make me try to bury the memory again and again kasi nga, gusto ng marites like you, detailed ang kwento, para bang korte. na pag hindi full, hindi totoo. kala mo korete pero chismosa lang pala. compassion and awareness na lang habol namin at this pointz hindi na justice and revenge kasi nga wala na kaming proof e. sayo pa lang najudge na. why now? minsan it will just dawn on you. mahirap iexplain sa walang ganung exp, pero bigla na lang syang magreresurface
DeleteAs a victim of abuse myself, pwede mong iblock sa utak mo unconsciously yung trauma. For me bumalik lang memories of the abuse decades later and it still haunts me today and I’m still unsure if I should share the story of my abuse to my loved ones or not. Stop being judgemental especially if you’re just in blissful ignorance. You wouldn’t fully understand unless you’ve been in the same situation.
Delete@5:36: Sorry you had to go through that. 🫂
Delete12:29 ETO ANG RASON KUNG BAKIT ANG MGA BIKTIMA NAGIGING MAS BIKTIMA LALO. Ganito ka baluktot ang utak! Hayyyy
DeleteI know of women and even men who have gone through the same. I hope you have come to heal Michelle. I also hope that somehow, you have also gained justice. Its tormenting the mind, sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteIsa pa tong Bangs 2.0 si Michelle...suki sa geotag
ReplyDeleteQuestion mga ka-Fp. Child sexual abuse bang maituturing ito - I know someone who is 19yrs old right now. But when she was 17, she got into a relationship with a married man who was 25yrs older. Nagbreak sila a few months after nya mag-18 kasi syempre ayaw ng family nya at nakialam yung asawa nung lalaki. But she claimed to be inlove at may consent nya yung mga nangyari sa kanila. Naabuso ba sya sexually dun kahit pa sabi nya mahal na mahal nila ang isat-isa?
ReplyDeleteLegally yes even if she gave consent to the relationship.
DeleteIf she was under 16 yes even with consent it is considered statutory rape. The law is meant to protect children and adolescents as they are not of age to make the best decision for their own sake but since she was already 17 when it happened and with consent then its not assault. Age of consent is 16.
DeleteAbused by whom?
ReplyDeleteGirl importante pa bang malaman mo o natin kung sino ang nang-abuso sa kanya? Yun na lang ikwento niya uli ang experience is already a trauma, how much more kung alalahanin niya pa yung taong yun. People would just focus on that person instead of her story. Isa pa, if she mentions the name publicly lalo lang magiging kumplikado because it would only open a can of worms. May legal actions na involve.
DeleteExactly! For charity naman diba so why not expose everything nalang.
DeleteAnd you need to know this because...?
DeleteAuntie, this isn’t a metoo movement na kailangan pang i-reveal kung sino unless she’s ready to file a case against that person. Baka siya pa makasuhan if she drops the name tapos walang enough evidence.
Delete2:16 napakseryoso ng assault, if you ate going to claim being a victim, you should lay down all info hindi yung pa blind item.
Delete2:18 kung walang evidence or hindi mapanindigan then its not an abuse then.
2:45 bakit judge ka ba? Bat need ilatag full details sayo?
Delete2:25, I was a victim myself, but I was soooo young then (GRADE 1 LANG AKO NUN!!!) and I didn't even know what happened until yearsssss later. So did it not happen to me kasi wala akong evidence or hindi ko masampahan ng kaso yung gumawa sa akin nun?? Gahd.
Delete2:45 bakit kailangang ilatag ang evidence sa socmed? Teh, she was merely sharing her story! I don't think she's out to get that person who did it to her. Hindi mo yata naintindihan kung anong purpose ng post niya.
Delete2:45 nasobrahan ka na ng pagkamarites. This isn't a blind item. This isn't a court of law na kailangan ng evidence. She's just shedding light to a grave problem na andaming in denial. Sana hindi mangyari sa pamilya mo ang maging victim ng sexual abuse.
Delete2:45 ang dakilang maritess ng 2024..
DeleteIts ok naman if you feel better sharing your dark past in public but dont need to add drama, like she has to say that it explains her rebellious nature or taking drugs. I hope that ppl also be accountable and not always try to find excuse or blame their past for their reckless actions and bad decisions. Not all victims of assault become immature on the contrary most turn out to be mature, responsible and successful people. Such bad experience hopefully dont push victims to self destruct as past doesnt define you and surely dont determine your future.
Delete2:45 new year na new year. For a moment, can you fathom Michelle's age when this happened? How could you even imagine a child being alone with a predator and abuser gather evidence of abuse? Kaloka na pagiisip naman to o!
Deleteilan taon ba sya nung SCQ?
ReplyDeleteWho sexually assaulted her?
ReplyDeleteThis person was brave enough to admit she was abused tapos maririnig mo dito is why now, para lang sa fundraising and compelete detail naman for the chismis! My god paano kung sa inyo or anak nyo mangyari yan?
ReplyDelete@3:37: Exactly. Some people here let their nossy-ness get the better of them instead of showing compassion.
DeleteSome people are truly rude. She’s sharing tapos ang sagot ‘why now?’. Kung ikaw nasa kalagayan niya and you would be questioned like that, I bet you’ll be furious. Kaloka. I am a victim of abuse too and it’s hard for me to speak up my experience to others because 1) I find it embarrassing & 2) People like you will always have judgment. I hope it doesn’t happen to you @12:29. What a stupid comment.
ReplyDeleteIto lang naman kasi. Alam kong case to case ang lahat pero if naabuso ka na foul talaga, tumalak ka kaagad. If pinatagal mo ng dekada tapos spill mo lang dahil may ganitong paandar, hindi genuine ang dating and you will be questioned kaagad. You are doing yourself a disservice if sobrang late bec pinapanalo mo yung suspect or bully.
ReplyDeletePaanong talak agad eh bata pa nga raw siya noon!!! I've known kids as young as 5 years old get sexually abused and they only realized it and talked about it years later. Kakadiring ugali mo
Deletebeh 8:24PM, there is such a thing called “Trauma”. And iba iba ang pag process ng bawat victims so there is no timeline or deadline for any victim to speak up. They can only do that if they feel they are strong or secure enough to speak up. Easy for you to say things like that since you were not in that position to process and understand or make sense what happened, and the mere fact that it was done at a young age, do you think a child will fully understand what is being done to her?!
DeleteEasy for you to say kasi di mo naranasan mismo. Nahipuan ako sa jeep ng isang stranger; happened when I was 7 years old. Katabi ko mismo ang nanay ko. I literally froze. I zoned out hanggang pagbaba namin. Couldn't say anything to my mom. I was only able to let her know about it now that I'm already 46 and mom's 72. Mom's seething, saying I should have spoken up right there and then; she'd kill for me. If I could turn back time, I know I'd still be unable to do anything. Like what 10:03 said, a child's brain can't process and fully understand what's happening. I knew and felt it was wrong but I don't have the maturity and the decision-making skills to do what's necessary.
DeleteBinasa mo ba? She shared to people close to her. Now naman sa socmed since for charity
DeleteSa mga ganitonb child abuse I always blame the parents, they should protect thier children lalo na nangyari sa pamamahay mismo at more or less mga relatives pa mismo kaya lage talaga tutukan mga anak
ReplyDeleteNot everyone has the luxury of time, safe space, at magandang environment for a child to grow up. Can you still blame the single mom or dad who has to work and be out of the house by by 7AM or earlier than this and come back home by 5PM or later? Na nasa lola or lolo lang ang bata and God knows kung sinong mga taong labas pasok? Buti kung may lolo at lola pa. Paano yung walang mapagbinlan ng bata? Ipagbilin lang sa computer house ng whole day or God knows where? Oo, nandun na tayo sa "huwag mag anak kung di pa kaya" pero wala tayong control jan. Oo, may mga parents na irresponsable - kung pwede lang sana ipakulong mga kagaya nila. But then please put on a little kindness and empathy to those who are struggling and don't have the means to create an ideal environment for their family especially their kids.
DeleteSa mga gusto pang alamin kung sino ang nang-abuso sa kanya, hindi niya intensyong kasuhan ang taong yun. Sana naisip niyo na once she name dropped that person, she’ll have to go through legal process. Hindi biro na pangalanan niya basta basta. Sa tingin niyo hahayaan ng kung sinuman yun na tanggapin na lang na isa siyang kriminal dahil lang sa kwento ni Michelle? Regardless kung guilty siya o hindi, it has to be proven in the court. Michelle’s purpose is to share her story, and raise funds to help victims like her to build their lives again or maybe to help them financially on legal fees para dun sa mga gustong magsampa ng kaso.
ReplyDeleteMinsan ang taong pinakalamalapitat pinagkakatiwalaan , syaangnambibiktima. Most trusted ng pamilya. Just be cautious with people around us whether it’s family or friends. Mabuti ng she gave awareness about this topic a taboo dati s society. You can’t just throw this under the rug mapababae olalakeang anak natin , be cautious pa rin.sa mga shungaers na nagsasabibg bakit ngayon pa sya nagsasalita, the main reason why she kept quiet , s mga taong Nagtatanong why she have to talk about it, upsilin nyo sarili nyo out of touch kayo.
ReplyDeleteHugs and prayers to all.
ReplyDeleteSadly, dami pa ding baluktot mag-isip asking bakit ngayun lang or kung sino gumawa. Hays sana matuto naman at ilevel up ng konti ang pagiisip.
ReplyDeleteUnless pinagdaanan yung trauma, they will never know why we victims manage our trauma differently. Each of us react and act in different ways at walang iisang way how to get through it.
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