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Thursday, July 6, 2023

Insta Scoop: Maxene Magalona on Motherhood: Be Present and Emotionally Connected to the Child



Images courtesy of Instagram: maxenemagalona

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  1. She still has no experience being a parent pero nakakapag advice sya ng ganyan. So from experience yan from being a child?

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    1. Cguro. Wala naman syang ibang paghuhugutan eh.

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    2. Ang dali sabihin ng sinabi nya. Wag sana sya magkaron ng kagaya ng kids ko na matitigas ang ulo, di kaya ng mahinahon or positive energy ek ek . Sumusunod lang galit nako lol. I read books/articles too & listen to advice & apply to my kids pero minsan, need talaga ng tough love.

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    3. Forda clout. Obvious nmn na magiging reaction ng tao pero enjoy siguro sya sa attention lol.

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    4. 1:18 ✔️

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    5. I feel bad for her. She’s so clueless. Anyway, lahat ng hindi pa nanay perfect magparent yan! I used to be one! May mga do’s and dont’s ako Haha. Pero nung naging nanay na ako, I had to adjust sa needs ng anak ko. Hintayin ko sya maging mom, at balikan nya ito.

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  2. Hala siya, a non-mother giving advice to mothers. Energy (in all forms) will fly out the window the moment you give birth… and that’s ok. What you’re advocating will result in mothers feeling guilty because, unlike you, we can’t keep up the Zen no matter how hard we try. Toxic positivity is what you are advocating, and that is harmful to both mother and child.

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    1. Luh. She was a child to her mother. So she can give advice. Hindi nya need magng nanay para makapag advice

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    2. Luh, 1232😂😂 magkaiba maging nanay sa pagiging anak sa nanay nya lol. Madalas yung mga legit, tahimik lang di mema sa ganyan..yung mga f na f, dami advise feeling best mom in the world lol.

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    3. 12:32 Are you even listening to yourself when you said that? You don’t need to be a mother to give advice on being a mother?! GIRL!!!

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    4. 12:32 isn’t that ironic? Don’t you think?

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    5. True 1154, toxic positivity na yan, imaginge dami ebas/opinion/outlook about being a mother/parent, girl enjoy life, dami mo worry sa buhay lol..si girl yung tipong malalim magisip/magsalita pero mababaw lang naman

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    6. Women, naturally, have mother instinct. Single man or married. May anak man o wala. What she says is what she feels as a woman.

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    7. 12:32 Children always think that they can do better than their parents, only to find out later on na napakahirap pala and then sasabihin sa nanay, “I understand you now, Ma. You did your best. Di pala ganun kadali.”

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    8. 12:54 1:05 1:06 3:07 luh. Nagbabasa ba kayo ng mga sinabi nya? Masyado kayo triggered. Ano ba mali sa maging emotionally connected ka dapat and be present sa bata? LOL kayo ba yung mga magulang na laging wala for kids? . Mag aanak anak kayo tapos wala naman for kids. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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    9. 1:05 yes you dont have to be one. like girl?! maging present ka sa anak mo. like seriously, do you really have to be a mother para masabi yan. GIRL! u so funny!

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    10. 2:20 That is so not true. It's common na makakita ng mga babae na biglang nagmamature pag nagka anak na. Ibang iba ang babaeng walang anak sa meron in terms of caring as a mother. Pati yung lagi nating naririning na mas magiging compassionate ka sa children in general pag may anak ka na, totoo pala yon.

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    11. 3:07 so true! my only child was an easy baby, toddler and grade schooler. sabi ko dati, wow motherhood is easy lalo na i had a lot of extra help in raising him. naku nun nagteenager na, nauso gadget and social media, ang hirap pala! not an easy child anymore, and now i wonder how my mom did it on her own, sa aming 4 na magkakapatid! super ka mama!

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    12. @2:20 then that is not a mother's instinct, it's a woman's instinct.

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    13. You're completely wrong there 12:32! Hindi need maging nanay para makapagbigay ng advice sa pagiging nanay? It's like a child telling the mother she's doing it wrong. Kapag naging nanay ka na, doon mo lang marerealize whether tama o mali ang nagiging pagpapalaki ng nanay mo sayo.

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    14. 2:20 WRONG. First statement mo pa lang mali na. The instinct of a woman is different from a mother's. Sa babae, may kutob ka kung nagloloko yung partner mo. Sa nanay, mararamdaman agad kung may pinoproblema ang anak. O kaya yung pagiging protective. Matik lagi yung anak ang uunahin ng nanay. Kaya nga maternal instict. MATERNAL.The natural tendency that a mother has to behave or react in a particular way around her child or children.

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    15. 10:47 Same. We were lucky with our son when he was a baby, toddler and gradeschooler but ngayon na nag teenager ang hirap na. I am trying gentle parenting but my son is not gentle childing.

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    16. 8:06 Sobrang pikon naman ng beshy ko na yan. Wag mo masyado dibdibin ang anonymous comment. Hindi nakakaganda yan.

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    17. 7:55, Nahiya naman kami sa pagka-present mo. Sorry po.

      Love lots,
      3:07/homeschooling mom of a special-needs child

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    18. Si Maxene kasi daming alam masyado. Don’t invalidate yung way of raising their own child kasi iba iba naman talaga per bata. Ngayon pa nga lang na preschooler ang babies ko ang hirap na. Like may times na dapat tough love talaga kasi hindi biro rin ang pag discipline sa bata. Me, as much as I want a to practice gentle parenting may times talaga na hindi uubra. But my prayer for everyday is that at the end of the day paglaki nila sana mabuting tao sila, successful in their own ways and hopefully a better parent than I am.

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    19. Maxene has a point when she said that they copy what they see and behave the same way most of the times. But i also agree with most that you will only know or probly wont know how to raise your child if you’re not an actual mom yet. As they become teenager youre no longer the only role model or influential person in your child’s life so its not easy and theres really no rules that you can follow.

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  3. Daming 🤸‍♀️alam 🤸‍♀️ng🤸‍♀️beshie🤸‍♀️ko🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️

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    1. Haha natawa ako sayo

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    2. Hahahahahhahaha! Effort!

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    3. hahaha laptrip ka baks. nawala antok ko sa duty haha

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    4. Please paki explain ang context ng emojis na yan haha dami kong nakikitang ganyan na format ng post

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    5. Hahaha kasi naman hinihingi pa opinion ng lola mo.

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    6. Hahahaha.. the best comment to!!!

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    7. fave comment lol i just recently learned where this came from 🤸🏽‍♀️

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    8. Legit kahampy naligaw na dito sa FP!

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  4. Mukhang si Mama Mary si Maxene jan sa picture. Ganda nya and ang tangkad.

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  5. Oh so very true maxene. Very well said!

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  6. Kala ko tuloy buntis sya timing ang pic na nakahawak sa tyan lol

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    1. By divine intervention

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    2. 1231 may jowa yan c max ehehehe

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    3. She doesn’t have to be married to procreate. Malay nyo

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  7. Minsan talaga kung sino pa yung walang experience siya pa tong magaling mag advice. Pero hindi naman nila kayang pangatawanan kapag nasa mismong sitwasyon na sila. Idealistic at out of touch sa reality.
    More often than not, sila yung toxic sa buhay mo.

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    1. LOUDERRRRRR!!!! ❗❗❗❗

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  8. Ang dami ko din opinion noon nung dalaga pa ako pero kinain ko lahat nung naging nanay na ako. Being a child is different from being a mother. Sabi nga ni ateng ko na si Michelle Obama, ask advice from mothers who have already gone through the journey.

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    1. 💯 will listen to that than this maxene

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  9. Dati relationship advise, ngayon motherhood advise naman lol. Hahaha. Ano kaya next juskopo😂

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  10. Know it all girl pero problematic ang life

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    1. Natumbok mo!

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    2. Maybe that's why she knows things. She actually went through the lusak, made the mistakes, and learned the lessons.

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  11. Rachel from Friends once said, “no ovaries, no opinion (on pregnancy & labour). So Maxene, sorry but “no kids, no opinion” dapat. You won’t know until you experience it. 😏

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    1. I don’t have biological children and I don’t dare give advice nor judge my friends and family members that are mothers!

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    2. Natawa ako sayo Baks! Namiss ko tuloy ang friends! Hehehe

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  12. Will you get advice about marriage from her? NOPE. How about being a mother? HELL NO! Para ka na ding nagtanong sa isang madre kung okay lang ba ang premarital sex.

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    1. I agree with this. Maxene, please. Talk to us on matters wherein you are an expert on. Thank you and have peace

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  13. Dati relationship advise, motherhood advise naman ngayon lol ano kaya next😂

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  14. Tinamad akong basahin ang Maxene ang haba kasi😅

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  15. Had my child before the wedding, daming tumutuligsa hahaha pero I was able to keep up naman. May times na nakakapag mura at nagagalit out of frustration lalo na kapag unreliable ang partner mo sa buhay at lahat sayo. Every mother is unique in our own ways depende kase sa sitwasyon yan eh. Ang totoo lang, sa pauba ibamg ways natin, iisa lang lagi amg intention, magandang buhay para sa anak. ❤️

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  16. Kaka yoga and meditate mo yan

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  17. Baket Ganun pag babae ka Kailangan mo magkaanak parang sinasabi you won’t be a complete person Pag wala ka anak. Medyo pa sinasabi Iba diyan “Wala ka kasi anak, Kaya ganyan sinasabi mo or else hintayin mo maging Nanay ka” Oo andun na ako Pero Iba iba tayo ng pananaw at Paano maging Nanay sa ibang tao Hinde Lahat same. Okay

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    1. Girl, totoo naman. Hangga’t di mo narasan maging nanay hindi mo fully maiintindihan ang nararamdaman ng mga nanay

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    2. Kasi baks kapag nanay ka something inside you changed. Just look at Ellen A. Ibang iba. May ibang nanay nman change for the worse kasi iba tlaga ang maging nanay. Literal na nakakabaliw sya.

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    3. Sinasabi mo girl? Hindi nmn yan ang topic natin dito! Wala naman angsasabi dito na dapat magkaanak ang isang babae! Mali yata ang drama mo.

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  18. Totoo naman yan. I am now a mother of a toddler. I really budget our money so i can afford a helper para may time ako sa anak ko. Pwedeng tumanggap ako ng another job but right now, at his age. This ia the time my child needs me more than work onmy career.

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  19. Why would someone want her opinion when she becomes a mother. Parang wala naman empathic bone to si Max at malayo rin loob sa pamilya.

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    1. Guess why nagkaganyan sya? You think she wanted to be disconnected from family? Narerealize na nya ngayon na hindi nya kasalanan bakit hindi sila close ng family nya and mukhang accept na rin nya. She's just trying to fix the damage done.

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    2. 10:55 They used to be super close, lalo na sya and si Saab. They were pretty close to their mom too.

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  20. Tama naman sinabi nya, sana magets ng mga anak ng anak jan kahit di naman afford. Or yung nag-aanak lang dahil sa societal pressure pero may mga inner demons or trauma na hindi pa resolved.

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  21. Di naman advice ung binigay nya. It's her THOUGHTS on motherhood. Naging anak din sya, so she can have a say.

    Honestly for me once I started helping my so with his kid, narealize ko na mahirap din masunod ung thoughts mo about parenting prior to having one. Our kid rn is so sweet kaso at 9 medyo behind sya sa GMRC dahil di natuturuan ng bio mom (pano tuturuan kung sya mismo wala nun db) so un lang.

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    1. “Naging anak din siya. So she can have a say.” Naiintindihan mo pimanagsasabi mo na walang sense?

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    2. Advice, thoughts, insights...whatever you call it, you can only give it when you have already experienced it. Motherhood nga eh. Your perspective as a child is different from a mother. SO NO. She doesn't have a say unless she becomes one.

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    3. 12:35 PM yan tayo eh, porque bata wala na halaga yung opinion. Yan na nga ba pinagsasabi ni Maxine, walang emotional connection sa bata.

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    4. 3:57 bakit si mom lang ang di nakapagturo ng gmrc? all the blame on the mom, anong tinuro ni fader? kung absent si fader kaya di nakapagturo, malayong mas malala yun.

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  22. Guys binasa ko yung sagot nya hindi naman pala sya preachy. Tama naman yung work on yourself first.

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    1. Dami dito di nagbabasa kasi. Triggered agad. Tama naman sinabi nya. Pero dahil wala pa syang anakk, wala daw karapatan. Lol.

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    2. 1210 would you get advice from her re: parenting? If so, goodluck to you and your kid.

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    3. 3:33 so di mo binasa talaga sinabi nya no? Goodluck sa anak mo. Mahina comprehension mo

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    4. 3:33 obviously di mo binasa sinabi nya. jusko mga pinoy tlg

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    5. Binasa ko and she is in fact giving her opinion on matters that she shouldn’t. If
      Mom ka na, you won’t even get advice from other moms, dito pa kaya kay Maxene. Jusko! Goodluck sa mga anak nyo talaga, kawawa naman sila @653 & @909

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  23. Hindi naman sya nag advice. It felt like it was a note to herself. Before I had kids may mga thoughts rin akong ganyan, sabi ko however our parents raised us, I want to do the same for my kids. My siblings and I had an awesome and happy childhood and we grew up being functional adults (we're well into our late 30s to 40s). So I think it was more of a note to herself than a shove it to your face advice.

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  24. Energy ka ng energy

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  25. Medyo naloloka ako sa mga celebs. Mabuntis lang or magkaanak akala mo may expertise na sa parenting. Especially yung mga sanggol o bata pa ang anak...na nobody knows yet if the kids will turn out to be decent adults pero ang lakas ng loob magbigay ng payo. Yung mga taong may wisdom sa parenting over the years ito ang maririnig mo sa kanila: walang formula ang pagaanak and nobody knows WTF they are doing, but they are trying their very best...ano mang generational trauma at baggage ang pasan nila. Yung mga magulang na at peace with that are the only ones who are being honest with themselves.

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    1. Sus, ganyan rin naman ibang tao in all generations. Matindi pa nga mga older generations. Pupunta sa bahay ng kapapanganak lang tapos puro impose sa nanay kung ano dapat gawin kahit di naman kapamilya. Imagine if may social media rin sila noon. Puro putak yan.

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    2. 10:51 I think you misunderstood the post. It just meant na yung totoong natuto sa experience ng pagaanak never magsosolicit ng advice sa iba, other than do your best cause you are gonna have to figure it out as you go. It's the narcissistic parents and wannabee experts who act as if they know sh*t.

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  26. Okay.. as a mom myself, I understand that you had to answer the question, and you answered that with so much humility, I appreciate that. But when you shared it, the way you worded your take on motherhood, medyo off girl. That's why I can understand why commenters attacked you. I will never say "try this method of parenting" to anyone, heck! Dun ka na naging mayabang sounding Maxene, so yes deserve mo din mabash

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    1. 2:54 ang malisyosa ng pasimple, tapos mangbashed din pla, ingat kayo s ganitong klaseng tao! Anaconda

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    2. 10:16 PM ahahaha! Korak! Bait baitan and reasonable kuno. Kung ayaw sa pinagpopost ng tao, scroll away.

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    3. Ewww mean spirited and vengeful heart. “Deserve mo ma bash” Who says that even

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  27. Walang formula ang pagiging nanay dahil unique ang bawat anak. Malalaman mo lang yan pag nagkaanak ka na. So, sa mga advises na nababasa nyo, take what is applicable to you. Di nyo need mag-bash. Kaloka.
    - isa ring nanay

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  28. Maxine girl, maski pa wala kang trauma as a kid kung may ppd ka nman. Impas ka pa din. Walang tamang formula sa parenting kasi iba iba din ang kids natin. Pero one thing is for sure, ang hirap maging parents at magpalaki ng anak. Maappreciate mo lang na may halong pagkapahiya sa sarili mo ang nanay mo kapag naging nanay ka na rin. For now, preach somewhere. Lol

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  29. Kala ko mother na siya, kasi nakahawak sa tyan

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  30. i would get advise from Saab instead of her. Saab doing very well as a mom and as a wife.

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  31. As a former child.. Yes po, mas alam ko ko po kung anong kalinga yung hinahanap ko bilang bata from the parental figures na nakapaligid sakin. Kaya makinig kayo and be sensitive sa needs ng mga junaks nyo. Yan kayo eh! Toxic pinoy trait yang walang regard sa opinion at individual humanity ng mga bata. Bata "lang" kasi.

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    1. korek. as a child, yung mga ayaw ko na reasonable, i made sure na wag gawin sa mga anak. at ang importante pa, they can speak any time they want, and i will listen!!!

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  32. Trabaho po ng mga magulang to see the world through their child's eyes and help the child navigate it. Disoko mga nanay dito, disappointing.

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