Yeah, I feel bad for her though. Hope she has a good support system.
Usually yung mga friends na single ang ma-baby focused pag dinadalaw ako after giving birth. Those who are mommies bring prepped meals, frozen soups and lactation cookies and are mommy-focused since they also went through it. Wala lang, baka naman mostly wala pang junakis mga friends nya.
People are showing love to your child. That should be reason enough to appreciate them. They are also not mind readers; tell your friends what you need and how they can support you. Clearly they are invested in you.
Ang OA nyo. Valid yung feelings nya. Isipin mo nag luwal ka ng human being at nagulo mga organs mo at hormones mo tapos walang kumakamusta sayo para kang naging extension nalang mg anak mo. Plus yung hirap ng pag aalaga dahil nasa stage pa yung baby nya ng intense attention 24/7 it can make you feel lonely and long for other company and to vent pero di ka man kamustahin ng so called friends mo nakaka disappoint kaya yun
9:43 The fact that they are there , means they want to see if she's okay, too. May mga dumalaw din samin ng baby ko and I dont remember na kinamusta nila ako. Nagka complications pa ko non. Bedrest for 1 month. Their gesture was enough for me. Either she has PPD or entitled.
Hello di naman kamj OA, i feel the same way na narcissistic sya. Mother na rin ako, and never ko naman minasama yung attention ng friends ko na binibigay nila sa baby ko.
At the end of the day, patient din yung Mommy. Nalagay sa peligro ang buhay nya. Pagod yun, puyat, swollen boobs, stitches and all. Ano ba naman yung mangamusta kung ok lang siya? At kung ano ang kailangan nya?
Uy pero to be fair, I experienced this sa in-laws ko and wala ako PPD. Madalas din sila dumalaw to see my 1st baby, but never did they ask how I was, how’s my CS operation, how I was dealing with a new baby, what help I needed. Never nga nagdala ng food for me, but sa baby my gift. So I think, she has a point here.
What people don't understand is PPD, and the fact na tao pa rin yung nanay na kalalabas lang sa bingit ng kamatayan. May feelings din kami, aches and pains, baka lang gusto nyong kamustahin.
That's why it's really important to have that support system. Sa Chinese, may confinement period na tipong aalagaan yung nanay for 30 days. Yung iba, may postpartum doula care. Point is, new moms are better moms when well rested and well recovered.
This is a valid sentiment, sadly :( Went thru this as well with my first child. I felt so isolated and lonely. Buti sa second child hnd gaano. Hugs mommies who are going through PPD!
I was like this too! I'm now 4 months post partum and still feel the loneliness and anxiety. hopefully sa 6th month I can start feeling better. Lavan lng mga momsies!
Try nyo rin mag-walking kung kaya nyo na, paaraw ng konti kumbaga. And konting dark chocolate to trigger happy hormones. Little things like this can make the difference.
Same sentiments, but not about baby. Yung fersons na makikipag meet up lang sayo di para kamustahin ka kundi para makasagap ng ichichismis about you. Kaya dedma na sila.
OA naman ni annge, ganun talaga nasa baby ang focus sorry from family to friends sa baby talaga ang attention just be strong na lang girl jan na papasok ang partner mo to check on you
I followed her sa IG and YT bec of her cute baby and how normal their fam is. But I think masyado naman ang sentimiento niya over her friends who only wanted to see her baby at hindi siya kinakamusta. Kasama na din kasi yun pag binisita siya. Tayong mga mommies , dapat natin tanggapin na dadating ang panahon maiiba na ang ihip Ng mundo at hindi lahat ng bagay at tao ay iikot lang sa buhay mo.
Ever heard of post partum depression mga baks? Kalmahan nyo lang pag judge. It's not something she can control. Nanay pa man din kayo. For us it's OA but for her na nakakaramdam nun, hindi. We have no idea what she's going through right now.
Not disregarding her feelings, pero masyado naman siyang judgemental sa friends niya to the point na lalayo loob niya. I hope she gets the help that she needs before her depression comsumes her.
Yeah, sa UK&I mas kinakamusta parati ang mommy tapos lumalayo sila sa baby, though in a good way naman lalo kung di pa vaccinated or complete ang immunisations ni baby. Minsan sa sobrang push nila sa pagtatanong kung ok ka ba talaga mapapaisip ka kung may PPD ka na.
Once you become a parent, some things are not all about you anymore. Maybe change your perspective. Instead of lamenting about the situation, why not be happy that people care about your child. Isn't that the most important thing in the world for a mother? Just a thought lang naman. How we look at things really makes a big difference. And also, kung lumayo ang loob mo sa kanila, they will also distance themselves from your child.
She's always been like this though. And she's a celebrity. They literally don't have that concept...na in actually there are lots of things that don't revolve around them. Ang dami nga niyang self-centered at tone deaf rants sa twitter na nafefearure dito. I feel bad for this child cause simula palang naiinggit na ang nanay sa attention na nakukuha niya, papaano pa kaya paglaki.
It doesn’t mean na parent ka na, eh kalimutan mo na pagkatao mo. I don’t agree 100% dun sa mga nagsasabi na kapag parent ka na it’s not about you anymore. You need to take care of yourself too and feel good about yourself. How can you take care of others and give love kung sa sarili mo di mo kayang gawin.
Ang daling sabihin. Pero pag ikaw na ang nasa sitwasyon, hindi mo na ma-eexplain bakit mo ka nakakaramdam ng ganun. Hormonal thing yan after panganganak.
2:43 I actually did kaya wag mo akong gamitan ng ganyang rason. I was on my own when I got pregnant dahil naghiwalay kami ng partner ko after I found out about my pregnancy. I relied mostly on my friends at work. They helped me get through it emotionally and mentally. Financially, ako lang talaga. I even went to the hospital alone nong manganganak na ako. Nalaman lang ng family ko nong nakapanganak na ako. I was constantly crying for no reasons after manganak but I didn't know it was PPD. I just get on with my life for my baby's sake. I was just happy and content of the support I received from family, friends, and relatives. Everytime my friends ask me about my son, nakakataba na ng puso kasi they were part of that moment when he was born. Minsan nga nagtatampo ako kapag hindi nila kinumusta anak ko kasi feeling ko nakalimutan na nila siya. Because of that experience, I learned how to appreciate simple things that other people do kahit pa hindi para saken kundi para sa anak ko. So there. That's my story. I took this time to answer your comment just to let you know where I'm coming from. Oo madaling sabihin for me because I experienced it myself and I know how difficult it was. Kailangan mo lang talagang baguhin yung perspective mo sa buhay. -8:14
agree 2:43. we're so quick to dismiss and invalidate peoples' feelings pero minsan talaga, you'll never know how it is until ikaw na ang nakaka-feel non. although, kapag medyo tumatagal nang ganun, may responsibility ka rin sa sarili mo to seek help, otherwise magiging self-indulgent ka na rin pag ganun.
4:00 judgmental ka dear. How do you know she’s not going to be a good mom to her child? Do you know them personally? How do you know she’s being jealous? Did she say that? Yung mga tulad mo ang ayoko maging friend at family kasi meron ka na agad bad conclusion lalo na sa mga taong di mo kilala.
3:56 the more na dapat mas maintindihan mo sya. Why can’t people understand that you go through life differently. You’re lucky because you overcame it without the need of a psychologist or psychiatrist or medical professional. Maraming cases na may PPD na suicidal. So you think, nag-aarte lang sila or mahina loob niya or self-centered? Please open your mind especially you had experienced it. Being grateful is not always the answer or the help you need. So what can you say about those clinically depressed or have mental health problems? Are you saying na they should be thankful and move on and change their perspective? Maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The point is, each one of us is different, and you need to be kind because you don’t know what’s on people’s mind and what they are going through.
3:56 - I'm glad nalampasan mo yung phase na yun ng life mo. Pero just because na-handle mo yung situation mo with grace doesn't mean na iinvalidate mo na yung nararamdaman ng iba. Yung pamamaraan mo may not always work sa lahat ng nagpopostpartum depression dahil magkakaiba tayo ng way of thinking, ng background and ng way ng paghandle ng mga nararamdaman. I hope people will stop sa ganitong mindset na "Nung ako nga mas mahirap pa dyan pinagdaanan ko pero di naman ako gumanyan blah blah..." Well, good for you. Pero guess what? Not everyone is like you. Magkakaiba tayo, so stop invalidating someone's feelings.
I think yun nga ang core problem...she can't see her baby as separate from herself so naiinis siya na she feels like she doesn't get enough attention while yung baby maraming nangangamusta. Nakakapagtaka naman na she's a full grown adult na kayang alagaan ang sarili niya but she's acting as if she was forced to get pregnant and give birth so they better walk on tiptoes around her.
4:14 hindi naman nakapagtataka yan girl, may post patrum depression si accla. pag ba nakakita ka ng mentally unstable sa kalsada magtataka ka bakit ganun sila? malamang hindi kasi alam mo na sagot dun.
Jusko matuwa ka nalang kasi love nila anak mo , wag ka na makipag compete sa bata lalo anak mo yan, yaan mo sya ang mag enjoy ng limelight! Tapos pag di naman pinansin ang anak kukuda ka
Baka kasi ikaw na yung toxic sa grupo Angelica? Tandaan, the world doesn’t rotate around you. Wag masyadong feeler na kunwari aping-api. May mga sariling buhay din mga friends mo. You sound selfish alam mo.
When I gave birth and people visited us I did not mind them gushing more on the baby. Alangan naman ako pa rin ang bida? People doting on my child is enough for me, people taking time to visit is more than enough. Hindi sa atin umiikot ang mundo, be thankful that they visit.
I agree. We should appreciate the fact that our friends take time out to visit us. Ginagawang excuse nalang ang babies. Besides, binibisita nila ang baby dahil ikaw ang Nanay na kaibigan nila. Most people probably don't know how to ask about your mental health. Kaya ka nga binisita, to connect w you, even without words being spoken. Minsan, let's also try to speak out what we really need. Madami ring iniisip ang mga kaibigan natin para mahulaan ang ang totoo nating kalagayan.
What she feels is totally understandable. Ano ba naman ung kumustahin siya? Hindi naman sa nagseselos siya sa anak nya (mahal nya baby nya). Marami lang physiologic and hormonal changes sa isang babae during pregnancy and after giving birth. I hope you are okay, virtual hugs sa iyo, Angelica.
Ako na nanay hindi ko din sya maintindihan kasi happy na ako na kinukumusta baby ko. Automatic na un lalo na kapag kakapanganak pa lang, sa baby talaga ang attention. And pag dumadalaw naman mga friends para kay baby, napag-uusapan din naman ung experience during and after pregnancy.
The fact that she is posting this confirms her PPD. Parenting involves sacrifice, and you are not the center of attention anymore. Just be grateful that people take time out of their day to see you and your baby.
I hope she realizes na kaya nila dinadalaw yung baby nya is dahil din sa kanya. They love her baby because they love her. Someone commented sa taas that her friends are not mind readers. I agree. They don't know that she is going through something. They might think she is okay because she seems okay.
Saya naman maging katulad ng mga haters dito 'di pa ata nakakaranas ng mental instability. She might be experiencing ppd, be kind. I hope she gets the right support during this part of her life
Haha! Yung lagi nagpopost ng selfish, parang same person lang. Galit na galit ka. Uy, masama yan hatred sa ibang tao lalo na at di mo naman kilala. Siguro naka-away ka ni Angge, parang may history kayo eh!
Kung ang mga friends nya ay childless, ganun talaga. Kung hindi naman, legit naman ung tampo nya but she has to recognize na baka PPD yan and that she has to accept na it's the baby first before her.
Communicate your needs with your friends girl, mag mature tayo at wag magpa haging.
When dis ahe start feeling like this? If it was just like few months after she got the baby then it is probably part of post partum blues. So that must be normal feeling. I also felt that same way. How old is her baby now?
I know new parents need a lot of understanding but I do feel like bago ka maganak dapat full-on adult ka na, meaning you have the capacity to take care of your own emotional needs, including asking for help if needed instead of letting people guess. Kasi, ang ending niyan your kid is gonna end up parenting you. Lalaki sila na walking on eggshells kasi hindi emotionally mature ang magulang. Tulad nito. Yung average na well adjusted adult kasi, hindi na sila naghihintay to be asked how they are. They tell people they trust that something is wrong, or di kaya they seek professional help.
This is so true, I have grown up with a mother who is jealous of her children and easily irritable so kami as a kid we learned how to cope up depende sa mood nya or else kami ang masasaktan.
Si AP at her age, one would think mature na sya pero hindi pa pala. Kung post partum yan, nandyan naman hubby nya. Nagka PP rin ako and di ko naman tinarget mga friends ko kasi anak ko lang kinukumusta nila. I'm just hoping the things she had gone through will not be experienced by her kid.
Magka-PPD ka and yet you cannot give empathy to her. Grabe ang mga tao dito, mga nanay pa nman pero kapwa nanay hnd mabigyan ng konting understanding. Harsh!
Grabe kayo both 4:35 and 10:10, immature na agad and di pa ready. Expert kayo sa feelings nang ibang tao. Please tell me you’re a pyschiatrist para majustify ko mga sinasabi nyo. Masyado tayo judgmental sa feelings nang iba na akala nyo alam nyo na lahat. We react differently and not because you didn’t feel that way sa friends nyo, ganun na rin dapat reaction nya. You always have comments na you don’t acknowledge nararamdaman ng iba. I have friends like that, and that’s also the reason ayoko na magshare sa kanila kasi lumalabas, ako yung OA at nagiinarte or not contented sa buhay. Sometimes, you have to take a step back and put yourself into someone else’s shoes and probably that would help change your perspective. Almost everyone here in the comments section knows better than Angge on how to cope with her feelings.
Some may not agree with her but valid naman ang nararamdaman nya. Honest lang sya that she needs some care & support too. Kapag bagong panganak, nakaka overwhelm ang mga changes sa sarili at sa buhay, kaya kailangan din na ma affirm at ma encourage. Let's respect her feelings at the very least. I hope na she will soon feel better at maalpasan ang post partum depression nya.
Sakto yung "the world doesnt revolve around you". Im sure her friends have the best intentions, may kanya-kanya lang din laban or pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Be appreciative of them taking the time in spite of that. Plus the cuteness overload of a baby usually overshadows everything else.
I think in jest with heaps of sarcasm yung reply ni Angge, and if isa ka dun sa friends and you know her well, di mo iindahin.
Anlayo na ng inabot ng iba - all about you, nagseselos, dapat thankful na lang- hindi ba pwedeng intindihin na lang at wag maging dismissive at pagmarunungan?
Yung comment ni 11:56 lang ang may sense.
Angelica was brave to post this. Hindi ito pang aaway e, i see this as a subtle cry for help. mommies need attention too. They need to be seen, affirmed, recognized.
You are doing a great job, Angelica. Take care of yourself. You cant pour from an empty cup.
6:02 Girl negative mo kasi tinanggap yung ibang message dito especially the being thankful part. Some people are offering some advice para mabago ang mindset niya and she could look at it positively. It's ironic for you to call others dismissive eh ikaw mismo dismissive. LOOK AT THINGS POSITIVELY SOMETIMES PARA HINDI NEGA SA MUNDO.
1:28 Oo SAKIT siya SAKIT. Pero bawat sakit may solusyon. SAKIT SIYA SAKIT which can be treated by MEDICINE AND COUNSELING. And for counseling to work, kailangan mong umpisahan sa sarili mo by slowly changing how you think and look at things.
9:51 girl, i’m not 6:02 pero ako ang sasagot. Yung mga sinasabi ng iba is micro-aggression. You cannot say, be thankful na lang at may anak ka or gusto nila baby mo. That’s not the proper way to help or support a person feeling lost or unacknowledged. It’s not always you have this, so you should be satisfied with what you have. Ganyan kasi tayo pinalaki sa Pinas, na be thankful with what you have kahit naghihirap ka na or masakit ang dinadala mo.
At bawat sakit ay may lunas 1:28! And having the right mindset is crucial. Look at Kris. Aside from how her doctors are doing their best, she's also fighting and praying in order to survive. Importante yung meron kang strong will to get cured. Kaya kahit sakit po siya sakitm, may lunas po siya may lunas!
Ok na sana na magsabi sya na sad sya na wlang nangangamusta pero nag banta pa ito sa friends na lalayuan nya, threat pa more, baka pag iniwan ka lalo ka maglupasay
5:46 and 4:04, logically, di po LAHAT ng sakit may lunas or solusyon. So may lunas na ba sa LAHAT ng cancer? I don’t get your point. And seems same ka lang na commenter. If alam mo na nga may sakit bakit dina-down mo pa yung tao? Ikaw nga yung Nega eh kasi mainit ulo nyo.
Ok postpartum, weird talaga effect ng postpartum e. Pero mamsh naman, both of you and your baby are so loved by the people around you, look at how they showered you with attention and gifts! Oo puro sa baby yan. But because you're the mommy and they've known you first, they loved you first, and because they loved you that much, kaya naman they loved that baby narin! Yung sinasabi mong mga taong medyo lalayo ang loob mo na sakanila, wag naman. Kasi they've been there with you tapos ganun?! Need mo lang magpapa realise nyan sa'yo!
Everybody especially her friends are excited to see her baby definitely, who doesn't. If I were in her shoes, I would be even happier because they care for my baby that much. When you have a baby, it is no longer about you, you and you. She should be thankful she was showered with bountiful gifts during her baby shower with her friends.
Tiyak naman kinumusta ka naman ng mga friends mo pagbisita nila pero siempre papansinin nila baby mo baka kasi sabihin mo hindi pinapansin anak mo. Which is very hard to do considering the frequency of your posting about your baby in your platforms
Dapat nga masaya ka dahil gusto nila makita anak mo. For sure ikaw din gusto nila makita. Ang masama eh pumupunta sila sa house nyo na wala at si cute baby lang ang naiiwan sa house with the yaya, I think yun may karapatan kang kumuda. So please wag ka na magtampo sa friends mo
I had post partum blues too after I gave birth to my eldest, I felt the same way but when I told my husband about it, he reminded me that things will be different now and that friends are also busy too with their own lives. Later on, I realized na oo nga nman, may sarili rin silang buhay and for all I know they may be fighting their own battles too na hindi ko alam. Hindi maganda yun nagbabanta ka na lalayo yun loob mo, kase its like putting a period to a friendship, think of the times also na your friends were there for you, wag kang magmalake kase baka sa huli ikaw lang din ang masaktan.
Don’t invalidate her feeling na ang “arte” nya. That’s some of the first time moms feel kasi the attention is now more on the baby. I don’t think she feels jealous. Maybe she’s just asking na sya naman kamustahin, like what she feels and not just only the baby. That’s also a sign of PPD especially if a person’s lifestyle had a big change after giving birth. And stop commenting na it’s her fault, you won’t know it until you’ve been through it. Filipinos are very known to gaslight and invalidate people. Not because di mo na experience yan, ganun na rin ang lahat.
that’s such a weird take. I think postpartum nga. kasi diba if gusto makita ng friends mo yung baby mo that means gusto ka na rin nila makasama. Alangan naman yung baby lang ang makita nila diba? She’s just being too sensitive right now which I understand kasi some people undergo postpartum until a year or so
Mostly ng commenters dito na nagsabi ng negative about Angelica are probably without child. Didn’t you even consider that its post partum? Kaloka. So quick naman to judge mga mars.
Sad reality. Yan nararamdaman ko now. 6mos postpartum. Away from family, nasa pinas, andto aq sa US. So it's just me, my husband, the baby and my husband mom & dad. I'm so anxious, sad. I have the rage inside me. Meron tinatawag na postpartum rage. I'm always mad. So hindi ko na kinaya. Nagpasched nq to see therapist. Thankfully I got schedule on the 2nd of Aug.
Hang in there Mom! You’re doing your best to your baby and family. And it’s good that you are aware of what’s happening to you. Your family and friends love you kahit malayo ka sa kanila.
Hi there mom! Stay strong ok? Call your family as much as you can and let them know what you are going thru. Praying helps a lot too. Andito lang kmi sa fp, your marites friends hehe.
Based on most comments, nakakalungkot talaga how behind Philippines is when it comes to openly acknowledging PPD or even just being sensitive about the mental health of another person. We’re a race who is always quick to judge and yet, kung tayo ang naapakan, napakabilis din mag point out ng mali ng iba.
Normal ‘yan sa friends, excited to see the baby. Pag ba nanganak, ang message mo sa new mom is “how are you, I hope you ok ka lang and doesnt have post-partum depression”. Kasi nga giving birth is something to celebrate. But with Angge’s reaction, obviously, it’s post-partum.
Guys, what she's saying is valid. She did not stop becoming a person just because she became a mom. She's in a different environment now, ang baby at yaya lang ang kasama nya most of the time. Would it hurt if her friends asked, "Ikaw, kumusta ka naman? How are you holding up?" If you guys feel na that's too much to ask, aba it's either you don't have good friends who care about YOU or kayo yung bad friends na surface level lang.
Napaka-selfish naman ng comment mo 1:40! The friends went out of their way to visit her and the baby. Hindi pa ba understandable yun na they care about you? Parang ikaw ang bad friend sa totoo lang. You sound like a selfish, inconsiderate person na nag-eexpect pa ng lubos lubos sa mga kaibigan mo. Abusado sa madaling salita.
You know what 4:11 most of the time, mga may PPD, they don’t know na meron sila. Mabuti nga sya she said that in her IG so at least people around her is now aware what she’s feeling. Kaya nga yung iba, too late na nang narealize na meron sila PPD, and will require more therapy or even medication or it can even lead to death. Kaya be kind and nice.
Yung mga nagco comment na iba dito halatang hindi alam ang PPD and that it varies from one person to another. Do not invalidate her feelings. I sufferred from PPD for years. Hindi ko sya ma explain. I even asked myself if nababaliw na ba ako kasi super ewan ng feelings and emotions ko. I felt so alone. Kung ganyan nararamdaman nya, so be it. No need to call her names.
Everyone, please, don’t be so judgmental. As someone who experienced this, it was not easy. Eto yung emotion na you cannot justify and explain why you’re feeling it kahit ano logical reason pa ang isipin mo, kahit pa na I am lucky to have everything in life. If this is PPD that she’s experiencing, di sya mindset lang. You cannot just be thankful and ignore it. You cannot think na arte lang ito and just move on. You cannot say that I am a toxic/selfish person and forget that it’s happening. Don’t invalidate someone just because you’ve done this and that and you were not like this. That’s a selfish, toxic and unkind reaction to a person who needs attention, support and care from her friends and families. If you want more information, probably do some research about it before tayo manghusga.
Well, the point is... she needs to realize that there is something quite wrong in her reaction and to get it checked or lose the good people who are around her.
Pag nagka anak ka na i swear yung parents mo mas concern na sa apo nila kesa sayo, same with friends sa baby po ang focus nila kasi nga BAGO PA LANG SYA SA MUNDO e hello Angelica ilang years mo ng friends yan syempre sa baby na bago pa lang sa mundo sila focus
Ako nung na-miscarriage d ako tnanong nung ‘friend’ ko kung kamusta ako tpos nung nanganak sya d ko man lng daw inask kung musta na sya. Pero i did send her congratulations. Idk, just trying to say u get what u give. Baka d ka din nngamusta kase Angge pero at least ung baby mo kinamusta
We’re just all Marites here, thinking na ganito iyon, ganito ire. A doctor can tell what she’s going through. Have you thought about her childhood? Then she became a child star early and got all the attention that she did not get from her real mother. That’s why lagi siyang palaban, defensive. It is deeper than PPD, let’s not judge her.
Di kasi uso sa Pinas yung R U OK? Dito sa ibang bansa ganyan ang practice dito. People will ask you, are you alright? Are you fine? Are you okay? It’s about acknowledging how you are and checking if you’re doing fine or if you are struggling with something. Dapat ipractice nyo yan para mas mamulat kayo about mental health. Marami sa inyo backwards mag-isip. Imbis na i-encourage nyo yung tao, naging mean pa kayo.
Postpartum yang nararamdaman nya mismo actually
ReplyDeleteZAKLY.
DeletePostpartum what? Mga pinoy laging putol magsalita… postpartum depression ibig mo sabihin?
DeleteYeah, I feel bad for her though. Hope she has a good support system.
DeleteUsually yung mga friends na single ang ma-baby focused pag dinadalaw ako after giving birth. Those who are mommies bring prepped meals, frozen soups and lactation cookies and are mommy-focused since they also went through it. Wala lang, baka naman mostly wala pang junakis mga friends nya.
You mean postpartum depression? Postpartum means anything after giving birth.
DeleteBaka ngayon nya narerealize na hindi pala masarap sa pakiramdam pag nawawala na sa kanya ang atensyon ng tao.
DeletePeople are showing love to your child. That should be reason enough to appreciate them. They are also not mind readers; tell your friends what you need and how they can support you. Clearly they are invested in you.
ReplyDeleteshe misses lang being the center of the universe.
Delete3:56 Clearly you dont know what PPD is. Hindi lang naman siya ang dumadaan sa ganyan
DeleteGanito din sister in law ko sa first baby in our family. Nagseselos sya sa atensyon na bnibigay namin sa anak nya. Weird
DeleteAng OA nyo. Valid yung feelings nya. Isipin mo nag luwal ka ng human being at nagulo mga organs mo at hormones mo tapos walang kumakamusta sayo para kang naging extension nalang mg anak mo. Plus yung hirap ng pag aalaga dahil nasa stage pa yung baby nya ng intense attention 24/7 it can make you feel lonely and long for other company and to vent pero di ka man kamustahin ng so called friends mo nakaka disappoint kaya yun
DeleteGrabe din SIL mo ano? Mga mother na ganyan eh narcissistic, kawawa mga anak kapag ganyan. They will be emotionally abused and manipulated.
Delete9:43 The fact that they are there , means they want to see if she's okay, too. May mga dumalaw din samin ng baby ko and I dont remember na kinamusta nila ako. Nagka complications pa ko non. Bedrest for 1 month. Their gesture was enough for me. Either she has PPD or entitled.
DeleteHello di naman kamj OA, i feel the same way na narcissistic sya. Mother na rin ako, and never ko naman minasama yung attention ng friends ko na binibigay nila sa baby ko.
Delete9:43 dami ka lang issues like her
DeleteHindi yun weird.
DeleteAt the end of the day, patient din yung Mommy. Nalagay sa peligro ang buhay nya. Pagod yun, puyat, swollen boobs, stitches and all. Ano ba naman yung mangamusta kung ok lang siya? At kung ano ang kailangan nya?
Uy pero to be fair, I experienced this sa in-laws ko and wala ako PPD. Madalas din sila dumalaw to see my 1st baby, but never did they ask how I was, how’s my CS operation, how I was dealing with a new baby, what help I needed. Never nga nagdala ng food for me, but sa baby my gift. So I think, she has a point here.
DeleteWhat people don't understand is PPD, and the fact na tao pa rin yung nanay na kalalabas lang sa bingit ng kamatayan. May feelings din kami, aches and pains, baka lang gusto nyong kamustahin.
DeleteThat's why it's really important to have that support system. Sa Chinese, may confinement period na tipong aalagaan yung nanay for 30 days. Yung iba, may postpartum doula care. Point is, new moms are better moms when well rested and well recovered.
Anon 2:09 lucky for you na mother ka pero di mo naexperience ang post partum depression. Di po pare pareho ang feelings ng mga nanay.
DeleteIba iba naman kasi ang tao 2:09. Mother din ako and I didn’t go through PPD pero I understand people who do.
DeleteThis is a valid sentiment, sadly :( Went thru this as well with my first child. I felt so isolated and lonely. Buti sa second child hnd gaano. Hugs mommies who are going through PPD!
ReplyDeleteI was like this too! I'm now 4 months post partum and still feel the loneliness and anxiety. hopefully sa 6th month I can start feeling better. Lavan lng mga momsies!
DeleteHugs momsies! Push yan!
DeleteTry nyo rin mag-walking kung kaya nyo na, paaraw ng konti kumbaga. And konting dark chocolate to trigger happy hormones. Little things like this can make the difference.
Most of the time wanting to see the baby is wanting to see you too… pero i think post partum talaga si Angelica… sensitive sha.
ReplyDeleteWanting to see you is different from genuinely asking / concern how you are.
Delete8:29 actions speak louder than words. The fact na nagpunta sila, dapat maappreciate nya yon. Sa panahon ngayon , everyone is busy. Time is precious.
Delete1:00 PM i don’t think everyone is busy kasi ang dami natin time sa social media!
DeleteOf course, they also want to see you. Natatabunan nga lang ng excitement to see your cute baby.
ReplyDeleteSame sentiments, but not about baby. Yung fersons na makikipag meet up lang sayo di para kamustahin ka kundi para makasagap ng ichichismis about you. Kaya dedma na sila.
ReplyDeleteIkaw din naman same with ur
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OA naman ni annge, ganun talaga nasa baby ang focus sorry from family to friends sa baby talaga ang attention just be strong na lang girl jan na papasok ang partner mo to check on you
ReplyDeleteI followed her sa IG and YT bec of her cute baby and how normal their fam is. But I think masyado naman ang sentimiento niya over her friends who only wanted to see her baby at hindi siya kinakamusta. Kasama na din kasi yun pag binisita siya. Tayong mga mommies , dapat natin tanggapin na dadating ang panahon maiiba na ang ihip
DeleteNg mundo at hindi lahat ng bagay at tao ay iikot lang sa buhay mo.
I dont think it's OA nor 'masyado', this is valid. Post Partum Depression is a serious things. Mag research kayo mga bax.
DeleteEver heard of post partum depression mga baks? Kalmahan nyo lang pag judge. It's not something she can control. Nanay pa man din kayo. For us it's OA but for her na nakakaramdam nun, hindi. We have no idea what she's going through right now.
DeletePlease don't invalidate other people's feelings. Her situation has medical basis.
DeleteHello kaya nga may asawa sya e di dun nya hanapin ang caring na wala sa friends nya e baby talaga ang attention ayaw nyo man or hindi
DeleteNot disregarding her feelings, pero masyado naman siyang judgemental sa friends niya to the point na lalayo loob niya. I hope she gets the help that she needs before her depression comsumes her.
Deleteseryoso ba sya?
ReplyDeleteMukha ba nagjojoke?
Deletemukhang post partum nga yan
ReplyDeleteTunay naman 'to. Saka pag bagong panganak ka, may phasa tlga ang mga nanay nagsself pity'.. Hopefully maging okay Mameh Angge
ReplyDeleteYeah, sa UK&I mas kinakamusta parati ang mommy tapos lumalayo sila sa baby, though in a good way naman lalo kung di pa vaccinated or complete ang immunisations ni baby. Minsan sa sobrang push nila sa pagtatanong kung ok ka ba talaga mapapaisip ka kung may PPD ka na.
ReplyDeleteOnce you become a parent, some things are not all about you anymore. Maybe change your perspective. Instead of lamenting about the situation, why not be happy that people care about your child. Isn't that the most important thing in the world for a mother? Just a thought lang naman. How we look at things really makes a big difference.
ReplyDeleteAnd also, kung lumayo ang loob mo sa kanila, they will also distance themselves from your child.
I agree! Ako nga happy pa pag kinukumusta baby ko.
DeleteShe's always been like this though. And she's a celebrity. They literally don't have that concept...na in actually there are lots of things that don't revolve around them. Ang dami nga niyang self-centered at tone deaf rants sa twitter na nafefearure dito. I feel bad for this child cause simula palang naiinggit na ang nanay sa attention na nakukuha niya, papaano pa kaya paglaki.
DeleteTama!
DeleteIt doesn’t mean na parent ka na, eh kalimutan mo na pagkatao mo. I don’t agree 100% dun sa mga nagsasabi na kapag parent ka na it’s not about you anymore. You need to take care of yourself too and feel good about yourself. How can you take care of others and give love kung sa sarili mo di mo kayang gawin.
DeleteAng daling sabihin. Pero pag ikaw na ang nasa sitwasyon, hindi mo na ma-eexplain bakit mo ka nakakaramdam ng ganun. Hormonal thing yan after panganganak.
Delete2:43 I actually did kaya wag mo akong gamitan ng ganyang rason. I was on my own when I got pregnant dahil naghiwalay kami ng partner ko after I found out about my pregnancy. I relied mostly on my friends at work. They helped me get through it emotionally and mentally. Financially, ako lang talaga. I even went to the hospital alone nong manganganak na ako. Nalaman lang ng family ko nong nakapanganak na ako. I was constantly crying for no reasons after manganak but I didn't know it was PPD. I just get on with my life for my baby's sake. I was just happy and content of the support I received from family, friends, and relatives. Everytime my friends ask me about my son, nakakataba na ng puso kasi they were part of that moment when he was born. Minsan nga nagtatampo ako kapag hindi nila kinumusta anak ko kasi feeling ko nakalimutan na nila siya. Because of that experience, I learned how to appreciate simple things that other people do kahit pa hindi para saken kundi para sa anak ko.
DeleteSo there. That's my story. I took this time to answer your comment just to let you know where I'm coming from. Oo madaling sabihin for me because I experienced it myself and I know how difficult it was. Kailangan mo lang talagang baguhin yung perspective mo sa buhay.
-8:14
agree 2:43. we're so quick to dismiss and invalidate peoples' feelings pero minsan talaga, you'll never know how it is until ikaw na ang nakaka-feel non. although, kapag medyo tumatagal nang ganun, may responsibility ka rin sa sarili mo to seek help, otherwise magiging self-indulgent ka na rin pag ganun.
Delete4:00 judgmental ka dear. How do you know she’s not going to be a good mom to her child? Do you know them personally? How do you know she’s being jealous? Did she say that? Yung mga tulad mo ang ayoko maging friend at family kasi meron ka na agad bad conclusion lalo na sa mga taong di mo kilala.
Delete3:56 the more na dapat mas maintindihan mo sya. Why can’t people understand that you go through life differently. You’re lucky because you overcame it without the need of a psychologist or psychiatrist or medical professional. Maraming cases na may PPD na suicidal. So you think, nag-aarte lang sila or mahina loob niya or self-centered? Please open your mind especially you had experienced it. Being grateful is not always the answer or the help you need. So what can you say about those clinically depressed or have mental health problems? Are you saying na they should be thankful and move on and change their perspective? Maybe it will work, maybe it won’t. The point is, each one of us is different, and you need to be kind because you don’t know what’s on people’s mind and what they are going through.
DeleteVery well said @ 7:57.
Delete3:56 - I'm glad nalampasan mo yung phase na yun ng life mo. Pero just because na-handle mo yung situation mo with grace doesn't mean na iinvalidate mo na yung nararamdaman ng iba. Yung pamamaraan mo may not always work sa lahat ng nagpopostpartum depression dahil magkakaiba tayo ng way of thinking, ng background and ng way ng paghandle ng mga nararamdaman. I hope people will stop sa ganitong mindset na "Nung ako nga mas mahirap pa dyan pinagdaanan ko pero di naman ako gumanyan blah blah..." Well, good for you. Pero guess what? Not everyone is like you. Magkakaiba tayo, so stop invalidating someone's feelings.
Wait.. Nag selos sa anak?!
ReplyDeleteI don’t think it’s jealousy. More like self pity. Normal yan sa mga nanganak.
Deleteangge dapat hindi mo kinaiingitan ang baby mo sa pagtrato ng mga tao vs you. ang anak mo ay parang ikaw na rin
ReplyDeleteI think yun nga ang core problem...she can't see her baby as separate from herself so naiinis siya na she feels like she doesn't get enough attention while yung baby maraming nangangamusta. Nakakapagtaka naman na she's a full grown adult na kayang alagaan ang sarili niya but she's acting as if she was forced to get pregnant and give birth so they better walk on tiptoes around her.
Delete4:14 hindi naman nakapagtataka yan girl, may post patrum depression si accla. pag ba nakakita ka ng mentally unstable sa kalsada magtataka ka bakit ganun sila? malamang hindi kasi alam mo na sagot dun.
DeleteJusko matuwa ka nalang kasi love nila anak mo , wag ka na makipag compete sa bata lalo anak mo yan, yaan mo sya ang mag enjoy ng limelight! Tapos pag di naman pinansin ang anak kukuda ka
ReplyDeleteExactly! Wag pagselosan sng anak
DeleteBaka kasi ikaw na yung toxic sa grupo Angelica? Tandaan, the world doesn’t rotate around you. Wag masyadong feeler na kunwari aping-api. May mga sariling buhay din mga friends mo. You sound selfish alam mo.
ReplyDeleteRevolve po.
DeleteYou sound selfish din kasi you can’t even say nice things to a person na di mo kilala personally.
DeleteARTE ..ALMOST HAVE IT ALL wag na mag inarte
ReplyDeleteAng aga naman magtampururot ni mother! Usually yung mga ganyang drama para sa mga senior na eh like Jaclyn Jose. Hahaha
ReplyDeleteWhen I gave birth and people visited us I did not mind them gushing more on the baby. Alangan naman ako pa rin ang bida? People doting on my child is enough for me, people taking time to visit is more than enough. Hindi sa atin umiikot ang mundo, be thankful that they visit.
ReplyDeleteI agree. We should appreciate the fact that our friends take time out to visit us. Ginagawang excuse nalang ang babies. Besides, binibisita nila ang baby dahil ikaw ang Nanay na kaibigan nila. Most people probably don't know how to ask about your mental health. Kaya ka nga binisita, to connect w you, even without words being spoken. Minsan, let's also try to speak out what we really need. Madami ring iniisip ang mga kaibigan natin para mahulaan ang ang totoo nating kalagayan.
DeleteTrue!
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ReplyDeleteWhat she feels is totally understandable. Ano ba naman ung kumustahin siya? Hindi naman sa nagseselos siya sa anak nya (mahal nya baby nya). Marami lang physiologic and hormonal changes sa isang babae during pregnancy and after giving birth. I hope you are okay, virtual hugs sa iyo, Angelica.
ReplyDeleteWag kasi narcissistic beh.
ReplyDeleteSa mga friends nya na hindi pa nanay cant blame them though thy never know the feeling until they also gave birth.
ReplyDeleteAko na nanay hindi ko din sya maintindihan kasi happy na ako na kinukumusta baby ko. Automatic na un lalo na kapag kakapanganak pa lang, sa baby talaga ang attention. And pag dumadalaw naman mga friends para kay baby, napag-uusapan din naman ung experience during and after pregnancy.
DeleteIba iba tayo mga baks. Hindi rin same ligwak ng hormones. Be kind.
DeleteNung dikapa nanay, ganyan karin nman pag may bagong baby ung kaibigan mo, sa baby ka din nya nag focus, aminin mo
ReplyDeleteMga baks mahirap talaga may postpartum depression. Hindi pag iinarte lang yan. Do not judge her if hindi niyo pa naranasan ang postpartum depression.
ReplyDeleteKapg naman hindi kinamista ang baby magrereklamo din dapat kamusta ka na mommy? Kamusta na baby?
ReplyDeletesiempre ange iba na priorities mo ang pamilya mo, di ka na nila maalala yayain sa galaan at kmustahin kc busy k n sa anak mo
ReplyDeleteThe fact that she is posting this confirms her PPD. Parenting involves sacrifice, and you are not the center of attention anymore. Just be grateful that people take time out of their day to see you and your baby.
ReplyDeleteI hope she realizes na kaya nila dinadalaw yung baby nya is dahil din sa kanya. They love her baby because they love her. Someone commented sa taas that her friends are not mind readers. I agree.
ReplyDeleteThey don't know that she is going through something. They might think she is okay because she seems okay.
Saya naman maging katulad ng mga haters dito 'di pa ata nakakaranas ng mental instability. She might be experiencing ppd, be kind. I hope she gets the right support during this part of her life
ReplyDeleteBut she looks so happy and content!👍🎈
ReplyDeleteMay attitude talaga yang SI angge. Gusto nya "me me me" lang. Selfish talaga din. Kahit na sabihin post partum Wala Yan na attitude nya. Selfish
ReplyDeleteWow te laki ng galit ah
DeleteHaha! Yung lagi nagpopost ng selfish, parang same person lang. Galit na galit ka. Uy, masama yan hatred sa ibang tao lalo na at di mo naman kilala. Siguro naka-away ka ni Angge, parang may history kayo eh!
Deletelol. lambing lang niya 'yan. but she really appreciates all the love for her bebe. the baby is her too - that's part of her!
ReplyDeleteKung ang mga friends nya ay childless, ganun talaga. Kung hindi naman, legit naman ung tampo nya but she has to recognize na baka PPD yan and that she has to accept na it's the baby first before her.
ReplyDeleteCommunicate your needs with your friends girl, mag mature tayo at wag magpa haging.
Imaginin mo nalang ange binisita ka hindi pinansin un baby mo inuman at kwentuhan kayo nga barkada kiber kay baby. Mas gusto mo ba un?
ReplyDeleteWhen dis ahe start feeling like this? If it was just like few months after she got the baby then it is probably part of post partum blues. So that must be normal feeling. I also felt that same way. How old is her baby now?
ReplyDelete10mos yata
Delete6-7 months na ata kasi kaka solid food lang ng baby
DeleteI know new parents need a lot of understanding but I do feel like bago ka maganak dapat full-on adult ka na, meaning you have the capacity to take care of your own emotional needs, including asking for help if needed instead of letting people guess. Kasi, ang ending niyan your kid is gonna end up parenting you. Lalaki sila na walking on eggshells kasi hindi emotionally mature ang magulang. Tulad nito. Yung average na well adjusted adult kasi, hindi na sila naghihintay to be asked how they are. They tell people they trust that something is wrong, or di kaya they seek professional help.
ReplyDeleteThis is so true, I have grown up with a mother who is jealous of her children and easily irritable so kami as a kid we learned how to cope up depende sa mood nya or else kami ang masasaktan.
DeleteSi AP at her age, one would think mature na sya pero hindi pa pala. Kung post partum yan, nandyan naman hubby nya. Nagka PP rin ako and di ko naman tinarget mga friends ko kasi anak ko lang kinukumusta nila. I'm just hoping the things she had gone through will not be experienced by her kid.
Magka-PPD ka and yet you cannot give empathy to her. Grabe ang mga tao dito, mga nanay pa nman pero kapwa nanay hnd mabigyan ng konting understanding. Harsh!
DeleteGrabe kayo both 4:35 and 10:10, immature na agad and di pa ready. Expert kayo sa feelings nang ibang tao. Please tell me you’re a pyschiatrist para majustify ko mga sinasabi nyo. Masyado tayo judgmental sa feelings nang iba na akala nyo alam nyo na lahat. We react differently and not because you didn’t feel that way sa friends nyo, ganun na rin dapat reaction nya. You always have comments na you don’t acknowledge nararamdaman ng iba. I have friends like that, and that’s also the reason ayoko na magshare sa kanila kasi lumalabas, ako yung OA at nagiinarte or not contented sa buhay. Sometimes, you have to take a step back and put yourself into someone else’s shoes and probably that would help change your perspective. Almost everyone here in the comments section knows better than Angge on how to cope with her feelings.
DeleteSome may not agree with her but valid naman ang nararamdaman nya. Honest lang sya that she needs some care & support too. Kapag bagong panganak, nakaka overwhelm ang mga changes sa sarili at sa buhay, kaya kailangan din na ma affirm at ma encourage. Let's respect her feelings at the very least. I hope na she will soon feel better at maalpasan ang post partum depression nya.
ReplyDeleteShe doesnt have katulong kasi. Kinakaya niya gawaing bahay and magalaga. Dear, youneed katulong sa gawaing bahay. Para purely sa anak mo lang ikaw.
ReplyDeleteMeron silang househelp. Nasabi niya yan sa vlog niya.
DeletePostpartum talaga ang nakakatakot ,been there ang hirap talaga
ReplyDeleteGood thing nakakayanan ko at until now umaatake sya
Sakto yung "the world doesnt revolve around you". Im sure her friends have the best intentions, may kanya-kanya lang din laban or pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Be appreciative of them taking the time in spite of that. Plus the cuteness overload of a baby usually overshadows everything else.
ReplyDeleteI think in jest with heaps of sarcasm yung reply ni Angge, and if isa ka dun sa friends and you know her well, di mo iindahin.
Anlayo na ng inabot ng iba - all about you, nagseselos, dapat thankful na lang- hindi ba pwedeng intindihin na lang at wag maging dismissive at pagmarunungan?
ReplyDeleteYung comment ni 11:56 lang ang may sense.
Angelica was brave to post this. Hindi ito pang aaway e, i see this as a subtle cry for help. mommies need attention too. They need to be seen, affirmed, recognized.
You are doing a great job, Angelica. Take care of yourself. You cant pour from an empty cup.
6:02 Girl negative mo kasi tinanggap yung ibang message dito especially the being thankful part. Some people are offering some advice para mabago ang mindset niya and she could look at it positively. It's ironic for you to call others dismissive eh ikaw mismo dismissive. LOOK AT THINGS POSITIVELY SOMETIMES PARA HINDI NEGA SA MUNDO.
DeleteAng PPD po ay wala sa mindset, sakit po siya sakit!
Delete1:28 Oo SAKIT siya SAKIT. Pero bawat sakit may solusyon. SAKIT SIYA SAKIT which can be treated by MEDICINE AND COUNSELING. And for counseling to work, kailangan mong umpisahan sa sarili mo by slowly changing how you think and look at things.
Delete9:51 girl, i’m not 6:02 pero ako ang sasagot. Yung mga sinasabi ng iba is micro-aggression. You cannot say, be thankful na lang at may anak ka or gusto nila baby mo. That’s not the proper way to help or support a person feeling lost or unacknowledged. It’s not always you have this, so you should be satisfied with what you have. Ganyan kasi tayo pinalaki sa Pinas, na be thankful with what you have kahit naghihirap ka na or masakit ang dinadala mo.
DeleteAt bawat sakit ay may lunas 1:28! And having the right mindset is crucial. Look at Kris. Aside from how her doctors are doing their best, she's also fighting and praying in order to survive. Importante yung meron kang strong will to get cured. Kaya kahit sakit po siya sakitm, may lunas po siya may lunas!
DeleteOk na sana na magsabi sya na sad sya na wlang nangangamusta pero nag banta pa ito sa friends na lalayuan nya, threat pa more, baka pag iniwan ka lalo ka maglupasay
Delete5:46 and 4:04, logically, di po LAHAT ng sakit may lunas or solusyon. So may lunas na ba sa LAHAT ng cancer? I don’t get your point. And seems same ka lang na commenter. If alam mo na nga may sakit bakit dina-down mo pa yung tao? Ikaw nga yung Nega eh kasi mainit ulo nyo.
DeleteOk postpartum, weird talaga effect ng postpartum e. Pero mamsh naman, both of you and your baby are so loved by the people around you, look at how they showered you with attention and gifts! Oo puro sa baby yan. But because you're the mommy and they've known you first, they loved you first, and because they loved you that much, kaya naman they loved that baby narin! Yung sinasabi mong mga taong medyo lalayo ang loob mo na sakanila, wag naman. Kasi they've been there with you tapos ganun?! Need mo lang magpapa realise nyan sa'yo!
ReplyDeleteEverybody especially her friends are excited to see her baby definitely, who doesn't. If I were in her shoes, I would be even happier because they care for my baby that much. When you have a baby, it is no longer about you, you and you. She should be thankful she was showered with bountiful gifts during her baby shower with her friends.
ReplyDeleteTiyak naman kinumusta ka naman ng mga friends mo pagbisita nila pero siempre papansinin nila baby mo baka kasi sabihin mo hindi pinapansin anak mo. Which is very hard to do considering the frequency of your posting about your baby in your platforms
ReplyDeleteDapat nga masaya ka dahil gusto nila makita anak mo. For sure ikaw din gusto nila makita. Ang masama eh pumupunta sila sa house nyo na wala at si cute baby lang ang naiiwan sa house with the yaya, I think yun may karapatan kang kumuda. So please wag ka na magtampo sa friends mo
ReplyDeleteI had post partum blues too after I gave birth to my eldest, I felt the same way but when I told my husband about it, he reminded me that things will be different now and that friends are also busy too with their own lives. Later on, I realized na oo nga nman, may sarili rin silang buhay and for all I know they may be fighting their own battles too na hindi ko alam. Hindi maganda yun nagbabanta ka na lalayo yun loob mo, kase its like putting a period to a friendship, think of the times also na your friends were there for you, wag kang magmalake kase baka sa huli ikaw lang din ang masaktan.
ReplyDeleteDon’t invalidate her feeling na ang “arte” nya. That’s some of the first time moms feel kasi the attention is now more on the baby. I don’t think she feels jealous. Maybe she’s just asking na sya naman kamustahin, like what she feels and not just only the baby. That’s also a sign of PPD especially if a person’s lifestyle had a big change after giving birth. And stop commenting na it’s her fault, you won’t know it until you’ve been through it. Filipinos are very known to gaslight and invalidate people. Not because di mo na experience yan, ganun na rin ang lahat.
ReplyDeletethat’s such a weird take. I think postpartum nga. kasi diba if gusto makita ng friends mo yung baby mo that means gusto ka na rin nila makasama. Alangan naman yung baby lang ang makita nila diba? She’s just being too sensitive right now which I understand kasi some people undergo postpartum until a year or so
ReplyDeleteMalayo din ang bahay ni Angelica kaya the time and effort dapat appreciative siya. Postpartum blues nga cguro
DeleteMostly ng commenters dito na nagsabi ng negative about Angelica are probably without child. Didn’t you even consider that its post partum? Kaloka. So quick naman to judge mga mars.
ReplyDelete11:17 enebe e puro na nga about post partum yung comments ano pa bang hanap le? nagbabasa ka?
DeleteSad reality. Yan nararamdaman ko now. 6mos postpartum. Away from family, nasa pinas, andto aq sa US. So it's just me, my husband, the baby and my husband mom & dad. I'm so anxious, sad. I have the rage inside me. Meron tinatawag na postpartum rage. I'm always mad. So hindi ko na kinaya. Nagpasched nq to see therapist. Thankfully I got schedule on the 2nd of Aug.
ReplyDeleteHang in there Mom! You’re doing your best to your baby and family. And it’s good that you are aware of what’s happening to you. Your family and friends love you kahit malayo ka sa kanila.
DeleteHi there mom! Stay strong ok? Call your family as much as you can and let them know what you are going thru. Praying helps a lot too. Andito lang kmi sa fp, your marites friends hehe.
DeleteBased on most comments, nakakalungkot talaga how behind Philippines is when it comes to openly acknowledging PPD or even just being sensitive about the mental health of another person. We’re a race who is always quick to judge and yet, kung tayo ang naapakan, napakabilis din mag point out ng mali ng iba.
ReplyDeleteNormal ‘yan sa friends, excited to see the baby. Pag ba nanganak, ang message mo sa new mom is “how are you, I hope you ok ka lang and doesnt have post-partum depression”. Kasi nga giving birth is something to celebrate. But with Angge’s reaction, obviously, it’s post-partum.
ReplyDeleteGuys, what she's saying is valid. She did not stop becoming a person just because she became a mom. She's in a different environment now, ang baby at yaya lang ang kasama nya most of the time. Would it hurt if her friends asked, "Ikaw, kumusta ka naman? How are you holding up?" If you guys feel na that's too much to ask, aba it's either you don't have good friends who care about YOU or kayo yung bad friends na surface level lang.
ReplyDeleteNapaka-selfish naman ng comment mo 1:40! The friends went out of their way to visit her and the baby. Hindi pa ba understandable yun na they care about you? Parang ikaw ang bad friend sa totoo lang. You sound like a selfish, inconsiderate person na nag-eexpect pa ng lubos lubos sa mga kaibigan mo. Abusado sa madaling salita.
DeleteYou know what 4:11 most of the time, mga may PPD, they don’t know na meron sila. Mabuti nga sya she said that in her IG so at least people around her is now aware what she’s feeling. Kaya nga yung iba, too late na nang narealize na meron sila PPD, and will require more therapy or even medication or it can even lead to death. Kaya be kind and nice.
DeleteAngelica is always full of herself with out without post partum. Attitude na talaga eversince.
ReplyDeleteThis
DeleteYung mga nagco comment na iba dito halatang hindi alam ang PPD and that it varies from one person to another. Do not invalidate her feelings. I sufferred from PPD for years. Hindi ko sya ma explain. I even asked myself if nababaliw na ba ako kasi super ewan ng feelings and emotions ko. I felt so alone. Kung ganyan nararamdaman nya, so be it. No need to call her names.
ReplyDeleteEveryone, please, don’t be so judgmental. As someone who experienced this, it was not easy. Eto yung emotion na you cannot justify and explain why you’re feeling it kahit ano logical reason pa ang isipin mo, kahit pa na I am lucky to have everything in life. If this is PPD that she’s experiencing, di sya mindset lang. You cannot just be thankful and ignore it. You cannot think na arte lang ito and just move on. You cannot say that I am a toxic/selfish person and forget that it’s happening. Don’t invalidate someone just because you’ve done this and that and you were not like this. That’s a selfish, toxic and unkind reaction to a person who needs attention, support and care from her friends and families. If you want more information, probably do some research about it before tayo manghusga.
ReplyDeleteWell, the point is... she needs to realize that there is something quite wrong in her reaction and to get it checked or lose the good people who are around her.
DeleteNot all experiencing PPD realize it right away. Nothing is “wrong” with her reaction, different maybe.
DeletePag nagka anak ka na i swear yung parents mo mas concern na sa apo nila kesa sayo, same with friends sa baby po ang focus nila kasi nga BAGO PA LANG SYA SA MUNDO e hello Angelica ilang years mo ng friends yan syempre sa baby na bago pa lang sa mundo sila focus
ReplyDeleteAko nung na-miscarriage d ako tnanong nung ‘friend’ ko kung kamusta ako tpos nung nanganak sya d ko man lng daw inask kung musta na sya. Pero i did send her congratulations. Idk, just trying to say u get what u give. Baka d ka din nngamusta kase Angge pero at least ung baby mo kinamusta
ReplyDeleteWe’re just all Marites here, thinking na ganito iyon, ganito ire. A doctor can tell what she’s going through. Have you thought about her childhood? Then she became a child star early and got all the attention that she did not get from her real mother. That’s why lagi siyang palaban, defensive. It is deeper than PPD, let’s not judge her.
ReplyDeleteDi kasi uso sa Pinas yung R U OK? Dito sa ibang bansa ganyan ang practice dito. People will ask you, are you alright? Are you fine? Are you okay? It’s about acknowledging how you are and checking if you’re doing fine or if you are struggling with something. Dapat ipractice nyo yan para mas mamulat kayo about mental health. Marami sa inyo backwards mag-isip. Imbis na i-encourage nyo yung tao, naging mean pa kayo.
ReplyDeletesiya ba ang R U OK na sa mga friends nya? for all she know, may pinagdadaanan din sila.
DeleteValid ang feelings mo Angge! But maybe communicate dun sa mga taong involved what you need and wag shady na may banta effect kasi ang cheap
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