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Swerte si JLC kay Ellen kasi may pera rin at hindi mukang pera. 20k is peanuts to JLC and she could have asked for more.
ReplyDeleteAba kakahiya naman kung sasawsaw pa sya sa child support, kung hindi nya eh di ibigay nya sa tatay
Delete12:24 Kaya nga ang linaw ng CHILD SUPPORT...meaning para sa bata lang. Ano ka ba
DeleteChild support and usapan, hindi ex-spousal support! I'm sure dadagdagan ni JLC yan or hihingi na karagdagan si Ellen once Elians starts school.
DeleteYung mga ganito dapat sinasarili na lang or just keep it simple di na need sabihin pa amount. Just say “yes, he does give financial support.” Unless Ellen wants people to think sobra niya bait and understanding kasi payag siya sa 20k. This is very self-serving. That may not be the intention para it’s hard not to perceive it that way.
ReplyDeleteUgali mo kasi yan kaya ganun tingin mo kay ellen
DeleteDami mong alam!
Deleteask mo kay paolo contis kung magkno sknya
DeletePerspective. For me (not for you ha or sa ibang makakabasa) - I am impressed how maturely they handled it. Yung transparency - basic needs may rundown, naka consider yung fact na hindi nags-school pa, plus may allowance. She did not deny naman na aware sya na JL can give more, nag co-parent kasi sila. Maybe support will change pag nag school na si Elias.
DeleteShe’s just saying that BOTH of them are doing their responsibility. How is that self-serving? 🥴
DeleteAtleast nagbibigay ke sinabi niya kung magkano ang mahalaga may suporta. Di tulad ng iba diyan
DeleteShe’s making it known that parenting isn’t just about money. Sabi niya nga she has her own responsibility as a co-parent which is tama naman. They think of their child more than anything else
Deleteit's not only serving her, she's also in a way making jlc look really good because she said 10k pero he insisted on doubling it. so they both look reLly good in my eyes. parehong d mukhang pera at parehong d swapang
DeleteMay mga pera kasi.. advantage na yun d pagtatalunan ang pera..
Delete1157, agree. If you watch the video, it was said in a very mature way. Parang ang dumi na lang ng isip ng taong magbibigay pa ng hidden meaning to what was said.
Delete11:57 exactly
DeleteNot bad. Malaking bagay ang 20k for their child’s essentials. May pera din naman si Ellen, so hindi problema ang pambuhay sa anak atleast meron support
ReplyDeletePaolo left the group
ReplyDeleteKung 10k ang basic needs, add 10k for educ, and Paolo has 3 kids, that's 60k per month. Abot kaya naman yan for someone na may daily noon show, weekly gag show, and movies.
DeleteNag i school na mga kids nya so mas malaki sa 60k dpt.
Deletematanong ko lang. if gusto ng tatay na sa public school mag schooling yung mga anak, tapos yung nanay trip sa private para bongga, sino masusunod? kailangan bang pilitin yung tatay na mag cough up ng tuition pang private kahit di kaya?
DeleteYou answered the question when you said if hindi kaya.
DeleteTo some women na nahiwalay sa mga mister, please learn from this. Hindi ginagawang livelihood program ang mga anak para pagkakitaan ang mga mister. Tapos kapag ayaw nyo sa amount na napagkasunduan (dahil sinasama nyo ang pansarili nyong expenses) ipagdadamot nyo ang bata. Remember, pareho nyong responsibilidad ang bata.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this para sa partner ko. Yung ex gf ay nagdedemand ng above sa means ng bata, parang gusto lahat ng gastos ay sa sustento nakaasa na tipong wala na siyang ilalabas na pera for the kid's needs. Tapos mananakot ng VAWC case kapag nahuli kahit 2days lang ang pera. Ginagawang kabuhayan ang bata, tapos nagbubuhay dalaga.
DeleteUhm, have you considered that the mother would most likely not be able to work if she can't afford a nanny or doesn't have someone to look after the child. Hence, it's only right that her needs are also covered if she can't be gainfully emploed due to the fact that she's the main caregover of the child.
DeleteTruth!!
Delete11:45 Glad I’m not in such situation, and prolly you as well. Pero wag natin i judge mga moms. Iba kasi talagang they need to demand kasi kulang. 20K tapos studying in a good school is just enough for 1 tlaga. But remember di laht kasing yaman and capable ni Ellen na kya mag alaga ng anak while ang effort of work eh smile in the Camera.
Deleteplease dont judge them. tandaan, ang pagiging nanay hindi yan nagtatapos sa sustento lang. pag ang mga anak may sakit sila kumakargo dyan ultimo sa pag didisiplina pag may hindi magandang nagawa ang bata ang sisi lahat sa nanay, need pa nilang mag work kung hindi sapat ang binibigay ni ex hubby. imagine ang multi tasking ng nanay tapos ang tatay sustento lang sapat na. mas magaan naman ng buhay nila compared sa babae no!
DeleteI remember one of the street kids I taught in my volunteer work. He said, “kaya kayo, Ate, wag kayong mag-aanak kung hindi ninyo kaya.” Let this be a reminder na hindi lang pag-aasawa ang pinaghahandaan, pati pag-aanak.
DeleteSakin naman ex husband nagsabi pati un bills sa bahay bibigay nya. So okay. Pero ginawa ko naghanap ako online work para sa sarili ko at para if ever di makabigay (dahil sobrang k**** ng mistress nya) at least may ipon ako di man ganon kalaki like bigay nya sa amin magina but at least para sa sarili ko un and para na din sa anak namin kasi nga dumating sa point na di sya nakabigay ilan mos. Ngayon hanap pa ako ulit isa pa online work, nakakastress minsan pero para sa anak namin sabi ko gagawin ko. Everyday dasal ko na sana maging ok kami magina andyan man sya or wala un maprovide ko needs ng anak namin makakain kami maayos at makaipon in case may mangyari sa akin. 🙏🏼🥲 thank you FP, nakakagaan ng loob makabasa comments dito at nasshare ko din opinion ko. 😭
DeleteMabuti 'tong sagot ni Ellen. Sana ganon din ex husband ko. Hindi un on and off pagbigay kasi may kabit. 🫤
DeleteAng sustento ay for the kid lang. dapat nga naka-itemize talaga. Before, may case kami na like isama nang nanay ang internet sa isusustento kahit ang anak ay sanggol palang nagalit ang judge kasi di pa naman need nang baby.
Delete1237 pano nagbubuhay dalaga yung nanay ng anak ng binif mo e nasa kanya ang bata?
Delete1:34 and 10:25 halatang malawak kayo mag isip. Parang ang sarap nyo maging mga kaibigan.
Delete1:51PM, ang bata ay first year high school na. Naiiwan sa bahay ng magulang at siya, minsan makikita mong nakikipag inuman sa barkada. 😊
Deletekailangan ng internet para sa cctv, baby cam po na pwede access anywhere para sa spotify music ni baby.
Delete1:34 if you want to hire a nanny for your child because you can’t afford to loose your job or not have a job then I would assume that the nanny’s fee should be split in half between parents.
DeleteKudos to Ellen!! Ang ganda nung mga natatanong ka sa kanya and her answers are amazing. Super nabibilib ako sa kanya every time she shares how she handles her life right now. Very matured and objective. Parang ang layo sa image nung Ellen before na laging lasing or happy go lucky sa mga showbiz news.
ReplyDeleteSana kausapin ni JLC si Paolo Contis lol
ReplyDeleteD ba kung ganyan ba naman e di walang away.. d ba PC?
ReplyDeleteWOW! love na kita Ellen! you're a good mom!!!
ReplyDeleteLove that Ellen said " Anything that is more than 20k, is for her not morally right because Elias is not schooling yet and he only needs basic needs. Totoo yan, ganyan naman talaga ang expenses ng bata sa age pa ni Elias. And besides Ellen provides for Elias the other basic needs, like home, a yaya, and his toys and food he eats everyday. Gatas at diapers lang talaga halos yan napupunta. Love Ellen. I don't know, pero parang sobrang happy ako for her. Love how JLC is willing to give more for Elias. This is real co parenting. They really make sure Elias gets the best of both worlds from his parents. No wonder that kid seems to be very very happy.
ReplyDeleteTrue anon 12:00. No wonder na Elias is a happy child. Walang negativity na nasasagap from both his parents. Kudos to Ellen and JLC.
DeleteWow so ellen pays for everything when she and elias travel abroad
ReplyDeleteChoice namn kasi ni Ellen na dalhin sa abroad yung bata. Kaylangan lang nya eh approval ni JL.
Delete12:08 just as JLC pays for everything pag sya naman nagdala kay Elias abroad. Lagi din silang naga out of the country with his gf & Elias di lang syadong ma post.
DeleteJLC is a responsible father, sana matutunan ng deadbeat dads that financial support and quality time makes a good parent.
ReplyDeleteBaka naman ginawan ng savings account ni JLC si Elias di pa lang alam ni Ellen.
ReplyDeleteFor sure meron yan
DeleteNakatrust fund na yan.
DeleteMalamang meron yan. Elias is his only child for now so tagapagmana din sya ni JL
DeleteLove her answer na Elias doesn't go to school yet Kaya kng ano lang ang dapat ibigay. They both know their responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteKudos to this wonder momma!!
ReplyDeleteAng wild ni Ellen nung dalaga pero ang matured niya sa pag handle sa relationship niya with JLC dahil ama siya ni Elias. Hands down isa si Ellen na hinahangaan ko kasi even before pa dumating si Derek maayos ang co-parenting nila. Tularan sana ng iba si Ellen na hindi pinagdadamot at dinidiktahan ang bata. Wag lang kasing kapal ni Paolo na nag cheat na nga ayaw pa umamin ng pagkakamali
ReplyDeleteMabait din naman kasi c jlc. If hindi mabait malamang ipagdamot din c elias.
DeleteI think they are both mabait.
I think Ellen is genuinely a nice person, misunderstood lang. No wonder willing si JLC i-give up ang showbiz para sa kanya and magsettle sa Cebu. Unfortunately, it didn't work out. And yung sa kanila naman ni Derek, bago pa lang sila pero pinakasalan sya agad,considering na andaming nakarelasyon ni Derek na long term.
ReplyDeleteSana all ganito ang coparenting. Wag idamay ang mga bata sa away o di pagkakasunduan ng mga magulang. Wag din siraan ang magulang sa mata ng bata.
ReplyDelete1:37 merong mga ganyan na ginagamit ang anak para makaganti sa ex. Hindi na inisip na ang latay sa ginagawa nya ay habampanahon ang epekto sa bata.
DeleteGanito ang sagutan. Walang pa-keme. Transparent at honest. Acknowledged ang capacity ng both parties ng walang shady energy. Love Ellen and JLC for this. Ganito kapag totoong mahal ng mga magulang ang anak. Walang ibang gusto kundi mapabuti ang bata.
ReplyDeleteThis is why women should be financially independent but.... Don't look down or belittle stay at home moms that financially can't give. Call me old school pero 50-50 provision sa bata isn't fair if the mom decides to take care of her own kids . These moms are contributing their energy, their youth and most of their lives to nurture the kid/kids which is 90% tinoka talaga sa ina in the Philippine setting. Matriarchal society tayo, remember?
ReplyDelete8:56 I get what you mean. Raising a child can be a full time job for a mom kung walang yaya or relative to help babysit. Kaya madaming moms part time work lang talaga ang kaya nila kasi sila pa din yung taga alaga, tagaluto, tagalaba, sundo sa school, etc etc
DeleteSa true! When me and my husband separated, i asked for 25k for each child (we have 2) kasama na tuition dun ha and at least 20k for me and my basic needs kasama na bayarin sa kuryente and all. Umaray sya bakit daw kasama pati ako and i told him i had a career before we got married and ikaw ang nagpatigil sa akin mag work. Nag away pa nga kami dati kasi ayoko tumigil para at least i have my own money pero ayaw nya talaga kasi he’s working abroad & ayaw nya iasa sa yaya. So i told him i am his responsibility as well up until the time i get back on my feet bahala na wala na akong share. Dapat lang naman no kasi he was the one who decided on me not working. Paano naman mga basic needs ko. So no choice na sya kasi i told him VAWC is waving if ayaw nya. 😂
Deletet 1:41 PM Korak. If you're the primary child carer, you should be paid half of what a full time childcare provider would have been paid. Plus half of what a driver is paid if you also drive the kids to and from school, doctor appointments, activities.
DeleteKapal naman ng ibang nag cocoment dito na dapat 50-50 sa sustento sa bata both parents. So dapat working mom pero bulk ng pagpapalaki sa nanay pa rin. Aminin naman na hindi lahat ng tatay involved at tutok noh
ReplyDeleteMas makapal yata ung mga nanay na ginawang pangkabuhayan showcase ang anak. Di mo pala kaya suportahan tapos magaanak ka?!?! May mas kakapal pa ba sa ganun
DeleteAgree. Eh kung walang mag aalaga sa bata? Pano 50-50. Nas apag uusap ng magulang yan.
Deletewow, 5:05. widen your perspective. so anong tawag mo sa tatay na makapal ang mukha na kumuha ng kabit? kawawa talaga babae sa pinas. laging sa kanila ang sisi.
Delete6:49 pwedeng 50/50 rin ang time ng bata sa ama. Kung hindi din kaya ng ama ng mga bata dun nalang humigi ng mas malaking sustento. Si Ellen at JLC shared custody ang ginagawa kasi si Eliasc 15 days in a month na kay JLC
DeleteHuy 5:05 ang pag aaruga at pagtutok sa bata na Nanay mismo ang gumagawa 24/7 is a form of pagsuporta. Pera lang ba ang suporta sayo?
DeleteAt ang pGkakaroon ng anak, consenting yan sa dalawang adult, not unless surrogate or inabandon ng lalake pero hindi matic na pera ang support lang... Only in the Philippines dapat mahiya ka if hindi ka working mom.
5:05 how can a mom work kung sya ang primary caretaker nung bata aber? 50-50 can only be achieved kung literal na sa lahat hati kayo including the custody of child. Ganto palit kami ng tatay sya primary caretaker tas ako magbibigay ng 50% ng gastos payag ka? Haha
DeleteSharing responsibility and co parenting is not only financial. Pero huwag nyong dikdikin if magpakaina ang isang ina tapos hahanapan nyo pa ng pera para ambag? Wow judger kayo!
ReplyDeleteHands down to both Ellen and Cristine na parehas nagmature nung nagkaanak
ReplyDeleteCc: Paolo Contis
ReplyDeleteSa ibang bansa, kung may parent na primary carer, icacalculate nila how much usually bayad sa child care provider, tapos the other parent will have to pay half of that to the primary carer. The primary carer will pay their half by providing the "services." Fair lang. Dito kasi sa pinas walang pagpapahalaga sa child care ng parents.
ReplyDeleteThis should be an example to parents out there who are not together. I think this is maturity in terms of shared responsibilities. Aminin na natin na minsan meron sa isang parent who would always take advantage financially yung tipong ang hinihingi eh parang buong angkan niya ang gusto ng financial support.
ReplyDeleteButi pa to, unlike sa kakilala ko na yung mother nya more than 100% ng financial support hinihingi sa tatay ng anak, dahil dun rin kinukuha yung financial needs ng isa nya pang anak sa ibang ama. Kaya nung di na pinadaan sa kanya sustento, nanggagalaiti kasi di malaman saan huhugutin pambuhay dun sa anak na may deadbeat father.
ReplyDeleteVery empowered si Ellen.Tumanggi sa malaking child support.Kaya din naman kasi nya talaga ang iprovide lahat lahat kay Elias
ReplyDeleteThere You Go... A JLC in a world full of Paolo Contis!
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