Hindi po yan normal. Nobody's just calling it out here sa pinas. Punta ka ibang bansa, magiging social pariah ka and women in your city will agree not to date you if people found out you and your friends are doing that.
Sus, let's be honest. Ang baba nga ng standards ng paguugali sa atin kumpara sa ibang bansa. Most of us are loud, pintasera, butangera, judgemental, chismosa, materialistic, at mababaw.
Ang mga babae sa group chats nila they share photos of men kapag they spotted a yummy. And it is all for fun. Usually kapag may single girl pa sa group and the married ones will chime along.
When you are in a secure relationship na walang insecurities, na you can talk everything without sugar coating, hindi big deal sa inyo yang mag partner. Especially kung wala kayong cheating issue.
They can talk about it freely dahil hindi pa nangyayari sa kanila. Pero, kung halimbawang malaman ni Slater na ang mga kaibigan niyang lalaki ay nagpapantasya sa mga litrato ng asawa niya, mag iiba pananaw niyan sa buhay.
When you are in a secure relationship you will never do this things kasi may respeto ka sa partner mo. Can Slater imagine if it’s Kryz photos being passed on? Or kung may anak syang babae in the future okay lng ba sa knya as a dad pinagpantasyahan anak nya?
True! Ang daming hypocrite sa pinas… let them fantasize there is nothing wrong with that! As woman i fantasize actors and book character and very much married and i love my husband too.. Aarte ng namba bash! Sus! Perfect nyo!
Tapos yung mga nagagalit sila pa mismo yung post ng post na kakaramput ang suot at liyad liyad pose. Really what is the motive for those ladies who do that?
Not all, but most men really do that, that's the reality. Hindi lang makapaniwala dahil mismo si Slater na nagsabi.,marami fangirls si Slater e. I bet those are even "Crushing" on him, despite being married w/ kids. Ngayon nadismaya. Pero truth naman talaga sinabi nya, pangit lang pakinggan or hirap i-accept na "Normal" thing sa mga boys pala 'yun. Pero that really happens, look at all those wrecked relationships dahil sa mga ganun. Even affairs starts w/ that, from fantasizing dahil mas sexy si other woman. Sad but true e.
I think that this has been going on since cameras were invented. I’m a Gen X and we didn’t have the cam phones and what not but we got school supplies and notebooks with celebrity photos and posters of our favorite actors on the walls. It’s perfectly normal to admire people you find attractive. Being admired doesn’t make you a plaything. A lot of people have a picture of Jesus in their homes, do they consider him a toy?
Ang pinaguusapan namin sa group chat eh kung totoo bang single sya? Pakistalk, baka may asawa ah. Wala ba syang history of nanakit ng babae? Sino mga ex nya? Maayos ba sila nagbreak? Saan ka dinate? Thoughtful ba sya? Uy, si mike bastos, wag ientertain ganyang lalaki. Anong dadalhin mo sa potluck? Ganern pinaguusapan ng mga babae.
so far sa limang group chat ko na mga babae lang, hindi naman kami nagsha share ng mga pics ng lalake— more on make up, mga murang buffet sa QC, memes, lovelife ni KC at mga bags ni Heart ang pinag uusapan namin doon
Hahahaha! Same kame naman usually kamusta na, ano magandang gamit na mura sa lazada, sino yung classmate namin nung HS na nakakainis or nangungutang pa din and about advises on marriage and parenting
Exactly!! I stopped doing that too, honestly parang mas at peace pa ako not posting my photos especially of my kids. I mean why do we share even our selfies publicly anyway? Admit natin for attention yan. I have a gc with my relatives where I share photos of my family and that is enough for me.
Been one of those girls na naikalat yung photo sa gc ng mga lalaki (fully clothed) kasi ang laki raw pala ng boobs ko. The sender actually said na check nila once nakita nila in person kung talagang malaki or sa pic lang yun. Still traumatized 7 years later.
Sorry to hear what you have gone through. Tas mababasa mo pa comments dito na kesyo OA, normal at ok lang yun. I hope you find the peace and healing that you deserve.
Well totoo naman siya. Kung s?!*x video nga Naka kalat pag Meron viral atat na atat mga lalaki Kaya Hinde ko nilalahat ha but most yes!sa true lang tayo
Grabe ka OA mga tao sa pinas. Bahala kayo dyan maging perfect. I'm not a fan pero normal naman kasi talaga. Di naman nya sinabing tama, sabi lang normal. Which is true naman.
As much as I don't want to admit it, I get him. Babae ako pero may friend group akong may 1 or 2 na nagsesend ng pic ng cute or hot guys randomly paminsan minsan. Mas frequent nung bata bata kami when I guess our libidos were abundant lol. And kapag nagsesend sila now, I do the same. If gwapo or hot I would say it. Kunyare a guy posted a sexy photo on IG and was picked up in a site like cosmo or even here tapos nagcomment yung iba na ang hot niya or "jojowain", or other jargons, isn't that the same?
E kaya nga rin may porn. Kasi mga boys mostly ang viewers, ganyan naman talaga mga boys. Not naman the wife is tolerating, pero nangyayari talaga. Just like with girl groups, na pinag-uusapan a guy na yummy daw. Lalo pag narinig mo mag-usap mga women about that, you'll be blown away sa mga words! Like omg mamsh! Edi lalo na sa mga boys!
Mga nagsasabi na ok lang mga lalake kayo noh? Mga babae kasi hindi gagawin ang ganyan. Kung mahilig kayo sa japan kayo pumunta doon maraming AV place doon kayo magfantasize legal at normal rin doon.
IMO more accurate way to put it is - it happens. Not to say kung tama or mali but reality is, left & right, matino or manyakis may gc’s talaga mga boys na nagpapasahan ng pictures ng girls na nakikita nila online. It is what it is. Kahit pa nakakainis sating girls ganun talaga galawan nila.
A group of men sharing and fantasizing pics of girls in a gc should not be normal at di dapat sakyan especially if married ka na. Pwede namang no comment na lang - bakit kailangan sakyan? Misogyny? Mas ok ung take ng podcast nila Saab Magalona about this kind of issue.
Boys (men) are disgusting lol. Nature talaga nila yan eh. They are programmed to be visual creatures. NOT an excuse to make bastos ha but my husband always tells me his thing down there just has a mind of its own and boys are always horny lol.
You’re too much saying na disgusting sila. It is their wiring but that doesn’t mean na bastos sila- depende yan sa pagkatao. If healthy ang marriage mo then healthy din ang sex life nyo, you are meant to enjoy each other and di mo masasabi yan about your husband.
Wth i love them but sobrang off nito ha! Korean nga may cases about group chat diba ng mga celeb. They were talking about girls they had *** with, sent pictures & videos etc.... but imagine how those conversations started!? Sa ganyan rin na sinasabi ni slater na "normal" crush or type. Sobrang off! Nakak disappoint naman
I’d like to give him the benefit of the doubt and think that what he simply means is — normal naman na mag admire ka sa opposite sex kahit na committed ka na. Which is true. There’s nothing wrong with that. I hope inexpound niya na if you do it often and if you don’t know your limits, it can easily become an inappropriate behaviour, lalo na sa may asawang tao.
Hay idk but mga pinoy friends ko lang sa FB or IG ang may K magshare ng or magcomment sa pic ng magagandang babae other than their gf o asawa. Tapos ang common sa mga lalaki dyan ang may kabit, like it’s not even a big deal, kasi lalaki.
NORMAL- common or madalas nangyayare. depende naman kasi yan sa pagkakasabe, sinabe ba niyang walang mali sa ganyang gawain? minsan yung comprehension natin gamitin natin hindi porket kasi may narinig ka lang na "normal" sa sentence jinustify na kaagad yung mali.
Ay beks ikaw yata ang may problema sa comprehension. Normal and common are not direct synonyms of each other, may nuances yung word na normal and highly depends on the context. Obesity is common but its not the norm. In this case, he used it in away that implies that normal=something is within acceptable bounds or is within what is considered the norm. Yung context is that sinabi niya na it's part of life, at sakyan mo lang (conform) which means he is pertaining to a norm. Pa-edgy pa more.
It's not normal for MEN. I have access to my husband's phone kasi I manage our business and handle our comms and I have never in our 10 years of marriage saw any of his GCs where they pass around pics of women to comment on their bodies. You know where I see this behaviour? Mga subreddit na kabastusan (linked in Twitter) kahit mga naka normal na damit na babae pagnanasaan nila. Pati sa GC ng teenager kong pamangkin. BOYS do this because they are immature. So Slater should not just say na normal yan sa mga lalaki. At sa harap pa ng asawa nya ha. Eh kung photo pala ni Kryz ang pinagpapantasyahan, I'm sure the conversation would be different.
Baka hindi nila gawain. Hindi porke't ginagawa mo, ibig sabihin ginagawa din ng iba. Ako kahit sa close friends ko nahihiya ako mag send ng ganyan. Casual lang na cute si ganito sa pelikula pero yung talking about fantasizing never.
I remember nung nagkataon na naka-on pa screen ng phone ng bf for a few seconds tapos yung nakabukas eh group chat nila puro lalaki, tapos may picture ng mga babae na mej malaswa, meron malaswa talaga. It's like their sharing venue of girls/photos they find online. It's NOT OK. It's not nature, ninormalize lang throughout history ang ganyang ugali ng mga lalaki. Kala nila nakakacool objectifying women to other men. What if kakilala pa nila yung mga yun or women they've been with tapos shinare yung compromising picture sa ibang lalaki, makapagyabang lang.
Mga lalaki ganyan mga group chat, sharing of kalaswaan. Pero mga babae gumagawa ng facebook groups like "Are we dating the same guy" "Beware of this man" "Abusive BF Alert" types of groups to protect each other from men. Kita mo pinagkaiba ng genders. Kakasuka.
ugh kadiri mga comments dito. imagine if that happened to you? being fantasized without your knowledge and consent? di ba kayo nabobother? i hope you don’t have kids na babae kasi you’re all disgusting.
Kung hindi mo naman pala alam anuman , paano ka maapektuhan ng mga nasa loob lang ng isip ng ibang mga tao eh ? Ano sila , may superhuman reality-warping powers ? Ano ka , may superhuman psychic sensitivities ? What you don’t know at all cannot hurt you whasoever , in the context of when it comes to the private thoughts and personal opinions of other individuals
Siguro maas appropriate sabihin "REALITY" ito. Regardless of generation. Kaya nga mga alcoholic drinks eversince babae talaga na pagpapantasyahan ang model e.
I get itut hanppens na nag ffantasize married or not. Pero if in a relationshp, wag na mag dwell on it at baka kung saan pa mapunta and respeto lang at wag magkalat ng photos ng iba sa gc lalo na yung walang consent. That is so wrong.
Seriously though if a girl shares a private photo with Slater's friends and those get shared and fantasized in their GC. Ruminate on this and say it'll is normal. Common but definitely not normal.
Eventhough Slater is my schoolmate in college but I really felt awkward with this couple. Parang ang pe perfect nila to the point na hindi na believable? Off na rin ako kay Slater during PBB, shock ako when he was introduced, 4years younger than his actual age.
Respect women knowing that you have a wife and a sister/s.
Basta fully clothe ang babae cge pero kapag wala mali pagpasahan pwera nalang galing sa adult sites. Track dapat ng NBI yung mga nagpapasa ng scandalous pics at videos kasi nakakasira ng buhay yan.
Fantasizing is normal. What is not okay and illegal (online sexual harassment) is when compromising photos or videos are being spread and shared in group chats for men or women to fantasize about without the consent of the subject of the photo/video. This holds especially true to girls who agreed to take nudes of themselves exclusively for their significant other's personal viewing pleasure,honly to end up sa mga group chats ng kung sino sino. I know it happens, and a lot of people participate sa mga gc. But the fact is, it is still wrong - immoral and illegal.
It’s common pero wag naman natin gawing normal. Dapat hindi lang mga babae ang pinapaalalahanin natin na ingatan ang katawan at sarili nila. Let’s instill to young boys’ mind to respect girls as well.
I have gc with my gay friends and we share pix of yummy boys.hahaha! Ganun din naman mga lalake! Ang masama is focus na si guy sa iisang babae and super like, comment and stalk na over socmed. Oh well, kanya-kanya tayo.
I am torn between acknowledging it's wrong and OA ng delivery ng Gen-whatever. For this issue, there is really a reason to call out, however, some issues are just "concerns" that become issues because of how they expect the world to be perfect.
I don’t really get the hyped of this couple. Okay naman sila but always remember na influencers sila so you see what they chose for you to see. May times tlaga na scripted sila. With regards to the issue, madaming ako nababasa na they’re very secure to each other kaya nagagawa ni Slater iyan but i disagree. Being married for more than 15 yrs secure din ako sa marriage ko but my husband respect me as his wife. I can open his phone anytime and they never have that kind of group chats. We are living in the states for years now trust me, married guys don’t do that unless they wanna screw their marriage. Isa lng tlaga masasabi ko, medyo immature iyang kabarkada ni Slater at bastos!
Bu why do girls post seductive photos? Diba to attract men and let them fantasize over them. So why cry foul if they become object of the fantasies? Haay!
Hala sya oh. Feeling mo ba sa lalaki umiikot ang utak ng mga babae? Minsa feel lang nila sarili nila kasi nga naman ang ganda nila. Minsan ganda ng makeup or outfit, sayang effort pag di napicturan man lang for their future appreciation. Pag nagtravel ka tapos may magandang view, sarap picturan, tingnan, at ipost di ba??
What’s normal is not always right. Sakyan mo lang means “enabler” ka rin. OMG, kakadisappoint si Slater. Mga out of touch dial pareho. Follower pa man din ako ng couple na to. Smh
Yuck. Husband will never take part or tolerate that. He would rather lead men to the knowledge of God's heart for them. That is not at all acceptable, let us not normalize husbands doing that or agreeing to that.
The 'sakyan' mo na lang part is thumbs down for me. It could be his chance to educate his friends. He should've been a good example of how a husband should be to his wife and to his sons.
9:58 Wala talaga akong kaibigan na married at very open sa pagpapantasya nila sa ibang babae AS A GROUP. May mga married men sigurong ganun but they probably look at photos discreetly. It's not something to be proud to be honest.
2:30 exactly! Ma swerte pala ako because i belong to a group where husbands respect their wives and other women too. Or siguro dahil nasa late 30’s na kami and our friends are 40’s so may mga anak pang babae kaya as dads, they should be a good example to their kids.
Grabe, nakakalungkot yung mga ibang comments dito, they don’t know basic decency and the word CONSENT. Also hindi po ito normal, meron po tayo g batas about dito. Let’s stop enabling this type of behavior.
I don’t get the hype with this couple. The guy comes across as an overconfident know-it-all, while the girl is just… annoying.The way she talks, the way she makes pa cute, cringe. And netizens are putting this couple in a pedestal na parang picture-perfect couple and they want to be like them. Like, why?
Agree. There’s a difference between being truly wise and trying hard to be wise. They obviously come from very privileged backgrounds but that doesn’t make them better (or an ideal) than the rest.
I am not coming from inggit, in fact, I loved Kryz pre-wedding. She was so entertaining when she focused on travel, fashion, make-up, and adventures with the blogger besties.
I know I know, everyone changes and matures, but their insights sometimes become so out of touch that it borders on silliness. I remember they had a podcast about choosing someone who is rich, and someone who is hardworking:
It’s easy for them to say that hardworking people are better partners - I agree too, but they can confidently say that with gumption because they never knew living with a minimum wage and waiting for next payout to buy daily necessities. They can afford to be “extremely hardworking and passionate about their craft” because they don’t have to think about survival.
Sorry for the super long rant. I wish ibaba nila ung sarili nila sa mighty pedestal paminsan.
In this digital & soc med age, talagang once may picture ka na accessible online, like wildfire yan puwede magspread. Subject for scrutiny o ng pantasya o even obsession yan lalo't babae ka. Kahit pa fully clothed ka pero litaw ganda mo o hubog ng katawan mo. Kaya para sa mga taong gusto ng privacy, sa gatherings iwas din sa papicture kahit group lalo't di mo mapipigilan magpost. Sarili mo namang pictures, kundi ka celebrity, gasgas man sabihin, think before you click. Di mo makokontrol dumi ng isip at kalokohan ng ibang tao. As for slater, wag mo lahatin ng lalaki. Kanya kanyang trip at prinsipyo yan. Bottomline dyan, contentment sa asawa mo, respeto sa asawa mo at sa kapwa nya babae. Your wife should be your all, your fantasy & reality. Hindi masamang maging open minded, pero balansehin din ng kunsensya. Tama isang comment dito eh. Baligtarin natin. Hindi ba insulto sa pagkalalaki ni slater kung ibang lalaki pagnanasaan wife nya
100% agree with your comment! Kahit common na iyan sa ibang lalaki, respeto pa din sa asawa mo. Only immature guys will do that! Sa edad ni Slater, wla na sana iyang mga ganyan sa kanila. Kaya never akong nag sana all sa couple na to because there’s something in them na very scripted. Gusto ko lng tlaga si scottie ang swerte nila sa anak nila.
Kaya ever-increasing sa buong mundo ang mga singlr ngayon na single at ever-decreasing ang mga in-a-relationship ngayon sa buong mundo , napaka-impossible na ang pagiging absolutely monogamous sa ganyan mga standards kagaya niyan , tsk tsk tsk
Yeah. Thought it's just a phase sa boys/men. At pag natagpuan na THE ONE nila, stick to ONE talaga sa mata, isip, puso, salita at gawa. Tipong kahit nakahubo ang ibang babae, wala na effect. There are a few guys who are like that. And then there are some like slater. An unfortunate reality. Unfortunately for the women they're with.
Di ko sinasabi ng tama pero Bakit pag mga babae nagpasa2 pics ng mga lalake, pinagpapantasyahan eh ok lng? Pro pag lalake ang gumawa eh yuck, kadire, bastos? Bkt double standards?
King kayo kayo lang okay Basta walang lalabas na istorya s circle nyo at Wala kayong resibo, purely men’s talk lang. Respetuhan lang walang bastusan. In that case, kubg ayaw nyo mapag- usapan mga jowa o asawa nyo, di wag gawin. Also pag mga babae ganun din naman as women talk right Basta kayo kayo lang, walng post s social media. Hindi lahat agree s way ng convo nyo so keep it upon your circles. This works with this couple Pero s iba hindi
This was a case of using the wrong term. Instead of using "Common", he used "Normal" which raised eyebrows for sure. Had he used the word common, we would have all agreed.
normal naman talaga yan sa mga lalaki, hindi lang katanggap tanggap kasi sa pinas dapat perfect ka bawal ka magkamali
ReplyDeleteWala naman masama kung mag isa sila mag fantasize pero yung sa isang group mag fantasize sila sa isa or multiple girls. Anong conversation nila
DeleteKahit din naman ang mga girls ganyan. Ano bang difference?
DeleteMagkaiba kase ang mistake sa may intention ka to do bad. Ang mali ay mali. Periodt.
DeleteThis topic is not something for everyone to think out loud.
DeleteDifferent kasi ang private convo sa public topic na. It may come out wrong.
And to add, there's Safe Spaces Act too.
Naku Day. Huwag kang normal normal diyan. Try mo sa ibang bansa, diba pupuntahan ka ng pulis.
Deletetrue yan, bnbuksan ko gc ng asawa ko mga ganyan ang usapan
DeleteTrue! Normal na normal even girls do the same minsan nga tinatag pa ang buong tropa sa comment section. Kaloka over sensitive talaga sa twitter haha
DeleteI’m a guy pero depende pa din. Girls also do this naman. Pero pag yung mga private photos na pinapasa pasa nyo eh yun ang di na maganda. Kaya depende.
Delete1143 huh? Hindi nman lahat sa ibang bansa ganyan. 😂
DeletePicture mo ikalat ng mga mamang TODA sa gc ok lang sayo?
DeleteTotoo normal na yan. Kahit sa mga girls normal na na may pictures ng guys at pag-chikahan yung sizes duh
Delete1143 Pinaguusapan sa Pilipinas. Bakit magiibang bansa pa. lol!!!
Deleteanon 11:43 ako si anon 10:41 at nsa ibang bansa ako nakatira, hindi magaaksya panahon ang mga pulis sayo
DeleteHindi po yan normal. Nobody's just calling it out here sa pinas. Punta ka ibang bansa, magiging social pariah ka and women in your city will agree not to date you if people found out you and your friends are doing that.
DeleteSus, let's be honest. Ang baba nga ng standards ng paguugali sa atin kumpara sa ibang bansa. Most of us are loud, pintasera, butangera, judgemental, chismosa, materialistic, at mababaw.
Deletejust because it’s normalized doesn’t mean it’s right lol pagtatanggol nyo pa na parehas lang ang boy and girls. bottomline mali yung action.
DeleteNormal sa mga walang morals, sure
DeleteAng mga babae sa group chats nila they share photos of men kapag they spotted a yummy. And it is all for fun. Usually kapag may single girl pa sa group and the married ones will chime along.
DeleteNormalized cheating and toxic masculinity. Welcome to the Philippines!
Deleteusually pag girls, nagchichikahan lang walang pagpapantasya. pero pag mga lalaki iba yun.
Deletereal talk lang naman si slater. totoo naman na naguusap ng ganyan mga lalaki pero di naman niya sinabi na yun lang ang pinaguusapan nila
DeleteWhen you are in a secure relationship na walang insecurities, na you can talk everything without sugar coating, hindi big deal sa inyo yang mag partner. Especially kung wala kayong cheating issue.
ReplyDeleteThey can talk about it freely dahil hindi pa nangyayari sa kanila. Pero, kung halimbawang malaman ni Slater na ang mga kaibigan niyang lalaki ay nagpapantasya sa mga litrato ng asawa niya, mag iiba pananaw niyan sa buhay.
DeleteWhen you are in a secure relationship you will never do this things kasi may respeto ka sa partner mo. Can Slater imagine if it’s Kryz photos being passed on? Or kung may anak syang babae in the future okay lng ba sa knya as a dad pinagpantasyahan anak nya?
Deleteget a life guys. sobrang straight at bait nyo kasi. as if naman di kau nagfantasize sa opposite sex ng ganyan
DeleteTrue! Ang daming hypocrite sa pinas… let them fantasize there is nothing wrong with that! As woman i fantasize actors and book character and very much married and i love my husband too.. Aarte ng namba bash! Sus! Perfect nyo!
ReplyDeleteLet's be honest, women does the same thing on their group chats.
DeleteTapos yung mga nagagalit sila pa mismo yung post ng post na kakaramput ang suot at liyad liyad pose. Really what is the motive for those ladies who do that?
DeleteCelebrities ok lang siguro pero kung mga kakilala nila na babae pinagpapantasyahan nila lalo na kung mga married women or in a relationship, very bad.
Deletewell, kung may asawa ka na at may mga pagpapantasya ka pa sa iba kawawa naman asawa mo
Deleteaware ka bang iba ang pagpapantasya ng mga babae sa mga lalaki?
DeleteNot all, but most men really do that, that's the reality. Hindi lang makapaniwala dahil mismo si Slater na nagsabi.,marami fangirls si Slater e. I bet those are even "Crushing" on him, despite being married w/ kids. Ngayon nadismaya. Pero truth naman talaga sinabi nya, pangit lang pakinggan or hirap i-accept na "Normal" thing sa mga boys pala 'yun. Pero that really happens, look at all those wrecked relationships dahil sa mga ganun. Even affairs starts w/ that, from fantasizing dahil mas sexy si other woman. Sad but true e.
ReplyDeleteAng dami kong nakikita sa FB na mga babae sinishare pa sa timeline mga poging actors, models etc. normal na normal behh OA lang yung basher haha
DeleteI think that this has been going on since cameras were invented. I’m a Gen X and we didn’t have the cam phones and what not but we got school supplies and notebooks with celebrity photos and posters of our favorite actors on the walls. It’s perfectly normal to admire people you find attractive. Being admired doesn’t make you a plaything. A lot of people have a picture of Jesus in their homes, do they consider him a toy?
ReplyDeleteAy teh bakit nadamay si Jesus? Mali naman comparison mo.
DeleteAy Gen X ka nga. lol
DeleteNakakaloka na si Jesus ang ginawang reference ni Gen X... Napaka brilliant naman point mo para ma justify. Tama nga si 6:43. Gen X ka nga AHAHAHA
DeleteWhere's the lie though?
ReplyDeleteHindi ko narinig yung podcast but when he said it's normal, did he justify it? Did he say it's the right thing to do?
At hindi ba ginagawa rin ito ng mga girl friends in their private group chats?
Ang pinaguusapan namin sa group chat eh kung totoo bang single sya? Pakistalk, baka may asawa ah. Wala ba syang history of nanakit ng babae? Sino mga ex nya? Maayos ba sila nagbreak? Saan ka dinate? Thoughtful ba sya? Uy, si mike bastos, wag ientertain ganyang lalaki. Anong dadalhin mo sa potluck? Ganern pinaguusapan ng mga babae.
Deleteso far sa limang group chat ko na mga babae lang, hindi naman kami nagsha share ng mga pics ng lalake— more on make up, mga murang buffet sa QC, memes, lovelife ni KC at mga bags ni Heart ang pinag uusapan namin doon
DeleteHahahaha! Same kame naman usually kamusta na, ano magandang gamit na mura sa lazada, sino yung classmate namin nung HS na nakakainis or nangungutang pa din and about advises on marriage and parenting
DeleteIf you don’t allow your photo to be taken, nobody will spread it around.
ReplyDeleteNang victim blame ka pa. 🙄Paano yung photos without consent? Dami din nagkakalat ng ganto.
DeleteTrue din naman. Ano point ng mga girls na sobrang pa sexy? Obviously they want ppl fantasising over them… Sus
DeleteDon’t post your pictures if you don’t want people to share them. Some people couldn not resist to share, it’s part of the social media phenomena.
ReplyDeleteExactly!! I stopped doing that too, honestly parang mas at peace pa ako not posting my photos especially of my kids. I mean why do we share even our selfies publicly anyway? Admit natin for attention yan. I have a gc with my relatives where I share photos of my family and that is enough for me.
Deletewhat if somebody posted it as a group pic. don't normalize kabastusan.
DeleteBeen one of those girls na naikalat yung photo sa gc ng mga lalaki (fully clothed) kasi ang laki raw pala ng boobs ko. The sender actually said na check nila once nakita nila in person kung talagang malaki or sa pic lang yun. Still traumatized 7 years later.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you're going through that.. Some people really are just trash
DeleteThis one. Hindi pa nangyayari sa kanila mag asawa kaya ok lang. Yung ng macatcall ka, nakakainis na.
DeleteSorry to hear what you have gone through. Tas mababasa mo pa comments dito na kesyo OA, normal at ok lang yun. I hope you find the peace and healing that you deserve.
DeleteWell totoo naman siya. Kung s?!*x video nga Naka kalat pag Meron viral atat na atat mga lalaki Kaya Hinde ko nilalahat ha but most yes!sa true lang tayo
ReplyDeleteGrabe ka OA mga tao sa pinas. Bahala kayo dyan maging perfect. I'm not a fan pero normal naman kasi talaga. Di naman nya sinabing tama, sabi lang normal. Which is true naman.
ReplyDeleteAs much as I don't want to admit it, I get him. Babae ako pero may friend group akong may 1 or 2 na nagsesend ng pic ng cute or hot guys randomly paminsan minsan. Mas frequent nung bata bata kami when I guess our libidos were abundant lol. And kapag nagsesend sila now, I do the same. If gwapo or hot I would say it.
ReplyDeleteKunyare a guy posted a sexy photo on IG and was picked up in a site like cosmo or even here tapos nagcomment yung iba na ang hot niya or "jojowain", or other jargons, isn't that the same?
E kaya nga rin may porn. Kasi mga boys mostly ang viewers, ganyan naman talaga mga boys. Not naman the wife is tolerating, pero nangyayari talaga. Just like with girl groups, na pinag-uusapan a guy na yummy daw. Lalo pag narinig mo mag-usap mga women about that, you'll be blown away sa mga words! Like omg mamsh! Edi lalo na sa mga boys!
ReplyDeleteYou're wrong! Check mo ang data sa pinas women ang top viewers ng Phub!
DeleteMga nagsasabi na ok lang mga lalake kayo noh? Mga babae kasi hindi gagawin ang ganyan. Kung mahilig kayo sa japan kayo pumunta doon maraming AV place doon kayo magfantasize legal at normal rin doon.
ReplyDeleteIMO more accurate way to put it is - it happens. Not to say kung tama or mali but reality is, left & right, matino or manyakis may gc’s talaga mga boys na nagpapasahan ng pictures ng girls na nakikita nila online. It is what it is. Kahit pa nakakainis sating girls ganun talaga galawan nila.
ReplyDeleteA group of men sharing and fantasizing pics of girls in a gc should not be normal at di dapat sakyan especially if married ka na. Pwede namang no comment na lang - bakit kailangan sakyan? Misogyny? Mas ok ung take ng podcast nila Saab Magalona about this kind of issue.
ReplyDeleteBoys (men) are disgusting lol. Nature talaga nila yan eh. They are programmed to be visual creatures. NOT an excuse to make bastos ha but my husband always tells me his thing down there just has a mind of its own and boys are always horny lol.
ReplyDeleteYou’re too much saying na disgusting sila. It is their wiring but that doesn’t mean na bastos sila- depende yan sa pagkatao. If healthy ang marriage mo then healthy din ang sex life nyo, you are meant to enjoy each other and di mo masasabi yan about your husband.
DeleteLol anon 236 masyado kang seryoso. I didn't mean it in that context. Thus the lol in the sentence. Goodness. Loosen up.
DeleteWth i love them but sobrang off nito ha! Korean nga may cases about group chat diba ng mga celeb. They were talking about girls they had *** with, sent pictures & videos etc.... but imagine how those conversations started!? Sa ganyan rin na sinasabi ni slater na "normal" crush or type. Sobrang off! Nakak disappoint naman
ReplyDeletegirls do it too. sa panahon ngayon same same nlang. wag na magpaka holy yung iba jan
ReplyDeleteI’d like to give him the benefit of the doubt and think that what he simply means is — normal naman na mag admire ka sa opposite sex kahit na committed ka na. Which is true. There’s nothing wrong with that. I hope inexpound niya na if you do it often and if you don’t know your limits, it can easily become an inappropriate behaviour, lalo na sa may asawang tao.
ReplyDeleteHay idk but mga pinoy friends ko lang sa FB or IG ang may K magshare ng or magcomment sa pic ng magagandang babae other than their gf o asawa. Tapos ang common sa mga lalaki dyan ang may kabit, like it’s not even a big deal, kasi lalaki.
NORMAL- common or madalas nangyayare. depende naman kasi yan sa pagkakasabe, sinabe ba niyang walang mali sa ganyang gawain? minsan yung comprehension natin gamitin natin hindi porket kasi may narinig ka lang na "normal" sa sentence jinustify na kaagad yung mali.
ReplyDeleteAy beks ikaw yata ang may problema sa comprehension. Normal and common are not direct synonyms of each other, may nuances yung word na normal and highly depends on the context. Obesity is common but its not the norm. In this case, he used it in away that implies that normal=something is within acceptable bounds or is within what is considered the norm. Yung context is that sinabi niya na it's part of life, at sakyan mo lang (conform) which means he is pertaining to a norm. Pa-edgy pa more.
DeleteIt's not normal for MEN. I have access to my husband's phone kasi I manage our business and handle our comms and I have never in our 10 years of marriage saw any of his GCs where they pass around pics of women to comment on their bodies. You know where I see this behaviour? Mga subreddit na kabastusan (linked in Twitter) kahit mga naka normal na damit na babae pagnanasaan nila. Pati sa GC ng teenager kong pamangkin. BOYS do this because they are immature. So Slater should not just say na normal yan sa mga lalaki. At sa harap pa ng asawa nya ha. Eh kung photo pala ni Kryz ang pinagpapantasyahan, I'm sure the conversation would be different.
ReplyDeleteWhile I replied to comments here saying na ladies do it too, you made a very sound argument and I absolutely agree.
DeleteTotoo naman na minsan nagsh-share ng mga litrato ang mga lalake ng babae. Pero walang sinabi na tama yun.
ReplyDeleteMejo oa lang magreact mga nasa Twitter!
ReplyDeleteSa totoo lang naman normal na nangyayare naman tlaga yan. Dami kasing pa woke na akala mo anlilinis.
ReplyDeleteBaka hindi nila gawain. Hindi porke't ginagawa mo, ibig sabihin ginagawa din ng iba. Ako kahit sa close friends ko nahihiya ako mag send ng ganyan. Casual lang na cute si ganito sa pelikula pero yung talking about fantasizing never.
DeleteIkaw yun, malinis ka kasi! Wag mo itulad sayo ang lahat. Hindi ikaw ang sukatan ng normal!
DeleteKawawa naman yung mga anditong nagmamake excuses for the kamanyakan ng mga partners nila. This is your newsflash na hindi lahat ng lalake manyak.
ReplyDeleteI remember nung nagkataon na naka-on pa screen ng phone ng bf for a few seconds tapos yung nakabukas eh group chat nila puro lalaki, tapos may picture ng mga babae na mej malaswa, meron malaswa talaga. It's like their sharing venue of girls/photos they find online. It's NOT OK. It's not nature, ninormalize lang throughout history ang ganyang ugali ng mga lalaki. Kala nila nakakacool objectifying women to other men. What if kakilala pa nila yung mga yun or women they've been with tapos shinare yung compromising picture sa ibang lalaki, makapagyabang lang.
ReplyDeleteMga lalaki ganyan mga group chat, sharing of kalaswaan. Pero mga babae gumagawa ng facebook groups like "Are we dating the same guy" "Beware of this man" "Abusive BF Alert" types of groups to protect each other from men. Kita mo pinagkaiba ng genders. Kakasuka.
ReplyDeleteNot all men. I know guys (not all though) who fear God and avoids these kind of things. My hubby included but we have a happy s*x life.
DeleteHindi nila kasi alam gaano nakakatakot maging babae. Naranasan ba nilang mag bilis ng lakad kasi may sumusunod sa kanila? Kada kilos nakakatakot
Deleteugh kadiri mga comments dito. imagine if that happened to you? being fantasized without your knowledge and consent? di ba kayo nabobother? i hope you don’t have kids na babae kasi you’re all disgusting.
ReplyDeleteSobrang disappointing. Ang baba ng moral standards ng marami.
DeleteKung hindi mo naman pala alam anuman , paano ka maapektuhan ng mga nasa loob lang ng isip ng ibang mga tao eh ? Ano sila , may superhuman reality-warping powers ? Ano ka , may superhuman psychic sensitivities ? What you don’t know at all cannot hurt you whasoever , in the context of when it comes to the private thoughts and personal opinions of other individuals
DeleteSiguro maas appropriate sabihin "REALITY" ito. Regardless of generation. Kaya nga mga alcoholic drinks eversince babae talaga na pagpapantasyahan ang model e.
ReplyDeleteslater kadiri. anyone here who doesnt find this and him problematic is also kadiri
ReplyDeleteI get itut hanppens na nag ffantasize married or not. Pero if in a relationshp, wag na mag dwell on it at baka kung saan pa mapunta and respeto lang at wag magkalat ng photos ng iba sa gc lalo na yung walang consent. That is so wrong.
ReplyDeleteSus babae din naman ganyan, SS ng poging guy from insta hahaha. That’s the reality. Any gender may ganyan.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though if a girl shares a private photo with Slater's friends and those get shared and fantasized in their GC. Ruminate on this and say it'll is normal. Common but definitely not normal.
ReplyDeleteAyan na nagkamali na.
ReplyDeleteBakit ba kasi pinakikinggan tong 2 pa couple goals na to
ReplyDeleteBecaue unlike some Pinoy vloggers (hello, Donnalyn and friends), mas quality naman sila.
Delete12:37 More of clout chasers and fake... anong quality pinagsasabi mo...?
DeleteEventhough Slater is my schoolmate in college but I really felt awkward with this couple. Parang ang pe perfect nila to the point na hindi na believable? Off na rin ako kay Slater during PBB, shock ako when he was introduced, 4years younger than his actual age.
DeleteRespect women knowing that you have a wife and a sister/s.
Deleted na ang video?
Basta fully clothe ang babae cge pero kapag wala mali pagpasahan pwera nalang galing sa adult sites. Track dapat ng NBI yung mga nagpapasa ng scandalous pics at videos kasi nakakasira ng buhay yan.
ReplyDeleteFantasizing is normal. What is not okay and illegal (online sexual harassment) is when compromising photos or videos are being spread and shared in group chats for men or women to fantasize about without the consent of the subject of the photo/video. This holds especially true to girls who agreed to take nudes of themselves exclusively for their significant other's personal viewing pleasure,honly to end up sa mga group chats ng kung sino sino. I know it happens, and a lot of people participate sa mga gc. But the fact is, it is still wrong - immoral and illegal.
ReplyDeleteSadly marami na ngayon na hindi na iniisip ang morals. Masyadong woke na dapat liberated daw.
DeleteIt’s common pero wag naman natin gawing normal. Dapat hindi lang mga babae ang pinapaalalahanin natin na ingatan ang katawan at sarili nila. Let’s instill to young boys’ mind to respect girls as well.
ReplyDeleteTrue!! Its common but its not normal.
DeleteI have gc with my gay friends and we share pix of yummy boys.hahaha! Ganun din naman mga lalake! Ang masama is focus na si guy sa iisang babae and super like, comment and stalk na over socmed.
ReplyDeleteOh well, kanya-kanya tayo.
12:34 girl immature and bastos behavior din yan. Please grow out of that. Kadiri
DeleteI am torn between acknowledging it's wrong and OA ng delivery ng Gen-whatever. For this issue, there is really a reason to call out, however, some issues are just "concerns" that become issues because of how they expect the world to be perfect.
ReplyDeleteI don’t really get the hyped of this couple. Okay naman sila but always remember na influencers sila so you see what they chose for you to see. May times tlaga na scripted sila. With regards to the issue, madaming ako nababasa na they’re very secure to each other kaya nagagawa ni Slater iyan but i disagree. Being married for more than 15 yrs secure din ako sa marriage ko but my husband respect me as his wife. I can open his phone anytime and they never have that kind of group chats. We are living in the states for years now trust me, married guys don’t do that unless they wanna screw their marriage. Isa lng tlaga masasabi ko, medyo immature iyang kabarkada ni Slater at bastos!
ReplyDelete1:07 THIS!
DeleteOa naman maka-react ng mga santa-santita, hahahaha. Natural lang naman yan for both sexes. 2023 na, wag na magpaka-OA.
ReplyDeleteBu why do girls post seductive photos? Diba to attract men and let them fantasize over them. So why cry foul if they become object of the fantasies? Haay!
ReplyDeleteHala sya oh. Feeling mo ba sa lalaki umiikot ang utak ng mga babae? Minsa feel lang nila sarili nila kasi nga naman ang ganda nila. Minsan ganda ng makeup or outfit, sayang effort pag di napicturan man lang for their future appreciation. Pag nagtravel ka tapos may magandang view, sarap picturan, tingnan, at ipost di ba??
DeleteYes but not seductive photos.. right?
DeleteSo many of you here sobrang backwards parin ng worldview. No wonder we are so behind in development.
ReplyDeleteKung ang mga asawa nyo my telegram na app, check nyo yung groups na sinalihan nila. Nagkalat yang ganyan sa telegram. Thank me later hehehe
ReplyDeleteWhat’s normal is not always right. Sakyan mo lang means “enabler” ka rin. OMG, kakadisappoint si Slater. Mga out of touch dial pareho. Follower pa man din ako ng couple na to. Smh
ReplyDeleteDisappointed about this couple’s views on this matter
ReplyDeleteIf you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
ReplyDeleteYuck. Husband will never take part or tolerate that. He would rather lead men to the knowledge of God's heart for them. That is not at all acceptable, let us not normalize husbands doing that or agreeing to that.
ReplyDeleteWe are enough. I wish every couple attends
The 'sakyan' mo na lang part is thumbs down for me. It could be his chance to educate his friends. He should've been a good example of how a husband should be to his wife and to his sons.
ReplyDeleteYung nga nag rereact either mga hypocrites or mga walang kaibigan.
ReplyDelete9:58 Wala talaga akong kaibigan na married at very open sa pagpapantasya nila sa ibang babae AS A GROUP. May mga married men sigurong ganun but they probably look at photos discreetly. It's not something to be proud to be honest.
Delete2:30 exactly! Ma swerte pala ako because i belong to a group where husbands respect their wives and other women too. Or siguro dahil nasa late 30’s na kami and our friends are 40’s so may mga anak pang babae kaya as dads, they should be a good example to their kids.
DeleteNarcissist ang lalakeng yan.
ReplyDeleteI’ve watched a youtube video of him.
Masyadong bilib sa sarili.
He’s full of himself 🤮
Arte magsalita nung babae
ReplyDeleteStop putting these influencers on pedestals
ReplyDeleteGrabe, nakakalungkot yung mga ibang comments dito, they don’t know basic decency and the word CONSENT. Also hindi po ito normal, meron po tayo g batas about dito. Let’s stop enabling this type of behavior.
ReplyDeletenormal naman talaga sa mga lalaki na ganyan magsipag isip. pero yung sya pa mismo ang mag open up about it, in public, ewe.
ReplyDeleteI don’t get the hype with this couple. The guy comes across as an overconfident know-it-all, while the girl is just… annoying.The way she talks, the way she makes pa cute, cringe. And netizens are putting this couple in a pedestal na parang picture-perfect couple and they want to be like them. Like, why?
ReplyDeleteAgree. There’s a difference between being truly wise and trying hard to be wise. They obviously come from very privileged backgrounds but that doesn’t make them better (or an ideal) than the rest.
DeleteI am not coming from inggit, in fact, I loved Kryz pre-wedding. She was so entertaining when she focused on travel, fashion, make-up, and adventures with the blogger besties.
I know I know, everyone changes and matures, but their insights sometimes become so out of touch that it borders on silliness. I remember they had a podcast about choosing someone who is rich, and someone who is hardworking:
It’s easy for them to say that hardworking people are better partners - I agree too, but they can confidently say that with gumption because they never knew living with a minimum wage and waiting for next payout to buy daily necessities. They can afford to be “extremely hardworking and passionate about their craft” because they don’t have to think about survival.
Sorry for the super long rant. I wish ibaba nila ung sarili nila sa mighty pedestal paminsan.
In this digital & soc med age, talagang once may picture ka na accessible online, like wildfire yan puwede magspread. Subject for scrutiny o ng pantasya o even obsession yan lalo't babae ka. Kahit pa fully clothed ka pero litaw ganda mo o hubog ng katawan mo. Kaya para sa mga taong gusto ng privacy, sa gatherings iwas din sa papicture kahit group lalo't di mo mapipigilan magpost. Sarili mo namang pictures, kundi ka celebrity, gasgas man sabihin, think before you click. Di mo makokontrol dumi ng isip at kalokohan ng ibang tao.
ReplyDeleteAs for slater, wag mo lahatin ng lalaki. Kanya kanyang trip at prinsipyo yan. Bottomline dyan, contentment sa asawa mo, respeto sa asawa mo at sa kapwa nya babae. Your wife should be your all, your fantasy & reality. Hindi masamang maging open minded, pero balansehin din ng kunsensya. Tama isang comment dito eh. Baligtarin natin. Hindi ba insulto sa pagkalalaki ni slater kung ibang lalaki pagnanasaan wife nya
100% agree with your comment! Kahit common na iyan sa ibang lalaki, respeto pa din sa asawa mo. Only immature guys will do that! Sa edad ni Slater, wla na sana iyang mga ganyan sa kanila. Kaya never akong nag sana all sa couple na to because there’s something in them na very scripted. Gusto ko lng tlaga si scottie ang swerte nila sa anak nila.
DeleteKaya ever-increasing sa buong mundo ang mga singlr ngayon na single at ever-decreasing ang mga in-a-relationship ngayon sa buong mundo , napaka-impossible na ang pagiging absolutely monogamous sa ganyan mga standards kagaya niyan , tsk tsk tsk
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DeleteYeah. Thought it's just a phase sa boys/men. At pag natagpuan na THE ONE nila, stick to ONE talaga sa mata, isip, puso, salita at gawa. Tipong kahit nakahubo ang ibang babae, wala na effect. There are a few guys who are like that. And then there are some like slater. An unfortunate reality. Unfortunately for the women they're with.
DeleteDi ko sinasabi ng tama pero Bakit pag mga babae nagpasa2 pics ng mga lalake, pinagpapantasyahan eh ok lng? Pro pag lalake ang gumawa eh yuck, kadire, bastos? Bkt double standards?
ReplyDeleteAnong ok lang? Bastos din mga ganung babae.
DeleteKing kayo kayo lang okay Basta walang lalabas na istorya s circle nyo at Wala kayong resibo, purely men’s talk lang. Respetuhan lang walang bastusan. In that case, kubg ayaw nyo mapag- usapan mga jowa o asawa nyo, di wag gawin. Also pag mga babae ganun din naman as women talk right Basta kayo kayo lang, walng post s social media. Hindi lahat agree s way ng convo nyo so keep it upon your circles. This works with this couple Pero s iba hindi
ReplyDeleteThis was a case of using the wrong term. Instead of using "Common", he used "Normal" which raised eyebrows for sure.
ReplyDeleteHad he used the word common, we would have all agreed.
How about the phrase “Sakyan mo lang” agree ka din? Not just the choice of words yung Mali didto, it’s his whole perspective on the matter and Mali!
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