Opinion ko lang 'to. Sabi niya kasi 'as if they are blah blah'. So ibig niyang sabihin magsisinungaling ka. At ang negative impact nito ay lalaking walang accountability ang bata.
You can speak to a child wisely, etc. without having to lie to them. Hindi naman need to be brash when speaking about a hard truth. Your tone and manner is what she's pertaining to
I have to disagree. As someone who was raised by my parents na ganito, wherein they made me feel like I'm already the best, wisest, etc (thankful for having parents who believe in me) made me complacent. I felt like i lived in a bubble. So when I finally became independent (had work and lived independently), it was a bit difficult for me kasi nawindang ako na it's hard out there. Sa real world. Ang daming mas magaling kesa sayo, ang daming mas matalino and mas deserving. I think yun yung kulang. Setting realistic expectations. Kasi if you coddle your kids (based on my experience), they won't be as ready as they should be when they finally go out and meet the real world. Learned it the hard way...
I fully agree 12:38. Giving praises all the time will create a negative effect. Praise through effort has to be earned. I think letting your children do hard things and letting them become good at it is the best way to raise children who will eventually become successful, confident adults. Praising and protecting them too much is harmful.
I think iba ang pag prepare sa bata maging independent kesa sa you will look at them and make them feel the most beautiful and capable in your eyes. Parang hindi naman yon pag set ng high expections.
@1:24 Tingin ko rin. KC had a easy-breezy start in showbiz, being the daughter of Sharon and yet, where is she now? She was treated like royalty, a princess, but now, no projects for almost a decade.
Tough times indeed bring out the best in people. Easy times make people soft and weak.
I remember my Mom used To call me Superwoman nung bata pa ako kasi strong daw ako. And always proud sya mga drawing ko nun. Kaya naman nasa creative and leadership department ako. Yan ang totoong the Best Mom on Earth for me.
Ang hirap talaga sa kinalakihang culture ng filipino parents na they can’t communicate lovingly sa mga anak nila because somehow parang tingin nila ibinababa nila sarili nila to their children.
KC seems nice & down to earth. Kahit anong yaman nya, parang naghahanap pa rin siya ng sense of belonging. Mom nya closer pa at panay papuri sa mga anak anakan, recent publicity nya di ba kay Julia. Masakit kay KC to tapos shine-shame pa siya minsan sa soc med ng sarili nyang nanay kaya feeling unwanted siya
Speak to them the way they deserve to be spoken to. The Filipino way of being too critical or overt criticism though well intended is counterproductive. It creates a vicious cycle of low self esteem , feeling of hopelessnesses and dependency on external validation. A clever and subtle retort to an emotionally toxic parent.
I don’t agree. If you smother your child with too much compliments and coddle your child too much, mas mahihirapan siya mag adjust sa real world paglaki. Dapat bata pa lang minumulat na sa realities ng mundo. Na the world is unfair and cruel. Na there will always be someone better than you, but of course dapat nandun pa rin yung assurance and love of a parent. Boost your child’s confidence and self esteem but not too much na lalaking conceited at entitled. Hirap maging magulang no?
I agree, now ang daughter ko mabait, humble, grad mag na cum laude, at happy even i raised her as a single mom. though we are broken family both of us have peace of mind, happy hearts and souls. Glad we are broken family.
not all the time, if you treat them like unicorns & mermaids, then they may grow up spoiled & entitled. treat them like real people with realistic flaws, so that they will be able to face the real world.
At what age do we stop blaming our parents for how our lives turned out? As adults we have the power to carve our own paths and take charge of our lives. Healing from childhood trauma is acknowledging that you were hurt by your parents but also moving on from it. Do not stay in the victimhood mentality for decades. You will only be hurting yourself if you do that.
Power of right Choices rin ng anak no matter.If she will be inspired ,full of positivity,will powered,well armoured s realities ng life..So talented at educated c KC but stagnant ang career & I think its her choice ❤
12:35 Lagi nyang sinasabi namimiss na nyang umarte. Look at her IG. Pwede naman syang ipag-produce ni Sharon ng pelikula. Ibig sabihin wala lang talagang offers.
Ay baks, ganyan ang Papa ko. Ayaw ng nanay nya sa kanya at pati kaming mga apo hindi nya rin gusto. 😂 Kaya cgro minsan bitter ako at jealous sa iba. Lol, now that I have kids, kung ayaw sa kanila ng isang tao, nilalayo ko tlaga at without cursing or anything. Kasi makarinig pa ng hindi maganda ang mga anak ko at masaktan. Lol
I really feel sorry for her. She feels lost and desperately looking for a complete family. Both her parents have their own family now. Although she is welcome in both , she may have that feeling that she doesn't belong to any of them, She lives alone. I sure hope she finds a permanent partner that she can be with at all times.
Too much praise and compliments is not good I think.. Tamang positive reinforcement sounds better praise or compliment your child when he/ she has done something good para alam nila ang strengths nila and to build their confidence. It’s important to also be loving and nurturing and show them that you love them. Parents are the kids safe place e. It’s normal for a kid to act out and have tantrums instead of punishing hear them out and not invalidate their feelinge.. I grew up na my mom would invalidate my feelings and lagi akong kinocorrect.. so hindi na ako nagsshare kasi magaaway lang kami. I think walang masama sa pagcorrect pero kasi lagi nalang ako yung mali. Sila lagi yung tama. Kahit na may mali they would never acknowledge it. So I had to build up my own confidence cause they wouldnt give praises or compliments. Napakakonti and bilang na bilang.. So I feel angry and resentful sometimes. Puro tough love!! I think pagnaka anak ko I will try to balance between tough love and being loving and nurturing.. At a young age I already accepted that life is not fair and not everyone will like or appreciate you..
I think ang punto lang ni KC dito is to treat your kids kindly & praise them when it is due for them to have confidence in themselves to face this cruel world. Para paglaki nila, when they encounter problems & struggles in life they would say, "ah kaya ko to I've already proven myself before". But ofcourse parents should also instill the love of God to their children para laging may katuwang sa mga bigat ng buhay at ipamulat din siyempre as they grow old that life is not always a bed of roses. Ganern.
As a mother parang strict yata ako sa pagpapalaki ng anak ko. Hindi ko pinupuri Kung hindi tlga kapuri puri. Katwiran ko need nya malaman ang totoo. Kung maayos o hindi maayos yung resulta ng ginawa nya. Nagbibigay lng ako ng praises pag talagang maganda ang result l.
She is always looking for validation from others, from her parents to her boyfriends and her fans. KC, just listen to your own heart. You are enough, your opinion of yourself is enough. You dont need others to complete you.
That’s why I like the traditional way of raring kids, be realistic with disciplinary inputs, of course not abusive, but more on caring ways. It is a tough world out there, not everyone are treated like princesses and princes. That’s why EQ is very important, one need to be street smart most of the time, although with morals.
Ano na nman paandar yan.can she not post something for her parents na sya mismo gumawa.
ReplyDelete11:20 magbasa at umintindi muna bago magreact okay
Delete1110, anong pake mo sa mga posts nang iba e account naman nila yan.
Deleteang nega mo 🤣
DeletePati ba naman ung gusto ipost pinapakialaman. Ang chaka mo ka bonding.
DeleteAgree to this. So sad I didn’t experience this kaya bawi-bawi sa mga pamangkins
ReplyDeleteApir!!! True!
DeleteOpinion ko lang 'to. Sabi niya kasi 'as if they are blah blah'. So ibig niyang sabihin magsisinungaling ka. At ang negative impact nito ay lalaking walang accountability ang bata.
ReplyDeleteCorrect.
DeleteYou can speak to a child wisely, etc. without having to lie to them. Hindi naman need to be brash when speaking about a hard truth. Your tone and manner is what she's pertaining to
DeleteTama
DeleteAng ibig nya po sabihin ay bigyan ng confidence so they grow up believing in themselves. The brain po is very powerful, opo.
DeleteI have to disagree. As someone who was raised by my parents na ganito, wherein they made me feel like I'm already the best, wisest, etc (thankful for having parents who believe in me) made me complacent. I felt like i lived in a bubble. So when I finally became independent (had work and lived independently), it was a bit difficult for me kasi nawindang ako na it's hard out there. Sa real world. Ang daming mas magaling kesa sayo, ang daming mas matalino and mas deserving. I think yun yung kulang. Setting realistic expectations. Kasi if you coddle your kids (based on my experience), they won't be as ready as they should be when they finally go out and meet the real world. Learned it the hard way...
ReplyDeleteAnd this is probably why Kc seems lost in the world.
DeleteI fully agree 12:38. Giving praises all the time will create a negative effect. Praise through effort has to be earned. I think letting your children do hard things and letting them become good at it is the best way to raise children who will eventually become successful, confident adults. Praising and protecting them too much is harmful.
DeleteI think iba ang pag prepare sa bata maging independent kesa sa you will look at them and make them feel the most beautiful and capable in your eyes. Parang hindi naman yon pag set ng high expections.
DeleteTama
DeleteThanks for this anecdote.
Delete@1:24 Tingin ko rin. KC had a easy-breezy start in showbiz, being the daughter of Sharon and yet, where is she now? She was treated like royalty, a princess, but now, no projects for almost a decade.
DeleteTough times indeed bring out the best in people. Easy times make people soft and weak.
She's still living in a bubble. She will not survive in the real world tbh.
Delete1032, i think it was her choice to stop accepting projects muna.
DeleteNabigyan ka na ng headstart ng parents mo. Its your turn na to make something out of it.
Delete@4:55 Bakit panay ang parinig nya sa IG? Na kesyo namimiss na nya ang showbiz.
DeleteIbig-sabihin wala talagang offers.
Oh after sharon post about Julia
ReplyDeleteI remember my Mom used
ReplyDeleteTo call me Superwoman nung bata pa ako kasi strong daw ako. And always proud sya mga drawing ko nun. Kaya naman nasa creative and leadership department ako. Yan ang totoong the Best Mom on Earth for me.
They made you feel confident enough to conquer the world. Kudos to your Mom sizt!
DeleteAng hirap talaga sa kinalakihang culture ng filipino parents na they can’t communicate lovingly sa mga anak nila because somehow parang tingin nila ibinababa nila sarili nila to their children.
ReplyDeleteMay kinalaman siguro ito don sa post ni shawi nung bday nya. Puring puri nya yung isang girl.
ReplyDeleteLAGI YAN PAALALA NG NANAY KO, WAG DAW SASABIBIN PILYO ISANG BATA KZ MAGIGING SALBAHE SYA, LAGI DAW SSBHN ANG BAIT MO, PARA MAGING MABUTI BATA PAGLAKI
ReplyDeleteHanash na naman si Aunty KC..
ReplyDeleteI don't agree
ReplyDeleteSpeak the truth! Pero use the right words!
Walang perfect na anak! Walang perfect na magulang!
Mag adjust both ok
KC seems nice & down to earth. Kahit anong yaman nya, parang naghahanap pa rin siya ng sense of belonging. Mom nya closer pa at panay papuri sa mga anak anakan, recent publicity nya di ba kay Julia. Masakit kay KC to tapos shine-shame pa siya minsan sa soc med ng sarili nyang nanay kaya feeling unwanted siya
ReplyDeleteSpeak to them the way they deserve to be spoken to. The Filipino way of being too critical or overt criticism though well intended is counterproductive. It creates a vicious cycle of low self esteem , feeling of hopelessnesses and dependency on external validation. A clever and subtle retort to an emotionally toxic parent.
ReplyDeleteMay time talaga mag-analyze?
ReplyDeleteConfidence building kasi dapat pag bata kapa, para pag laki mo, you can take on anything..plus, mataas ang self-esteem pag ganyan
ReplyDeleteShe needs somebody to love..
ReplyDeleteHindi naman kasi kailangan ng lalaki para sumaya.
DeleteI don’t agree. If you smother your child with too much compliments and coddle your child too much, mas mahihirapan siya mag adjust sa real world paglaki. Dapat bata pa lang minumulat na sa realities ng mundo. Na the world is unfair and cruel. Na there will always be someone better than you, but of course dapat nandun pa rin yung assurance and love of a parent. Boost your child’s confidence and self esteem but not too much na lalaking conceited at entitled. Hirap maging magulang no?
ReplyDeletesinabi mo pa..sobrang hirap..ang hirap kasi nakapa thin ng line, konting sobra lang sa praises nagiging conceited na
DeleteI agree, now ang daughter ko mabait, humble, grad mag na cum laude, at happy even i raised her as a single mom. though we are broken family both of us have peace of mind, happy hearts and souls. Glad we are broken family.
ReplyDeleteIn everything, there should be a balance.
ReplyDeletenot all the time, if you treat them like unicorns & mermaids, then they may grow up spoiled & entitled. treat them like real people with realistic flaws, so that they will be able to face the real world.
ReplyDeleteAt what age do we stop blaming our parents for how our lives turned out? As adults we have the power to carve our own paths and take charge of our lives. Healing from childhood trauma is acknowledging that you were hurt by your parents but also moving on from it. Do not stay in the victimhood mentality for decades. You will only be hurting yourself if you do that.
ReplyDeletemeron ding mga parents na victim ng mga anak na sutil. yung parents na yung nay trauma sa ugali ng anak na napaka tigas ng ulo
DeleteAt what age? 18 if shes mature and responsible individual.
DeletePower of right Choices rin ng anak no matter.If she will be inspired ,full of positivity,will powered,well armoured s realities ng life..So talented at educated c KC but stagnant ang career & I think its her choice ❤
ReplyDelete12:35 Lagi nyang sinasabi namimiss na nyang umarte. Look at her IG.
DeletePwede naman syang ipag-produce ni Sharon ng pelikula. Ibig sabihin wala lang talagang offers.
@11:28 Couldn't agree more.
ReplyDeletenaalala ko tuloy husband ko. He was not treated fairly and equally by his mother. naawa ako sa husband ko.
ReplyDeleteAy baks, ganyan ang Papa ko. Ayaw ng nanay nya sa kanya at pati kaming mga apo hindi nya rin gusto. 😂 Kaya cgro minsan bitter ako at jealous sa iba. Lol, now that I have kids, kung ayaw sa kanila ng isang tao, nilalayo ko tlaga at without cursing or anything. Kasi makarinig pa ng hindi maganda ang mga anak ko at masaktan. Lol
DeleteI really feel sorry for her. She feels lost and desperately looking for a complete family. Both her parents have their own family now. Although she is welcome in both , she may have that feeling that she doesn't belong to any of them, She lives alone. I sure hope she finds a permanent partner that she can be with at all times.
ReplyDeleteToo much praise and compliments is not good I think.. Tamang positive reinforcement sounds better praise or compliment your child when he/ she has done something good para alam nila ang strengths nila and to build their confidence. It’s important to also be loving and nurturing and show them that you love them. Parents are the kids safe place e. It’s normal for a kid to act out and have tantrums instead of punishing hear them out and not invalidate their feelinge.. I grew up na my mom would invalidate my feelings and lagi akong kinocorrect.. so hindi na ako nagsshare kasi magaaway lang kami. I think walang masama sa pagcorrect pero kasi lagi nalang ako yung mali. Sila lagi yung tama. Kahit na may mali they would never acknowledge it. So I had to build up my own confidence cause they wouldnt give praises or compliments. Napakakonti and bilang na bilang.. So I feel angry and resentful sometimes. Puro tough love!! I think pagnaka anak ko I will try to balance between tough love and being loving and nurturing.. At a young age I already accepted that life is not fair and not everyone will like or appreciate you..
ReplyDeleteI think ang punto lang ni KC dito is to treat your kids kindly & praise them when it is due for them to have confidence in themselves to face this cruel world. Para paglaki nila, when they encounter problems & struggles in life they would say, "ah kaya ko to I've already proven myself before". But ofcourse parents should also instill the love of God to their children para laging may katuwang sa mga bigat ng buhay at ipamulat din siyempre as they grow old that life is not always a bed of roses. Ganern.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what made her post this?
ReplyDeleteMe too! Parang may pinatatamaan cya 😁
DeleteAs a mother parang strict yata ako sa pagpapalaki ng anak ko. Hindi ko pinupuri Kung hindi tlga kapuri puri. Katwiran ko need nya malaman ang totoo. Kung maayos o hindi maayos yung resulta ng ginawa nya. Nagbibigay lng ako ng praises pag talagang maganda ang result l.
ReplyDeleteShe is always looking for validation from others, from her parents to her boyfriends and her fans. KC, just listen to your own heart. You are enough, your opinion of yourself is enough. You dont need others to complete you.
ReplyDeleteThat’s why I like the traditional way of raring kids, be realistic with disciplinary inputs, of course not abusive, but more on caring ways. It is a tough world out there, not everyone are treated like princesses and princes. That’s why EQ is very important, one need to be street smart most of the time, although with morals.
ReplyDelete