True. Some people are so quick to judge, iba iba po tayo on how we cope grief, that is how he cope it so learn to respect his way or his feelings. Mas okay nga yan nilalabas niya di niya kinikimkim nararamdaman niya dahil in a way gumagaan ang bigat na dala2 niya sa dibdib.
Duh let him be, this is just a phase, a stage that any normal person grieving needs to go through. Im pretty sure he'll get through this. He've been through hell before Im sure he'll also make it again this time, and yes he'll move on eventually.
There’s no moving on in losing a partner or even parents. Nandyan lng iyong sakit forever na sya and you just learn to deal and survive the pain everday.
Try to be on his shoes, I don't think you will like the words you just uttered... bago pa namatay wife nya. Let him grieve... then maybe one day, he will move on.
Wala namang tao na hindi alam na dapat magmove on kung namatayan ng minamahal. Pero mahirap gawin lalo na mahal na mahal mo. Ikaw ba makakamove on ka agad kung araw araw mo kasama?! If makakamove on ka agad ibig sabihin hindi mo talaga mahal yun. Iba ang move on sa kinakaya mo magpatuloy yung buhay mo. Tsaka di mo na kailangan sabihin milyon milyon namatayan. Lahat ng tao nakaexperience o makaexperience mamatayan noh. Except kung vampire na hinda namamatay. Please kung hindi naman maganda sasabihin mo wag k na lang magsalita. Good vibes pampahaba ng buhay
I'm guessing you did not allow yourself to grieve. Maybe you or your family or circumstance did not afford you space and time to go through the natural process. It will bite you back later on. Mukhang it bit you back na nga, we can see in your insensitivity and disdain for other people who are grieving.
Maybe pahinga muna sa social media Focus on the 2 kids, don't let them hate Christmas naman too, they are kids baka nakita nila sa dad nila magtanim din sila ng sama ng loob birthday ni jesus nga diba teach them positive po
Kahit magpahinga pa sya sa socmed he will still be grieving behind the scenes, walang pause button yon. At malamang kahit yung mga bata malungkot din about their mom. Mas lalong hindi makatao to force the kids to be cheerful in this heartbreaking situation. You can even opt to have a somber Christmas celebration if you want to remain observant, mag-pray or mag-mass na lang ang family.
I know the feeling. My mom just recently passed away. Ang hirap maging masaya dahil hindi naman merry ang Christmas namin. Yung marinig mo yung mga Christmas songs sa mall.. it breaks my heart.
It's not advisable to make their kids "celebrate" this holiday. Macoconfuse sila. They just lost their mom, they are not used to dealing with death, it will most probably be extra hard for them, tapos makikita nila family members nagsasaya? Haller??? Christmas happens yearly. This time, the kids and the whole family should be allowed to naturally go through their grief for their mom. Kelan sila maggigrieve, next year? Konting braincells naman. Use you xmas bonus to buy some.
Same kmi. My mama died dec 17 and I never like celebrating Christmas anymore. Kahit 9 yrs had passed pero masakit pa rin. Kahit May anak na ako ..parang May kulang eh..or masakit pa rin na nilibing namin c mama nong Christmas day mismo. Until now, andun pa rin ang sakit eh .. mdyu okay na ako pero never ko na talaga na celebrate ang Christmas..na alala ko kasi mama ko palagi
Saken ngayon lang Oct. 4. He was 74 y.o. Naka 50th wedding anniv pa sila ni Mama last April 16. Ang sakit sakit,ang lungkot lungkot. Ngayon lang ako walang preparation ng Christmas and New Year. Sobrang lungkot e,at sobrang sakit pa. :( Pinaka malungkot at pinaka maSakit na Pasko sa tanang buhay ko. :(
I feel you guys and Andrew.. i I just lost my Mom lst Sept 17 this year. And now, I hate Christmas.. before pagpasok pa ang ng Ber.. excited na ko. Now? I can't feel anything.. just ain.
I also lost my Mom this year. kala ko dati alam ko na ang heartbreak pero ndi pla. ang mawalan ng mahal sa buhay lalo na ang nanay ang pinakasamakit na mararanasan ng isang tao. dati rati pra kming bata ng nanay ko na napakasaya na pag tumuntong ang ber months. pero ngaun araw araw na kalungkutan. sobrang lungkot na prang bibigay mismo ung puso mo. marami kang kaibigan, may naiwan ka pang ibang pamilya pero ung saya sa puso na dala na kasama mo ang nanay mo un ung ndi mapapalitan nino man. pasalamat ako sa Dyos at binigyan nya ko ng anak bago nya kunin ang nanay ko. dahil meron pa kong rason para lumaban. napakahirap, napakalungkot.
Hugs dear...*with your consent* I lost a loved one, too, mga 5 years na. Some things are never the same. The grief doesn't go away completely, laging mafifeel when the person comes to mind. Kasi parang a big chunk of your life was yanked away, and you can't reach them anymore. But you get better at handling it, it's true.
At sino ka to ba to judge him on what's the right thing to do or not? Learn to respect on how others cope their grief! If soc media makes him or lessens the pain he's going through right now, let him be! And mind your own business. So long as walang naaapakang tao wala ka ng paki mag 24/7 pa siya sa soc media 😠👊
He makes money by vlogging. He actually needs to continue to vlog to be able to provide for his kids while he is grieving. It’s work. You should commend him for doing both at the same time, kahit mahirap. Also, it’s probably giving him comfort when he’s doing it so sino ka para utusan siya eh malamang di ka man nag donate or tumulong sa Pamilya nila
Socmed is his release. It has become his diary. Alangan naman ang mga saloobin niya sa mga kids niya sabihin; and also What makes you think he’s not spending time with his wife and kids? Just because he posted something on social media, inassume mong the whole time nasa phone lang sya?
He’s grieving and we can’t fanthom the pain he’s going through. It’s the first of everything that would be painful in years to come. Praying for healing and condolences to family
Alam kung Ikaw ay nagdadalamhatinsa pagpanaw ng iyong kabiyak. Hindi rin Maganda na Sabihin na Hindi mo gusto ang Pasko. Alalahanin mo Andrew Meron ka pang mga batang anak. Sila ang alaala ng iyong Asawa.
UNDERSTANDABLE. He hates the season. I’ll hate it too if it’ll remind me of the saddest day of my life all over again. We could all just wish na sana something good naman ang dumating sakanila next holiday season para matabunan yung pain reminder.
I don’t know why he needs to post every time at social media esp kakamatay lang ng wife . Obviously talaga naman Mawawalan ka ng gana mag celebrate ng Christmas pag me namatay sa family mo.
understandable. grieving pa siya. take as much time. pareho sila ng sinapit ni charles delgado, the indie actor. namatay din ang partner niya dahil sa cancer. gumagawa yata siya ng alter videos para may ipantawid sa daily needs & treatments ng partner niya. stay strong guys.
Parang ang hirap nman basta sabihin nlang mag move on na sya ksi di nman yan ganyan kadali. Grabe yung hope nila na gagaling, isang taon na pinaglaban. Sakit sakit nyan
My brother died on Christmas day. I didn't feel like celebrating because we were at the funeral parlor para sa burol .but I didn't hate Christmas it's the birthday of Jesus. But that happened several years ago.
Gets ko why he's on soc med at this time. It seems it's one of the things that was sort of "nasa tabi nya" throughout this difficult situation. He also got help from people online, financially and emotionally. It's a sort of outlet and comfort zone for him. Minsan, mas madali maging emotional to people you dont know.
So many out of touch comments here. I lost my daughter five years ago. I feel with Andrew. Eversince my child passed on, I’ve never looked at holidays the same way again. We do not move on from loss. We move through it and with it. I hope everyone gets to see grief as something people need to do at their own pace. Grief has no expiration. When we grieve, we love.
Dont ever hate Christmas. No matter what we are going thru which lahat may pinagdadaanan we have to drop it or set it aside muna and welcome Christmas. Christmas is not about us or our issues. Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. The more we should welcome Christmas so we can feel God’s presence in our lives where we feel empty or sad.
Grieving is a valid emotion. It remains valid during holidays like Christmas. Let the family go through that feeling. It's so insensitive to advice them to move on. One cannot move on from loss of a loved one most especially a spouse and a mother. They have to live with that void space in their life. They'll surely learn how to survive life and accept that void because it's life's natural course. If we truly support the person, all we need to do is to pray for them to go through that loss smoothly and survive the grieving process.
Kahit sinong tao po pag nawalan ng minamahal s Buhay talagang sasabihin nya kng ano yong nasa isip nya.masakit pag nawala ang Isa sa pinaka importanting tao s Buhay....keep on praying po.
Wag nyo naman i-invalidate yung feelings nung tao. Namatayan lang naman sya no. Normal na ganyan mararandaman nang kahit sinong nawalan ng mahal sa buhay.
Normal yang nararamdaman nya napaka ewan naman ng ibang comments. Ako ngang kabuhayan ang nawala kasi ngayon namin pinaka ramdam ang impact ng bankcruptcy namin, i hate the festivities that come with the Christmas season kaya i deactivated all my socials para wala akong makitang ikaka inis ko pa lalo. Wag kayong nang iinvalidate ng mga nararamdaman ng tao. I hate toxic positivity. Let people feel sad it doesnt mean they are not grateful. 🙄
pag di mo matanggap ang pagkalaya sa sakit ng kaluluwa nya, hindi rin yata magiging at peace ang soul ng namayapa. take your time to grieve but gift the departed the gift of eternal peace.
maybe next year, youre gonna like it again
ReplyDeleteOnly time can tell. And hope he'll get through this bec his kids need him, now he is their anchor, sa kanya humuhugot ng lakas mga anak niya.
DeleteMahirap pa rin. Namatayan na ako ng mahal sa buhay at malungkot pa rin ako palagi kapag may okasyon dahil hindi na namin siya kasama sa mga okasyon.
Deletenalibing na ba asawa nya? stay away from social media muna
ReplyDeleteThere are no right or wrong way to grieve okay? If that is how he copes with grief, let him be.
DeleteTama ka mars. Parang hindi nakakatulong ang socmed sa kanya eh
DeleteSa December 27 daw
DeleteGrabe super stress at laki na eyebags prang wala na tulog at pahinga, sana maging ok sila lahat soon after mwala wife nya, kakasad.
Delete11:38 talaga? minutes after death binablog na agad?
Delete11:38 Don’t even start with whatever works for him. Social media did not exist before and people were able to find other ways to cope. Palusot!
Delete12:42, iba noon at iba ngayon. Para mo ring sinabi na walang computer noon kaya dapat typewriter ang gamitin mo.
DeleteUnderstandable that he feels that way. It takes time. I hope people will honor his feelings. Let him be. Lilipas din yan
ReplyDeleteTrue. Some people are so quick to judge, iba iba po tayo on how we cope grief, that is how he cope it so learn to respect his way or his feelings. Mas okay nga yan nilalabas niya di niya kinikimkim nararamdaman niya dahil in a way gumagaan ang bigat na dala2 niya sa dibdib.
DeleteSabi ni 11:41- Iba iba tayo on how e cope with grief
DeleteSabi ulit ni 11:41 - Mas okay nga yan nilalabas niya di niya kinikimkim nararamdaman niya dahil in a way gumagaan ang bigat na dala2 niya sa dibdib.
Akala ko ba ia iba ang pag cope?
Yeah hindi madali ang mamatayan, ilang Christmas and new year pa yan na hindi ka masaya kasi may kulang
Deletemasakit tlga na mwlan kp ng mhal sa buhay kng kelan mgppasko.
ReplyDeleteKahit hindi magpapasko, masakit pa rin.
Deletemeron kang 2 anak na reason mo para mag-move on.
ReplyDeleteDuh let him be, this is just a phase, a stage that any normal person grieving needs to go through. Im pretty sure he'll get through this. He've been through hell before Im sure he'll also make it again this time, and yes he'll move on eventually.
DeleteWords that people who are going through depression will never appreciate.
DeleteThere’s no moving on in losing a partner or even parents. Nandyan lng iyong sakit forever na sya and you just learn to deal and survive the pain everday.
DeleteTry to be on his shoes, I don't think you will like the words you just uttered... bago pa namatay wife nya. Let him grieve... then maybe one day, he will move on.
DeleteHuy! Di ganun kadali yun. Do not invalidate his feelings.
Deletemove on agad? di pwede mag grieve muna? That's his love and baby mama. You're saying he should just move on.
DeleteI understand. Time heals. Godbless you, Andrew.
ReplyDeleteLam mo hindi lang ikaw ang nawalan bago magpasko. Madami tayo. Milyon-milyong tao. We are not especial. Ganon lang yon. We move on.
ReplyDeleteEver heard of compassion? He’s entitled to his feelings. Don’t be harsh.
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DeleteAnonymousDecember 23, 2022 at 11:40 PM
You are so insensitive. Wag kang na lang mag-comment. I hope hindi mangyari saiyo yan.
Let’s be more compassionate and not compare ourselves to others
DeleteHow crass and unkind. Let him grieve.
DeleteIf you have nothing nice to say at all, tumahimik ka..
DeleteHa? Nawalan ka na ba ng mahal sa buhay? Move on? Easy for you to say. Kakaloka
DeleteWala namang tao na hindi alam na dapat magmove on kung namatayan ng minamahal. Pero mahirap gawin lalo na mahal na mahal mo. Ikaw ba makakamove on ka agad kung araw araw mo kasama?! If makakamove on ka agad ibig sabihin hindi mo talaga mahal yun. Iba ang move on sa kinakaya mo magpatuloy yung buhay mo. Tsaka di mo na kailangan sabihin milyon milyon namatayan. Lahat ng tao nakaexperience o makaexperience mamatayan noh. Except kung vampire na hinda namamatay. Please kung hindi naman maganda sasabihin mo wag k na lang magsalita. Good vibes pampahaba ng buhay
DeleteYuck gross and ignorant comment
DeleteI'm guessing you did not allow yourself to grieve. Maybe you or your family or circumstance did not afford you space and time to go through the natural process. It will bite you back later on. Mukhang it bit you back na nga, we can see in your insensitivity and disdain for other people who are grieving.
DeleteMaybe pahinga muna sa social media
ReplyDeleteFocus on the 2 kids, don't let them hate Christmas naman too, they are kids baka nakita nila sa dad nila magtanim din sila ng sama ng loob birthday ni jesus nga diba teach them positive po
So kelan sila allowed to grieve? Next year nalang???
DeleteKahit magpahinga pa sya sa socmed he will still be grieving behind the scenes, walang pause button yon. At malamang kahit yung mga bata malungkot din about their mom. Mas lalong hindi makatao to force the kids to be cheerful in this heartbreaking situation. You can even opt to have a somber Christmas celebration if you want to remain observant, mag-pray or mag-mass na lang ang family.
DeleteAng daling sabihin ano?
DeleteVery relatable. I dreaded new year celebrations ever since my dad died.
ReplyDeleteI know the feeling. My mom just recently passed away. Ang hirap maging masaya dahil hindi naman merry ang Christmas namin. Yung marinig mo yung mga Christmas songs sa mall.. it breaks my heart.
ReplyDeleteGive it some time.. mejo malalim pa pinagdadaanan nung tao
ReplyDeletePlease look after yourself, Andrew. Ikaw na lang ang aasahan ng mga anak mo. I hope you find peace and comfort in Him soon.
ReplyDeleteWhat about the kids ? Do you want them to hate it too ?
ReplyDeleteTake a break from socmed it will do you good
It's not advisable to make their kids "celebrate" this holiday. Macoconfuse sila. They just lost their mom, they are not used to dealing with death, it will most probably be extra hard for them, tapos makikita nila family members nagsasaya? Haller??? Christmas happens yearly. This time, the kids and the whole family should be allowed to naturally go through their grief for their mom. Kelan sila maggigrieve, next year? Konting braincells naman. Use you xmas bonus to buy some.
DeleteSame kmi. My mama died dec 17 and I never like celebrating Christmas anymore. Kahit 9 yrs had passed pero masakit pa rin. Kahit May anak na ako ..parang May kulang eh..or masakit pa rin na nilibing namin c mama nong Christmas day mismo. Until now, andun pa rin ang sakit eh .. mdyu okay na ako pero never ko na talaga na celebrate ang Christmas..na alala ko kasi mama ko palagi
ReplyDeleteSaken ngayon lang Oct. 4. He was 74 y.o. Naka 50th wedding anniv pa sila ni Mama last April 16. Ang sakit sakit,ang lungkot lungkot. Ngayon lang ako walang preparation ng Christmas and New Year. Sobrang lungkot e,at sobrang sakit pa. :( Pinaka malungkot at pinaka maSakit na Pasko sa tanang buhay ko. :(
DeleteI feel you guys and Andrew.. i I just lost my Mom lst Sept 17 this year. And now, I hate Christmas.. before pagpasok pa ang ng Ber.. excited na ko. Now? I can't feel anything.. just ain.
DeleteMahigpit na yakap, guys... Tulad nyo I'm still grieving for a loved one, three years na pero masakit pa rin at nawalan din ako gana mag celebrate.
DeleteI also lost my Mom this year. kala ko dati alam ko na ang heartbreak pero ndi pla. ang mawalan ng mahal sa buhay lalo na ang nanay ang pinakasamakit na mararanasan ng isang tao. dati rati pra kming bata ng nanay ko na napakasaya na pag tumuntong ang ber months. pero ngaun araw araw na kalungkutan. sobrang lungkot na prang bibigay mismo ung puso mo. marami kang kaibigan, may naiwan ka pang ibang pamilya pero ung saya sa puso na dala na kasama mo ang nanay mo un ung ndi mapapalitan nino man. pasalamat ako sa Dyos at binigyan nya ko ng anak bago nya kunin ang nanay ko. dahil meron pa kong rason para lumaban. napakahirap, napakalungkot.
DeleteHugs dear...*with your consent* I lost a loved one, too, mga 5 years na. Some things are never the same. The grief doesn't go away completely, laging mafifeel when the person comes to mind. Kasi parang a big chunk of your life was yanked away, and you can't reach them anymore. But you get better at handling it, it's true.
DeleteNamatay din lola ko ng Christmas and birthday din niya yun. Ang sakit pag pasko. May kurot talaga. Sa ngayon okay okay na. God bless you, guys. :)
DeleteGuys, be kind. People grieve differently. Let him be.
ReplyDeleteLet him grieve. Kanya kanya tayo ng pagpprocess ng feelings.
ReplyDeleteWag kang magsasalita pag malungkot ng tapos, Diyos ko tao lang tayo, mortal lahat may katapusan
ReplyDeleteGanyan tlaga pag grieving, huwag natin husgahan. Yaan natin sya mag labas ng hinagpis nya.
ReplyDeleteDude spend time with the family and wife mo kasi malapit na syang ilibing. Saka na socmed.
ReplyDeleteAt sino ka to ba to judge him on what's the right thing to do or not? Learn to respect on how others cope their grief! If soc media makes him or lessens the pain he's going through right now, let him be! And mind your own business. So long as walang naaapakang tao wala ka ng paki mag 24/7 pa siya sa soc media 😠👊
Delete2:33 kung ayaw nya ma judge wag syang panay post sa socmed. He’s attracting criticism pag ganon.
Delete2:33 at sino ka to tell me what to say? Wag kasing buyangyang buhay sa social media para di ma judge.
DeleteHe makes money by vlogging. He actually needs to continue to vlog to be able to provide for his kids while he is grieving. It’s work. You should commend him for doing both at the same time, kahit mahirap. Also, it’s probably giving him comfort when he’s doing it so sino ka para utusan siya eh malamang di ka man nag donate or tumulong sa Pamilya nila
DeleteSocmed is his release. It has become his diary.
DeleteAlangan naman ang mga saloobin niya sa mga kids niya sabihin; and also What makes you think he’s not spending time with his wife and kids? Just because he posted something on social media, inassume mong the whole time nasa phone lang sya?
He’s grieving and we can’t fanthom the pain he’s going through. It’s the first of everything that would be painful in years to come. Praying for healing and condolences to family
ReplyDeleteAlam kung Ikaw ay nagdadalamhatinsa pagpanaw ng iyong kabiyak. Hindi rin Maganda na Sabihin na Hindi mo gusto ang Pasko. Alalahanin mo Andrew Meron ka pang mga batang anak. Sila ang alaala ng iyong Asawa.
ReplyDeleteMy mom died Christmas Eve. But never hate Christmas.
ReplyDeleteUNDERSTANDABLE. He hates the season. I’ll hate it too if it’ll remind me of the saddest day of my life all over again. We could all just wish na sana something good naman ang dumating sakanila next holiday season para matabunan yung pain reminder.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know why he needs to post every time at social media esp kakamatay lang ng wife . Obviously talaga naman Mawawalan ka ng gana mag celebrate ng Christmas pag me namatay sa family mo.
ReplyDeleteunderstandable. grieving pa siya. take as much time. pareho sila ng sinapit ni charles delgado, the indie actor. namatay din ang partner niya dahil sa cancer. gumagawa yata siya ng alter videos para may ipantawid sa daily needs & treatments ng partner niya.
ReplyDeletestay strong guys.
Parang ang hirap nman basta sabihin nlang mag move on na sya ksi di nman yan ganyan kadali. Grabe yung hope nila na gagaling, isang taon na pinaglaban. Sakit sakit nyan
ReplyDeleteMy brother died on Christmas day. I didn't feel like celebrating because we were at the funeral parlor para sa burol .but I didn't hate Christmas it's the birthday of Jesus. But that happened several years ago.
ReplyDeleteBased on the comments here. Nakakahiya maging Pinoy. Yuck! Ang lo-low EQ! No shred of compassion.
ReplyDeleteGets ko why he's on soc med at this time. It seems it's one of the things that was sort of "nasa tabi nya" throughout this difficult situation. He also got help from people online, financially and emotionally. It's a sort of outlet and comfort zone for him. Minsan, mas madali maging emotional to people you dont know.
ReplyDeleteHayaan nlang natin siya sa kanyang pagluluksa
ReplyDeleteImagine seeing the festivities around you but every Christmas just reminds you of a time a loved one passed. That's painful beyond words.
ReplyDeleteSo many out of touch comments here. I lost my daughter five years ago. I feel with Andrew. Eversince my child passed on, I’ve never looked at holidays the same way again. We do not move on from loss. We move through it and with it. I hope everyone gets to see grief as something people need to do at their own pace. Grief has no expiration. When we grieve, we love.
ReplyDeleteDont ever hate Christmas. No matter what we are going thru which lahat may pinagdadaanan we have to drop it or set it aside muna and welcome Christmas. Christmas is not about us or our issues. Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. The more we should welcome Christmas so we can feel God’s presence in our lives where we feel empty or sad.
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteHala ka uy ok ka lang? Toxic positivity nakanang! 🥴
DeleteGrieving is a valid emotion. It remains valid during holidays like Christmas. Let the family go through that feeling. It's so insensitive to advice them to move on. One cannot move on from loss of a loved one most especially a spouse and a mother. They have to live with that void space in their life. They'll surely learn how to survive life and accept that void because it's life's natural course. If we truly support the person, all we need to do is to pray for them to go through that loss smoothly and survive the grieving process.
ReplyDeleteKahit sinong tao po pag nawalan ng minamahal s Buhay talagang sasabihin nya kng ano yong nasa isip nya.masakit pag nawala ang Isa sa pinaka importanting tao s Buhay....keep on praying po.
ReplyDeleteWag nyo naman i-invalidate yung feelings nung tao. Namatayan lang naman sya no. Normal na ganyan mararandaman nang kahit sinong nawalan ng mahal sa buhay.
ReplyDeleteNormal yang nararamdaman nya napaka ewan naman ng ibang comments. Ako ngang kabuhayan ang nawala kasi ngayon namin pinaka ramdam ang impact ng bankcruptcy namin, i hate the festivities that come with the Christmas season kaya i deactivated all my socials para wala akong makitang ikaka inis ko pa lalo. Wag kayong nang iinvalidate ng mga nararamdaman ng tao. I hate toxic positivity. Let people feel sad it doesnt mean they are not grateful. 🙄
ReplyDeleteLet’s respect his feelings...and if you have nothing nice to say to just shut your mouth and internet and stay away from the keyboard
ReplyDeletepag di mo matanggap ang pagkalaya sa sakit ng kaluluwa nya, hindi rin yata magiging at peace ang soul ng namayapa. take your time to grieve but gift the departed the gift of eternal peace.
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