Nah, let your spouse cut people off their life as you wish hindi ung papangunahan mo. I can smell controlling wife. You sound like a Megan to Harry. Yikes.
Jessy, this time agreed ako sayo. regardless kung friend/s or relative/s, if makakasama sa relationship nyong mag-asawa - do it. I did and mas happy kami
I was going to say something nasty about this post but She’s pregnant. I’ll just leave it at mag ingat this is toxic behavior and can lead to path na Di mo inaasahan.
12:37 sis define toxic muna. Toxic lang ba siya kay Jessy or kay Luis. Kasi kung kay Jessy baka may nakita ang friend ni Luis na hindi gustohan kay Jessy.
pag gf na nagaantay palang pakasalan or bagong kasal, best behavior usually ang mga babae. pag natural ang pagiging nega, lalabas at lalabas yan pag secured na secured ang pagiging asawa. one way to secure your place is by carrying the baby of your spouse. nagtataka pa kayo. balikan nyo history ni jessie. natural naman sa kanya yan.
11.26 Agreed. And if she's the one involved here and bothered by it, she has to prove that what he said was false rather than making a personal decision for another person because that is disrespectful to him.
Exactly. Sure she has feelings about the situation but Luis is a separate adult who should make his own decisions. Once a person think he or she can decide for another- that’s toxic behavior.
Who are you to decide which person you should cut off from your husband's life? You're being controlling to your husband as if he's not thinking. Enough.
She is the WIFE! It’s not being controlling! If i see people that i know that probably my husband will get into the trouble with, then i will decide which is which. May sariling utak si Luis pero if Jessie is not comfortable with that person, kylangan nyang respetuhin yun.
She may have a valid reason for cutting that person off. Paano kung iniimpluwensyahan asawa mo na mangaliwa, hindi mo palalayuin asawa mo? She’s protecting her family. Controlling agad? Baka basher ka lang.
True. Love is not possession, na pag-aari mo na yung spouse mo to the point na ikaw na nagkokontrol ng buhay niya. Pwede syang magsabi ng opinions nya and isuggest yung mga dapat gawin na pag-cut off sa mga toxic na tao even family members, pero walang karapatan na siya yung mangunguna sa pag-cut off kasi di niya buhay yun
sino sya? significant other lang naman. Siya at si Luis ay iisa na, pinagbuklod na sila ng Diyos. Malamang pinagusapan naman nila yan bago niya sabihin na icut nila yung tao sa buhay ni Luis/nila. e ikaw sino ka ba para magtanong kung sino sya para mag desisyon sa ASAWA niya? fan? o marites lang?
12:24 Haha sino ka din para mag comment? Mas wala kang karapatan kesa kay jessy. Lol ikaw isang marites lang na entitled sa buhay mag asawa si jessy ang may karapatan dahil asawa siya.😛
Oh yeah! I think Filipinos should start doing this. Here in America if we burn bridges, we burrrrn bridges. Some people are just toxic and difficult to be around even if they are family. Protect your peace.
Bakit tuwing nakakabasa ako ng ganito lalo na sa fb, iniisip ko may imaginary hater/enemy yong tao. Lalo na pagkilala mo tapos wala naman talagang nagsasabi ng masama about sa kanya. Yong gumagawa lang ng ikakastress nya.
I agree with her kahit na lumalabas na medj controlling. I realize na deep inside mas emotional ang guys and easily blinded. They need guidance and someone na bubuksan ang mata nila. I think ang wife/so ang may pinaka may karapatan gawin yun
Keyword “nauna yung friendship.” We have to remember that our partners had a life before us. Kahit di pa natin feel ang taong yan wala tayong karapatan to make our partners cut ties with the person. Pwera na lang kung dinadala sa kasamaan mga partners natin like pambababae or whatever. Pero kung sa simple reason lang na di natin sila feel, foul yun.
I would personally trust my husband’s judgment but also make sure to talk about it. Minsan need din nila makita yung other side nung person thru the eyes of the person they love most.
1. I think it's good to have a husband who will validate your emotions so when time comes na magsasalita ka ng nararamdaman mo, hindi nya babalewalain. Also, open communication, we have to realize and accept na magkaiba kayo ng background, upbringing, kay may compromising. 2. Bilang mag asawa, nagiging isa na kayo, partners. I think it's best practice na before you finally decide, inquire una kay God then sa partner mo. 3. Never let a man choose between sayo o sa friends nyang nauna, kung open naman communication ninyo, speaking your truth won't be a problem. Trust him and trust God na ioopen Nya eyes ng asawa mo if someone is being a bad friend sa inyo.
true. kung may nega man about sa friends ni hubby pde naman siya maging upfront tutal kasama tlga yun sa relationship nila. pero nasa tao din ang pagde-decide nun kung i-cut ba niya or hindi. anyways, preggy siya. baka naman hormones din. sana naman hindi siya tlga ganun kalala.
Depende kung gaano ka tagal ng friend ni Luis. Kung mas matagal na kilala ni Luis kesa sayo hindi mo dapat basta basta mag cut off ng friends niya. Mamaya masumbatan ka pa ni Luis tuwing mag away na nawalan siya ng kaibigan dahil sayo.
If matagal nang friend ni Luis yan iba ang dating kasi lumalabas na di marunong si Luis mag discern ng good and bad friends which is weird kasi Luis strikes me as napaka smart and wise na tao and alam ko the friends he has ay mga friends nya pa way, way back before pa sya nag artista.
Actually totoo sinasabi niya. A Friend told Me its ok to cut off people sa life mo If that person is giving you so much stress, pain and anxiety kahit kadugo mo pa yan!
Jessie, I understand the frustration e add pa ang Hormonal factor, but giving subltle peek of your "marital problem" yes, calling all the "wives" makes this sound like a marital problem. I'm sure isa Lang naman ang asawa mo, so not mentioning Luis on your post doesn't make this not about your marital problem. Mukhang private naman si Luis sa mga bagay na bagay na ganito. You're married to the man of your dreams , pregnant, almost have that family you have been dreaming of and you get you do things like this. Sana nga masaya ka talaga like what you project on social media. Goodluck, I hope you find true peace and happiness
03:12 - tama! Stop controlling. Luis is the head of the family. What if ganyanin din siya ni Luis, anong mafi feel niya kaya? Jessy, you'll become a mom na. You do not need stress at this time.
Bakit nang mabasa ko ang post nya bakit ang dating sa akin ay " under " si Luis sa kanya. Parang kinokontrol nya. Wala naman akong nababasang may nakasamaan ng loob si Luis. Or baka tungkol ito sa diumanoy paglipat ng network ni Luis? Di kaya?
Totoo na hindi magandang mandikta ng iba kung sino ang pwede at hindi mo pwedeng kaibiganin o maging kaclose kahit sa loob ng pamilya. Pero kung nakikita mo naman na ang tunay na ugali gaya nung sabi sa dulo, bakit hindi pwedeng mangialam? Kapag nagasawa ang tao, sila ng asawa nya ay iisang laman. Ibig sabihin you should care for your partner like how you care for yourself. Kaya kung kinacancel mo sa buhay mo ang mga negatibong tao, mga mapangabusong tao, mga mapanirang tao o mapanloko at mapanakit, gagawin mo rin yon para sa asawa at anak mo. And knowing miss Jess through her vlogs alone and sir luis, they are both reasonable individuals. Di naman sila yung basta basta nalang nangangancel ng tao. Kung gagawin man nila yun, puro stress nalang inaabot nila being with that particular someone na pwede naman icancel kung inilatag mo na yung ayaw mo o problema mo sa kanya pero di pa nagbago o gumawa ng anumang mga aksyon. It is a typical human being act to shield yourself and your loveones from any bad things or bad people.
The wife is the gatekeeper of the family. So yes, she can cut-off anyone whom she thinks would affect the peace of her household. This includes relatives and close friends. Want to be involved in a family’s life? Befriend the wife.
Kailangan ito ng ibang lalaki minsan. Women have more developed intuition and ability to pick up other people's signals kasi sa dami ng dangers towards women throughout life, natuto na maging sensitive sa tao, mapanuri, at maingat. Alam ng mga nanay if may tinatagong secret ang anak kahit walang sabihin, mga ganyang iskills ba. Napipickup agad yung body language, moods, tone of voice. And from that nakakaform ng conjectures based rin sa past experiences. Alam nila if a fellow woman is the type na walang kyeme makipag landian sa lalaking taken na.
Ang mga babae nakikita nila if a friend is a bad influence sa jowa/asawa. Totoo yung na minsan blind ang mga lalaki, basta part ka ng group you're considered good on all terms agad. Kahit na hindi good in some important terms. They let things go and tolerate things from friends kasi hindi skilled sa communication/confrontation.
Just cut ties without announcing it. By putting it out there she is asserting dominance in the relationship. It’s like saying umayos kayo kundi alisin ko kayo sa buhay ng asawa ko. Nagmukha tuloy under da saya si Luis.
03:07 - Tama. Too early to have this kind of argument in their marriage. She's on the family way na pa naman. Sana na settle na yang mga ganyang issues nung di pa kayo kasal
True. This could have been dealt with privately no? Why did she have to announce it pa kaya. Sounds defensive to me and she’s inviting unnecessary stress in her life which begs the question, is she truly happy? Kasi if totoong masaya ka dedma na sa mga negative people. Gusto nya lang ata pag usapan.
Tread carefully, Jessy, and to everybody na rin. “Husbands and their friends” - isa sa napaka tricky na parts sa relationship especially if matagal na nilang friends bago pa tayo dumating sa buhay nila. Same goes with our friends nung dalaga pa tayo. I wouldnt like it if my husband tells me to cut ties with them just because ayaw nya sa mga ito kasi it’s like telling me di ako marunong mangilatis. I will decide for myself who stays and who goes. I cut ties with some of my friends na mga walwal pa rin til now but it was my own decision. We can point out to them kung anong mga obserbasyon natin sa friend/s nila but ultimately sila pa rin ang magdi decide what to do with those people. Daming away mag-asa ang nagsisimula sa pangingialam kung sino ba ang dapat kaibiganin o hindi.
Good luck sa iyo Maritess 😂They only few friends in showbiz at piling pili pa. They have more non showbiz friends they are the ones that are real & genuine unlike in showbiz , you don’t really know who your true friends are . Nagpaplastikan lang sila at nag gagamitan.
Tama lang yan Jessie. Kahit nauna pa silang maging magkaibigan kung hindi komportable ang asawa at nakikita nya nakakaapekto sa relasyon nila bilang magasawa tama lang na sabihin nya sa asawa nya at kung ang solusyon eh to cut ties go. Pagmagasawa na kayo priorities nyo na ang asawa nyo, ang pamilya nyo. Ok lang bumarkada basta nasa Lugar at ang best friend nyo ung asawa nyo na. Pagnagpakasal na iniiwan na nga ang magulang so bakit hindi ang bad influence na kaibigan? Kahit sa Bible, for better or worse magasawa dapat magkakampi.
Ano pinaglalaban ni atse? Hindi lang babae ang may say sa family or sa partnership. Pati ang lalake nagagawa din yan. Madalas lang gawin ng babae pero it can happen in both ways basta maayos ang communication niyo pareho.
It's never okay to cut out people from other people's lives. You can cut out people from your life, but you don't have the right to cut out people from other people's life - even your spouse. Your spouse has to make this decision for him or herself. If your spouse is reluctant or resistant, then your values are not aligned. You don't have dominion over your spouse and neither should your spouse have dominion over you. Because spouses are partners and are of equal standing. If you exercise dominion over your spouse, you're no longer equal and your no longer partners - you just have a dominant and submissive together.
I don't think pushover si Luis. If he did cut ties it would be his own choice. Sa tapang ni Luis sumagot sa mga bashers and sa minsan sobrang ggss, wala sa personality nya na kaya sya ma under ni Jessy.
I agree with everything you said. You can always express your feelings and explain to your partner why you don’t like that person in their life, but ultimately it’s their decision to make. You can’t just make that decision and force them to live with it. You also need a good reason to ask this from your partner, it can’t be based on shallow or petty reasons. You don’t have to like your partner’s friends, but there needs to be mutual respect. And if they are disrespectful, then your partner needs to step up and protect you.
8:02 PM - Jessie's post was unnecessary. She looks desperate and passive aggressive. Instead of posting na "wives, you can cut people out of your husband's life" dapat dinerecho na lang nya either ung person gusto nya icut out or si Luis. Or Luis can cut out that person to appease her. But it looks like he doesn't want to because either hindi totoo or totoo haha
May mga friends din kase na walang boundaries at walang respeto sa other half ng close friends nila. Pag may asawa na ang kaibigan mo, matuto kang mahiya at lumugar. Wag kang epal, hingi ng pabor, user at taking advantage. At lalong bigyan mo ng importance yung asawa ng kaibigan mo dahil kasama na yon sa decision making ng whether you like it or not!
Luis is an adult capable of making his own decisions,this just shows she is a controlling wife..and posting it publicly.. akala ko marrying luis will make her classy
Unsolicited advice lang Jessy, kung maaari sana di mo na to nilabas. Sana si Luis na lang kinausap mo. Yun lang naman sana. Wag ka na pa stress, ganda mo pa namang buntis. Ayun lang, Anyway, thanks for sharing, the Marites community owe you.
Hay Jessy. Parang you never learned. Ok na eh. Ang ganda na. Ngayon may panibago ka na namang issue. Lagi na lang. Lahat na lang. Di ka na naubusan ng issue. While it is true na as a wife it's your duty to also protect youe family. Eh sana, you just keep this private.
At dahil nag share ka na rin lang, expect na mapag uusapan ka ulet. Please leave some privacy. Do it for your husband and future baby. Settle this privately.
Agree naman ako to remove family or friends that destroy your married life. Pero wag mo na iannounce Jessy lol. Just do it. Magaling pa namang researcher mga maritess lol they’ll try and figure out da who and pagfiestahan lang private issue nyo
Bakit hindi mo muna kausapin asawa mo Jessy. Basic rule yan sa buhay may asawa. By announcing it like that you might be putting your husband in a difficult position.
I’m pretty sure pinag uusapan nilang mag asawa yan. Ikaw na din ang nag sabi na basic rule na ang pag uusap ng mag asawa. Paano kung sinisiraan na siya kaya she had to post it para ma clear din ang ibang circle of friends nila sa mga nagaganap
1:24 Kung pinagusapan nila yan, sa personality ni Luis siya ang maghahandle nyan. Respect ang tawag dun. Emotional si Jessy dahil buntis sya. Yan na lang free pass nya kay Luis dahil hindi ganyan magsolve ng marital issues.
Gurl, masasabi mo lang yan cuz you are not in her situation. Pag sa iyo nangyayari yan we’ll see kung ano ang gagawin mo. Don’t be judgemental . Wag magsalita ng tapos
Eto na naman double standard. Pag lalaki nagsabi nya, puro kayo nega. Hayaan nyo na siya. Andami fin naman din sigurong gumawa ng ganyan, ni let go sya kasi toxic din sya. There is a reason kaya di sya sunikat sikat.
Mga bashers, konting basa naman. Punong puno kayo ng haka haka, baka, siguro. Basahin ninyo ang last paragraph. She's trying to protect her husband and family from DANGER. May mas malalim pang dahilan kaya gusto niyang putulin and ugnayan ng hubby and this particular person.
even i dont like jessy, i agree on her. but please dont post like this one kasi baka mabasa mo mga comments na hindi pabor sayo e mastress ka lalo nat buntis ka. nakakastress pa nman ang social media.
If ang i cut-off ni Jessy family / friends from her side I think that's fine. Pero if friends /family ni Luis it is his decision to make maski mag asawa sila. My opinion.
I agree with this, my mother in law is a racist and hates filipinas. Laging nambubuyo sa asawa ko. I forgave her so many times.. her precence created so much caos sa pgsasama namin, she tried to break us apart. Finally i had enough and walked away My husband begged me to come back. I came back under one condition..cut off na yun mom nya.. he chose us, 5 yts na syang di part ng buhay namin.. best decision ever..
So eto pala ung about sa business scam ng bestfriend ni Luis.. tama lng ginawa nya dito.. tas ung ibang comment dito kung maka judge kay jessir Wagas..
sana di nalng sya nagpost lalo pat preggy sya wag syang pastress
ReplyDeletemomsh emotional ang preggo, yaan mo na. need nya ilabas
DeleteAccount nya yun, let her be. Thats her life!
Delete40 plus na si Luis... Marunong naman siguro un mag decide who to befriend or unfriend
DeleteMga marites pangalanan na yan.
ReplyDeleteNah, let your spouse cut people off their life as you wish hindi ung papangunahan mo. I can smell controlling wife. You sound like a Megan to Harry. Yikes.
DeleteYa look into the psychological explanation of people who do this. Claiming your protecting is not an excuse
DeleteTama. Let the partner cut ties if s/he wants to. Controlling partner ang dating
DeleteJessy, this time agreed ako sayo. regardless kung friend/s or relative/s, if makakasama sa relationship nyong mag-asawa - do it. I did and mas happy kami
ReplyDeleteMake sure lang na hindi ginagawa para i-isolate ka sa loved ones mo.
DeleteI was going to say something nasty about this post but She’s pregnant. I’ll just leave it at mag ingat this is toxic behavior and can lead to path na Di mo inaasahan.
DeleteSya pa ba ang toxic sa yo 11:26? We are allowed to cut out people in our lives who are toxic and not be doormats and punching bags.
Delete12:37 sis define toxic muna. Toxic lang ba siya kay Jessy or kay Luis. Kasi kung kay Jessy baka may nakita ang friend ni Luis na hindi gustohan kay Jessy.
Deletepag gf na nagaantay palang pakasalan or bagong kasal, best behavior usually ang mga babae. pag natural ang pagiging nega, lalabas at lalabas yan pag secured na secured ang pagiging asawa. one way to secure your place is by carrying the baby of your spouse. nagtataka pa kayo. balikan nyo history ni jessie. natural naman sa kanya yan.
Delete5:18 dito ako agree. Magaling din mag tago ng ugali kapag hindi pa kasal at mag jowa pa
Delete5:18, This!
Delete11.26 Agreed. And if she's the one involved here and bothered by it, she has to prove that what he said was false rather than making a personal decision for another person because that is disrespectful to him.
DeleteExactly. Sure she has feelings about the situation but Luis is a separate adult who should make his own decisions. Once a person think he or she can decide for another- that’s toxic behavior.
Deletei-tag mo. Walang kwento mga paring na ganyan kung.
ReplyDeleteSino kaya pinaparinggan nya? Bad influence ata sa hubby nya.
ReplyDeleteSo sino ang nakaFO ni Luis? 😅
ReplyDeleteWho are you to decide which person you should cut off from your husband's life? You're being controlling to your husband as if he's not thinking. Enough.
ReplyDelete12:24 and who do you think you are to say “ENOUGH” ? Lol
DeleteShe is the WIFE! It’s not being controlling! If i see people that i know that probably my husband will get into the trouble with, then i will decide which is which. May sariling utak si Luis pero if Jessie is not comfortable with that person, kylangan nyang respetuhin yun.
DeleteDiba?? Siya talaga ang magpapasya. Buti na lang di ganyan gf ko
DeleteYeah. Cant they just settle things by talking to each other first?
DeleteWho are you also to dictate what she should or should not do. Asawa sya, ikaw tagabasa lang. 🤦♀️
DeleteShe’s not just a wife but an immediate family na
DeleteTrue gusto niya under sa kanya asawa niya hahah
DeleteI understand her completely. Been there, done that!
DeleteShe may have a valid reason for cutting that person off. Paano kung iniimpluwensyahan asawa mo na mangaliwa, hindi mo palalayuin asawa mo? She’s protecting her family. Controlling agad? Baka basher ka lang.
DeleteTrue. Love is not possession, na pag-aari mo na yung spouse mo to the point na ikaw na nagkokontrol ng buhay niya. Pwede syang magsabi ng opinions nya and isuggest yung mga dapat gawin na pag-cut off sa mga toxic na tao even family members, pero walang karapatan na siya yung mangunguna sa pag-cut off kasi di niya buhay yun
DeleteAsawa lang naman sya. Kabiyak.
DeleteAnd as a wife and mother, yes, it is your responsibility to protect your family.
Husbands and wives are partners. As such, it takes two people to make the decision to cut off others, hindi lang isang tao.
DeleteThis comment puzzles me. What if di ja tama yung ginagawa e tolerate pa rin?
DeleteSYA LANG NAMAN ANG ASAWA BEH GIGIL AKO SAYO HUH
DeleteHindi nya kaya asawa nya kaya dinaan nya sa parinig
Delete1:02 very well said :)
DeleteWho are you?? Asawa niya lng naman.. ang dapat 1 priority mo sa buhay.. yan lang naman ang sinumpa niyo sa simbahan.. di ka makarelate?
DeleteSino sya? Asawa?! Kung married ka dapat naiintindihan mo si Jessie.
Delete1:17 under agad?
DeleteAnd who are you to say that? Asawa sya! She’s half of that marriage so she has a say. Ikaw wala!
Deletesino sya? significant other lang naman. Siya at si Luis ay iisa na, pinagbuklod na sila ng Diyos. Malamang pinagusapan naman nila yan bago niya sabihin na icut nila yung tao sa buhay ni Luis/nila. e ikaw sino ka ba para magtanong kung sino sya para mag desisyon sa ASAWA niya? fan? o marites lang?
Deleteas per Jessy kung tingin nya B.I why not cut the people off their lives
DeleteGanun din gagawin ko. Protect your family guys.
Delete1:17 AM, I don't think mapapa under kay Jessy si Luis.
DeleteShe has all the rights to protect her family. Go Jessy
Delete12:24 Haha sino ka din para mag comment? Mas wala kang karapatan kesa kay jessy. Lol ikaw isang marites lang na entitled sa buhay mag asawa si jessy ang may karapatan dahil asawa siya.😛
DeleteNo- people have a RIGHT to comment. She put it out there diba ?
DeleteOh yeah! I think Filipinos should start doing this. Here in America if we burn bridges, we burrrrn bridges. Some people are just toxic and difficult to be around even if they are family. Protect your peace.
ReplyDeleteBakit iisang tao lang ang nasa isip ko while reading the last part mehehehe
ReplyDeleteSino?
DeleteSino?
DeleteSameeee haha dasurv
DeleteClues please..
Deletebaka naman inaabuso ang kabaitan ni luis,kuripot/practical sya pero matulungin lalo na sa friends in need.
ReplyDeleteAng nakuha ko sa sinulat niya na meron sinabi bad about her kaya cut off mo na
DeleteTrue!
DeleteWeird. Specially Luis’ friends are a tight knit. Kaka puzzle tuloy.
ReplyDeleteWho said it’s Luis’ friends? Probably family or a co-worker.
DeleteBakit tuwing nakakabasa ako ng ganito lalo na sa fb, iniisip ko may imaginary hater/enemy yong tao. Lalo na pagkilala mo tapos wala naman talagang nagsasabi ng masama about sa kanya. Yong gumagawa lang ng ikakastress nya.
ReplyDeleteSame. Hahaha! May ka FB kasi akong ganyan feeling daming haters ewan ko ba araw-araw may parinig. 🤣
Deletehahaha True! yung tipong gumagawa lang ng issue para mapagusapan siya.
DeleteMga mema lang, para kunwari famous hahahaha mas masaya sana kung drop name agad para kapani-paniwala hahahaha
DeleteInggit lang kayo baka wala kayong mga asawa hindi kayo maka relate hhahaha
Delete12:33 hahahaha gawain mo siguro yan noh? kaya affected ka. Walang dapat kainggitan sa ganyan duh! Hahahaha
DeleteI agree with her kahit na lumalabas na medj controlling. I realize na deep inside mas emotional ang guys and easily blinded. They need guidance and someone na bubuksan ang mata nila. I think ang wife/so ang may pinaka may karapatan gawin yun
ReplyDeleteTotoo to 1:12
DeleteTotoo po... my wife guided me and continue guiding me...
DeleteBaks, I totally agree with you.
DeleteWifey here agrees!
DeleteI agree 1.12 but personally, I think problematic 'yong ganyan.
DeleteNung buntis ako lahat issue sakin kahit commercial ng diapers haha
ReplyDeleteThis happens talaga. Meron friend ang hubby natin na hindi natin feel. How are we supposed to act on this esp. if nauna yung friendship nila?
ReplyDeleteKeyword “nauna yung friendship.” We have to remember that our partners had a life before us. Kahit di pa natin feel ang taong yan wala tayong karapatan to make our partners cut ties with the person. Pwera na lang kung dinadala sa kasamaan mga partners natin like pambababae or whatever. Pero kung sa simple reason lang na di natin sila feel, foul yun.
DeleteI would personally trust my husband’s judgment but also make sure to talk about it. Minsan need din nila makita yung other side nung person thru the eyes of the person they love most.
DeleteAko I let go of the friend until he realizes that im right and his wife is wrong. Char!
DeleteWife ka. Kung sa tingin mo may mali. Go.
Delete1. I think it's good to have a husband who will validate your emotions so when time comes na magsasalita ka ng nararamdaman mo, hindi nya babalewalain. Also, open communication, we have to realize and accept na magkaiba kayo ng background, upbringing, kay may compromising.
Delete2. Bilang mag asawa, nagiging isa na kayo, partners. I think it's best practice na before you finally decide, inquire una kay God then sa partner mo.
3. Never let a man choose between sayo o sa friends nyang nauna, kung open naman communication ninyo, speaking your truth won't be a problem. Trust him and trust God na ioopen Nya eyes ng asawa mo if someone is being a bad friend sa inyo.
8:29 AM - talagang go, as in the husband will eventually go away pag ganyang controlling ang wife haha
DeleteThe Who?
ReplyDeleteMatalino naman si luis e, he can handle that alone
Sabi niya, especially if it's the only way to protect him and your family from danger.
DeleteYes, pero mnsan sa sobrang close niyo na ng toxic friend di mo na yun namamalayan, na naabuso ka na or what..
Deletetrue. kung may nega man about sa friends ni hubby pde naman siya maging upfront tutal kasama tlga yun sa relationship nila. pero nasa tao din ang pagde-decide nun kung i-cut ba niya or hindi. anyways, preggy siya. baka naman hormones din. sana naman hindi siya tlga ganun kalala.
DeleteDepende kung gaano ka tagal ng friend ni Luis. Kung mas matagal na kilala ni Luis kesa sayo hindi mo dapat basta basta mag cut off ng friends niya. Mamaya masumbatan ka pa ni Luis tuwing mag away na nawalan siya ng kaibigan dahil sayo.
ReplyDeleteMag shopping ka nalang ulit Jessy para dika ma stress. 😉
ReplyDeleteSince naging asawa nya si luis parang hindi na sya mareach. Ako lang to ha.
ReplyDeleteIf matagal nang friend ni Luis yan iba ang dating kasi lumalabas na di marunong si Luis mag discern ng good and bad friends which is weird kasi Luis strikes me as napaka smart and wise na tao and alam ko the friends he has ay mga friends nya pa way, way back before pa sya nag artista.
ReplyDeleteActually totoo sinasabi niya. A Friend told Me its ok to cut off people sa life mo If that person is giving you so much stress, pain and anxiety kahit kadugo mo pa yan!
ReplyDeleteFierce
ReplyDeleteYou have all the right to protect your territory regarless of what people say...
ReplyDeleteOh-oh! Tread carefully, Jessy. Unti-unting lumalabas color mo rin.
ReplyDeleteOoooh, nagsisimula ng maging Wifezilla..
ReplyDeleteIn love na in love ang koya Luis mo at naging sunod-sunuran na sa asawa. Halata sa mga vlogs nila together si Jessy nasusunod.
ReplyDeleteI can relate with her post... This is so trueeee
ReplyDeleteJessie, I understand the frustration e add pa ang Hormonal factor, but giving subltle peek of your "marital problem" yes, calling all the "wives" makes this sound like a marital problem. I'm sure isa Lang naman ang asawa mo, so not mentioning Luis on your post doesn't make this not about your marital problem. Mukhang private naman si Luis sa mga bagay na bagay na ganito. You're married to the man of your dreams , pregnant, almost have that family you have been dreaming of and you get you do things like this. Sana nga masaya ka talaga like what you project on social media. Goodluck, I hope you find true peace and happiness
ReplyDelete03:12 - tama! Stop controlling. Luis is the head of the family. What if ganyanin din siya ni Luis, anong mafi feel niya kaya? Jessy, you'll become a mom na. You do not need stress at this time.
DeleteShowbiz friend ba to
ReplyDeleteBakit nang mabasa ko ang post nya bakit ang dating sa akin ay " under " si Luis sa kanya. Parang kinokontrol nya. Wala naman akong nababasang may nakasamaan ng loob si Luis. Or baka tungkol ito sa diumanoy paglipat ng network ni Luis? Di kaya?
ReplyDeleteMedyo nag li lean ako dun sa part na dominante sya.
DeleteGanda niya dyan
ReplyDeleteI agreed. The bio dad of my daughter didn’t agree so ako ang humiwalay no I’m in a paradise for 17 years 👍
ReplyDeleteTotoo na hindi magandang mandikta ng iba kung sino ang pwede at hindi mo pwedeng kaibiganin o maging kaclose kahit sa loob ng pamilya. Pero kung nakikita mo naman na ang tunay na ugali gaya nung sabi sa dulo, bakit hindi pwedeng mangialam? Kapag nagasawa ang tao, sila ng asawa nya ay iisang laman. Ibig sabihin you should care for your partner like how you care for yourself. Kaya kung kinacancel mo sa buhay mo ang mga negatibong tao, mga mapangabusong tao, mga mapanirang tao o mapanloko at mapanakit, gagawin mo rin yon para sa asawa at anak mo. And knowing miss Jess through her vlogs alone and sir luis, they are both reasonable individuals. Di naman sila yung basta basta nalang nangangancel ng tao. Kung gagawin man nila yun, puro stress nalang inaabot nila being with that particular someone na pwede naman icancel kung inilatag mo na yung ayaw mo o problema mo sa kanya pero di pa nagbago o gumawa ng anumang mga aksyon. It is a typical human being act to shield yourself and your loveones from any bad things or bad people.
ReplyDeleteTrue ka po dyan. Hindi maintindihan yan ng ibang tao dahil siguro sila yung mga toxic sa buhay at mga marites hahaha
DeleteYou have a point but you don't remove his right to make a decision. OMG, that attitude is a red flag.
DeleteJessy, pangalanan mo na kung sino yan...
ReplyDeleteThe wife is the gatekeeper of the family. So yes, she can cut-off anyone whom she thinks would affect the peace of her household. This includes relatives and close friends. Want to be involved in a family’s life? Befriend the wife.
ReplyDelete1104 mismo!
DeleteKailangan ito ng ibang lalaki minsan. Women have more developed intuition and ability to pick up other people's signals kasi sa dami ng dangers towards women throughout life, natuto na maging sensitive sa tao, mapanuri, at maingat. Alam ng mga nanay if may tinatagong secret ang anak kahit walang sabihin, mga ganyang iskills ba. Napipickup agad yung body language, moods, tone of voice. And from that nakakaform ng conjectures based rin sa past experiences. Alam nila if a fellow woman is the type na walang kyeme makipag landian sa lalaking taken na.
ReplyDeleteAng mga babae nakikita nila if a friend is a bad influence sa jowa/asawa. Totoo yung na minsan blind ang mga lalaki, basta part ka ng group you're considered good on all terms agad. Kahit na hindi good in some important terms. They let things go and tolerate things from friends kasi hindi skilled sa communication/confrontation.
ReplyDeleteYes that’s very true.. But Jessy, you don’t wash your dirty linens in public. Have some class.
ReplyDeletePinapangunahan ng emotion eh
Delete1:45 PM - I think we have long established na she doesn't have this and from the way things are going, she'll never have it.
DeleteJust cut ties without announcing it. By putting it out there she is asserting dominance in the relationship. It’s like saying umayos kayo kundi alisin ko kayo sa buhay ng asawa ko. Nagmukha tuloy under da saya si Luis.
ReplyDelete03:07 - Tama. Too early to have this kind of argument in their marriage. She's on the family way na pa naman. Sana na settle na yang mga ganyang issues nung di pa kayo kasal
DeleteAgree.
DeleteTotally agree! Cut ties whatever you want but no need to announce it to the world. Do it lowkey and between you and husband!
DeleteTrue. This could have been dealt with privately no? Why did she have to announce it pa kaya. Sounds defensive to me and she’s inviting unnecessary stress in her life which begs the question, is she truly happy? Kasi if totoong masaya ka dedma na sa mga negative people. Gusto nya lang ata pag usapan.
DeleteTread carefully, Jessy, and to everybody na rin. “Husbands and their friends” - isa sa napaka tricky na parts sa relationship especially if matagal na nilang friends bago pa tayo dumating sa buhay nila. Same goes with our friends nung dalaga pa tayo. I wouldnt like it if my husband tells me to cut ties with them just because ayaw nya sa mga ito kasi it’s like telling me di ako marunong mangilatis. I will decide for myself who stays and who goes. I cut ties with some of my friends na mga walwal pa rin til now but it was my own decision. We can point out to them kung anong mga obserbasyon natin sa friend/s nila but ultimately sila pa rin ang magdi decide what to do with those people. Daming away mag-asa ang nagsisimula sa pangingialam kung sino ba ang dapat kaibiganin o hindi.
ReplyDelete03:28 - Tama ka. Hindi healthy relationship yun. Para na rin niyang sinabi na walang sound judgment yung partner niya sa pagpili ng kaibigan
DeleteBrb mangi stalk lang ako kung sinong mga na unfollow nila.
ReplyDeleteTapos na ba yun investigation mo? Paki sabi na lang sa amin.
DeleteGood luck sa iyo Maritess 😂They only few friends in showbiz at piling pili pa. They have more non showbiz friends they are the ones that are real & genuine unlike in showbiz , you don’t really know who your true friends are . Nagpaplastikan lang sila at nag gagamitan.
Delete11:20, yes parang alam ko na sino. Not from showbiz. 😂
DeleteTama lang yan Jessie. Kahit nauna pa silang maging magkaibigan kung hindi komportable ang asawa at nakikita nya nakakaapekto sa relasyon nila bilang magasawa tama lang na sabihin nya sa asawa nya at kung ang solusyon eh to cut ties go. Pagmagasawa na kayo priorities nyo na ang asawa nyo, ang pamilya nyo. Ok lang bumarkada basta nasa Lugar at ang best friend nyo ung asawa nyo na. Pagnagpakasal na iniiwan na nga ang magulang so bakit hindi ang bad influence na kaibigan? Kahit sa Bible, for better or worse magasawa dapat magkakampi.
ReplyDeleteAno pinaglalaban ni atse? Hindi lang babae ang may say sa family or sa partnership. Pati ang lalake nagagawa din yan. Madalas lang gawin ng babae pero it can happen in both ways basta maayos ang communication niyo pareho.
ReplyDeleteIt takes one to know one.
ReplyDeleteIt's never okay to cut out people from other people's lives. You can cut out people from your life, but you don't have the right to cut out people from other people's life - even your spouse. Your spouse has to make this decision for him or herself. If your spouse is reluctant or resistant, then your values are not aligned. You don't have dominion over your spouse and neither should your spouse have dominion over you. Because spouses are partners and are of equal standing. If you exercise dominion over your spouse, you're no longer equal and your no longer partners - you just have a dominant and submissive together.
ReplyDeleteI don't think pushover si Luis. If he did cut ties it would be his own choice. Sa tapang ni Luis sumagot sa mga bashers and sa minsan sobrang ggss, wala sa personality nya na kaya sya ma under ni Jessy.
DeleteI agree with everything you said. You can always express your feelings and explain to your partner why you don’t like that person in their life, but ultimately it’s their decision to make. You can’t just make that decision and force them to live with it. You also need a good reason to ask this from your partner, it can’t be based on shallow or petty reasons. You don’t have to like your partner’s friends, but there needs to be mutual respect. And if they are disrespectful, then your partner needs to step up and protect you.
Delete8:02 Totally agree with you 💯. Luis is not the type that would just sit down & take the bullshit. In other words he is not a yes man .
Delete8:02 PM - Jessie's post was unnecessary. She looks desperate and passive aggressive. Instead of posting na "wives, you can cut people out of your husband's life" dapat dinerecho na lang nya either ung person gusto nya icut out or si Luis. Or Luis can cut out that person to appease her. But it looks like he doesn't want to because either hindi totoo or totoo haha
DeleteMay mga friends din kase na walang boundaries at walang respeto sa other half ng close friends nila. Pag may asawa na ang kaibigan mo, matuto kang mahiya at lumugar. Wag kang epal, hingi ng pabor, user at taking advantage. At lalong bigyan mo ng importance yung asawa ng kaibigan mo dahil kasama na yon sa decision making ng whether you like it or not!
ReplyDeleteTHIS!
DeleteLuis is an adult capable of making his own decisions,this just shows she is a controlling wife..and posting it publicly.. akala ko marrying luis will make her classy
ReplyDeleteUnsolicited advice lang Jessy, kung maaari sana di mo na to nilabas. Sana si Luis na lang kinausap mo. Yun lang naman sana. Wag ka na pa stress, ganda mo pa namang buntis. Ayun lang, Anyway, thanks for sharing, the Marites community owe you.
ReplyDeleteHay Jessy. Parang you never learned. Ok na eh. Ang ganda na. Ngayon may panibago ka na namang issue. Lagi na lang. Lahat na lang. Di ka na naubusan ng issue. While it is true na as a wife it's your duty to also protect youe family. Eh sana, you just keep this private.
ReplyDeleteAt dahil nag share ka na rin lang, expect na mapag uusapan ka ulet. Please leave some privacy. Do it for your husband and future baby. Settle this privately.
ReplyDeleteAgree naman ako to remove family or friends that destroy your married life. Pero wag mo na iannounce Jessy lol. Just do it. Magaling pa namang researcher mga maritess lol they’ll try and figure out da who and pagfiestahan lang private issue nyo
ReplyDeleteNa figure out ko na nga kahapon eh. 🤣🤣🤣
Delete1:00 Haha angaling mo certified maritess
DeleteTrue ayan na nga dami na haka haka sa dynamics nilang mag asawa at sa kung sino ang tsinugi
DeleteSounds like somebody doesn't like her and she's controlling Luis to cut that person off. The who??
ReplyDeleteParang ganun na nga. Baka may na comment na something si friend or friends about her baka ugali or whatever.
DeleteBakit hindi mo muna kausapin asawa mo Jessy. Basic rule yan sa buhay may asawa. By announcing it like that you might be putting your husband in a difficult position.
ReplyDeleteI’m pretty sure pinag uusapan nilang mag asawa yan. Ikaw na din ang nag sabi na basic rule na ang pag uusap ng mag asawa. Paano kung sinisiraan na siya kaya she had to post it para ma clear din ang ibang circle of friends nila sa mga nagaganap
Delete1:24 Kung pinagusapan nila yan, sa personality ni Luis siya ang maghahandle nyan. Respect ang tawag dun. Emotional si Jessy dahil buntis sya. Yan na lang free pass nya kay Luis dahil hindi ganyan magsolve ng marital issues.
DeleteHuwag pski alamera sacfriends ng husband mo. Mali yan!
ReplyDeleteGurl, masasabi mo lang yan cuz you are not in her situation. Pag sa iyo nangyayari yan we’ll see kung ano ang gagawin mo. Don’t be judgemental . Wag magsalita ng tapos
DeleteThinking somebody is “insignificant” means you think you’re better than eveyone
ReplyDeleteEto na naman double standard. Pag lalaki nagsabi nya, puro kayo nega. Hayaan nyo na siya. Andami fin naman din sigurong gumawa ng ganyan, ni let go sya kasi toxic din sya. There is a reason kaya di sya sunikat sikat.
ReplyDeleteAng juicy.. sino kaya yun?
ReplyDeleteMga bashers, konting basa naman. Punong puno kayo ng haka haka, baka, siguro. Basahin ninyo ang last paragraph. She's trying to protect her husband and family from DANGER. May mas malalim pang dahilan kaya gusto niyang putulin and ugnayan ng hubby and this particular person.
ReplyDeleteeven i dont like jessy, i agree on her. but please dont post like this one kasi baka mabasa mo mga comments na hindi pabor sayo e mastress ka lalo nat buntis ka. nakakastress pa nman ang social media.
ReplyDeleteKorek 4:14 Siya na din mismo gumagawa ng ika ka stress nya .
DeleteShe didn’t say it’s a friend or friends. Could be family too
ReplyDeleteIf ang i cut-off ni Jessy family / friends from her side I think that's fine.
ReplyDeletePero if friends /family ni Luis it is his decision to make maski mag asawa sila. My opinion.
I agree with this, my mother in law is a racist and hates filipinas. Laging nambubuyo sa asawa ko. I forgave her so many times.. her precence created so much caos sa pgsasama namin, she tried to break us apart. Finally i had enough and walked away My husband begged me to come back. I came back under one condition..cut off na yun mom nya.. he chose us, 5 yts na syang di part ng buhay namin.. best decision ever..
ReplyDeleteAgree with her, but she should keep it private.
ReplyDeleteTrue naman to pero dapat hindi na inaair sa public yung ganito
ReplyDeleteSo eto pala ung about sa business scam ng bestfriend ni Luis.. tama lng ginawa nya dito.. tas ung ibang comment dito kung maka judge kay jessir Wagas..
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