In a rare instance, actress-socialite Heart Evangelista opened up on her in-vitro-fertilization (IVF) journey.
In the September issue of L’Officiel Philippines, Heart described the process as “one of the toughest, challenging times” of her life.
“With IVF, they inject you with fertility hormones. It was very difficult and painful. I had three injections a day over a two-week process,” the 37-year-old said. “After harvesting and the processes that came after, they were able to gather the perfect boy and the perfect girl.”
Note that Heart was supposed to have twins in 2018 but lost them.
This allowed Heart a realization.
She shared, “It made me realize, am I ready for a child?”
“I actually have a baby boy and a baby girl waiting for me, but I’m really at this stage in my life where (I ask myself): ‘Do I want a child because I want a child?’ or ‘Do I want a child because the environment or culture dictates that I should have a child?’”
In any case, she related how it’s liberating to decide according to what she wants.
“That has changed me dramatically,” she maintained.
Heart reiterated having a choice is good.
And she suggests other women should take advantage of the same as it “buys them time.”
“Any time they decide on having a child, the embryo is there. Whether you decide immediately or five years from now, there is no deadline. Also, the process is available in the Philippines and not just abroad,” she pointed out.
In the same interview, Heart also talked about her husband Senator Francis “Chiz” Escudero and how supportive he is regarding the whole process.
“Chiz is a really good guy though we’re very different because he’s very conservative and I’m also a little bit more modern. Perhaps it’s because of our age gap. But what I like about him is he tries. He tries to be as supportive as he can be,” she said.
Off late, Heart has been making headlines in relation to her rumored split with Chiz.
napakaarte. a baby is a blessing. why do you need to question pa kung kailan o hindi?
ReplyDeleteWow! Pala desisyon yarn? Di po pwedeng anak ng anak Teh! May kaakibat na malaking responsibilidad after ka mag anak! Ghaaad! Over populated na tayo pasalamat ka sa mga taong ayaw na magka anak. At least di madadagdagan diapers na ibabasura.haha
DeleteA baby is a blessing but also a big responsibility. Kudos to Heart for being responsible.
DeleteThat is called responsible parenting. You decide when you are ready, Emotionally, physically, financially. A baby will always be a blessing pero a lot of factors to consider.
DeleteYan problema dito eh - hindi mo naman kasi maibabalik yung bata pag pinanganak mo na. Life long responsibility yan. Responsibilidad ng magulang suportahan ang anak at palakihin into a productive, goof person. Hindi lang yan basta basta. Tama lang na pinagiisipan kasi hindi naman lahat ay fit maging magulang.
Deletegurl think twice before u say something. tsk tsk tsk
DeleteIkaw siguro yung anak ng anak kahit hindi naman financially stable at emotionally and physically ready.
DeleteTapos kung mag aanak sya ngayon at lagi nman syang magtatravel, ibabash pa rin sya? Kaloka! Tih, hindi ka lang pwedeng financially ready kapag mag anak, kaylangan din mentally kasi ang hirap ng may anak. Nakakadrain sya minsan, of course happiness ang anak pero hindi sa lahat ng oras.
DeleteOmg wow sana all ganyan mg isip. Yung hindi mo ikuquestion ang sarili mo kung kaya mo ba? Kaya ba ng katawan mo? Kaya ba ng time mo? Kaya mo ba bawasan ang oras ng trabaho which means pati sahod? Ready ka na ba to give up your freedom? Your sleep? Wala pa akong anak pero pagod na pagod na ako after work. Di ko nlng pgiisipan basta mg-anak nlng bahala na si batman?
DeleteWow naman 11:00 pm Kakahiya naman sayo! May Pa ambag ka ba kay Heart ? If Wala naman wag maging nega & I agree to heart.Her body her choice pa din & mind you may pera si heart so Kere nya with or without child.
DeleteAlam naman niya na maarte sya teh! Buena Familia yan galing. Wag mo itulad sa iba na palaaway in public. Hahaha!
Deletekakapalan ng pagmumukha ni 11:07 lakas ng apog mag demand. backward thinking asar.
Delete11:45 I agree with your statement pero as for the physical part, hindi all the time nasa babae ang decision. Considering age is a major factor sa pagbubuntis. Once you reach a certain age, almost impossible ng mabuntis ang babae. In Heart's case, medyo malapit na sya sa limit pero good thing na she chose to preserve her eggs para anytime na ready na sya magka-anak, she can go ahead na.
Delete2022 na ung mindset mo pakiupdate naman, naiwan ka sa 80s na timeline. Keep up din pag may time.
Delete11:00 kung palagi niyong ipipilit yang baby is a blessing regardless kung anong stand ng babae malamang anak ang magsusuffer. hindi nga siya ready at parang ayaw niya so it means mentally hindi siya prepared eh paano kung nandyan na yung bata tapos ayaw niya pa din sa anak niya edi psycologically unaware ang nanay na nasasaktan niya yung anak niya. esep esep
Delete11:38 I agree!! Si 11:00 kasi kasama sa mga pinoy na anak ng anak lang alam. Hindi kino-consider and responsibility or financial aspects ng pag-anak. Utak talangka.
DeleteKaya hindi ako nagtataka na overpopulated pilipinas dahil sa mga ganitong klaseng pagiisip ni 11:00. Yung tipong anak lng ng anak pero hindi iniisip kung kaya ba ang responsibilidad na magbigay ng de kalidad na buhay para sa bata, hindi lang basta literal na buhayin.
DeleteSi 11:00PM yung isa kung hindi eh kamag anak nung nga batang babae na nabuntis sa inuman tas iniwan ng nakabuntis tas umasa sa magulang, hindi na nag aral tas proud single mom sa social media kase evey baby is a blessing daw.. tapos imbes magpadede o magpalit ng diaper ng anak, post lang ng post sa social media ng filtered photo nya na labas ang cleavage dahil naghahanap ng jowa at inuman na pupuntahan..
DeleteWow ha.. katawan mo? Buhay mo? Masyado ka nmn pakielamera..
DeleteHmm, this is a topic with many layers. Lots of societal problems would be solved if people don't just reproduce without any thought, but at the same time, nothing can prepare you for parenting. Not even financial stability nor age/maturity. Narealize ko yan since I started working with special needs children. Iba iba ang parents, iba iba din ang anak, yet nothing, nothing prepares people for parenting. You really have to be adaptable, be self-sacrificing, and be humble/accepting of mistakes, cause once you are a parent you will make a lot of mistakes. No parenting books nor money could help usually sa nakita ko. And once you somewhat gain some confidence that you are finding your footing, your next child comes out a completely different person from the first, and so on. This might be a pessimistic view, but based on what I've witness, mahirap talaga yung topic na to. It's a huge responsibility.
DeleteHala sya. Oo babies are blessing at the same time responsibility and commitment. Pero yung iba nagaanak just for the sake, investment at future retirement plan. Nakakadiri ung mga ganung magisip na tao.
DeleteHow condescending can you be? I want a child but maybe my present condition won't let me do that anymore since I got 1 ovary removed. So please spare me from your arrogant comment and bear 100 children for all I care.
Delete11:00, thank God at marami nang HINDI tulad mong napaka backward mag isip! Not everyone is meant to parent a child, not everyone wants to ba a parent and it doesn't make them any lesser than those with children. Andaming anak ng anak wala namang karapatan-either walang pang buhay sa bata o sadyang hindi mabuting magulang.
DeleteAng specific ni 615A pero natumbok mo siszt!
Delete“I actually have a baby boy and a baby girl waiting for me, but I’m really at this stage in my life where (I ask myself): ‘Do I want a child because I want a child?’ or ‘Do I want a child because the environment or culture dictates that I should have a child?’”
ReplyDeleteANG ARTE ARTE!
totoo naman sabi nya eh :) atleast she’s really making sure sa decision nya mag anak since that’s a life changing decision. di lang yan basta basta. and it’s not your body, so bat ikaw ang nagiinarte? :)
DeleteHindi maarte yan. Tama lang na mag-isip ng mabuti before having a child dahil LIFETIME COMMITMENT yan. Buti nga ito pinag iisipan, ang dami dyan anak lang ng anak kahit hindi sila mentally or emotionally ready. Kawawa tuloy ang bata.
DeleteHow is it maarte?
DeleteIm not sure bakit nasasabi mong maarte. Lifetime commitment ang pagaanak. Not everybody is fit to be a parent. Buti sya nagiisip. Ikaw try mo. You have a brain, might as well use it kahit paminsan minsan :)
Deletehaving a child is a responsibility. my Goodness!!!
DeleteHello! If you're gonna have a child, make sure you want it and not just because.
DeleteGod, you really don’t understand, do you???
DeleteSame person 'to dun sa isa pang comment. Gigil yarn? Hindi Maarte 'yung pagiging practical, common sense please
Delete11:57 please huwag mo nang udyokin si 11:07 na magparami pa ng lahi niya. It's a lose-lose both for the kids and our society
Delete11:07 nag quote ka pa, pero hindi mo inintindi.
Delete11:07, inggit ka lang kasi wala kang means to have choices.
Delete11:07 Hindi maarte ang mag isip at pakinggan ang sarili bago mag decision. Clear ang questions niya sa sarili- gusto ba niya talagang magkababy or nape-pressure lang sya dahil sa mga pakialamerang kagaya mo?
DeleteOk lang mag inarte sa isang bagay that will change your life forever. Eh hindi pa siya ready eh? Lakangpake!
DeleteHalata kung kanino fans tong nagcomment na toh 🙄🙄🙄crass and squammy
DeleteAnong maarte don? Some people are not ment o be a mother wla ka ng pake kung gusto niya or ayaw niya magbaby
DeleteSana wala kang matris, or wag mong maisipang maganak or magampon lol. The world would be better off.
DeleteSo 11:07 maarte si Heart? Ano gusto mo anak nang anak mga babae?
DeleteAlso,, it’s her body, her rules!
I becha if may nakikita kang news na marami ang anak mag comment ka din na bakit anak nang anak!
I have more respect for people who actually consider first if they want to be parents rather than jumping into parenthood just because it's considered the norm. Ilang bata na ang pinabayaan o inabuso ng sariling magulang? Maarte ba yung nag iisip? Sana yung mga tulad mo, 11:07 na nagpapadala lang sa agos ng panahon without thinking ay wag nang magpakarami pa.
Delete5:12 AM what i meant was buti si heart nagiisip. itry rin sana ni 11:07 magisip. display lang ata ung brain nya lols
DeleteEasy for Heart to say how liberating it is for her. IVF is expensive and time consuming so not all have access to it.
ReplyDeleteFOR HER nga diba! Ano ba
DeleteYeah pero she has the money naman. So anong masama don?
DeleteAgree
DeleteAko umabot na sa $71k + (US) ang gasto. After 1 failed, I finally have 1 frozen embryo waiting for transfer. I still have to undergo ERA test (biopsy) to determine if my uterine wall is ready to receive transfer. So yeah, going through IVF is not maarte, you have to decide when are you going to be ready, physically, emotionally and financially. I truly understand how she feels.
DeleteDi naman niya na fault kung di afford ng iba eh.
DeletePera nya namn lol support nlng Baka.Kahit ako din cguro if may milyones sa bank account ko lol
DeleteMalamang sya ang ininterview, alanganan mag speak sya on your behalf?? Epal na to!!
Deleteanon 12:47 sobra namang mahal dyan, ung pinsan ko nag IVF d2 sa Canada $17k ang kanya
Delete11:13 She never said she’s representing all women from all walks of life who are having fertility issues. Ininterview sya, so this is her side of the story and her realizations. Kelangan niya talagang isipin ang financial status ng iba? Lahat tayo, Wag na tayong magsalita kung ganun dahil kahit ano pa sabihin natin, may maooffend at ma ooffend.
Delete11:13 then those who don't have access shouldn't be having one.
DeleteShe worked very hard naman to be able to afford IVF.
Delete12:47 ang expensive nyan ah. We had ours here na Pinas and almost 1M for everything, including the genetic testing. One try lang and nag implant agad so very worth it.
Deleteme i had my ivf last year and this year. both failed. nagstop na kami kahit may 1 embryo pa natira. not that sumuko na kami. sinurrender na namin lahat kay Lord. kaya ngayon ang gaan ng buhay. wala ng pressure, ganun pag isunuko mo lahat kay Lord.
DeleteGood choice if you have the money for egg freezing.
ReplyDeletesana nga egg harvest na lang yun ginawa sa kanya. pero may embryos na e. kaya nga may girl and boy waiting na for her. pano na ngayon, if the separation rumors are true? anong mangyayari sa embryos?
DeleteWala naman kinalaman ung embryos kung hiwalay sya or hindi 😅. Si heart pa din ang magdedecide if gusto na nya magkababy.
DeleteIf they separate or have already separated, they can choose to co -parent. If not, maybe Chiz can help financially. If none of the above, I think she has the means naman to raise the child (ofcourse when she is ready emotionally and mentally).
DeleteI suffered with infertility too, and I was already in the works for IVF but I asked myself if I really wanted it because of the cost. Unlike Heart, I do not have the kind of money and like any Pinoy, pinapasa-Diyos at sayaw sa Obando na lang. She is fortunate to have a choice. Thankfully I waited because I got pregnant naturally 8 months after our consultation. Fast forward 10 years, I now have 2 girls. Sending baby wishes to Heart and to all TTC couples out there.
ReplyDeleteSo nice to read comments that bring positivity
DeleteThanks for sharing. 👼
Delete11:22pm, question lang. How did you know you were infertile? After lab and check-up na sa doctor mo? Ano causes niya?
DeleteI like this comment. Glad it worked out for you sis
DeleteThank you for this. Sana may pag asa pa kami.
DeleteMy mga cases na yan magiging diagnosis (infertile) or my issue sa reproductive organs, sa case ni misis nag oovulate xa but not maturing ung egg and the ob said, only miracle will do. But with God's grace. my wife stopped all the medications related to her problem with the R organs. 2 months after. YES! Miracle happened. pcos gone and she got pregnant. now 2 boys n kmi at 10 yrs of being married.
Delete'Do I want a child because I want a child?’ or ‘Do I want a child because the environment or culture dictates that I should have a child? - Aww relate ako dito. Anyhoo baka nga di pa din sya ready lalo ngayong lumawak ung international exposure nya. And if that's one factor, wala problem doon. Di dapat pilitin kung di pa ready
ReplyDeleteSame. As much as i want to have a child. Parang napakalaking responsibility. Im too scared.
DeleteI like Heart pero may pagka insensitive sya when she encourage other women to do the same as what she did. Not everyone is financially capable to do it
ReplyDeleteWhat’s insensitive here sharing her OWN journey? And how did she encourage other women na mag IVF?Mukhang you need to learn to reread.
DeleteThis.
DeleteFOR HER nga e. Tsaka pag gusto mo gusto mo talaga. Walang makakapigil. Hindi ka mabebrain wash ng heart evangelista sa pag aanak. Pls wag ganyan.
DeleteHindi sya insensitive, may mga tao lang talaga na sensitive😁
DeleteEncourage nga diba? Ibig sabihin, pag kaya mo na.. or pag ipunan mo.. iba ang encourage sa imposed.. ingetera!!
Delete11:34 Sa panahon ngayon na lahat ng bagay ay ikina-ooffend ng mga tao, well
Deletelahat tayong nagsasalita at nagcocommunicate ay maituturing na insensitive.
11:34 Is she being insensitive or are you just being sensitive?
DeleteThere is nothing wrong in waiting (and) if the time comes na hindi na viable, the universe has spoken.
DeleteExactly. She is encouraging OTHER women not EVERYONE. Don't blame your poor comprehension on her sensitivity.
DeleteNot at all. maganda ang pinapakita nya, na kailangan pag isipang mabuti kung gusto mo ba talaga magkaanak dahil gusto mo, or gusto mo lang dahil that's what society expects from you. She is setting a good example of being responsible.
DeleteI have my twins from IVF too. It's exhausting physically, mentally, financially! First time failed so we tried again. The second time - i prayed harder, and Mama Mary touched my heart and said I'll be fine. 3 weeks after, got the news that I was pregnant. Now, my life just makes sense. ❤️
ReplyDeleteCongrats sis. Sana ako din.
DeleteA boy and a girl? How did they know? Also, di dapat sya nagsasalita ng tapos. The pregnancy can still fail
ReplyDeleteIt’s called PGT-A biopsy. It determines the correct number of chromosomes so that you don’t have a Down syndrome baby and it tells the X and Y chromosomes that shows if it’s a girl or boy.
DeleteSis pag ivf pwede ka mamili kung boy o girl
Delete#GoogleCanEducateYou
DeleteYou have the embryos genetically tested (added cost sya aside from IVF). I had three of mine tested too: one had a chromosomal abnormality, the rest were female. Fast forward to today, nag implant kami and kumapit naman, we have a girl now and the other is still waiting for the right time when we are ready again to have a child.
DeleteNot sure now but two years ago it's still not available here and we havd the samples sent outside the country to be tested.
Medj may pagka elitista ang statement ni Madam. She’s not really “pang masa” like what she’s trying to portray noon sa vlogs at tiktok. Lumabas ang totoong kulay hehe
ReplyDeleteDear with all her posts on Prada, LV and Dior she never pretended to be pang masa. And I don’t think anyone who follows her has that impression. Kaya nga sa mga social media groups like Home Buddies if its an alta na gamit we always tease na lakas maka Heart Evangelista. Her branding was never masa. There’s a problem with you.
DeleteBaks, never nman naging known na pangmasa c Heart. Hello, maarte ang pagkakilala ng mga tao sa kanya. At yung mga jologs na content nya natutuwa ang iba kasi hindi nman tlaga yan ang tunay na anyo nya. From a puritang naging like sya dahil kay fp. 😁
DeleteShe’s never pang masa
DeleteAlam namin lahat na hindi siya pang masa 11:36. Ikaw lang ata nag iisip niyan?
DeleteAnong masama, she is just being herself kailangan ba laging isatisfy ang masa?
Delete11:36 Never syang nagpaka masa. Even nung kabataan niya.
DeleteShe's legit elite & never portrayed as pang-masa. Maybe that's just your perception?
DeleteLol I don't think this is elitista. People who say poor people shouldn't reproduce are kind of worse lol. All she's saying is that if you have the option and access, then do it, especially if you are undecided. People tend to make things about themselves, so they get offended by things that don't even apply to them.
DeleteOnly when you are insecure, you will feel that way.
DeleteI see nothing wrong with what she's saying at tama naman sya, maybe insecure ka lang at walang pera kaya mo nasabing elitista. This is for women who have the means for IVF. She is not imposing sa mga walang funds.
Deletenabasa mo ba kung sino nag interview? sabi L’Officiel Philippines. its a fashion magazine na ang audience hindi masa.
Delete🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteYou may be able to harvest the eggs but these still needs to be implanted. A friend of mine did IVF and failed - so ‘harvesting eggs’ doesn’t complete the process of having a baby just yet!
ReplyDelete11:43 Read between the lines nalang siguro. Alam naman niya yon na di guaranteed ang pagbubuntis, but her point is, di nga siya 100% sure na gusto niyang magkaanak, so kahit 50/50 lang ang chance na mabuntis sya, why take the plunge knowing na may possibility na mabuntis sya?
DeletePa surrogate na lang
ReplyDeleteDedma na di naman issue yan
Kim Kardashian naomi Campbell amber heard Beyonce nag surrogate yan wala naman issue
11:45 easy to say pero sa Pinas maraming judgmental
DeleteAgree. Some women are not capable of delivering a baby to full term. Surrogacy is a better option than IVF if this is the case
Delete11:45 It’s the responsibility of having a child.
DeleteKung magtravel parin sya after lumabas ng bata, ano na, may ipipintas parin ang mga tao?
Dear, once you have one sasabihin mo na lang sa sarili mo. I wish you have him/her sooner. Ka age ko si Heart, kabirthday pa actually. I had my child when I was 30. Nuong maging momi ako dun ko narealize ang saya at love na nakakafulfill. At saka kp din narealize na sana kung mas maaga ako nag anak, mas mahaba p a time namin magkasama.
ReplyDeletemaybe motherhood is not for everyone.
DeleteSis that's lovely pero kahit kambal pa kayo ni Heart, she's entitled to her own life choices na walang paghihimasok from people who give unsolicited opinions on another lady's uterus :)
DeleteHappy for you.. but this may be true for some people but not for all. Madaming nagkakaanak na hindi nila naramdaman yung motherly instinct kumbaga. Motherhood is not for everyone (and that's okay).
DeleteSobrang true sis. Dati wala direksyon buhay ko ngayon very fulfilling. Sarap sarap sa pakiramdam. Totoo talaga when they say its an amazing experience.
DeleteHindi po lahat ay para maging magulang tulad niyo. Walang masama if ayaw niya pa o ayaw niya mag-anak at all. Respect.
Deletesame here! FTM at 30. Mahirap na magbuntis kapag may edad, may nga komplikasyon na. And my gosh ang sakit sa likod. 😅 Tapos need mo pa sabayan energy ng anak mo pag toddler na which is easier sana if we’re younger.
Deletekaso hindi lahat ng magulang kagaya niyo eh. kasi kung lahat ganyan ang mindset wala sanang orphanage diba kaya wag nating ipilit ang thinking natin sa ibang tao. toxic kasi pakinggan since hindi naman tayo ang may responsibility sa kanila.
DeleteSame 1149. Yung mga bitter na single dito sa may anak, kung mahal nyo ang jowa nyo, ex or kung meron man, mas dodoblehin pa nyan ang love na maiibigay at mapifeel nyo sa anak nyo. But just like 1214, toddlera na yung mga babies ko nasa 30s na rin ako. Grabe yung pagod ko, nakakadrain sya minsan. Sakit din tlaga sya sa likod. 😂 Seriously, I still have to agree with Heart, if you are not completely ready magkababy, wag muna. Choice nyo nman yun. Mahirap ang may anak na masarap. Hindi lang sya magastos mas marami pang aspeto ang dapat ready.
DeleteI am a mom of two. But I must say every pregnancy is different. Every person is different. Mahirap magbuntis if you are not ready. Kailangan din may strong support system or else some moms ends up having post partum depression or worst post partum psychosis.
Deletepano naman ako? haha FTM at 38yo. we tried for years, and had given up. my husband had an underlying burnout, once he took time off, 3 months later, we got pregnant.
Deletefor someone who really wanted one, yes, i wish we had it sooner. baka nasundan pa.
Not everyone is the same I suppose. I had my baby in my late 30’s by choice and I don’t wish I did it sooner. I feel incredibly happy and fulfilled but also grateful I waited to do it when I was mentally and financially ready because it allowed me to give myself fully to my son.
Delete11:49, hindi porker ayon sayo ayon na rin sa kanya kahit pa kakambal mo sya. Expert yarn sa pag decision ni Heart?
DeleteI had my baby too at 30. He was planned. When i first saw him, kala ko mala johnson and johnson commercial ang eksena. Then it hits you na ang laking responsibilidad nitong pinasok ko. Fortunately, I am fulfilling them all out of love and duty. But it's really a lot of struggle na maging nanay at maging ako parin with my job and friends,etc. Balancing act not to lose my identity. Ang akin lang is do not romaticize motherhood.
DeleteLife is to be enjoyed and celebrated.. iwasan na ang regrets at what ifs what ifs.. be grateful na lang kung ano meron..
DeleteAng labo nyo din eh. Kala nyo uterus nyo yung paglalagyan ng bata and kayo magpapalaki. Kung kayo masaya na nabuntis kayo ng 30, eh DI congratulations! Paalala, iba iba po tayo, ano? Hindi porket gusto mo, gusto ko din. Tsaka kung si Heart ba naman lumaki ng May issues sa pamilya, tama lang na nagiisip sya kasi panigurado ayaw nya ulitin yung mga mali na nagawa din sa kanya. Mga echoserang froglet yarn?
Delete35 nako, already have 3 teenage kids (15, 14, 13) and napakahirap magkaanak ng maaga pero advantage lang, makakapagretire ako ng maaga. Cguro kanya kanyang timing lang tlga
Delete11:49 Or maybe you will tell yourself “I knew it, it’s not for me. Shouldn’t have allowed myself to be pressured by society.”. Moral of the story, iba iba ang tao.
DeleteLol your child is 7 lady, calm down. Wait till your anak reaches his/her teens/young adulthood.
Deletehad my child early 30s din and totally iba ang naramdaman ko. Hindi pa ko ready pero napressure ako ng time, and believe me nakaka 2 na anak na ko pero if you give me this option na i can have a child at a later time, i will take it. yun saya na nararamdaman ko for having a kid, mas matindi ang stress and depression na naramdaman ko kapalit. kanya kanya talaga yan
DeleteI had mine at 38 and no, hindi ko wish na sooner sya. I pursued my doctorate degree and beyond and I have to say she came at the right time when I'm stable emotionally and financially. I'm able to give her what she needs both material and time wise because I'm in that stage of my career that I can choose the hours I put in without sacrificing too much of my income. I wouldn't be able to do this is I had a child earlier. Wag lahatin please.
DeleteThe embryos are not sure babies yet. There’s a big chance they won’t implant. There’s a reason why they try to put in at least 3 embryos at a time for a higher success rate.
ReplyDeleteA positive result is also not a guarantee that you’ll have your baby in the end. 💔
DeleteKaya pala andaming twins pag ivf 🤔
DeleteIt depends on the case kung ilan i implant. My OB just put one and successful naman. Too many implanted eggs poses a risk of multiples which is risky both for mom and babies.
DeleteSana matupad na dream niya magkaanak. Gusto naman niya talaga kasi di naman siya magpapa freeze ng egg if wala siya plano. In God's perfect time heart. Be patient lang.
ReplyDeleteAng daming haters ni Heart at ano ba problema niyo kung ayaw nga mag anak ng ibang babae? Mind your own business. Accept the fact na iba iba tayo ng purpose sa buhay. Toxic ng ibang tao about their beliefs na dapat maging parent ka to be happy in life.
ReplyDeleteTrue 12:15. Ako gustong gusto ko mag kaanak. Pero di ko naman dapat laitin si heart. Choice niya yun mga sis. Iba iba tayo. Hindi ko din alam bakit ang daming nang bash??
Delete12:15 Agree!
DeleteInggit ang tawag sun, Sobrang inggit nila k heart to the point na yung pagiging childless ni heart ang binabato nila sa kanya. They want her to be miserable like them
DeleteIVF is very expensive, painful and highly stressful with no guarantee that you’ll get the result that you so desperately have been hoping and praying for. 💔
ReplyDeleteDeep inside she badly wants a child!
ReplyDeleteIf that’s how badly she wanted it she would have had the embryo implanted already at nang magkaalaman na.
DeleteBut the woman has other plans and good on her for realizing this.
I hope we really reach a point in the Philippine society where the end all be all of being a woman is becoming a mother. And being a child-free by choice is respected as a difficult decision and not being looked down on as ‘may kulang’, ‘hindi contented’, ‘not complete’, ‘not a real woman’.
comprehension te. aywan ko sayo
Delete12:59 AM - wow mind reader! galing!
DeleteYes kaya nga nag IVF e. Ganyan talaga pag magiging parent ka. Mapapaisip ka kahit tagal mong pinag handaan. Nakakatakot na nakakaexciten. Im sure pag nabuntis yan magiging happy yan sobra. Hindi pa lang talaga binigay sa kanila.
DeleteAminado naman siya, baks
DeletePano mo alam, naarok mo na ba ang kaloob-looban niya?
DeleteHindi lahat gusto ng anak ok Anon 12:59 wag mo kami idamay sa hirap mo at sakit ng loob ok
DeleteAt the back of her mind, she can't take another failed pregnancy. She hides it behind her mask of not wanting to have kids. She does want kids, ayaw na lang nya ng heartbreak ng failure. Plus the fact, that this could be her last chance, so in the end, she just might opt for surrogacy. Still not 100% guarantee ng success.
DeleteMaybe she changed her mind when her international career became more successful. It would be so difficult to raise kids when she’s always abroad. That’s why she put having kids on hold.
ReplyDeleteI feel like she's only starting to gain independence and healing from trauma since sobrang strict ng upbringing niya. They always say na pag traumatized ang isang tao they tend to seem/act younger than their actual age, and you can definitely see that in her. Hindi din surprising kung hiwalay na sila ni C cause yung dynamics nila hindi husband/wife. Parang he's kind of a parent din. She definitely needed some more time to find herself kumpara sa ibang ka-age niya, since her life has been very sheltered. I think she realized this once her life took a new turn and she is getting all these new experiences while society kind of gave her the impression na she'd slow down once she reaches a certain age when it comes to her line of work, but here she is peaking at 37. Conflict din yung nangyayari sa career path niya ngayon sa career ng asawa niya, and she doesn't deserve to just live behind his shadow. Finally she's found her niche and is getting recognized for it. Not her fan but I'm happy for women who find their path and their voice. I hope it works out for her.
Delete9:46 exactly. looks like ngayon lang na-eenjoy ni girl ang independence. looks like she wants to take advantage or prioritize her international career now than to simply be a wife. well that's her decision. i-enjoy na lang niya.
DeleteIf she has all these worries and questions, then she's not ready.
ReplyDeleteShe need to realize n hindi lng NIYA solong desisyon kung gusto niyang magkaanak or hindi … kung ready n ba sya or hindi. Dapat desisyon NILA ng asawa niya.
ReplyDeleteActually the decision is for the woman and the woman alone kaya dapat pagkasunduan to bago pa ikasal. Hindi yung lalake ang magdadala ng bata. He should support the woman with whatever decision she has over her body. Kung di sila same ng gusto then wag ikasal.
DeleteI’m 36 and I thought I also wanted a child. Then nagisip talaga ako then realized I was just pressured because I am of this age and married. I like to travel a lot with my husband, I am still selfish, I like to work and live according to my schedule, I have anger management issues, I also have extreme anxiety and I thought with all these issues and wih my current lifestyle, Am I truly ready to have children? So we decided I’ll work on myself muna before even thinking of having children. We might do IVF later if We can’t do naturally. And if it will fail, then we will adopt. Kesa naman I get pregnant now because of my age then all these issues of mine won’t make me a fit mother. I’d rather be a mother when ready. So I admire Heart for putting this out in the open. It’s almost taboo topic in the Philippines.
ReplyDeleteThat’s really so kind of you to do - your child will grow up to be a happy and healthier person because of this.
DeletePaanong naging maarte c heart don? Desisyon nya sa buhay yan. Ako lagi kong pinag dadasal na sana magkaanak na ako kasi tumatanda na ako. Sa kabutihang palad ibinigay sakin ni God yon. Pero boy ang hirap mag alaga ng anak. Kami lang ng aswa ko d2 sa ibang bansa, kaylangan kong magbawas ng trabaho para may tumingin sa anak ko. Kaylangan mag triple job ni hubby dahil hindi naman tumitigil ang dating ng bills. D ko naman pede ipaalaga sa mga kaybgan ko dahil may work den sila or pag off nila yon lang ang time na pde sila magpahinga. Kung idadaycare ko naman sayang ang ibbayad. Kaya kung ayaw ni heart mag anak kahit marami pa xang pera desisyon nya yan. Lalo na at magbabago ang katawan ng isang babae kahit anong gawing balik ang gawin hndi na maibabalik. But I love my baby boy at gusto ko pa ng isa pa! 😂❤
ReplyDeleteSo hindi pa pala talaga sil hiwalay. That’s a recent interview. Also I saw Chiz’s children nagtitiktok parin sa house ni Heart. So they still go there. Lol
ReplyDeleteEscudero pa rin si ate sa YT channel niya :)
DeleteLet’s be compassionate. Masakit sa isang babae ang di mabiyayan ng anak. Isa pa be compassionate because di nyo alam in the future na kayo rin mangailangan ng compassion ng iba. Bilog ang mundo.
ReplyDeleteI have the same sentiments as heart. I got my eggs frozen and might use them in the future but not now. Di pa kami ready. We still want to do a lot of things na mahirap na magawa with a child.
ReplyDeleteMga pinoy talaga o, hindi lang anak ang magpapasaya at magpapakumpleto ng buhay niyo. She can decide when to have a baby.
ReplyDeleteEven if you have embryos in the freezer, there is no guarantee that they will stick kahit pa genetically tested. I had 10 perfect frozen embryos and after 3 failed embryo transfers, 4 nalang ang natira. Before my 1st transfer and confident ko din na I'll have 5+ children pero now I feel defeated and naiinis ako sa sarili ko.
ReplyDeleteAsian culture is like that talaga ano? Tama naman si heart, it doesnt make her less of a woman dahil wala siyang anak. To me it's not selfishness, but actually it's being smart. Why would you bring a child to this world kung hindi ka naman handa? bakit yung mga nagsasabing you need to have a child blah.. blah... anjan ba sila when the time comes that you need support or help? Just let her live her life jeeez....
ReplyDeleteNga pala desisyon yung ibang babae dito sa CS. Alam ni heart gingawa nya.
ReplyDeleteI almost had to resort to IVF but I did go through assisted reproduction and conceived via IUI after 5 failed on and off cycles that spanned 2 yrs. It is draining physically, mentally, emotionally and financially. On hindsight, I feel that I wouldn’t have been ready had the baby arrived in those failed cycles because I had many things on my mind, plans I wanted to take and basically things I was busy about. I feel that the baby was given at the right time - when I was ready to really become a mom, ready to settle and take on the big responsibility without feeling like I’m missing out. I suppose the universe is just telling Heart that it’s not yet the right time.
ReplyDeleteI like heart but its a weird statement.. after going through all that in the end, tsaka siya mapapaisip if she really wants a child. Ivf really is a long and hard process. Been there. Oh well, at least nabiyayaan para rin sya na may embryo. For me, diminished ovarian reserve na ako kaya hirap mag produce ng eggs.
ReplyDeleteIt’s not weird it’s life. Meron ngang iba nagkaanak or nagasawa and all but regretted these later on life. We change our values and our sentiments in life and that’s what happened to her.
DeleteHer life, her choice🙈
ReplyDeleteKadalasan kse thinking out loud can make someone be accused of MAARTE. Hay this is life nowadays. Nakakaloka
ReplyDeleteThe Fox and the Grapes is one of Aesop's fables. The story concerns a fox that tries to eat grapes from a vine but cannot reach them. Rather than admit defeat, he states they are undesirable.
ReplyDeleteI don’t get the part where she says its undesirable? Is being not ready equal to saying undesirable? Polish your reading comprehension and read more fables ksi parang yung ugali mo hindi umobra mga fables sa iyo.
DeleteNo matter how progressive we are, with women sometimes you really have to sacrifice family over career. I don't think she's at the point where she's ready to give up her success. And it's okay, rather than getting pregnant just because of pressure & regretting it later.
ReplyDeleteAng hilig magdikta ng iba. Kapag babae, required ba talaga maging nanay?? Hindi pa pwede maging childless career woman?? Dami talagang echuserang froglets sa Pinas!!
ReplyDeleteInggit Lang yun kc iba kc nga puro lng cla anak pero walang karir, walang pera at wala pang katuwang sa life
Deletesame here, to be honest i dont like children they are annoying. is that a bad thing?
ReplyDeleteYou are so correct because they most certainly are! But parents are super annoying, too. Hehe I thought I was ready to be a parent myself, but nothing prepares you for it. Life doesn’t come with a manual and so does parenting. The trick that worked for me was realizing that raising children is like raising the child in you. I’m glad I still have my parents around when I realized how annoying and difficult of a child I’ve been! Lol
DeleteIt's a bad thing if you decude to have kids even if you don't even like children.
DeleteNo. I don’t like children either. But I won’t judge people who wants to have kids. Freedom of choice without judgment. Yun na lang sana. Kaso yung mga boomers talaga yung todo mag judge sa mga taong ayaw o hindi magkaanak. Kesyo walang mag aalaga sayo pagtanda mo, hindi mo mararamdaman yung joy ng pagiging isang ina, kesyo hindi kayo maituturing na pamilya pag wala kayong anak, and so on and so forth.
DeleteAko rin di ko kaya maging magulang kc iisipin ko pa Lang kung gano na kaimoral ang mga kabataan ngayon baka di ko kayanin Pag ang daughter ko paiba iba ng lalake at puro panganay ang anak or kung ang son ko nakakuha ng babae na nagdaan na Sa ibat ibang mga lalake kaya Ayaw ko mag-anak
DeleteWag ka magAnak, for sure annoying parent ka rin lol
Deletedont say that, you were once a child. all kids are annoying its one of their characteristics. you were once an annoying child to your parents. all kids are angels. they are gift from above
DeleteA lot of people here in the UK feel the same.
Delete🤨 K
ReplyDeletesinagot ba nya ang tanong nya sa sarili nya? the very moment na tinatanong mo ang sarili mo, that means gusto mo talaga ng baby, dahil kung ayaw mo, wala kang dapat itanong sa sarili mo, di ba? keber sa sasabihin ng tao! ginagawa mo yan to appease yourself or to redirect your fears of losing another pregnancy again. I truly wish na mabuntis na sya its really emotionally tormenting to have everything but…
ReplyDeletei find this hypocrite na madalas sabihin ng karamihan. (just dont mind them, wala ako pake or bat ka papaapekto) kasi in reality.. we all care. alam na alam nating may pake tayo sa kung anong impression sa atin ng iba. may mga tao lang talagang magaling maghandle ng emotions.
DeleteHello! Hindi kawalan ang kawalan ng anak! Masyado kang assuming
DeleteShes not ready.
ReplyDeleteBut these are embryos already. Kaya may gender na. Ang tanong nalang dyan is regardless na whether she has two babies waiting, yun pag transfer nyan kung magiging successful. Have you all watched yun Bling Empire ni Christine tiu, she has two embryos pa na naka freeze, but how her body will respond is the bigger question, kaya ang naging next step nya was to consider surrogacy. So I hope heart will not reach this stage wherein. Complicated actually ng mga egg freezing and sobrang pa woke ng mga kababaihan ngayon. Make it simple, wag mag anak kung ayaw magkaanak. Period.
ReplyDeleteOMG GUYS! UNG mga nag sasabi na maarte sya. Di biro ang mag baby. bukod sa responsibility, magastos din.
ReplyDeleteAnong gusto nyo anak lng ng anak pero walang plans??
tapos tipong uutang ng pang gastos kasi nga my anak. (im talking about in general na ha. di lang kay heart)
HER BODY, HER RULES!
Hindi lang 'yan dikta ng society na magkaanak ka, I believe it's our duty sa mundong 'to. Bilang tao. Yeah hindi naman natin piniling ipangnak. Kaso naipanganak tayo, so kung able ka naman manganak, go. Ngayon no contest naman dun sa mga infertile na talaga.
ReplyDeleteWe bore child for continuity of human race, it's our responsibility.
Or else, we can choose to become some certain countries, where their aging society's taking a toll on them in all aspects.
Our duty?? What on earth are you smoking? You sound like you are a part of a cult!
DeleteKaysa naman dito sa pinas na dami anak hindi naman nila mabigyan ng matinong buhay.
Delete3:05, "duty" it's not our nature's fault anymore if you can't understand the context! Kung ayaw mo magkaanak, then don't, maiging 'wag na nga magpatuloy mga tulad mo! May pa "What on earth are you smoking" ka pa dyan, the likes of you are cult you're talking about duh!
DeleteYou're right 1:26. These people don't know what are the effects of aging society.
DeleteJusme ka, kung aging society at continuity of human race lang ang concern mo, don't worry sobrang sobra na populasyon ng Pinas. Kahit ilang Heart pa ang di mag anak magtutuloy ang lahi mo.
DeleteI do hope she realizes that those embryos are just chances to get pregnant, not actual children.
ReplyDeleteAlam nya syempre yon
Delete50/50 pa siya kung gusto nga nya magkaanak. Ok lang yarn heart marami pa ring babae na nabubuntis sa panahon ngayon.....hindi pa titigil ang lahing Filipino lol
ReplyDeleteIts either hndi nya bet mag anak or hndi pa sya ready. Kahit ano man don desisyon nya yun.
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