Always remember na yung problema mo meron pang may mas mabigat na problem ibang tao kesa sayo pero kanya Kanya tayo ng struggles, lahat yan ay valid naman
Ay sosss. Ininvalidate mo rin. May palubag loob ka pa sa dulo na parang naiintindihan mo. Hindi mo malalaman kung gaano kabigat ang intensity ng pinagdadaanan ng tao based lang sa palagay mo. Kanya kanyang hell yan. 11:33
you can tell yourself may mas malaking problema ang iba, which is true and valid. pero hindi lahat can take comfort in that when they wake up and have to face their problems as their reality.
1:35 ikaw ok ka lang? “Always remember na yung problema mo meron pang may mas mabigat na problem ibang tao kesa sayo” ayan namnamin mo maigi ha! Kaloka ka.
11:33 while your claim is valid, this doesn’t sit well for everyone. It is likewise valid to feel unhappy, down especially for her who has just given birth. If you are a mom you’d understand that that feeling could actually go on for years. She, on the other hand, decided to post thinking it could help others as much as it’d help her. Unfortunately, not everyone is kind. Clearly, Elizabeth Jara is one.
Bastos man si basher, may point sya. Hindi lang nya na deliver ng mas swabe. Tactless but full of truth kaya tinamaan at special mention pa si Basher 😅
11:35 ikaw ba si Elizabeth the basher?! Wala ngang connect yung bash. plain poor comprehension kaya walang ssnse ang reply. Ang point lang ni Carol e napabayaan nya yung sarili nya dahil naging busy sya with motherhood kaya she needs to take care of herself more. Wala kayang ungratefulness sa post nya at all.
Whenever you post whatever in social media, you open yourself up to critique. You become a target by your own volition. So better be ready for bashing too. No one is perfect & you can never please everybody. That is reality. So expect that not everyone will agree with you or even like your post. Expect too that there will be not only constructive criticism but also destructive ones. If you’re not ready for backlash, then better not expose yourself which includes your thoughts, opinions, or emotions, instead of posting then throwing a tantrum afterwards when other people react negatively or not as you expected. If you can’t stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen. Or in your case carol, better not enter the kitchen if you’re not ready to face the consequences of your decision to post on social media.Ganoon ka simple!
I don’t think she was throwing tantrums. She was just explaining her initial post. I don’t find anything wrong sa either posts nya. Although I agree with you na if you put yourself out there, you have to be ready with all sorts of reactions.
6:24 tantrum na yon sayo? It's safe to assume na open sya for critique when she shared her post, PERO it is her page and she also has the right to rebutt.
Did you and 11:41 not learn na if you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself?
11.56 She is not open for criticism because her rebuttal is a personal attack!
Public has nothing to do with her emotional state, so she should stop posting her feelings on social media.
"Did you and 11:41 not learn na if you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself?"- IRRELEVANT. LOL. Hindi kami si Elizabeth. What we are only saying is you can't control public. That's a fact!
Gusto ko yung beauty nya simple lang pero maamo, may times na napapabayaan na natin sarili natin losyang kumbaga, mag beauty mode tayo kahit once a week lang
Gosh. Bawal ba magreklamo? Kaya ang dami nating repressed feelings dahil judgmental ng mga tao. Kailangan nilalabas yan or else later it will come out in other form. Your definition of unhappy is different from other people’s. How you experience is different. Lahat ng thoughts and feelings ay valid.
11.48/12.15- Hindi ang paglabas ng feelings ang in question dito. Hindi rin kung bawal ba ang magreklamo o hindi. Ang in question dito is kung "saan" ka maglalabas ng feelings mo? Pwede kang maglabas ng feelings mo sa mga taong malapit sa'yo pero bakit sa public/social media ang pipiliin mo??????
Public has nothing to do with your emotional state so might as well not involve them.
Nakakalimutan din ng commenters na kahit public yong account ni Carol eh sa kanyang account pa rin yan pwede nya ipost kahit ano gusto nya saka ina address nman din nya sa mga moms na feeling napapabayaan health at looks nila in a nice way. Actually naremind aq sa sinabi nya kc di na rin aq mahilig mag ayos lalo na abala sa gawaing bahay. It's us commenters who should control ourselves na wag maging bashers.
iba iba pinagdadaanan na pagsubok ng tao pero it doesnt mean wala na sya k magsalita coz mas hirap problem ng iba.
617 maybe to reach out to someone out there going through the same thing in the hope that it gives them comfort and support. Everyone is going through struggles and knowing that youre not alone makes it a little better, kahit pa its from a stranger.
I don’t get yung mga points na ganyan like ni basher. So pag di ka “kumpleto”, dapat di ka magpasalamat ky Lord ganun? Always naman na someone else would have less than you, would have more pain than you, would be struggling more than you, so bawal ba maging unhappy dahil hindi ikaw ang pinaka unfortunate na nilalang? Feeling unhappy is a mental state. Anyone’s allowed to feel unhappy. Kahit milyonaryo ka pa. Feeling unhappy does not invalidate other people’s struggles.
Yes in fact suicide rates are higher in rich countries, mental health issue is higher in rich counties. It’s not about what you have but your state of mind.
I can relate with Carol. I’m like that too. If you live and work in the US, it’s easy to let go of yourself sometimes kasi you’re so busy. But from time to time - I treat myself, fixed my hair especially. Exercise one or twice a week. Feeling unhappy is valid feeling. And it’s ok to put out there from time to time.
Hindi ko rin gets bakit malungkot sya. Blessed sya with another baby. Ang daming babae depressed kasi hirap mabuntis at gustong gusto magka anak. Nasa states sya and Registered Nurse sya. Ok ang income. May asawa at may mga anak. Kung ako nasa position nya, magiging masaya ako at araw araw magpapa salamat sa Dyos. Ewan ko ba bakit yung mga taong magiging super grateful sa mga blessings na tulad nyan, eh nahihirapan.
12:59 baka hindi lang nya narrealize pero im guessing it's aging that's getting to her. minsan kasi lalo sa age bracket namin ni carol eh namamangha ka na bakit biglang hindi ka na as fresh as you once were.
I can relate with her. She basically spoke what is on my mind... it doesn’t mean we are not grateful, of course we are! We have a baby and we have a steady income but it doesn’t mean we cannot feel unhappy. Take note, being unhappy doesn’t equate to being ungrateful. We can be thankful but also be unhappy from time to time...it’s a normal human reaction that is valid. So you’re implying ang mga mayayaman or may kaya sa buhay Wala ng karapatan maging malungkot? I know lots of people would want to be in our position and have a baby, but napapagod din naman kami, esp if you live in abroad with no or little help Lang... nakaka lungkot din when you see a friend who’s well put together Tapos Ikaw losyang... normal reaction Lang naman yun but it doesn’t mean na we’re not thankful. Don’t be so judgemental...unless you walk in the same shoes, you have no right to belittle other people’s emotions.
Nakaka burn out naman tlga maging mommy noh. Malolosyang ka tlga kahit isa Lang anak mo. Lalo na kung di mo Priority mag pa beauty. It is valid that Carol felt “Unhappy”. Totoo yan kahit kompleto kapa ng organs- senses eme eme. May point sa pagiging Mamshie na “Unhappy” ka.
Nakaka gaan talaga sa pakiramdam kung healthy and fit ka, mabo boost yung self-confidence mo so naiintindihan ko si Carol kasi d din ako palaayos na tao.
alam naman nating lahat yan, na may mas malala ang problema kesa sa atin. ang kaso, anong magagawa ng simpatya ko sa ibang tao para sa sarili ko? pag iniwan ako ng asawa ko dahil losyang na ako, iisipin ko pa din ba na di bale may tao jan na mas malala ang problema sa kin? kung may pumintas sa hitsura ko, pede ko bang sabihing dedma mas malala ung sa iba? hindi ba magiging unhappy ka naman talaga pag ganon? wag nating i invalidate yung feelings nya, hindi natin alam kung san sya nanggagaling. madali lang talaga sa tao magjudge.
We all have own struggles. What's the point of putting others down? Will our being mean and rude to others lessen our struggles. Elizabeth needs medical help. More than Carol Banawa.
Carol Banawa is talking about self-care. Big thing yan sa US. yang self-care. Lahat halos nang podcasts work ko about self-care: physical, social, mental, spiritual, and emotional. Yong basher walang alam.
Guys, never compare your battles sa ibang tao. Never invalidate yun mga sinasabi ninyo "shallow" na problema just because they are not "pipi, bingi, mahirap, may ipa pang kapansanan, may malubhang sakit". IBA IBA ANG TAO. YUN PROBLEMA SA IBA, MAARING HINDI PROBLEMA SA IBA. SO IN SHORT,
Always remember na yung problema mo meron pang may mas mabigat na problem ibang tao kesa sayo pero kanya Kanya tayo ng struggles, lahat yan ay valid naman
ReplyDeleteAno naman pakels mo sa.problema ng may mga problema?
DeleteBaks wala naman competition o Olympics sa pabigatan ng problema. Kanya kanya yang problems at pagdeal ng bawat tao.
DeleteAy sosss. Ininvalidate mo rin. May palubag loob ka pa sa dulo na parang naiintindihan mo. Hindi mo malalaman kung gaano kabigat ang intensity ng pinagdadaanan ng tao based lang sa palagay mo. Kanya kanyang hell yan. 11:33
Delete11:46 12:31 ok lang kayo? Yan na nga o ang sabi LAHAT NG PROBLEM VALID
Deleteyou can tell yourself may mas malaking problema ang iba, which is true and valid. pero hindi lahat can take comfort in that when they wake up and have to face their problems as their reality.
Delete1:35 ikaw ok ka lang? “Always remember na yung problema mo meron pang may mas mabigat na problem ibang tao kesa sayo” ayan namnamin mo maigi ha! Kaloka ka.
Delete11:33 while your claim is valid, this doesn’t sit well for everyone. It is likewise valid to feel unhappy, down especially for her who has just given birth. If you are a mom you’d understand that that feeling could actually go on for years. She, on the other hand, decided to post thinking it could help others as much as it’d help her. Unfortunately, not everyone is kind. Clearly, Elizabeth Jara is one.
DeleteBastos man si basher, may point sya. Hindi lang nya na deliver ng mas swabe. Tactless but full of truth kaya tinamaan at special mention pa si Basher 😅
ReplyDelete11:35 ikaw ba si Elizabeth the basher?! Wala ngang connect yung bash. plain poor comprehension kaya walang ssnse ang reply. Ang point lang ni Carol e napabayaan nya yung sarili nya dahil naging busy sya with motherhood kaya she needs to take care of herself more. Wala kayang ungratefulness sa post nya at all.
DeleteBut i still find her pretty and fresh naman so...idk whats wrong
DeleteAnd ms. Elizabeth please don’t invalidate someone’s feelings.. Feelings nya yun.. Dun ka sa feelings mo.. Kaloka..
ReplyDeleteWhenever you post whatever in social media, you open yourself up to critique. You become a target by your own volition. So better be ready for bashing too. No one is perfect & you can never please everybody. That is reality. So expect that not everyone will agree with you or even like your post. Expect too that there will be not only constructive criticism but also destructive ones. If you’re not ready for backlash, then better not expose yourself which includes your thoughts, opinions, or emotions, instead of posting then throwing a tantrum afterwards when other people react negatively or not as you expected. If you can’t stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen. Or in your case carol, better not enter the kitchen if you’re not ready to face the consequences of your decision to post on social media.Ganoon ka simple!
ReplyDeleteI don’t think she was throwing tantrums. She was just explaining her initial post. I don’t find anything wrong sa either posts nya. Although I agree with you na if you put yourself out there, you have to be ready with all sorts of reactions.
Delete12.36 She did throw tantrums. She said "sana po perfect ako gaya ninyo"- that's the tantrum!
DeleteI agree with the OP.
6:24 tantrum na yon sayo? It's safe to assume na open sya for critique when she shared her post, PERO it is her page and she also has the right to rebutt.
DeleteDid you and 11:41 not learn na if you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself?
Delete11.56 She is not open for criticism because her rebuttal is a personal attack!
Public has nothing to do with her emotional state, so she should stop posting her feelings on social media.
"Did you and 11:41 not learn na if you don't have anything nice to say, keep it to yourself?"- IRRELEVANT. LOL. Hindi kami si Elizabeth. What we are only saying is you can't control public. That's a fact!
Gusto ko yung beauty nya simple lang pero maamo, may times na napapabayaan na natin sarili natin losyang kumbaga, mag beauty mode tayo kahit once a week lang
ReplyDeleteGosh. Bawal ba magreklamo? Kaya ang dami nating repressed feelings dahil judgmental ng mga tao. Kailangan nilalabas yan or else later it will come out in other form. Your definition of unhappy is different from other people’s. How you experience is different. Lahat ng thoughts and feelings ay valid.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Sobrang daming PAKIELAMERA nakakabwiset
Delete11.48/12.15- Hindi ang paglabas ng feelings ang in question dito. Hindi rin kung bawal ba ang magreklamo o hindi. Ang in question dito is kung "saan" ka maglalabas ng feelings mo? Pwede kang maglabas ng feelings mo sa mga taong malapit sa'yo pero bakit sa public/social media ang pipiliin mo??????
DeletePublic has nothing to do with your emotional state so might as well not involve them.
Nakakalimutan din ng commenters na kahit public yong account ni Carol eh sa kanyang account pa rin yan pwede nya ipost kahit ano gusto nya saka ina address nman din nya sa mga moms na feeling napapabayaan health at looks nila in a nice way.
DeleteActually naremind aq sa sinabi nya kc di na rin aq mahilig mag ayos lalo na abala sa gawaing bahay.
It's us commenters who should control ourselves na wag maging bashers.
iba iba pinagdadaanan na pagsubok ng tao pero it doesnt mean wala na sya k magsalita coz mas hirap problem ng iba.
617 maybe to reach out to someone out there going through the same thing in the hope that it gives them comfort and support. Everyone is going through struggles and knowing that youre not alone makes it a little better, kahit pa its from a stranger.
Delete2.11 but what did she get?
DeleteI don’t get yung mga points na ganyan like ni basher. So pag di ka “kumpleto”, dapat di ka magpasalamat ky Lord ganun? Always naman na someone else would have less than you, would have more pain than you, would be struggling more than you, so bawal ba maging unhappy dahil hindi ikaw ang pinaka unfortunate na nilalang? Feeling unhappy is a mental state. Anyone’s allowed to feel unhappy. Kahit milyonaryo ka pa. Feeling unhappy does not invalidate other people’s struggles.
ReplyDeleteYes in fact suicide rates are higher in rich countries, mental health issue is higher in rich counties. It’s not about what you have but your state of mind.
DeleteI can relate with Carol. I’m like that too. If you live and work in the US, it’s easy to let go of yourself sometimes kasi you’re so busy. But from time to time - I treat myself, fixed my hair especially. Exercise one or twice a week. Feeling unhappy is valid feeling. And it’s ok to put out there from time to time.
ReplyDeleteHindi ko rin gets bakit malungkot sya. Blessed sya with another baby. Ang daming babae depressed kasi hirap mabuntis at gustong gusto magka anak. Nasa states sya and Registered Nurse sya. Ok ang income. May asawa at may mga anak. Kung ako nasa position nya, magiging masaya ako at araw araw magpapa salamat sa Dyos. Ewan ko ba bakit yung mga taong magiging super grateful sa mga blessings na tulad nyan, eh nahihirapan.
ReplyDelete12:59 baka hindi lang nya narrealize pero im guessing it's aging that's getting to her. minsan kasi lalo sa age bracket namin ni carol eh namamangha ka na bakit biglang hindi ka na as fresh as you once were.
Delete"Kung ako nasa position nya" but you are not her, you don't know what else she struggles with.
DeleteI can relate with her. She basically spoke what is on my mind... it doesn’t mean we are not grateful, of course we are! We have a baby and we have a steady income but it doesn’t mean we cannot feel unhappy. Take note, being unhappy doesn’t equate to being ungrateful. We can be thankful but also be unhappy from time to time...it’s a normal human reaction that is valid. So you’re implying ang mga mayayaman or may kaya sa buhay Wala ng karapatan maging malungkot? I know lots of people would want to be in our position and have a baby, but napapagod din naman kami, esp if you live in abroad with no or little help Lang... nakaka lungkot din when you see a friend who’s well put together Tapos Ikaw losyang... normal reaction Lang naman yun but it doesn’t mean na we’re not thankful. Don’t be so judgemental...unless you walk in the same shoes, you have no right to belittle other people’s emotions.
Delete10.35 she didn't pass judgment. You did by assuming that she did.
DeleteI think you have a point 3.31
12:59 yung pagiging USRN niya pinaghirapan naman niya yun. Syempre normal na feel yung unhappiness or feeling blue, just let her be.
DeleteNakaka burn out naman tlga maging mommy noh. Malolosyang ka tlga kahit isa Lang anak mo. Lalo na kung di mo
ReplyDeletePriority mag pa beauty. It is valid that Carol felt “Unhappy”. Totoo yan kahit kompleto kapa ng organs- senses eme eme. May point sa pagiging Mamshie na “Unhappy” ka.
I can relate with you Carol.
ReplyDeleteNakaka gaan talaga sa pakiramdam kung healthy and fit ka, mabo boost yung self-confidence mo so naiintindihan ko si Carol kasi d din ako palaayos na tao.
ReplyDeletealam naman nating lahat yan, na may mas malala ang problema kesa sa atin. ang kaso, anong magagawa ng simpatya ko sa ibang tao para sa sarili ko? pag iniwan ako ng asawa ko dahil losyang na ako, iisipin ko pa din ba na di bale may tao jan na mas malala ang problema sa kin? kung may pumintas sa hitsura ko, pede ko bang sabihing dedma mas malala ung sa iba? hindi ba magiging unhappy ka naman talaga pag ganon? wag nating i invalidate yung feelings nya, hindi natin alam kung san sya nanggagaling. madali lang talaga sa tao magjudge.
ReplyDelete7:21 pak, baks! Maging sensitive sana tayo ng konti. Iba iba talaga ng struggles
ReplyDeleteWe all have own struggles. What's the point of putting others down? Will our being mean and rude to others lessen our struggles. Elizabeth needs medical help. More than Carol Banawa.
ReplyDeleteMay point si Elizabeth, dapat nga magpasalamat pa si Carol. Madami dyan wala nang makain hindi alam saan kukuha ng pera pero nakakangiti parin.
ReplyDeleteCarol Banawa is talking about self-care. Big thing yan sa US. yang self-care. Lahat halos nang podcasts work ko about self-care: physical, social, mental, spiritual, and emotional. Yong basher walang alam.
ReplyDeleteGuys, never compare your battles sa ibang tao. Never invalidate yun mga sinasabi ninyo "shallow" na problema just because they are not "pipi, bingi, mahirap, may ipa pang kapansanan, may malubhang sakit". IBA IBA ANG TAO. YUN PROBLEMA SA IBA, MAARING HINDI PROBLEMA SA IBA. SO IN SHORT,
ReplyDeleteHINDI PO ONE SIZE FIT ALL ANG PROBLEMA NG TAO. .