Why not? Meron nga marriage therapist na single eh. Well nasasabi nya naman mga yan kasi base on experience un siguro nagkulang sa kanila. So may hugot. May batayan din. And tama naman sinabi nya.
How can there be love if there is no respect and communication? If I want a marital advice, I won't be turning to Maggie. I will be seeking counsel from people who have been married for at least 15 years. Not 9:56
Ngayon naisip niya yan pero dati hindi? Nagsama sila bago magpakasal pero hindi niya nakita na ganon na dynamic nilang dalawa? Nasa huli talaga pagsisisi.
this is sooo true! and love is a choice bcoz it is not everyday that you are inlove w/ your partner. minsan may mga araw na gusto mo syang iuwi sa kanila kahit wala nman problema.
Marriage is really a hard work. Kami ng asawa ko ilang beses na nag away and ilang beses na gusto ko nang makipaghiwalay and im sure ganun din nafefeel hubby ko esp pag war mode kami. Pero at the end of the day nananaig pa din yung love, pinagsamahan and kids namin pag humupa na ang galit sa katawan. Kaya eto lapit na mag 10 yrs eh together pa din. Hopefully we’ll last tlaga coz’ wala naman kasiguruhan lagi sa mundo.
1:55, or maybe normal lang talaga na nag aaway ang mag asawa paminsan minsan since they’re two different people. Drama drama ka dyan. Boring at monotonous siguro buhay mo.
1:55 maybe you just don't have jowa, lol - not 10:59
Inlaws ko nga ilang years na kasal nag-aaway pa rin. Ako na stress pag narinig ko sila (we're neighbors). They have apos na ha, teenagers na nga. But after they bicker they make peace. Not really ideal but separation is not an option for them. 50+ years na ata sila kasal 😅
She is absolutely right though her marriage didn't work.. Staying married is really very difficult. One thing is for sure, most Bisaya said . " Hinugtanay sa bakos.".. mahirap man peru kapit lang..
Im happily married for 20 years, And she is absolutely RIGHT! Love is not enough for a marriage to work, put Respect on the top list and things will run smoothly.
12:40 - why blame her about what happened to her family? Bakit wala ba naging kasalanan ang exhusband? It's based on her experience kaya nya sinasabi yan...
Example ng without openness is yong TAMPO, SILENT TREATMENT ETC.
Yong sa trust naman is JEALOUSY.
Ganyan tayong mga Pinay kaya ako tinanggal ko yong ugaling yan dahil hindi pwede yan sa asawa kong puti. And majority of them don't like that. They call it immature and manipulation.
Well it only shows you do not really know the real meaning of love, so, let me write it here 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth ....do not confuse real love with "love" for money and fame because they are not the same
Married here for 30+ yrs. Pinagdaanan literally yung "sickness and in health, richer or poorer (mostly poorer) part. To survive, patience, perseverance, faith and a huge amount of humor ang kailangan. It helps if you are each other's best friend, no secrets, trusting each other, no matter what. Kahit gaano kahirap or gaano kayo kagalit sa isa't isa, really set aside time na pag usapan talaga ang issues. If needed, be humble and apologize. Love may never be enough but its the end all, be all. Its what will got you together and its also the reason to soldier on.
I was married for 12 years before separation, but yours is the answer I most agree with. I have learned though, that there should still be personal boundaries - to be clear what your non negotiables are - in as much as you love your spouse, your family and identity together, we must never forget to also love ourselves. Self-respect and self care will also allow you to be a better wife and mother. Know what you will not tolerate so you never lose respect for your spouse, nor yourself, be that infidelity, abuse, addiction or whatnot. Of course there's always an effort to heal and repair, but that can never be a one way street. Alas, not all marriages can last - not all should.
10 yrs. married here at totoong totoo lahat ng sinabi mo. Kahit ganyan kami I still hope na wala talagang makakatibag saamin at hanggang pagtanda na kami.
Getting married to someone is most often a decision made out of love but staying married to that same person after so many years is a decision made out of choice. Kung alam mo lang what lies ahead down the road, baka 10% lang siguo ng population ang magaasawa. Nowadays, whenI see or hear about couples married more than 20 years,i I dont know exactly what to feel but I surely hope that they were happy for the most part that’s why they are still together.
Commitment is the word for a lasting marriage. Love is not the same when u 1st met, wedded, nasa honeymoon stage, years pass by. May mga trials, temptations along the way but if committed talaga kau, u will always pray and try to work things out
Us ladies growing up specifically yung 90's and below, society glamorizes yung marriage, para bang puro ang pinupush ay be all and end all, you find a man to marry and have kids yun na yun, sa lahat ng show kinasal sila and they live happily ever after, di na pinapakita yung actual struggle after that honeymon phase. Let's change that, marriage is not the goal. It's not for everyone. Marriage is not fairytale, it's only the beginning of series ng challenges, ups and downs. Kaya naano ako sa mga kapwa babae ko na sweerteng swerte pag na-engage na akala mo utang na loob nung babae sa lalaki yung papakasalan sya, para bang nanalo sa loto, kung open book lang at hindi masyado naglamourize yang marriage, 3/4 ng babae pretty sure hindi papasok sa kasal.
More like both of them didnt trust each other anymore thats why their marriage broke down. I am firm believer in trust, once thats gone, there is no going back.
May point naman siya dito. What I see here is an advice from her own experience and mistakes. And we can all learn a thing or two from that. Take everything with a little grain of salt kumbaga.
Seriously? Marriage advice from Maggie Wilson?!? Hysterical.
ReplyDeleteWhy, what's wrong with her advice? It is base on her experience and it is true love is not enough in every relationship.
DeleteWhy not? She' s been there done that.
DeleteWhy not? Meron nga marriage therapist na single eh. Well nasasabi nya naman mga yan kasi base on experience un siguro nagkulang sa kanila. So may hugot. May batayan din. And tama naman sinabi nya.
DeleteHow can there be love if there is no respect and communication? If I want a marital advice, I won't be turning to Maggie. I will be seeking counsel from people who have been married for at least 15 years. Not 9:56
DeleteWhy not? she’s actually more credible because she learned all these thru first-hand experience! Masyado kang nega, talangka and judgmental hayz!
DeleteI think ang point ng ibang comments dito, some can learn from other people's mistakes. It does not work for everyone, but works for some.
Delete1:08, di lahat ng married ng 15 years or more may love and respect! Madaming ibang excuse kaya sila nag stay and some of them stay even if toxic na.
DeleteNgayon naisip niya yan pero dati hindi? Nagsama sila bago magpakasal pero hindi niya nakita na ganon na dynamic nilang dalawa? Nasa huli talaga pagsisisi.
DeleteIt’s wiser to take advice from a person who experienced it first hand.
DeleteBakit gusto mo sayo manggaling?
DeleteMaggie’s advice is on point ❤️
DeleteIf there is love, there is also respect & communication.. so it is enough..
Delete12.28 It's easy for to say because you're single.
Delete*you
DeleteIsa lang ang sure Marriage is hardwork. Lol, ang daling sabihin nung mga sinabi nya but doing it? 😂
ReplyDeletethis is sooo true!
Deleteand love is a choice bcoz it is not everyday that you are inlove w/ your partner. minsan may mga araw na gusto mo syang iuwi sa kanila kahit wala nman problema.
Obvious ba? Sa kahit anong klaseng relationship respect and communication is life
ReplyDeleteAt kung non existent ang respect, is it really love? Ang ganitong advice para sa mga stupid in love.
DeleteMarriage is really a hard work. Kami ng asawa ko ilang beses na nag away and ilang beses na gusto ko nang makipaghiwalay and im sure ganun din nafefeel hubby ko esp pag war mode kami. Pero at the end of the day nananaig pa din yung love, pinagsamahan and kids namin pag humupa na ang galit sa katawan. Kaya eto lapit na mag 10 yrs eh together pa din. Hopefully we’ll last tlaga coz’ wala naman kasiguruhan lagi sa mundo.
ReplyDeleteMaybe, you both just love the drama. Lol.
Delete1:55, or maybe normal lang talaga na nag aaway ang mag asawa paminsan minsan since they’re two different people. Drama drama ka dyan. Boring at monotonous siguro buhay mo.
Delete1:55 maybe you just don't have jowa, lol - not 10:59
DeleteInlaws ko nga ilang years na kasal nag-aaway pa rin. Ako na stress pag narinig ko sila (we're neighbors). They have apos na ha, teenagers na nga. But after they bicker they make peace. Not really ideal but separation is not an option for them. 50+ years na ata sila kasal 😅
Nakakapagod naman yan mars haha kami ng hubby ko di ko maalala last away namin lol
Delete7:54 mas nakakatakot na wala pinag aawayan ang magasawa. IMO, parang wala ng paki or nagtitiis na lang sa isat isa.
DeleteShe is absolutely right though her marriage didn't work.. Staying married is really very difficult. One thing is for sure, most Bisaya said
ReplyDelete. " Hinugtanay sa bakos.".. mahirap man peru kapit lang..
11:45, nonsense. If it’s that difficult, then let go.
Delete1:54 it means there will always be struggles. Alangan naman let go kalng agad. Nagpakasal ka pa king ganyan mindset mo
Delete1:54 what a single person would easily say. Can't relate kasi.
DeleteI loooove how she speaks!
ReplyDeleteIm happily married for 20 years, And she is absolutely RIGHT! Love is not enough for a marriage to work, put Respect on the top list and things will run smoothly.
ReplyDeleteIf there is love, respect will follow. Its not love without respect - fr 13 yrs married
DeleteComing from her pa talaga na hiwalay sa asawa ang nag advice
ReplyDeleteBakit kapag ba hiwalay sa asawa di na pwede mag bigay nag advice based on her experience?
DeleteWhy not? Staying together doesn't mean you know more.
DeleteOo 1:26. When you give advice, make sure you lead by example. How could someone trust you when you yourself didn't manage to keep your family intact?
Delete12:40 Haven't you heard of the phrase "Learn from your mistakes". That's where the advice is from. Hirap ba intindihin?
DeleteBase on her experience,yes. Sabi nga experience is the best teacher.
Delete12.40 Her advice is coming from the consequences of their mistakes.
Delete12:40 - why blame her about what happened to her family? Bakit wala ba naging kasalanan ang exhusband? It's based on her experience kaya nya sinasabi yan...
DeleteI don't get how there can be love without respect and openness in the first place. The relationship is questionable if there's love but no respect.
ReplyDeleteOr secrets. I can't fathom yung marriages may secrets lagi from each other. Important yung unquestionable trust.
DeleteIt can happen. Out of fear, insecurities, personal issues. Not everyone's perfectly capable of healthy relationships.
DeleteExample ng without openness is yong TAMPO, SILENT TREATMENT ETC.
DeleteYong sa trust naman is JEALOUSY.
Ganyan tayong mga Pinay kaya ako tinanggal ko yong ugaling yan dahil hindi pwede yan sa asawa kong puti. And majority of them don't like that. They call it immature and manipulation.
Well it only shows you do not really know the real meaning of love, so, let me write it here 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth ....do not confuse real love with "love" for money and fame because they are not the same
ReplyDeleteThank you for explaining the obvious.🙄
DeleteMarried here for 30+ yrs. Pinagdaanan literally yung "sickness and in health, richer or poorer (mostly poorer) part. To survive, patience, perseverance, faith and a huge amount of humor ang kailangan. It helps if you are each other's best friend, no secrets, trusting each other, no matter what. Kahit gaano kahirap or gaano kayo kagalit sa isa't isa, really set aside time na pag usapan talaga ang issues. If needed, be humble and apologize. Love may never be enough but its the end all, be all. Its what will got you together and its also the reason to soldier on.
ReplyDeleteI was married for 12 years before separation, but yours is the answer I most agree with. I have learned though, that there should still be personal boundaries - to be clear what your non negotiables are - in as much as you love your spouse, your family and identity together, we must never forget to also love ourselves. Self-respect and self care will also allow you to be a better wife and mother. Know what you will not tolerate so you never lose respect for your spouse, nor yourself, be that infidelity, abuse, addiction or whatnot. Of course there's always an effort to heal and repair, but that can never be a one way street. Alas, not all marriages can last - not all should.
Delete10 yrs. married here at totoong totoo lahat ng sinabi mo. Kahit ganyan kami I still hope na wala talagang makakatibag saamin at hanggang pagtanda na kami.
DeleteAgree. 43 years old here and 19 years married.
DeleteYes tama lahat sinabi mo Anon. You may fall out of love but you can also fall in love again with your spouse.
DeleteWell duh. Everyone knows that. Reality takes over after the love nonsense dies down.
ReplyDeleteLove doesn’t pay the bills. Pero kung simpleng buhay ang gusto nyo
ReplyDeleteI believe din LOVE is not enough. Diba nga sabi ng iba for companionship nalang daw if medj may edad na ang couple.
ReplyDeleteGetting married to someone is most often a decision made out of love but staying married to that same person after so many years is a decision made out of choice. Kung alam mo lang what lies ahead down the road, baka 10% lang siguo ng population ang magaasawa. Nowadays, whenI see or hear about couples married more than 20 years,i I dont know exactly what to feel but I surely hope that they were happy for the most part that’s why they are still together.
ReplyDeleteMarried for 25 years. Every day, my hubby and I DECIDE to love one another, DECIDE to respect one another. It is the decision that matters.
ReplyDeleteCommitment is the word for a lasting marriage. Love is not the same when u 1st met, wedded, nasa honeymoon stage, years pass by. May mga trials, temptations along the way but if committed talaga kau, u will always pray and try to work things out
ReplyDeleteUs ladies growing up specifically yung 90's and below, society glamorizes yung marriage, para bang puro ang pinupush ay be all and end all, you find a man to marry and have kids yun na yun, sa lahat ng show kinasal sila and they live happily ever after, di na pinapakita yung actual struggle after that honeymon phase. Let's change that, marriage is not the goal. It's not for everyone. Marriage is not fairytale, it's only the beginning of series ng challenges, ups and downs. Kaya naano ako sa mga kapwa babae ko na sweerteng swerte pag na-engage na akala mo utang na loob nung babae sa lalaki yung papakasalan sya, para bang nanalo sa loto, kung open book lang at hindi masyado naglamourize yang marriage, 3/4 ng babae pretty sure hindi papasok sa kasal.
ReplyDeleteMore like both of them didnt trust each other anymore thats why their marriage broke down. I am firm believer in trust, once thats gone, there is no going back.
ReplyDeleteMay point naman siya dito. What I see here is an advice from her own experience and mistakes. And we can all learn a thing or two from that. Take everything with a little grain of salt kumbaga.
ReplyDelete