11:16 if u have a child i feel sorry for him/her and if none, thank God! How could u say that having a child makes your life miserable? I am sad for u.
Relate! Yung bilas ko na atribida, Bat daw isa lang ang anak namin. Hello? With the cost of living getting higher every year, having a big family is no longer a practical option. Gusto pa yata magaya sa kanya, wala na ngang magandang trabaho dami pa ng anak.
“One and done “ na din kami. Napkahirap bumuhay ng anak sa panahon ngayon. Syempre kailangan maging responsible. Yung iba kasi mag-aanak ng madami kasi baka sakali may isang maging successful tapos yun na ang gagawing breadwinner ng pamilya. Ginagawang lottery chances ang mga anak. Bahala na mentality ang pinapairal tapos puro asa sa mga kamag-anak at pati ninong/ninang at pti na rin sa gobyerno.
hindi mo alam kung ignorante, insensitive or masama lang talaga ang tabas ng bunganga ng mga ganyang tao. kung hindi magkaanak, ayaw ng anak let them be jusko hindi lang anak ang nagpapa complete sa buhay. may pets din no. honestly, i dont like children so kanya kanya lang yan ng mindset sa buhay.
7:21 tama ka jan..iniisip isa sa mga anak ang mag.aahon sa kanila sa hirap,mabuti sana if mapatapos nla ng pag-aaral lahat,baka may chance pa, eh pano kung sa hirap ng buhay d nmn nla mapag-aral,paano sla iaangat sa hirap ng buhay?
Mga pakialam Sa buhay ng May buhay! Ang babastos Lang talaga ng mga pinoy! Hindi nyo Dapat pinapakialamanan ang ibang tao kung wala clang anak or wala clang trabaho or kung wala clang asawa unless nanghihingi cla Sa inyo ng pera! Kung di nila kau pinaperwisyo, wag nyo cla pakialamanan Sa gusto nila Sa buhay!
8:32 this is a baseless stereotype. People of all cultures do this too, even those who are perceived as generally "polite" societies like japan and south korea.
FACT: worst trait ng mga pinoy: pakialamera at inggitera. kapag inggit, hahanap at hahanap ng pwedeng ipintas sa yo. kapag nakikita kang masaya, sasabihin wala ka namang anak, iniwan ka naman ng asawa mo, or mataba ka naman, or panget ka naman or panget ang ugali mo...LOL the list is endless!
Majority kaya ganyan ugali kqsi naghahanap sila ng mas miserable sa mga buhay nila. Pansinin mo mga chismosa hindi rin masaya mga buhay nila kaya naghahanap ng pwede ilait sa iba to make them feel a bit relevant conpared to others.
I bet the one commenting is a mom who is not happy with her life, or a mom whose only happiness is her children but feels really really lost as an individual.
I’ve experienced a lot of this. 34, married, no children. Husband and I are planning in the next couple years pa as our careers are demanding and we move countries a lot due to work. Incoming mga moms who keep asking and having snide comments on our current child-less status. Both personally when I go back to Philippines or when I post something (mostly travel) on my IG. Para bang may kawalan if I don’t have children. But based on what I know about their life, they have no other identity aside from being a mom, no other hobbies either and look down on others who don’t share the ‘joy of motherhood’. I am not bashing those moms whose whole world revolve around their children, that’s nice if that’s your calling. As long as you are not bitter and miserable and don’t call out other women who don’t share that lifestyle. I would often get remarks like ‘you’ll never know what you are missing until you have children’, also ‘yang travel travel na yan is nothing compared to the fulfillment you feel as a mother’. Grabeh lang.
149 as a mother of 1 and 2 years old, ang hirap nga maging nanay lalo nat wla ka sa Pinas kasi di afford ang yayey. 🤣 I traveled din nman with my hubby nung wla pang kids pero jusko ang stress din nman dahil sa kanya. Pero nung nagkababies na kami, infairness nman sa kanya tumino na kasama magtravel. But yes, once in a while nakakamiss din magwork at gumala ng walang anak. But for real lang, enjoy lang what you have. For me kasi kung wla akong anak baka matagal na akong nagpatiwakal. 🤣
I agree na bastos talaga yung basher but this comment too by 1125 is every bit as mean spirited as bashers looking down on people who don’t have children. Wag ganun. Moms who find that their kids are their only source of joy or fulfillment are struggling too, you know.
12:29 oi! depende sa tao yan at kung nasaang stage ka ng motherhood mo. parang pagiging single din na pagsasawaan mo din ang hobbies and passions mo, ang moms may time din na mag breakaway and contnue with their passions and hobbies when the kids are more independent. at ang individuality has nothing to do with being single or married or having kids!
Ay true yan. Mas gusto ko mag travel kaysa mag tapon ng diaper na puno ng p** *** ng bata. Mas gusto ko na mag travel kaysa sagut-sagutin ako ng teenager.
To 9:23 - that was actually the point. That mom’s are struggling for sure, everyone is. And may project their unhappiness to others. Being unhappy and lost is not a bad thing. It’s normal
1:00 Actually losing your sense of self and individual identity is a common occurrence in relationships and marriage. Kaya nga its important for a woman to maintain her interests and her own set of friends and practice self care instead of constantly putting aside her needs and wants. I've seen so many women, especially the submissive types, morph and mold their lifestyle into their partners liking.
On point naman si 11:25, but I guess some people are just not comfortable when someone's brutally honest and frank. Sugar-coated words and nice things lang ang dapat marinig.
11:29 Nahirapan ka bang mabuntis? Nakunan ka na? Kung hindi, pwes manahimik ka. Easier said than done ang sinasabi mong ignore chuva. Ako, nahirapan magbuntis at nakunan narin kaya alam ko ang nararamdaman ni heart. Minsan kelangan mo nalang talaga patulan ang mga epal na commenters.
1129 and 934, kung kayo hindi pa nakaranas mahirapan magbuntis o makunan, like what 746 said, manahimik kayo. You are not in a position to question Heart’s reaction. So insensitive.
Catholic mindset po yan, otherwise, why bother with the legalities and lifelong commitment? Mas madaling magjowa na lang, wala pang pakit pangalan at prenup issues.
5:51 not really. Look at financially stable people and the upper class. Majority of them get married yet I don't think they are more or less catholic than everybody else.
Tama yan heart I have 2 kids here in australia at wala yaya at wala pinoy family jusko nakakalosyang So if you have yaya there in the Philippines please consider yourself VERY LICKY
Sabi nga ni Heart, if she’s not sad about it kasi sobrang blessed na niya in life and having a kid would just be a wonderful bonus, then why are you? As if she didn’t try naman. Not your uterus, not entitled to any opinion. Move on na bashers!
kung ikaw nga naiiriita na ano pa kaya si Heart. She is too sensitive about having a baby kasi nga nakunan siya tapos yun na lang parati ang kinocomment and way ng iba para ibash siya. Don't invalidate her feelings kung bakit lagi na lang siyang pumapatol, nakakairita naman na kasi ang if kasalanan niya bat hirap siya magkababy. It is easy to say na ignore na lang pero kung paulit-ulit dapat naman talaga sagutin niya.
Ang pamilyado, di lang ang babae. Ang difference lang eh hindi babad sa socmed si Chiz at mas marami siyang ooints for discussion kaya di siya natatanong about that.
Ang hirap kasi 7:24 is that we live in a very patriarchal society. You can't blame a woman for sticking to life decisions na against the norm tas andaming chismosa at pakealamera making comments and giving unsolicited advice. Kahit gano pa ka-strong ang babae, nasasaktan din yan sa mga comments.
I feel her. And daming bastos talaga na walang preno minsan. Bat di ka pa nag aasawa, bat di pa kayo nag kakaanak? Paki niyo baaaaaa? Eh masaya kame sa ganito na. Grr.
Yung atribida kong lola todo message sa ofw nyang pamangkin kung gaano sya di boto sa napang asawa bla bla bla tapos puro paninira. Why cant people just shut up. Nabubuhay sa katoxican.
May mga innocent comments pero yun iba sobrang epal na ang dating and foul. I learned to be sensitive when I experienced it myself. 3 years after the marriage, i still didn’t have a baby and learned I have infertility problems. Maraming dahilan kung bakit wala pang anak, infertility
Some people have infertility problems, or health issues or choice nila not to have kids
I'm not a fan but honestly it's prob difficult for her to keep on being asked bakit wala siya anak or bakit d siya magkaanak. Nagtry naman siya at nauwi sa heartbreak. I don't mind her reacting this way when the public knows naman her struggles with pregnancy. May mga tao talaga insensitive. So much hatred in their hearts hay naku
Typical Filipino toxic trait. Di lahat ng babae madali magkaanak. Madaming may infertility problem at napaka insensitive ng mga tao na laging ang tanong "Bat Wala pa kayong anak?" Pasalamat kayo pinagpala matres niyo :) Minsan Kung sino pa irresponsableng magulang sila ang madaming anak.
Yung mga babaeng bukambibig blessed sila na nagkaanak pero deep inside problemado kung paano mabibigyan ng magandang future ang mga bata dahil mismong sa sarili nga nila kulang pa ang kakarampot na sahod, dinamay pa mga bata sa miserableng Buhay.
I think its right for Heart to address this kind of bashing. As an influencer she has the platform! And exposing this kind of mentality of the average Filipinos (mostly women pa) is good to raise awareness for this backwards kind of thinking. Baka naman sa simpleng rebuttal niya na ito she can either make some childless woman feel much better or educate some ignorant Pinoy. I noticed that if the topic is about being a mother she is more active than usual in responding. Which for me is good!! This needs to be highlighted more in our very narrow minded culture. Where being a mother is end all, be all for women. We need to call out bashers like this. Or they will just continue breeding ignorance. Ika nga, you tolerate someone’s behavior and it becomes a way of life.
Well said. I really appreciated it when Anne Curtis also spoke up on this topic considering she was already preggy at that time. Grateful for celebs who use their platform well. This toxic culture needs to be stopped.
Legit question mga sis, bakit kung sino yung mga pala simba at pala-post ng religious posts, sila yung mga judgemental at know it all? Yung tipo na ipapagduldulan sayo yung beliefs nila. This applies to all religions.
Di naman lahat sis. Baka kasi sa sobrang relihiyoso ng ibang kristyano (regardless of denomination), yung tumatak lang sa kanila eh yung 'humayo kayo at magpakarami'?
This applies to various contexts though. Maybe when people intensely believe in something and surround themselves completely with people who are the same they start to lose sight of the fact na iba't iba ang tao sa mundo and one way or another may pagkakaiba iba ang way of life naging lahat. I mean ganito din sa politics, gym culture, etc.
I’m with Heart in this one.. Sasabihin patola, eh sa nagtrigger si Basher.. Tsaka ano ngayon oi she reads comments? Engaging sya sa fans nya eh.. Her body, her choice..
Bilib talaga ako sa mga famous sa social media- content creator, yourube stars, tiktokerist, grabe ineendure nila yun mga ganyan harsh words, Parang i cant imagine myself reading comments like that; even fame and money ang kapalit? No, no way.
Ang pakialamera ng mga Pilipino. Buti sana kung may ambag sila sa pagdadala ng 9 buwan at pagpapalaki. Kung di naman nakakaapekto ng buhay niyo ang kawalan ng boyfriend/asawa/anak/isa pang anak ng iba, shut up na lang.
Kaya nga ako hindi nagsheshare sa iba tungkol sa private life ko. Iniiwasan ako ang noise sa paligid. Hindi naman nila concern kung may jowa ako o hindi!
duh? sinagot nya lang ang basher hindi siya ang nagsimula ng issue. pwede mo sabihin sa basher na kung pwede iba naman ang ipukol kay heart ksi lumang tugtugin na yung walang anak na chcuchu na yan.
In north america there’s a kind of a club or group organized by couples who don’t want to have children because they’re just happy being together and free to travel or do whatever they want as a couple w/ no excess baggage in tow. They don’t want to be responsible for another human being if they can’t provide the love and responsibilities of being a parent..because parenting is hard..you’ve to mold your children to be better individuals, provide a loving environment and a comfortable shelter/home,, send them to school etc. That’s their choice and outlook in life..child free.
That is mine and hubby's as well which is very unpopular here in the Phils. My fave: yang extrang pera mo since wala ka namang anak ikaw na magpaaral sa mga pamangkin mo. WAG WALDASIN SA TRAVEL MAKUNSENSYA KA NAMAN." UGH the audacity!!! My money is my business. Some even say buti hindi ka iniwan ng asawa mo or bet you may anak yan sa iba kaya ayaw ka din niya mag anak para may budget sa sustento. TOXIC
12:16 Glad you found a guy na child free din. I'm single and still looking/hoping for someone who's also child free. Nakakainit ng ulo yang relatives mo, as if obligado ka pag aralin pamangkins mo since you don't have kids. The audacity.
12:16 Ka gigil mga ganyan. Yung MIL ko gusto mag ofw yung husband ko para daw buhayin yung mga kamag anak na ayaw magbanat ng buto. Kaloka! Nakakastress sila magisip. No wonder di umaasenso.
Sa mga nagsasabi dito na parang kasalanan niya pa kasi pinapatulan niya: in a way, I think sore spot yan ni Heart that's why she always responds to comments like that. rightfully so naman, imagine someone reducing your value as a woman and all those years of hard work as an artist just because you don't have a child. You can't tell her not to get pressed with comments like this kasi offensive naman talaga and to think maraming pinoy na ganyan yung iniisip sa kanya.
Some people won’t get it, baks. They don’t put themselves in someone else’s shoes kasi e. I doubt na magiging unbothered pa sila if it happens to them.
i lost my first baby and me and hubby can no longer have one after that. it’s a painful experience to go through. if only people know how to be sensitive. kaso madami talagang bastos ang bibig.
people here who call out heart for being patolera but not the bashers who are rude and insensitive should check their values. enabler kayo ng mga bastos. bastos people should be called out. halatang halatang gawain nyo din mambastos sa social media eh
I have a relative na may fertility issues and I refrain from talking about it when they are around. Pero yung mga matatanda sa amin jusko, mga walang manners at common sense. Grabe maka-pressure and I know their words are hurting the wife deep inside.
Sana hindi ganito yung conversations na umiikot around having children. Not all people are equipped to have children and people shouldn't have one just because they can. Ni hindi nga socioeconomic status ang problema. There are really just a lot of people out there who shouldn't even be thinking about having kids cause they are just passing their trauma onto the next generation. Mahirap magpalaki ng anak na well adjusted at walang mental illness, kailangan malaki ang capacity ng magulang for selflessness, may awareness na they are raising another human being and not an extension of themselves, and last but not the least, yung capqble to teach their kids and at the same time to learn from them. Kudos to people who consciously choose not to have kids because they know that they would not be able to do it well. It just really breaks my heart when people have kids for vague reasons like "iba pa rin yung may anak" or "walang magaalaga sayo pagtanda mo" or "para hindi masayang ang lahi"
Wag kasing magbabad sa comment section ng hindi mastress.
ReplyDeletePatola si alta 🤭
DeleteUhmm girl, IG account po nya yan, di naman sya dumayo sa comment section ng ibang acct.
DeleteSo, tell me kung pano sila makipag-engage sa fans?
Delete12:05 hahaha, basher nga d b..
DeleteEngage the fans, ignore the bashers. Ganun!
Deletesyempre nalaglag ung twins nya syempre every year nagluluksa sya. ano anak lang ng anak.
DeleteAng dami talagang pakialamera.
ReplyDeleteThose bashers don't understand the word "miscarriage" siguro. They think na parang drive-thru lang mag-buntis.
DeleteAminin na maraming pinoy ang walang modo. Actually, inggitera lang yan. Naghahanap ng mali sa iba.
DeleteMarami talagang mga bastos na tao noh.
ReplyDeleteMarami mal-educado. Wala tayong pakialam sa buhay ng ibang tao.
DeleteMag anak ka raw kasi para damay damay na sa pagiging miserable nila. 🤣
ReplyDeleteanon 11:16pm - so true hahaha. un mga nagsasabi na mag anak ka na, sila un feeling ko na hindi masaya. gusto ng karamay lol
Delete11:16 if u have a child i feel sorry for him/her and if none, thank God! How could u say that having a child makes your life miserable? I am sad for u.
Deletetrue!!!
Delete"Ayoko eh"... Ok Heart.
ReplyDeleteObviously, di mo alam ang sarcasm.
DeleteRelate! Yung bilas ko na atribida, Bat daw isa lang ang anak namin. Hello? With the cost of living getting higher every year, having a big family is no longer a practical option. Gusto pa yata magaya sa kanya, wala na ngang magandang trabaho dami pa ng anak.
ReplyDeleteBilas is example of Misery loves Company. Ano siya lang miserable at hirap? Dapat makarelate ka girl! Hahaha!
DeleteHahahaha. Minsan gusto ko na sabihin, e di ikaw ang mag anak, suggest ka ng suggest dyan, e di gawin mo kesa ipapasa mo pa sa iba.
DeleteKadalasan naman talaga ngayon yung mararaming anak yung mga hirap sa buhay. Kapag todo kayod kasi na mga tao alam yung cost ng pag aanak.
Delete“One and done “ na din kami. Napkahirap bumuhay ng anak sa panahon ngayon. Syempre kailangan maging responsible. Yung iba kasi mag-aanak ng madami kasi baka sakali may isang maging successful tapos yun na ang gagawing breadwinner ng pamilya. Ginagawang lottery chances ang mga anak. Bahala na mentality ang pinapairal tapos puro asa sa mga kamag-anak at pati ninong/ninang at pti na rin sa gobyerno.
Deleteparang gusto lang nila mandamay sa buhay nila
Deletehindi mo alam kung ignorante, insensitive or masama lang talaga ang tabas ng bunganga ng mga ganyang tao. kung hindi magkaanak, ayaw ng anak let them be jusko hindi lang anak ang nagpapa complete sa buhay. may pets din no. honestly, i dont like children so kanya kanya lang yan ng mindset sa buhay.
Delete7:21 tama ka jan..iniisip isa sa mga anak ang mag.aahon sa kanila sa hirap,mabuti sana if mapatapos nla ng pag-aaral lahat,baka may chance pa, eh pano kung sa hirap ng buhay d nmn nla mapag-aral,paano sla iaangat sa hirap ng buhay?
DeleteMga pakialam Sa buhay ng May buhay! Ang babastos Lang talaga ng mga pinoy! Hindi nyo Dapat pinapakialamanan ang ibang tao kung wala clang anak or wala clang trabaho or kung wala clang asawa unless nanghihingi cla Sa inyo ng pera! Kung di nila kau pinaperwisyo, wag nyo cla pakialamanan Sa gusto nila Sa buhay!
ReplyDeleteAgree! Pag wala ka asawa, bat daw wala. Pag me asawa na, bat wala daw anak. Pag me anak, bat isa lang. Pag madami, bat daw madami. Etc etc.
DeleteSo true. Filipinos in general have poor manners and questionable ethics. Explains the state of life there I reckon.
Delete8:32 this is a baseless stereotype. People of all cultures do this too, even those who are perceived as generally "polite" societies like japan and south korea.
DeleteFACT: worst trait ng mga pinoy: pakialamera at inggitera. kapag inggit, hahanap at hahanap ng pwedeng ipintas sa yo. kapag nakikita kang masaya, sasabihin wala ka namang anak, iniwan ka naman ng asawa mo, or mataba ka naman, or panget ka naman or panget ang ugali mo...LOL the list is endless!
ReplyDeleteKuhang kuha mo! Ganyan na ganyan yung isa sa pamilya ko. Lahat na ng pwede maipintas talaga. Mema kumbaga. Mema-lait lang.
Delete1122, completely agree.
DeleteMajority kaya ganyan ugali kqsi naghahanap sila ng mas miserable sa mga buhay nila. Pansinin mo mga chismosa hindi rin masaya mga buhay nila kaya naghahanap ng pwede ilait sa iba to make them feel a bit relevant conpared to others.
DeleteMy neighbor said mag anak ka ng marami ang gaganda ng anak mo. Lots of reason why they want you to have a child. Dont thhnk its bad.
Deletei had a miscarriage before, sabi ba naman ng ka-opisina ko, "magpakabait ka na kasi". wala talagang empathy mga pinoy sa ganitong issue.
DeleteGosh. Pakialam nyo ba! Hndi nman kyo ang mamomoblema s pagpapalaki s magiging anak nya. Stop your fake "concern". *Eye roll emoji*
ReplyDeleteI bet the one commenting is a mom who is not happy with her life, or a mom whose only happiness is her children but feels really really lost as an individual.
ReplyDeleteI’ve experienced a lot of this. 34, married, no children. Husband and I are planning in the next couple years pa as our careers are demanding and we move countries a lot due to work.
DeleteIncoming mga moms who keep asking and having snide comments on our current child-less status. Both personally when I go back to Philippines or when I post something (mostly travel) on my IG. Para bang may kawalan if I don’t have children. But based on what I know about their life, they have no other identity aside from being a mom, no other hobbies either and look down on others who don’t share the ‘joy of motherhood’. I am not bashing those moms whose whole world revolve around their children, that’s nice if that’s your calling. As long as you are not bitter and miserable and don’t call out other women who don’t share that lifestyle. I would often get remarks like ‘you’ll never know what you are missing until you have children’, also ‘yang travel travel na yan is nothing compared to the fulfillment you feel as a mother’. Grabeh lang.
11:25 & 1:49 I think you're judging mothers. You'll never understand coz you don't have kids so don't align them as someone "lost".
Delete149 as a mother of 1 and 2 years old, ang hirap nga maging nanay lalo nat wla ka sa Pinas kasi di afford ang yayey. 🤣 I traveled din nman with my hubby nung wla pang kids pero jusko ang stress din nman dahil sa kanya. Pero nung nagkababies na kami, infairness nman sa kanya tumino na kasama magtravel. But yes, once in a while nakakamiss din magwork at gumala ng walang anak. But for real lang, enjoy lang what you have. For me kasi kung wla akong anak baka matagal na akong nagpatiwakal. 🤣
Delete149 I honestly think inggit lang sila sayo. If they are truly happy, they would not have the time of day for such comments. You go, girl!
DeleteI agree na bastos talaga yung basher but this comment too by 1125 is every bit as mean spirited as bashers looking down on people who don’t have children. Wag ganun. Moms who find that their kids are their only source of joy or fulfillment are struggling too, you know.
Delete149am, I’m a mom and I completely understand you. I don’t know why there are such people who can be so tactless. Stay happy!
DeleteTrue. I don't want to evolve into that kind of person later. Yung sa mga anak lang umiikot ang buhay- walang hobbies, passions, walang individuality.
Delete12:29 oi! depende sa tao yan at kung nasaang stage ka ng motherhood mo. parang pagiging single din na pagsasawaan mo din ang hobbies and passions mo, ang moms may time din na mag breakaway and contnue with their passions and hobbies when the kids are more independent. at ang individuality has nothing to do with being single or married or having kids!
DeleteAy true yan. Mas gusto ko mag travel kaysa mag tapon ng diaper na puno ng p** *** ng bata. Mas gusto ko na mag travel kaysa sagut-sagutin ako ng teenager.
DeleteTo 9:23 - that was actually the point. That mom’s are struggling for sure, everyone is. And may project their unhappiness to others. Being unhappy and lost is not a bad thing. It’s normal
Delete12:29 parang ang liit naman masyado ng tingin mo sa mga housewife mother. pareho kayo nung basher actually yun lang magkaiba yung ipinaglalaban niyo.
Delete1:00 Actually losing your sense of self and individual identity is a common occurrence in relationships and marriage. Kaya nga its important for a woman to maintain her interests and her own set of friends and practice self care instead of constantly putting aside her needs and wants. I've seen so many women, especially the submissive types, morph and mold their lifestyle into their partners liking.
DeleteOn point naman si 11:25, but I guess some people are just not comfortable when someone's brutally honest and frank. Sugar-coated words and nice things lang ang dapat marinig.
DeleteThat is why marriage and motherhood is not not for everybody..
DeletePlain rude and inconsiderate to ask these questions.
ReplyDeleteWhen a person cannot find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure - Frankl
ReplyDelete... yun na yun, for both trills and Heart, choz!
Need bang maging relevant Kaya Patolera s mga basher. Matagal n siya s showbiz dapat Deadman n LNG. beside sinasabing fan busy siya at happy. Ignore
ReplyDeleteAlam mo ba kung anong nangyari kay heart? And why would anyone even ask that? It's rude.
Delete11:29 Nahirapan ka bang mabuntis? Nakunan ka na? Kung hindi, pwes manahimik ka. Easier said than done ang sinasabi mong ignore chuva. Ako, nahirapan magbuntis at nakunan narin kaya alam ko ang nararamdaman ni heart. Minsan kelangan mo nalang talaga patulan ang mga epal na commenters.
DeleteHaha spot on 11:29.
Delete1129 and 934, kung kayo hindi pa nakaranas mahirapan magbuntis o makunan, like what 746 said, manahimik kayo. You are not in a position to question Heart’s reaction. So insensitive.
Delete9:34 magsama kayo ni 11:29 pareho kayo walang modo
DeleteNaging mindset o standard na kasi na porke may asawa matic na dapat may anak. Can we just accept the fact or reality na walang perfect sa mundo.
ReplyDeleteCatholic mindset po yan, otherwise, why bother with the legalities and lifelong commitment? Mas madaling magjowa na lang, wala pang pakit pangalan at prenup issues.
Delete5:51 wala sa religion yan, ugaling Pinoy yan noh! Pinsan ko nga na member ng *** yan lagi ang tanong sakin kung kelan ko susundan ang anak ko
Delete5:51 not really. Look at financially stable people and the upper class. Majority of them get married yet I don't think they are more or less catholic than everybody else.
DeleteTama yan heart
ReplyDeleteI have 2 kids here in australia at wala yaya at wala pinoy family jusko nakakalosyang
So if you have yaya there in the Philippines please consider yourself VERY LICKY
Sabi nga ni Heart, if she’s not sad about it kasi sobrang blessed na niya in life and having a kid would just be a wonderful bonus, then why are you? As if she didn’t try naman. Not your uterus, not entitled to any opinion. Move on na bashers!
ReplyDeleteAgree. She is very blessed sa maraming bagay. Yung mga ganyang basher kadalasan maraming anak pero di naman afford.
DeleteAh pinagtanggol ko siya dun sa last article ni fp, pero araw araw may ganito? Yep, ok, papansin nga!
ReplyDelete12:17 Ibang issue naman kasi to. Kahit gusto mo nang manahimik tapos may magcocomment ng ganito, mapapasagot ka talaga
DeleteAnnoying na nga. Another day another patol.
Deletekung ikaw nga naiiriita na ano pa kaya si Heart. She is too sensitive about having a baby kasi nga nakunan siya tapos yun na lang parati ang kinocomment and way ng iba para ibash siya. Don't invalidate her feelings kung bakit lagi na lang siyang pumapatol, nakakairita naman na kasi ang if kasalanan niya bat hirap siya magkababy. It is easy to say na ignore na lang pero kung paulit-ulit dapat naman talaga sagutin niya.
DeleteAng lungkot lang ano? paranag obligado mag-anak ang babae :(
ReplyDelete@12:21 AM, choice mo yan teh :) kung mag papadala ka sa sabi sabi ng ibang tao, ikaw ang may problema :)
DeleteAng pamilyado, di lang ang babae. Ang difference lang eh hindi babad sa socmed si Chiz at mas marami siyang ooints for discussion kaya di siya natatanong about that.
Delete... besides, nay twins na si Chiz.
Ang hirap kasi 7:24 is that we live in a very patriarchal society. You can't blame a woman for sticking to life decisions na against the norm tas andaming chismosa at pakealamera making comments and giving unsolicited advice. Kahit gano pa ka-strong ang babae, nasasaktan din yan sa mga comments.
DeleteAng gandaaaa ni Heart!
ReplyDeleteI feel her. And daming bastos talaga na walang preno minsan. Bat di ka pa nag aasawa, bat di pa kayo nag kakaanak? Paki niyo baaaaaa? Eh masaya kame sa ganito na. Grr.
ReplyDeleteYung atribida kong lola todo message sa ofw nyang pamangkin kung gaano sya di boto sa napang asawa bla bla bla tapos puro paninira. Why cant people just shut up. Nabubuhay sa katoxican.
DeleteHay grabe, ang dami talaga pakelamera.
ReplyDeleteMay mga innocent comments pero yun iba sobrang epal na ang dating and foul. I learned to be sensitive when I experienced it myself. 3 years after the marriage, i still didn’t have a baby and learned I have infertility problems. Maraming dahilan kung bakit wala pang anak, infertility
Some people have infertility problems, or health issues or choice nila not to have kids
I'm not a fan but honestly it's prob difficult for her to keep on being asked bakit wala siya anak or bakit d siya magkaanak. Nagtry naman siya at nauwi sa heartbreak. I don't mind her reacting this way when the public knows naman her struggles with pregnancy. May mga tao talaga insensitive. So much hatred in their hearts hay naku
ReplyDeleteTypical Filipino toxic trait. Di lahat ng babae madali magkaanak. Madaming may infertility problem at napaka insensitive ng mga tao na laging ang tanong "Bat Wala pa kayong anak?" Pasalamat kayo pinagpala matres niyo :)
ReplyDeleteMinsan Kung sino pa irresponsableng magulang sila ang madaming anak.
Yung mga babaeng bukambibig blessed sila na nagkaanak pero deep inside problemado kung paano mabibigyan ng magandang future ang mga bata dahil mismong sa sarili nga nila kulang pa ang kakarampot na sahod, dinamay pa mga bata sa miserableng Buhay.
ReplyDeleteI think its right for Heart to address this kind of bashing. As an influencer she has the platform! And exposing this kind of mentality of the average Filipinos (mostly women pa) is good to raise awareness for this backwards kind of thinking. Baka naman sa simpleng rebuttal niya na ito she can either make some childless woman feel much better or educate some ignorant Pinoy.
ReplyDeleteI noticed that if the topic is about being a mother she is more active than usual in responding. Which for me is good!! This needs to be highlighted more in our very narrow minded culture. Where being a mother is end all, be all for women.
We need to call out bashers like this. Or they will just continue breeding ignorance. Ika nga, you tolerate someone’s behavior and it becomes a way of life.
Agree. This part of our culture needs to change.
DeleteWell said. I really appreciated it when Anne Curtis also spoke up on this topic considering she was already preggy at that time. Grateful for celebs who use their platform well. This toxic culture needs to be stopped.
Delete8 years na kaming kasal nang mister ko pero wala pa din kming baby - by choice yan. family planning, payaman muna ano bago magpakarami
ReplyDeletePakels namin sa inyo.
DeleteButi naman 6:39. Mind your own business.
Delete6:39 may pakels ka kasi you bothered to comment
DeleteSo snarky 6:39. Marami ka sigurong anak but can't afford to give them the best life possible. Yung anak lang ng anak porke't may public school.
Delete5 years married & still have no kids. Ayaw pa namin both. Kaya IVF is the key!
ReplyDeleteLegit question mga sis, bakit kung sino yung mga pala simba at pala-post ng religious posts, sila yung mga judgemental at know it all? Yung tipo na ipapagduldulan sayo yung beliefs nila. This applies to all religions.
ReplyDelete3:36 Mga ipokrito/a sila.
DeleteDi naman lahat sis. Baka kasi sa sobrang relihiyoso ng ibang kristyano (regardless of denomination), yung tumatak lang sa kanila eh yung 'humayo kayo at magpakarami'?
DeleteTotoo yan sis. Daming hypocrites, di ma apply in real life yung sermon ng pari. 😅
DeleteThis applies to various contexts though. Maybe when people intensely believe in something and surround themselves completely with people who are the same they start to lose sight of the fact na iba't iba ang tao sa mundo and one way or another may pagkakaiba iba ang way of life naging lahat. I mean ganito din sa politics, gym culture, etc.
DeleteI’m with Heart in this one.. Sasabihin patola, eh sa nagtrigger si Basher.. Tsaka ano ngayon oi she reads comments? Engaging sya sa fans nya eh.. Her body, her choice..
ReplyDeleteBilib talaga ako sa mga famous sa social media- content creator, yourube stars, tiktokerist, grabe ineendure nila yun mga ganyan harsh words, Parang i cant imagine myself reading comments like that; even fame and money ang kapalit? No, no way.
ReplyDeleteAng pakialamera ng mga Pilipino. Buti sana kung may ambag sila sa pagdadala ng 9 buwan at pagpapalaki. Kung di naman nakakaapekto ng buhay niyo ang kawalan ng boyfriend/asawa/anak/isa pang anak ng iba, shut up na lang.
ReplyDeleteKaya nga ako hindi nagsheshare sa iba tungkol sa private life ko. Iniiwasan ako ang noise sa paligid. Hindi naman nila concern kung may jowa ako o hindi!
Heart ano na nangyari sa fez mo parang d na nice tingnan. Banat na banat at plump kung plump!
ReplyDeleteSa filter yan tih, obvious ba. 🤣
DeleteI noticed that too.
DeleteDi nya talaga ikinaganda yang pagpatol nya na to.
ReplyDeletecheck your values beh. you’re calling out heart sa pagpatol but not the bastos basher. yuck. kadiri ka.
Deletehindi ikagaganda pero kahit paano nailabas nya yung saloobin na walang paki ang basher kung wala siyang anak.
DeleteLalo na ang panghihimasok sa buhay ng may buhay sizt
DeleteGasgas na gasgas na tong issue na to. 2022 na wala na bang maisip na ibang way to stay relevant? She’s been milking this story since 2014.
ReplyDeleteY O W N!
DeleteBull's eye!
oo nga noh...kelangan may nagpinpoint tsaka ko na realized
Deletekung di kayo nakunan wala or nawalan ng anak wala kayong opinion on what she feels about having kids 🙄🙄
Deleteat 10:09 2022 na kase bastos pa rin talaga ang karamihan .
Deleteduh? sinagot nya lang ang basher hindi siya ang nagsimula ng issue. pwede mo sabihin sa basher na kung pwede iba naman ang ipukol kay heart ksi lumang tugtugin na yung walang anak na chcuchu na yan.
DeleteThese bashers don’t know that they’re being used by heart to stay relevant lol.
ReplyDeleteTagalog
Delete10:10 hindi kailangan ni heart ang bashers to be relevant since she already is. dami kaya nyang ganap sa buhay of late.
DeleteIn north america there’s a kind of a club or group organized by couples who don’t want to have children because they’re just happy being together and free to travel or do whatever they want as a couple w/ no excess baggage in tow. They don’t want to be responsible for another human being if they can’t provide the love and responsibilities of being a parent..because parenting is hard..you’ve to mold your children to be better individuals, provide a loving environment and a comfortable shelter/home,, send them to school etc. That’s their choice and outlook in life..child free.
ReplyDeleteThat is mine and hubby's as well which is very unpopular here in the Phils. My fave: yang extrang pera mo since wala ka namang anak ikaw na magpaaral sa mga pamangkin mo. WAG WALDASIN SA TRAVEL MAKUNSENSYA KA NAMAN." UGH the audacity!!! My money is my business. Some even say buti hindi ka iniwan ng asawa mo or bet you may anak yan sa iba kaya ayaw ka din niya mag anak para may budget sa sustento. TOXIC
Delete12:16 Glad you found a guy na child free din. I'm single and still looking/hoping for someone who's also child free. Nakakainit ng ulo yang relatives mo, as if obligado ka pag aralin pamangkins mo since you don't have kids. The audacity.
Delete12:16 Ka gigil mga ganyan. Yung MIL ko gusto mag ofw yung husband ko para daw buhayin yung mga kamag anak na ayaw magbanat ng buto. Kaloka! Nakakastress sila magisip. No wonder di umaasenso.
DeleteKung makatanong naman parang nabibili lang yung anak sa tindahan.
ReplyDeleteSa mga nagsasabi dito na parang kasalanan niya pa kasi pinapatulan niya: in a way, I think sore spot yan ni Heart that's why she always responds to comments like that. rightfully so naman, imagine someone reducing your value as a woman and all those years of hard work as an artist just because you don't have a child. You can't tell her not to get pressed with comments like this kasi offensive naman talaga and to think maraming pinoy na ganyan yung iniisip sa kanya.
ReplyDeleteSome people won’t get it, baks. They don’t put themselves in someone else’s shoes kasi e. I doubt na magiging unbothered pa sila if it happens to them.
Deletei lost my first baby and me and hubby can no longer have one after that. it’s a painful experience to go through. if only people know how to be sensitive. kaso madami talagang bastos ang bibig.
Delete12:16, meh, She is full of herself, that’s why.
Delete9:03 - according to you?
DeleteYou just don't like her that's why you are so negative.
You and the basher came from an insensitive breed of life form.
Oh wow heart you're not getting any younger...bakit napaka childish padin
ReplyDeletechildish how?
Deletepeople here who call out heart for being patolera but not the bashers who are rude and insensitive should check their values. enabler kayo ng mga bastos. bastos people should be called out. halatang halatang gawain nyo din mambastos sa social media eh
ReplyDeleteShe is too tiresome. Her kabuki makeup and her nonsense posing posing. Ewww.
ReplyDeletethen stop looking.
Deletebaka inggit lang yan since you might not be as good looking as her and cannot relate to her posing-posing of luxe stuffs.
A neighbor said to me maganak ka ng marami ang gaganda ng anak mo..
ReplyDeleteI have a relative na may fertility issues and I refrain from talking about it when they are around. Pero yung mga matatanda sa amin jusko, mga walang manners at common sense. Grabe maka-pressure and I know their words are hurting the wife deep inside.
ReplyDeleteAyoko or hindi talaga kaya?
ReplyDeleteSana hindi ganito yung conversations na umiikot around having children. Not all people are equipped to have children and people shouldn't have one just because they can. Ni hindi nga socioeconomic status ang problema. There are really just a lot of people out there who shouldn't even be thinking about having kids cause they are just passing their trauma onto the next generation. Mahirap magpalaki ng anak na well adjusted at walang mental illness, kailangan malaki ang capacity ng magulang for selflessness, may awareness na they are raising another human being and not an extension of themselves, and last but not the least, yung capqble to teach their kids and at the same time to learn from them. Kudos to people who consciously choose not to have kids because they know that they would not be able to do it well. It just really breaks my heart when people have kids for vague reasons like "iba pa rin yung may anak" or "walang magaalaga sayo pagtanda mo" or "para hindi masayang ang lahi"
ReplyDeleteVery well said. Sana mabasag na itong toxic culture ng pagmamarunong sa buhay ng ina.
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