I agree. Nega kasi dating nya since simula sya sa showbiz till today. Ang ? ko nakapagaral ba si Christine Hirap na hirap sya magconstruct ng sentences.
Her reasoning and narration of how 'horrible' her childhood was sounded shallow to me maybe because she was having a hard time expressing herself fully in english? I also thought she fought with her mom a lot, she must have been rebellious and resented her mom for giving her away and then taking her back. And maybe out of frustration her mom told her that she was never wanted from the start.
12:49 agree. It is her way to heal. Maedio nakaka-relate ako. Kailangan mo talaga mailabas o may mapagsabihan para lumuwag ang bigat sa dibdib na kinimkim ng mahabang panahon. Intindihin nyo na lang ang mga taong may pinagdaanang ganyan.
12:50 ganyan ang mga taong may pinagdaanan katulad ng kay Cristine. Parang laging palaban dahil sa pakiramdam na nag-iisa ka at ikaw lang ang tanging magtatanggol sa sarili mo. It takes time to heal, indeed.
but hindi na dapat inopen pa especially now that everything’s at peace. magugulo na naman family, imagine her mom and siblings’ reaction after watching this
Thia reaction is so common kaya madaming trauma survivors ang dala ang trauma hanggng sa pag raise nila ng family at hanggng mamatay. Sa ganitong thinking nagsisimula ang generational trauma. No, hindi nya kailangan itago for the sake of delikadesa or whatever. It is her story and as long as factual ung sinasabi nya, there is nothing wrong in telling her truth. Hindi obligasyon ng taong na trauma na pagtakpan ang reputation ng abuser.
Imagine the trauma her own mother inflected to her. Wag na natin i justify ang mali. Madami akong Nanay na kilala, iniwan ang mga anak dahil sa sariling kaligayahan.
I feel for her. I believe totoo lahat yun. Proud din ako of her kasi she’s no longer a mess that she used to be. Nagmature sya and she sounded sincere dito sa podcast. I think mas madedeliver nya ng maayos kung Taglish na lang tapos may subtitle na English. Nahirapan kasi sya iexpress ng maayos yung thoughts nya in full English.
8:43 Ang point don, di nalang sana nagpa interview in english kung hirap siya magsaLita. Magaling man o hindi sa english si 2:27, irrelevant yun sa english speaking skills ni chrsitine. At di mo rin kelangan mag english ng katiting para ipakita na may konting kaalaman ka sa english. Kakatawa ka. Nag english pa talaga, may pinaglalaban ka?
10:00 ang tanong dun ay, maiintindihan kaya sya ng interviewer kung sagutin nya ito in Tagalog? Kung makapuna kayo sa maling englush grammar akala nyo ang peperpekto nyo eh ni katiting nga na english hindi ka makahirit hahaha
Mataray palaban talaga si cristine nuon, dami nya naka away before at sumikat naman talaga sya, after naging mother sya bumait sya at nag tame, ok na sila ng sister nya super close, naku baka magsalita yung mother nya masisira ulit sila
2:45 believe it or not may ganyan talagang sitwasyon sa pamilya. Yung sini-single out ang isang anak sa trouble ng pamilya. Yung laging sya ang ginagawang scapegoat samantalang yung iba kahit nagkakamali walang paninisi na naririnig. Ang hirap lumaki sa ganyang environment. Kung hindi ka matibay baka kung ano ang maisip mo.
Ano kaya ginawa nya noon 6 years old sya para ituring syan ganyan, aber? And please, sa pamilya talaga may ginagawang scapegoat, yun tipong sinisisi lahat sakanya while super nice naman trato sa ibang kapatid. It doesn't mean maayos turing sa ibang kapatid eh sinungaling na sya.
12:13 baka nagkaron ng problema ang mudra sa biological father ni Cristine kaya sya ang napagbuntunan ng mudra? Wala akong maisip na mabigat na dahilan para maltratuhin ang isang six-year old child na walang kalaban laban.
i never liked her. she strikes me as someone manipulative vindictive and angry. but now i know why. may this be a lesson to all parents. children grown up carrying the values you show them. words are powerful, we should always choose our words wisely and carefully.
Same situation kami ni CR wala akong nakikitang mabuti sa kapwa ko dahil hindi ako nakahanap ng pagmamahal at acceptance sa mismong pamilya ko, ngayon na may sarili nakong pamilya doon ako nagheal dahil may loving children at loving partner ko, mismong sa pamilya ko ngayon ako nakahanap ng peace at pagkakaroon ng malawak na pag iintindi.
7:52 you're lucky you have your own family. Ako, na-trauma ako mag-pamilya. Hindi ko alam kung paano at saan magsisimula. Naging aloof ako sa tao, sa opposite sex. Makihalubilo man madalas napipilitan lang. Parang nawalan ng trust sa kapwa. Akala mo lagi kang ibe-betray dahil nagawa nga sa iyo ng pamilyang pinanggalingan mo how much more ang ibang tao? Affected talaga mentally and emotionally. Ang hirap.
Same here. Nung nagkaanak ako doon ako onti onti natauhan sa mga nangyari sakin kasi hindi ko kaya gawin sa anak ko kalupitan ng nanay ko sakin. Nung nagkaanak ako dun ko nalaman totoo g meaning ng love. Dun ko rin nalaman na i married my mother. Abusive ang napang-asawa ko na pati pakikipaghiwalay natatakot ako baka ano gawin sakin o sirain hubay ko.
Pinaampon sya nung baby pa sya, nung 6 na sya binawi sya ng nanay nya pero everyday inuulit ulit sa kanya ng nanay nya na unwanted child sya at ibang klase sya kasi nabuhay pa sya kahit ilang beses sya ipalaglag
Those who are quick to invalidate her must come from loving families. I also had an angry, bitter mother. I was an unplanned pregnancy, the child she didn't want. Imagine being told as a child na sana inabort ka na lang? She treated my siblings well tho. It's the reason why I am reserved and aloof growing up, which people mistook for haughtiness and snobbery. I told myself kung magkaanak ako, I'll never let the child feel what I felt back then.
Ang napanood ko lang since I skip parts is mula bata she was repeatedly subjected to verbal abuse, her mom telling her that she is an unwanted child and that her mom tried to ab*rt her pa and even gave her away when she was a kid. From 6 years old, she stayed with her mom and other siblings, even her siblings alienated her and treated her poorly.
Maliban sa abuses na eto baka meron pa pero di ko na pinanood lahat. Matindi ang verbal abuse - it can wreck your soul talaga.
Sana ngayon Nanay na din siya, total opposite ang maging charcter niya from sa nakagisnan niya growing up.
Sana lang totoo yan. Para at least maunawaan kahit papano yung ugaling maldita mo sa pinoy showbiz. Kung para lang sa Hollywood dream juskolord ewan ko sa yo AA.
Legit yung pinagdaanan ni Christine. Words hurt more than physical pain. Daladala yan hanggang pagtanda kung walang inner healing. Iba-iba tayo ng kinalakihan. May loving environment meron ding toxic. Let's not invalidate her experience just because we seem to be strong.
Di ko pinanood ang video dahil mahaba. Share ko lang. Complete family kami, may kaya, some would even say "mayaman" kami. Pero my mother is hard to live with. Back when I was still studying, we were never close. I never told her about my crushes because that would upset her. She would tell me to just focus on my studies. So I finished my studies naman. Lagi siyang negative pag tuwing may kinukwento ako. Lately dahil nga pandemic until now, naikwento ko na bibili ako ng gitara. Sabi niya too late na raw para sa edad ko ang mag aral nun. Samantalang I have a friend, let's just say parehas kami ng edad, she learned how to play the guitar recently lang. My parents forced me to study courses that I never wanted in the first place. Sabi gayahin ko daw yung contemporaries ko. What she really meant by "contemporaries" ay yung kaklase kong lawyer na HINDI KO NAMAN CLOSE. Typical Asian parents. I'd rather flip burgers than be a lawyer. 🙄 Actually hindi lang mother ko eh, my whole family gaslights me. Kaya nga sobrang pro choice ako sa totoo lang. I wish I was never born. I know other people have it worse but hurtful words will stay with me until I die.
I’m glad you were born. May halaga ka. Toxic din ang mom ko. Hindi ko naman winish na never born ako. Ang wish ko magkaron ng emancipation dito sa pilipinas para may mangyari man sakin hindi mapunta sa kanya mga pinundar ko. Nakakaempower din kasi iwan officially or parang ididivorce ang masamang magulang. Madaming masamang magulang that they do unimaginable things to their kids. Kaya hindi sila dapat nagiging magulang.
1.12 "She would tell me to just focus on my studies." - I'm sorry 1.12 but I don't see anything wrong with this.
"Sabi niya too late na raw para sa edad ko ang mag aral nun." - If you're gonna use your money to buy a guitar then your mom's negativity has no weight.
"My parents forced me to study courses that I never wanted in the first place".- Who funded your studies? You or your parents? If you didn't like the course that you finished, and you don't want to use it as well, your parents' effort of sending you to school was useless and they can't blame you for that. Well, you can always go back to school anyway to get the course that you wanted, it's just that you have to fund it yourself and it's expensive.
Like you've said, you are pro-choice, so you to put funds on you choice.
7:42 am. I just bought the guitar using my own money. Nung bata pa ako and teenager never ako natuto mag play ng guitar kasi never ako binilhan ng parents ko. Mahal ang gitara. Nabili ko na ang gitara ngayong may work na ako. It contradicts my mom's statement na dapat raw nung highschool or college student ako nag aral mag gitara. I wanted to pursue Music, but my parents forced me to study Communication Arts, kasi wala raw pera sa Music. Sana inintindi mo or sana you read between the lines. Ka pagod mag explain. Hinimay himay mo pa ang words sa comments ko, you took certain phrases para lang kontrahin ang ng mga sinabi ko. What I mean by pro choice ay yung Pro ako sa @b0rti0n kasi I don't want to live most of the time. Wish ko sana Ragdoll cat na lang ako o kaya halaman.
742 I wish you can show more empathy in your answers. I am not OP but i totally relate to her. Its not easy to belong in a family na gnun and be treated like that. Not all of us are lucky to grow and live "normally".
To OP: take 1 day at a time, and cliche as it may sound, be kind to yourself... yung love and support na d ntn nkuha s iba, lets give it GENEROUSLY to ourselves... alam ko mhirap baguhin ung nakalakihan nating environment but we can try... i am sending you hugs, understanding and support, you are needed in this world. You are loved. And you are worthy. <3
10:53 naiyak ako sa mga sinabi mo. Parang nakikipag-usap ka lang ng natural at isa ako sa kinakausap mo. Ang sarap mo sigurong maging magulang, kapatid, o kaibigan. Sana maka-meet ako ng mga taong katulad mo na hindi judgemental at nakakaintindi ng pinagdadaanan ng iba. Thank you. God bless.
10:04 mag-isip ka nga kung saan sya ininterview at kung sino nag-interview sa kanya? Sagutin mo in straight english ha na minimum of five sensible sentences at dapat perfect ang grammar. Gets mo?
My bf grew up in a family na puro murahan at sigawan, for him that's normal. Ngayon nya lang nalaman sakin na that's not how parents should act at ngayon nya lang narealize na kaya pala hirap syang makatulog nung bata pa kasi puro sigawan at sakitan yung parents nya. Now they are separated pero naiipit pa din sya kakabangayan being an only child. As someone who grew up in a loving yet unexpressive family, I vow to create a loving, calm, and expressive home for us and the kids. Yung home na masarap uwian, yung home na panatag ka.
i grew up in a family like that. hanggang ngayon, i didnt realize na laki ng effect ng away ng parents ko sakin til now lang na malaki na ako. from time to time naiiyak nalang ako na ang lungkot pala ng life ko nung bata ako na rinig lagi ng lahat ang away ng parents mo like halos magpatayan na sila. yung epekto sakin is kapag may problem ako ni hindi ko masabi sa kanila kasi i feel like i dont have a home. wala akong stability. wala akong maasahan sa kanila. recently nag aaway na naman ang parents ko and i had the courange to ask them na wag niyo na kong dinadamay sa away niyo pero ang sagot lang ng nanay ko sakin is para san pa at naging anak kita. eh my entire life wala akong ginawa kundi panuorin silang mag away. i had to pretend i didnt notice it nung bata ako by watching tv lang. and when naiiyak ako kapag nag aaway sila papagalitan pa ako na nagpapaawa daw ako sa mga tita ko. bata palang daw ako dramatista na ako. i learned how to cry sa ilalim ng unan ko. nung hs ako i started to have friends and when i visit their family ang saya saya nila. i promise myself na once nagkafamily ako hindi ko hahayaan ang anak ko na magtiis na wag magsabi ng totoong nararamdaman niya. and i swear na hindi ko ipapakita ang disagreements namin sa kanya ng asawa ko. mabuti nalang ang parents ng boyfriend is a healthy one.
Bakit pa kasi sya binawi kung ganyan din trato sa kanya pala? Bakit si My Macky naman mukhang mabuting tao based on how he takes care of Shine and her girls. Hays have so many questions talaga on her motives
I know someone who adopted a child tapos ngayon, tuwing bibili ng mga kailangan yung anak (notebooks, bondpapers, food, etc.) sasabihan na magastos yung anak tapos di babayadan yung anak sa mga binili na kailangan. Pero sya may pera para sa luho. She loves the child more than her life pero sana di na lang nya inadopt kung pagdadamutan nya yung bata sa needs.
Naiyak ako kasi I experienced the same. Aloof din ako sa tao, defensive kumbaga na parang laging may aaway sakin, kaya unahan ko na kayo. Akala ko rin normal lang yun. Nakita ko lang na mali when I met families of friends na “normal”- calm, loving, affectionate and positive words ang environment
Maganda naman message nya. Mahirap lang intindihin and ingles nya.
Basicallly her mother tried to abort her and the mother would remind her this everyday. That caused a lot of trauma in her to feel unwanted by her own family. She hopes to be the opposite of her mother to her little girl.
Kinimkim nya yan ng ilang dekada unawain nyo kahit sino mattrauma kung ganyang nga salita bibitiwan ng sarili mong ina.. let it go cristine ur healing na.. wish u well
idk but i find some parts of it na parang jinajustify nya ang pagkamaldita nya
ReplyDeleteI agree. Nega kasi dating nya since simula sya sa showbiz till today. Ang ? ko nakapagaral ba si Christine
DeleteHirap na hirap sya magconstruct ng sentences.
Ang haba ng interview ksi hirap sya magsalita ng straight english
DeleteHer reasoning and narration of how 'horrible' her childhood was sounded shallow to me maybe because she was having a hard time expressing herself fully in english? I also thought she fought with her mom a lot, she must have been rebellious and resented her mom for giving her away and then taking her back. And maybe out of frustration her mom told her that she was never wanted from the start.
DeleteOpinion ko lang na dapat di na nirereveal mga private na information na katulad niyan kasi kasiraan din ng pamilya nila yan.
ReplyDeletePavictim kasi. Bakit si Ara hindi naman naging salbahi
Deletekelangan nya mailabas
DeleteIt is her way to heal. Huwag mong basahin if you are not interested
Delete12:49 agree. It is her way to heal. Maedio nakaka-relate ako. Kailangan mo talaga mailabas o may mapagsabihan para lumuwag ang bigat sa dibdib na kinimkim ng mahabang panahon. Intindihin nyo na lang ang mga taong may pinagdaanang ganyan.
DeleteOpinions like this are the reason why people think they don't have a voice.
DeleteGrabe mga artista me mga hinahanda talagang mga pasabog pagnakapasok sila ng hollywood!
ReplyDeleteNagrereserba talaga sila para sa hollywood nila
DeleteAt the expense of her family, wow! Now that is a legit famewhore!
Delete12:37 los angeles lang location, hollywood agad?
DeleteObyus naman na pinsan ng friend ni AA ung interviewer kaya sya ananjan and besides di nmn kilala ung show
DeleteLol 😂 ni wala ngang listeners yung “show” daw apart from this interview
DeleteWow. A sob story.
ReplyDeleteSame ba sila ng mom ni Ara Mina?
ReplyDeleteYes
DeleteAsus sabihin mo gusto mo lang ijustify kasamaan ng ugali mo. Nalaos ka na kasi
ReplyDeleteOo nga! Masama pa rin ugali hanggang ngayon. Di na dapat sinasapubliko ganyang bagay.
DeletePangit din ba childhood mo 12:40? Sama din kasi ugali mo eh
DeleteAwww mukhang panget din childhood mo kaya gayanh kagaspang ugali mo.
DeleteMabait si Cristine sa personal. What you see is what you get sya. Mabait pa sa ibang celebritied na puro kaplastikan lang ang alam.
Deletekadalasan ang mga adults na abrasive ang ugali at nananakit ng kapwa ay bunga din ng physical/emotional abuse from
Deletethe parents
1:02, lol!
Deletesad naman, kaya siguro naging ganun ang attitude nya dahil sa naging environment nya
ReplyDeleteThat's a mouthfull. Kaya pala lage sila magkaaway ng mommy nya.
ReplyDeleteIt a low-level podcast getting only a few hundred views. Gawa lang siya sa US but nothing to be proud of.
ReplyDeleteThe host is not as engaging. Okay sana yung tell all concept. I like Cristine’s honesty. She’s always known to be frank naman.
Delete1:11 agree. host seems to speak about herself more than listening to Cristine
Delete@8:35 same thoughts here. Kaya hindi ko na tinapos. Mas marami pang kwento si Host. And Cristine was the listener.
DeleteBoring at self promo masyado c host
DeleteNever liked Christine’s personal drama, but bet ko yung hair nya
ReplyDeleteTrue! Bet na bet ko din hair nya! 💁🏼♀️
DeleteOo nga. Ganda. Bagay sa kanya. Nainspire ako hehe.
DeleteKaya pala ang nega ng dating nya dati. Parang laging galit, may pinaglalaban.
ReplyDelete12:50 ganyan ang mga taong may pinagdaanan katulad ng kay Cristine. Parang laging palaban dahil sa pakiramdam na nag-iisa ka at ikaw lang ang tanging magtatanggol sa sarili mo. It takes time to heal, indeed.
DeleteWhy are you guys so quick to invalidate somebody’s trauma
ReplyDeleteYes napansin ko din sa kanila baks
DeleteKultura kasi ng Pinoy na utang na loob, kahit gaano katoxic "magulang parin" or "pamilya parin" and any claim of abuse is seen as "paninira."
DeleteAng sakit sa ulo pakinggan magsalita ni CR.
ReplyDeleteNahilo din ako baks , ang haba diko na tinapos, fast forward is the key
DeleteKahit 2x ko na baks, sabaw talaga c mamang
Deletebut hindi na dapat inopen pa especially now that everything’s at peace. magugulo na naman family, imagine her mom and siblings’ reaction after watching this
ReplyDeleteThia reaction is so common kaya madaming trauma survivors ang dala ang trauma hanggng sa pag raise nila ng family at hanggng mamatay. Sa ganitong thinking nagsisimula ang generational trauma. No, hindi nya kailangan itago for the sake of delikadesa or whatever. It is her story and as long as factual ung sinasabi nya, there is nothing wrong in telling her truth. Hindi obligasyon ng taong na trauma na pagtakpan ang reputation ng abuser.
DeleteImagine the trauma her own mother inflected to her. Wag na natin i justify ang mali. Madami akong Nanay na kilala, iniwan ang mga anak dahil sa sariling kaligayahan.
Deletegosh grabe full of lies. yoko nalang magspluk. grabe para lang sa hollywood? thats just so low.
ReplyDeleteSpill the tea!!
DeleteSpill! We love an insider Marites!
DeleteHollywood talaga baks? Wal ngang me knows sa host before this Lelz
DeleteI feel for her. I believe totoo lahat yun. Proud din ako of her kasi she’s no longer a mess that she used to be. Nagmature sya and she sounded sincere dito sa podcast. I think mas madedeliver nya ng maayos kung Taglish na lang tapos may subtitle na English. Nahirapan kasi sya iexpress ng maayos yung thoughts nya in full English.
ReplyDeletenaawa ako sa kanya kse nahirapan ako sa English niya. naiiyak
ReplyDeleteako sa grammar. ang gulo! parang need ko bonamine
hahaha ang hirap nga, kaiyak,
DeleteCorny.
Delete2:27 magaling ka pala? So why didn't you post in english?
Delete8:43 Ang point don, di nalang sana nagpa interview in english kung hirap siya magsaLita. Magaling man o hindi sa english si 2:27, irrelevant yun sa english speaking skills ni chrsitine. At di mo rin kelangan mag english ng katiting para ipakita na may konting kaalaman ka sa english. Kakatawa ka. Nag english pa talaga, may pinaglalaban ka?
Delete10:00 ang tanong dun ay, maiintindihan kaya sya ng interviewer kung sagutin nya ito in Tagalog? Kung makapuna kayo sa maling englush grammar akala nyo ang peperpekto nyo eh ni katiting nga na english hindi ka makahirit hahaha
DeleteMataray palaban talaga si cristine nuon, dami nya naka away before at sumikat naman talaga sya, after naging mother sya bumait sya at nag tame, ok na sila ng sister nya super close, naku baka magsalita yung mother nya masisira ulit sila
ReplyDeleteKaya pala mahal na mahal nya ang anak nya. Ayaw nyang danasin ng anak nya ang dinanas nya.
Deletesobra one sided. tanungin nyo ung ibang anak din kung bakit ganyan turing sa kanya.
ReplyDelete2:45 believe it or not may ganyan talagang sitwasyon sa pamilya. Yung sini-single out ang isang anak sa trouble ng pamilya. Yung laging sya ang ginagawang scapegoat samantalang yung iba kahit nagkakamali walang paninisi na naririnig. Ang hirap lumaki sa ganyang environment. Kung hindi ka matibay baka kung ano ang maisip mo.
DeleteAno kaya ginawa nya noon 6 years old sya para ituring syan ganyan, aber? And please, sa pamilya talaga may ginagawang scapegoat, yun tipong sinisisi lahat sakanya while super nice naman trato sa ibang kapatid. It doesn't mean maayos turing sa ibang kapatid eh sinungaling na sya.
Delete12:13 baka nagkaron ng problema ang mudra sa biological father ni Cristine kaya sya ang napagbuntunan ng mudra? Wala akong maisip na mabigat na dahilan para maltratuhin ang isang six-year old child na walang kalaban laban.
Deletedont you see. she is opening her pandora box. which means she is open for healing
ReplyDelete3:06 true. Nasa process of healing na sya.
DeleteI admire her for getting her act together as soon as she became a mom. Kudos girl!
ReplyDeletei never liked her. she strikes me as someone manipulative vindictive and angry. but now i know why. may this be a lesson to all parents. children grown up carrying the values you show them. words are powerful, we should always choose our words wisely and carefully.
ReplyDeleteSame situation kami ni CR wala akong nakikitang mabuti sa kapwa ko dahil hindi ako nakahanap ng pagmamahal at acceptance sa mismong pamilya ko, ngayon na may sarili nakong pamilya doon ako nagheal dahil may loving children at loving partner ko, mismong sa pamilya ko ngayon ako nakahanap ng peace at pagkakaroon ng malawak na pag iintindi.
ReplyDelete7:52 you're lucky you have your own family. Ako, na-trauma ako mag-pamilya. Hindi ko alam kung paano at saan magsisimula. Naging aloof ako sa tao, sa opposite sex. Makihalubilo man madalas napipilitan lang. Parang nawalan ng trust sa kapwa. Akala mo lagi kang ibe-betray dahil nagawa nga sa iyo ng pamilyang pinanggalingan mo how much more ang ibang tao? Affected talaga mentally and emotionally. Ang hirap.
DeleteSame here. Nung nagkaanak ako doon ako onti onti natauhan sa mga nangyari sakin kasi hindi ko kaya gawin sa anak ko kalupitan ng nanay ko sakin. Nung nagkaanak ako dun ko nalaman totoo g meaning ng love. Dun ko rin nalaman na i married my mother. Abusive ang napang-asawa ko na pati pakikipaghiwalay natatakot ako baka ano gawin sakin o sirain hubay ko.
DeleteMga sis, anong timestamp nagstart? Nakatulog ako kagabi kakaskip nahihirapan ako sa salita nya ang bagal na parang redundant.
ReplyDeleteSame here, skip skip lang ginawa ko hanggang end ko nalang, diko na tinapos, ang hirap ng pautal utal
DeleteUmattend ba sya ng kasal ni Ara?
ReplyDeleteYes, sya pa nga nagpagawa ng gown
DeleteDba ng guest ka ksama ng step dad ba nya yun sa MGB, kwento dun pano ka inalagaan at tinuring na totoong anak.
ReplyDeleteUncle nya yun. Yun tlaga ngpalaki sa kanya dahil iniwan siya ng mommy nya. Sabi daw hindi pa ready mg.alaga ng new baby
DeleteAng boring naman magsalita ng host
ReplyDeleteBoring sila pareho
Deletekaramihan ng trauma natin, di natin alam roots from childhood pala, even the smallest trauma is very hard to heal
ReplyDeletemasakit naman talaga kung sa sariling nanay mo yun mang gagaling... hello?!
ReplyDeleteMaritess paki summarize in ten words or less ano ba yung taumatic experience nya thanks
ReplyDeletePinaampon sya nung baby pa sya, nung 6 na sya binawi sya ng nanay nya pero everyday inuulit ulit sa kanya ng nanay nya na unwanted child sya at ibang klase sya kasi nabuhay pa sya kahit ilang beses sya ipalaglag
Delete😭😭😭
DeleteThank ypu for opening up Cristine. Hindi ka nag-iisa. Naiyak ako.
ReplyDeleteThose who are quick to invalidate her must come from loving families. I also had an angry, bitter mother. I was an unplanned pregnancy, the child she didn't want. Imagine being told as a child na sana inabort ka na lang? She treated my siblings well tho. It's the reason why I am reserved and aloof growing up, which people mistook for haughtiness and snobbery. I told myself kung magkaanak ako, I'll never let the child feel what I felt back then.
ReplyDelete9:39 same
DeleteAng napanood ko lang since I skip parts is mula bata she was repeatedly subjected to verbal abuse, her mom telling her that she is an unwanted child and that her mom tried to ab*rt her pa and even gave her away when she was a kid. From 6 years old, she stayed with her mom and other siblings, even her siblings alienated her and treated her poorly.
ReplyDeleteMaliban sa abuses na eto baka meron pa pero di ko na pinanood lahat. Matindi ang verbal abuse - it can wreck your soul talaga.
Sana ngayon Nanay na din siya, total opposite ang maging charcter niya from sa nakagisnan niya growing up.
Well that's just awful. Bakit kaya may ganyang tao? She was an innocent child.
DeleteSana lang totoo yan. Para at least maunawaan kahit papano yung ugaling maldita mo sa pinoy showbiz. Kung para lang sa Hollywood dream juskolord ewan ko sa yo AA.
ReplyDeleteLegit yung pinagdaanan ni Christine. Words hurt more than physical pain. Daladala yan hanggang pagtanda kung walang inner healing. Iba-iba tayo ng kinalakihan. May loving environment meron ding toxic. Let's not invalidate her experience just because we seem to be strong.
ReplyDeleteDi ko pinanood ang video dahil mahaba. Share ko lang. Complete family kami, may kaya, some would even say "mayaman" kami. Pero my mother is hard to live with. Back when I was still studying, we were never close. I never told her about my crushes because that would upset her. She would tell me to just focus on my studies. So I finished my studies naman. Lagi siyang negative pag tuwing may kinukwento ako. Lately dahil nga pandemic until now, naikwento ko na bibili ako ng gitara. Sabi niya too late na raw para sa edad ko ang mag aral nun. Samantalang I have a friend, let's just say parehas kami ng edad, she learned how to play the guitar recently lang. My parents forced me to study courses that I never wanted in the first place. Sabi gayahin ko daw yung contemporaries ko. What she really meant by "contemporaries" ay yung kaklase kong lawyer na HINDI KO NAMAN CLOSE. Typical Asian parents. I'd rather flip burgers than be a lawyer. 🙄 Actually hindi lang mother ko eh, my whole family gaslights me. Kaya nga sobrang pro choice ako sa totoo lang. I wish I was never born. I know other people have it worse but hurtful words will stay with me until I die.
ReplyDeleteI’m glad you were born. May halaga ka. Toxic din ang mom ko. Hindi ko naman winish na never born ako. Ang wish ko magkaron ng emancipation dito sa pilipinas para may mangyari man sakin hindi mapunta sa kanya mga pinundar ko. Nakakaempower din kasi iwan officially or parang ididivorce ang masamang magulang. Madaming masamang magulang that they do unimaginable things to their kids. Kaya hindi sila dapat nagiging magulang.
Delete10.36. Last Will and Testament is your friend.
Delete1.12 "She would tell me to just focus on my studies." - I'm sorry 1.12 but I don't see anything wrong with this.
Delete"Sabi niya too late na raw para sa edad ko ang mag aral nun." - If you're gonna use your money to buy a guitar then your mom's negativity has no weight.
"My parents forced me to study courses that I never wanted in the first place".- Who funded your studies? You or your parents? If you didn't like the course that you finished, and you don't want to use it as well, your parents' effort of sending you to school was useless and they can't blame you for that. Well, you can always go back to school anyway to get the course that you wanted, it's just that you have to fund it yourself and it's expensive.
Like you've said, you are pro-choice, so you to put funds on you choice.
7:42 am. I just bought the guitar using my own money. Nung bata pa ako and teenager never ako natuto mag play ng guitar kasi never ako binilhan ng parents ko. Mahal ang gitara. Nabili ko na ang gitara ngayong may work na ako. It contradicts my mom's statement na dapat raw nung highschool or college student ako nag aral mag gitara. I wanted to pursue Music, but my parents forced me to study Communication Arts, kasi wala raw pera sa Music. Sana inintindi mo or sana you read between the lines. Ka pagod mag explain. Hinimay himay mo pa ang words sa comments ko, you took certain phrases para lang kontrahin ang ng mga sinabi ko. What I mean by pro choice ay yung Pro ako sa @b0rti0n kasi I don't want to live most of the time. Wish ko sana Ragdoll cat na lang ako o kaya halaman.
Delete742 I wish you can show more empathy in your answers. I am not OP but i totally relate to her. Its not easy to belong in a family na gnun and be treated like that. Not all of us are lucky to grow and live "normally".
DeleteTo OP: take 1 day at a time, and cliche as it may sound, be kind to yourself... yung love and support na d ntn nkuha s iba, lets give it GENEROUSLY to ourselves... alam ko mhirap baguhin ung nakalakihan nating environment but we can try... i am sending you hugs, understanding and support, you are needed in this world. You are loved. And you are worthy. <3
10:53 naiyak ako sa mga sinabi mo. Parang nakikipag-usap ka lang ng natural at isa ako sa kinakausap mo. Ang sarap mo sigurong maging magulang, kapatid, o kaibigan. Sana maka-meet ako ng mga taong katulad mo na hindi judgemental at nakakaintindi ng pinagdadaanan ng iba. Thank you. God bless.
DeleteAnong time stamp mga sis? Ang bagal nya magsalita at paulit ulit nakatulog na ako kakanuod.
ReplyDeleteDi ko tinapos. Nahirapan ako makinig kay Christine, parang di marunong mag English lol
ReplyDelete2:19 kanina ka pa e. Ikaw rin naman hindi marunong mag-english dahil Tagalog ang hanash mo.
Delete8:51 Yun nga ang point eh, kung di marunong mag tagalog nalang. Gets mo na?
Delete10:04 mag-isip ka nga kung saan sya ininterview at kung sino nag-interview sa kanya? Sagutin mo in straight english ha na minimum of five sensible sentences at dapat perfect ang grammar. Gets mo?
Delete10.04 The interviewer can't speak Tagalog, so how could she do that? You are nonsense. Get out! - not 8.51
Delete10:04 & 2:19 mas malala pa siguro ang childhood nyo kaysa kay Cristine.
DeleteMy bf grew up in a family na puro murahan at sigawan, for him that's normal. Ngayon nya lang nalaman sakin na that's not how parents should act at ngayon nya lang narealize na kaya pala hirap syang makatulog nung bata pa kasi puro sigawan at sakitan yung parents nya. Now they are separated pero naiipit pa din sya kakabangayan being an only child. As someone who grew up in a loving yet unexpressive family, I vow to create a loving, calm, and expressive home for us and the kids. Yung home na masarap uwian, yung home na panatag ka.
ReplyDeletei grew up in a family like that. hanggang ngayon, i didnt realize na laki ng effect ng away ng parents ko sakin til now lang na malaki na ako. from time to time naiiyak nalang ako na ang lungkot pala ng life ko nung bata ako na rinig lagi ng lahat ang away ng parents mo like halos magpatayan na sila. yung epekto sakin is kapag may problem ako ni hindi ko masabi sa kanila kasi i feel like i dont have a home. wala akong stability. wala akong maasahan sa kanila. recently nag aaway na naman ang parents ko and i had the courange to ask them na wag niyo na kong dinadamay sa away niyo pero ang sagot lang ng nanay ko sakin is para san pa at naging anak kita. eh my entire life wala akong ginawa kundi panuorin silang mag away. i had to pretend i didnt notice it nung bata ako by watching tv lang. and when naiiyak ako kapag nag aaway sila papagalitan pa ako na nagpapaawa daw ako sa mga tita ko. bata palang daw ako dramatista na ako. i learned how to cry sa ilalim ng unan ko. nung hs ako i started to have friends and when i visit their family ang saya saya nila. i promise myself na once nagkafamily ako hindi ko hahayaan ang anak ko na magtiis na wag magsabi ng totoong nararamdaman niya. and i swear na hindi ko ipapakita ang disagreements namin sa kanya ng asawa ko. mabuti nalang ang parents ng boyfriend is a healthy one.
DeleteBakit pa kasi sya binawi kung ganyan din trato sa kanya pala? Bakit si My Macky naman mukhang mabuting tao based on how he takes care of Shine and her girls. Hays have so many questions talaga on her motives
ReplyDeleteDi po magkapatid si Macky at Cristine. Si Ara at Macky lng ang mag kapatid sa ama.
DeleteMacky is not Cristine’s brother but kapatid sa ama ni Ara Mina.
DeleteMacky and Ara are half siblings sa father. Ara and Cristine are half siblings sa mother
DeleteIba ang parents ni my macky. Si ara kapatid si cristine sa mommy. Si my macky kapatid ni ara sa daddy.
DeleteI know someone who adopted a child tapos ngayon, tuwing bibili ng mga kailangan yung anak (notebooks, bondpapers, food, etc.) sasabihan na magastos yung anak tapos di babayadan yung anak sa mga binili na kailangan. Pero sya may pera para sa luho. She loves the child more than her life pero sana di na lang nya inadopt kung pagdadamutan nya yung bata sa needs.
ReplyDeleteStep father and biological mother of Ara Mina are Christine's adoptive parents. Iba Ang real mom nya.
ReplyDelete8:32pm no, same mother sila ni ara.
DeleteNaiyak ako kasi I experienced the same. Aloof din ako sa tao, defensive kumbaga na parang laging may aaway sakin, kaya unahan ko na kayo. Akala ko rin normal lang yun. Nakita ko lang na mali when I met families of friends na “normal”- calm, loving, affectionate and positive words ang environment
ReplyDeleteHindi nya ba father yung Romeo? Bakit sa kanya lang galit ang nanay?
ReplyDeleteI can see she is healing. This is not mere paninira at clout noh. Cristine is not a mess like she used to
ReplyDeleteKinasuhan na siya ni Ara dati Diba? Tapos nag sorry siya bigla.
ReplyDeletePag hindi masabi in English idaan na lang sa I’m like at You know
ReplyDelete12:14 dun ka lang talaga nag-focus, instead na sa kwento ng buhay nya na may matututunan ka?
Delete2:13 gusto ko panoorin ng buo Cristine pero puros you know at I’m like.
Delete2:13 Sorry, gusto ko man magfocus sa life story nya, nakaka cringe naman pakinggan yung Regina George channeling nya.
DeleteMaganda naman message nya. Mahirap lang intindihin and ingles nya.
ReplyDeleteBasicallly her mother tried to abort her and the mother would remind her this everyday. That caused a lot of trauma in her to feel unwanted by her own family. She hopes to be the opposite of her mother to her little girl.
The hair is ewww. Yuck.
ReplyDeleteCheap publicity stunt. Get a grip of yourself, Cristine!
ReplyDeleteKinimkim nya yan ng ilang dekada unawain nyo kahit sino mattrauma kung ganyang nga salita bibitiwan ng sarili mong ina.. let it go cristine ur healing na.. wish u well
ReplyDelete7:45 hindi na bale sana kung ibang tao, pero pag nanay mo...ang sakit sakit
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