The issue in this age of time is the numbers due to shift in the people's mindset. Sexual revolution, drugs and alcohol. Tama si Tulfo, ang tawag don, gassing the fire.
I have to respectfully disagree. I think there would have been more rape cases in the past, as women didn't have a voice and couldn't report it. For instance, even saying the mere word 'rape' was a major taboo. Not to mention, the only 'purpose' of women in the past (especially noong panahon ni "Maria Clara") was to cook, clean, and simply serve the family.
Thankfully, today, women now have a voice. Hence, why so many victims of sexual abuse are speaking up. At the end of the day, millions of women are being abused in the world. We shouldn't be blaming them — no matter what they're wearing.
Instead, we should be teaching men to be more respectful of how they view women. Not as objects for their sexual pleasure, but as human beings who have value regardless of their outfits.
1232 no, walang point yan, why blame the girls? so damitan ko nang sexy ung poste, mamanyakin na nang mga rapist? We should be able to wear clothes na gusto natin!
if that's what you believe kindly explain bakit me mga bata and animals (ex:baka) na nararape? Does it mean na "sexy" mga suot nila? Rape is rape, it's a criminal act na me kaparusahan. Everyone can wear clothes they want at ang maniac ay maniac no other reason so please stop victim blaming.
Yung ni rape ni Mayor Sanchez hindi naman po yun nagdamit nang sexy. Yung ni rape ni Jalosjos hindi din po un nagoa sexy. Yung kapitbahay namin na ni rape nang Tatay nya hindi naman po un sexy magdamit - iba po religion nila kaya mahaba na palda ang damit nya. So ano po excuse nila?
@12:32AM anu po ang alam mo sa number of cases nung panahon ni Maria Clara? if babae k man at manamit k at balot n balot wala kng paki alam sa pananamit ng ibang tao. Kapag sinabi ng babae na NO e di walang consent. No means No! wearing clothes is also a part of expressing yourself at kng san k kumportable sympre bkit mo iibahin un because of others? na kasalanan mo pa pag may nangyari sayo? grabe ka ate o kuya nakakahiya ka
1:08 Ano bang mahirap intindihin? Wala naman talaga sa suot yan ng babae, kung balak mang rape, mang rerape yan. The point is, maling mang rape, pero di mo sila macocontrol. Instead, protect yourself. Don’t put yourself in a compromising position and don’t wear scantily. Wag mo mong bigyan ng libreng live show ang mga manyak. Gets?
12:32,spare me.sexy ba mag damit ang baby? 5 years old? Madre? Stufent na naka uniform? Maski hubo't hubad pa maglakad sa kalye ang babae, walang justification para i-rape sya. Stop excusing rapists, stop blaming women. It's DISGUSTING.
Dear 1212. Pwede ding stop flaunting your body parts. What's the point? Gusto nyo lang, tawag pansin, you feel beautiful for the world to see pero don't be manyakis kahit revealing ang suot ko kasi bad yan. We are not excusing rapist jusko. You are how you dress. Gets mo
You are missing his point. Rapists, sex maniac or addict whatever you call those; has a mindset we won't be able to comprehend if we're not one of them. So instead of giving them a window of opportunity, why not take extra precaution and not show too much of your privates. They are called private parts for a reason. And don't be too smarty on me, thats you will wear skirts on a pool/beach, that is a different story. Reminding women to be careful is not victim blaming, it's actually a way of avoiding being a "victim".
You are right 12:54 pero how to achieve that? Ang daling sabihin pero kaya ba gawin? Can you control everyone’s mind? No? Then maybe you can start with yourself na lang and dress appropriately. Napakahirap bang wag magbilad ng katawan?
2:21. Ang daming lalaki sa kalsada na naka topless. Na rape ba sila because they were were wearing little clothes on? The answer is no. So why are women being asked na wag manamit ng maigsi o mababang neckline? To think na compare to these men, mas madami pa ang telang gamit ng mga babae. I wholehearted agree with dressing appropriately, but rape has nothing to do with the clothes you wear. We teach our children to respect each individual and not to take anything that do not belong to them including body and dignity of another person.
221 excuse me so victim pa ngayon may kasalanan at hindi hindi ang rapist. itong nga ganitong pag iisip ang dahilan kung bakit hindi tayo nag momove forward. ang rapist ay rapist at syang managot. wag ipasa sa biktima dyeske.
How ignorant can you be 2:21???? Why start with myself? Bakit papakelaman mo ano suot ko eh hindi naman yun ilegal?? WHAT IS APPROPRIATE to me does not have anything to do with you or any rapist out there! TEACH PEOPLE NOT TO RAPE. PERIOD. Control control pinagsasabi mo eh kriminalidad ang rape?? Yan ang dapat sugpuin, dyan dapat magfocus hindi yung victim blaming kayo dyan!!
2:21 that's exactly the point. The way other people think is beyond our control, so bakit kami ang mag-aadjust sa urges ng ibang tao? How about you mind your own business and control your urges? Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
Dios mio 2:21 just your own term na "mabilad" ng katawan, ibahim mo na yan. Change is possible.
12:33- mag research ka at makikita mo na mas maraming an rape na mga tao na suot yang "tamamng pagdadamit" na sinasabi mo. Atusin mo na yang pagiisip mo, kakampihan mo pa ata rapist eh.
12:54 Paano mo makokontrol ang dapat wag maging maniac eh nature ng lalaki ang mahilig sa babae? Paano mga may sakit sa pag iisip paano tuturuan na wag maging maniac?
2:21 Mga papansin at kulang sa pansin lang ang mahilig mag bilad ng katawan baka hipon kaya yan lang pang bato nila kaya di maka unawa sa point na dapat mag ingat sa pananamit
If you’re all that naive to think that we can teach all these perverts to respect us then maybe u should also remove all the locks in your house. Also encourage your kids to engage with strangers while you’re at it.
So okay lang sayo na naka p**p** shorts ang anak mo na lalabas? Yes true, madami na manyakis even before kahit balot ang katawan. Pero ung nagdamit ka pa ng labas s*s* at pwe* lalo mo lang pinadami ang manyak at possibility na marape.
Wth. U actually defended the idea that wearing revealing clothes showing their privates is appropriate. U have to remember that ordinary men fantasize women who wear almost nothing at all. It's a reality and that's a real nature of man we cannot change. Unless u want to get fantasized. Male kids at an early age started seeing revealing clothes of women and that's where fantasy started that lead to being a rapist if not guided.
I don't know how you can teach people not to rape. May sayad ang mga iyan - pwedeng lulon sa masamang bisyo, pwedeng may mental illness. The best thing to do is to protect yourself. Pepper spray, learn self defense, etc.
You are right, you can't people not to rape... BUT we could all teach young boys and men respect. Learning so begins at home, all young people should be taught this. You can be addicted to drugs and not be a rapist. You can be mentally ill and not rape too. Don't make excuses for the rapists.
Isinisingit mo yung pag mamartsa mo nung 80's na wala namang relasyon sa issue.
May PUNTO si BITAG sa sinasabi niya. Kailangan mag ingat ang mga babae kahit anong klaseng damit pa ang suotin nila. (TAKE NOTE HA, KAHIT ANONG KLASENG DAMIT PA ANG SUOTIN).
Kase nga ang pwede mo lang kontrolin eh yung sarili mo. Hindi ang mga utak ng rapist. Yan ang realidad ng buhay kahit saan bansa ka pa pumunta. Kahit nga yung mga naka ABAYA eh may nangyayari.
Isa pang dahilan eh hindi lahat ng oras eh may awtoridad na magbabantay sayo.
kahit anong suot mo, kung may manyak at maganda ka, wala kang laban. hindi yan sa damit, nasa utak yan nang mga bastos. pepper spray talaga at learn how to defend yourself. and please wag mong isisi sa mga babae yan at pananamit.
Eh pano nga ba natin sosolutionan ang rapist?? Pag ba pinatay ng gobyerno masaya na kayo? Kaya lang sisigaw naman tong maingay na to na may human rights violation. Ang point lang ng mga nagsasabi na magbihis kayo ng disente eh dahil baka maiwasan na maging biktima kayo. Mas malakas ang temptation kumbaga! Pero kung gusto nyo ibuyangyang ang katawan nyo at patunayan na hindi sa damit by all means go! And oo nga pala senador tatay nya, baka pwedeng mag isip naman kahit konti kung pano nga ba maalis sa lipunan ang rapist?And Pano pag nirape si feelingera ng minor? Forgive and forget na lng thanks sa batas ng tatay nya.
1:37 Yun na nga eh naka abaya na pero minanyak pa din so what more kung naka labas ang cleavage plunging neckline, naka short shorts at body fit na damit mas malaki ang chances na maattract mo ang mga manyak. Hindi mo makokontrol ang isip ng tao so ikaw na lang tumulong sa sarili mo by being maingat sa pananamit mo at kilos mo.
7:17 Ang point dito, wag niyo isisisi sa biktima! Of course may mga rapist talaga. Pero don't make the victims feel guilty they got raped because of how they dress. Yun ang point dito. Wag niyo bibigyan ang rapist ng "rason" kung bakit nang rape siya. Paano kung gamitin yang rason niyo na dahil nakasuot ng sexy ang victim kaya ni-rape? Kailangan matakot na ngayon ang mga babae na mag suot ng sexy? Yan ang solution niyo? Sa muslim countries nga balot na balot pero may mga na-r-rape pa rin. Stop victim-blaming! Yun ang point!
@1:05, "machismo culture" comes back when you have to move a furniture or fix the car. You can't have it both ways ladies. If you hate machismo culture so much, please, don't try asking men for help. Do it yourself.
tama rin naman si Tulfo. Wag na ijustify na yung mga babae daw pala yung mag-aadjust para di marape dahil katwiran nga nila, kahit naman ano suotin nila,sexy man o hindi, ang rapists andiyan lang. Para sa akin, by the way, Im also a girl. Kung ayaw mong may mambabastos sayo,magsuot ka naman ng disente. If you want to be gain respect then start it with yourself. Hindi naman yan, rape agad, pero binibigyan mo ng malisya ang maga lalaki pag pinapapakitaan mo ng maiiikling shorts.
Meron din nababastos kahit maayos ang damit point is, wala yan sa damit bawal at masama mang bastos. Hindi ang babae mag-aadjust dahil sira ang moral compass mo.
You're also a girl pero pagiisip mo dinadown mo ang mag kapwa mo girl at ine-excuse mo ang mga bastos.
STOP implying that girls who wear shorts, or anything you consider revealing, DO NOT RESPECT themselves. And thus do not deserve to be respected. TOXIC thinking. TOXIC!
5:50 + 1:11 your right to express your opinion is what is to be respected. Your opinion does not need to be respected if it isn't respectable.And yes,dinadown mo ang mga kapwa mo babae sa pagiisip mo na ang mag sexy na suot ay di disente, na wala silang respeto sa sarili nila.
May point naman si Tulfo. Are you that naive to think that we can change all men’s thinking? Oo maganda kung maeducate natin sila to respect women regardless of clothes pero sa perfect world lang yun teh. Protect yourself and dress/act appropriately. And yes kahit gawin mo yan meron pa rin tlagang bastos pero meron din namang iba na mangbabastos lang if given the right motivation/temptation and chance. Dont give them that. Ganun kasimple.
so hindi naman pala talaga sa pagdadamit, may mga tao talagang bastos at mga walang respeto sa sarili nila. 121 sa palagay mo ba pagnakaharap na nila ang Diyos sino kaya ang maoapahiya yong narape o yong rapist?
the question kasi is, why dress up in that manner? bakt kailangan ganon magdamit? para sa sarili? to feel more confident about yourself? so happy ka na half ng boobs mo nakaluwa, yun pwet mo nakalabas? That's what I don't get eh. Na you're not dressing up to please men or seduce them, pero ano yun?
We can't control other people's action, pero we can control ours. Who will protect us kundi tayo din naman. Prang bahay mo lang yan, may kurtina para d kita kaloob-looban.
Omygaaaaaad andami niyong nagmemake ng excuses for offenders! How can this possibly be the case? Sorry sayo natapat ang comment ko but this is for everyone who even at the slightest use provocation as reason for their crime. Men are acting like that because we have theses excuses for them! Why do we always bend ourselves to accommodate men’s weaknesses? Please re-evaluate, ladies. We are not supposed to accept what should be basic and normal.
204 oh eh di yong mga manyak ang pagsabihan nyo at wag ang mga babae. bakit ba yong biktimaang palaging nasisisi? yong rapist walang pinipili yan ma bata o kahit na matanda nirerape kaya sila ang pagsabihan at oagbantaan nyo at wag ang mga biktima nila.
then advise them na magpaconsult sa doctor kung di na nila macontrol pagiging manyak/rapist nila. Yung mga baby at matandang na-rape ba ang issue pa rin is yung damit nila? Rape happens because there are rapist, as simple as that.
Tama 2:04. Sumakay ako ng jeep, may dalawang maduming lalaki na bumitin sa estero. Yung isa, hinawakan ang tuhod ko. Naka uniform ako kaya hindi matatawag na sexy. Nagdilim ang paningin ko at sinipa ko sa binti. Nahulog siya. Bumaba ang kasama para tulungan siya. Humabol silang pareho. Nagdidilim pa rin ang paningin ko sa galit at sumigaw ng magnanakaw ng malakas na malakas at itinuro sila. Sa takot, tumakbo silang papalayo. Like you said, learn to protect yourself. Make some noise, use a weapon, pen, keys, or anything that can hurt them. I kicked his legs because he is not in a secure position. Nakabitin kaya nahulog.
Hindi ba mas tamang mas target na sabihan ng pulis ng mensahe ang mga rapists at manyak? Like, 'sa mga rapists jan wag na kayo tumingin sa mga babae, wag na kayo magbanta at kulong ang abot nyo'. Hindi ung mga babae pagsasabihan nyo para di sila ma rape. Laging mga ordinaryong tao ang kelangan mag adjust sa gobyerno. Paigtingin nyo ang batas at targetin ang mga posibleng manyak hindj ung pati pag suot ng babae kelangan nyo pang sabihin.
Sa tingin mo susunod ang kriminal sa pulis? Eh di sana wala ng naka kulong sa bilibid. Ang dapat umiwas na lang at mag ingat dahil hindi makokontrol nino man ang isip ng tao lalo ang mga kriminal.
12:14 Sa tingin mo kung di sumunod ang kriminal na nakagawa ng krimen sa pulis, may mga nakakulong ba sa bilibid? Edi wala kasi nga di sila sumunod diba. Ang dapat umiwas eh yung mga manyak na nangrerape kasi krimen ang ginagawa nila. Sila ang may pananagutan sa batas. Do not blame the victim.
Anak nya yan he can be epal for all you care.ut just shows narealize nya kung ano reaction ng tatay nya noon na ngayon sya naman may anak na may pinaglalaban but he will support her. Gets?
Lets put it this way... umalis ka ng bahay at nilock mo yung gate compared sa umalis ka ng bahay pero nakabuyangyang yung gate. Sa tingin nyo san jan yung mas lapitin ng magnanakaw? Totoo nga naman na may magnanakaw na aakyat talaga na bakod para makapagnakaw pero meron din naman magnanakaw na gagawin lang sya kasi may nakakita sya ng chance makapagnakaw since bukas yung gate. Ganun lang girls. Hindi nyo kasalanan kung marape kayo pero you could have prevented it from happening. Hindi to victim blaming, its being smart and responsible for your own body.
What if you already do those things, like being smart and responsible? Pero someone harassed or abused you pa din. How can you said that as a girl being smart and responsible could lessen the risk of being rape or harassed. Hindi naman natin alam kung kelan mapapahamak, kahit cautious ka pa, maayos at disente ka manamit kung meron magbabalak di mo naman alam yan. What we need is to change their behaviour and mindset, stop enabling and justifying their actions. Like kaya sila nang rape kasi dahil sa pananamit o kilos.
Easy for you to say those things. Well, kung rapist ang tao kahit ikaw na ang pinaka manang na babae rrereypin ka padin nyan. I knew someone who's been raped, she's very decent pero sad to say na-rape padin sya. Pag rapist talaga ang tao di mo yan mapipigil to do evil things.
I beg to disagree with the comparison you made. If a woman is dressed in a sexy way, it is not an open invitation to be raped. You do not prevent rape by wearing less or more.
This generation is raised to be so selfish. Wala silang pakealam basta maisuot lang nila yung gusto nila kahit uncomfortable na yung iba. Kahit pa gaano katino ang tatay mo o ang kuya mo kapag may rumampa sa harap hila na halos kita na ang singit, may maiisip yan, paano pa kaya kapag mga manyak? Pinagiingat na nga aangal pa. At totoo nmn na yung iba they dress like that dahil nagpapatipo tlg sa lalake, kaya wag sila umangal kapag namiss understood sila
“You could have prevented it”??? Really?? Paano yung mga nare-rape na mentaly challenged? Eh yung mga bata?? At kahit hindi sexy ang suot eh nare-rape pa rin!
Eh kung ganito nalang scenario 2:15, iniwan mong buyangyang yung gate pero hindi ka parin nanakawan KASI DISENTE AT MATINO MGA TAO SA PALIGID MO?? Why put it on the victim?? WHY NOT INSTILL IT TO THE PEOPLE NOT TO DO CRIMINAL ACTS?? WHY ARE WE NOT PRESSURING POLICE TO PROTECT US MORE?? Sabi mo nga, prevention is better than cure, then lecture the would be criminals not the victims!
2:15 making excuses for rapists. you’re a disappointment. walang contributing factors na makakapagjustify ng pangmamanyak. ganto lang yan, be smart and responsible not to commit a crime.
Anong you could have prevented? Ang daming narape na hindi naman nakadamit na sexy. Narape na nakaschool uniform. Ako nasexually harass na naka loose shirt at loose pants. Nagsusuot din ako ng medyo fitted at maikling damit minsan pero hindi naman ako naharass na un ang suot. Naharass ako nung nakaloose na damit ako. It's not about the clothes. It's about the men who would do that regardless
You’re all too naive to think that we can stop people from committing criminal acts and that the police can stop all crimes. I do hope we achieve it in the future though.
Guys please google crime opportunity theory. Yes may criminals na halang talaga ang bituka that will do the crime regardless of situation. Pero meron ding criminals that will only do it pag nakakita lang ng opportunity or maisip nila konti lang yung risk sa situation. These are the ones that you have the power to prevent or minimize.
Wala pa ako anak pero naiistress ako sa thread na to. Yung mga nagsasabi na ayusin mo yung pananamit mo, feeling ko parang motherly advice lang sya. Like how you dont wear jewelries kung makikipagsiksikan ka sa divisoria. Like how you’re not supposed to talk to strangers when you’re young and helpless. Dont give them that opportunity. Protect yourself hija. I envy all these people with so much faith in humanity pero I’ve seen enough to know that u always have to fend for yourself. Dont be stupidly reckless cause u only have 1 life and body.
May point din naman si Kakie kaya dapat ibalik ang death penalty at buwagin yung Juvenile Act na yan para pantay pantay na maparusahan ang kriminals. Pabata ng pabata ang rapists at mga krimanl ngayon and they do it because they know they can get away with it dahil minors sila.
Grandma told me about the Maggie Dela Riva case where three men whose family have the means, gang raped an actress. This is during the Marcos era. The three men were given the death penalty and electrocuted on TV in front of the viewing public. Maybe we need more stricter rules and penalties and make the public aware of the consequences of rape..
Yes kailangan talaga ng kamay na bakal. Kaso the likes of Kiko Pangilinan and her daughter would scream Human Rights Violation naman. So saan lulugar ang Batas?? Wala! Kasi lahat hinahanapan ng butas or ng palusot.
I’m with Frankie on this one. Even if women and even children dress decently, rape still occurs. Therefore it’s not how they dress that’s the problem, but how men act.
Para saken, kung maglalagay ka ng pagkain sa harapan ng gutom natural pag iinteresan yung pagkain. Hindi mo makokontrol ang mga manyakis pero pedeng bawasan natin na pagnasaan tayo.
Para saken naman 3:29 kung maglalagay ka ng pagkain sa harapan ng gutom at alam ng gutom na di naman sa kanya ang pagkain. di pa rin nya kakainin kasi alam nyang labag sa batas ang magnakaw. Hindi mo makokontrol ang manyakis kung ganyan ka mag isip. Instilling conscience and making a sturdy law with good implementation should be done to fix this manyakis way of thinking. I guess you should be included in a seminar and consulation about this. Why blame the victim?
6:53 Ok ka lang? Kahit pa alam ng isang tao na hindi kanya ang pagkain pero kung ilang araw na syang hindi kumakain gagalawin at gagalawin pa din nya ang pagkain na hindi kanya. Ano ba naman pag iisip yan! Eh di sana wala ng kriminal sa mundo kung ganyan lang pala kadali ang solusyon. Eh sige paano mo tuturuan ang may sakit sa pag iisip yung hindi na madadaan pa sa gamot tapos nakakawala sa mental tapos nang rape? Kala mo naman napaka dali nyang naiisip mong solusyon!
A rapist will rape no matter what his victim is wearing. The right advice is for ladies to be safe and not put themselves in a vulnerable situation ie. walking alone at night etc. The dress is irrelevant. There are churches where boys are raped. There are also high rape cases in conservative countries where women are already fully clothed.
Miss Charo Concio-Santos once said, “My father told us to fend for ourselves.” You can never teach rapists or crackpots not to rape. You will have to look out for yourself.
You cannot teach people not to rape. Dear Kakie, hindi ka lumaki sa squatters area na madaming adik kaya di mo alam na hindi na kayang icorrect ang utak nila, so tayong mga babae na ang dapat mag adjust at mag ingat
5:39 True! Itong batang ito masyadong opinionated. Sobrang sheltered na anak naman, walang alam sa totoong realidad ng buhay. Nakaka wala ng bilib batang ito. Masyadong mababaw.
Nakakahiya naman etong si mr tulfo. Pinatulan talaga ang bata. Ok lang sana ang mag oppose kaso hiniya nya ung bata. Ndi porke matanda cya mas tama ung katwiran nya no. Lahat tayo pwede magbigay ng opinion OK. Nakakasuka
it’s just like saying, ok lng mglabas ng iphone habang ngaabang ng jeep. kung masnatch man, hindi kasalanan ng biktima yun. there will always be snatchers out there.
Isang factor din naman talaga ang pananamit ng isang babae para mabastos at ma-rape. Hindi lahat ng lalaki malisyoso o rapists. Pero pano kung matiempuhan ka ng isang adik at sira ulong lalaki dahil sa pananamit mong halos ibuyangyang mo na ang lahat? Lalo dun sa mga babaeng wala namang sariling sasakyan at nagco-commute lang sa mga pampublikong jeep ar bus?
Frankie is a privileged young lady who goes out of their house with a driver and some bodyguards. Now kahit nakabikini pa yan umalis ng bahay hindi siya irerape. Pero pag ginawa yan ng ordinaryong babae magsuot ng hindi kanais nais, that is inviting disaster. Tulfo is right, criminals are just waiting when to pounce. Remember rapists and sex offenders are sick people. Normal men do not look at women who expose their body. But it's the sick men who do.
I'm with the PANGILINANs. When I was still in high school, waiting for my school service and of course in uniform, I felt a kiss in my head. Then, the dirty old man slowly walked away, turned his head back on me and gave me a filthy smile. I was wearing a school uniform, a conservative one because the school is a Catholic run. He didn't even need to see my face. Naka talikod ako from him. So it's not the way we dresses or even behave. It's them. It's never the victim's fault
Agree with you @2:15. Simple as that lets not make it a big deal by being opinionated. How can you teach someone NOT to rape when none even taught them how to. Change starts with yourself.
May nadiskubre na bang rapist psyvhic scanner na malalaman mo kung rapist yang kausap mo? Wala infact karamihan ng rape incident ay kakilala, katropa, o kapitbahay, pag nahaluan ng alcohol o shabu saka lumalabas pagkamanyak. So kailangan talaga pagiingat, wala naman tayong powers tulad kay Quiboloy na STAHP RAPIST
Maglakad ka ng hindi nakazipper yung bag at nakabuyangyang ang wallet. Iwan mo sa table mo yung iphone 11 mo kapag pupunta ka sa counter ng starbucks. Wag ka maglock ng pinto sa gabi. Kasi kahit yung nag-iingat nananakawan din diba. Turuan silang wag magnakaw. Wag sisihin yung biktima ng pagnanakaw
Paano ba mag turo sa magnanakaw na wag mag nakaw? Pashare naman paano at ano sasabihin para sumunod same din sa mga manyak, ano ang tamang way pati words na sasabihin sa kanila para di na mang rape. Make sure lang na yung sasabihin mo effecive at mapapasunod mo sila ha.
Both ways yan. Alam natin may mga rapist and we should be responsible to ourselves the best we can. We can and hopefully avoid it by dressing uninviting clothes and the society must teach boys/ men to respect women.
A lot of men go out of their houses without a shirt on, sometimes even walking around in their boxers, but women don’t normally ogle or take that as an “excuse” to rape. Women shouldn’t have to worry about their safety just because of what they wear. Men should know how to act appropriately and not make excuses every time they misbehave.
HINDI KO MAINTINDIHAN KUNG BAKIT HIRAP NA HIRAP SILA INTINDIHIN AT TANGGAPIN! Ang simple simple lang naman, wag kang manamit ng daring or mahalay kung ayaw mong pagnasaan ka ng mga makakakitang lalaki! Manamit ng naayon sa lugar na ppuntahan, kung nasa beach or resort ka, GO! Mag two piece ka! Pero kung nasa ibang lugar, wag naman sana ung masyadong mahalay or sexy duh?! Tapos rerekla reklamo na namanyak, eh kung ikaw mismo nagpapakita ng katawan mo sa pananamit mo.
11:16 Wag ka na mag taka. Ayaw lang nilang magpatalo kaya pinag pipilitan nila ang katwiran nila. Paano mo nga ba tuturuan ang pervert at rapist na wag maging manyak eh yung iba dyan may sakit na sa isip
Puro pag point out sa pananamit? Eh kamusta naman yung mga infant na narape, yung estudayanteng nakauniform (inappropriate pa rin?). Wag na tayong magdeny, wala sa pananamit ang pangrerape. Nasa rapist yan. Kahit ano pang isuot mo. So condemn the rapist, not the victims. Kaya may rapist dahil sa mga backward thinking na yan.
Totoo sinabi ni Tulfo hindi matuturuan ang mga manyakis kaya iwas na lang at mag ingat. Kung baga sa magnanakaw pag may oportunidad sila makapasok sa bahay mo at magnakaw gagawin nila yan so lock mo na lang bahay mo at wag mo ibuyangyang sa mga tao na marami kang pera para di ka mainit sa mata nila. Ganun din sa mga manyak at rapist. Mga kriminal ang mga yan iba sila mag isip.
We should teach young boys to respect women. To view them as equals and not sexual objects. If we do this now, we can help create a generation that can combat rape culture. Yung mga thinking na ka tulad ng kay Tulfo ay produkto ng machismo culture. Kung noon pa sana ay tinuturing ang babae bilang tao at dapat na nirerespeto hindi sila tatratuhin na mahina at “parausan” ng mga lalaki.
@12:10 I find this funny. Parang napaka dali lang sayo na ikundisyon ang utak ng isang tao. Good luck syo! Labas ka kasi sa lungga mo para makita mo na maraming kriminal sa mundi na hindi mo madadaan sa pangaral. May nature ang bawat tao. Hindi ganyan kadali yang sinasabi mo gumising ka sa katotohanan.
Grabe ang daming rapist and manyak apologists dito. Nakakahiya kayong lahat, especially kung babae kayo. Napakalaking parte kayo ng gumawa at nagpapairal ng kultura ng victim blaming and shaming.
Mas nakakahiya yung nagpapakita ng boobs and super duper short shorts. What is the reason ba talaga why some girls women put on such a display? Anong reason??? Paki sagot miss 12:21
3:23 Bakit kapag mga lalaki un lumalabas ng bahay na walang shirt or naglalakad na naka-boxer-type UNDERWEAR (minsan pa nga boxer briefs) hindi nila kinu-question? Putting on a display ba kamo?! Pakisagot rin 3:23.
Ako lang ba, pero parang di naman victim blaming si tulfo, more on nagpapaalala lang since aminin man natin sa hindi, in a way nakakaseduce yung sobrang revealing clothes, nothing wrong nman kung mag iingat at ilalagay sa lugar ang pananamit.
Tandaan: ultimo si Maria Clarang naka-saya, minolestya. Yung mga lola, mga bata na ginahasa, pa-seksi ba suot nila? Wala sa damit yan, nasa utak na masama yan! Turuan nyo mga lalake na wag mangmanyak! Babae na naman mag-aadjust sa kahalayan ng mga lalake, ganun?
Maiba lang pero STOP THE HUNGER and CORRUPTION para walang nagugutom at tambay sa kanto na high sa droga! Hirap maghanap ng job opportunity lalo na pag di nakapagtapos dala ng kahirapan. Good luck mahal kong Pilipinas
Hindi matanggap ng karamihan ang katotohanan. Komportable na kasi sila sa akala nila ay tama na kaya kung mapagsabihan parang mga batang nagmamaktol. Gusto nilang isisi lahat sa mga rapist, not realizing na mismong sila ang nagiging dahilan at responsable kung bakit sila nalalagay sa alanganin. If you are a woman, protect yourself at all costs by means of dressing appropriately. Never underestimate a situation where you, yourself, are putting yourself in danger because we cannot control everyone's minds. We are not talking about elderlies and babies getting raped. The issue here is about WOMEN dressing inappropriately which oftentimes leads to rape. The police must have a back-up data to support their claim. Now, it is up to you if you will listen to their plea or not. Sometimes, in the end, we, ourselves, are to blame for being too stubborn.
The reason why FILIPINOS agree with Tulfo is because Philippines is a “conservative-kuno” country. Junujustify nila yung rape sa pananamit ng sexy. It’s a way to control people and it’s the same tactics our grandparents used to prevent us from wearing “sexy” clothes. But the real reason behind that is not to prevent rape but to instil the ways of catholicism and conservatism. Yun lang yown. May mas mataas bang cases ng rape sa 1st world countries where wild manamit mga babae? Dont think sooooo...
You didn't more Filipinos do not side with Tulfo on this. The man got burnt by Frankie and the thousands if FILIPINAS who shared their stories in #HijaAko that ut was never about the clothes they were wearing. Teach peiple not to rape. Period
That’s wonderful but why do I sense hostility in your comment? May pa-period ka pa lol. I think millennials mostly ang mulat sa fact na ito. Yung mga grandparents and parents natin, sadly, are still siding with Tulfo. Lalo na sa probinsiya namin. Na-rape na nga yung underage na babae, sinisi pa kasi naka-short.
Just saying na madami pang makikitid utak at hindi pa educated sa real cause ng rape, which is the rapists.
Mr. Tulfo was right. His comments were made clear. Women today dresses like they dont need to hide things to behide. They are inviting to befantasized in the thoughts of men. Maternal shoots are well are showing of their whole body i hide lang konti ang dapat i hide. The percentage to be caught by mens eyes are high if you are not dressing well. Feed ka sa kanila pero ginusto mo rin dahil na aapreciate ka. Do not be a temptation kasi. Hindi mo ma kokontrol ang may mga masamang gawain. Kaya dont be a food to them dahil aatake yan sila kapag ka nakakita ng timing. Tama naman si Tulfo marami na yan na tulungan sa case niya on his program. Huwag magalit pag i correct kung tama naman.
Yung totoo, may nagsabi ba na pananamit lng ang sole reason kaya narirape/manyak ang isang babae? Parang yung iba kasi triggered, gusto nila ijustify ung pagsusuot ng revealing clothes. For me, tulfo was just stating facts, kumbaga may incidents tlga ung kriminal nase2duce/naattract sa kung pananamit ng babae, kht di un intention ng babae. Kumbaga warning lang for women, not necessarily victim blaming.
I do not understand why people are reacting with the warning. Wala naman po masama na bigyan kayo ng warning about how to dress. no victim blaming naman ang nangyayari.
Why are we so quick to react, overacting naman na ata. Sa pagkakaalala ko, nun bata ako my parents always remind me to dress appropriately. Wag daw ako lalabas ng maiksi ang damit ko para makaiwas sa mga manyak. I always followed my parents because it was a warning, a reminder to take care of myself. Isip ko nga nun di naman ako kagandahan para magustuhan ng rapist or manyak, but I still followed kasi warning nga. Truth be told, kahit hindi maiksi suot ko, napipituhan pa rin ako but at least pito lang compared dun sa nakakasabay ko na medyo sexy magdamit, di lang pito ang abutin meron pa comment. Its your choice if you want to follow or not. Wala naman siguro masama sa pag iingat.
LABAN!
ReplyDeleteKung totoo na sa damit yan dapat walang rape nuong panahon nina rizal o kaya sa mga may dress code countries.
ReplyDeleteThe issue in this age of time is the numbers due to shift in the people's mindset. Sexual revolution, drugs and alcohol. Tama si Tulfo, ang tawag don, gassing the fire.
DeleteAng "point" dito HUWAG na ibuyangyang ang katawan.
ReplyDeleteTotoo kahit pahanon ni Maria Clara meron ng nare rape pero siguro ang number or case maliit ang bilang kumpara sa NGAYON.
Kahit noong panahon pa ni kopong kopong meron ng mga rapist lalo maraming rapist NGAYON kung ang mga babae "BILAD" ang katawan
I have to respectfully disagree. I think there would have been more rape cases in the past, as women didn't have a voice and couldn't report it. For instance, even saying the mere word 'rape' was a major taboo. Not to mention, the only 'purpose' of women in the past (especially noong panahon ni "Maria Clara") was to cook, clean, and simply serve the family.
DeleteThankfully, today, women now have a voice. Hence, why so many victims of sexual abuse are speaking up. At the end of the day, millions of women are being abused in the world. We shouldn't be blaming them — no matter what they're wearing.
Instead, we should be teaching men to be more respectful of how they view women. Not as objects for their sexual pleasure, but as human beings who have value regardless of their outfits.
1232 no, walang point yan, why blame the girls? so damitan ko nang sexy ung poste, mamanyakin na nang mga rapist? We should be able to wear clothes na gusto natin!
DeleteMas madami rape cases noon. Ngayon nga na puwede na magreklamo nasisi pa mga biktima. What more noon?
Deleteit boils down to respect. kung may respeto sa kapwa hindi kang mangrerape.
Deleteif that's what you believe kindly explain bakit me mga bata and animals (ex:baka) na nararape? Does it mean na "sexy" mga suot nila? Rape is rape, it's a criminal act na me kaparusahan. Everyone can wear clothes they want at ang maniac ay maniac no other reason so please stop victim blaming.
DeleteYung ni rape ni Mayor Sanchez hindi naman po yun nagdamit nang sexy. Yung ni rape ni Jalosjos hindi din po un nagoa sexy. Yung kapitbahay namin na ni rape nang Tatay nya hindi naman po un sexy magdamit - iba po religion nila kaya mahaba na palda ang damit nya. So ano po excuse nila?
Delete@12:32AM anu po ang alam mo sa number of cases nung panahon ni Maria Clara? if babae k man at manamit k at balot n balot wala kng paki alam sa pananamit ng ibang tao. Kapag sinabi ng babae na NO e di walang consent. No means No! wearing clothes is also a part of expressing yourself at kng san k kumportable sympre bkit mo iibahin un because of others? na kasalanan mo pa pag may nangyari sayo? grabe ka ate o kuya nakakahiya ka
Delete1:08 Ano bang mahirap intindihin? Wala naman talaga sa suot yan ng babae, kung balak mang rape, mang rerape yan. The point is, maling mang rape, pero di mo sila macocontrol. Instead, protect yourself. Don’t put yourself in a compromising position and don’t wear scantily. Wag mo mong bigyan ng libreng live show ang mga manyak. Gets?
Delete12:32,spare me.sexy ba mag damit ang baby? 5 years old? Madre? Stufent na naka uniform? Maski hubo't hubad pa maglakad sa kalye ang babae, walang justification para i-rape sya. Stop excusing rapists, stop blaming women. It's DISGUSTING.
DeleteDear 1212. Pwede ding stop flaunting your body parts. What's the point? Gusto nyo lang, tawag pansin, you feel beautiful for the world to see pero don't be manyakis kahit revealing ang suot ko kasi bad yan. We are not excusing rapist jusko. You are how you dress. Gets mo
DeleteYou are missing his point. Rapists, sex maniac or addict whatever you call those; has a mindset we won't be able to comprehend if we're not one of them. So instead of giving them a window of opportunity, why not take extra precaution and not show too much of your privates. They are called private parts for a reason. And don't be too smarty on me, thats you will wear skirts on a pool/beach, that is a different story. Reminding women to be careful is not victim blaming, it's actually a way of avoiding being a "victim".
DeleteHindi sa damit lang kundi "TAMANG PAGDA DAMIT"
ReplyDeleteng babae.
12:23 still invalid. Should be: TAMANG PAGIISIP or TAMANG WAG MAGING MANYAK. Periodt
DeleteYou are right 12:54 pero how to achieve that? Ang daling sabihin pero kaya ba gawin? Can you control everyone’s mind? No? Then maybe you can start with yourself na lang and dress appropriately. Napakahirap bang wag magbilad ng katawan?
Delete2:21. Ang daming lalaki sa kalsada na naka topless. Na rape ba sila because they were were wearing little clothes on? The answer is no. So why are women being asked na wag manamit ng maigsi o mababang neckline? To think na compare to these men, mas madami pa ang telang gamit ng mga babae. I wholehearted agree with dressing appropriately, but rape has nothing to do with the clothes you wear. We teach our children to respect each individual and not to take anything that do not belong to them including body and dignity of another person.
Delete221 excuse me so victim pa ngayon may kasalanan at hindi hindi ang rapist. itong nga ganitong pag iisip ang dahilan kung bakit hindi tayo nag momove forward. ang rapist ay rapist at syang managot. wag ipasa sa biktima dyeske.
DeleteHow ignorant can you be 2:21???? Why start with myself? Bakit papakelaman mo ano suot ko eh hindi naman yun ilegal?? WHAT IS APPROPRIATE to me does not have anything to do with you or any rapist out there! TEACH PEOPLE NOT TO RAPE. PERIOD. Control control pinagsasabi mo eh kriminalidad ang rape?? Yan ang dapat sugpuin, dyan dapat magfocus hindi yung victim blaming kayo dyan!!
Delete2:21 that's exactly the point. The way other people think is beyond our control, so bakit kami ang mag-aadjust sa urges ng ibang tao? How about you mind your own business and control your urges? Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
DeleteDios mio 2:21 just your own term na "mabilad" ng katawan, ibahim mo na yan. Change is possible.
Delete12:33- mag research ka at makikita mo na mas maraming an rape na mga tao na suot yang "tamamng pagdadamit" na sinasabi mo. Atusin mo na yang pagiisip mo, kakampihan mo pa ata rapist eh.
12:54 Paano mo makokontrol ang dapat wag maging maniac eh nature ng lalaki ang mahilig sa babae? Paano mga may sakit sa pag iisip paano tuturuan na wag maging maniac?
Delete2:21 Mga papansin at kulang sa pansin lang ang mahilig mag bilad ng katawan baka hipon kaya yan lang pang bato nila kaya di maka unawa sa point na dapat mag ingat sa pananamit
DeleteIf you’re all that naive to think that we can teach all these perverts to respect us then maybe u should also remove all the locks in your house. Also encourage your kids to engage with strangers while you’re at it.
DeleteBravo Kakie!! HijaAko is trending the while day at No. 1 spot now dahil sa pinaglalaban mo. Laban lang sa tama!!
ReplyDeleteSo okay lang sayo na naka p**p** shorts ang anak mo na lalabas? Yes true, madami na manyakis even before kahit balot ang katawan. Pero ung nagdamit ka pa ng labas s*s* at pwe* lalo mo lang pinadami ang manyak at possibility na marape.
Delete7:51 Teach your child not to rape anyone! Periodt! Get the f*** outa here! This is the mindset of a rapist!
DeleteWth. U actually defended the idea that wearing revealing clothes showing their privates is appropriate. U have to remember that ordinary men fantasize women who wear almost nothing at all. It's a reality and that's a real nature of man we cannot change. Unless u want to get fantasized. Male kids at an early age started seeing revealing clothes of women and that's where fantasy started that lead to being a rapist if not guided.
Delete9:58 where did you get all of this? it's your thinking that is wrong.
DeleteI don't know how you can teach people not to rape. May sayad ang mga iyan - pwedeng lulon sa masamang bisyo, pwedeng may mental illness. The best thing to do is to protect yourself. Pepper spray, learn self defense, etc.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, you can't people not to rape... BUT we could all teach young boys and men respect. Learning so begins at home, all young people should be taught this.
DeleteYou can be addicted to drugs and not be a rapist. You can be mentally ill and not rape too. Don't make excuses for the rapists.
Hi Kiko,
ReplyDeleteIsinisingit mo yung pag mamartsa mo nung 80's na wala namang relasyon sa issue.
May PUNTO si BITAG sa sinasabi niya. Kailangan mag ingat ang mga babae kahit anong klaseng damit pa ang suotin nila. (TAKE NOTE HA, KAHIT ANONG KLASENG DAMIT PA ANG SUOTIN).
Kase nga ang pwede mo lang kontrolin eh yung sarili mo. Hindi ang mga utak ng rapist. Yan ang realidad ng buhay kahit saan bansa ka pa pumunta. Kahit nga yung mga naka ABAYA eh may nangyayari.
Isa pang dahilan eh hindi lahat ng oras eh may awtoridad na magbabantay sayo.
kahit anong suot mo, kung may manyak at maganda ka, wala kang laban. hindi yan sa damit, nasa utak yan nang mga bastos. pepper spray talaga at learn how to defend yourself. and please wag mong isisi sa mga babae yan at pananamit.
Delete“Kahit nakaabaya”
DeleteIkaw na nagsabi, kahit nakaabaya pwede marape. So kahit nakabalot ka, pwede ka marape.
Eh pano nga ba natin sosolutionan ang rapist?? Pag ba pinatay ng gobyerno masaya na kayo? Kaya lang sisigaw naman tong maingay na to na may human rights violation. Ang point lang ng mga nagsasabi na magbihis kayo ng disente eh dahil baka maiwasan na maging biktima kayo. Mas malakas ang temptation kumbaga! Pero kung gusto nyo ibuyangyang ang katawan nyo at patunayan na hindi sa damit by all means go! And oo nga pala senador tatay nya, baka pwedeng mag isip naman kahit konti kung pano nga ba maalis sa lipunan ang rapist?And Pano pag nirape si feelingera ng minor? Forgive and forget na lng thanks sa batas ng tatay nya.
Delete1:37 Yun na nga eh naka abaya na pero minanyak pa din so what more kung naka labas ang cleavage plunging neckline, naka short shorts at body fit na damit mas malaki ang chances na maattract mo ang mga manyak. Hindi mo makokontrol ang isip ng tao so ikaw na lang tumulong sa sarili mo by being maingat sa pananamit mo at kilos mo.
Delete7:17 Ang point dito, wag niyo isisisi sa biktima! Of course may mga rapist talaga. Pero don't make the victims feel guilty they got raped because of how they dress. Yun ang point dito. Wag niyo bibigyan ang rapist ng "rason" kung bakit nang rape siya. Paano kung gamitin yang rason niyo na dahil nakasuot ng sexy ang victim kaya ni-rape? Kailangan matakot na ngayon ang mga babae na mag suot ng sexy? Yan ang solution niyo? Sa muslim countries nga balot na balot pero may mga na-r-rape pa rin. Stop victim-blaming! Yun ang point!
DeleteKakie was raised well. Shame on machismo culture - this has to end.
ReplyDelete@1:05, "machismo culture" comes back when you have to move a furniture or fix the car. You can't have it both ways ladies. If you hate machismo culture so much, please, don't try asking men for help. Do it yourself.
DeleteShame on wild girls. Drinking and partying with the boys. What do you expect?
DeleteBravo 4:25 👏👏👏
Deletetama rin naman si Tulfo. Wag na ijustify na yung mga babae daw pala yung mag-aadjust para di marape dahil katwiran nga nila, kahit naman ano suotin nila,sexy man o hindi, ang rapists andiyan lang.
ReplyDeletePara sa akin, by the way, Im also a girl. Kung ayaw mong may mambabastos sayo,magsuot ka naman ng disente. If you want to be gain respect then start it with yourself. Hindi naman yan, rape agad, pero binibigyan mo ng malisya ang maga lalaki pag pinapapakitaan mo ng maiiikling shorts.
Meron din nababastos kahit maayos ang damit point is, wala yan sa damit bawal at masama mang bastos. Hindi ang babae mag-aadjust dahil sira ang moral compass mo.
DeleteYou're also a girl pero pagiisip mo dinadown mo ang mag kapwa mo girl at ine-excuse mo ang mga bastos.
DeleteSTOP implying that girls who wear shorts, or anything you consider revealing, DO NOT RESPECT themselves. And thus do not deserve to be respected. TOXIC thinking. TOXIC!
Sinabi ko bang dinadown ko ang girls? Na isip mo lang yun at nasa pagkaintindi mo. Baka ikaw ang toxic, opinion ko yun e, respect it, From 1:11
Delete5:50 + 1:11 your right to express your opinion is what is to be respected. Your opinion does not need to be respected if it isn't respectable.And yes,dinadown mo ang mga kapwa mo babae sa pagiisip mo na ang mag sexy na suot ay di disente, na wala silang respeto sa sarili nila.
DeleteMay point naman si Tulfo. Are you that naive to think that we can change all men’s thinking? Oo maganda kung maeducate natin sila to respect women regardless of clothes pero sa perfect world lang yun teh. Protect yourself and dress/act appropriately. And yes kahit gawin mo yan meron pa rin tlagang bastos pero meron din namang iba na mangbabastos lang if given the right motivation/temptation and chance. Dont give them that. Ganun kasimple.
ReplyDeleteso hindi naman pala talaga sa pagdadamit, may mga tao talagang bastos at mga walang respeto sa sarili nila. 121 sa palagay mo ba pagnakaharap na nila ang Diyos sino kaya ang maoapahiya yong narape o yong rapist?
DeleteDba, they are living in a perfect world, nakalimutan ang realidad. Sobrang politically correct.
Deletethe question kasi is, why dress up in that manner? bakt kailangan ganon magdamit? para sa sarili? to feel more confident about yourself? so happy ka na half ng boobs mo nakaluwa, yun pwet mo nakalabas? That's what I don't get eh. Na you're not dressing up to please men or seduce them, pero ano yun?
DeleteWe can't control other people's action, pero we can control ours. Who will protect us kundi tayo din naman. Prang bahay mo lang yan, may kurtina para d kita kaloob-looban.
@1:21 True! Sometimes I wonder if alam ba tlga ni kakie and other people who share the same opinion ang pinag lalaban nila.
DeleteOmygaaaaaad andami niyong nagmemake ng excuses for offenders! How can this possibly be the case? Sorry sayo natapat ang comment ko but this is for everyone who even at the slightest use provocation as reason for their crime. Men are acting like that because we have theses excuses for them! Why do we always bend ourselves to accommodate men’s weaknesses? Please re-evaluate, ladies. We are not supposed to accept what should be basic and normal.
DeleteAng kriminal ay kriminal kahit ano pa ang isuot mo. Raffy, gising!! It’s.2020 ganyan ka pa rin magisip!
ReplyDeleteAyun nga ang point. Di natin macontrol pagiisip at pagnanasa ng mga manyak kaya nasa babae na kung ano dapat nila gawin para protektahan sarili nila.
Delete204 oh eh di yong mga manyak ang pagsabihan nyo at wag ang mga babae. bakit ba yong biktimaang palaging nasisisi? yong rapist walang pinipili yan ma bata o kahit na matanda nirerape kaya sila ang pagsabihan at oagbantaan nyo at wag ang mga biktima nila.
DeleteHindi po si Raffy yon. Si Bitag, yong sangganong kapatid na inglisero.
Deletethen advise them na magpaconsult sa doctor kung di na nila macontrol pagiging manyak/rapist nila. Yung mga baby at matandang na-rape ba ang issue pa rin is yung damit nila? Rape happens because there are rapist, as simple as that.
Delete2:04 Buti ka pa baks may sense ang comment mo. Hindi nakakainis.
DeleteTama 2:04. Sumakay ako ng jeep, may dalawang maduming lalaki na bumitin sa estero. Yung isa, hinawakan ang tuhod ko. Naka uniform ako kaya hindi matatawag na sexy. Nagdilim ang paningin ko at sinipa ko sa binti. Nahulog siya. Bumaba ang kasama para tulungan siya. Humabol silang pareho. Nagdidilim pa rin ang paningin ko sa galit at sumigaw ng magnanakaw ng malakas na malakas at itinuro sila. Sa takot, tumakbo silang papalayo. Like you said, learn to protect yourself. Make some noise, use a weapon, pen, keys, or anything that can hurt them. I kicked his legs because he is not in a secure position. Nakabitin kaya nahulog.
DeleteHindi ba mas tamang mas target na sabihan ng pulis ng mensahe ang mga rapists at manyak? Like, 'sa mga rapists jan wag na kayo tumingin sa mga babae, wag na kayo magbanta at kulong ang abot nyo'. Hindi ung mga babae pagsasabihan nyo para di sila ma rape. Laging mga ordinaryong tao ang kelangan mag adjust sa gobyerno. Paigtingin nyo ang batas at targetin ang mga posibleng manyak hindj ung pati pag suot ng babae kelangan nyo pang sabihin.
ReplyDeleteI agree! Hindi yung “ang manyak ay manyak at wala tayong magagawa’l that’s BS! Nakakagigil! 😡
DeleteSa tingin mo susunod ang kriminal sa pulis? Eh di sana wala ng naka kulong sa bilibid. Ang dapat umiwas na lang at mag ingat dahil hindi makokontrol nino man ang isip ng tao lalo ang mga kriminal.
Delete12:14 Sa tingin mo kung di sumunod ang kriminal na nakagawa ng krimen sa pulis, may mga nakakulong ba sa bilibid? Edi wala kasi nga di sila sumunod diba. Ang dapat umiwas eh yung mga manyak na nangrerape kasi krimen ang ginagawa nila. Sila ang may pananagutan sa batas. Do not blame the victim.
DeleteIto naman si Kiko, parang epal naman isingit ang sariling laban. Wala naman connect.
ReplyDeleteAnak nya yan he can be epal for all you care.ut just shows narealize nya kung ano reaction ng tatay nya noon na ngayon sya naman may anak na may pinaglalaban but he will support her. Gets?
DeleteUnderstand first the context before commenting. Ang simple lang nang konek di mo makuha.
Delete1:57 love kase sya ng tatay nya, eh ikaw kaya? Sad k na lang.
DeletePwede naman mag show ng support sa anak. Pero para isingit yung sarili nyang rally nung kabataan nya mejo off lang. Its not about you Kiko
DeleteLets put it this way... umalis ka ng bahay at nilock mo yung gate compared sa umalis ka ng bahay pero nakabuyangyang yung gate. Sa tingin nyo san jan yung mas lapitin ng magnanakaw? Totoo nga naman na may magnanakaw na aakyat talaga na bakod para makapagnakaw pero meron din naman magnanakaw na gagawin lang sya kasi may nakakita sya ng chance makapagnakaw since bukas yung gate. Ganun lang girls. Hindi nyo kasalanan kung marape kayo pero you could have prevented it from happening. Hindi to victim blaming, its being smart and responsible for your own body.
ReplyDeleteWhat if you already do those things, like being smart and responsible? Pero someone harassed or abused you pa din. How can you said that as a girl being smart and responsible could lessen the risk of being rape or harassed. Hindi naman natin alam kung kelan mapapahamak, kahit cautious ka pa, maayos at disente ka manamit kung meron magbabalak di mo naman alam yan. What we need is to change their behaviour and mindset, stop enabling and justifying their actions. Like kaya sila nang rape kasi dahil sa pananamit o kilos.
DeleteEasy for you to say those things. Well, kung rapist ang tao kahit ikaw na ang pinaka manang na babae rrereypin ka padin nyan. I knew someone who's been raped, she's very decent pero sad to say na-rape padin sya. Pag rapist talaga ang tao di mo yan mapipigil to do evil things.
DeleteNice example..
DeleteI beg to disagree with the comparison you made. If a woman is dressed in a sexy way, it is not an open invitation to be raped. You do not prevent rape by wearing less or more.
Delete2:15 AM, Tama
DeleteThis generation is raised to be so selfish. Wala silang pakealam basta maisuot lang nila yung gusto nila kahit uncomfortable na yung iba. Kahit pa gaano katino ang tatay mo o ang kuya mo kapag may rumampa sa harap hila na halos kita na ang singit, may maiisip yan, paano pa kaya kapag mga manyak? Pinagiingat na nga aangal pa. At totoo nmn na yung iba they dress like that dahil nagpapatipo tlg sa lalake, kaya wag sila umangal kapag namiss understood sila
DeleteThe name of the game is transferring responsibility. Why would you take responsibility if you can change the other person? See how it works?
Delete“You could have prevented it”??? Really?? Paano yung mga nare-rape na mentaly challenged? Eh yung mga bata?? At kahit hindi sexy ang suot eh nare-rape pa rin!
DeleteEh kung ganito nalang scenario 2:15, iniwan mong buyangyang yung gate pero hindi ka parin nanakawan KASI DISENTE AT MATINO MGA TAO SA PALIGID MO?? Why put it on the victim?? WHY NOT INSTILL IT TO THE PEOPLE NOT TO DO CRIMINAL ACTS?? WHY ARE WE NOT PRESSURING POLICE TO PROTECT US MORE?? Sabi mo nga, prevention is better than cure, then lecture the would be criminals not the victims!
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DeleteKung matino ka mag isip hindi ka mangrirape.
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Delete2:15 making excuses for rapists. you’re a disappointment. walang contributing factors na makakapagjustify ng pangmamanyak. ganto lang yan, be smart and responsible not to commit a crime.
DeleteAnong you could have prevented? Ang daming narape na hindi naman nakadamit na sexy. Narape na nakaschool uniform. Ako nasexually harass na naka loose shirt at loose pants. Nagsusuot din ako ng medyo fitted at maikling damit minsan pero hindi naman ako naharass na un ang suot. Naharass ako nung nakaloose na damit ako. It's not about the clothes. It's about the men who would do that regardless
DeleteYou’re all too naive to think that we can stop people from committing criminal acts and that the police can stop all crimes. I do hope we achieve it in the future though.
DeleteGuys please google crime opportunity theory. Yes may criminals na halang talaga ang bituka that will do the crime regardless of situation. Pero meron ding criminals that will only do it pag nakakita lang ng opportunity or maisip nila konti lang yung risk sa situation. These are the ones that you have the power to prevent or minimize.
DeleteWala pa ako anak pero naiistress ako sa thread na to. Yung mga nagsasabi na ayusin mo yung pananamit mo, feeling ko parang motherly advice lang sya. Like how you dont wear jewelries kung makikipagsiksikan ka sa divisoria. Like how you’re not supposed to talk to strangers when you’re young and helpless. Dont give them that opportunity. Protect yourself hija. I envy all these people with so much faith in humanity pero I’ve seen enough to know that u always have to fend for yourself. Dont be stupidly reckless cause u only have 1 life and body.
DeleteMay point din naman si Kakie kaya dapat ibalik ang death penalty at buwagin yung Juvenile Act na yan para pantay pantay na maparusahan ang kriminals. Pabata ng pabata ang rapists at mga krimanl ngayon and they do it because they know they can get away with it dahil minors sila.
ReplyDeleteMakinig sa mga advises ng men, ladies.
ReplyDeleteSo, tama ang men, ladies mali?
DeleteGrandma told me about the Maggie Dela Riva case where three men whose family have the means, gang raped an actress. This is during the Marcos era. The three men were given the death penalty and electrocuted on TV in front of the viewing public. Maybe we need more stricter rules and penalties and make the public aware of the consequences of rape..
DeleteNo. Yuck. And walang plural ang advise.
DeleteYes kailangan talaga ng kamay na bakal. Kaso the likes of Kiko Pangilinan and her daughter would scream Human Rights Violation naman. So saan lulugar ang Batas?? Wala! Kasi lahat hinahanapan ng butas or ng palusot.
DeleteI’m with Frankie on this one. Even if women and even children dress decently, rape still occurs. Therefore it’s not how they dress that’s the problem, but how men act.
ReplyDeletePara saken, kung maglalagay ka ng pagkain sa harapan ng gutom natural pag iinteresan yung pagkain. Hindi mo makokontrol ang mga manyakis pero pedeng bawasan natin na pagnasaan tayo.
ReplyDeletePara saken naman 3:29 kung maglalagay ka ng pagkain sa harapan ng gutom at alam ng gutom na di naman sa kanya ang pagkain. di pa rin nya kakainin kasi alam nyang labag sa batas ang magnakaw. Hindi mo makokontrol ang manyakis kung ganyan ka mag isip. Instilling conscience and making a sturdy law with good implementation should be done to fix this manyakis way of thinking. I guess you should be included in a seminar and consulation about this. Why blame the victim?
Delete6:53 Ok ka lang? Kahit pa alam ng isang tao na hindi kanya ang pagkain pero kung ilang araw na syang hindi kumakain gagalawin at gagalawin pa din nya ang pagkain na hindi kanya. Ano ba naman pag iisip yan! Eh di sana wala ng kriminal sa mundo kung ganyan lang pala kadali ang solusyon. Eh sige paano mo tuturuan ang may sakit sa pag iisip yung hindi na madadaan pa sa gamot tapos nakakawala sa mental tapos nang rape? Kala mo naman napaka dali nyang naiisip mong solusyon!
DeleteWake up 6:53, you're still dreaming. Sa perfect world lang nag-e-exist ang ganyang eksena. Reality tayo.
DeleteTulfo? What tulfo? 😂 Idol and crush na talaga kota kakie, age gap lang eh. Haha
ReplyDeleteA rapist will rape no matter what his victim is wearing. The right advice is for ladies to be safe and not put themselves in a vulnerable situation ie. walking alone at night etc. The dress is irrelevant. There are churches where boys are raped. There are also high rape cases in conservative countries where women are already fully clothed.
ReplyDeleteMiss Charo Concio-Santos once said, “My father told us to fend for ourselves.” You can never teach rapists or crackpots not to rape. You will have to look out for yourself.
ReplyDelete12:32, if people were raised well, rape wouldn't even be an option, but the again, there's you and Tulfo.
ReplyDeleteduh 12:15 your exactly victim-blaming. and all those victim-blaming ..kalurks. why not blame the criminal?
ReplyDeleteYou cannot teach people not to rape. Dear Kakie, hindi ka lumaki sa squatters area na madaming adik kaya di mo alam na hindi na kayang icorrect ang utak nila, so tayong mga babae na ang dapat mag adjust at mag ingat
ReplyDelete5:39 True! Itong batang ito masyadong opinionated. Sobrang sheltered na anak naman, walang alam sa totoong realidad ng buhay. Nakaka wala ng bilib batang ito. Masyadong mababaw.
DeleteNakakahiya naman etong si mr tulfo. Pinatulan talaga ang bata. Ok lang sana ang mag oppose kaso hiniya nya ung bata. Ndi porke matanda cya mas tama ung katwiran nya no. Lahat tayo pwede magbigay ng opinion OK. Nakakasuka
ReplyDelete5:59 This! Hindi laging tama ang mga nakatatanda
Deleteit’s just like saying, ok lng mglabas ng iphone habang ngaabang ng jeep. kung masnatch man, hindi kasalanan ng biktima yun. there will always be snatchers out there.
ReplyDeleteIsang factor din naman talaga ang pananamit ng isang babae para mabastos at ma-rape. Hindi lahat ng lalaki malisyoso o rapists. Pero pano kung matiempuhan ka ng isang adik at sira ulong lalaki dahil sa pananamit mong halos ibuyangyang mo na ang lahat? Lalo dun sa mga babaeng wala namang sariling sasakyan at nagco-commute lang sa mga pampublikong jeep ar bus?
ReplyDeleteFrankie is a privileged young lady who goes out of their house with a driver and some bodyguards. Now kahit nakabikini pa yan umalis ng bahay hindi siya irerape. Pero pag ginawa yan ng ordinaryong babae magsuot ng hindi kanais nais, that is inviting disaster. Tulfo is right, criminals are just waiting when to pounce. Remember rapists and sex offenders are sick people. Normal men do not look at women who expose their body. But it's the sick men who do.
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DeleteI'm with the PANGILINANs. When I was still in high school, waiting for my school service and of course in uniform, I felt a kiss in my head. Then, the dirty old man slowly walked away, turned his head back on me and gave me a filthy smile. I was wearing a school uniform, a conservative one because the school is a Catholic run. He didn't even need to see my face. Naka talikod ako from him. So it's not the way we dresses or even behave. It's them. It's never the victim's fault
ReplyDeleteok na sana nakisawsaw pa yung tatay ang post about rally
ReplyDeleteBakit sinisisi ang babae? Andami Dyan naka school uniform tapos biglang nakikidnap na Lang? Ano sagot mo Dyan tulfo?
ReplyDeleteAgree with you @2:15. Simple as that lets not make it a big deal by being opinionated. How can you teach someone NOT to rape when none even taught them how to. Change starts with yourself.
ReplyDeleteMay nadiskubre na bang rapist psyvhic scanner na malalaman mo kung rapist yang kausap mo? Wala infact karamihan ng rape incident ay kakilala, katropa, o kapitbahay, pag nahaluan ng alcohol o shabu saka lumalabas pagkamanyak. So kailangan talaga pagiingat, wala naman tayong powers tulad kay Quiboloy na STAHP RAPIST
ReplyDeleteMaglakad ka ng hindi nakazipper yung bag at nakabuyangyang ang wallet. Iwan mo sa table mo yung iphone 11 mo kapag pupunta ka sa counter ng starbucks. Wag ka maglock ng pinto sa gabi. Kasi kahit yung nag-iingat nananakawan din diba. Turuan silang wag magnakaw. Wag sisihin yung biktima ng pagnanakaw
ReplyDeletePaano ba mag turo sa magnanakaw na wag mag nakaw? Pashare naman paano at ano sasabihin para sumunod same din sa mga manyak, ano ang tamang way pati words na sasabihin sa kanila para di na mang rape. Make sure lang na yung sasabihin mo effecive at mapapasunod mo sila ha.
DeleteBoth ways yan. Alam natin may mga rapist and we should be responsible to ourselves the best we can. We can and hopefully avoid it by dressing uninviting clothes and the society must teach boys/ men to respect women.
ReplyDeleteOK, kakie "hiya" and tulfo "manong", fight!
A lot of men go out of their houses without a shirt on, sometimes even walking around in their boxers, but women don’t normally ogle or take that as an “excuse” to rape. Women shouldn’t have to worry about their safety just because of what they wear. Men should know how to act appropriately and not make excuses every time they misbehave.
ReplyDeleteDon’t you know men and women are not created equal? Pero meron naman babae na mañaquis di ba?
DeleteHINDI KO MAINTINDIHAN KUNG BAKIT HIRAP NA HIRAP SILA INTINDIHIN AT TANGGAPIN! Ang simple simple lang naman, wag kang manamit ng daring or mahalay kung ayaw mong pagnasaan ka ng mga makakakitang lalaki! Manamit ng naayon sa lugar na ppuntahan, kung nasa beach or resort ka, GO! Mag two piece ka! Pero kung nasa ibang lugar, wag naman sana ung masyadong mahalay or sexy duh?! Tapos rerekla reklamo na namanyak, eh kung ikaw mismo nagpapakita ng katawan mo sa pananamit mo.
ReplyDelete11:16 Wag ka na mag taka. Ayaw lang nilang magpatalo kaya pinag pipilitan nila ang katwiran nila. Paano mo nga ba tuturuan ang pervert at rapist na wag maging manyak eh yung iba dyan may sakit na sa isip
DeletePuro pag point out sa pananamit? Eh kamusta naman yung mga infant na narape, yung estudayanteng nakauniform (inappropriate pa rin?). Wag na tayong magdeny, wala sa pananamit ang pangrerape. Nasa rapist yan. Kahit ano pang isuot mo. So condemn the rapist, not the victims. Kaya may rapist dahil sa mga backward thinking na yan.
ReplyDeleteDrug related yon ‘day!
Delete11:01 in your dreams siguro 'day. Mag research ka naman.
DeleteTotoo sinabi ni Tulfo hindi matuturuan ang mga manyakis kaya iwas na lang at mag ingat. Kung baga sa magnanakaw pag may oportunidad sila makapasok sa bahay mo at magnakaw gagawin nila yan so lock mo na lang bahay mo at wag mo ibuyangyang sa mga tao na marami kang pera para di ka mainit sa mata nila. Ganun din sa mga manyak at rapist. Mga kriminal ang mga yan iba sila mag isip.
ReplyDeleteEXACTLY 12:06! Lalo kng may drugs/alcohol na involve mahirap na sila kontrolin, nothing wrong nman kung mag iingat at ilalagay sa lugar ang pananamit
DeleteWe should teach young boys to respect women. To view them as equals and not sexual objects. If we do this now, we can help create a generation that can combat rape culture. Yung mga thinking na ka tulad ng kay Tulfo ay produkto ng machismo culture. Kung noon pa sana ay tinuturing ang babae bilang tao at dapat na nirerespeto hindi sila tatratuhin na mahina at “parausan” ng mga lalaki.
ReplyDelete@12:10 I find this funny. Parang napaka dali lang sayo na ikundisyon ang utak ng isang tao. Good luck syo! Labas ka kasi sa lungga mo para makita mo na maraming kriminal sa mundi na hindi mo madadaan sa pangaral. May nature ang bawat tao. Hindi ganyan kadali yang sinasabi mo gumising ka sa katotohanan.
DeleteGrabe ang daming rapist and manyak apologists dito. Nakakahiya kayong lahat, especially kung babae kayo. Napakalaking parte kayo ng gumawa at nagpapairal ng kultura ng victim blaming and shaming.
ReplyDeleteMas nakakahiya yung nagpapakita ng boobs and super duper short shorts. What is the reason ba talaga why some girls women put on such a display? Anong reason??? Paki sagot miss 12:21
Delete3:23 Bakit kapag mga lalaki un lumalabas ng bahay na walang shirt or naglalakad na naka-boxer-type UNDERWEAR (minsan pa nga boxer briefs) hindi nila kinu-question? Putting on a display ba kamo?! Pakisagot rin 3:23.
Delete3:23 Yung iba para maka kuha ng mayaman na jowa haha bread and butter nila ang kanilang katawan.
DeleteAko lang ba, pero parang di naman victim blaming si tulfo, more on nagpapaalala lang since aminin man natin sa hindi, in a way nakakaseduce yung sobrang revealing clothes, nothing wrong nman kung mag iingat at ilalagay sa lugar ang pananamit.
ReplyDeleteover acting kasi na bata itong si kakiepara trending sya sa twitter!
DeletePaulit ulit nang sinasabi toXz uulitin ko lang ulit. WALANG MARRAPE KUNG WALANG RAPIST.
ReplyDeleteTandaan: ultimo si Maria Clarang naka-saya, minolestya. Yung mga lola, mga bata na ginahasa, pa-seksi ba suot nila? Wala sa damit yan, nasa utak na masama yan! Turuan nyo mga lalake na wag mangmanyak! Babae na naman mag-aadjust sa kahalayan ng mga lalake, ganun?
ReplyDeleteibalik ang bitay or death penalty tignan natin kung may maglakas loob pang mang rape.
ReplyDeletePaano maturuan ang manyak na huwag magmanyak? Bitayin sa harap ng publiko. Deserve nila yan.
ReplyDeleteMaiba lang pero STOP THE HUNGER and CORRUPTION para walang nagugutom at tambay sa kanto na high sa droga! Hirap maghanap ng job opportunity lalo na pag di nakapagtapos dala ng kahirapan. Good luck mahal kong Pilipinas
ReplyDeleteTong matatandang to na may makalumang values kulang na lang sabihin nila na wag na din mag-ayos at magpaganda ang mga babae para makaiwas sa rape.
ReplyDeleteHindi matanggap ng karamihan ang katotohanan. Komportable na kasi sila sa akala nila ay tama na kaya kung mapagsabihan parang mga batang nagmamaktol. Gusto nilang isisi lahat sa mga rapist, not realizing na mismong sila ang nagiging dahilan at responsable kung bakit sila nalalagay sa alanganin. If you are a woman, protect yourself at all costs by means of dressing appropriately. Never underestimate a situation where you, yourself, are putting yourself in danger because we cannot control everyone's minds. We are not talking about elderlies and babies getting raped. The issue here is about WOMEN dressing inappropriately which oftentimes leads to rape. The police must have a back-up data to support their claim. Now, it is up to you if you will listen to their plea or not. Sometimes, in the end, we, ourselves, are to blame for being too stubborn.
ReplyDeleteThe reason why FILIPINOS agree with Tulfo is because Philippines is a “conservative-kuno” country. Junujustify nila yung rape sa pananamit ng sexy. It’s a way to control people and it’s the same tactics our grandparents used to prevent us from wearing “sexy” clothes. But the real reason behind that is not to prevent rape but to instil the ways of catholicism and conservatism. Yun lang yown. May mas mataas bang cases ng rape sa 1st world countries where wild manamit mga babae? Dont think sooooo...
ReplyDeleteYou didn't more Filipinos do not side with Tulfo on this. The man got burnt by Frankie and the thousands if FILIPINAS who shared their stories in #HijaAko that ut was never about the clothes they were wearing. Teach peiple not to rape. Period
DeleteThat’s wonderful but why do I sense hostility in your comment? May pa-period ka pa lol.
DeleteI think millennials mostly ang mulat sa fact na ito. Yung mga grandparents and parents natin, sadly, are still siding with Tulfo. Lalo na sa probinsiya namin. Na-rape na nga yung underage na babae, sinisi pa kasi naka-short.
Just saying na madami pang makikitid utak at hindi pa educated sa real cause ng rape, which is the rapists.
@2:26, wow, teach people not to rape. good luck with that one. Maybe, just maybe, don't put yourself at risk?
DeleteTulfo is talking from experience! Plain and simple.
ReplyDeleteMr. Tulfo was right. His comments were made clear. Women today dresses like they dont need to hide things to behide. They are inviting to befantasized in the thoughts of men. Maternal shoots are well are showing of their whole body i hide lang konti ang dapat i hide. The percentage to be caught by mens eyes are high if you are not dressing well. Feed ka sa kanila pero ginusto mo rin dahil na aapreciate ka. Do not be a temptation kasi. Hindi mo ma kokontrol ang may mga masamang gawain. Kaya dont be a food to them dahil aatake yan sila kapag ka nakakita ng timing. Tama naman si Tulfo marami na yan na tulungan sa case niya on his program. Huwag magalit pag i correct kung tama naman.
ReplyDeleteMali kasi sya. At mali ka din.
DeleteAs young as 2 years and as old as 80 years ay victims ng rape. Nasa pananamit ba? May nare-rape kasi may rapist.
ReplyDeleteYung totoo, may nagsabi ba na pananamit lng ang sole reason kaya narirape/manyak ang isang babae? Parang yung iba kasi triggered, gusto nila ijustify ung pagsusuot ng revealing clothes. For me, tulfo was just stating facts, kumbaga may incidents tlga ung kriminal nase2duce/naattract sa kung pananamit ng babae, kht di un intention ng babae. Kumbaga warning lang for women, not necessarily victim blaming.
ReplyDeleteI do not understand why people are reacting with the warning. Wala naman po masama na bigyan kayo ng warning about how to dress. no victim blaming naman ang nangyayari.
ReplyDeleteWhy are we so quick to react, overacting naman na ata. Sa pagkakaalala ko, nun bata ako my parents always remind me to dress appropriately. Wag daw ako lalabas ng maiksi ang damit ko para makaiwas sa mga manyak. I always followed my parents because it was a warning, a reminder to take care of myself. Isip ko nga nun di naman ako kagandahan para magustuhan ng rapist or manyak, but I still followed kasi warning nga. Truth be told, kahit hindi maiksi suot ko, napipituhan pa rin ako but at least pito lang compared dun sa nakakasabay ko na medyo sexy magdamit, di lang pito ang abutin meron pa comment. Its your choice if you want to follow or not. Wala naman siguro masama sa pag iingat.
Oh well, we all know that bad people exist, so if you don’t take precautions for your safety, then you are also to blame.
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