Me and my brother are not in speaking terms too but I don't hate him. I forgive him even if he blocked me on fb. Maybe I was the toxic one I don't know. He got irritated with me coz he felt like I was interfering the way they treat my dad. I'm not living near them and I just gave him an advice which is understandable since I was.only concerned, until it reached to a point when he said to me that my husband is "kulang sa diskarte". I was hurt because I thought that he was so plastic to my hubby, may ill feelings pala sya. Still, I care for him. In fact, i am planning to send him a gift kahit andito ako sa manila and he is in the province. I think life is too short to live with hatred and anger. Di naman mortal na kasalanan ginawa nya and even if he said something negative to my husband, I still love him.
4:31 sadly ang problema may lamat na. ganyan din kami ng panganay kong kapatid we fought nagkaayos pero ramdam naming may wall na. casual na lang pero pagdating naman sa financial kapag may problema yung isa nagtutulungan naman kami. siguro ganun talaga you cant force na bumalik pa sa dati for as long as family pa rin naman ang turing niyo despite sa lahat ng problema magiging maayos din ang lahat. take your time mahirap talagang magkaayos ng tuluyan ang kapamilya specially hindi naman kayo madalas magkita.
4:31 and 5:49 makipagayos na kayo habang maaga pa. Hindi importante kung sino ang mali. Ang importante habang buhay pa kayo magkapatawaran na at maipakita nyo na mahal na mahal nyo ang isat isa. Di natin alam kung hanggang kelang lang tayo or sila dito sa mundo. Show them your love.
it's not as easy 12:37. alam natin forgiveness is always the solution. but kung constantly naapi tayo or nahurt tapos hindi pa rin nagbabago ang tao, it's safe to say maganda na rin siguro kung civil pero may wall. at least. we can't force ourselves to forgive. it takes time.
12:37 There are relationships that can't be totally fixed no matter how much you try. It's because of how one or both acted in the past that prevent the healing and full reconciliation. The most one can do is be civil, but none anymore of the camaraderie you'll expect from your own blood.
12.37 It's not easy most especially if you know that everything have gone overboard. Toxic people will always be toxic people. So, to preserve your sanity and peace, you have to cut them off from your life.
why? if the person is toxic and draining my energy and happiness, i would not make amends just because it’s “Christmas”. i will protect my energy at all costs, blood or not.
2:50 very true, all of my cousins friends ko sa fb dati, i deleted them because ang toxic nila lahat, parang laging mga nakikipagcompete sa buhay-buhay, isa-isa ko sila inunfriend, yung iba unfollow na lang para di ko makita mga posts nila, ayun audience ko na lang sila pag may post ako, at di ako updated sa whwereabouts nila, wala naman kasi ako pake and may life din naman ako and focus sa goals ko, so wa care na lang sa mga nuisance sa life.
8:25 if someone is toxic, you don't let that person walk all over you. Yes, I agree that there are two sides to every story BUT the way you look at it is wrong.
Kaya nga. Lalo don’t take it to social media. I remember before hindi sila mapaghiwalay and they treat each other as best friends. I hope magkaayos na sila.
Agree. Kahit ano pang yoga/vegan/religious chenes na pinaggagawa nya ngayon to show that she's a good and enlightened person, it all feels disingenuous.
2:52 Lowkey? Eh sya nga ang laging may issue. Lagi may reklamo, laging nagra rant sa social media. Have you been living under a rock at di mo alam maissue syang tao?
Agree with you. Saab has been tagged as the blacksheep but she has changed over the years ans I think Max csnt handle that she isnt the center of the attention.
Between the two, Saab remains the same old Saab, si Maxene yung nag-iba na pa-Vegan/yogi/enlightened chorva na parang hindi naman genuine, at least yung isa honest.
Si Saab yong madalas may rant sa social media sa social issues. Kaya di sya magpapatalo. Si Maxene nman,maingay sya and madaldal nakita q na sya sa restaurant dati.strong personality nong 2,pero mas nakakabata si Saab.
Minsan,pride ang umiiral kaya hindi na magawang mag usap ng magkkapatid,mga anak din sa magulang nila. Walang nagpaparaya kaya iba na talaga ngayon.Natitiis din ang magulang na di kausapin.pag huli na saka magsisisi.
So easy for some people to say na “magkapatid kayo, dapat magkapatawaran” without even knowing what happened. And even if it’s christmas, it wouldnt take away those painful moments that you went through. Me and my older sister are not in speaking terms so I know how it feels. Hahaha
Me and my sis too ever since our mom died 9 years ago. Hindi madali makipag ayos lalo na kung alam mong hindi Ikaw ang may kasalanan. Good thing lang is that kahit nasa isang lugar kame eh deadma lang. we even have pictures with our family. Basta walang pansinan at parinigan ok saken. And I didn’t teach my kids to hate her. Close pa nga sila pag kasama yung sister ko.
Same here at 2:20. May nabasa akong quote "Sometimes, the most poisonous people in your life are disguised as family." It hit me. I realized na kahit anong kabutihan ang gawin mo sa kamag-anak mo (two of my pamangkins and some cousins in this case), ay may sasabihin pa rin silang masama laban sayo. Ikaw na nga ang nagbigay, ikaw pa masama. Nahimasmasan ako. I had to cut them off from my life for good. Even if umuwi ako ng pinas, I'd rather not see or talk to them. Why waste time and energy when all they want to do is hurt and destroy you? From now on, I will no longer care about them. I have to be kind to myself too.
nakakalungkot naman mabasa ang ganito. sana mahanap nio ang right time to forgive and make peace. hindi yan pinipilit para lang masabing okay na, agree ako dian.
Mother and tita ko ganyan matagal na ding hindi nag-uusap, elementary pa lang ako nun e ngayon nasa mid-30s na ako. Lagi ko naman pinapayo sa mother ko na kahit hindi na sila maging close, kahit civil na lang relationship nila; kapag nagkita sa family gathering e di okay mag-usap. Ilang beses kong inuulit sa mother namin na sa finish line at sa next life e sila-sila pa din naman ang mga magkikita e. Wag na silang mapa-pride/magpataasan ng ihi dahil wag na nilang hintayin na mawala yung isa sa kanila bago pa sila magsisi na hindi sila nagreach out sa isa't isa.
Mahilig sila magaway. I know normal yun sa siblings pero saying lang. Before mamatay Dad nila magkaaway ata sila. Tapos namatay yung isa sa kambal na anak ni Saab, hindi sila okay.
Oo. Sa magkakapatid sila yung palaging magkaaway. Nung nag sstart palang si Saab na mag artista (sa tv5 pa non) di din sila in good terms. Then nung nawala yung Dad nila, magkaaway din sila non. Nagkabati ulit sila then magkaaway na naman ngayon.
i don’t let toxic people into my life. wala akong paki kung blood or not. kadalasan yang mga blood pa ang mahilig mag offend dahil they know pipilitin ng buong angkan na patawarin si toxic alang alang sa kapayapaan ng pamilya. get out of jail card yang blood-blood na yan. nope, not for me...doon ako sa loving, kind, considerate, at saka give and take kami.
I’ve been to magalona event before, launching yun ng new design ng shirt ng fmcc tapos kakamatay lang ng dad nila kaya magkakasama sila. Saab is way more approachable than max. Si saab lumalapit talaga sya sa mga tao while si max di pwede ma bother.
Masasabi ko lang, mukhang nakakatulog ng mahimbing si Saab at mukhang stressed out si Maxene despite her yoga and meditations. Sino kaya mas bothered ang conscience sa kanila
Ano si Saab yun mabait sa kanilang dalawa?! Ahahaha! Halatang di nyo kilala yun magkapatid. I say, both are equally full of themselves, magaling lang magbait-baitan pareho.
@2:50 true. It's better off with toxicity so what if it's Christmas. Christmas is a time of joy precisely ridding yourself with toxic people will give you more joy than having them around
Alam mo isa sa mga iniiwwsan pagtanda ko mag away away kami mag kakapatid especially pag tumanda na kami. Nakakalungkot kaya yun.. kaya ito I truly my best to be an understanding and loving sister to my kuya’s. Maganda din kasi May peace sa heart at walang kaaway
Same here. My husband asks me all the time bakit tinotolerate namin yung toxic attitude ng kapatid ko. Imo, dalawa lang kaming magkapatid. Ako mas nakakaintindi, ako na lang mag adjust. Once nag drift apart kasi kami, mahirap na yan ibalik. So, sige lang. laban lang hanggang kaya pa tiisin. This is for our family eh.
I am too with my older brother. But I don't feel of forgiving him because he didn't even apologize for the wrong deed he did to my younger sister and her 2 kids. Sa tamang panahon siguro.
May relatives ako na nagtake advantage sa parents ko. I stood up and said something about it. Now they’re mad at me and making parinig sa socmed. So I unfriended them all. I couldn’t believe they could do that to my parents kasi sobrang religious nila. Ang post lagi about kay God.
Yes they are. There was an issue happened couple of months ago and hindi pa nagkakaayos
ReplyDeleteAno bang issue nila?
DeleteI wonder what happened? I mean ano kaya pinag awayan nila? Feeling ko deep rooted ung away kasi tagal na nila di nag uusap.
DeleteMe and my brother are not in speaking terms too but I don't hate him. I forgive him even if he blocked me on fb. Maybe I was the toxic one I don't know. He got irritated with me coz he felt like I was interfering the way they treat my dad. I'm not living near them and I just gave him an advice which is understandable since I was.only concerned, until it reached to a point when he said to me that my husband is "kulang sa diskarte". I was hurt because I thought that he was so plastic to my hubby, may ill feelings pala sya. Still, I care for him. In fact, i am planning to send him a gift kahit andito ako sa manila and he is in the province. I think life is too short to live with hatred and anger. Di naman mortal na kasalanan ginawa nya and even if he said something negative to my husband, I still love him.
Delete4:31 sadly ang problema may lamat na. ganyan din kami ng panganay kong kapatid we fought nagkaayos pero ramdam naming may wall na. casual na lang pero pagdating naman sa financial kapag may problema yung isa nagtutulungan naman kami. siguro ganun talaga you cant force na bumalik pa sa dati for as long as family pa rin naman ang turing niyo despite sa lahat ng problema magiging maayos din ang lahat. take your time mahirap talagang magkaayos ng tuluyan ang kapamilya specially hindi naman kayo madalas magkita.
Delete4:31 and 5:49 makipagayos na kayo habang maaga pa. Hindi importante kung sino ang mali. Ang importante habang buhay pa kayo magkapatawaran na at maipakita nyo na mahal na mahal nyo ang isat isa. Di natin alam kung hanggang kelang lang tayo or sila dito sa mundo. Show them your love.
DeleteThis wasn't a few months ago. They haven't talk since mid 2018. A year or two years actually
Deleteit's not as easy 12:37. alam natin forgiveness is always the solution. but kung constantly naapi tayo or nahurt tapos hindi pa rin nagbabago ang tao, it's safe to say maganda na rin siguro kung civil pero may wall. at least. we can't force ourselves to forgive. it takes time.
Delete12:37 There are relationships that can't be totally fixed no matter how much you try. It's because of how one or both acted in the past that prevent the healing and full reconciliation. The most one can do is be civil, but none anymore of the camaraderie you'll expect from your own blood.
Delete12.37 It's not easy most especially if you know that everything have gone overboard. Toxic people will always be toxic people. So, to preserve your sanity and peace, you have to cut them off from your life.
DeleteKrismas na magbati na kayo
ReplyDeletewhy? if the person is toxic and draining my energy and happiness, i would not make amends just because it’s “Christmas”. i will protect my energy at all costs, blood or not.
Delete2:50 OMG same
Delete2:50 agree. ang hirap ng ipipilit na magkaayos dahil may special occasion. mas nakakadagdag pa sa away at kanegahan yang ganyan
Delete2.50, true enough. may kapamilya din ako na maabuso and thu theyre kapamilya pls! at 30 ayoko na ng toxic
Delete2:50 very true, all of my cousins friends ko sa fb dati, i deleted them because ang toxic nila lahat, parang laging mga nakikipagcompete sa buhay-buhay, isa-isa ko sila inunfriend, yung iba unfollow na lang para di ko makita mga posts nila, ayun audience ko na lang sila pag may post ako, at di ako updated sa whwereabouts nila, wala naman kasi ako pake and may life din naman ako and focus sa goals ko, so wa care na lang sa mga nuisance sa life.
Delete2.50 i agree!
DeleteIs there a feud between the two?
ReplyDeletetagal na po
DeleteEto talagang si Saab ang feeling kong toxic na sisterette
ReplyDeleteI think it’s the other way around
Deletethere's always two sides baks kung toxic si saab bakit hindi kaya magpakumbaba ni max? pareho lang sila
Deletediba may ilang taon sila di nag pansinan
DeleteHindi po. Wala siyang attitude. FYI
DeleteSiguro biased ako pero I dont think ma attitude si Saab. Pero that’s just me. Fan nya kasi ako simula nung tumblr days pa nua
DeleteI met Saab before and she's really nice. Maxene naman nameet na ng friend ko feel na feel na artista
Delete8:25 if someone is toxic, you don't let that person walk all over you. Yes, I agree that there are two sides to every story BUT the way you look at it is wrong.
DeleteSi Saab kasundo buong family nila, si Maxene hindi. You do the math.
DeleteSad to see siblings fighting. Kayo nga dapat ang nandyan for each other eh
ReplyDeleteWe dont know what happened to them.
DeleteKaya nga. Lalo don’t take it to social media. I remember before hindi sila mapaghiwalay and they treat each other as best friends. I hope magkaayos na sila.
DeleteMaxene is full of herself ever since. That’s all I can say.
ReplyDeleteBye!
Agree
DeleteAgree. Kahit ano pang yoga/vegan/religious chenes na pinaggagawa nya ngayon to show that she's a good and enlightened person, it all feels disingenuous.
DeleteFor me si saab
Delete2:36 saab is lowkey. what are you even saying?
Delete2:52 Lowkey? Eh sya nga ang laging may issue. Lagi may reklamo, laging nagra rant sa social media. Have you been living under a rock at di mo alam maissue syang tao?
DeleteAgree with you. Saab has been tagged as the blacksheep but she has changed over the years ans I think Max csnt handle that she isnt the center of the attention.
DeleteMAx is toxic lately.
2:52 pag ba low-key na, siya na ang nasa tama? pano kung low-key passive aggressive?
Deletewell i dont know them personally so cant really say sa away ng magkapatid. if youre also not an insider 2:52, dont judge so quickly.
Between the two, Saab remains the same old Saab, si Maxene yung nag-iba na pa-Vegan/yogi/enlightened chorva na parang hindi naman genuine, at least yung isa honest.
DeleteSi Saab yong madalas may rant sa social media sa social issues.
DeleteKaya di sya magpapatalo.
Si Maxene nman,maingay sya and madaldal nakita q na sya sa restaurant dati.strong personality nong 2,pero mas nakakabata si Saab.
Minsan,pride ang umiiral kaya hindi na magawang mag usap ng magkkapatid,mga anak din sa magulang nila. Walang nagpaparaya kaya iba na talaga ngayon.Natitiis din ang magulang na di kausapin.pag huli na saka magsisisi.
2:07 super agree!
DeleteD na natapos away ng dalawang to. Like every few months me eksena
ReplyDeletePara ngang mag-2 years na sila magkaaway eh, around the time na nanganak si Saab at kinasal si Max. Ano kaya ang pinag-awayan?
DeleteWhat happened to this two? Anong pinag awayan?
ReplyDelete*these
DeleteYoga pa Maxene!
ReplyDeletewell actually si maxene talaga ang bratinella. yun din lang ang masasabi ko.
ReplyDeleteSi Saab naman mukhang self righteous. Cannot tolerate other people's stand on issues.
DeleteMukhang sincere & mabait si Saab.
ReplyDeleteYes she is.
DeleteI know her personally. She really is.
DeleteOutgoing & easy to work with daw nakawork siya ng barkada ko before :)
DeleteSo easy for some people to say na “magkapatid kayo, dapat magkapatawaran” without even knowing what happened. And even if it’s christmas, it wouldnt take away those painful moments that you went through. Me and my older sister are not in speaking terms so I know how it feels. Hahaha
ReplyDeleteme and my brother too, for so long, and i'm not proud of it
DeleteMe and my older sister too. Nakakalungkot. :(
DeleteMe and my sis too ever since our mom died 9 years ago. Hindi madali makipag ayos lalo na kung alam mong hindi Ikaw ang may kasalanan. Good thing lang is that kahit nasa isang lugar kame eh deadma lang. we even have pictures with our family. Basta walang pansinan at parinigan ok saken. And I didn’t teach my kids to hate her. Close pa nga sila pag kasama yung sister ko.
Deleteme and my sister as well :( but i'm glad it happened sobrang toxic na lang kase :(
DeleteSame here at 2:20. May nabasa akong quote "Sometimes, the most poisonous people in your life are disguised as family." It hit me. I realized na kahit anong kabutihan ang gawin mo sa kamag-anak mo (two of my pamangkins and some cousins in this case), ay may sasabihin pa rin silang masama laban sayo. Ikaw na nga ang nagbigay, ikaw pa masama. Nahimasmasan ako. I had to cut them off from my life for good. Even if umuwi ako ng pinas, I'd rather not see or talk to them. Why waste time and energy when all they want to do is hurt and destroy you? From now on, I will no longer care about them. I have to be kind to myself too.
Deletenakakalungkot naman mabasa ang ganito. sana mahanap nio ang right time to forgive and make peace.
Deletehindi yan pinipilit para lang masabing okay na, agree ako dian.
2:20 true! Hindi dahil pasko mandatory na makipagbati.
Delete11:41 omg! I feel you, I had the same issue with my relatives. I had to cut them off too kasi sobra na.
Mother and tita ko ganyan matagal na ding hindi nag-uusap, elementary pa lang ako nun e ngayon nasa mid-30s na ako. Lagi ko naman pinapayo sa mother ko na kahit hindi na sila maging close, kahit civil na lang relationship nila; kapag nagkita sa family gathering e di okay mag-usap. Ilang beses kong inuulit sa mother namin na sa finish line at sa next life e sila-sila pa din naman ang mga magkikita e. Wag na silang mapa-pride/magpataasan ng ihi dahil wag na nilang hintayin na mawala yung isa sa kanila bago pa sila magsisi na hindi sila nagreach out sa isa't isa.
DeleteMahilig sila magaway. I know normal yun sa siblings pero saying lang. Before mamatay Dad nila magkaaway ata sila. Tapos namatay yung isa sa kambal na anak ni Saab, hindi sila okay.
ReplyDeleteOo. Sa magkakapatid sila yung palaging magkaaway. Nung nag sstart palang si Saab na mag artista (sa tv5 pa non) di din sila in good terms. Then nung nawala yung Dad nila, magkaaway din sila non. Nagkabati ulit sila then magkaaway na naman ngayon.
Deletehay ako rin may kaaway! di lang nga kapatid ko.
ReplyDeleteX mas fight. It will save you from buying Xmas gift....hehehe.
ReplyDeleteI like Saab more, but the post of Maxene might be a note for/to herself.
ReplyDeletei don’t let toxic people into my life. wala akong paki kung blood or not. kadalasan yang mga blood pa ang mahilig mag offend dahil they know pipilitin ng buong angkan na patawarin si toxic alang alang sa kapayapaan ng pamilya. get out of jail card yang blood-blood na yan. nope, not for me...doon ako sa loving, kind, considerate, at saka give and take kami.
ReplyDeletebtw lang, there is no such word as “themself.”
Do research: “As singular 'they' becomes more popular, 'themself' is also gaining traction.” Si Saab pa, magkakamali sa grammar? No way.
Deletegaining traction? wrong is wrong, sweetie.
DeleteI’ve been to magalona event before, launching yun ng new design ng shirt ng fmcc tapos kakamatay lang ng dad nila kaya magkakasama sila. Saab is way more approachable than max. Si saab lumalapit talaga sya sa mga tao while si max di pwede ma bother.
ReplyDeletePareho silang kagaya ko mga bratinella maldita. At mukhanh matataas ang pride bar ng magkapatid.
ReplyDeleteNah, you both are a little bit off but are projecting it onto each other lol
ReplyDeletejusko qng magaaway kayo diretsuhin na lang kesa yan parinig parinig pa. grow up!
ReplyDeleteMasasabi ko lang, mukhang nakakatulog ng mahimbing si Saab at mukhang stressed out si Maxene despite her yoga and meditations. Sino kaya mas bothered ang conscience sa kanila
ReplyDeleteAno si Saab yun mabait sa kanilang dalawa?! Ahahaha! Halatang di nyo kilala yun magkapatid. I say, both are equally full of themselves, magaling lang magbait-baitan pareho.
ReplyDeletetrue.
DeleteI tend to side with Maxene. Ma-kuda kasi yung Saab sa social media so baka ganun din sa personal na buhay.
ReplyDeletemay sense naman yung mga kuda ni saab imo so i prefer her over maxene. i find maxene superficial whereas saab is more grounded
DeleteGanyan dn family namin. Di lang kami showbiz.
ReplyDeleteAgree ako sa mga nagsasabing may attitude talaga si maxene. Usap-usapan yan noon pa.
ReplyDeleteYou sound ridiculous 10:21- “agree ako” sa usap usapn...rolls eyes. Get out of here
DeleteSus Saab e ganun din naman post mo
ReplyDelete@2:50 true. It's better off with toxicity so what if it's Christmas. Christmas is a time of joy precisely ridding yourself with toxic people will give you more joy than having them around
ReplyDeleteSaab respetuhin mo ate mo imbes na magka ayos kyo ikaw mahanash patawarin mo na kung may kasalanan sya syo magugunaw na mundo panay away pa kyo
ReplyDeleteGuilty lang, Saab? Pero pa-self righteous pa rin? š
ReplyDeleteParehas sila
DeleteAlam mo isa sa mga iniiwwsan pagtanda ko mag away away kami mag kakapatid especially pag tumanda na kami. Nakakalungkot kaya yun.. kaya ito I truly my best to be an understanding and loving sister to my kuya’s. Maganda din kasi May peace sa heart at walang kaaway
ReplyDeleteSame here. My husband asks me all the time bakit tinotolerate namin yung toxic attitude ng kapatid ko. Imo, dalawa lang kaming magkapatid. Ako mas nakakaintindi, ako na lang mag adjust. Once nag drift apart kasi kami, mahirap na yan ibalik. So, sige lang. laban lang hanggang kaya pa tiisin. This is for our family eh.
DeleteI am too with my older brother. But I don't feel of forgiving him because he didn't even apologize for the wrong deed he did to my younger sister and her 2 kids. Sa tamang panahon siguro.
ReplyDeleteI do not like both of them. Parehas maangas siguro kasi alam nilang smart and beautiful sila.
ReplyDeleteSo may problema ka sa smart ang beautiful and confident?
Delete10 17 na misunderstand mo ata point ni 2:51. or di mo binasa ng mabuti.0
Deletemaangas nga daw. comprehension mo te 10:17
DeleteMay relatives ako na nagtake advantage sa parents ko. I stood up and said something about it. Now they’re mad at me and making parinig sa socmed. So I unfriended them all. I couldn’t believe they could do that to my parents kasi sobrang religious nila. Ang post lagi about kay God.
ReplyDelete