1:20 sensitive if one reacts after being asked once. But if you’re at the receiving end of the same question over and over again, maiinis ka din. And also, it’s the person who’s asking who should be more sensitive with asking personal questions like that because the answers might cause pain for the woman.
Anon 1:20 im sure isa ka sa mahilig magtanong ng ganyan. Yun rude and insensitive questions like kelan k mabubuntis, kelan kayo papakasal ng bf mo, bakit ang taba mo ngayon, bakit wala ka pang jowa. Those questions will never be asked ng mga taong may breeding.
1:20 Hindi OA. In fact she was actually polite pa. Rude na rin ang paulit ulit na tanong. To me same level ito ng rudeness at pagka lacking in social grace as comments on weight at pagiging single. It’s about time Pinoys learned this.
d mo lang alam feelings ng mga babaeng nagttry so hard to get pregnant tapos mga tao pa sa paligid sasabihan kayong "ang hina nyo naman. Wala p bang laman yan? Dalian nyo na at hindi na kayo bumabata."
Excuse me Lang 1:20. You don’t know what someone is going through — fertility problems, personal choices, etc. it’s none of your business. It’s not about being “sensitive”, it’s about RESPECT. What’s so OA about what she said? She said it in a nice manner pa nga.
1:20 well it's rude to ask these type of question. Naging norm lang naman yan dito sa pinas dahil sa mga chismosa nating tita. Which should be stopped already.
Di pa kasi uso sa pinas ang gender sensitivity lalo na sa press. Heller, ni hindi nga mahiwalay ang personal sa professional life ng mga artista ang press con questions!
Anon 1:20 Have you been in the same situation that people around you kept on asking you the same question when you’re going to have a baby? And them not knowing what you’ve been through Or going Through? Na baka nakakailang ivf ka na or iui or you’ve done everything you could but still no baby? If you’ve been there then baka di mo masabi na oa yun or sensitive lang si Anne. Because I know I’ve been there and still going through it.
120...bat ang taba mo? bat ang payat mo? bat wala ka pang boyfriend? tomboy ka? bat wala ka pang girlfriend? bakla ka? bat di ka pa buntis? bat andami mong anak...bat ka tita?
Correct naman si Anne talaga. masyado kasing walang respeto magtanong ang mga tao sa pinas. walang pakundangan. tatanungin anong work mo, san yung address, magkano sueldo mo, too nosey.
True that! Ugaling gusto malaman lahat. May friend na itatanong saan ka nagtatrabaho, ano position mo, may kotse ba, ung bahay rent or owned ... parang helloo te, Hindi naman ako nag aaply ng loan sayo kung makatanong ka...
Nakakainis tong ganito. Tuwing makikita ka, O wala pa ba? Ang hina nyo naman. Naunahan ka pa pa ni ano. Bilisan nyo naman. Seriously, as if naman mauutusan mo ang katawan mo na sige magkababy ka na now na.
o nga sana wag tanong tanong kung kailan kasi di nyo alam ano mafefeel ng taong involve.. ako kahit di ko man kamukha c anne pero im in my 30s n rin my bf naman, naiirita din ako kapag tinatanong na kailan mag aasawa para magkarun n ng anak.. sana nmn maging sensitive tong mga utaw sa mga binibitawang tanong.. mas nakak inis pa after tanong may kasama pang comment na uy 30 kana mahihirapan ka nyang magkaanak..hay nakoooooo.. sarap tampalin eh.. could u just pls shut up n lng..hahayssss...
Mas nakaka pressure kasi kung paulit ulit. What if nag ta try naman talaga sila ng hubby niya sadyang wala pa talaga. I hope respetuhin naman nila yung tao. And stop asking the same question over and over again.
Ewan ko ba at bat ganyan ang naging mentality ng mga pinoy. Bukod sa merong hindi pa naman talaga gusto magka baby, eh hindi mo naman masasabi kung kailan dadating kahit pa gusto
Tama xa! Don't ask us! Kc d nio alam pinagdadaanan nmin. Bk imbes n mkainspire e nakakasama ng loob. Like one of my friend they've been married for 10 yrs at everytime n my mabubuntis n friend nmin lage xa tinatanong kelan nman cl magkkaanak at kita pano xa nsasaktan at nadedepress kc khit gustong gusto nia wala tlga
It's actually impolite to ask that kasi parang too personal and intrusive. Other people may say na sensitive masyado yung naooffend when asked about these questions pero sa true lang, ano bang pake natin sa mga celebs/tao sa plano nila when it comes to pag-aasawa at pagbubuntis? Wala namang tao na in control 100% niyan kung kailan nila mahahanap yung "the one" nila or kung kailan sila magcoconceive so papano nila sasagutin yung tanong? Pag tinanong kailan ka magbebaby masasagot ba ng tao yan na "bukas" o "next week" "next month" etc?
Not all women CAN have children kaya sometimes sasabihin nila it is their choice to not have children. That is the reality. Dami ko kilala na ganyan. Defense mechanism nila.
1:02 Not all women can and not all women want to. I for one DO NOT want children. Why? I don't like children, I can't stand them. Sadly some people can't conceive and I don't blame them for telling people that its their choice not to.
Sobra. Parang wala kang karapatan maging babae, a married one at that, kung wala kang anak. Napaka backward thinking pero karamihan ng elders sa atin ganyan ang paniniwala with matching lecture on human anatomy eh sila tong kailangan ng lecture on etiquette and breeding.
1:41 same here. I do not want to have children but unlike you I like kids. PERO ayoko ng responsibilidad. Ala alaga ng pamangkin ok lang pero iyong ako na ang magpapalaki wag n lang.
Why is it so hard to grasp that some couples don't WANT children, and not just because they CAN'T? I know people who prefer to not add more to the population or juat do not like kids and that's perfectly alright. Bakit ba ipipilit ang panganganak sa iba? There are sooo many unwanted children tapos pipilitin mo yung kaibigan mong ayaw na magkaroon? Why? It's not like you're going to financially support these kids while growing up. You're just an observer. Mind your own life.
Not everyone should have children, even if they biologically could. Mahirap ang buhay ngayon, halos lahat mahal. Mag ipon ka man paano pag biglang may emergency? Why not adopt? There's NOTHING WRONG in not wanting to have kids. Ang dami jan ginagawang investment for old age ang mga anak! So wrong, so very wrong.
@1:02 Excuse me, are you still living at the past? May mga kakilala akong mga ayaw mag-anak or even mag-asawa at hindi yun defense mechanism. Mas mukha pa nga silang masaya at contented kesa dun sa mga may asawa at anak dahil sabi nga nila less stress. Grabe makahusga lang ano?
1:28am We're finally at a time wherein a woman's sole purpose in this world is not just to spew out children. It's nobody's right to keep forcing that upon them or question why they don't have kids yet.
girl are you serious? so if people kept pestering you with questions like 'when are you getting married?', 'when are you having a baby?', 'why aren't you married yet?', 'why don't you have children yet?' you wouldn't be slightly offended at all? LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE.
Hindi sa pagiging sensitive yun. Hindi lahat ng babae kumportable na pinaguusapan yung mga ganyang topic dahil napakapersonal niyan. Kung wala kang empathy sa mga babae either lalaki ka kaya di mo gets o di kaya babaeng may asawa na't anak kaya kebs na sayo kung matanong ka ng ganyan. How about women who wants to have kids pero ang tagal bago mabiyayaan? Or mga gusto na magpakasal pero hindi makatagpo ng matinong lalaki? How do you think would they feel everytime natatanong sila? Maliban sa nakakapressure eh parang ipapafeel pa sayo na there's something wrong with you kasi di ka magkaanak o dahil ayaw mo pa mag asawa.
In this topic kasi, may babaeng hindi mo alam kung ano pinagdadaanan nila para maka buo ng baby. So you have to respect them and be sensitive. Hindi lang to issue ng pagiging sensitive masyado. Try to read that interview kay Gabrielle Union's miscarriages nang magets mo lalo. 🙃
Nakakaoffend naman talaga yung palsging psgtanong sayo ng paulit ulit. Kelan ka ikakasal? Ang tanda mo na! Kelan kayo magkakababy? Tumatanda na kayo mahirapan na kayo magkaanak! Kainis na lang din paulit ulit na tanong. Just leave them be to live the way they want.
Anon 12:57. Hindi sa bawal ang magtanong pero ilugar. Etiquette ba. Ang mga personal na questions hindi mo iyan tinatanong ng basta-basta sa tao. Pakiramdaman mo muna yung kausap mo. Tanungin mo muna sa sarili mo kung close ba kayo? And even if you’re close to that someone, ask yourself if it’s necessary to ask such personal questions. And ask them too kung okay lang ba sa kanila na magtanong ng personal questions. Huwag yung tactless.
Di mo alam ang pakiramdam ng gusto gusto mong magkababy pero kahit anung try mo eh walang nangyayari.. Tapos pag may kamaganak ka imbes na kumustahin ka ang sasabihin sayo eh bakit wala ka pang anak? Ako gustong gusto ko ng magka baby pero sa 2 years na di pa din kami nabibiyayaan ng anak.. Tapos ibng tao ang laging tanong sakin kelan ka magbaby bakit wala ka pang anak,. Sakit nun sa feeling..Nakaka depress na halos..
Artista sya malamang nasa public eye sya, hindi nman ang usapan kung normal na chika lang. Read the headline. Tatanungin b ng media ang kung sino sino lang.
the miseducation of 12:57. why would you ask a woman what she wants to do with her body? is it your womb? are you going to be the godmother? are you her husband? are you going to be the father? will you raise the child? no. even if you are close to her, that is rude. sheesh filipinos always feel entitled like somebody owes them something. please unlearn this toxicity.
2:44 ako hindi artista pero tinatanong at kinukulit kelan ako magkakaanak. Friends ko na bagong kasal at kahit 10 years na kasal, tinatanong din. So ano ngayon point mo?
Artista sya malamang kpag nagkababy sya maglielow sya sa showbiz, kaya tinatanong para malaman ng tao ang appearances nya. Maraming tao ang nawawalan ng trabaho kpag nagkababy ang big star like her. Remember may serye dpat si Juday with Richard Yap, Toni and Piolo serye, maraming natengga dahil nagbuntis ang mga bida. Gets? Big star sya kaya sya tinatanong.
agree with this, Anne! kudos to you for speaking on behalf of every woman. it’s rude to ask someone those questions i.e. when are you getting married, when are you going to have a baby, why you don’t have a baby. everyone has different timeline and priorities. let’s respect that and not let society dictates us.
I think they're trying and it's not happening yet so i understand her frustrations sa mga ganyang tanong. I know the feeling because we've been trying too and we're not very lucky.
Sis my husband and I have been trying for several months and kailan lang kami nakabuo after namin gamitin ung lubricant na nakakatulong mag conceive. Sa Amazon ko sya nabili. Pink ung box not so sure if available sa Pinas
every time na magvacation ako sa pnas lahat ang tanong bakit wala ka pang asawa? ang bigat lang sa dibdib sa totoo lang, mga sobrang entitled, opinionated and all. kaya para maiwasan ang burden dahil sa mga tanong nila wag nalang silang bisitahin. iwas nalang ba
kung ako sayo baks, sasagutin ko sila, "bakit po, tutulungan nyo ba ako financially pag nag-asawa ako? kasi kung Oo, maghahanap ako, now na" para matauhan. alam ko rude yon, pero in the first place kung di sila mga pakialamera, hindi ka naman sasagot ng rude.
Yung mga nagtatanong malamang kamag anak nyo,wala namang press na lumapit sa inyo para magtanong.In the case of kamag anaks etc,madali ng pagsabihan yan.
I know, right? Some showbiz scribes are so tactless. Family planning can be a personal subject for some women especially if they're having a hard time trying to conceive.
It's one of the most tactless thing to ask. You never know if the person is already struggling to conceive, or if she lost the baby. They're just being quiet about it. It's not right to ask when, because it's not something you can force to happen.
True! Mapanood sana to ng mga kamag-anak kong tanong ng tanong kung kelan ako mag-aasawa at kelan ko bibigyan ng apo ang nanay ko. I just want to be the cool & rich aunt who pops up once in a while sa family gatherings. I'm okay with not being married, and if I do get married, I'm not even sure I want kids. So thank you, Anne, for voicing this sentiment so well.
ah! someone after my own heart. may mga babae talaga ayaw lang ng kids. ganoon lang talaga. you can be happily married without kids, by choice. nasa sa iyo na kung mape-pressure ka. kung ayaw ni anne ng anak, eh ano ngayon? pinoy nga naman.
Karamihan sa mga pinoy mahilig makipag compete sa isat isa. Pataasan ng ihi. Kaya sa gatherings lahat tinatanong, ano work mo, magkano sweldo ko, may boyfriend/girlfriend ka ba, ano work ng bf/gf mo, bakit di ka pa nangkakaanak. Dami dami tanong. Pero ang ultimate goal eh para icompare ang sarili sa kamag anak. Kaya ako naka unfriend talaga mga relatives ko sa fb ko, tapos pag nagtatanong sila nginingitian ko na lang. kainis lahat pwede tanungin, mga trivial things na hindi naman ikakaunlad ng buhay ng isat isa.
Tapos yung mga tita, nanay, lola napaka backward, akala mo ang purpose lang ng babae ay manganak at magasawa. Wala naman masama dun pero may mga babae din na gusto magka career at hindi un pure selfishness. Pag walang asawa or anak kahit super successful ng career mo tingin nila ang sad sad ng buhay mo. Tapos sasabihin pa, buti pa si ganito naka tatlo na. Care ko ba, naka tatlo nga nakapisan pa rin at nakaasa pa din sa magulang.
It doesnt make a woman less of a person kung wala syang asawa at anak at a certain age or if she chooses not to have one. May kanya kanya tayong pananaw at gusto sa buhay. Respect na lang.
Yass! I agree! Hindi naman sa may regret ako pero sana nag intay ako bago nag asawa at anak. Kasi sa totoo lang ang hirap mag anak sa panahon ngayon na ang daming evil at cruel sa mundo.. naiisip ko minsan na nandamay pa ko ng mga bata.
I echo Anne's sentiments. I just got married and, when I see friends or acquaintancea or relatives, yun nalang palagi ang question. And when I say, "no plans yet," iniinsist pa nila beliefs nila na kesyo it is better if I have a baby soon at naglelecture pa ng women's health and other things. So intrusive. Di ako celebrity and I feel harrassed by these questions and unsolicited advice; how much more sila Anne and other celebrities who get hounded by this everywhere and by everyone?! I can just imagine.
Asking questions like that to women is like telling them na dapat ngayon na mag-anak na sila or dapat mag-asawa na agad agad. Na para bang napag-iiwanan ka but they're saying that indirectly. Societal pressure. Kaya I support Anne for calling out the media and sana even ordinary people would refrain from asking na rin mga ganyang tanong na in the first place, wala naman silang dapat pake.
That is so disrespectful kasi—- why pressure women? Women now are far different from women 30-20 years ago. We didnt get married because we want to gave children right away. We want dreams achieved with our partners..we will get pregnant when we are ready.
1:35 This time, Hindi OA si Anne. Slow ka lng sa pag pick up, insensitive and self-centered. Kung paulit ulit kang tanungin, ikaw 1:35am, na “bat ang pangit mo, kelan ka gaganda?, eh wala ka namang sagot na maibigay kasi hindi mo rin alam... hindi ka mao-offend at makululitan?
1:35 which hollywood actress do you personally know who gets asked all the time the way filipinos do? americans do not push this agenda on women, we know better, we know what is rude and overstepping boundaries. just because it has been the “norm” does not mean it is okay. you were not the one getting asked, and yet you think she is “oa”. wow the audacity.
Korek! I remember almost a year ako bago mahuntis and everyone is asking kelan daw kami magkakababy. Little did they know we were already undergoing some test and treatment for infertility. Then nung nabuntis ako 3 months after the first baby (unplanned) may mga mema parin na wag na daw muna ako mabuntis! Gosh! Walang mapaglugaran ang mga tao! Buti nalang di ako sensitive masyado. I just shrugged their opinions. :)
Not just the press but everyone should stop asking women when they are gonna marry orbhave a child. It pisses me off when people tell me, "mag-anak ka na, ano ng edad mo." like hello! It's God who decides. Tama si Anne, it will happen in God's perfect time. At tama sya, you don't know what women are goinf through. Napaka insenstitive kase ng mga pinoy, they ask and comment on too personal matters.
Good job Anne for saying that. It's about time someone has to shut down these intrusive questions. Society dictates that a person should study, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids and build a family. If you are smart enough, you should realize you don't have to follow that stages in life everyone is doing. Live your life as you want it. You don't need to get married and have kids if you don't want to.
The reality is people ask questions like when are you going to get married and when are you having babies because they want you to be miserable like them. Naghahanap sila ng karamay sa situation nila. Yes, that's the reason why they ask that questions. So if someone asks you that, politely ignore the question and walk away. Better yet, don't attend gatherings of small minded people.
Stop getting triggered by this scenario.It doesn't apply to me or you.It only applies to celebrities who are being interviewed by mivie reporters.Their opinions become controversial and are being published.So stop cimparing your situation to that of a celebrity.With common people,its usually the relatives who ask or your bestfriend but not the public.So do not be onion skinned about Anne's issue against some reporters.
6:36 Syempre reporters lang ang sasabihin niya kasi hindi naman pwedeng mag mention siya ng may nagtatanong din na kakilala niya. Pero I'm sure they get the message.
We don’t need to be an Anne Curtis or a celebrity to feel offended by these questions. We are all humans. That’s why Anne said stop asking such question to all women because celebrity or not we all feel the same pain, undergo same struggles, you know women issues. We are talking about feelings here and not social status in life.
Yes. Let us all live our lives based on our own time schedule. Hindi natin obligasyon to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, get married, have kids kahit hindi tayo ready para lang may maisagot tayo sa mga tanong ng tao sa atin. I really think it's a pinoy thing.
Typical pinoy: Saan ka nagaaral? Anong trabaho mo? Magkano sinu-sweldo mo? Kailan ka magkaka boyfriend/girlfriend? Bakit wala ka pang BF/GF? Kailan ka magaasawa? Kailan ka magaanak? Tumaba ka! Pumayat ka!
Ano dapat tanong? How's the weather? Or what is the unemployment rate last month? What do you thing about the tension in the Middle East between Iran and the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia? Mababaw ang Pinoy so leave them alone.
12:18 Yung first 2 questions siguro pwede pa. The rest, masyadong intrusive. Paano kung may personal reason na hindi niya gustong i-share? Alam mo ba kung gaanong awkward yun? Ako nga tinatanong kung kailan magka BF or asawa, tapos sasagutin ko na wala pa akong balak, titingnan ako na parang may mali sa akin!
HIndi nga ba karamihan ng problema ng Pilipinas ay reflection rin ng values ng mamamayan? Dito na lang may hihirit pang walang mali sa ganitong ugali eh. Minsan nakaka walang pag asa makakita marami pa rin talaga sila...
Nakakapikon na to be honest. I am receiving the same question for more than 10 years. Walang pera? “Magagawan yan ng paraan”!. Eh di ikaw gumawa wag mo kami idamay
It took us 8 long painful years bago kami nagka-anak ng mister ko. In those years, ilang failed procedures. And yet, when people see us, even those in the know, they keep asking kelan kami magkaka-anak, bakit ang tagal daw, etc. It was too much so that pag may okasyon, we just skip them. We avoided gatherings and parties. Pag pasko at bagong taon, nood na lang kami ng sine. It was a very lonely and isolating period pero we'd rather have that than the constant badgering. It was also an eye opener for me as a Pinoy. Ngayon, I am careful about asking questions and have become more sensitive. Meaning, I steer clear of asking personal questions unless the person volunteers the information themselves. Even then, I quickly change the topic kasi I know what follows next. Ikaw naman ang kukulitin to reveal private information. In other words, mas lalo akong naging introvert.
Dito sa Uk, sa work ko pa lang, majority ng mga lalaki lalo na babae hndi lang s ayaw mag anak, ayaw talaga nila s bata. Kaya dito napakalaki mong mangmang pag ang isang taong may asawa tatanungin mo ng ganyan
A coworker just asked me this question today. And when I told her na it just wasn't in our plans yet, she said, "Ah, trabaho siguro muna inaatupag ninyong mag-asawa. Siguro andami mo ng pera ano?" Gusto ko na talagang sagutin ng pilosopo kaso mas matanda siya sakin at ayokong maka insulto.
I have been married for almost 2 yrs and we are trying for a baby pero wala pa din. Nakaka-insecure and depressed sya sa totoo lang na wala parin month over month pero i choose not to share our battles coz its a sensitive and deeply personal matter to us. Kaya i feel what anne is saying here.
Because Anne married not just to have children but she married because of companionship. Pra legal cla ni Erwin. If dadating ung baby, then good. If not, so good parin. Wag nyo itulad kgustuhan nyo sa idol nyo. People have diff reasons why they marry someone
Most of the time I dont agree with Anne, pro at this aspect i do. She felt pressured nung sya na lang hindi pa kinakasal that time..then nung kinasal nya..baby naman ngayon. George, Isabel and now Solenn is pregnant..sympre dba..she had always expressed her slef of wanting to be a mother. 1 month sila ng honeymoon pero wala pa rin. so lets all be a little nicer malay natin baka may pinagdadaan sya..
ang tanong na kung kelan ka magkakababy ay pareho lng sa tanong na kung kelan ka mgaasawa..nakakairitang tanong. napaka insensitive ng mga taong panay tanong ng ganyan. Meron ngtanong sakin, asan daw ang asawa ko.. in the first place wala aqng asawa, npakabastos ng tanong, at napaka insensitive. mas tamang itanong ang: may bf/gf kna ba?..
Naku that's true, naranasan ko na din yan. Or ganyan yata ang thinking ng mga Pinoy. Na pag nagpakasal anak agad. Nakakarindi kasi kapag paulit-ulit na tinatanong at nakakasakit na minsan ng feelings. I got married at 30 na kasi, bf ko for 3 years, noong di pa kami magpapakasal bakit daw pinapatagal pa. Noong married na kami bakit daw 6 months wala pa kong baby. Kahit choice namin muna na mag-ipon pampagawa ng bahay. Nakaka-pressure ang mga tanong na ganyan sa totoo lang, parang malaking kasalanan kundi ka mag anak agad.
Kung siya kelan makakaanak ako naman “kelan ka mag aasawa ang Tanda mo na mahihirapan ka magka anak niyan”
Loob loob ko, sino ka para sabihan sa Akin yan? Hawak mo buhay ko tita ay Tito? I will get freakin married when the times come and I’m blessed to a baby Edi good. It’s all about timing late man or maaga.
Yan ang ugali Pinoy na hate na hate ko. Marami na ako kamag anak na tinarayan becaus of thet questions kasi paulit ulit na Lang. Pwede naman kamusta kana? Hinde Iba na ngayon una kita pa Lang sayo “Ikaw na kelan ka makakaanak at asawa” diba.
Kahit sa mga friends ko wala pa baby I don’t ask it careful ako I wait them if sila mag open when they plan to have a baby.
It's part of your job to answer questions from the press Anne Curtis. Puro perks of the trade lang ang gusto mo? Entitled celebrity sumikat at yumaman sa hype. Suck it up buttercup.
Magkaiba ang tanong lang sa tanong na may pressure like "kailan kayo magkakaanak?". & hindi kayo entitled na pigain ang celebrities about sa personal life nila.
Toxic Pinoy attitude. It's actually inappropriate to ask women when they plan to get married or get pregnant and have children, in the same manner that it's rude to tell someone "ang taba mo". if you don't find it rude, then you have a problem.
@921 Agree. Sadly halos wala na ata kausap sa kin kasi ang taba ko na nga, tapos wala ako ng anak. so palagi comment sa kin, ang taba mo na kaya wala ka anak etc. di na ako nakapigil sumagot na rin ako ng, buti na lang taba and no anak lang at hindi pangit mukha ang ugali like you or something nasty as well. Ayun labo-labo na. Alam ko mali pero minsan kelamgan ng golpe de gulat din para matauhan.
Sa bungad pa lang nakasulat naman sa FP that Anne's problem is the PRESS.Ibang pananaw if nanay nya or kapatid nya nagtanong sa kanya.Pero pres nagtatanong para makahanap ng scoop sa artista.
To those people here who compare yourselves to Anne,stop your illusions.You are not a celebrity.Anne is talking here about her experience in ambush interviews with all the reporters asking about her thoughts about her pregnancy.It has nothing to do with you.Sure you are asked by friends or your own family members but you are not a celebrity.Your issues are not published for the whole world to pry on.So get a life.This is not about you.
Buti nga may sharing dito of their experiences,thoughts, nakkatulong pampagaan sa pakiramdam about those same situation like Anne.. Good sharing yong nangyayari..
Di ka ata nanuod. Sabi ni anne she is speaking in behalf of other women. Meaning ina acknowledge nya and experience ng bawat babae kahit ano pa katayuan sa buhay. Kung sya aware sya na naexperience tyan ng bawat babae sino ka para sabihin na focus lang tong experience kay anne. Duh
1:23 AM And you must be one of those annoying titas we avoid at reunions. Not seeing the bigger picture, asking personal questions to satisfy your curiosity but not caring if intrusive ka na. Tsk tsk.
Kung lahat ng problema ng artista,relate kayo ,you will live a depressing life.Kasi ang sabi naman sa caption ni FPMalinaw,Anne is talking about the PRESS here.Ibang usapan sa people who are closest to your heart.Mapagbibigyan mo mga ganyang tanong pag nanay mo nagtanong sa iyo because the context is different.So for you to be greatly affected by Anne's rants is unecessary.Problema nya na yan sa career niya.
Anne, artista ka kasi and married at that. Ano pa ba pwede itanong ng press San iyo? Tapos na movies mo. Maybe there is nothing to ask about? Pa salamat ka jan lang at may nagtatanong pa sa iyo. Mag alala ka kung wala na, di ba? I guess, pressured na din si Anne e. Lahat kasi ng barkada nya May mga anak na. Siya na lang ang Wala.
So porket lahat ng barkada nya may anak na ipe pressure mo na rin si Anne na mag anak? Paano kung ayaw pala niya poproblemahin mo ba yun? Maapektuhan ba ang budget mo sa bahay? Wag pangunahan ang ibang tao sa kung ano gusto nila gawin sa buhay nila. Maging sensitibo po tayo.
1:49 Mga pwede itanong kay Anne: What is your next project? Any new hobbies? How is Erwan? Will you consider starring in a project with Jasmine in the near future? What are your advocacies?
true! tama si Anne, u dont know their story and pano kung matagal na pala sila nagttry and then they just couldnt or may something wrong... would u like to subject them to such emotional moment in front of the media! it's just a possibility that no one would want to be done to yourselves if you'd be in that same predicament. goshness kasi ung ibang press people!
Pang 'small talk' ng karamihan yang mga ganyang topics, lalo na mga Pinoy. Bakit ba yung mga american colleagues ko di naman ganyan ang tinatanong pag nag ssmall talk. They talk about the weather, or their favorite sport.. sà Pinas kasi parang buhay lang ng ibang tao ang gusto lagi pag usapan
Tama ung sinabi ni Anne. Pero may konti rin kasing problema sa part nya. Tama. Sikat sya, public figure, she aged na, at marami na rin syang achievements. Nakakapagtaka lang kung bakit d pa pinaplano mgkababy? I know her fans excited na rin dun eh. Kelan pa? Dati din inaaway ko ung mga pinepressure sya. Pero tama paulit ulit na rin kasi so dapat kumilos na si Anne. Dapat malaman ng fans nya whats happening.
Thanks Anne. For saying what's on our mind. It hurts when people keep asking the same thing, kung kelan magkaanak, magpakasal etc. D b pedeng hindi nmin kagustuhan ang situation n to. Salamat Anne s pagrepresenta sa amin.
Iba yun kasi ang married couple usually kaanak nila o yung malapit sa kanila ang nagtatanong hindi yung press o kung sino lang.Si madali naman din sagutin kung mga kasama mo sa bahay ang nagtatanong sa ito.Wag gumawa ng issue sa non issue.Live your own life and be happy.
Una sa lahat, huwag magtanong sa iba kung kelan nila gusto maganak, dahil hindi kayo ang bubuhay hamambuhay sa anak. Kaya third world tayo taghirap lower class wala pinagaralan wala trabaho madami anak hindi kasi pinagiisipan nakapako sa makalumang tradisyon na dapat anak lang ng anak magpadami ng lahi. Kawawa mga anak hindi kaya buhayin ng magulang. #responsibleparenthood
Ganyan talaga ang typical pinoy. Una tatanungin ka: "kelan ka magkaka-boyfriend or girlfriend?" After that, tatanong naman ng "kelan kayo ikakasal?" Pag kinasal na, "kelan kayo magkaka-anak?" Well, natural lang naman magtanong. Pero yung paulit-ulit na lang na parang sirang plaka, siyempre nakakairita. By the way, I find that most foreigners are not like that. During my travels to other countries, hindi sila ganon. Hindi sila masyadong nakikialam sa buhay mo. Minsan magtatanong pero after that, hindi na uulit. Siguro mga chismosa at chismoso lang tayo. Hehehe.
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ReplyDeleteWala namang masamang magtanong, oa at napaka sensitive lang ni Anne.
Delete1:20 i hope someone will pester you about something that you find offensive and rude!
Delete1:20 wala nga masama magtanong pero lht ba dpt itanong? nakakapressure kaya yun
Delete1:20 kung paulit ulit nd ka mappikon?
Delete1:20 insensitive at disrespectful ka lang
DeleteHindi oa yun, at yung nagtatanong ang insensitive.
Delete1:20 sensitive if one reacts after being asked once. But if you’re at the receiving end of the same question over and over again, maiinis ka din. And also, it’s the person who’s asking who should be more sensitive with asking personal questions like that because the answers might cause pain for the woman.
DeleteJust like Solenn. She and Nico have been trying rin to conceive but now lang naging successful ang pregnancy.
DeleteOther couples also try kasi natural pregnancy and IVF. Yung iba, tatanong lang kung kailan.
1:20am walang masamang magtanong pero kung paulit ulit na at andami dami na nila. At ang kulit kulit na nila. Nakakarindi na .
DeleteAnon 1:20 im sure isa ka sa mahilig magtanong ng ganyan. Yun rude and insensitive questions like kelan k mabubuntis, kelan kayo papakasal ng bf mo, bakit ang taba mo ngayon, bakit wala ka pang jowa. Those questions will never be asked ng mga taong may breeding.
Delete1:20 Hindi OA. In fact she was actually polite pa. Rude na rin ang paulit ulit na tanong. To me same level ito ng rudeness at pagka lacking in social grace as comments on weight at pagiging single. It’s about time Pinoys learned this.
Deleted mo lang alam feelings ng mga babaeng nagttry so hard to get pregnant tapos mga tao pa sa paligid sasabihan kayong "ang hina nyo naman. Wala p bang laman yan? Dalian nyo na at hindi na kayo bumabata."
DeleteExcuse me Lang 1:20. You don’t know what someone is going through — fertility problems, personal choices, etc. it’s none of your business. It’s not about being “sensitive”, it’s about RESPECT. What’s so OA about what she said? She said it in a nice manner pa nga.
Delete1:20 well it's rude to ask these type of question. Naging norm lang naman yan dito sa pinas dahil sa mga chismosa nating tita. Which should be stopped already.
Delete1:20 ang tawag dun tactlesss or better nga yung rude siguro.
DeleteNapanood ko lang sa movie ni Jodi dati, pag tinanong ka ng mga ganung rude question ibalik mo din ng tanong like “ikaw, kelan ka mamamatay?”. Hahaha
Di pa kasi uso sa pinas ang gender sensitivity lalo na sa press. Heller, ni hindi nga mahiwalay ang personal sa professional life ng mga artista ang press con questions!
DeleteAnon 1:20 it’s not polite. No one has the right to ask that question to women. You still have that Dark Age mentality. Where are your manners?
Delete1:20 hindi OA but rude definitely.
DeleteAnon 1:20 Have you been in the same situation that people around you kept on asking you the same question when you’re going to have a baby? And them not knowing what you’ve been through Or going Through? Na baka nakakailang ivf ka na or iui or you’ve done everything you could but still no baby? If you’ve been there then baka di mo masabi na oa yun or sensitive lang si Anne. Because I know I’ve been there and still going through it.
Delete120...bat ang taba mo? bat ang payat mo? bat wala ka pang boyfriend? tomboy ka? bat wala ka pang girlfriend? bakla ka? bat di ka pa buntis? bat andami mong anak...bat ka tita?
DeleteHindi mo ma control ang bukambibig ng ibang tao.Ikaw lang ang makocontrol mo.
Delete1:20 typical pakialamero excuse. Wala kang nakikitang mali kasi pakialamero ka at insensitive sa feelings ng iba masatisfy lang yung curiosity mo.
DeleteCorrect naman si Anne talaga. masyado kasing walang respeto magtanong ang mga tao sa pinas. walang pakundangan. tatanungin anong work mo, san yung address, magkano sueldo mo, too nosey.
ReplyDeleteI just throw it back at them and be just as rude.
DeleteIt’s a private matter. People are rude when they ask that, lalo na meron people who ask just to irritate on purpose talaga
DeleteTrue that! Ugaling gusto malaman lahat. May friend na itatanong saan ka nagtatrabaho, ano position mo, may kotse ba, ung bahay rent or owned ... parang helloo te, Hindi naman ako nag aaply ng loan sayo kung makatanong ka...
DeleteNakakainis tong ganito. Tuwing makikita ka, O wala pa ba? Ang hina nyo naman. Naunahan ka pa pa ni ano. Bilisan nyo naman. Seriously, as if naman mauutusan mo ang katawan mo na sige magkababy ka na now na.
DeleteThat is not Annes problem,iba ang sinasabi dito.
DeleteAng linaw sa caption.THE PRESS should stop asking.So its Anne's peoblem dealing with press people.
DeleteTama Naman si Anne....I agree
ReplyDeleteThere are people who are just plain rude, insensitive and just don’t get it!
Deleteo nga sana wag tanong tanong kung kailan kasi di nyo alam ano mafefeel ng taong involve.. ako kahit di ko man kamukha c anne pero im in my 30s n rin my bf naman, naiirita din ako kapag tinatanong na kailan mag aasawa para magkarun n ng anak.. sana nmn maging sensitive tong mga utaw sa mga binibitawang tanong.. mas nakak inis pa after tanong may kasama pang comment na uy 30 kana mahihirapan ka nyang magkaanak..hay nakoooooo.. sarap tampalin eh.. could u just pls shut up n lng..hahayssss...
DeleteMas nakaka pressure kasi kung paulit ulit. What if nag ta try naman talaga sila ng hubby niya sadyang wala pa talaga. I hope respetuhin naman nila yung tao. And stop asking the same question over and over again.
DeleteTrue. It’s as if bang magkaka baby ka kung kailan mo gusto para tanungin ka kung kailan ba magkaka baby
ReplyDeleteSome are just lazy and can’t think of any other question.
ReplyDeleteThey should have just shut up and smiled.
DeleteEwan ko ba at bat ganyan ang naging mentality ng mga pinoy. Bukod sa merong hindi pa naman talaga gusto magka baby, eh hindi mo naman masasabi kung kailan dadating kahit pa gusto
ReplyDeleteHindi naman sya Pinoy thing lang. May ibang lahi din namam na ganyan. May mga Pinoy din namam na hindi ganyan ugali.
DeleteTama xa! Don't ask us! Kc d nio alam pinagdadaanan nmin. Bk imbes n mkainspire e nakakasama ng loob. Like one of my friend they've been married for 10 yrs at everytime n my mabubuntis n friend nmin lage xa tinatanong kelan nman cl magkkaanak at kita pano xa nsasaktan at nadedepress kc khit gustong gusto nia wala tlga
ReplyDeleteSame here. It really hurts when people ask questions like that.
DeleteTrue, hayaan nyo lang at dadating din ang panahon na mabubuntis din yan.
ReplyDeleteIt's actually impolite to ask that kasi parang too personal and intrusive. Other people may say na sensitive masyado yung naooffend when asked about these questions pero sa true lang, ano bang pake natin sa mga celebs/tao sa plano nila when it comes to pag-aasawa at pagbubuntis? Wala namang tao na in control 100% niyan kung kailan nila mahahanap yung "the one" nila or kung kailan sila magcoconceive so papano nila sasagutin yung tanong? Pag tinanong kailan ka magbebaby masasagot ba ng tao yan na "bukas" o "next week" "next month" etc?
ReplyDeleteTama yung mga comments na from weight to sweldo - ni hindi man lang nila alam gaano ka gaspang na gawain ang pagsabi ng mga 'to.
Deleteit bothers me how some people think women SHOULD have children!! fyi not all women want to and that's their choice!
ReplyDeleteNot all women CAN have children kaya sometimes sasabihin nila it is their choice to not have children. That is the reality. Dami ko kilala na ganyan. Defense mechanism nila.
DeleteExactly!
DeleteHindi lang yun. There are women like me, who’s uncomfortable with the questions kasi we have issues. Ano yun ikukwento namin sa lahat ng magtatanong?
Delete1:02, yun pala eh so the more people should mind their own business di ba?
DeleteAnd they need that defense mechanism dahil sa mga ganyang tanong
Delete1:02 Not all women can and not all women want to. I for one DO NOT want children. Why? I don't like children, I can't stand them. Sadly some people can't conceive and I don't blame them for telling people that its their choice not to.
Delete1:02 FYI, hindi naman defense mechanism lang yan. not all women WANT to have children even if they CAN. meron talagang ayaw magkaanak.
DeleteGoes both ways, not only women, men too. Stop asking when to get married, have a baby or why still single.
DeleteHindi na ata talaga mawawala ang kagaspangan sa maraming tao.
Delete1:02 can or want pa yan wala kang pakialam, pati ang ibang tao.. Eh kung kayo tanungin kayo kelan kayo yayaman ng mga anak mo?!
Delete1:41 same here I dont like kids too. But sad to know that a lot if Filipinos look down at us and questions our decision.
DeleteAko din, I don't like kids too. I'd rather have pets.
DeleteSobra. Parang wala kang karapatan maging babae, a married one at that, kung wala kang anak. Napaka backward thinking pero karamihan ng elders sa atin ganyan ang paniniwala with matching lecture on human anatomy eh sila tong kailangan ng lecture on etiquette and breeding.
DeleteAgree 2:57. Masaya ba sila na meron silang anak? Or marami silang anak? Nabubuhay mo ba sila ng maayos?
DeleteYung iba nga 2 anak nila, pero kailangan umalis at mag-ibang bansa kasi wala or kulang ang pera nila para sa kanilang pamilya. Kaya to each his own.
Delete1:02,bakit parang ayaw mo maniwala na hindi lahat gustong magka anak? Oo, may mga babae na talagang AYAW, at hindi lang dahil hindi kaya.
Delete1:41 same here. I do not want to have children but unlike you I like kids. PERO ayoko ng responsibilidad. Ala alaga ng pamangkin ok lang pero iyong ako na ang magpapalaki wag n lang.
DeleteWhy is it so hard to grasp that some couples don't WANT children, and not just because they CAN'T? I know people who prefer to not add more to the population or juat do not like kids and that's perfectly alright. Bakit ba ipipilit ang panganganak sa iba? There are sooo many unwanted children tapos pipilitin mo yung kaibigan mong ayaw na magkaroon? Why? It's not like you're going to financially support these kids while growing up. You're just an observer. Mind your own life.
DeleteNot everyone should have children, even if they biologically could. Mahirap ang buhay ngayon, halos lahat mahal. Mag ipon ka man paano pag biglang may emergency? Why not adopt? There's NOTHING WRONG in not wanting to have kids. Ang dami jan ginagawang investment for old age ang mga anak! So wrong, so very wrong.
Delete@1:02 Excuse me, are you still living at the past?
DeleteMay mga kakilala akong mga ayaw mag-anak or even mag-asawa at hindi yun defense mechanism.
Mas mukha pa nga silang masaya at contented kesa dun sa mga may asawa at anak dahil sabi nga nila less stress.
Grabe makahusga lang ano?
majority of filipinos are close minded and that's the truth
ReplyDelete12:57 the question children has been asked of married couples since the time began and only snowflakes of today are triggered by that question.
DeleteAlso, majority of pinoys are usyoso, then make use of whatever information for gossip.
DeleteGrabe no? Yung mga ganyang tipo ng tao, yan nga talaga dapat ang ma bully. Baka sakaling magtanda't makuhang kay sama ng ganito ugali.
Delete1:28am We're finally at a time wherein a woman's sole purpose in this world is not just to spew out children. It's nobody's right to keep forcing that upon them or question why they don't have kids yet.
Deletemajority of pinoys are just inggit and rumor mongerers
Delete1:28 Snowflakes na pala ang tawag sa babaeng may control sa sarili nyang katawan?? Haha
DeleteWag masyadong sensitive, lahat na lang bawal. Lahat na lang ikakaoffend.
ReplyDeletegirl are you serious? so if people kept pestering you with questions like 'when are you getting married?', 'when are you having a baby?', 'why aren't you married yet?', 'why don't you have children yet?' you wouldn't be slightly offended at all? LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE.
DeleteWell it’s not your right to ask them that. How nosey of you 12:57.
DeleteHindi rin ako masyadong sensitive sa mga bagay bagay, pero matuto tayong lumugar. Hindi lahat dapat itanong at hindi lahat kailangan nating malaman.
Delete12:57 if it's a repetitive question, nakaka offend na talaga
Deletepinagsasabi mo
Deletealam mo ba kung gaano kabigat at kasakit ang tanong na bat wala pa kayong anak for someone who has been trying for years? fyi i had two failed ivf.
DeleteHindi sa pagiging sensitive yun. Hindi lahat ng babae kumportable na pinaguusapan yung mga ganyang topic dahil napakapersonal niyan. Kung wala kang empathy sa mga babae either lalaki ka kaya di mo gets o di kaya babaeng may asawa na't anak kaya kebs na sayo kung matanong ka ng ganyan. How about women who wants to have kids pero ang tagal bago mabiyayaan? Or mga gusto na magpakasal pero hindi makatagpo ng matinong lalaki? How do you think would they feel everytime natatanong sila? Maliban sa nakakapressure eh parang ipapafeel pa sayo na there's something wrong with you kasi di ka magkaanak o dahil ayaw mo pa mag asawa.
DeleteIn this topic kasi, may babaeng hindi mo alam kung ano pinagdadaanan nila para maka buo ng baby. So you have to respect them and be sensitive. Hindi lang to issue ng pagiging sensitive masyado. Try to read that interview kay Gabrielle Union's miscarriages nang magets mo lalo. 🙃
DeleteNakakaoffend naman talaga yung palsging psgtanong sayo ng paulit ulit. Kelan ka ikakasal? Ang tanda mo na! Kelan kayo magkakababy? Tumatanda na kayo mahirapan na kayo magkaanak! Kainis na lang din paulit ulit na tanong. Just leave them be to live the way they want.
DeleteIf you find it insensitive, malamang isa ka sa mga taong matanong sa kapwa mo.
DeleteAnon 12:57. Hindi sa bawal ang magtanong pero ilugar. Etiquette ba. Ang mga personal na questions hindi mo iyan tinatanong ng basta-basta sa tao. Pakiramdaman mo muna yung kausap mo. Tanungin mo muna sa sarili mo kung close ba kayo? And even if you’re close to that someone, ask yourself if it’s necessary to ask such personal questions. And ask them too kung okay lang ba sa kanila na magtanong ng personal questions. Huwag yung tactless.
Deleteonga mabilis maoffend si Anne pero pag kumanta sya kebs sya sa mga offended sa boses nya ha ha
Delete12:57 kung paulit ulit na lang nkkainis na tlaga. You have no idea kung anong pinagdadaanan nung tao.
DeleteDi mo alam ang pakiramdam ng gusto gusto mong magkababy pero kahit anung try mo eh walang nangyayari.. Tapos pag may kamaganak ka imbes na kumustahin ka ang sasabihin sayo eh bakit wala ka pang anak? Ako gustong gusto ko ng magka baby pero sa 2 years na di pa din kami nabibiyayaan ng anak.. Tapos ibng tao ang laging tanong sakin kelan ka magbaby bakit wala ka pang anak,. Sakit nun sa feeling..Nakaka depress na halos..
DeleteI am glad people are speaking out against behaving like these.
DeleteArtista sya malamang nasa public eye sya, hindi nman ang usapan kung normal na chika lang. Read the headline. Tatanungin b ng media ang kung sino sino lang.
Deletethe miseducation of 12:57. why would you ask a woman what she wants to do with her body? is it your womb? are you going to be the godmother? are you her husband? are you going to be the father? will you raise the child? no. even if you are close to her, that is rude. sheesh filipinos always feel entitled like somebody owes them something. please unlearn this toxicity.
Delete2:44 ako hindi artista pero tinatanong at kinukulit kelan ako magkakaanak. Friends ko na bagong kasal at kahit 10 years na kasal, tinatanong din. So ano ngayon point mo?
Deletenasa makalumang panahon pa kasi si anon 12:57am kaya ganyan belief niya. Paano kasi pakialamera din
DeleteArtista sya malamang kpag nagkababy sya maglielow sya sa showbiz, kaya tinatanong para malaman ng tao ang appearances nya. Maraming tao ang nawawalan ng trabaho kpag nagkababy ang big star like her. Remember may serye dpat si Juday with Richard Yap, Toni and Piolo serye, maraming natengga dahil nagbuntis ang mga bida. Gets? Big star sya kaya sya tinatanong.
Deleteagree with this, Anne! kudos to you for speaking on behalf of every woman. it’s rude to ask someone those questions i.e. when are you getting married, when are you going to have a baby, why you don’t have a baby. everyone has different timeline and priorities. let’s respect that and not let society dictates us.
ReplyDeleteVery true!
DeleteInsensitive at disrespectful naman kasi talaga
ReplyDeletei feel so bad her 😭 parang sobrang pressured sya to get pregnant these days ugh! leave her alone
ReplyDeleteI think they're trying and it's not happening yet so i understand her frustrations sa mga ganyang tanong. I know the feeling because we've been trying too and we're not very lucky.
ReplyDeleteSis my husband and I have been trying for several months and kailan lang kami nakabuo after namin gamitin ung lubricant na nakakatulong mag conceive. Sa Amazon ko sya nabili. Pink ung box not so sure if available sa Pinas
Deleteevery time na magvacation ako sa pnas lahat ang tanong bakit wala ka pang asawa? ang bigat lang sa dibdib sa totoo lang, mga sobrang entitled, opinionated and all. kaya para maiwasan ang burden dahil sa mga tanong nila wag nalang silang bisitahin. iwas nalang ba
ReplyDeletesame baks. when i go home i only see my immediate family and friends because they never ask these questions
Deletekung ako sayo baks, sasagutin ko sila, "bakit po, tutulungan nyo ba ako financially pag nag-asawa ako? kasi kung Oo, maghahanap ako, now na" para matauhan. alam ko rude yon, pero in the first place kung di sila mga pakialamera, hindi ka naman sasagot ng rude.
Delete9:03 hahaha tama ibalik sa kanila. O kaya bago ka magtanong sa akin ng personal na bagay e naligo ka na ba? Toothbrush? 😂
DeleteYung mga nagtatanong malamang kamag anak nyo,wala namang press na lumapit sa inyo para magtanong.In the case of kamag anaks etc,madali ng pagsabihan yan.
DeleteI know, right? Some showbiz scribes are so tactless. Family planning can be a personal subject for some women especially if they're having a hard time trying to conceive.
ReplyDeleteDi lang scribes. Dami ganoon ang feeling. Yung entitled to be crass. Kung meron siguro dapat ma shame or ma bash eh mga ganyang mga uri ng tao.
DeleteIt's one of the most tactless thing to ask. You never know if the person is already struggling to conceive, or if she lost the baby. They're just being quiet about it. It's not right to ask when, because it's not something you can force to happen.
ReplyDeleteKaso ang tact may connect din sa pinag aralan eh. Dami wala niyan.
DeleteProblema na yan ng mga artista at writers kung pano nila ihandle.
DeleteTrue! Mapanood sana to ng mga kamag-anak kong tanong ng tanong kung kelan ako mag-aasawa at kelan ko bibigyan ng apo ang nanay ko. I just want to be the cool & rich aunt who pops up once in a while sa family gatherings. I'm okay with not being married, and if I do get married, I'm not even sure I want kids. So thank you, Anne, for voicing this sentiment so well.
ReplyDeleteah! someone after my own heart. may mga babae talaga ayaw lang ng kids. ganoon lang talaga. you can be happily married without kids, by choice. nasa sa iyo na kung mape-pressure ka. kung ayaw ni anne ng anak, eh ano ngayon? pinoy nga naman.
DeleteGood for you!!!
DeleteNako same tayo sis. Gusto ko maging cool aunt na hihingan ng pera ng mga pamangkin. Hahahahaha. Naku dedmahin na lang natin sila.
DeleteKaramihan sa mga pinoy mahilig makipag compete sa isat isa. Pataasan ng ihi. Kaya sa gatherings lahat tinatanong, ano work mo, magkano sweldo ko, may boyfriend/girlfriend ka ba, ano work ng bf/gf mo, bakit di ka pa nangkakaanak. Dami dami tanong. Pero ang ultimate goal eh para icompare ang sarili sa kamag anak. Kaya ako naka unfriend talaga mga relatives ko sa fb ko, tapos pag nagtatanong sila nginingitian ko na lang. kainis lahat pwede tanungin, mga trivial things na hindi naman ikakaunlad ng buhay ng isat isa.
ReplyDeleteTapos yung mga tita, nanay, lola napaka backward, akala mo ang purpose lang ng babae ay manganak at magasawa. Wala naman masama dun pero may mga babae din na gusto magka career at hindi un pure selfishness. Pag walang asawa or anak kahit super successful ng career mo tingin nila ang sad sad ng buhay mo. Tapos sasabihin pa, buti pa si ganito naka tatlo na. Care ko ba, naka tatlo nga nakapisan pa rin at nakaasa pa din sa magulang.
It doesnt make a woman less of a person kung wala syang asawa at anak at a certain age or if she chooses not to have one. May kanya kanya tayong pananaw at gusto sa buhay. Respect na lang.
Preach gurl preach!
DeleteBravo!
Deletegirl 1:05am. i love you!!!! malaking check gamit ang red ballpen.
DeleteI dont know you but I LOVE you girl!!! PREACH!
DeleteYass! I agree! Hindi naman sa may regret ako pero sana nag intay ako bago nag asawa at anak. Kasi sa totoo lang ang hirap mag anak sa panahon ngayon na ang daming evil at cruel sa mundo.. naiisip ko minsan na nandamay pa ko ng mga bata.
DeleteThank you Anne for saying it
ReplyDeleteI echo Anne's sentiments. I just got married and, when I see friends or acquaintancea or relatives, yun nalang palagi ang question. And when I say, "no plans yet," iniinsist pa nila beliefs nila na kesyo it is better if I have a baby soon at naglelecture pa ng women's health and other things. So intrusive. Di ako celebrity and I feel harrassed by these questions and unsolicited advice; how much more sila Anne and other celebrities who get hounded by this everywhere and by everyone?! I can just imagine.
ReplyDeleteCan relate.
DeleteAsking questions like that to women is like telling them na dapat ngayon na mag-anak na sila or dapat mag-asawa na agad agad. Na para bang napag-iiwanan ka but they're saying that indirectly. Societal pressure. Kaya I support Anne for calling out the media and sana even ordinary people would refrain from asking na rin mga ganyang tanong na in the first place, wala naman silang dapat pake.
ReplyDeleteTama naman kasi. Lalo na mga kamag anak mong tsismosa, kelan ka magaasawa? Kelan ka magkaka baby?
ReplyDeleteAng dami nila na ganyan
DeleteThat is so disrespectful kasi—- why pressure women? Women now are far different from women 30-20 years ago. We didnt get married because we want to gave children right away. We want dreams achieved with our partners..we will get pregnant when we are ready.
ReplyDeleteSus. O.A naman si anne. Maski s hollywood tinatanong yun. Gusto malaman ng mga fans nila yun eh.
ReplyDeleteYou lack GMRC
Delete1:35 This time, Hindi OA si Anne. Slow ka lng sa pag pick up, insensitive and self-centered. Kung paulit ulit kang tanungin, ikaw 1:35am, na “bat ang pangit mo, kelan ka gaganda?, eh wala ka namang sagot na maibigay kasi hindi mo rin alam... hindi ka mao-offend at makululitan?
DeleteLol anong Hollywood?? Hindi po ganyan sa Pilipinas, kadiri kayo, typical chaka Pinoy mentality!
Delete1:35 which hollywood actress do you personally know who gets asked all the time the way filipinos do? americans do not push this agenda on women, we know better, we know what is rude and overstepping boundaries. just because it has been the “norm” does not mean it is okay. you were not the one getting asked, and yet you think she is “oa”. wow the audacity.
DeleteKorek! I remember almost a year ako bago mahuntis and everyone is asking kelan daw kami magkakababy. Little did they know we were already undergoing some test and treatment for infertility. Then nung nabuntis ako 3 months after the first baby (unplanned) may mga mema parin na wag na daw muna ako mabuntis! Gosh! Walang mapaglugaran ang mga tao! Buti nalang di ako sensitive masyado. I just shrugged their opinions. :)
ReplyDeleteNot just the press but everyone should stop asking women when they are gonna marry orbhave a child. It pisses me off when people tell me, "mag-anak ka na, ano ng edad mo." like hello! It's God who decides. Tama si Anne, it will happen in God's perfect time. At tama sya, you don't know what women are goinf through. Napaka insenstitive kase ng mga pinoy, they ask and comment on too personal matters.
ReplyDeleteGood job Anne for saying that. It's about time someone has to shut down these intrusive questions. Society dictates that a person should study, get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids and build a family. If you are smart enough, you should realize you don't have to follow that stages in life everyone is doing. Live your life as you want it. You don't need to get married and have kids if you don't want to.
ReplyDeleteThe reality is people ask questions like when are you going to get married and when are you having babies because they want you to be miserable like them. Naghahanap sila ng karamay sa situation nila. Yes, that's the reason why they ask that questions. So if someone asks you that, politely ignore the question and walk away. Better yet, don't attend gatherings of small minded people.
Stop getting triggered by this scenario.It doesn't apply to me or you.It only applies to celebrities who are being interviewed by mivie reporters.Their opinions become controversial and are being published.So stop cimparing your situation to that of a celebrity.With common people,its usually the relatives who ask or your bestfriend but not the public.So do not be onion skinned about Anne's issue against some reporters.
Delete6:36 Syempre reporters lang ang sasabihin niya kasi hindi naman pwedeng mag mention siya ng may nagtatanong din na kakilala niya. Pero I'm sure they get the message.
DeleteWe don’t need to be an Anne Curtis or a celebrity to feel offended by these questions. We are all humans. That’s why Anne said stop asking such question to all women because celebrity or not we all feel the same pain, undergo same struggles, you know women issues. We are talking about feelings here and not social status in life.
DeleteYes. Let us all live our lives based on our own time schedule. Hindi natin obligasyon to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, get married, have kids kahit hindi tayo ready para lang may maisagot tayo sa mga tanong ng tao sa atin. I really think it's a pinoy thing.
ReplyDeleteTypical pinoy:
ReplyDeleteSaan ka nagaaral?
Anong trabaho mo?
Magkano sinu-sweldo mo?
Kailan ka magkaka boyfriend/girlfriend?
Bakit wala ka pang BF/GF?
Kailan ka magaasawa?
Kailan ka magaanak?
Tumaba ka!
Pumayat ka!
Ano dapat tanong? How's the weather? Or what is the unemployment rate last month? What do you thing about the tension in the Middle East between Iran and the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia? Mababaw ang Pinoy so leave them alone.
DeleteAhahaha mga pakialamera kasi
Delete12:18 Yung first 2 questions siguro pwede pa. The rest, masyadong intrusive. Paano kung may personal reason na hindi niya gustong i-share? Alam mo ba kung gaanong awkward yun? Ako nga tinatanong kung kailan magka BF or asawa, tapos sasagutin ko na wala pa akong balak, titingnan ako na parang may mali sa akin!
DeleteHIndi nga ba karamihan ng problema ng Pilipinas ay reflection rin ng values ng mamamayan? Dito na lang may hihirit pang walang mali sa ganitong ugali eh. Minsan nakaka walang pag asa makakita marami pa rin talaga sila...
ReplyDeleteNakakapikon na to be honest. I am receiving the same question for more than 10 years. Walang pera? “Magagawan yan ng paraan”!. Eh di ikaw gumawa wag mo kami idamay
ReplyDeleteIt took us 8 long painful years bago kami nagka-anak ng mister ko. In those years, ilang failed procedures. And yet, when people see us, even those in the know, they keep asking kelan kami magkaka-anak, bakit ang tagal daw, etc. It was too much so that pag may okasyon, we just skip them. We avoided gatherings and parties. Pag pasko at bagong taon, nood na lang kami ng sine. It was a very lonely and isolating period pero we'd rather have that than the constant badgering. It was also an eye opener for me as a Pinoy. Ngayon, I am careful about asking questions and have become more sensitive. Meaning, I steer clear of asking personal questions unless the person volunteers the information themselves. Even then, I quickly change the topic kasi I know what follows next. Ikaw naman ang kukulitin to reveal private information. In other words, mas lalo akong naging introvert.
ReplyDeleteDito sa Uk, sa work ko pa lang, majority ng mga lalaki lalo na babae hndi lang s ayaw mag anak, ayaw talaga nila s bata. Kaya dito napakalaki mong mangmang pag ang isang taong may asawa tatanungin mo ng ganyan
ReplyDeleteA coworker just asked me this question today. And when I told her na it just wasn't in our plans yet, she said, "Ah, trabaho siguro muna inaatupag ninyong mag-asawa. Siguro andami mo ng pera ano?" Gusto ko na talagang sagutin ng pilosopo kaso mas matanda siya sakin at ayokong maka insulto.
ReplyDeleteI have been married for almost 2 yrs and we are trying for a baby pero wala pa din. Nakaka-insecure and depressed sya sa totoo lang na wala parin month over month pero i choose not to share our battles coz its a sensitive and deeply personal matter to us. Kaya i feel what anne is saying here.
ReplyDeleteBecause Anne married not just to have children but she married because of companionship. Pra legal cla ni Erwin. If dadating ung baby, then good. If not, so good parin. Wag nyo itulad kgustuhan nyo sa idol nyo. People have diff reasons why they marry someone
ReplyDeleteMost of the time I dont agree with Anne, pro at this aspect i do. She felt pressured nung sya na lang hindi pa kinakasal that time..then nung kinasal nya..baby naman ngayon. George, Isabel and now Solenn is pregnant..sympre dba..she had always expressed her slef of wanting to be a mother. 1 month sila ng honeymoon pero wala pa rin. so lets all be a little nicer malay natin baka may pinagdadaan sya..
ReplyDeletePinoy culture yan e. Parang pag nakita ka sasabihin sayo kamusta kana? Bat ang taba mo ngayon?
ReplyDeleteang tanong na kung kelan ka magkakababy ay pareho lng sa tanong na kung kelan ka mgaasawa..nakakairitang tanong. napaka insensitive ng mga taong panay tanong ng ganyan. Meron ngtanong sakin, asan daw ang asawa ko.. in the first place wala aqng asawa, npakabastos ng tanong, at napaka insensitive. mas tamang itanong ang: may bf/gf kna ba?..
ReplyDeleteNaku that's true, naranasan ko na din yan. Or ganyan yata ang thinking ng mga Pinoy. Na pag nagpakasal anak agad. Nakakarindi kasi kapag paulit-ulit na tinatanong at nakakasakit na minsan ng feelings. I got married at 30 na kasi, bf ko for 3 years, noong di pa kami magpapakasal bakit daw pinapatagal pa. Noong married na kami bakit daw 6 months wala pa kong baby. Kahit choice namin muna na mag-ipon pampagawa ng bahay. Nakaka-pressure ang mga tanong na ganyan sa totoo lang, parang malaking kasalanan kundi ka mag anak agad.
ReplyDeleteTrue. At kapag may baby boy/girl, ang sunod na tanong 'kelan ang baby girl/boy?' Walang kakuntentuhan sa sagot.
DeleteKasi tumatanda ka na. Concerned lang sila.
DeleteMga ibang nagtatanong parents kasi gusto magkaapo.Nababara ko naman sila.
DeleteKung siya kelan makakaanak ako naman “kelan ka mag aasawa ang Tanda mo na mahihirapan ka magka anak niyan”
ReplyDeleteLoob loob ko, sino ka para sabihan sa Akin yan? Hawak mo buhay ko tita ay Tito? I will get freakin married when the times come and I’m blessed to a baby Edi good. It’s all about timing late man or maaga.
Yan ang ugali Pinoy na hate na hate ko. Marami na ako kamag anak na tinarayan becaus of thet questions kasi paulit ulit na Lang. Pwede naman kamusta kana? Hinde Iba na ngayon una kita pa Lang sayo “Ikaw na kelan ka makakaanak at asawa” diba.
Kahit sa mga friends ko wala pa baby I don’t ask it careful ako I wait them if sila mag open when they plan to have a baby.
It's part of your job to answer questions from the press Anne Curtis. Puro perks of the trade lang ang gusto mo? Entitled celebrity sumikat at yumaman sa hype. Suck it up buttercup.
ReplyDeleteMagkaiba ang tanong lang sa tanong na may pressure like "kailan kayo magkakaanak?". & hindi kayo entitled na pigain ang celebrities about sa personal life nila.
DeleteDoesn't mean it's ok to ask rude questions. May privacy din sila.
Deleteit’s not a part of her job to get bombarded by repetitive questions from people who do not respect women’s boundaries. you were raised rude.
DeleteToxic Pinoy attitude. It's actually inappropriate to ask women when they plan to get married or get pregnant and have children, in the same manner that it's rude to tell someone "ang taba mo". if you don't find it rude, then you have a problem.
DeleteHindi kasama dun ang personal questions.
Delete@921 Agree. Sadly halos wala na ata kausap sa kin kasi ang taba ko na nga, tapos wala ako ng anak. so palagi comment sa kin, ang taba mo na kaya wala ka anak etc. di na ako nakapigil sumagot na rin ako ng, buti na lang taba and no anak lang at hindi pangit mukha ang ugali like you or something nasty as well. Ayun labo-labo na. Alam ko mali pero minsan kelamgan ng golpe de gulat din para matauhan.
DeleteTrue, she is just being OA.
DeleteSa bungad pa lang nakasulat naman sa FP that Anne's problem is the PRESS.Ibang pananaw if nanay nya or kapatid nya nagtanong sa kanya.Pero pres nagtatanong para makahanap ng scoop sa artista.
DeleteTo those people here who compare yourselves to Anne,stop your illusions.You are not a celebrity.Anne is talking here about her experience in ambush interviews with all the reporters asking about her thoughts about her pregnancy.It has nothing to do with you.Sure you are asked by friends or your own family members but you are not a celebrity.Your issues are not published for the whole world to pry on.So get a life.This is not about you.
ReplyDelete1:23pm alam nmn ng mga commenters yan.
DeleteButi nga may sharing dito of their experiences,thoughts, nakkatulong pampagaan sa pakiramdam about those same situation like Anne..
Good sharing yong nangyayari..
Point is magkaiba po yang sinasabi dyan sa mga comparison ng mga nagshare dito.Hello unangvuna wala namang nangengealam sa mga personal na buhay niyo.
DeleteWag nyo painitin ang mga buto niyo sa issue ni Anne.Live your life.Pagpasensyahan yung mga nagkamali ng tanong sa inyo.
DeleteAnne’s statement is for all women and not just about her.
DeleteDi ka ata nanuod. Sabi ni anne she is speaking in behalf of other women. Meaning ina acknowledge nya and experience ng bawat babae kahit ano pa katayuan sa buhay. Kung sya aware sya na naexperience tyan ng bawat babae sino ka para sabihin na focus lang tong experience kay anne. Duh
Delete1:23 AM And you must be one of those annoying titas we avoid at reunions. Not seeing the bigger picture, asking personal questions to satisfy your curiosity but not caring if intrusive ka na. Tsk tsk.
Deletebat ka galit 1:23! ikaw ba si anne? past time at enjoyment lang ang magcomment dito..we really don’t take it seriously! chill!
DeleteKung lahat ng problema ng artista,relate kayo ,you will live a depressing life.Kasi ang sabi naman sa caption ni FPMalinaw,Anne is talking about the PRESS here.Ibang usapan sa people who are closest to your heart.Mapagbibigyan mo mga ganyang tanong pag nanay mo nagtanong sa iyo because the context is different.So for you to be greatly affected by Anne's rants is unecessary.Problema nya na yan sa career niya.
DeleteAnne, artista ka kasi and married at that. Ano pa ba pwede itanong ng press San iyo? Tapos na movies mo. Maybe there is nothing to ask about? Pa salamat ka jan lang at may nagtatanong pa sa iyo. Mag alala ka kung wala na, di ba? I guess, pressured na din si Anne e. Lahat kasi ng barkada nya May mga anak na. Siya na lang ang Wala.
ReplyDeleteOk k lng? Dey can ask anything as long as mindful sila sa mga sensitive or private issues which are no-one else's business. Get a life kung baga.
DeleteSo porket lahat ng barkada nya may anak na ipe pressure mo na rin si Anne na mag anak? Paano kung ayaw pala niya poproblemahin mo ba yun? Maapektuhan ba ang budget mo sa bahay? Wag pangunahan ang ibang tao sa kung ano gusto nila gawin sa buhay nila. Maging sensitibo po tayo.
DeleteKaya nga napepressure kasi madaming nagtatanong. Madaming pwedeng itanong kung magiisip ka.
Delete1:49 Mga pwede itanong kay Anne:
DeleteWhat is your next project? Any new hobbies? How is Erwan? Will you consider starring in a project with Jasmine in the near future? What are your advocacies?
true! tama si Anne, u dont know their story and pano kung matagal na pala sila nagttry and then they just couldnt or may something wrong... would u like to subject them to such emotional moment in front of the media! it's just a possibility that no one would want to be done to yourselves if you'd be in that same predicament. goshness kasi ung ibang press people!
ReplyDeletePang 'small talk' ng karamihan yang mga ganyang topics, lalo na mga Pinoy. Bakit ba yung mga american colleagues ko di naman ganyan ang tinatanong pag nag ssmall talk. They talk about the weather, or their favorite sport.. sà Pinas kasi parang buhay lang ng ibang tao ang gusto lagi pag usapan
ReplyDeleteTama ung sinabi ni Anne. Pero may konti rin kasing problema sa part nya. Tama. Sikat sya, public figure, she aged na, at marami na rin syang achievements. Nakakapagtaka lang kung bakit d pa pinaplano mgkababy? I know her fans excited na rin dun eh. Kelan pa? Dati din inaaway ko ung mga pinepressure sya. Pero tama paulit ulit na rin kasi so dapat kumilos na si Anne. Dapat malaman ng fans nya whats happening.
ReplyDeleteThanks Anne. For saying what's on our mind. It hurts when people keep asking the same thing, kung kelan magkaanak, magpakasal etc. D b pedeng hindi nmin kagustuhan ang situation n to. Salamat Anne s pagrepresenta sa amin.
ReplyDeleteNext time wag na idignify with a response. "That's personal." Tapos next question pls para di manormalize yung ganyang questions.
ReplyDeletePinoy culture can be quite toxic. Natural na pakialamera tayo, walang boundaries. Sana mawala na yang paguugali natin.
ReplyDeleteHer pregnancy is not our business. Si Erwan lang ang may karapatan. To tell the public or not is her prerogative.
ReplyDeleteMeh, then she shouldn’t be in showbiz, di ba.
DeleteI guess hindi lang sa ma artista mga beks, sa lahat din ng married couple na wala pang anak.
ReplyDeleteIba yun kasi ang married couple usually kaanak nila o yung malapit sa kanila ang nagtatanong hindi yung press o kung sino lang.Si madali naman din sagutin kung mga kasama mo sa bahay ang nagtatanong sa ito.Wag gumawa ng issue sa non issue.Live your own life and be happy.
DeleteUna sa lahat, huwag magtanong sa iba kung kelan nila gusto maganak, dahil hindi kayo ang bubuhay hamambuhay sa anak. Kaya third world tayo taghirap lower class wala pinagaralan wala trabaho madami anak hindi kasi pinagiisipan nakapako sa makalumang tradisyon na dapat anak lang ng anak magpadami ng lahi. Kawawa mga anak hindi kaya buhayin ng magulang. #responsibleparenthood
ReplyDeleteAko wala akong paki,binabara ko na lang kasi kamag anak ko naman ang nagtanong.Magtaka na lang ako kung mga hindi ko kakilala ang magtanong.
DeleteWell, you are married naman di ba at tumatanda na. What do you expect.
ReplyDeleteI think she is the one who is making a big deal about it.
ReplyDeleteMeh, she wants the attention and when she gets it she complains about it. Kaloka. Know what you want lola anna.
ReplyDeleteMakukuda yan kala mo spokesperson ng buong Pilipinas or ideology yan ng nakakarami.Baka sa Australia yang pananaw na ganyan.
Deletehuwag ka na nagshowbiz kung gusto mo ng privacy!
ReplyDeleteShe complains too much. Be thankful that your earning good money from people.
ReplyDeleteNatural lang naman yan kasi matagal na siyang kasal at tumatanda na rin.
ReplyDeleteGanyan talaga ang typical pinoy. Una tatanungin ka: "kelan ka magkaka-boyfriend or girlfriend?" After that, tatanong naman ng "kelan kayo ikakasal?" Pag kinasal na, "kelan kayo magkaka-anak?" Well, natural lang naman magtanong. Pero yung paulit-ulit na lang na parang sirang plaka, siyempre nakakairita. By the way, I find that most foreigners are not like that. During my travels to other countries, hindi sila ganon. Hindi sila masyadong nakikialam sa buhay mo. Minsan magtatanong pero after that, hindi na uulit. Siguro mga chismosa at chismoso lang tayo. Hehehe.
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