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By Ricky Lo
Keeping distance, growing apart.
With those four words, Janella Salvador summed up her relationship with Elmo Magalona in an interview with Funfare, one month after that incident in which she sustained bruises in her arm and leg (photos shown during the interview).
“It was not an accident,” Janelle finally broke her silence letting her mom, Jenine Desiderio, initially speak for her (mostly on social media), answering what “the other camp” (Janella’s words) was posting against her. “I decided to speak up now because I want to stop the lies,” added Janella with conviction.
That “incident” happened when Janella and Elmo got into an argument after attending a party hosted by Janella’s friend. Elmo reportedly had one drink too many and Janella admitted that she did drink, too… “Social drinking,” she qualified, recalling that she fought back by slapping Elmo because she felt “disrespected.”
“It was not the first time that he hurt me,” confessed Janella. “The first time happened months earlier. He claimed that he didn’t remember what he did, maybe because he had a drink, and he asked for forgiveness and I gave him a chance. I told him, ‘Next time, don’t bring yourself to the point that you will hurt someone.’ He promised naman that he wouldn’t do it again.”
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Putting no label to their relationship, all Janella said was that they were “exclusively dating” and “going out,” although she dismissed rumors that “sleeping over” was involved. Janella has been living independently at a house that mom Jenine bought from Janella’s savings. Known as ElNella, the loveteam has done a TV show and a movie together but after that incident, they were told during a meeting with Star Magic’s Mariolle Alberto that from now on, they would have to work separately (after a project in November that was closed before that incident).
Janella admitted that she has stopped seeing a psychiatrist who had told her that she’s “feeling well,” but she decided to resume the session two weeks after that incident. Nothing “mental” about that, she clarified.
“I know that Elmo has also been seeing a psychiatrist,” added Janella. “He’s seeking professional help. I support him on that. It’s good that he recognized the problem and he’s addressing it.”
In the next breath, she explained, “My purpose in speaking now is not to shame him or to put him down; I just want to correct the lies being spread against me and my mom, and to let the truth out. I thought long and hard before I decided to speak out. I gave (Elmo) the chance to speak up and own up to what he did but it seems that somebody is stopping him from doing it.”
During the interview, Janella said that she has stopped wearing the “friendship necklace” given to her by Elmo.
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“For two years,” she continued, “I focused on Elmo and myself. This time, I am giving more attention to myself. He hurt me and I cannot, can never tolerate that.”
She said that she’s happy that her relationship with her mom is improving. They used to bump heads…that is, if you believe Jenine’s soc-med postings to heart.
“We are fixing things,” assured Janella. “We are talking. I may not agree with the extreme way she expresses her feelings but I realized that her intentions are good. At the end of the day, I now know that my mom is there for me.”
Asked pointblank if she still loves Elmo, Janella was quiet for a while and said, “I did say na love ko siya. Hindi naman ganoon kabilis mawawala ‘yon.”
(Note: Funfare texted Elmo Magalona’s mom Pia Arroyo on her two phone numbers if she wanted to air Elmo’s side but she hadn’t replied as of presstime Monday afternoon, Oct. 22. This space is open for whatever she or Elmo wants to say.)
Disappointing yung mga nababasa ko na si Janella pa yung sinisisi. Some people were insinuating na hindi naman daw siya sasaktan kung wala siyang ginawa. Whatever their argument was about, it's NEVER right to initiate physical violence. Yung iba pang fans ng LT nila sinasabi na bigyan daw ulit ng chance kasi sayang naman daw nabuild nilang career together. WHAT THE HECK?! Nagkakasakitan na kilig pa rin nila yung iniintindi??
ReplyDeleteKaya nga e. Ang selfish lang. Kung sa kanila kaya mangyari yun baka maya't maya ang posting sa socmed. Di lang pala once nangyari. Pasalamat pa nga mga fans at binigyan ng 2nd chance at nanahimik lang si Janella.
Delete3:18 true
DeleteInalis pa kasi kay Marlo Mortel...i like them together, and Marlo’s such a nice guy from what we’ve seen and read about him
Deletethere will never be a valid reason for abusing someone physically. and being in a realtionship with someone doesn't give you a right, neither.
Deletegrabedad ung victim blaming sa social media.. naawa ako lalo kay janella. yang ganyang mentality na yung biktima pa yung sisihin at palalabasin na masama, that's the very reason kaya some people especially women just choose to stay quiet and keep it to themselves.
ReplyDeleteTrue, kapal ng mukha ng ibang tards mas mahalaga pa sa kanila yung kilig na pilit na pilit
DeleteMomgrabe yung "exclusively dating" but no "sleeping over" tapos nagsasakitan. Hahaha! Birhen ang lola.
DeleteIn the Philippines, victim shaming seems cultural. Transgressions are quickly forgiven and forgotten. So many look the other way, accepting and even justifying men's infidelity and even, abuse or crime. I really wonder why. Women are not at all empowered and many drag other women down.
DeleteMother knows best
ReplyDeleteYaaass!!
DeleteI agree.so Janella u learnt your lesson
Deletedi ka kasi nakikinig sa
ReplyDeletemagulang mo, tigas ng ulo mo
Pero hindi niya deserve yung ganito. Bakit si Janella sinisisi mo, hindi si Elmo na nanakit sa kanya?
Delete3:25 tama bang sisihin ung tao? She's learning at ikaw masama ugali mo
Delete3:25 - VICTIM BLAMER!
DeleteHOW ABOUT YOU SAY INSTEAD, "YOU, GUY, SHOULD NEVER EVER HURT SOMEONE PHYSICALLY! EVER!"?
Si elmo lang dapat sisihin dito. Walang iba.
DeletePerfect ka 3.25? Siguro wala ka ginawang mali sa buong buhay mo.napaka swerte ng mga magulang mo
Deleteparang di naman victim blaming si 325. wag oa mga baks.. natural lang yan , magulang naman ang binanggit eh di naman pinagtanggol si elmo.
DeleteMaling sinaktan sya ni Elmo pero meron din naman talagang pagkakamali si Janella in terms of hindi sya nakinig sa mom nya.
DeleteWala ng career si Elmo after this
ReplyDeleteDapat lang! He deserves it. Hahaha
DeleteMay career pala siya dati? Lol
DeleteIf this is true, then good for her for standing up. But let’s wait for the other side to air their story if they want to and let’s not be quick to judge. Remember, Elmo’s prior relationships had always been with other showbiz personalities and this issue never happened with any of them. In fact, one of his exes nga manager pa rin mom ni Elmo until now.
ReplyDeletePorket hindi nangyari sa iba hindi ibig sabihin hindi mangyayari, and kung hindi yan nanakit dati palang nagsalita na iyan
Deleteano pa bang proof daming pasa sa katawan? minsan bulag bulagan talaga mga tao
DeleteBaks baka kasi nung time na yun hindi pa umiinom si Elmo, kaya walang reklamo na nanakit siya or what.
DeleteA. It also happened to them but decided toto nev speak about any after their break-up.
DeleteB. It never happened to them. But that doesn't mean it also never happened with Janella. People change with age and Elmo might have developed the habit after previous relationships.
C. Elmo might have had the habit even before but he knew how to control.
Toldya people.
ReplyDeleteHer mom is just trying to protect her pero kayo puro bash.
Walang Ina na ganoon ang reaction kung di nakinig ang anak.
Correct. Marunong pa sila sa nanay kung maka kuda
DeleteFact. Janella herself admitted that, "i realized that her intentions are good".
DeleteHindi pa rin dapat nilalabas sa SocMed. Yun ang mali ni Mader. Sabi nga ni Janella, disagree siya the way she handled their feud/misunderstanding. Reaching out pa rin ang importante. Maraming paraan than social media.
Delete@1:49 Maybe because social media is her last resort. She might have talked to Janella in person but she didn't listen. Binigyan pa niya ng chance si guy right? Baka nga sinabihan na ni momsie niya na layuan pero ayaw makinig kaya ayun. Di natin alam ang effort na ginawa ni mother sa kanya, She was only trying to protect her child. Natural lang sa Ina ang magalit kasi ayaw nila mapahamak ang anak. ^_^
Deleteang alak sa tiyan yan nilalagay hindi sa ulo
ReplyDeleteI’m shocked. Hindi naman ganyan si Elmo before.
ReplyDeleteBaka hindi lang ganun ang portrayal sa kanya before. Bwahahahahaha!
DeleteWell Hindi pa siya umiinom siguro noon. Ibang crowd din kce nya ngayon
DeleteBaka dahil medyo maganda ang takbo ng career nya noon kaya hindi pa lumalabas ang dark side. Ngayon aburido, flop ang mga project, inilagay sa freezer kaya ayan.
DeleteHindi ko man like yung way ng nanay nitong si Janella, I understand kasi nanay eh. Talak forevs si mudra pero all for her daughter's kapakanan naman. Sabi nga nila may tinatawag na "mother's instinct" kaya siguro ganun nalang pagtutol niya kay Elmo noon. Pero sana after this mag-agree yung mag-ina na stop na yung washing of dirty laundry online lalo na family issues.
ReplyDeleteWala namang magagawa yung ina kung yung anak di na umuuwi sa bahay nila diba? Wala din magagawa yung ina kung inuuna ng anak ang lalaki diba?
DeleteGood for you jea. I admire your bravery, having the guts to admit publicly what you've been through despite knowing that some would still put the blame on you.
ReplyDeleteI hope Elmo would also air his side. Just to be fair
It takes a lot of strength to speak out and admit that you are a victim of physical violence and I'm glad she's seeking professional help. I was in abusive relationship before, and it really takes a toll on you physically, mentally and emotionally. I had to go through therapy for years just to get my life back together. Stay strong, Janella.
ReplyDeleteI am a single mum , I was verbally abused by my daughter’s deadbeat bio dad . I just ignored, moved on and prayed hard.
Delete826 kaya ka verbally abused kasi Hinayaan mo din. Partner ng anak mo papayagan mo verbally ka iabuse?
Delete11:35 basahin mo ulit comment ni 8:26! San nia sinabi partner ng anak nia?
DeleteIt's quite sad that people are blaming Janella for what happened. Yes, she had a poor judgement but no one deserves to be physically abused no matter what. She never asked for it to happen to her. Si Elmo ang dapat sinisisi niyo because he can't keep his hands to himself. Malapit nang mag-2019, victim blaming pa rin kayo. Kadiri at nakakatakot way of thinking niyo.
ReplyDeleteMangilan-ngilan lang naman yung pumapanig kay Elmo, majority ng mababasang comments na kay Janella talaga ang simpatya. Mga mapilit na tards lang yung mga nagiilusyon pa rin
Delete12:20 No. Ang dami nila sa Twitter. Ang toxic nila!
DeleteAkala mo mabait ang isang tao. Tsk tsk tsk. Women and girls, protect yourselves from abusive relationships.
ReplyDeleteI agree! Yung ex ko takot sa akin kc he knew I can defend my self physically and verbally ... I’m not a martyr type ...
Deletedapat mas respeto ang manaig kesa takot.
DeleteNakakalungkot na hanggang sa dulo she gave elmo another chance na mag own up sa mali niya. Kaso hanggang dulo din hindi siya ni respeto ni elmo.
ReplyDeleteThis!!! And Elmo's fans are even condemning her for making this public. She could have just kept it as a secret between the 2 of them. Kakaiba!
DeleteKahit makuda ang mudrabells niya naiintidihan ko na siya... kaya pala.
ReplyDeleteGrabe na pinag dadaanan mentally ni Janella at her very young age. Oh well, no wonder she has matured as a strong person.
ReplyDeleteTypical parent-child scenario. child thinks she can conquer the world by herself then when things fail, parent catches her. I hope children learn from this. at the end of the day, you will only have your parents to lean on.
ReplyDeleteThis is very inspiring. I wish I have the courage like Janella, yung iwanan at ipag sigawan na sinasaktan ako ng mahal ko.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you! Please stay strong and leave the person who hurts you. You deserve better!
DeleteShe maybe has this maldita aura but there's really something admirable about Janella. She's also very classy obviously dahil napalaki sya ng maayos kaya credits to her mom & dad also
ReplyDeleteI didnt know na nanakit si elmo hinde halata sa personality niya.. nakakalungkot naman mukha naman maayos ang pagpapalaki sa kanya. Siguro seloso siya and mabilis magalit? tapos pag galit nanakit siya. Scary!
ReplyDeleteNot to victim blame but what’s the point of this? She should file a case against the person and teach him a lesson. If justice isn’t what she’s after then what is it? Why publicize this via an interview only?
ReplyDeleteBinasa mo ba yung interview? O comment ka lang kaagad? Kasi kung binasa mo, nandun ang reason nya kung bakit nagsalita na sya! So please READ!
DeleteNot to say you are insensitive, but what's the point of your comment, 6:45?
Delete6:45 Not victim blaming? You already are. Victims do not need to keep silent just so their abusers can continue to be comfortable.
DeleteBye Elmo’s career. Wala ng love and career. If i were you quit showbiz na and start studying.
ReplyDeletemagjowa pa lng yan pero nagkakasakitan na physically.. what more kung mag-asawa na yan? buti na lng tlga matapang tong girl at matalinong bata.. lesson learned for her.. mas magiging wiser na yan sa next relationship nya.. good luck girl!
ReplyDeleteKaya pala ayaw ni Jenine kay Elmo.. lesson learned i hope kay Janella.. always listen to your parents, kasi sila naman talaga yung totoong nagmamahal sa’yo at ayaw ka nila mapahamak.
ReplyDeleteGrabe mga bashers. Kapatid, pamangkin at anak nyo kaya ang i- physical abuse...ok lang ba because they asked for it?
ReplyDeleteMothers Knows best talaga. kahit anong kuda ng ina tama pa din sya in the end kaya sa batang nalilig ng landas makinig kayo sa nanay nyo dahil pag hindi pagsisisihan nyo ang ginawa nyo pagdating ng panahon.
ReplyDeleteWag nyo sabihin matigas ang ulo nya, nasa edad na rin naman sya if that was her choice pero yung Elmo dapat ang kinokorek nyo! Tahimik nga ang kampo nyan para palabasin na mali ang kampo ni Ja ella...hayyyy tong mga to di pa nga sikat nag aatitude na
ReplyDeleteNext time makinig na kay mommy ha. You deserve someone way way better than that guy. :)
ReplyDeleteThis girl needs serious publicity. Tsk tsk. Trying to grab her 15 minutes of fame. Nanahimik yung lalaki eto naman pa interview pa more. Anong ending ba ang gusto ni girl?
ReplyDeleteVictim blamer, kadiri ka!
DeleteWow i can't believe your way of thinking! Wow talaga!
DeleteHindi ka ba nagtataka bakit nanahimik si guy? FYI they're both famous no need for 15 mins of fame. She bravely came out kasi its too much. Abuse and assault is not something we should tolerate.
DeleteKaya marami ang takot magsalita about abuse eh kasi dahil sa ganitong toxic na mentality. We should empower the abused and not the abuser.
DeleteAs the saying goes, mother knows best.
ReplyDeleteIn fairness Elmo had over a month to admit his wrongdoings and instead he decided to ignore the seriousness of this situation. Janella has every right to go public and expose him for who he truly is.
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for elnella fans, grabe din yung support na binibigay nila😕
ReplyDeleteAminin mo ng isa ka sa mga yun LOL!
DeleteWala nega ah!! i hope you happy and with peace in your heart natapos at wala na kayo dalawa Moe siguro wala na rin dapat kayo away ng Mama mo the truth shall set you free.
ReplyDeleteMinsan ang mga fans ng LT dapat mag-isip din. Gusto kasi nila Real ang LT & dapat magkatuluyan pero hindi nila alam kung ano ang totoong pagkatao ng mga idols nila. Meron din silang pinagdadaanan sa buhay. So, pressured ang mga young celebs sa demand ng fans & they stick with their partner kahit toxic na. Management should do something sa ganitong situation kasi kawawa ang buhay ng mga talents nila.
ReplyDeleteManagement pa nga kamo ang nagdidikta na dapat sweet-sweetan ang mga loveteams sa harap ng camera
DeleteThis girl knows better. She is very smart. Good that she knows her worth at a young age.
ReplyDeleteGoodbye Elmo!!!
ReplyDeleteMga Elnella grabe ibash ang nanay ni Janella oh ano kayo ngayon. Wala ng Elnella nyo! Nanay pa din ang magmamahal satin sa huli! Tandaan nyo yan.
ReplyDeleteI am with you Janella. Mahirap sa Alcoholic kasi the next day gagawin nila excuse yung nakainom
ReplyDeleteSila. And society will defend the bad action as “ahh e naka inom pala”. Good for you naka alis ka habang maaga pa. It takes a lot of courage to step out of a relationship na seemingly okay, until alcohol happens. Go girl!
After reading this. They both had their faults. The relationship was toxic. Coming straight from her they both hurt each other physically and emotionally.
ReplyDeleteElmo should speak up at explain his side... aminin nya kesa naman manahimik sya at mag apologize, magbago dahil andun na eh nasa proseso na sya na alam nya na may nagawa syang mali at na i address na nya ang problema by seeking professional help.
ReplyDeleteKung kasinungalingan lang ang sasabihin nya.. nevermind
DeleteKahit na kailangan nya pa ring magsalita mas lala yan kung hindi hya i aaddress kung totoo mas maganda na aminin nya at hindi pa naman huli ang lahat para mag ago wag natin syang ikulong sa limitadong pag iisip natin
DeleteWell, Janella learned her lesson. Mother knows best! Hindi tayo ipapahamak ng mabuti nating magulang. Kung matigas ag ulo mo, okay lang na mauntog para magising n hindi dapat sinusuway ang magulang na may mabuting hangad sa iyong kinabukasan.
ReplyDeleteAs Maya Angelou has said, When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time...
ReplyDeleteOnly both of them know what really happened...
ReplyDeleteNo matter what happened most of the time kay nanay parin talaga ang takbo natin.
ReplyDeleteGood thing umalis na sya sa relationship, pangalawang beses napalang nagawa. Girls should always know their value. She did the right thing.
I'm waiting for Elmo's side regarding this issue. Extremely damaging sa career & reputation ni Elmo eto, lumalabas na me violent tendencies sya towards women. Ang options nya after this is, he can go back to GMA ( na parang imposible na, he burned bridges with both Julie Ann San Jose & Janine Gutierrez ) OR, leave showbiz for good & go back to school.
ReplyDeleteKorek, Sobrang sira na tapos ang hirap pa naman ibangon sarili, kasi tainted na yung rep nia physical abuser. Maganda siguro mag go back to school na nga siya.
Deletesuper bad for elmos career and image if this is true,. no one likes a physical abuser especially of women. to think yung sisters nya always have strong opinions on issues. yikes. thought elmo was a good kid. hopefully maayos niya ito.
ReplyDeleteGood for Janella! Ganyan ang buhay. We try to make decision for ourselves but if it does not turn out the way you hoped for, move on. Mext time, makikinig kayo sa magulang. They know what is best.
ReplyDeleteIt's really rough getting out of a toxic, abusive relationship. It's good that she got out early enough and that she is empowered. Her mum's support is everything. Hope fans take pause and stop pushing love teams too ardently. There's a lot more behind the scenes and public image doesn't equate with reality.
ReplyDeletewith all the issues thrown at janine and janella, i am always with janine, mother knows best.
ReplyDeleteGood for you Janella. Find time to discover yourself. Di na naman siguro kailangan ng LT kasi talented naman siya. Although natutuwa ako sa Marnella dati, walang nega vibes noon.
ReplyDeleteHindi ko kinakampihan si Elmo kasi for me ang lalaki dapat wag manakit pero may exception din dahil madami din mga babae na nananabunot, nangangagat at nananampal ng mister or bf at hindi din tama yun. Mas maganda kung parehong hindi violent. Mag hiwalay na lang ng tahimik kung di makatiis sa ugali ng isat isa.
ReplyDeleteMy point ka baks. Kaso nakainom daw kasi. I wonder kung pano sila magsakitan eh ang babagets pa nila
DeleteHindi na bagets si Elmo. 24 na sya. Kaya madali nya na maoverpower si Janella na much younger and smaller than him.
Delete1:07 Hindi na bagets si Elmo! He's already 24!
DeleteUnder any circumstances, it is NEVER correct to hurt someone physically.pwede nga nya idemanda si elmo di ba.tama ang management decision to bring them apart from each other. It will not be the same again and they cannot entrust janella to elmo ever again.learn your lesson, janella, and focus on your own strength and capabilities..you are one of the best and most talented in your generation wag mo sayangin ang God-given talent na yan.
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