anong serve as a lesson?!? as if naman yung pag-announce ni heart ang dahilan ng pagkawala nung bata. and malay ba niyang mawawala? bilang nanay na masaya sa pagbubuntis, hindi mo yun iisipin. kung gustong ipagsigawan ng buntis on the first day of positive test or mag ala kylie na itago hanggang makapanganak, choice niya yun. walang pwede magdikta
Women can announce whenever they choose to. Let’s stop the stigma against miscarriage. It’s something natural. She didn’t endanger herself by announcing. Kaya madaming babae who had miscarriage hide their pain and keep hurting on their own because of the lack of support of people like you. They dont need your lesson, they need support. Encourage more women to come out and share their sad stories so they dont need to suffer alone. Miscourage is more common than we know. Let’s not blame the women instead give them support.
Nagsorry ka pa kay Heart tapos you’ll say something insensitive like “sana di mo muna inannounce...” inannounce siguro nya ng maaga dahil they might have been trying for the longest time and when they finally were pregnant, they were happy and excited. So don’t you dare invalidate someone’s happiness and excitement by saying insensitive sh*t like that. Rude.
The appropriate lessons here are for people like you to know when to shut up, learn how to offer your sincere condolences, stop making other people feel bad about themselves and to stop adding insult to injury.
the liberty to announce a pregnancy ay para sa mga parents. it's not easy to keep secret such a beautiful news. i dont believe you need to hide something if it makes you so happy.
7:01 im sorry but based on personal experience, i would say 6:41 has a point, me and my friend lost our babies (diff times) before the 2nd trimester, we already announced our pregnancies and had baby showers (completely ignoring our elders about pamahiins, thinking it was ridiculous). I guess all im saying, is that, it wouldnt hurt to listen and be cautious when it comes to things like that.. after all, babies are the most precious things we could ever have. Let's protect them at all cost. That being said, i feel sorry for Heart, she'd go through a lot of things after this (i really know😔).. but i pray she'll tough it out.
It's a woman's prerogative to share the joy of motherhood any given time of their pregnancy. Be sensitive naman. It's not a "lesson" to be served to someone.
I announced my pregnancy nang 3 weeks pa lang tummy ko. There is nothing wrong announcing it. Tatlong anak ko buhay. May something sa baby kaya hindi nag survived. It’s not about the announcement naman.
Bakit 6:41? So pag nabuntis, itago muna for 2mos. para in case magka miscarriage, safe tayo sa judgements ng mapanghusgang lipunan?? Pakitang tao lang? Hindi naman kasalanan nung tao na nakunan sya.. pero kasalanan maging chismosa. Respeto naman.
@anon 8:33 It’s not because of pamahiin! I announced all my pregnancies right away, all of my kids are perfectly fine! Everything happens for a reason, baka this baby is really not meant to be born yet and God has other plans for her.
mga teh wag ganyan, kasi wala naman gusto na magkaganun ang nangyari kay Heart di ba ke nag announce or not, na excite siya dahil first time mom. Makiramay po tayo wag na haluan ng nega kasi namatayan di ba.
6:41 Sana tinapos mo na lang sa "im sorry". meron ka pang lesson na nalalaman, pero based naman sa pamahiin yang lesson mo. Ang lesson talaga dito think before you click send, at hindi lahat ng iniisip mo fact at kelangan ipangsermon pa sa iba
Ako din. 😫 kambal din sana ang anak ko, nawala din yung isa. Kahit sinabi ng ob ko noon na okay yung baby, super safe, nag bed rest talaga ako. Nag ingat sa sobrang takot ko mawala din yung isa.
Why? So women like her suffer alone? Let’s stop silencing these women. Miscarriage is a natural thing that many women sadly go through. Dont let them hide their pain. Give support or at least stop lecturing them and giving unsolicited advice.
To avoid having to explain or announce a miscarriage and having the benefit of being able to mourn in private in case it happens. In her case though it cannot be avoided because she is a public figure
what difference does it make? napaka insensitive na sabihin na sana hindi muna inannounce. they were happy as any parent should be. and the announcement was for them to share the joy.
Im pregnant and now nakacomplete bed rest bec of stress. I have to keep working. Im a banker. I had to inform everyone para di sila magtaka when i have to excuse myself from tasks and sa mga pagkain na ikakasuka ko. And people are really kind and gentle pag preggy ka. I need that kasi high risk ako.so people like us need prayers not judgement.
7:06 wala naman talagang effect ang pag announce ng maaga. Tanga lang maniniwala na makukunan pag nagannounce. Tama si 8:32, delikado pa ang first trimester, mas may chances at safe after 12 weeks, kaya mas mabuti na mag celebrate pag sure na talaga.
let's be honest. There is more pain when more people know. I know many people who after experiencing the same decide to keep quiet on the next time they are carrying the baby. Di siguro kayo na-expose to such kaya ganyan na lang reaction nyo.
Come on. The pain comes from people who lack support and continue to add insult to injury. The more people who knows, the more people should be supporting and comforting these women who went through miscarriage. It’s not the woman’s fault if she announces something that makes her happy whenever she likes, wala lang talagang manners and empathy ang mga people na nakaalam.
undefine feeling and cirtical thinking we cannot label as pain. millions of why and later what ifs. every moment of silence tears uncontrollably streaming. the envy of almost a mother to a mother with newly born child. saying buti pa sya.. sana ako din...
i had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, first pregnancy. i was supposed to name her Hannah because even though i didnt know the gender yet i was convinced it was going to be a girl 😊
i had mine just recently (feb) at 20 weeks. as i prayed for a healthy baby boy, at 16 weeks i was so happy coz he is waving at me through Ultrasound, at 20 weeks about time to confirm he’s gender though i know he is a little prince was then broken hearted knowin he doesnt have a heart beat already.
i had painful normal delivery even though i am givin birth to a sweet little angel. he is a cute little boy.
wala naming judgment dun sa sinabi. in fact she is right. while it is true it might not be the reason (too much activity), it is still possible that it is. if gusto mo talaga ng anak, you would do more sacrifices. My sis-in-law have to completely stop working and bed-rest talaga. She had 3 miscarriages and finally after 10 years nagkaanak. Lots of suffering and sacrifices but it is worth it.
i hate people commenting about not announcing until the second trim. why can’t you just feel sorry and sad for the grieving mom?! why blame her? hindi pa siguro ninyo nararamdaman yung pure unadulterated, unfiltered joy of knowing you’re pregnant. and you don’t announce, anticipating that a tragedy would happen. announcements are done for the pleasure of the parents and to share the happiness to well-wishers. kung nawala ang baby, just condole, don’t condemn.
I know right. These people want these expectant mothers to live in fear and hide their happiness. They want them to hide their sadness and grieve alone when these things happen.
Sobrang insensitive and may mababago ba kung nag announce or hindi? Same pain, same everything! Walang mababago sa nararamdaman ng nanay na namatayn ng anak.
Baka they thought na pag nag annouce ka after the first trimester the inevitable wouldn’t happen. Losing a child is painful. Whether announced early on or later in the pregnancy. Will it lessen the pain if you didnt announce it?
I followed everyone's advice and did not announce until after 12th week. I did tell a few people, family mostly and asked them to keep it to themselves. And i knew it pretty early on, like 6 days into the pregnancy. I guess it's to lessen the heartache, as miscarriage is quite common on the first trimester. The more people knows, the more you have to explain to.
they dont mean no harm on saying sana di na muna nag announce. Karamihan ng first time moms di muna ang aanounce hanggat mga nangangalahati na ng taon, kasi nga marami talaga miscarriage, basta hirap explain.
I agree with you anon 7:05, I announced my 1st pregnancy the moment the pregnancy test turned positive and everything went well. And now my boy is 5 and very healthy!
Agree, 7:05. Walang kinalaman ang pag aannounce sa buhay ng baby. Sad lang nawala ito. Kung nanay ka at sobra mong saya lalo na at matagal mo hinintay si baby, d mo maiwasang maannounce sa sobrang tuwa mo. Mema lang yung mga nandito. Iba-iba po ang tao. Kung kayo, d ninyo feel mag announce, kayo yun. As always, wag po natin i force ang iba na gawin ang ginagawa natin. Besides, that thinking is sooo old age!!! - mother na nag announce sa family niya after one month na na found out na buntis siya.
Sorry for your loss. Early announcements alam ko wala namang kinalaman yan sa pagbubuntis but people will keep watch on you and some alam mo naman may masasabi talaga. So better if hindi konting kibot alam na agad ng buong mundo. And also high heels. First trimester is delicate pa talaga so sana makinig din. We know your body is used to wearing high heels... But not your pregnant body. God bless you Heart.
Ano ba kasi kinalaman ng pag aannounce ng pregnancy during first trimester?
Things will happen kahit ano pa maaga or late i announce.
Just be compassionate dahil tanging yung nanay lang ang nakakaramdam ng sakit na mawalan ng baby. Hindi na kailangan pa sisihin at ibase sa kung anu anong pamahiiin na yan.
At ano bang basis ng mga commenter para sabihin na dapat hindi muna inaannounce kapag first trimester?? Jusmiyo san kweba ba kayo nakatira? Kung di nyo magawang makisimpatya sa isang babaeng nawalan ng anak tahimik na lang kayo..sabi nga when you have nothing good to say then say nothing at all.. anyway be strong heart.. babantayan ka na ng 2 angels mo
-a mom of two(at nagannounce din ng pregnancy nung first trimester ko)
This is so sad. Excited na excited pa naman ako when I learned preggy na sya, and eventually see her baby. God will bless you with another child Heart. Be strong *hugs*
The post was posted four hours ago when I read it, at the same time that for some reason, I was reminded of reading the magazine where Heart spoke of losing the other twin. I hadnt known that she had miscarried at the time that it was happening. I read this post on her IG only five minutes ago... picture of white flowers. I had to read at least three times if my understanding was correct that she indeed lost the baby. I feel so sorry for Heart. It gives me the cringe that I somehow have the foresight for things that are bound to happen. I dont know what to do with it. If only I had the power to stop the not so good ones, or give warnings to people involved. Even then, may God’s peace surround and comfort you and your family, Hearty. Take as much rest and break as you can. God loves you.
I had 4 miscarriages already at my young age of 33. The doctors here in canada only told me it's just a bad luck, announced ko den ng npakaaga, i can say that walang mawawala kung ssunod lang sa mga ganyan. And I will tell you guys 4times kong naramdaman ang nararamdaman ngayon ni heart. And until now umaasa pa ren kami ng aswa ko na pagkagaling ko sa pilipinas para magpataas ng matres at magpalinis sa doctor na one day magkakaroon den kami ng baby.
I wish you well sis! Of course walang masama kung mag ingat. Ang masama ay yung nangyari na, susumbatan pa. Quiet na lang di ba? Masama na yung loob nung tao, tapos parang sinisisi pa nung iba na ‘kasi nag announce agad’
For others it's too early to announce. But for new Moms and those who've been praying to be one, just the 2 lines on a PT makes it all worth announcing to the world. My prayers to you Heart. Hang in there, God's timing is the perfect timing.
I read this on a forum and I agree with the one who posted this: "Technically kasi hindi pa fully developed yung embryo until matapos ang 3 months kaya advised lagi sa mga moms kahit hindi celebrities ay wag munang i announced at wag muna maging over excited hanggat hindi muna lumalampas sa stage na yun. Lalo na kung multiple embryos. May iba kasi nalalagas or nababawasan pa. Sa "science" kasi parang ganyan ang explanation. Kung baga sa itlog na kinakain natin, may iba maayos pero meron din iba bulok.. so kailangan i discharge ng body.
I feel sad for her and im sure madami ng nag advise sakanya wag muna sabihin. Pero first time mom eh so hindi rin masisisi. Though it could have saved her a lot of pain. Parang kasi she owes everyone an explanation kahit wala naman dapat."
Will never believe you. It will not lessen the pain kahit d pa niya nai announced. And who are we to condemn those happy moms announcing their pregnancy? It involves many factors but announcement is definitely not one of those.
Technically though, around 10weeks pa lang hindi na sya embryo, start na ng pagiging fetus meaning almost human-like na talaga ang features at halos functioning na ang mga organs at meron na rin heartbeat from around 6weeks at kailangan nlng magfully develop in the coming months. Nevertheless, very fragile pa nga.
I think she’s past her first trimester when she announced it. Remember she said na nawala din yung supposed to be twin nung baby. And, during her trip in Paris (yata) she wished to be pregant yung nagturn but she wasn’t aware that she already is.
12:33 i miscarried and people kept on sending condolences. Sa akin lang ha, mas mahirap ang reminder na it happened, kaya that time inisip ko na sana hindi ko muna sinabi hanggat sure ako. Mahirap na nga mawalan ng anak, and i know people mean well, but to be bombarded with sorries and condolences weeks after the miscarriage didn’t help the process of moving on. Kaya sa nexr pregnancy ko i never shared it until i knew that everything was ok with the pregnancy, which was on the 2nd trimester
So inconsiderate naman ng mga commenters na ang concern ay sana daw di muna inannounce, pag pure joy ang nararamdaman ng isang tao ay di mo talaga mapigilan ang sarili mo to share the happiness to everyone. I have a friend na twice na nakunan and sobrang lungkot na nila mag-asawa pero we console them, support and pray. If you have no good words to say at all to feel them good then shut the f**k up!
So sad to hear this news,same situation kami ni heart.i also loss my first baby..At first di ko maintindihan bakit ganoon ang nangyari..but i had to accept it kahit masakit..i know god has a plan...just trust him lang heart
here in Europe they don't announce the pregnancy after 1st tri..doctors advise kasi delicate pa and they will just annouce you as pregnant legally after 3 months..dun mo palang pwedeng sabihin sa work mo na preggy ka.. pero i do not condemn Heart!excited as a parent tsaka wala namang rule sa pinas na wag iannounce agad!i hope she finds peace and healing soon...
Unless her OB advised her to do bed rest, there's no reason for a woman to just lay down all the time in the beginning of her pregnancy? A woman's body can handle anything. A smart doctor wouldn't even dare advise that!
Pero according naman daw sa doctor nung previous visits nya safe na sya at hindi sya high risk. Ganun talaga there are unknown reasons why the fetus suddenly fails to develop. At the early stage it chooses to abort itself due to growth or chromosomal abnormalities. Let’s not assume that it’s always the mother’s fault or something the mother did.
true! So many here lack compassion or common sense. Even if she didn't mention she was pregnant and she still had a miscarriage, that doesn't diminish the pain of losing a baby.
Announcing a pregnancy has nothing to do about this issue. Be human, have a heart. Any good mother would be proud to announce a pregnancy! I wpuld proudly scream it out to the world. Losing a child is very painful. Show empathy. The world needs more of that.
Sorry for your lost heart! Minsan na din ako nawalan, and sobrang sakit as in... lahat na lang ng bakit matatanong mo to the point na hindi na ko nag simba but my husband help me araw araw nia pnaparamdam sakin na ok lang un at may ddating pa para samin. At ngayon, eto yung rainbow baby namin is turning 1 next month.. heart, just lift up everything to Him at mggng ok dn ang lahat 🙏🏻
Ob ang mom ko sabi nya, hehe kaya daw nauso yung wag mag heels pag nga buntis e baka out of balance, gumiba, madapa or matapilok. Hehehe. Kaya Ganun ka OA mga matatanda, gaya namin taga probinsya. Hehe pinagiingat lang.
Anong masama kung first tri pa lang at gusto mo ng isigaw sa mundo na magiging magulang ka na. Yung mga nagsasabing dapat hindi muna nag announce sang planeta ba kayo galing. Oo may possibility na mgkaron ng miscarriage pero sinong would-be parent ang maghahangad nun. Siyempre pag nagconceive ka iisipin mong magiging healthy ang baby hanggang sa paglabas. Kung pessimistic kang tao sarilinin mo na lang wag ka nang mangdamay ng iba. Imbes na mag sympathize nanisi pa kayo.
Anong konek ng pag aannounce sa miscarriage? If it's bound to happen, then it will happen. We cannot blame women to announce their pregnancy kahit siguro ultimo oras pa lang yan. I feel sad for heart pero she should really stay strong. Look at mariel diba? After how many miscarriages naging successful din. Go heart! Soon, God will bless you your own child.
Aww Heart, I’m not a fan but I’ll be saying a little prayer for you. From someone who’s also wishing and hoping for a little angel, be strong and kapit lang. He will make everything beautiful in His time.
I feel sorry for heart. I also lost 2 babies due to miscarriage. Ansakit sakit. Alam mo yung feeling na excited ka pumunta doctor to hear the heartbeat tapos wala o mawawala:( i got traumatized kaya yung next pregnancy ko naging paranoid na ako na baka wala nang heartbeat yung next baby. Sa awa naman ng Diyos i was blessed with two healthy babies.
12:05 ako sumayaw sa Obando 2 times with my hubby and mom in law. Waley pa din. Ang nabuntis yung 47 year old kung office mate at yung teenager kong kapitbahay. 3 kaming naiyak.yung 2 ayaw mabuntis.
And sometimes they are opt to announce because of prior commitment na hindi mo na pwede gawin or food na hindi na pwede kainin lalo na sa mga artista..so better if they announce pra madali to say No sa mga bagay na hindi mo na pwede gawin..I had 3 miscarriages and 2 stillborns, sobra sakit na mawalan kaya sana words of comfort lng ang sabihin natin
wag po tayo bastos kay Heart na namatayan, it doesn't matter kung nag announce siya or not. The point is namatayan pa rin siya ng anak. Masakit yon para sa isang ina or mom to be. Makiramay na lang tayo and lets pray for Heart.
I feel sorry for Heart. But I hope whe won't lose hope. She is still young, and with prayers, her wish to be a mom will be granted by our Lord Almighty.
People! Listen to your preachings! My golly! Pregnancies should be kept private because it is an intimate thing.. Some people live for social media so they post to show instead of to share. I would STOP blaming each other, and just accept the fact that we should all, Heart included, lead our lives accordingly and not live for our social media lives. You are allowed to keep things private you know.
im so sorry heart... i hope this serves as a lesson na wag na sana muna mag announce until 2nd tri at least :(
ReplyDeleteits not true! very insensitve to say something like that. you should be more considerate. you cannot measure the pain of almost a mom.
Deleteanong serve as a lesson?!? as if naman yung pag-announce ni heart ang dahilan ng pagkawala nung bata. and malay ba niyang mawawala? bilang nanay na masaya sa pagbubuntis, hindi mo yun iisipin. kung gustong ipagsigawan ng buntis on the first day of positive test or mag ala kylie na itago hanggang makapanganak, choice niya yun. walang pwede magdikta
DeleteWomen can announce whenever they choose to. Let’s stop the stigma against miscarriage. It’s something natural. She didn’t endanger herself by announcing. Kaya madaming babae who had miscarriage hide their pain and keep hurting on their own because of the lack of support of people like you. They dont need your lesson, they need support. Encourage more women to come out and share their sad stories so they dont need to suffer alone. Miscourage is more common than we know. Let’s not blame the women instead give them support.
DeleteNagsorry ka pa kay Heart tapos you’ll say something insensitive like “sana di mo muna inannounce...” inannounce siguro nya ng maaga dahil they might have been trying for the longest time and when they finally were pregnant, they were happy and excited. So don’t you dare invalidate someone’s happiness and excitement by saying insensitive sh*t like that. Rude.
Deletewow bawal mag-announce?
Delete6:41 how dare you say that sa namatayan ng anak. Really??????
DeleteSo sorry Heart. Condolence
DeleteThe appropriate lessons here are for people like you to know when to shut up, learn how to offer your sincere condolences, stop making other people feel bad about themselves and to stop adding insult to injury.
Deletethe liberty to announce a pregnancy ay para sa mga parents. it's not easy to keep secret such a beautiful news. i dont believe you need to hide something if it makes you so happy.
DeleteMumsh, sana tinapos mo na lang sa "i'm so sorry heart" 'yung sinabi mo. Paka-insensitive! Wala kang kinalaman kung ginusto niya i-announce kaagad.
DeleteHindi po nakakatulong na isisi pa sa magulang na nagannounce ng pregnancy. Grabe.
DeleteWalang lesson na dapat matutunan. Her early announcement didn't cause the miscarriage.
Deletepag in-announce ng maaga, magmi-miscarriage na agad? anong connect?
Delete7:01 im sorry but based on personal experience, i would say 6:41 has a point, me and my friend lost our babies (diff times) before the 2nd trimester, we already announced our pregnancies and had baby showers (completely ignoring our elders about pamahiins, thinking it was ridiculous). I guess all im saying, is that, it wouldnt hurt to listen and be cautious when it comes to things like that.. after all, babies are the most precious things we could ever have. Let's protect them at all cost. That being said, i feel sorry for Heart, she'd go through a lot of things after this (i really know😔).. but i pray she'll tough it out.
DeleteWag naman ganun. She’s just very happy to share, and who wouldn’t be? Just pray for her
DeleteIt's a woman's prerogative to share the joy of motherhood any given time of their pregnancy. Be sensitive naman. It's not a "lesson" to be served to someone.
DeleteInsensitive si Anon 6:41. Mas nakakaawa ka kay Heart.
DeleteAnu naman kinalaman ng pag announce? Mababawasan ba ang pain ng mawalan ng bata sa sinapupunan kung unannounced?
DeleteIt doesn't matter when they want to announce it.
DeleteI announced my pregnancy nang 3 weeks pa lang tummy ko. There is nothing wrong announcing it. Tatlong anak ko buhay. May something sa baby kaya hindi nag survived. It’s not about the announcement naman.
DeleteBakit 6:41?
DeleteSo pag nabuntis, itago muna for 2mos. para in case magka miscarriage, safe tayo sa judgements ng mapanghusgang lipunan?? Pakitang tao lang? Hindi naman kasalanan nung tao na nakunan sya.. pero kasalanan maging chismosa. Respeto naman.
@anon 8:33
DeleteIt’s not because of pamahiin! I announced all my pregnancies right away, all of my kids are perfectly fine! Everything happens for a reason, baka this baby is really not meant to be born yet and God has other plans for her.
Sa isang babaeng matagal hinangad magkaroon ng anak talagang excited yan,ako man kahit pa weeks pa lang yan iaannounce ko na talaga
Deletemga teh wag ganyan, kasi wala naman gusto na magkaganun ang nangyari kay Heart di ba ke nag announce or not, na excite siya dahil first time mom. Makiramay po tayo wag na haluan ng nega kasi namatayan di ba.
Delete6:41 Sana tinapos mo na lang sa "im sorry". meron ka pang lesson na nalalaman, pero based naman sa pamahiin yang lesson mo. Ang lesson talaga dito think before you click send, at hindi lahat ng iniisip mo fact at kelangan ipangsermon pa sa iba
DeleteTama naman e. First trimester is higher risk for the baby di ba.
Deleteaww.. condolence heart.
ReplyDeleteI feel you Heart, had my miscarriage in nov. 2015 and until now wala p ring mabuo. Naiyak ako, naalala ko ung pain na naramdaman ko dati
DeleteNa sad nman ako for heart☹️
ReplyDeleteAko din. 😫 kambal din sana ang anak ko, nawala din yung isa. Kahit sinabi ng ob ko noon na okay yung baby, super safe, nag bed rest talaga ako. Nag ingat sa sobrang takot ko mawala din yung isa.
Deletehayyy! :( condolence Heart. In God's time, magkaka baby ka din. will be praying for that.
DeleteSad 😢
ReplyDeleteomg this is sad :(
ReplyDeleteHallaaaaaa :(((( sayang
ReplyDeletedapat talaga di muna inaanounce lalo na kapag nasa 1st trimester pa lang..
ReplyDeleteanong basis mo po te???
Deleteits really painful you know. pray na lang and sincere pakikiramay.
Isa pa ‘to. Magsama kayo ni 6:41. Parehas kayong insensitive. Di na lang makiramay kung makikiramay. Why are people so insensitive?
DeleteWhy? So women like her suffer alone? Let’s stop silencing these women. Miscarriage is a natural thing that many women sadly go through. Dont let them hide their pain. Give support or at least stop lecturing them and giving unsolicited advice.
DeleteTo avoid having to explain or announce a miscarriage and having the benefit of being able to mourn in private in case it happens. In her case though it cannot be avoided because she is a public figure
Deletewhat difference does it make? napaka insensitive na sabihin na sana hindi muna inannounce. they were happy as any parent should be. and the announcement was for them to share the joy.
DeleteIm pregnant and now nakacomplete bed rest bec of stress. I have to keep working. Im a banker. I had to inform everyone para di sila magtaka when i have to excuse myself from tasks and sa mga pagkain na ikakasuka ko. And people are really kind and gentle pag preggy ka. I need that kasi high risk ako.so people like us need prayers not judgement.
DeleteMiscarriages happen more likely during the first trimester kasi. When you reach the fourth month, the chances lessen.
Delete7:06 Wag po tayong war freak. 6:50 is just stating na baka nabati or na jinx kapag maagang inaannounce.
Deletewag nangengealam excited siguro yung tao dahil first time mom. Makiramay na lang po tayo. Wag tayong masasama.
Delete7:06 wala naman talagang effect ang pag announce ng maaga. Tanga lang maniniwala na makukunan pag nagannounce.
DeleteTama si 8:32, delikado pa ang first trimester, mas may chances at safe after 12 weeks, kaya mas mabuti na mag celebrate pag sure na talaga.
let's be honest. There is more pain when more people know. I know many people who after experiencing the same decide to keep quiet on the next time they are carrying the baby. Di siguro kayo na-expose to such kaya ganyan na lang reaction nyo.
DeleteCome on. The pain comes from people who lack support and continue to add insult to injury. The more people who knows, the more people should be supporting and comforting these women who went through miscarriage. It’s not the woman’s fault if she announces something that makes her happy whenever she likes, wala lang talagang manners and empathy ang mga people na nakaalam.
Deleteundefine feeling and cirtical thinking we cannot label as pain. millions of why and later what ifs. every moment of silence tears uncontrollably streaming. the envy of almost a mother to a mother with newly born child. saying buti pa sya.. sana ako din...
ReplyDeletei lost my baby too... i feel you...
#myheartforheart
Hugs. Sorry for your loss. I pray for your healing
DeleteVirtual **hugs** to you sis.
Deletedi bale, your rainbow baby will be as beautiful
ReplyDeletei had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, first pregnancy. i was supposed to name her Hannah because even though i didnt know the gender yet i was convinced it was going to be a girl 😊
ReplyDeletei had mine just recently (feb) at 20 weeks. as i prayed for a healthy baby boy, at 16 weeks i was so happy coz he is waving at me through Ultrasound, at 20 weeks about time to confirm he’s gender though i know he is a little prince was then broken hearted knowin he doesnt have a heart beat already.
Deletei had painful normal delivery even though i am givin birth to a sweet little angel. he is a cute little boy.
prayers for you and to our little angels. 🌷
I’m sorry sis 😞😞😞
DeleteSayang. Next time mas mag ingat pa
ReplyDeletea lot of factors affect a miscarriage kahit gaano pa kaingat ang ina. it's not her fault.
Deletewala naming judgment dun sa sinabi. in fact she is right. while it is true it might not be the reason (too much activity), it is still possible that it is. if gusto mo talaga ng anak, you would do more sacrifices. My sis-in-law have to completely stop working and bed-rest talaga. She had 3 miscarriages and finally after 10 years nagkaanak. Lots of suffering and sacrifices but it is worth it.
Deletei hate people commenting about not announcing until the second trim. why can’t you just feel sorry and sad for the grieving mom?! why blame her? hindi pa siguro ninyo nararamdaman yung pure unadulterated, unfiltered joy of knowing you’re pregnant. and you don’t announce, anticipating that a tragedy would happen. announcements are done for the pleasure of the parents and to share the happiness to well-wishers. kung nawala ang baby, just condole, don’t condemn.
ReplyDeleteI know right. These people want these expectant mothers to live in fear and hide their happiness. They want them to hide their sadness and grieve alone when these things happen.
DeleteSobrang insensitive and may mababago ba kung nag announce or hindi? Same pain, same everything! Walang mababago sa nararamdaman ng nanay na namatayn ng anak.
DeleteBaka they thought na pag nag annouce ka after the first trimester the inevitable wouldn’t happen. Losing a child is painful. Whether announced early on or later in the pregnancy. Will it lessen the pain if you didnt announce it?
Deletevery well said.
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DeleteI followed everyone's advice and did not announce until after 12th week. I did tell a few people, family mostly and asked them to keep it to themselves. And i knew it pretty early on, like 6 days into the pregnancy. I guess it's to lessen the heartache, as miscarriage is quite common on the first trimester. The more people knows, the more you have to explain to.
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DeleteAgree 7:05.
DeleteSo sorry for your loss. May peace of mind and peace of heart to everyone who reads this.
Deletethey dont mean no harm on saying sana di na muna nag announce. Karamihan ng first time moms di muna ang aanounce hanggat mga nangangalahati na ng taon, kasi nga marami talaga miscarriage, basta hirap explain.
DeleteI agree with you anon 7:05, I announced my 1st pregnancy the moment the pregnancy test turned positive and everything went well. And now my boy is 5 and very healthy!
DeleteAgree, 7:05. Walang kinalaman ang pag aannounce sa buhay ng baby. Sad lang nawala ito. Kung nanay ka at sobra mong saya lalo na at matagal mo hinintay si baby, d mo maiwasang maannounce sa sobrang tuwa mo. Mema lang yung mga nandito. Iba-iba po ang tao. Kung kayo, d ninyo feel mag announce, kayo yun. As always, wag po natin i force ang iba na gawin ang ginagawa natin. Besides, that thinking is sooo old age!!! - mother na nag announce sa family niya after one month na na found out na buntis siya.
DeleteWell, because it’s a good advice. The risk of losing a baby is higher in the first trimester. Gets mo. Even doctors says that.
Deletepaano po yun? wala na syang baby? diba kambal?
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss. Early announcements alam ko wala namang kinalaman yan sa pagbubuntis but people will keep watch on you and some alam mo naman may masasabi talaga. So better if hindi konting kibot alam na agad ng buong mundo. And also high heels. First trimester is delicate pa talaga so sana makinig din. We know your body is used to wearing high heels... But not your pregnant body. God bless you Heart.
ReplyDeleteAno ba kasi kinalaman ng pag aannounce ng pregnancy during first trimester?
ReplyDeleteThings will happen kahit ano pa maaga or late i announce.
Just be compassionate dahil tanging yung nanay lang ang nakakaramdam ng sakit na mawalan ng baby. Hindi na kailangan pa sisihin at ibase sa kung anu anong pamahiiin na yan.
Tama ka 7:14. Ewan ko ba sa iba. Kaya d naunlad ang pinas eh. Mahilig sa pamahiin.
DeleteAt ano bang basis ng mga commenter para sabihin na dapat hindi muna inaannounce kapag first trimester?? Jusmiyo san kweba ba kayo nakatira? Kung di nyo magawang makisimpatya sa isang babaeng nawalan ng anak tahimik na lang kayo..sabi nga when you have nothing good to say then say nothing at all.. anyway be strong heart.. babantayan ka na ng 2 angels mo
ReplyDelete-a mom of two(at nagannounce din ng pregnancy nung first trimester ko)
Naiyak Ako . First time mom here . Stay strong heart
ReplyDeleteOh no this is very sad for her 😔
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad. Excited na excited pa naman ako when I learned preggy na sya, and eventually see her baby. God will bless you with another child Heart. Be strong *hugs*
ReplyDeleteSo pag inannounce, mamamatay yung baby? Ano yon?! Syempre proud sila. Walang kinalaman yung pag announce sa 1st or 2nd tri sa pag ka wala ng baby.
ReplyDeleteThe post was posted four hours ago when I read it, at the same time that for some reason, I was reminded of reading the magazine where Heart spoke of losing the other twin. I hadnt known that she had miscarried at the time that it was happening. I read this post on her IG only five minutes ago... picture of white flowers. I had to read at least three times if my understanding was correct that she indeed lost the baby. I feel so sorry for Heart. It gives me the cringe that I somehow have the foresight for things that are bound to happen. I dont know what to do with it. If only I had the power to stop the not so good ones, or give warnings to people involved. Even then, may God’s peace surround and comfort you and your family, Hearty. Take as much rest and break as you can. God loves you.
ReplyDeleteI had 4 miscarriages already at my young age of 33. The doctors here in canada only told me it's just a bad luck, announced ko den ng npakaaga, i can say that walang mawawala kung ssunod lang sa mga ganyan. And I will tell you guys 4times kong naramdaman ang nararamdaman ngayon ni heart. And until now umaasa pa ren kami ng aswa ko na pagkagaling ko sa pilipinas para magpataas ng matres at magpalinis sa doctor na one day magkakaroon den kami ng baby.
ReplyDeleteI wish you well sis! Of course walang masama kung mag ingat. Ang masama ay yung nangyari na, susumbatan pa. Quiet na lang di ba? Masama na yung loob nung tao, tapos parang sinisisi pa nung iba na ‘kasi nag announce agad’
DeleteAww. Sad. Im sure your angel is in a happy place now 😔😇
ReplyDeleteFor others it's too early to announce. But for new Moms and those who've been praying to be one, just the 2 lines on a PT makes it all worth announcing to the world. My prayers to you Heart. Hang in there, God's timing is the perfect timing.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry Heart & Chis.
ReplyDeleteI read this on a forum and I agree with the one who posted this: "Technically kasi hindi pa fully developed yung embryo until matapos ang 3 months kaya advised lagi sa mga moms kahit hindi celebrities ay wag munang i announced at wag muna maging over excited hanggat hindi muna lumalampas sa stage na yun. Lalo na kung multiple embryos. May iba kasi nalalagas or nababawasan pa. Sa "science" kasi parang ganyan ang explanation. Kung baga sa itlog na kinakain natin, may iba maayos pero meron din iba bulok.. so kailangan i discharge ng body.
ReplyDeleteI feel sad for her and im sure madami ng nag advise sakanya wag muna sabihin. Pero first time mom eh so hindi rin masisisi. Though it could have saved her a lot of pain. Parang kasi she owes everyone an explanation kahit wala naman dapat."
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DeleteWill never believe you. It will not lessen the pain kahit d pa niya nai announced. And who are we to condemn those happy moms announcing their pregnancy? It involves many factors but announcement is definitely not one of those.
DeleteYes! Thank you.
DeleteTechnically though, around 10weeks pa lang hindi na sya embryo, start na ng pagiging fetus meaning almost human-like na talaga ang features at halos functioning na ang mga organs at meron na rin heartbeat from around 6weeks at kailangan nlng magfully develop in the coming months. Nevertheless, very fragile pa nga.
DeleteI think she’s past her first trimester when she announced it. Remember she said na nawala din yung supposed to be twin nung baby. And, during her trip in Paris (yata) she wished to be pregant yung nagturn but she wasn’t aware that she already is.
DeleteWALA KAYONG PAKI-ALAM KUNG IN-ANNOUNCE NIYA MAAGA.
Delete12:33 i miscarried and people kept on sending condolences. Sa akin lang ha, mas mahirap ang reminder na it happened, kaya that time inisip ko na sana hindi ko muna sinabi hanggat sure ako. Mahirap na nga mawalan ng anak, and i know people mean well, but to be bombarded with sorries and condolences weeks after the miscarriage didn’t help the process of moving on. Kaya sa nexr pregnancy ko i never shared it until i knew that everything was ok with the pregnancy, which was on the 2nd trimester
DeleteSo inconsiderate naman ng mga commenters na ang concern ay sana daw di muna inannounce, pag pure joy ang nararamdaman ng isang tao ay di mo talaga mapigilan ang sarili mo to share the happiness to everyone. I have a friend na twice na nakunan and sobrang lungkot na nila mag-asawa pero we console them, support and pray. If you have no good words to say at all to feel them good then shut the f**k up!
ReplyDeleteSo sad. 2 agad nawala.
ReplyDeleteSo sad to hear this news,same situation kami ni heart.i also loss my first baby..At first di ko maintindihan bakit ganoon ang nangyari..but i had to accept it kahit masakit..i know god has a plan...just trust him lang heart
ReplyDeletehere in Europe they don't announce the pregnancy after 1st tri..doctors advise kasi delicate pa and they will just annouce you as pregnant legally after 3 months..dun mo palang pwedeng sabihin sa work mo na preggy ka.. pero i do not condemn Heart!excited as a parent tsaka wala namang rule sa pinas na wag iannounce agad!i hope she finds peace and healing soon...
ReplyDeleteGrabe ang hirap talaga pag maselan magbuntis. Dapat siguro hindi.muna sya.kikilos as in nakahiga lang most of the time
ReplyDeleteUnless her OB advised her to do bed rest, there's no reason for a woman to just lay down all the time in the beginning of her pregnancy? A woman's body can handle anything. A smart doctor wouldn't even dare advise that!
DeletePero according naman daw sa doctor nung previous visits nya safe na sya at hindi sya high risk. Ganun talaga there are unknown reasons why the fetus suddenly fails to develop. At the early stage it chooses to abort itself due to growth or chromosomal abnormalities. Let’s not assume that it’s always the mother’s fault or something the mother did.
DeleteWhether she announced early or late, it doesnt diminish her pain of losing a baby.
ReplyDeletetrue! So many here lack compassion or common sense. Even if she didn't mention she was pregnant and she still had a miscarriage, that doesn't diminish the pain of losing a baby.
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DeleteAnnouncing a pregnancy has nothing to do about this issue. Be human, have a heart. Any good mother would be proud to announce a pregnancy! I wpuld proudly scream it out to the world. Losing a child is very painful. Show empathy. The world needs more of that.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your lost heart! Minsan na din ako nawalan, and sobrang sakit as in... lahat na lang ng bakit matatanong mo to the point na hindi na ko nag simba but my husband help me araw araw nia pnaparamdam sakin na ok lang un at may ddating pa para samin. At ngayon, eto yung rainbow baby namin is turning 1 next month.. heart, just lift up everything to Him at mggng ok dn ang lahat 🙏🏻
ReplyDeleteAgree 7:05.
ReplyDeletepanay heels kasi
ReplyDeleteDoktor ka?
DeleteAno kinalaman ng heartbeat at heels te? Ignoranteng mema
DeleteHAHAHAHAHA, GIRL, OR SHOULD I SAY LOLA, MOVE KA NA 20TH CENTURY!
DeleteOb ang mom ko sabi nya, hehe kaya daw nauso yung wag mag heels pag nga buntis e baka out of balance, gumiba, madapa or matapilok. Hehehe. Kaya Ganun ka OA mga matatanda, gaya namin taga probinsya. Hehe pinagiingat lang.
DeleteAnon 10:56 your heart is full of negativity
Deleteako panay heels din pero nakatatlo anak ako. Baka matumba ka lang kaya bawal but if you’re used to it, walang connection
DeleteOh this is heartbreaking. Stay strong Heart. :(
ReplyDeleteAno koneksyon kung i announce o hinde? Mga tao talaga maka comment lang
ReplyDeleteAnong masama kung first tri pa lang at gusto mo ng isigaw sa mundo na magiging magulang ka na. Yung mga nagsasabing dapat hindi muna nag announce sang planeta ba kayo galing. Oo may possibility na mgkaron ng miscarriage pero sinong would-be parent ang maghahangad nun. Siyempre pag nagconceive ka iisipin mong magiging healthy ang baby hanggang sa paglabas. Kung pessimistic kang tao sarilinin mo na lang wag ka nang mangdamay ng iba. Imbes na mag sympathize nanisi pa kayo.
ReplyDeleteNalungkot naman ako for heart. I hope you feel better soon. Your Angel Will be watching over you
ReplyDeleteSo sad po.
ReplyDeleteMay mga bagay talaga na hindi kayang ipaliwanag ng science..basta nangyari na lang.sorry for your lost.
ReplyDeleteActually a miscarriage is something that can be explained by science.
DeleteAnong konek ng pag aannounce sa miscarriage? If it's bound to happen, then it will happen. We cannot blame women to announce their pregnancy kahit siguro ultimo oras pa lang yan. I feel sad for heart pero she should really stay strong. Look at mariel diba? After how many miscarriages naging successful din. Go heart! Soon, God will bless you your own child.
ReplyDeletenaawa ako kay Heart, but don't worry in God's time.
ReplyDeleteSad, but you need to be positive. In God's timing.
ReplyDeleteAww Heart, I’m not a fan but I’ll be saying a little prayer for you. From someone who’s also wishing and hoping for a little angel, be strong and kapit lang. He will make everything beautiful in His time.
ReplyDeleteI feel sad for you . Will pray for you.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for heart. I also lost 2 babies due to miscarriage. Ansakit sakit. Alam mo yung feeling na excited ka pumunta doctor to hear the heartbeat tapos wala o mawawala:( i got traumatized kaya yung next pregnancy ko naging paranoid na ako na baka wala nang heartbeat yung next baby. Sa awa naman ng Diyos i was blessed with two healthy babies.
ReplyDeleteI feel you Heart, had my miscarriage in nov. 2015 and until now wala p ring mabuo. Naiyak ako, naalala ko ung pain na naramdaman ko dati
ReplyDeleteSis sayaw ka sa Obando, totoo daw yun.
Delete12:05 ako sumayaw sa Obando 2 times with my hubby and mom in law. Waley pa din. Ang nabuntis yung 47 year old kung office mate at yung teenager kong kapitbahay. 3 kaming naiyak.yung 2 ayaw mabuntis.
Deleteano to? pag nag announce ba, jinx na ang pregnancy?? kung hindi ka pa nagexpect/nabuntis/nanganak/, hindi mo talaga maiintindihan.
ReplyDeletei feel you heart. had a miscarriage in 2016, and til now hurting pa rin ako. naghiwalay na kami ng ex bf ko at lahat. haaayyyy sad life 😭
ReplyDeletetapos makakakita ka ng babies, you would really feel sad.
stay strong. God has a great plan
I love you, Heart! You're the most beautiful person I've met inside and outside. Stay strong!!!! ❤️
ReplyDeleteAnd sometimes they are opt to announce because of prior commitment na hindi mo na pwede gawin or food na hindi na pwede kainin lalo na sa mga artista..so better if they announce pra madali to say No sa mga bagay na hindi mo na pwede gawin..I had 3 miscarriages and 2 stillborns, sobra sakit na mawalan kaya sana words of comfort lng ang sabihin natin
ReplyDeletehug sis...ang sakit naman ng pinagdaaanan mo...
Deleteoh my! sorry to hear that. i had 1 miscarriage sobrang sakit na paano nlng sau
Deletewag po tayo bastos kay Heart na namatayan, it doesn't matter kung nag announce siya or not. The point is namatayan pa rin siya ng anak. Masakit yon para sa isang ina or mom to be. Makiramay na lang tayo and lets pray for Heart.
ReplyDeleteI feel sorry for Heart. But I hope whe won't lose hope. She is still young, and with prayers, her wish to be a mom will be granted by our Lord Almighty.
ReplyDeletePeople! Listen to your preachings! My golly! Pregnancies should be kept private because it is an intimate thing.. Some people live for social media so they post to show instead of to share. I would STOP blaming each other, and just accept the fact that we should all, Heart included, lead our lives accordingly and not live for our social media lives. You are allowed to keep things private you know.
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