Image courtesy of www.entertainment.inquirer.net
Source: www.entertainment.inquirer.net
Monday morning wasn’t so beautiful and kind to “Umagang Kay Ganda” host Anthony “Tunying” Taberna. The host recently came under fire for his apparent victim-blaming of a rape victim during the morning show’s episode last Feb. 19.
Critics pointed out that Taberna’s remarks only contribute in perpetuating rape culture.
Taberna’s statements didn’t escape spoken word artist Juan Miguel Severo’s scrutiny, as he took to Twitter last Monday to share the video of Taberna making his remarks live on “Umagang Kay Ganda”.
Severo called out Taberna in his tweets: “So in today’s episode of @ukgdos, Anthony Taberna decided to victim-blame a woman who was gang raped. Oh, this man. I don’t think I’m alone in thinking na hindi nakagaganda ng umaga – at ng buhay! – ang mga ganitong tao sa TV. (I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that people like this on TV do not make mornings, nor life, beautiful.)”
In the video, a news report of a 19-year-old girl was delivered; she was allegedly gang-raped after meeting up with someone she was chatting with online.
In the background, however, Taberna’s voice can be heard, saying, “Pambihira naman, o. Eto po ay hindi first time na nangyari, napakadaming pagkakataon na yang eyeball eyeball na yan, ang mas delikado nakipag-eyeball ka na nga, nakipag-inuman ka pa. Yan ang problema, yun ang mabigat sa lahat, lalo’t puro lalake ka-inuman mo.”
(This is just remarkable. It’s not the first time that this happened. There have been so many incidents like this of eyeball meet-ups. What’s more dangerous is you not only go to that eyeball meet-up, you even went out for a drink. That’s the problem, that’s the hardest of all, especially since you’re drinking out with an all-male group.)
One of the co-hosts of the show, Jeff Canoy, was heard countering Taberna. “Madalas usually pinapa-alalahanan yung mga babae na wag sumama, wag uminom,” said Canoy. “Pero dapat yung blame talaga eh yung nasa lalake. Pag sinabi ng babae wag, wag, diba.“
(Usually, women are reminded to not go, to not drink. But the blame really should be on the man. If the woman say “no,” that means “no.”)
Taberna, however, didn’t stop there. Seemingly cutting off Canoy, Taberna responded that in truth, women shouldn’t put themselves in dangerous situations.
“Hindi, sa totoo lang, madali sabihin yang sa lalaki eh. Pasensya na dun sa biktima yun dapat mabigyan ng katarungan,” said Taberna. “Pero ito para sa future na pangyayari. Kapag ka ikaw ay babae, wag kang papasok sa lungga ng mga tulisan.”
(No. The truth is it’s easy to say that to men. Excuse me in so far as the victim is concerned, the one who must be given justice. But this should be a [warning] for future incidents. If you’re a woman, don’t enter a hole of evil-doers.)
It wasn’t long after until people started to call Taberna out for his statements. Severo himself added we deserve better than statements that normalise the boys-will-be-boys mentality. “Rape doesn’t happen because victims put themselves in vulnerable situations, rape happens because rapists rape.”
Meanwhile, netizen Ralph Orense (@WokenRalph) enumerated all the media personalities who blamed victims and were never punished for their statements.
Editor and award-winning poet Alma Anonas-Carpio, on the other hand, told Taberna his comments were unwarranted. “It was vile, it was unethical. Shame on you. In my honest and unvarnished opinion, you really shouldn’t be wearing a press tag.”
Women’s rights activist Jean Enriquez, too, called for the removal of Taberna from the morning show, saying we don’t need sexist media persons in this day and age of the #MeToo movement.
“I have had enough of over-confident commentators shaping public opinion and reinforcing deeply biased, ignorant perspectives,” wrote Enriquez. “Require that sociology courses be taken by media persons.”
The official Twitter account of Umagang Kay Ganda (@ukgdos) immediately reached out to Severo, thanking him for his feedback. “Thank you for your feedback. Umagang Kay Ganda values comments from its viewers and we have called the attention of Anthony Taberna on the concern you have raised. Rest assured we are addressing this matter.”
Taberna has also apologized for his remarks in this morning’s episode of “Umagang Kay Ganda”. He pointed out that even before the news report last Monday, he always mentions that rapists have no place in society.
“Kailanman po ay hindi ko kakampihan ang mga demonyong ito. Subalit alam ko rin na merong mga hindi nagustuhan ang aking komento at ang aking paalaala, ipinalagay na paninisi sa biktima,” explained Taberna. “Hindi po yun ang aking intensiyon. Nais ko rin pong sabihin na hindi ko sinisisi ang biktima sa nangyari. Dapat pong panagutin sa batas ang mga kriminal.”
“Humihingi po ako ng paumanhin sa mga nasaktan sa aking komento at mas magiging maingat po ako sa susunod na pagkakataon,” he added.
(Never will I take the side of these demons. But I am aware that there are those who did not like my comment and my reminder, misinterpreted as victim-blaming. That was not my intention. I want to say that I am not blaming the victim on what happened. The criminal should be punished by law. I express my apologies to those who were hurt by my comment. I will be more careful next time.) JB
omg! it is just a reminder... oa masyado makareact.
ReplyDeleteYup NAGPAALALA LANG AT NANGARAL! Ayaw ng henerasyon ngayon ang mga prangkahang pangaral! Puro mga Rebelde!
Delete4:04 exactly! Well for some talaga. Pero me point naman talaga ung ganyang situation.
DeleteI think Tunying is not blaming the victim. She's reminding all the girls to be responsible and wise in making decisions.
DeleteVictim blaming smh. I have friends who commented pa na kasalanan ng babae pa at nkipag inuman at di kilala. We need to be cautious talaga esp da panahon ngayon pero there is no excuse for sexual harassment. Daming lumabas na holier than thou akala mo matitino pero bakit do siishin yung rapist? Nakakhiya ka Tunying classmate pa naman kita.
ReplyDeleteTama naman si Tunying. Ano ine-expect mo pag pumasok ka sa lungga ng mga ahas? Saka sinabi ba nya walang kasalanan mga rapists? Juicecolored.
DeleteWow so kasalanan pa ng babae at di makontrol n mga lalake na mang rape 2:45?
DeleteIkaw ba tatalon sa ilog na puno ng buwaya?! 1:52? Meron kasing mga tumatalon pa din kaya kelangang PAALALAHANAN AT PAGSABIHAN!!!
DeleteVictim blaming agad?? Eh Kung ikaw ang kaya makipagkita sa di mo kilala tapos makipag inuman pa! Tamang ugali ba yan. Siyanpa ang pumunta dun sa lungga. Sana inisip mo rin yun. Di man Lang nag isip ang babae na sa panahon ngayon di dapat magtiwala. Sana naman sa mall Lang kumain o kaya nagdala siya ng kaibigan
Deleteexactly. the way tunying said it was off but his logic was right. ano reason mo at bakit ka sasama and mkikipag-inuman sa mga hindi mo kakilala? ang mga taong gusto paalisin si tunying sa program ang mga nagppaka-holy kuno at hindi makatanggap ng brutal truth.
Deleteeh ang tanong ahas b mga yan anon2:45?tao sila at alam ang tama at mali oo o hindi.
Deleteang ginagawa nyo kc down n nga yung victim lalo nyo p binabaon sa lupa.
Syado ka hypocrite ‘teh! Nagpaalala lang si Taberna. At totoo ang sinabi nya, may pagkukulang din ang sa pagiingat ang babae.
DeleteIn a perfect world... as a female... you would be able to drink with whoever you want and not have to fear for your safety. But... we aren't in a perfect world. At the end of the day... you cannot control other people who lack intelligence and morals... but YOU... the owner of the body... can take precautions not to be in such situations.
DeleteI don't think he was victim blaming... he was simply saying people should avoid those kind of meet ups etc. because people are not trustworthy and it can be really unsafe.
4:06 good point
DeleteRape is rape. Basta may intensyon mang rape, sa kahit anong sitwasyon pa yan, basta rapist ka, mangrarape ka. Nagkaron lang ng malaking advantage yung mga lalakeng to dahil vulnerable si ate. Hindi normAl sa lalake ang mang-rape, hindi dapat normal sa tao ang gumawa ng masama sa kapwa. Hindi mali si anthony taberna kung intensyon nya magpaalala, pero kung sabihin na kasalanan ng babae lahat, yun ang mali.
DeleteOpinyon ko lang to. Pinapa alalahanan lang niya yung mga babae na nakikilag eyeball at nakikipag inuman pa sa mga hindi kilala. May something lang sa pagka sabi niya pero dama ko ang concern niya sa victim. Just saying.
ReplyDeleteTama nman cya. Ibang usapan kung ang babae na-rape dahil hinablot cya while she’s walking from school or workplace going to her house, yun talaga ang rape!
DeleteKorek 2:38 totoo naman na ang dami nang ganyang insidente. Ingatan mo sarili mo kung babae ka. Wag mo ilagay sa alanganin.
DeleteSeriously????
Deleteactually you can hear tunying's words in your parents and older relatives. so does it mean your family is victim blaming too? paalala lang yun.
Delete10:41, that's my immediate thought, too. Pag nga may nangyayari, yung parents natin usually hindi maiwasan na manumbat at paalalahanan ka kung ano dapat ang hindi mo ginawa. Malamang ganun din ang sentiment ni Tunying.
DeleteAre you kidding me 3:35? As long as no consent ang sex yun ang rape. Hindi mo kelangan mahablot ng uncle, pinsan, lolo o kung sino man lalake, basta hindi mo kagustuhan, rape yun!!
Delete9:55 ate no we are not kidding. dapat sa tahanan pa lang basic rule na yan, protektahan mo sarili mo sa mundong hindi mo kontrolado ang mga nangyayari. MALI ang mang rape oo, pero unang mong iisipin, "papasok ba ako sa ganitong sitwasyon?"
Deleteiba kasi yung kaso ng example ni 3:35, hindi nila ginusto na marape sila, eto kasi hinayaan nya yung sarili nya na maging pain. gets mo?
Dami self-righteous. Ayaw nyo lang talaga kay Tunying kasi he's not an Atenean or a LaSallean pero hindi nyo narating ang narating nya. #FACT
ReplyDeleteLabo ng logic. Ano kinalaman ng schools dito? Hindi naman lahat ng media personalities Atenean or LaSallian naman talaga no. Insecure ka sa kanila no?
DeleteHuh? San galing yung usapang eskewela teh?
Deletemay hugot ka sa ateneo at lasalle? ang layo ng topic baks. move on ka na kung di ka nakapasa o insecure ka sa mga graduates nila🙄
DeleteOut of the topic ka, teh. #fact
DeleteWhere did this comment come from? Layo at labo!
DeletePake ko kung san siya naggraduate
Delete6:38 Ano naman kung hindi sya nakapag-aral sa Ateneo or LaSalle? Kuda mo balik din sayo eh.
Delete3:17 ewan ko sayo, sasagot ka lang wala pang sense. biglang inattack ung schools na nananahimik, so obviously may insecurity sia dun. o baka ikaw din si 2:49.
Delete6:38 May dapat ba ika-insecure?
Delete2.49am -ok ka lang??? ikaw lang nakaisip niyan
ReplyDeleteI somehow agree with him. Kailangan din kasi natin isipin mga ginagawa natin bago gawin esp ngayon na maraming masasamang tao. Wag ipain ang sarili
ReplyDeleteTotoo naman na pa-liberated na ng pa-liberated ang mga babae ngayon. Iinom inom ba naman sa isang lugar na outnumbered ng lalaki ang babae tapos iexpect na santa ang tingin sa knya ng mga lalaki? Makashorts at croptop pa eh wagas. Lol! Hnd victim-blaming yan. Fact-telling ang ginawa ni tunying. Mga hitad lang na gumagawa ng ganyan ang masasaktan sa sinabi nya kasi totoo.
ReplyDeleteWala namang masama sa sinabi Niya ah!! Babae nakipag eyeball tapos inuman pa kasama ibang lalaki. Sana nag isip man Lang yung babae.
ReplyDeleteYung dating sa akin ay parang common sense lang. Its also about taking unnecessary risks.
DeleteKaramihan talaga sa insidente ng rape eh talagang demonyo yung kriminal kaya ng-rape. Pero aminin natin na may ilang pagkakataon na may narirape kasi ka-rape rape naman talaga yung babae base sa pananamit, pananalita, asta at lugar na pinuntahan nya. Ingat ingat din kasi pag may time.
ReplyDeletedi tayo naka tira sa perpektong mundo. may masasamang tao at may mabubuti. kung akala mo di ka malalagay sa alanganin, sumama ka. pero kung iba ang kutob mo, huwag sumama. may utak ka, gamitin mo. huwag iasa sa iba ang kaligtasan mo. 🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteNapakasesensitive. Totoo naman sinabi ni tunying di ba? Mga babae ngayon kung mag short hanggang singit tapos magagalit pag may bumastos. Ayusin kasi sarili yung hindi kabastos bastos para walang bumastos sayo. Wag ka magpakita ng motibo. Kababaeng tao nakikipag inuman sa mga lalaki. Tsk..
ReplyDeleteMuch ado about nothing..it's just a reminder! As a mother i think
ReplyDeletegirls should never go out w/ boys who they hardly knew and have a drink w/ him..iba na ang panahon ngayon..so many crazy people lurking in the dark w/ evil intentions..this is a hard lesson young girls should learn.
In a way may point naman si Tunying. Madami na kasing napapahamak kaka eyeball tapos makikipag inuman. Iba na kasi panahon ngayon. Madami ng masasamang tao sa mundo. Ang mali lang nya sana di na nya sinabi yan kasi wrong timing, nagdadalamhati yung na-rape so insensitive sya masyado for saying that.
ReplyDeleteWatch the movie "Taken". Kung babae ka, Iwas say mga Ganon. Physically, mao-over power ka talaga ng lalake. What more, maraming lalake. We should accept that there are bad people in this world. Huwag ilagay Ang sarili sa danger. It could have been avoided. Sad to say, walang totoong-buhay na Liam Neeson magse-save Kung napahamak.
ReplyDeleteJusko! tigilan na nga ang mga ka-cheapan na pagtatalak. Kemeng ang daming pinaglalaban..Napaka St*pid lang ang mga na offend or maooffend dito..walang sinabing masama c Tunying. Isa lang tong paalala..kung may common sense ka at babae ka bakit ka sasama sa NDI MO PA KILALA para makipag inuman?? nasan ang utak mo nun? Victim Shaming my a**. At NDI KO KINAKAMPIHAN ang mga walang hiyang rapist na yan for the record. Ang akin lang kung may utak ka bakit mo ilalagay ang sarili mo sa sitwasyon na pde kang mapahamak?? SAgot?!! nagiinit talaga ulo ko sa mga taong ang daming talak pro wala nmng utak. PLease lang.
ReplyDeletebawal na pala magremind ngayon??? grabe naman kasensitivevmga tao hindi naman nya sinisi masyado nagrenind lang.
ReplyDeleteok lang makipag eyeball pero yung makipag inuman eh iba na yon.
Pag eyeball dapat kape ang iniinom hindi alak. pag may alak may balak at kung sa bar kayo mag meet madilim at malabo CCTV unlike sa Coffee Shop
Ako rin gets ko yung gusto nyang ipaalala sa mga babae na laging maging maingat lalo na sa mga nakikilala lang sa social media. Hindi naman nya sinabi na walang kasalanan yung rapist.
ReplyDeletewala dapat ipag sorry si ka tunying ang comment niya to reming lalo na mga babae na wag sumama at makipaginuman sa taong di kilala... para hindi mapahamak at maulit eh nangyayari pandin kahit ilang beses na mabalita about sa pakikipag chat sa hindi kilala eh nagtitiwala agad.
ReplyDeleteNandun na tayo, rape is rape at kelangan din panagutan yan nung mga nang-rape sa kanya.
ReplyDeletePero may point din si Tunying, mali lang siguro ang tono nya pero totoo naman din kasi, ang dami ng nabalitang ganyan, pero parang hindi nadadala ung iba, cge pa rin sa pakikipagsalamuha sa hindi kakilala at nakikipag-inuman pa, sabi nga db, pag may alak, may balak.
Pero nandyan na yan, nangyari na, let's just give support and sympathy to the girl and keep reminding everyone na mas ok nlng n wag n sumama lalo pa at hindi naman lubos n kakilala.
prang tatay lang na nanermon ng anak n babae eh.
ReplyDeleteD kasi mapagsasabihan mga lalaki na yan. Kaya babae kailangan gamitin na ang utak. Baka gusto nyo pabebe pang sabihin ni taberna ?
ReplyDeleteNagpapaalala din maging safe ang mga babae.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with tunying comment... its just a reminder
ReplyDeletePaalala rin un para sa ibang babae. Wag masyado makampante sa mga nakikilala. Kung ayaw ma-victim blame, ingatan ang sarili. Iyon lang un. Masakit talaga marinig ang katotohanan.
ReplyDeleteBabae ako pero wala akong makitang masama sa sinabi ni Tunying. Paalala lang yun sa kababaihan na dapat mag-ingat. Hindi natin hawak ang desisyon ng ibang tao. Pero sarili natin, may kontrol tayo. Ako personally, hindi ako makikipag-eyeball at inuman sa lalake lalo hindi ko kilala. Hindi ko ilalagay ang sarili ko sa delikadong sitwasyon.
ReplyDeletegirl din ako, at nuon pa i know may nagawa din akong mali. about sa mga ganyan2x, kaya ngayon, kung ano sinabi ni tunying, yan din ang sinasabi ko sa sarili ko. yun talaga.
DeleteTama! Lahat dapat maging responsable. Lalaki at babae. Hindi victim blaming ito. Nagpapaalala lang na wag maging kaladkaren ang mga babae.
DeleteOMG! ang mga tao ngayon ang daming alam. tama naman si mr. taberna. hintayin nyong kumuda ang mga matatanda pa sa inyo baka hindi lang yan ang madinig nyo! kaya madaming babaeng walwal ngayon dahil sa mga taong ganito na nagsasabing “OK lang yung ginawa mo, basta gawin mo lang kung anong gusto mo”. maling mali!
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I dont see anything wrong with his comment. It really came off as a paalala. Wala namang victim blaming. My sister was in the same situation with the girl once instead of an eyeball the culprits were her boss and his minions. Di maiiwasan ang mga paalala. Pag di mo kakilala and di public ang place please refrain from intoxicating yourself of mas mabuti wag ng uminom kasi baka lagyan din ng gamot ang inumin like what happened to my sister. Wala namang masama sa pag iingat lalo na sa atin mga babae.
ReplyDeleteFor me. Tama si tunying at walang masama sa sinabi nya. paano mga ateh at koya, nagkalat na po ang mga adik kahit saan. mga manloloko sa social media/text. hindi naman bago yon eh. magsisimula yan sa inyo. papaloko ba kayo? lalo na mga babae? pinagsasabihan lang nya ng may tapang. wag makipag-usap sa mga di kakilala. lesson din sa lahat. kasi kung papauto kayo sa huli nanaman ang sisi.
ReplyDeleteseryoso ba ito? tatanggaling ba sya sa UKG sa matinong comment nyang yan? reminder lang sinabi nya...??? hindi makatarungan ah. so kung umulit ang ganyang cases, wala lang dapat maicomment? sige lang dapat at hindi pagsasabihan mga kabataan? pagnagcomment ka tanggal at nakakainsulto? kalokaa
ReplyDeletegusto nila kampihan yung babae. oo naman eh kasi bigyan naman daw ng hustisya. pero paulit ulit nalang ba dapat maawa? at sa huli magsisi?hindi. para kasing, edi sige, makikipagchat ako, makikipagtext ako, basta ako wala kong kasalanan..ganun ba gusto ng mga bashers ni tonying?
DeleteYes, "pinagsabihan" nya yung babae but his comment na "puro lalake mga kainuman" kind of sends the message that drunk men may have the tendency to rape and we should just accept that. Did he even call out the rapists? Goodness gracious.
ReplyDeletewhy are the guys not offended? maybe his statement sends a message that drinking men cannot be trusted to act gentlemanly.
DeleteMen are stupid. Why do you think you shouldn't walk around drinking tambays. If they can all be placed in prisons that would be even better... but that's not reality... is it? You can't imprison people for drinking or being intoxicated. It's not acceptance of that situation... it's the fact that you can't imprison people in those kind of situations... and that's why you just stay away from it.
DeleteThird world mentality, still victim-blaming.
ReplyDeleteI don't think so. For me it's a kind of reminder from a father to her daughter how to protect herself so that such thing will never happen again.
DeleteRape is a crime. The perpetrator of the crime is to blame. Period. No excuses.
ReplyDeleteNot in its entirety. People should take responsibility for their actions. Being cautious could go a long way especially in this time and age where demons in human skin freely roam the world. There is no excuse to harming another person, but things could go wrong if a person puts him/herself in dangerous situations. There is nothing wrong if we keep reminding the public about it. Increased social awareness about safety and more robust laws against perpetrators should be established simultaneously.
Delete8:29 Ever heard of you are responsible for your own actions? Not so PERIOD dahil di ka naturuan to be responsible.
Delete10:52 & 8:29 You're saying people should be responsible for their actions? Shouldn't the rapist be the one responsible for the act of RAPE? Wasn't he the irresponsible one in this situation? Yes, it's given that this world isn't a safe place and women are subject to harassment on a daily basis. But how is that ever going to change when girls are forced to just accept it and stand guard instead of guys being taught to NOT harrass women, no matter how they dress or act?
Delete12:52 So until now you still believe that all men can be trusted? Go back to the caves!
Delete12:52 We don’t live in a perfect world. Kahit ibalik pa ang bitay, mangyayari at mangyayari pa rin ang rape. In reality, we can’t control other people, kahit pilipitin mo pa leeg ng mga yan.. BUT, people should be vigilant and cautious at ALL TIMES. We can’t contol them but we can control ourselves. Wag ilusyonada!
DeleteTrue. The perpetrator of the crime is the rapist. It’s plane and simple. He or she is to blame, never the victim, never.
DeleteAt gumagawa ng ganun ay hindi matinong tao. Kung hindi mo gaano kilala ang isang tao, na hindi mo alam hindi pala sya matino, sasama ka?
DeleteAnthony taberna is a fake journalist ang dami nyang biases na lumalabas
ReplyDeleteWhat!? Dahil lang dyan biased na? Babaw ah.
DeleteNagpaalala lang hindi naninisi responsibilidad mo din na ingatan ang sarili mo. Coming from someone na may #metoo experience walang masama sa sinabi nya.
ReplyDeleteAng oa naman nung mga nagsasabi na tanggalin si tunying. Eh wala naman sinabi masama. Mas malala pa nga yung presidente eh!
ReplyDeleteGrabe na talaga ang kababawan ng utak ng mga tao ngayon sumobra naman sa pagkasensitive.nagpaalala lang sya para di na maulit yung ganitong pangyayari.kung magwawalang kibo sila.mauulit at mauulit lang to.
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteHis intention for his message is good. Mali lang siguro pagkakasabi. Siguro ang nais nya sabihin ay huwag tayo basta basta makikipagkita at sa mga taong nakakachat lang at di natin lubusan na kakilala, kasi di naten alam kung ano pwede mangyari. May responsibilidad tao sa ating sariling na maging maingat, lalo na at delikado ang mga panahon ngayon. Isipin din naten na mahirap mahirap makamtam ang hustisya sa Pilipinas.
ReplyDeletemali yung mga suspek pero tama ba yung ginawa nung biktima? yung totoo, kung magulang kayo hindi nyo ba sasabihin sa mga anak nyo babae na wag makipaginuman sa mga lalaking hindi kilala? yun ang punto ni tunying. wala naman siya sinabi wala kasalanan mga suspek.
ReplyDeleteIm a girl, but I dont find anything wrong with his comment. Actually he has a point.
ReplyDeleteI don't like Tunying but I agree with him on this one.
ReplyDeleteI mean... I don't think he was victim blaming. It's reality! The truth is... no matter how much you want to think that people aren't evil... they are! The reality is... some men are just too unintelligent and lack the ability to control themselves. Some are just animals who lack control and the only thing you can do is to keep yourself from getting into those kind of situations. It's a sad reality but it's reality. Just like you shouldn't be going to hidden/dark places if you don't want to be robbed etc. It's the same concept.
ReplyDeleteNo, if you have watched the whole segment, may nabanggit pa kasi si Anthony na parang, "lalaki lang yan mga yan" implication na double standard sya. Yes, totoo na nagpaalala sya pero mas na highlight na parang mas mali pa nung na rape. Kung ikaw ang lalaki, may nakipag inuman sayo at maiksi suot, bakit, ri rape-an mo na ba agad? Mali logic nya.
ReplyDelete@1:55 ikaw, tanungin kita, ipagkakatiwala mo ba ang sarili mo sa naka-eyeball mo lang at makikipag inuman ka pa kasama ang iba pang kalalakihan?
Deletenag iisip ka ba teh? yung sitwasyon nga eh hindi pa kilala at 1st time palang magkita. at dyan naman sa sinasabi mo possible mangyari yan. aba utak parin ang gamitin. wala ng sinasanto ngayon ang mga adik kung saan saan.
DeleteWhat 1:55 is saying is that Anthony made a double standard comment pointing out that it was the victim's fault. As if it's normal for a guy to act that way. Hindi tama yun. Just because you're drunk and meet a girl kahit first time pa yan or hindi, wala kang right na irape siya. Yes, the girl put herself at risk but it still doesn't make what the guy did RIGHT. Imbis na ang mga lalake ang sabihan niya na rumespeto sa babae, parang sinabi niya na tanggapin nalang to ng mga babae at magingat.
Delete1:55 I think when he said "lalaki lang yan mga yan" he meant wag mag madali, you have the rest of your life to make landi with others. chaar
Delete3:47 tomoh. He meant that may time kapa para makalandi sa guy and making sure na hindi ka nya itatake advantage
DeleteYes, it makes sense that he made a reminder for women to be more careful. But where was the reminder for men not to disrespect, not to objectify and not to rape women? Why does all the blame go to the girl? Isn't a human's natural disposition supposed to be kind and respectful? Let's not even put gender in this equation. How could you blame a PERSON for believing in the goodness of another PERSON?
ReplyDeleteKailangan pa ba sabihin yun? Duh!
DeleteMay punto sya...di ka dapat talaga magtiwala basta-basta sa mga nami-meet mo lang online. Kasi baka nga ganyan, mga salbahe pala. Syempre mali din yung mga lalaki bakit nila rape-in agad? Pero ang point doon, sana nag-ingat sya. Bakit ka nakipag-meet at nakipag-inuman sa mga hindi mo naman talaga kilala?
ReplyDeleteOO tatay yan si tonying kaya parang isa syang ama na pinagsasabihan ang mga anak at yun ang mga babaeng nanunuod. dapat lang maging matalino kayo. ganun pag matigas ulo ng bata pinagsasabihan lang. grabe naman kayo. bakit isususpend si tonying grabe ah ang OA ng bashers.
ReplyDeleteI think this is a good example. aminin naman natin dami padin kabataan especially mga babae, may nakatext lang or nakachat ng hindi kakilala kumakagat sila, binibigay na information nila etc. Ngayon nanermon si Ka Tunying, siguro umingay din ang news na toh, magtataka sila sa sinabi ni Tunying , at pag nangyari saknila yan na may magpakilalang hindi nila kakilala at nagtatanong at nakikipag eyeball, matatandaan nila ang sinabi ni Tunying. Mawala ka man ng show nakatulong ka padin ituwid mga inosente nilang utak. mabuhay ka!
ReplyDeleteSo anong problema sa sinabe ni Tonying? Tama naman eh. Dami na kase nababalita na ganyang case. Bat sige pa
ReplyDeleteDin ng sige pakikipag-eb. Tapos makikipaginuman ka pa??? Di mo naman kilalang kilala un tao. Pambihira. Kung gusto mo magwalwal dun ka sa totoong friends mo. Sos
kahit naman ako yung magulang hindi ko kukunsintihin ang malandi kong anak. Dahil hindi mo kontrolado ang mga nangyayari ngayon. kung narape man si ate, dapat managot ang mga nagkasala. pero in he first place, mag isip ka muna sa mga aksyon mo.
ReplyDeleteang daming commenters dito na may common sense! beri gud!
ReplyDeleteWhat he said is just RIGHT! Wag kang pupunta sa kulungan ng mga leon o ahas kung ayaw mong makagat! We can’t control how “animals” think but we in the right mind can control what to do. ALWAYS BE VIGILAND AND CAUTIOUS! As our parents always tell us, DO NOT TALK TO STRANGERS AND EVEN GO WITH THEM! Ang pakikipagkaibigan ay may limitation at dapat nasa lugar! Walang masama in meeting new friends but nasa lugar dapat.
ReplyDeleteI see nothing wrong with tunying's comment. It's just a reminder for girls to be extra careful on meeting a stranger. It does not promote rape culture. Ang mga rapist kahit ilang beses na pangaralan di naman nakikinig yan kasi mga halang ang kaluluwa ng mga yan. Kaya tama din ang ginawa ni tunying na pangaralan ang mga kababaihan na magingat din sa kanilang mga sarili at huwag pumasok sa mga sitwasyon na maaari nilang ikapahamak.
ReplyDeletethe girls had already heard that warning all their lives. how about start telling the boys to value consent, no matter what situation theyre in?
ReplyDeleteHuh?! Isn't every child taught about values and morals by their parents and in school since he or she was young? What planet are you from?
Delete