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By: Dolly Anne Carvajal
This is a tough piece for me to write because Cesar Montano has been my best friend for many years now. I am already an adopted sister of his Manhilot (Cesar’s real surname) clan. So when Buboy (Cesar’s nickname) is embroiled in a controversy, I am appalled by how things can be blown out of proportion, since I know the story behind the story.
Diego’s claims
His son (with Teresa Loyzaga) Diego has gone “Buboy bashing” on social media. He insists that his dad kicked him out of his house (on Scout Rallos, which used to be where Buboy, his ex-wife Sunshine Cruz and their three daughters lived and was later converted into Bellisimo Restaurant).
Diego also claims that Buboy called him a drug addict and would have him picked up by the police.
Buboy has his faults and shortcomings as a father but he has his redeeming qualities. I remember when Buboy granted Diego’s request to buy him a car. If Buboy had his way, Diego would have finished his studies before joining show biz. But he gave in to his son’s plea to become an actor just like him. When Diego figured in a bar brawl at The Fort last year, Buboy immediately came to his son’s defense.
Cesar’s reaction
When the controversy broke out, Buboy called me up. I am not at liberty to divulge everything we talked about.
Suffice it to say that no matter what Diego wants to believe, his dad is just concerned and worried about him.
“Even if my late dad never pampered me and didn’t buy me material gifts because we were poor, I am still thankful to him,” Buboy sighed.
He added: “I never lambasted him for the tough life we had. Our struggles made me learn the value of hard work.”
Buboy said that when he reprimanded Diego, they were not on the same wavelength. Apparently, his son did not get Buboy’s drift.
A father is a father, is a father. Hopefully someday, when Diego becomes a dad, he will understand where Buboy is coming from. Children have to learn that love from parents is not always a “Yes.”
As the Pinoy saying goes “Ang anak matitiis ang magulang, pero ang magulang hindi kayang tiisin ang anak.” I should know. I’ve been there.
It is my only hope that the next time Buboy and Diego argue, it will be about who loves the other more.
Sus. Mawawalan talaga ng respeto mga anak mo sayo dahil habang may relasyon pa mga nanay nila sayo eh may karingkingan ka pang iba. Wag mo kaming utuhin.
ReplyDeletetrue! ilan n b silang magkakapatid sa ibat ibang nanay? At "magulang hindi kayang tiisin ang anak" -- e natiis nga nya at dineny nga nya kht kmukha nya. magpakatatay muna sya bago sya magmalaki!
DeletePakotse. Pabahay. Paaral. Kulang pa din? Walang perpekto. Kung ano ang kayang ibigay. Ipagpasalamat. Kung nambabae man iyon, pasalamat pa din sila at inanak sila sa mundo at hindi inabandona. Un relasyon ng nanay sa tatay eh labas na mga anak doon. Pasalamat na lang sila at nabuhay pa sila. Wag ingrato. May balik yan pag naging magulang na din sila.
Deleteeto ang inaantay ko ang isusulat ni Dolly lol
Delete9:27.pakotse, pabahay, paaral. Eh responsibilidad naman nya talaga un kaya hindi nya pwede ipamukha sa anak nya yon. Mga materyal na bagay. Nasaan sya para palakihin ng may ama ung anak nya?
Delete9:27 - HINDI MATUTUMBASAN NG LAHAT NG IYON IYONG ABSENCE NIYA SA BUHAY NI DIEGO. IYAN ANG ISA SA MGA CONSEQUENCES NG HINDI BUONG PAMILYA.
DeleteResponsibilidad talaga ng mga magulang ang mga anak PERO hindi lahat ng mga magulang ay ginagampanan ang responsibilidad na yan. Kaya pasalamat ka na din kung ano man ang kayang ibigay.
Delete2:23 pakotse ay hindi responsibilidad na ibigay ng mga magulang sa anak. bonus na lang yan kung mayaman silang pamilya.
Delete@9:27
DeleteBoth Theresa and Diego were abandoned by Cesar!
Everybody knows that story!
Sino makakarma ulit?
Napalamaterialistic mo, 9:27. Love, emotional support, time, affirmation- di nga yun nabigay ni cesar. And how sure are you na sya nagpaaral kay diego?
DeleteWag ka na nga dyan, dolly. Sa totoo lang, di importante yang pakotseng pinagsasabi mo. Panakip butas na lang un
C atty dolly ang defender ng abusive husband and irresponsible father!
ReplyDeleteaka sawsawera. How would one respect a person like cesar. He doesnt deserve to be called a father. He never was nad never will be. Diego is a decent person, and i believe he would never react that way for petty reasons
DeleteSobrang biased nitong si dollyanne sana pag tungkol kay cesar di na nya sinusulat. Sayang talent mo girl!
DeleteSalbahe yan si dolly anne wag mag papaniwal jan.
Deletemuch better if cesar took his time to explain himself into this controversy and not a friend like dolly ann.
ReplyDeletei down wanna hear others explanation. be man enough cesar and explain your side! seems that you're a coward.
malamang humingi ng tulong si cesar kay dolly anne, para daw mas believable kung ibang tao ang nagtatanggol sa kanya. ganyan din sila kung hiritan si sunshine noon eh.
DeleteSame old. Benta na ang ganito. Ginamit nya din ang ganitong style kay Sunshine. Magpakalalake ka cesar.
DeleteMaraming secrets and lies si Cesar ayaw mabuking galing sa sariling bibig.
DeleteAnd the defense team makes its move by trying to turn things around and switch the public sympathy to Cesar's camp. Very predictable. Would have been more convincing if Ms. Carvajal didn't throw quotes about fatherhood. Si Cesar nakayang tiisin ang anak nya sa sinapupunan palang. That speaks so much about him. And comparing Cesar's experience with his own father is like comparing apples to oranges -- his father didn't deny him and that's the glaring truth. I don't know them personally but I'm with Diego on this and that is my BIASED opinion.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you.
DeleteYup he said it himself, his father is poor but in his case he is not or at least he is financially capable of helping and providing for his children. Really saan ang utak ni Cesar?
Deleteso ayan na nga to the rescue si bff!
ReplyDeletems dolly anne kng ung point of view mo is bilang magulang naintindihan mo rin kya ang hinanakit ni diego bilang anak? pkireview nlng cguro ung mga interviews ni cesar nung nanghihingi ng sustento c teresa.
Sa tingin ko, pinalaki siguro si Diego na may galit talaga sa tatay nya at nagagatungan ng nagatungan. Na palagi may nagpapa-alala na hindi sya tanggap ng tatay nya. Kaya tuwing may gagawin si Cesar,mabigat ang dating sa kanya kasi nga andun na yung way of thinking na "hindi sya mahal"
ReplyDeleteSleep na cesar lol
Deleteikaw ba naman iwan at ideny matutuwa ka ba?
DeleteTrue anon 7:28.
DeleteIt can be true na "siguro" pinalaki siya na may galit sa ama pero malaki na si diego. May sariling utak na siya kahit sabihin na nating lumaki siya sa ganung way alam niya kung ano ang tama at mali. Hindi na siya kailangang diktahan pa.
Deletethis is what our matriarcal society brought us, and the law of violence against women is so unfair ! daming kinawawa dito let there be fairness , abolish violence against women , many are just doing arte and for gold digging
DeleteTrue that the son might've felt 'unloved' but if his father lived respectably, proved himself honorable, I don't think the son would've been that angry with him. We don't even know the full extent of his sins towards Diego but from what I've known of him, I do NOT think Cesar Montano's an honourable, trustworthy man.
DeleteHuy 10:25. May matriarcal ka pang nalalaman. Patriarchal society tayo. Shunga shunga. Isa pa, ang antiVAWC may silbi. Ikaw wala!
DeleteMay bias tong article na to. The mere fact na sinabi mong close kayo ni cesar, siyempre kahit anong mangyari you'll take his side. Pano kung hindi naman lahat ng sinabi niya sayo ay totoo? Did you even personally try to reach diego to hear his side? Walang namention sa article.
ReplyDeleteArrogante talaga si Cesar, isingit pa yung sariling tatay nya maski magkaiba ang sitwasyon nila ni Diego. Dineny rin ba sya ng tatay nya nung bata pa sya? Kung poor sila noon may kaya naman sya ngayon bakit nya ipagkakamot ang tulong sa sariling anak na hindi nya inaruga at minahal from birth. Mas mabuti pa ang trato nya sa ibang tao dahil nagyayabang sya pero sa sariling anak at pamilya maramot at mean sya.
ReplyDeleteYan din ang punto ko. Ang mga bata noon kahit sobrang hirap di naman magawang sumagot sagot sa mga magulang. Kung ang batang yan marunong rumespeto, di nya ipapahiya sariling ama nya. Eh bakit si KC di naman minsan nagkaganyan. Di lang mapagbigyan ng gusto, nagwala na agad. Tingin ko magthreat sya sa dad nya na ipapahiya nya kaso di natinag si buboy.
ReplyDeleteinakusahangbdrug addict. iba ang kwento ni kc. pls dont compare.
DeleteOk ka lang?! Gabby NEVER denied KC, he NEVER called or insinuated that KC is a drug addict! Malayo si Gabby at Cesar.
DeleteIpag tanggol mo pa! Di natinag o wala talagang kwentang ama?
DeleteIf they weren't on the same page then why not try to understand where your son is coming from. Diego has already told and proven to him that his drug test is negative yet Cesar still insists that he is one and threw him out of the house. How evil and cruel.
ReplyDeleteSi Dolly ang nagsulat? Okay next! Sa writer pa lang wala ka na aasahan fairness sa laman. Sino maniniwala eh malamang ipagtanggol niya talaga bestfriend niya eh.
ReplyDeletePwede po ba? Stop defending him. Let him answer this issue. Hindi ung ikaw pa nagsasalita para sa tao na yan.
ReplyDeleteAng magulang hindi matitiis ang anak. Ha ha ha. Makatawa ko bai.
ReplyDeleteMas legit ang version of events ni Diego kesa sa 'alternative facts' nina Cesar at Dolly Ann.
ReplyDeleteBinilhan ng bagog kotse or binigyan ng pinaglimaan na?
ReplyDeleteDolly anne, so focus tayo sa redeeming qualities ni cesar at hindi sa issues ng mga anak niya sa kanya? Wala na talagang pag-asa magbago noh kung ikaw na "super close" sa kanya walang ginawa kundi kunsintihin siya.
ReplyDeleteBias reporting. Dolly Anne could never be objective cause as she says best friend nya si Cesar. Have seh ever talked or at least get Diego's story? One-sided to and it's expected of her. Cesar's other children(from Sunshine) wouldn't have sided with Diego and would remain neutral if Cesar is a good father.
ReplyDeleteTo the rescue si tita dolly
ReplyDeleteGee Cesar, 1. did your dad every deny you were his son? 2. Did he accuse you of a crime you did not commit that could very well make you a. lose your career, b. make you end up in jail or c. Killed by a vigilante who despises drug addicts? I think not! BTW Dolly, You did not answer the house issue. Did Vesar really take it away from Diego? And did Cesar not accuse his son of being a druggie?
ReplyDeleteNaku naman, hindi porke binilhan ng kotse at pinayagan maging artista mabuting ama ka na. Lalo na kung hindi naman karespe-respeto yung ibang pinag-gagawa mo.
ReplyDeletewhatever the reason or who's right or wrong Diego still has to respect his Dad..sya pa rin ang tatay nya at the ebd of the day..and kung masama man syang tatay ngayon or in the past im pretty sure na may time na naging good Dad naman sya..sana maresolbahan na ang war nila🙏
ReplyDeleteHow are you "pretty sure na may time na naging good dad naman sya"?
DeleteRespect is earned. Sharing the same dna and respect are not mutually exclusive.
Deletetime up na si cesar teh. known na sa lahat ang baho niya.
DeleteRespect? Si cesar ba nirespeto niya anak niya at ang nanay ng anak niya?
DeleteAng daling sabihin no?
DeleteTry mo lang mangyari yan sau or sa mga anak mo
So??? Pinalalabas ng bff ni liar na nag.i.illusion si Diego sa bahay na.binigay sa kanya kc resto pala.ito??? Namaan request ap ni Diego ang car hindi.kusang bigay??? Sabagay un ngang gift nya ke Krista nun recycle.from Shine...aaargh these.women
ReplyDeleteIt's so funny that Dolly had to bring up the about buying Diego a car instead answering the accusations of Diego
ReplyDeleteArty to the rescue.
ReplyDeleteI will believe all his children and ex wife's version rather than this friend.
Eto na naman ang number 1 defender ni Cesar na si Dolly. Puro side lang naman ni Cesar sinusulat nyan then mga panahon pa ng hapon na mga throwback nya dropping names na feeling close sa mga sikat.
ReplyDeleteMedyo creepy ang passion niya in defending her friend no?
Delete"Best friend" daw.
DeleteIn love yan and Cesar knows it that is why he is stringing her along. Remember decades ago she was so in love with Robin Padilla and lambasted him when he denied having something with her
DeleteThat's your public figure and appointed public servant?!
ReplyDeleteHe wasn't appointed by the public, he got his job as payback from Duterte.
DeleteI am pro Duterte but do not approve of this guy's appointment!
DeleteCesar ran for public office several times. Pero kahit sa hometown niya hindi manalo-nalo. Dahil alam ng mga tao doon ang tunay niyang masamang ugali. Si Dolly lang ang naniniwala sa bff niya.
ReplyDeleteLol Cesar, you brought up the topic pa about your father. “Even if my late dad never pampered me and didn’t buy me material gifts because we were poor, I am still thankful to him,” Buboy sighed. Oo na ikaw na mabait. LOL
ReplyDeleteNaawa ako kay Diego. Lumaking walang ama tapos nung makasama na nya si Cesar parang stranger sila sa isa't isa dahil wala silang bond. Walang trust sa kanya ang tatay niya at puro "gawin mo to o gawin mo yun kung hindi lumayas ka" ang peg ni Cesar. Nakakalungkot dahil I'm sure hindi ganun ang iniexpect nyang relasyon with his father.
ReplyDeleteLahat naman ng mali ni Cesar pinagtatakpan ninyo. Kinukunsinti niyo kahit maling mali! Tas papalabasin niyong ibang tao ang may kasalanan at si Cesar ang kawawa? Mahiya naman kayo!
ReplyDeleteNot credible carvajal ...
ReplyDeleteThere's something off with this article.Why cover up the father's shortcomings in expense of the kid's mistakes.Why not just focus of how good of a father he is if he ever was...Good thing,this kid has somewhat a good support system not unlike his older brother who just resorted to ending his life amidst his father's candidacy...There's more into fatherhood than saving your kid from whatever mishap he's into,it's called living by example
ReplyDeleteDamage control by the not-so-credible best friend... No surprises there.
ReplyDeleteKorek
DeleteIdol pa din kita kuya buboy. Minsan talaga pag lumaki sa luho mga anak wala na respeto sa magulang.
ReplyDeleteMagsama kayo ng idol mo.
Delete1:48 tsk.
DeleteAgree ako baks! Sa kaibigan nag open up ng ganyan pero sana ibayos muna ung lagay ng anak. Diego is undeniably affected mentally and emotionally. Yun dapat pag tuunan ng pansin hindi yung damage control. Uy Dolly diba magulang ka din???
DeleteIf Ceasar Montano really has his son's best interest at heart, Diego won't come to doing this. Kung talagang mabuting tao si Mr. Montano bakit may issues sya palagi sa mga naka relasyon nya at mga anak nya dito? He may be a good friend but that does not follow that he is a good father.
ReplyDeleteCorrect. The worst partner/ father usually shows different persona to other people. Hypocrite nga
DeleteHate me friends, pero ayokong kinokonsente friends ko if mali sila or better shut up nlang ako. Di ako perfect. Opinion lang.✌
ReplyDelete4:33 kinukunsinti teh --- medyo kinulang ka sa diin:))
DeletePumapel na naman ang feelingera na si Dolly Anne...
ReplyDeleteCarvajal was never credible
ReplyDeleteCesar Manhilot's apologist.
ReplyDeleteEwan ko ba, pero mas naniniwala ako kay Diego.
ReplyDeleteAko din!
DeleteEh kahit pa sampung kotse binigay ni Cesar sa kanya hindi pa din sapat compared to the shame of being accused a drug addict by your own father, even after you've made several efforts to prove you aren't at kahit alam na maakusahan ka lang dito pwede mong ikamatay. Tapos pinagmukha pang tamad mag-aral eh nakikita namang masipag yung bata sa napili niyang gawin.
ReplyDeleteTAPOS tactic pa nila ni Dolly ngayon pagmukhang spoiled ingrate pa si Diego?! Eh kung ako din yung may tatay na ganyan magagalit na din ako ng sobra no! Madami pa sigurong alam na baho si diego sa tatay niya pero hindi pa Lang nilalabas.
I believe Diego, Sunshine amd her children and Teresa more! Enough said.
ReplyDeleteCesar is a hypocrite! Goodbye to your political dream cesar.
ReplyDeleteCarvajal! Just shut up!!
ReplyDeleteBFFs yang dalawang yan. Cesar to Dolly: "Sulat ka nga ang article na ako ang magmumukhang tama" Hahahaha!
ReplyDeleteDolly Anne is a credible journalist who's been in the industry for years. She came to Cesar's defense because matagal na silang best friends. Siyempre she will air his side. Buti nga di niya nilahad lahat ng ginawa ni Diego out of concern for him, too. I get why people are taking Diego's side. His immature behavior is easier for small minds to accept.
ReplyDeleteWow, coming from a great mind. Pareho kayong tatlo ni Cesar at Dolly. Great minds think alike?
Deletesabi na nga bat ang bff kuno ni buboy na taga kunsinti sa mga kalokohan nya time and again will come to the rescue
ReplyDelete