Kahit napakabastos nung commenter niya, she still respected her. I like this blog post. Saab totally get me. I don't want to have baby kaya ayoko ientertain ang pagplano ng future wedding ko. And tama si Saab! Tama lang na not all who get married wants to have a baby.
Oo nga. Kapal nung basher at salute ke saab. Tama nmn sya. Kaya ako hnd nagattnong s couple kung meron naba or wala kasi ayaw k makaoffend. What if nagtatry sila h d lang makabuo or ayw pa tlga ng couple. Kaya hnd ako talaga nagtatanong. Hinahayaan k sila magsabi.
I think right now the basher is in the ICU recuperating from excessive bleeding in her nasal cavity. Saab overwhelmed and overload her with information about her thoughts for not having children yet. She must have collapsed from too much info. Hahaha Good for you Saab.
Not true. Sometimes mas masaya pa nga yung mga couples na walang anak. CHildren are blessings yes, pero it doesnt mean it will make you complete kung ikaw mismo hindi masaya sa buhay.
I've been married for more than 10 yrs and we also don't plan to have kids. Not everyone wants to procreate. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything at all. Good for Saab for standing up for herself.
I feel fulfilled and productive in life with my amazing husband. I've been married for 13 years now and never occurred in my mind to have children ever. My husband and I have the same mindset. For us, we know what we want and very happy about it. It is very peaceful to have a life that not being pressured with what society dictates and be away from the so called "norm" Way to go Saab!
Hay, buti pa kayo mga baks, pareho kayo ng mindset ng mga asawa niyo na ayaw magkaanak. Ako kasi ayaw ko, pero yung boyfriend ko gusto pag naging mag-asawa na kami. Gusto ko siyang maging masaya, pero gusto ko rin namang maging masaya. I don't think raising a child is for me. Huhu
That's the reality with pinoys ... pag nagasawa dapat magbaby na kaagad. Pag ayaw mo pang magbaby, they rub it in that you are missing a lot. Tapos pagtatawanan ka pa kasi naunahan ka na nung isang bagong kasal. Kaya mabuti pa yung mga kinasal sa US, walang pakialaman.
Like ko to. Super nakakarelate ako dito. Boom. Tama. Yung iba akala talaga kaya nagpapakasal ang magjowa ay dahil buntis na o gusto na magkababy. Ako nagpakasal dahil in love pero wala pang panahon o sa isip ang baby. Yung husband ko muna ang baby ko.
Did you read her blog? She did understand. But the comment of the basher was just too harsh for us to say "they are just making conversation and don't take their curiosity so personally." Kasi siyempre at some point maooffend din siya. Curiosity is good, but take a person's feelings in to account when you want to make or engage in such topic or conversation.
Her ovaries are not for public consumption. Leave her and her body alone. It's her choice whether she wants to share about her marriage kaya walang pakialam ang ibang tao kesyo "curious" lang sila. Why the heck would people even be curious about someone else's marriage and plans about starting a family? Sabi nung commenter na Saab must be barren...does that mean that commenter actually thinks about Saab's sex life and why it's taking her long to get pregnant? Ganyan na ba kabastos ang iba na pati pagbubuntis at pag-aanak ng ibang tao eh kelangan may opinion sila?
napabastos naman nyan. pede naman mag ask in a nice way kung curious sya? totoo naman hindi naman lahat gusto magkaanak agad.kahit nga si iya at drew hindi muna binalak magkaanak agad. iba iba naman kasi tao.
I got married two years ago here in UK and people especially my relatives who are same age as mine and my classmates before na may mga anak na, puro ganyan din ang tanong sakin, kailan daw baby, may problema daw ba ako kaya wala pa anak, yan problema satin eh, hindi naman dahil kasal na eh dapat baby ang next. Gusto namin ienjoy muna ang buhay mag asawa, mag travel at maging prepared sa lahat ng bagay para maayos ang kinabukasan ng mga magiging anak ko. Andaming narrow minded
Yan naman ang culture sa Pinas eh. Kapag 25 ka na and you're not married yet, sasabihin sa iyo bilisan ang kilos dahil baka mapag-iwanan ka, lalo na mga babae na sinasabihan na hwag tumandang dalaga. Kapag may asawa ka na, sasabihin magbuntis ka na agad. Kapapanganak mo pa lang, tatanungin ka naman kelan masusundan? Walang palya. Kahit mga kapitbahay mo pakikialaman ang marriage mo. Lahat may opinion ang mga tao.
Sa ibang bansa iba eh. Kapag sinabi mong "I don't want kids. Ever." ok lang. Sabihin mong you don't want to give up your career to have kids, ok lang din. If married couples want to travel and not have kids, ok lang din. More and more couples are opting to be childless. It is a growing trend lalo na sa 1st world countries where people have more priorities and ambitions than starting a family. Marami sa Pinas ayaw naman talaga sa bata pero napipilitan mag-anak dahil yun ang societal norm and you get bashed and criticized kapag sinabi mong wala ka pang balak magbuntis. It's like your only purpose as a married woman is to give birth, and you stop having ambitions and dreams of your own except if it's about having kids and taking care of your family. Napaka-sexist and backwards.
Yan ang hirap dito e. Parang required mag-anak porket nag-asawa lang. Hindi ba pwede na companionship o kaya nag-eenjoy muna together? Children are blessings, but a couple should be spared if they choose not to have their own.
Super love! Same situation here but I chose to laugh and shrug it off as well. I've been married for more than 3 years now and still enjoying every part of our childless marriage hehehe!
Yung mom ko super worried na if I don't have kids, walang mag-aalaga sakin pagtanda. Sadly, a lot of Pinoys share that thinking. Wala akong balak gawing caregiver ang mga anak ko.
Unless it is cultural, people get married because they are in love and want to be together. Whether they have children or not is irrelevant. It irks me that people say what for will you get married if you do not or cannot have kids? The opposite sex is more than stud service or a womb. It is nobody's business if you have kids or not.
Sinaunang panahon pa yung belief na by the age of __ you should've been married and had x number of kids. Sa developed countries walang pakialamanan sa ganyan.
It's so typical of Pinoys. Sasabihin pa "Importante sa mag-asawa ang magkaanak para pag tumanda na kayo, may mag-alaga sa inyo." I can't stomach this kind of advice. It's so unfair for the child; hindi pa man pinapanganak may obligasyon na sya na hindi nya alam.
sanay kc mga pinoy na baby agad. 3rd world mentality. no preparations jist baby for the sake of family. pag nagutom na gawa na naman ng bago kc wala lang para lalo lang magutom. mga pobre talaga
Kapalmuks tlaga ang bashers... pakialam ba nila sa buhay ng mga artista..
ReplyDeleteKahit napakabastos nung commenter niya, she still respected her. I like this blog post. Saab totally get me. I don't want to have baby kaya ayoko ientertain ang pagplano ng future wedding ko. And tama si Saab! Tama lang na not all who get married wants to have a baby.
DeleteOo nga. Kapal nung basher at salute ke saab. Tama nmn sya. Kaya ako hnd nagattnong s couple kung meron naba or wala kasi ayaw k makaoffend. What if nagtatry sila h d lang makabuo or ayw pa tlga ng couple. Kaya hnd ako talaga nagtatanong. Hinahayaan k sila magsabi.
Deletenagexplain ng mahaba..hahaha okthanksbye!
Deleteano naman kung baog sya? wala kayong paki kung baog sya
DeleteOne point for Saab!
ReplyDelete1 point for basher coz napaglaanan pa siya ng mahabang blog entry
Delete@1:45 Hello, basher? Paano naging point for basher yon? Panalo sya pag napansin? Yumaman ba sya? Di rin
DeleteTaray haba explanation. Pero madyado naman kasi pakielamera mga tao eh. Porket artista feel eh need na pakialaman at ususain lahat
ReplyDeleteblog kase.
DeleteAng haba nemen...
ReplyDeleteAnyways, i think she's young pa nmn. No need to hurry.
blog po yan
DeleteHindi na baleng walang anak, kung magiging katulad lang din naman ng basher na yan magiging anak ko.
ReplyDeleteI think right now the basher is in the ICU recuperating from excessive bleeding in her nasal cavity. Saab overwhelmed and overload her with information about her thoughts for not having children yet. She must have collapsed from too much info. Hahaha Good for you Saab.
ReplyDeleteHahaha.
Deletehundreds slaps on the basher's face now and to the people who has the same mind of that basher
Deleteif thats what they prefer db... but of course marriage would be incomplete without kids...bka nmm they are just waiting for the right time...
ReplyDeleteHindi naman lahat ng married couples gustong magkaanak and they still feel complete.
DeleteNot true. Sometimes mas masaya pa nga yung mga couples na walang anak. CHildren are blessings yes, pero it doesnt mean it will make you complete kung ikaw mismo hindi masaya sa buhay.
Deletebaka gusto muna nila ienjoy yung sila lang dalawa muna.
DeleteIts a bonus to have kids but children will not define your marriage and its not an assurance of a happy and healthy marriage
Deletemarriage is between two people. the absence of a child does not make it incomplete.
Deletetama, i don't feel incomplete. i chose not to have kids. just typical pinoy mentality lang talaga.
DeleteI've been married for more than 10 yrs and we also don't plan to have kids. Not everyone wants to procreate. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything at all. Good for Saab for standing up for herself.
DeleteI feel fulfilled and productive in life with my amazing husband. I've been married for 13 years now and never occurred in my mind to have children ever. My husband and I have the same mindset. For us, we know what we want and very happy about it. It is very peaceful to have a life that not being pressured with what society dictates and be away from the so called "norm" Way to go Saab!
DeleteHay, buti pa kayo mga baks, pareho kayo ng mindset ng mga asawa niyo na ayaw magkaanak. Ako kasi ayaw ko, pero yung boyfriend ko gusto pag naging mag-asawa na kami. Gusto ko siyang maging masaya, pero gusto ko rin namang maging masaya. I don't think raising a child is for me. Huhu
DeleteThat's the reality with pinoys ... pag nagasawa dapat magbaby na kaagad. Pag ayaw mo pang magbaby, they rub it in that you are missing a lot. Tapos pagtatawanan ka pa kasi naunahan ka na nung isang bagong kasal. Kaya mabuti pa yung mga kinasal sa US, walang pakialaman.
ReplyDeletetapos pag nagka-anak na ng isa, kukulitin ka naman kung kelan mo susundan
Deletetotoo ka baks, eh sila ba ang bubuhay sa supling mo?
DeleteMEMA lang naman yung mga ganun dahil hindi kayo nagkikita parati. Like tumaba ka, payat mo ngayon, kelan ka mag-aasawa, ilan na anak mo?
DeleteTwisted pinoy reality
DeleteKapag baog masama ba?
ReplyDeleteOPKORS HINDI! it just means hindi kayo magkakaanak
DeleteOnga kasalanan b ng tao kng baren sya
Deletetama si 2:30.. di masamang maging baog.. eh sa baog eh paki mo
DeleteHindi nga masama pero may stigma. Sad.
DeleteMga tao nga nman pati pagkakaron ng anak ng Iba pinapakialamanan as if cla magpapalamon sa bata!
ReplyDeleteBlog yan mga ateng, Blog!
ReplyDeleteLike ko to. Super nakakarelate ako dito. Boom. Tama. Yung iba akala talaga kaya nagpapakasal ang magjowa ay dahil buntis na o gusto na magkababy. Ako nagpakasal dahil in love pero wala pang panahon o sa isip ang baby. Yung husband ko muna ang baby ko.
ReplyDeleteMaybe she should just understand that people are just making conversation and don't take their curiosity so personally. To each their own.
ReplyDeleteyun nga ang ginawa ni Saab. binasa mo ba ung post?
DeleteDid you read her blog? She did understand. But the comment of the basher was just too harsh for us to say "they are just making conversation and don't take their curiosity so personally." Kasi siyempre at some point maooffend din siya. Curiosity is good, but take a person's feelings in to account when you want to make or engage in such topic or conversation.
DeleteHer ovaries are not for public consumption. Leave her and her body alone. It's her choice whether she wants to share about her marriage kaya walang pakialam ang ibang tao kesyo "curious" lang sila. Why the heck would people even be curious about someone else's marriage and plans about starting a family? Sabi nung commenter na Saab must be barren...does that mean that commenter actually thinks about Saab's sex life and why it's taking her long to get pregnant? Ganyan na ba kabastos ang iba na pati pagbubuntis at pag-aanak ng ibang tao eh kelangan may opinion sila?
DeleteNatuto ako not to make this as conversation piece. Some couples want to have babies but can't. This topic is just so sensitive to talk about.
DeleteMind your own matres!
ReplyDeleteikaw na lang basher ang gumawa ng anak para sakanila. atat ka eh.
ReplyDeletenapabastos naman nyan. pede naman mag ask in a nice way kung curious sya? totoo naman hindi naman lahat gusto magkaanak agad.kahit nga si iya at drew hindi muna binalak magkaanak agad. iba iba naman kasi tao.
ReplyDeleteI got married two years ago here in UK and people especially my relatives who are same age as mine and my classmates before na may mga anak na, puro ganyan din ang tanong sakin, kailan daw baby, may problema daw ba ako kaya wala pa anak, yan problema satin eh, hindi naman dahil kasal na eh dapat baby ang next. Gusto namin ienjoy muna ang buhay mag asawa, mag travel at maging prepared sa lahat ng bagay para maayos ang kinabukasan ng mga magiging anak ko. Andaming narrow minded
ReplyDeleteYan naman ang culture sa Pinas eh. Kapag 25 ka na and you're not married yet, sasabihin sa iyo bilisan ang kilos dahil baka mapag-iwanan ka, lalo na mga babae na sinasabihan na hwag tumandang dalaga. Kapag may asawa ka na, sasabihin magbuntis ka na agad. Kapapanganak mo pa lang, tatanungin ka naman kelan masusundan? Walang palya. Kahit mga kapitbahay mo pakikialaman ang marriage mo. Lahat may opinion ang mga tao.
ReplyDeleteSa ibang bansa iba eh. Kapag sinabi mong "I don't want kids. Ever." ok lang. Sabihin mong you don't want to give up your career to have kids, ok lang din. If married couples want to travel and not have kids, ok lang din. More and more couples are opting to be childless. It is a growing trend lalo na sa 1st world countries where people have more priorities and ambitions than starting a family. Marami sa Pinas ayaw naman talaga sa bata pero napipilitan mag-anak dahil yun ang societal norm and you get bashed and criticized kapag sinabi mong wala ka pang balak magbuntis. It's like your only purpose as a married woman is to give birth, and you stop having ambitions and dreams of your own except if it's about having kids and taking care of your family. Napaka-sexist and backwards.
korek. me "norm" din dito na pag inamin mo na ayaw mong magkaanak ang tingin sa iyo ay masamang tao, na walang capability na magmahal
DeleteYan ang hirap dito e. Parang required mag-anak porket nag-asawa lang. Hindi ba pwede na companionship o kaya nag-eenjoy muna together? Children are blessings, but a couple should be spared if they choose not to have their own.
ReplyDeleteSuper love! Same situation here but I chose to laugh and shrug it off as well. I've been married for more than 3 years now and still enjoying every part of our childless marriage hehehe!
ReplyDeleteSame.
DeleteYung mom ko super worried na if I don't have kids, walang mag-aalaga sakin pagtanda. Sadly, a lot of Pinoys share that thinking. Wala akong balak gawing caregiver ang mga anak ko.
ReplyDeleteSana sa generation natin matapos na ang way of thinking na 'to!
DeleteNagasawa na pala c saab? Ilang tain na ba sya? Bilis talaga ng panahon
ReplyDeleteChoice naman talaga nila yun. For now baby muna nila ang Cheats at yung dog nila. Go Jim and Saab! Do what you want. I love you guys 😍
ReplyDeleteUnless it is cultural, people get married because they are in love and want to be together. Whether they have children or not is irrelevant. It irks me that people say what for will you get married if you do not or cannot have kids? The opposite sex is more than stud service or a womb. It is nobody's business if you have kids or not.
ReplyDeleteCome on! Married @ 26? She has all the time in this world to have a baby so there's no harm to wait pa for more years.
ReplyDeleteSinaunang panahon pa yung belief na by the age of __ you should've been married and had x number of kids. Sa developed countries walang pakialamanan sa ganyan.
ReplyDeleteIt's so typical of Pinoys. Sasabihin pa "Importante sa mag-asawa ang magkaanak para pag tumanda na kayo, may mag-alaga sa inyo." I can't stomach this kind of advice. It's so unfair for the child; hindi pa man pinapanganak may obligasyon na sya na hindi nya alam.
ReplyDeletetumfact! hindi rin nangyayari lalo na pag mahirap at di maitaguyod ang maraming anak ng husto. at hindi lahat ng anak nagaalaga sa aged parents.
Deletesanay kc mga pinoy na baby agad. 3rd world mentality. no preparations jist baby for the sake of family. pag nagutom na gawa na naman ng bago kc wala lang para lalo lang magutom. mga pobre talaga
ReplyDelete