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For someone who has always been caught between freedom and responsibility, coping mechanisms can only take as much. The common advice is to first accept the stressor and then find a way to rechannel stress. When talking to friends is insufficient, some indulge in hobbies, such as getting into the trend of adult coloring books, baking cupcakes, or firing some bullets in the range, to feel better.
Sometimes, when a person can no longer handle the stress, behavior can manifest the heavy burden. Others have a clear change in their behavior, whereas others could not afford to show their feelings because their image has to take precedence.
Work is one of the reasons for stress, but for most showbiz personalities, work is something enjoyable and those who think of acting or hosting as stressful slowly fade out of the business. However, showbiz personalities are people who fall in and out of love. For ordinary people, they can show their sadness and disappointment to their peers without fear of being revealed. By contrast, a mere change in behavior or look of a showbiz celebrity can get the public speculating and talking.
For Prominent Figure (PF), stress has reached high levels, such that health is an issue. Luckily, PF is smart enough to seek diagnosis for the discomfort and was advised medication to make sure no further harm would come. No surgery was required for the condition, which was good. The pressure was really getting on to PF, as a doctor’s assistance was needed to figure out what was ailing PF. Allegedly, PF was too bothered by the meddling of people, which resulted in affecting the body. Having lived a monitored life, each movement of PF was watched and through the years, the freedom that should be given to someone of age was deprived of PF.
Thus, when love entered the picture, PF was extremely torn between feelings and freedom versus duty and responsibility. When the relationship of PF and Another Celebrity (AC) was out in the open, the immediate reaction was not towards the couple, but more on the camp of PF. Predictably, the camp attempted to break the relationship, but PF and AC stuck to each other. While people thought that the camp has given in to the desire of PF, apparently, there is still restraint in giving PF the freedom to love and to be with AC without issue.
PF is still young and has much potential to tap, but the celebrity has given so much already to the family and the field of entertainment. Family has benefitted from the career of PF and yet they would not grant PF the opportunity to move and love freely.
In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers. ― Fred Rogers
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S and M
ReplyDeleteUwian na
Sakal na sakal na si S, pahingain ninyo naman sya. tsk tsk
DeleteMagpakasal na nga lang sila para matapos na! Tingnan natin kung di mawarla si m. LOL
DeleteItanan na yan
Deleteano ba yan matanda n si s,bayaan nmn n ng m ni s na magdecide sya sa sarili nya,napag iiwanan n sya ng panahon,baka pag mas tumanda pasya wala ng manliligaw,hindi p nmn kagandahan si s,si m lng ata nagtyaga sa kanya
Deletekailangan din ni s n mag unwind n kasama ang mahal nya,para matanggal ang stress,sarap kaya sa feeling nun n may nakakausap k n mahal mo n kayong dalawa lng,n walang kasamang asungot
DeleteEnjoy life as if it is your last day.
Deletethough not good idea na ang reason ng magpakasal ay para makatakas sa magulang nya. pero kung mahal nama nila isat isa at gusto na din ni M. sana go na sya tapos bumukod sila bagay kasi baka mgdemand si m na dun sila tumira nako!
DeleteOh no! Kaya pala medyo matagal ng absent sa show Nila si S.
DeleteKaya matagal siya nawala sa show is bcoz busy siya sa mga endorsements niya
DeleteS and m
ReplyDeleteWish S has the courage to break free one day and finally live her life to the fullest.
DeleteIbon man may layang lumipad, kulungin mo at umiiyak...si S pa kaya.
DeleteS and M. Wala paring pagbabago sa M ni S?? Grabe naman!
ReplyDeleteOo nga eh.... naku let her fly. Let her learn
DeleteGanyang edad ni PF? Hindi na siya ang iniisip nang M niya kundi sarili na niya.
DeletePF gising!!
From,
Your alarm clock
S and M. Anu ba yan, she has made a name for herself already, give her a chance to be happy naman.
DeleteObvious naman na hindi nila gustong magkarelasyon si S para sila pa rin ang may control ng buhay at finances ni S.
DeleteSa panahon ngayon susukuan talaga nang lahat nang lalaki tong si PF kung ganyan attitude nang M niya.
DeletePF gawan mo na nang paraan yan ngayon kesa tumanda kang dalaga at sa huli pagsisihan mo na di mo pinaglaban karapatan mo.
DeletePF-S, AC-M
ReplyDeletePF: S?
ReplyDeleteAC: M?
I gueas PF is K!..
ReplyDeleteIdk..
More clues pls..
ay teh, di ka nababagay dito sa pilot section! chupi! LOL
DeleteS ang PF tapos si M ang AC? Tsk tsk tsk, kawawang S naman, ayaw bigyan ng freedom ng family.
ReplyDeleteS and M
ReplyDelete1st Honor!!!
S and M.
ReplyDeleteHayaan na sj S! Kumita na ng malaki ang pamilya nya sa kanya, hayaan na siya! Gankn ba sila nadesperado?!? May kaya naman di M ha, ano pa ba gusto nila?
Ay S, mag-madre ka nalang! Kaloka
tama magmadre para ung pinaghirapan nia eh cgurado para sa family nia...sakim na pamilya
DeleteS & M!! Jusko pigang-piga na ng family nya si S!! Both financially and emotionally... It's about time that S live and experience life at its fullest!!
ReplyDeleteAno yung sakit niya? Poor S :-(
ReplyDeleteBaka severe depression,
DeletePF is S. AC is M. Hanggang ngayon ba naman? Stress si m!
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for S :-( she has the right to love aand be loved.
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for S too... having p who think of her as a golden goose!!!
DeleteS and M. Salamat FP makakatulog ako ng matiwasay ay nakahula ako
ReplyDeleteNakakahiya ang pamilya ni S!!! Gutom lagi!
ReplyDeletePF - S AC - M. Kung ako kay S, hihiwalay na ako ng bahay at maging independent. Marami naman siyang pera eh.
ReplyDeleteOo nang tuluyan siyang mawalan ng career.
DeleteWala yata xa pera kc nasa account ng m. hahaha! wawa nmn ang S.
DeleteKayang kaya naman siyang buhayin ni M, kahit buong pamilya pa S eh. Sana nga mabuntis sya at wala ng choice kunde hayaan na si S!
DeleteMatagal na syang binigyan ng freedom to do that, si S lang ang ayaw.
DeletePoor S naalipin ng sariling pamilya
ReplyDeleteHuhu no idea. Kaf o kah?
ReplyDeleteS & M itong m ni S masyadong controlling ang dami ng naitulong ni S tsk tsk
ReplyDeleteGets ko na thanks to google. Haha kawawa naman si S.. Right afpge na siya haller :(
ReplyDeleteAminin niyo na hindi na masyadong matunog ang pangalan ni S. Natatabunan na siya ng unti-unti. Isa yan sa consequences ng pagkakaroon ng lovelife kapag artista ka. Maging realistic tayo dito.
ReplyDeleteSo itanong dapat ni S sa sarili niya, handa na ba siyang mag-let go sa career niya talaga para sa lovelife?
Pag me nangyari ka S san sila pupulutin? Magbanat sila ng mga buto. They can't do that to the one who feeds them
DeleteHomaygad m, career over health ang peg. Nadedepress na si s pagkakaperahan pa rin ang iniisip,
DeleteNasa title sagot! Si S at M to.. ano sakit ni S???
ReplyDeletestress nga basa ulit
DeleteDahilan ng sakit nya un stress.
Deletesomething to do with thyroid. stress ang cause 2:12
Deletehindi po sakir ang stress haha
DeleteHuhu, sana hindi mental health ang nagsusuffer sa bebe ko. That's a lot more complicated to treat than physical ailments. :(
ReplyDeleteGet well, S! We are praying for you!
Mukha nman kasing user yung lalake.
ReplyDeletemahiya k nmn! old rich family ng guy, mga Alta! he is super mabait! swerte n nga ni S at bf nya si M n ngtitiis for her at hindi sya sinusukuan
DeleteMas user naman yung pamilya ni S. Ginawa nilang work horse at walang sariling buhay si S.
Delete2:21 so porke old rich yung lalake di na pwedeng maging user? San planeta ka galing? Obvious na user yung lalake at pinatulan nya yung poor girl hoping against hope na aariba ang karir nya kaso wala talaga cyang star quality kaya hanggang ngayon da who cya. He should be grateful though kasi pinatulan cya ni girl!
DeleteExcuse me, Alam mo gaano kayaman c M? Baka magulat ka.
DeleteTrue. If I were S, I'd listen to my parents na lang. Duh. Ano? Magaala h siya? Ang hirap non. At least, si h, prominente ang napangasawa.
Deletenakuha ko rin kung sinu-sino sila.
ReplyDeleteS&M nga
PF- S ( sikat )
ReplyDeleteAC- M ( ex ni M )
S family should let her to enjoy life . Shes not young anymore!
True! Let her enjoy her life naman po, paki-usap! haha
DeleteS and M, health is wealth ika nga. Aanhin mo ang kasikatan at kayamanan kung ang kapalit ay iyong kalusugan.
ReplyDeleteI doubt it kung ile-let go ng family ni PF-S siya, hanggat kumikita laging makikialam at kokontrolin nila si PF, kailangan pa ng konting push kay PF para makapag stand firm sa family niya na she wants her freedom completely and enjoy life.
ReplyDeletehay nako! nakakaawa talaga siya. sana dumating yung time na manindigan sya or kung ayain na sya pakasal ni m. go na para makalaya ka na. grabe naman hindi na tama yang ginagawa nila. hayaan nila mabigo at matuto sa mga pangyayari. wala naman masama sa pagiging strict pero sana may limitation naman...
ReplyDeleteDi nya obligasyon ang buhay o kabuhayan ng pamilya nya. She did her best - they selfish because of money.
DeleteBait naman kasi at at na makalaya sa fam.e Bakst si t inabot ng taon,naghintay sila,o ngayon magasawa na sila.naiintindihan ko ang punta ng mga Nagaland.madali magasawa.pero mahirap ma maintain ang lifestyle na Merton ka pag di ka nakapagipon ng Husto.
Deletemagiba sila atleast family ni t. hinayaan nila si t na magbf pero may limitation padin. eh itong fam ni S sagad sagad talaga hindi hindi ko makakalimutan yung sinabi nya sa interview na nakakasuklam tlga
DeleteThyroid kaya naapektuhan ng stress nya? Usually pag bottled up ang feelings, thyroid ang tinatamaan. Poor S. Magising na sana ang M nya. Nagkakasakit na si S!
ReplyDeleteSahara dessert ba ang tingin nyo kay S. Maawa nmn kayo sa bats mamatay bang tuyot yan gnaganyan nyo pa. Oo nga at pamilya ka yo. Pero sana nmn matuto kayo na unawain cla.. Hoy gumising nga kayo natural lng nmn sa tao yng maghangad ng love maliban sa love from family..
ReplyDeleteS & M, d kaya sa heart ang sakit kasi usually kung controlled ka nakikimkimang nararamdaman at dun ang stress. Sana she enjoys life and take a break ngayon sarili naman nya alagaan nya kasi she has given so much to her family.
ReplyDeleteS&M
ReplyDeleteMabait na bata si S. I dont think na pababayaan niya ang family niya. Hirap silang i let go di S yan ang bread and butter nila to the point na nagiging selfish sila.
ReplyDeletehindi sya mabait. Ta**a siya. bakit hinahayaan nyo hawakan ng ibang tao buhay nya? oo family nya yun pero sila ay andyan para gabayan si S hindi para gawing robot.
DeleteHaaaay naku...M and co.!! Stop na your selfishness!
ReplyDeleteKung si S at M to?! Naku!! Matanda na si s para pigilan pa ng m nya. Hayaan na lang si s at m. Dyusmio
ReplyDeleteDo want you want S! u deserve happiness naman. Wag kang tumandang dalaga. Magalit man si M sayo, u did your part already!
ReplyDeleteHalatang hindi siya ganun kahappy si S...stress lagi! Kahit jowa mukang stress na rin. Sure ako magmamadre yan balang araw
ReplyDeleteLayas na S! Napakaunfair ng family mo sa'yo! Parang ikaw lang ang nagsasakripisyo. Kung tutuusin di mo na sila responsibilidad. Kaya na nila sarili nila. It's about time na ma-enjoy mo yung perang pinaghirapan mo at magpakasaya sa lovelife.
ReplyDeletehindi lang naman lovelife eh. pati yung freedom nya magdecide para sa sarili nya. freedom nya mabuhay ng naayon sa gusto nya. baka nga pati damit wala syang freedom para mamili. pano sya mabubuhay if mamtay ang magulang nya kung wala syang kaalam alam sa bagay bagay.
DeleteM is not that old yet- she and her husband should work at di yung umaasa kinokontrol pa si S na parang paslit
Deletekawawa nmn c S..She deserve to be happy,dami na sakripisyo ng batang ito pra sa pamilya nia, dami na rin nmn cya npatunayan..i think, its time for her to be free and do what she really wants.. Sana mgpakasal n cla ni M
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of medical condition is S experiencing? Is it connected to her mental health?
ReplyDeleteIsa lang ang solusyon dyan...Ipaglaban at pakasalan na so M..ahahaaay!
ReplyDeleteI think si S may 'clinical depression'. It is very easy to hide this illness and pretend to be okay(just always wear your fake smile and tada!! Walang makakahalata). Ito mahirap sa mga taong nagsa-suffer sa mental than to physical.
ReplyDeleteS's M should be ashamed of herself if something happens to her own without making her happy at all.
ReplyDeletedapat maisip na to ni ng M nya. baka mag-S na lang yan bigla. sayang
ReplyDeleteGinawa namang milking cow si S kawawa naman. She deserves to be happy!
ReplyDeletekawawa naman po si Ate S , wag sana lumala yun..
ReplyDeleteWala yata xa pera kc nasa account ng m ni S. hahaha! wawa nmn ang S. ang swerte ng mga k nya. nag-aral lahat. si S.... waley...
ReplyDeleteGrabe napaka sakim sa pera ng M of S na yan. Ang sipag magbantay at magstalk pero tamad magtrabaho. Inako na ni S ang obligasyon tapos ganyan ang trato nyo sa kanya. Hindi ako fan pero nakakagalit lang talaga.
ReplyDeleteMas bata kasi ang bf kaya massyado pang maaga para mag asawa sa panahon ngayon mga 30's na naa aasawa ang mga lalaki..kawawa ang girl dapat mag move out na sya sa house nila and live on her own..be independent..life is what you make it! Masyado nagpapa control matanda na sya!
ReplyDeletegrabe talaga M ni S.. siya na bumuhay sa family nila.. yes, anjan sila to guide and protect her pero aminin nila na si S ang trumabaho kung san man siya ngayon. mahiya naman sila.
ReplyDeleteItong magjowa na 'to in the long run maghihiwalay kasi, they don't come from the same background..ang guy alta ang girl jologs pati ang family...ang girl todo kayod para sa pamilyang palamunin..kawawa!
ReplyDeleteAng nega mo.
DeleteExcuse me ha pero sa pagkakaalam ko, may mga pinagaralan ang pamilya ni S on both sides. Baka mapahiya din kayo sa pinagsasasabi ninyo tungkol sa pamilya niya. Kilala niyo ba sila?
DeleteNobody is saying or asking if meron or walang pinag-aralan ang side ni S..educated and learned are two different things.. the point is the family should give S the freedom she deserves so she can be happy kc nga sa article she is sick and if u read between the lines it's becoming physical /mental because of depression..she needs a life!!!
DeleteKaya pala di sya visible lately. Nakakainis to the highest level na talaga ang family ni S. Mga walang hiya!
ReplyDeleteS don't be afraid to be independent.... you are a lovable child and you have much talent to show and still discover... your fans will always be your fans and you might still gain more should you become independent... if u don't have money to start with as your family made sure that you don't hold anything... so be it... I'm sure your management will be very glad to help you out....... Discover the world and discover love.... you may fail but the important thing is you learn which makes you wiser....
ReplyDeleteMga m jusko kilos din kasi para di kayo lahat pasan ni S. OA na eh.
ReplyDeleteS and M
ReplyDeleteS should just listen to her m and choose a non-showbiz guy. What's wrong with non showbiz men? Is there no good-looking one trying to pursue her?
ReplyDeleteAnd your point is the BF is not good enough? If the BF is not good enough then nobody is or will be... dating is getting to know each other exclusively and it's obvious that S is so happy with him and the BF is so sincere..
Deletei agree, she shld be open to men outside of showbiz as i find her very private and very sincere. Im sure theres a lot of them eyeing on her.
DeletePrivacy is what u think she needs? Then she should quit showbiz...it comes with the paycheck ung invasion of privacy... hindi ang BF ang problem ..it is the family of S..the nerve to know kuno and choose what is right for their daughter instead of working to provide for their kids, they made sure that S takes their responsibility... good for the BF coz he works hard inspite of having a rich family..eh ung parents ni S??? Waley, tamad, gahaman etc n etc..
Deleteshe sacrificed so much for her family....but when will the family be contented and let her go... to have freedom and independence.... why cant they be happy for the happiness of S.... maybe M is not perfect but so is S coz nobody is perfect..... the p of S... are they perfect???? all they do is "guardia sibil" their d and they stopped working ever since S entered showbiz...is that fair???? to make S a slave is a sin......God gave them brain, hands and feet to work and help S so she wont work as much...that is if they love S which I strongly doubt.....
ReplyDeleteShe should consult a lawyer kung totoong nasa m nya lahat ng money niya, then if she has it all, she needs to move out and learn how to be independent. Kesehodang itakwil pa siya. Mabait naman si S so she has people to guide her, at kanino pa ba tatakbo pamilya nun kapag walang wala na sila? Isipin niya, kung mahal talaga siya ni m, they'll let her learn on her own at her age.
ReplyDeletepaano nasisikmura nakikitang malungkot si s na taga kayod ng buong pamilya.. nakakasakim talaga ang pera Lalo pa at hindi sila ang naghihirap... pagmasaya si s masaya din ciang magtrabaho at tumulong... napakabait ni s huwag abusuhin... Diyos na ba nila ang pera???? hindi man perpekto ang BF nia pero sino ba perfect? wala naman d ba???? ang hinahanap ba nila na quality para sa maging BF ni s ay meron sila? yong BF nga kahit mayaman ang pamilya eh todo kayod ...sila???? si s lng ang taga kayod imbes na tulungan eh mas importante ang bantayan cia .... poor rich girl.....
ReplyDeletePag nabuntis si S, ewan ko lang.
ReplyDeleteTayo kasing mga Pilipino, kahit pangit na ginagawa ng mga kapamilya natin sa atin, gagawin pa rin natin ang obligasyon natin sa kanila. Sana lang maintindihan natin na napakalaki ng pagkakaiba ng obligasyon sa responsibilidad at dapat kung mahal mo ang pamilya mo, ang uunahin mong mahalin ay ang sarili mo. Ang prioridad mo ang sarili mo.
ReplyDeleteS chooses to be a very good person that everybody wants to have as a daughter, a sister, a friend, gf, daughter in law and etc. but like any other human being she needs to be given the chance to live her life and to experience life including love.... she provided so much for her family and the worst and not impossible to happen is if she gets so depressed and will curtail her own life...what is life in any social class and fame if you don't have FREEDOM.....family of S needs to have the guidance of the priest, psychologist... something is wrong with them....
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why do they have to rely on her too much? I think she needs to put her foot down, to becone her own person and pursue her own happiness. After all these years of putting food on the table, paying the bills, clothing family members, she's paid!!
ReplyDeletenaging possessive and selfish na ang family ni S. ang a ginagabayan hindi inaabuso... pasalamat kayo mabait yan...sana hindi darating yong panahon na maitulak niyo cia at maisip nyan saktan ang sarili nia dahil wala ciang laya.... importante ang freedom.. parang hitler din ang dating ng m nia.... magtrabaho po kayo para may dagdag pangkabuhayan....
ReplyDeleteKawawa nman si S kng sya mn yan..di nya deserve ang lahat ng ngyayari sa knya...teka dba naka condo na si S?
ReplyDeleteNaman! Kung si S and M ito pagbigyan naman na si S. Marami na syang sakripisyo for her family. Its high time kaligayahan naman nya ang unahin nya. Mukhang hindi naman problema ni M ang pera kung iyon ang iniisip ng family ni S. Wag nilang hintayin na magpakasal yan. Isipin nila of age na sya para hindi na kailangan ng parental guidance (lalo na ang parental consent).
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