Sa ngayon madami sa paligid natin may mga pinagdadaanan. The best thing that we can do.... SMILE. icompliment natin ang ibang tao. Let other people know that life is so beautiful to waste. Prayers to all people na may pinagdaraanan sa buhay
That's the irony of being a hero. You cannot save yourself from your own demons :( I, too, suffered from the invisible war. Pero i tried seeking peace in my room and just contemplate what could've happen if I took my own life. That's when I started to research about being depress and self-harming. So one night, I saw a "PROJECT ;" posted in my social media account. This gave me a little hope that "a weiter pits a semi-colon to his book whenever he tried to pause". It reflects to you trying to pause on your suffering instead of ending your life. One day, I hope to help teens that are going through a rough time.
Honestly, its very difficult to ask help because we don't want to be misjudge and we feel like people would take us as a joke. So I am urging everyone to please be more sensitive to your children, siblings and friends. Not everyone is as strong as you. Sometimes, all we need is a hug without any words to comfort us from our troubles. And telling us that "everything will be ok" is not really enough.
EVERYONE, EVERY WALKS OF LIFE GOES THROUGH DEPRESSION SOME TIME IN THEIR LIFETIME AND I'M NOT AN EXEMPTION THERE. AND I STRONGLY BELIEVE that ONE motivation for someone to stop or prevent him/her for committing suicide is to think about hell... If they kill theirselves for sure they will end up in hell whether they believe in it or not! JESUS IS THE ONLY WAY! HE IS OUR SAVIOR IN EVERYTHING!
Walang dahilan na specific ang depression. Hindi mo kailangan ng malaking let down sa buhay para madepress. Kaya mahirap malaman if a person is depressed or not. I myself gone through depression, at kahit ako di ko alam kung anong reason. I can say i had a good life pero tinamaan ako ng depression. I battled for 10yrs. And siguro isa ako sa masswerteng tao na nakalampas sa depression because it's a battle na ikaw lang talaga ang kayang lumaban. Nobody even knew i was going through depression and mostly that's the case.
Nasa hormones sya. I was diagnosed bipolar disorder and taking medicines. I tend to dissociate myself from other people. Tapos lagi akong galit huhu. Mahirap syang condition.
tama. mahalaga talaga na may communication ang anak at nanay. hindi lang communication yun tipong naguusap dapat alam ang nararadaman at iiisip ng isat isa. minsan kasi yung mga simple bagay na kala natin wala lang pero big deal na pala.
Thank you for sharing. Some would rather keep quiet to save themselves from shame but you are reaching out. Salamat. You will surely save lives with this post.
Simple Lang yan! Always be grateful of what you have because not all people around have those. And learn to appreciate all the things around you and realise how fortunate you are to be able smell, see, hear, touch, walk, taste those littlest of things.
it's not as simple as you think. the thing with depression, you can't see the beauty that surrounds you, puro negative lang. it's a sickness. kaya nga mahalaga laging may nakakausap ang mga taong depress. much better seek professional help (counselling/therapy)
tama... tuwing may makikita akong mga batang kalyer lagi kong sinasabi sa anak ko kung gaano siya kasuwerte kasi kumakain siya more than 3x a day. kaya naapreciate niya kahit maliliit na bagay and very thankful siya.
Wow thats so easy for you to say. I am grateful thankful blessed and i think of all the positive things in life but i am STILL DEPRESSED. It came to a point that i wanted to take my own life but I still pray for guidance. Its a constant battle and i hope one day il be ok..
Hindi yan "simple" lang. Hindi yan basta 123 or abc na basta basta lang tinuturo. Kung makapagsalita ka kala mo lagi kang positive? Lagi kang grateful? Lagi kang good vibes? HYPOCRITE. Palibhasa di sayo nangyari
its not as easy as the way you said it.. everyone has problems.. and no problem is bigger or lesser than the other.. if it hurts.. it hurts.. that's just it.. im going through depression myself.. I know people in Syria has bigger problems than mine.. but that doesn't invalidate my pain.. sometimes people need to understand this.. depression is an illness, much like diabetes and cancer.. it's not just something you can whisk away..
You obviously do not know anything about the issue at hand so please keep your "it's simple" comments to yourself. Depression is never simple. It is a battle. With and against yourself. It's never simple. And I'm saying this by experience.
PEOPLE WHO SAY DEPRESSION OR ANY OTHER MENTAL ILLNESS IS SIMPLE. THEY HAVE SURELY NOT EXPERIENCED BEING CLINICALLY DEPRESSED OR DO NOT HAVE A LOVED ONE SUFFERING FROM A MENTAL DISEASE. CHEMICAL IMBALANCE IN THE BRAIN IS A SERIOUS MATTER AND SHOULD NOT BE REGARDED AS SIMPLE LANG.
Easy for you to say kasi hindi ikaw ang nkakaranas. Ako I think im depressed. Pero Im trying to be strong para sa mga tao sa paligid ko na kailangan ng tulong ko. Im trying my best para hindi bumigay. Im lucky enough na kaya ko pang pigilan at idivert ang sarili ko. Minsan hindi ko mapigilan naiiyak nalang ako sa sobrang depressed ko. Sometimes it just happens, I have no control over it. Kaya dont tell us na easy lang yan.
Ilang araw ako d nakatulog dahil sa suicide ng batang ito. I have teenagers too & everyday I pray na kaya nilang mag open up pag may problema sila. This is heartbreaking.
Sa panahon ngayon, social media dominates sa buhay ng kabataan no doubt yan, esp that teenagers are most fragile because of peer pressure and how they perceived the world na lalong nagiging worst. I was too in my dark days.
Grade school i was this biba kid and confident, but came high school, napressure ako sa mga classmates ko (grades, boys, looks, lifestyle) nahirapan ako na humabol that i thought nahuhuli ako kasi other girls my age were more achiever. Throughout hs, summer days ko nasa bahay lang and hindi ako masyadong lumalabas, nagkukulong sa room at ayaw ng ibang kasama. I felt so lonely, hindi rin ako expressive with my parents at takot ako sa kanila kaya kinikimkim ko lang. Hindi ko alam ang nangyayari sa akin before, but alam ko lang ay hindi ako good enough to other people, to my classmates, crushes, friends and even to my teachers. I even thought of running away from home kasi nakikita ko na rin ang magulang ko na hindi pala sila perfect, at na witness ko na rin kung gano ka harsh ang world. Also, was thinking to kill my self before i graduate from hs. Good thing, na divert ko sarili ko sa ibang bagay like playing guitar and sketching, then came college, dun ako naging okay. People from college were more open minded and teachers were more accommodating. Dun ulit ako naging biba at madaldal at naging active sa school. Feeling ko naging okay ako dahil i was able to be my real self without the expectations from other people.
Feeling ko, normal lang din naman as a teenager na dumaan sa phase na yun, but i think for julia, hindi lang naging mahigpit ang kapit nya and she gave up agad :( I am sad talaga na matalino at talented pa ang batang to, pero nasayang ang katulad nya.
For you to say that hindi mahigpit kapit niya and she gave up agad, like what others have said before it's not that simple. You're lucky you were able to get out of that phase pero not everyone has that will-power that you've got. Sa iyo could be teenage angst, but sa kanya it could be more.
Ako agree ako dun sa hindi mahigpit ang kapit. Madami dami nadin akong painful experiences at dumating sa point na feeling ko lahat ng nakapaligid sakin walang pakealam, na sarili ko lang talaga ang meron ako. Sabihin mo man sa mga kaibigan o pamilya mo yung reason kung bakit ka depress, may kulang parin. Hindi sapat yung sabihin lang sayo na okay lang yan, lilipas din. Hindi napapagaang nun yung bigat ng problema. Oo ngingiti ka ng pansamantala pero babalik at babalik yung lungkot pag mag isa ka na or matutulog ka na. Maiisip at maiisip mo padin. Actually until now naiisip ko padin yun. Hindi nawawala yung sakit, parang nagiging immune nalang ako. I think ganun talaga ang depression, ang pain. Parte ng buhay. Pero hindi dapat ito sukuan. Laban lang ng laban. Sabayan nadin ng tiwala sa Dyos kung bakit nangyayari yun. :)
Oo nga po, nabasa ko din po sya eh, usually mga nagpapakamatay they are low EQ.. Pero i have a question, di po ba, pag kitil ng buhay ay kasalanan, sabi nga po eh, khit daw po, isipin pa lang kasalanan na.Pano po yan, diba sakit to, eh di dapat hndi na nila twagin kasalanan?
I still feel sad remembering julia, what more her parents? Thank you maam for sharing this, not everyone can psychoanalyze themselves. I too suffered from this, but good thing ican self pycho analyze.
That's why this country has to learn to be more accepting of LGBTQ. I don't know why noone's commenting about it when it's clearly one of the reasons, if not THE reason for Julia's depression. It has to be said. I'm sure Julia would be happy if what happened would help pave way for people to be more accepting of the LGBTQ community. The mother is right, it's not just teen 'angst'. Because we put religion in this country first, we perceive people in the LGBTQ to be sinners. Natatakot tuloy mag-out ang kabataan lalo na yung mga nasa religious families or may pamilya na pinangangalagaan ang pangalan. Longing to be who you are and fear of coming out LEADS to depression that can sometimes, sadly, result in suicide. It's 2015, PHILIPPINES. It's time to let go of our backward mindset about 'gender'.
Thank you po.
ReplyDeleteSo young...
ReplyDeleteSa ngayon madami sa paligid natin may mga pinagdadaanan. The best thing that we can do.... SMILE. icompliment natin ang ibang tao. Let other people know that life is so beautiful to waste. Prayers to all people na may pinagdaraanan sa buhay
ReplyDeleteTHIS IS CHREW. SMILE NANG SMILE. PERO SA RUSSIA HINDI DAW SILA MAGSASMILE NG WALANG VALID REASON KAYA IYONG MGA MUKHA NILA LAGING NAKASIMANGOT. HAHA.
DeleteOkay lang nasa pinas naman aldub. Haha
DeleteNakakaiyak naman nito :'(
ReplyDeletei can tell from reading her tumbler posts that julia was a smart kid.
ReplyDeleteSHE WAS. HER ENGLISH WAS PERFECT AND SHE HAD SUBSTANCE.
Deletepag perfect ang english matalino agad? dont equate it dear!
DeleteOh my! So sad...
ReplyDeleteSAD…
ReplyDeletejust SAD...
That's the irony of being a hero. You cannot save yourself from your own demons :( I, too, suffered from the invisible war. Pero i tried seeking peace in my room and just contemplate what could've happen if I took my own life. That's when I started to research about being depress and self-harming. So one night, I saw a "PROJECT ;" posted in my social media account. This gave me a little hope that "a weiter pits a semi-colon to his book whenever he tried to pause". It reflects to you trying to pause on your suffering instead of ending your life. One day, I hope to help teens that are going through a rough time.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, its very difficult to ask help because we don't want to be misjudge and we feel like people would take us as a joke. So I am urging everyone to please be more sensitive to your children, siblings and friends. Not everyone is as strong as you. Sometimes, all we need is a hug without any words to comfort us from our troubles. And telling us that "everything will be ok" is not really enough.
Giving up my city life has helped me get through my depression. I am happy where I am now - in the province.
DeleteEVERYONE, EVERY WALKS OF LIFE GOES THROUGH DEPRESSION SOME TIME IN THEIR LIFETIME AND I'M NOT AN EXEMPTION THERE. AND I STRONGLY BELIEVE that ONE motivation for someone to stop or prevent him/her for committing suicide is to think about hell... If they kill theirselves for sure they will end up in hell whether they believe in it or not! JESUS IS THE ONLY WAY! HE IS OUR SAVIOR IN EVERYTHING!
DeleteThank you for the advice Anon 7AM :)
Deleteguys try to watch videos of eckhart tolle and barry long on youtube..isa sila sa nakatulong sa depression ko..sana mapost itong comment ko..
Deleteano ba ang dahilan ng deperession niya?
ReplyDeleteKahit walang dahilan, pwedeng maging depressed. Parang imbalance ng chemicals or something yata. Kaya sickness talaga sya.
DeleteWalang dahilan na specific ang depression. Hindi mo kailangan ng malaking let down sa buhay para madepress. Kaya mahirap malaman if a person is depressed or not. I myself gone through depression, at kahit ako di ko alam kung anong reason. I can say i had a good life pero tinamaan ako ng depression. I battled for 10yrs. And siguro isa ako sa masswerteng tao na nakalampas sa depression because it's a battle na ikaw lang talaga ang kayang lumaban. Nobody even knew i was going through depression and mostly that's the case.
DeleteNasa hormones sya. I was diagnosed bipolar disorder and taking medicines. I tend to dissociate myself from other people. Tapos lagi akong galit huhu. Mahirap syang condition.
DeleteWalang dahilan ang depression. There are risk factors and lahat tayo pwede maapektuhan.
DeleteJust like Caitlyn/Bruno Jenner
Deletetama. mahalaga talaga na may communication ang anak at nanay. hindi lang communication yun tipong naguusap dapat alam ang nararadaman at iiisip ng isat isa. minsan kasi yung mga simple bagay na kala natin wala lang pero big deal na pala.
ReplyDeleteWe were classmates at UP before and she's very nice!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing. Some would rather keep quiet to save themselves from shame but you are reaching out. Salamat. You will surely save lives with this post.
ReplyDeleteSimple Lang yan! Always be grateful of what you have because not all people around have those. And learn to appreciate all the things around you and realise how fortunate you are to be able smell, see, hear, touch, walk, taste those littlest of things.
ReplyDeletesometimes, it's not as simple as what we think.
Deleteit's not that simple... it's a chemical imbalance sa brain where you sometimes think that leaving is your best option for your loved ones...
DeleteDepression is not as easy as what you're saying. You made it sound na suicide victims were ungrateful.
Deleteit's not as simple as you think. the thing with depression, you can't see the beauty that surrounds you, puro negative lang. it's a sickness. kaya nga mahalaga laging may nakakausap ang mga taong depress. much better seek professional help (counselling/therapy)
DeleteIt's not as simple as that, darling. Chemical imbalance sya sa brain, it's a disease. It needs proper medication and care.
Deletetama... tuwing may makikita akong mga batang kalyer lagi kong sinasabi sa anak ko kung gaano siya kasuwerte kasi kumakain siya more than 3x a day. kaya naapreciate niya kahit maliliit na bagay and very thankful siya.
DeleteWow thats so easy for you to say. I am grateful thankful blessed and i think of all the positive things in life but i am STILL DEPRESSED. It came to a point that i wanted to take my own life but I still pray for guidance. Its a constant battle and i hope one day il be ok..
DeleteHindi yan "simple" lang. Hindi yan basta 123 or abc na basta basta lang tinuturo. Kung makapagsalita ka kala mo lagi kang positive? Lagi kang grateful? Lagi kang good vibes? HYPOCRITE. Palibhasa di sayo nangyari
Deletebadly, it's not that simple to realize it's not as simple as what you just said, honey. andito na naman tayo sa tendency natin na magmagaling.
Deleteits not as easy as the way you said it.. everyone has problems.. and no problem is bigger or lesser than the other.. if it hurts.. it hurts.. that's just it.. im going through depression myself.. I know people in Syria has bigger problems than mine.. but that doesn't invalidate my pain.. sometimes people need to understand this.. depression is an illness, much like diabetes and cancer.. it's not just something you can whisk away..
DeleteIm sorry but that's one misconception when dealing with depression.. Simple lang yan. Nasa isip lang yan. It's not as easy as you think.
DeleteYou obviously do not know anything about the issue at hand so please keep your "it's simple" comments to yourself. Depression is never simple. It is a battle. With and against yourself. It's never simple. And I'm saying this by experience.
DeletePEOPLE WHO SAY DEPRESSION OR ANY OTHER MENTAL ILLNESS IS SIMPLE. THEY HAVE SURELY NOT EXPERIENCED BEING CLINICALLY DEPRESSED OR DO NOT HAVE A LOVED ONE SUFFERING FROM A MENTAL DISEASE. CHEMICAL IMBALANCE IN THE BRAIN IS A SERIOUS MATTER AND SHOULD NOT BE REGARDED AS SIMPLE LANG.
DeleteEasy for you to say kasi hindi ikaw ang nkakaranas. Ako I think im depressed. Pero Im trying to be strong para sa mga tao sa paligid ko na kailangan ng tulong ko. Im trying my best para hindi bumigay. Im lucky enough na kaya ko pang pigilan at idivert ang sarili ko. Minsan hindi ko mapigilan naiiyak nalang ako sa sobrang depressed ko. Sometimes it just happens, I have no control over it. Kaya dont tell us na easy lang yan.
DeleteIlang araw ako d nakatulog dahil sa suicide ng batang ito. I have teenagers too & everyday I pray na kaya nilang mag open up pag may problema sila. This is heartbreaking.
ReplyDeleteSa panahon ngayon, social media dominates sa buhay ng kabataan no doubt yan, esp that teenagers are most fragile because of peer pressure and how they perceived the world na lalong nagiging worst. I was too in my dark days.
ReplyDeleteGrade school i was this biba kid and confident, but came high school, napressure ako sa mga classmates ko (grades, boys, looks, lifestyle) nahirapan ako na humabol that i thought nahuhuli ako kasi other girls my age were more achiever. Throughout hs, summer days ko nasa bahay lang and hindi ako masyadong lumalabas, nagkukulong sa room at ayaw ng ibang kasama. I felt so lonely, hindi rin ako expressive with my parents at takot ako sa kanila kaya kinikimkim ko lang. Hindi ko alam ang nangyayari sa akin before, but alam ko lang ay hindi ako good enough to other people, to my classmates, crushes, friends and even to my teachers. I even thought of running away from home kasi nakikita ko na rin ang magulang ko na hindi pala sila perfect, at na witness ko na rin kung gano ka harsh ang world. Also, was thinking to kill my self before i graduate from hs. Good thing, na divert ko sarili ko sa ibang bagay like playing guitar and sketching, then came college, dun ako naging okay. People from college were more open minded and teachers were more accommodating. Dun ulit ako naging biba at madaldal at naging active sa school. Feeling ko naging okay ako dahil i was able to be my real self without the expectations from other people.
Feeling ko, normal lang din naman as a teenager na dumaan sa phase na yun, but i think for julia, hindi lang naging mahigpit ang kapit nya and she gave up agad :( I am sad talaga na matalino at talented pa ang batang to, pero nasayang ang katulad nya.
Let's pray for the soul of julia.
For you to say that hindi mahigpit kapit niya and she gave up agad, like what others have said before it's not that simple. You're lucky you were able to get out of that phase pero not everyone has that will-power that you've got. Sa iyo could be teenage angst, but sa kanya it could be more.
DeleteAko agree ako dun sa hindi mahigpit ang kapit. Madami dami nadin akong painful experiences at dumating sa point na feeling ko lahat ng nakapaligid sakin walang pakealam, na sarili ko lang talaga ang meron ako. Sabihin mo man sa mga kaibigan o pamilya mo yung reason kung bakit ka depress, may kulang parin. Hindi sapat yung sabihin lang sayo na okay lang yan, lilipas din. Hindi napapagaang nun yung bigat ng problema. Oo ngingiti ka ng pansamantala pero babalik at babalik yung lungkot pag mag isa ka na or matutulog ka na. Maiisip at maiisip mo padin. Actually until now naiisip ko padin yun. Hindi nawawala yung sakit, parang nagiging immune nalang ako. I think ganun talaga ang depression, ang pain. Parte ng buhay. Pero hindi dapat ito sukuan. Laban lang ng laban. Sabayan nadin ng tiwala sa Dyos kung bakit nangyayari yun. :)
Deleteyours was bec if insecurity that most if us have.
DeleteSo sorry for Julia. But on one note, being suicidal is not high EQ. Its actually low EQ.
ReplyDeleteOo nga po, nabasa ko din po sya eh, usually mga nagpapakamatay they are low EQ.. Pero i have a question, di po ba, pag kitil ng buhay ay kasalanan, sabi nga po eh, khit daw po, isipin pa lang kasalanan na.Pano po yan, diba sakit to, eh di dapat hndi na nila twagin kasalanan?
DeleteI still feel sad remembering julia, what more her parents? Thank you maam for sharing this, not everyone can psychoanalyze themselves. I too suffered from this, but good thing ican self pycho analyze.
ReplyDeleteYou should reach out to nadine lustre her ig post is scary..i think she's in the brink of of a meltdown
ReplyDeleteThat's why this country has to learn to be more accepting of LGBTQ. I don't know why noone's commenting about it when it's clearly one of the reasons, if not THE reason for Julia's depression. It has to be said. I'm sure Julia would be happy if what happened would help pave way for people to be more accepting of the LGBTQ community. The mother is right, it's not just teen 'angst'. Because we put religion in this country first, we perceive people in the LGBTQ to be sinners. Natatakot tuloy mag-out ang kabataan lalo na yung mga nasa religious families or may pamilya na pinangangalagaan ang pangalan. Longing to be who you are and fear of coming out LEADS to depression that can sometimes, sadly, result in suicide. It's 2015, PHILIPPINES. It's time to let go of our backward mindset about 'gender'.
ReplyDeleteSuicidal pati mga friends nya? Oh my. Nagsama sama pa sila. Baka puro depressing thoughts ang topic nila.
ReplyDeleteObservation ko lang, most of those who have suicidal tendencies are well-off.
ReplyDelete