The thing is Jackie has so much hang ups, I understand there are things that has scarred and hurt her in the past but that's why people have to learn to forgive and move on. Forgive not just who hurt us but also ourselves. Quit playing the blame game at this rate that she is going she is alienating her kids more.
nanay ka din ba 1:23? kasi sa isang nanay napakasakit at napakahirap na di mo nakakausap ang anak mo, na galit sa yo mga anak mo. mahirap matahimik.gusto mo ipaliwanag ang side mo para mayakap sila ulit. siguro kung knakausap na sya ng mga anak nya matatahimik na ang loob nya. ang mas masakit pa hndi sya tinutulungan ni benjie at ng bagong wife na mareconcile sa mga anak nya. grabe ang mga paninira ng babae kay jackie nabasa ko sa facebook. alam ni jackie na sinisiraan sya kaya napipilitan sya lumaban at magsikap na mag reach out ang mga anak nya. maintndihan man ng mga anak o hndi parang ang hrap naman na di sya mag keep trying.
Let us not take it from her that she is a mother who is in a very difficult situation. Baka madami din kasi tayong hindi alam, ang mga bata matatalino yan if she was a good mother to them no amount of "brainwash" can take them away from her. Adult na sila ngayon legal age, may sarili ng isip hayaan natin na yung mga bata will come to terms with her when they are ready. And hirap kasi kay Jackie lagi sya yung kawawa, sya yung api at sya yung victim it takes two people to wreck a relationship. She never gave credit nga na lumaking maayos anak nila sa mga nagpalaki. At mas maganda na yung mga ganito hindi sa social media ginagawa, bigyan ng konting respeto si Benjie dahil in the end ama pa rin yan ng anak mo.
Shame a parent and you will shame a child. Just be quiet, just support them and be happy with their success. Go to Kobe's graduation, even if you are not invited, just be there from afar. Go to Andre's shows and events, you don't have to approach them. Once they know that you are making an effort to be there for them without causing any drama then that when they'll know that you really are there for them.
Naaawa din naman ako kay Jackie kasi she had her children at a very young age. Her children may not understand, pero maraming effects kay Jackie yun. May mga insecurities, or time of depression, etc. I hope someday magdecide sila na kausapin na sya, tutal naman kahit anong gawin nila sa kanya pa rin sila nagmula. Kahit para sa utang na loob nalang. At that age, she could've aborted them if she wanted to pero hindi nya ginawa because a mother loves her children even before they are born. #nanaydinpoako
True anon 4:58.... you can't feel Jackie's pain if you aren't a mom yourself. I feel her pain... kung pabaya naman siyang ina eh di sana hinayaan at kinalimutan na lang niya ang mga anak niya. But the thing is, she's not like that. She fought hard for her sons (and lost).... sino bang nanay ang gusto na tumanda ang mga anak niya na may galit sa kanya? Sobrang sakit non...
Feels ang moment ni jackie.. 15 years old diba highschool palang un? Its understandable ung situation nya, she loved this guy kaya okay lang ano mangyari and sa ganyang edad puro takot pa yan. Kung responsible parenthood ang hahanapin nyo sa aged 17, i guess you all should think twice kung 17 kau, ano palang nagagawa nyo? Mas kilala c benjie those times kaya cguro mas panig saknya mga tao. For her 2 children andre and kobe, its not to late to forgive and move on.. Life is too short not to be 100% happy.
Naawa naman ako kay jackie at naintindhan ko din siya. Mahirap din sa sitwasyon nya. Totoo nga na bata pa sya masyado nung time na nabuntis siya, kaya siguro di siya the best that time. Pero kita naman natin pano siya ngayon eh. Sana bgyan ni andre at kobe ng puwang sa puso nila nanay nila at sana mabasa nila ito once and for all mgkaayos na. Napakasakit ng nangyayari sa kanila.
Kaya maging lesson yan sa mga girls na bata pa Lang puro kaimoralan na ang inaatupag imbes na mag-aral boyfriend ang inaasikaso. Sundin nyo mga nanay nyo kc bihira ang parents lalo na ang nanay na magpapahamak sa mga anak nila.
Tomoh. mataas ang respeto ng mga anak nya sa tatay nila tapos sisiraan nya ng ganyan?? Lalong lalayo ang loob ng mga bata.. Pwede rin naman magpakumbaba at aminin nalang din na pareho lang sila nagkulang. Sige even if naging masamang asawa si benjie siguro naman naging mabuting ama un dahil ganon nalang paninindigan ng mga anak niya sa kanya. Di rin nagiisip yan si jackie. Tsk
This isn't about forgiving. She wants a relationship with her sons. The father has to bridge the gap. Obviously they are taking the cue from the dad. I'm sure kahit ayaw pag sinabi ng tatay they have to, they will. From the get go, parang all Bengie does is alienate his ex from the children. Yong step mom also has a role na magkaigi yong mag nanay. Life is short. If may shortcomings man si Jackie past na yon. She is reaching out to them now. Give her a chance.
Kasalanan kasi eto ni lolit solis eh!Tumahimik na si jackie after makapag asawa...di na siya nagpapamedia about sa anak nola ni benjie...kaya lang si lolit nung magguest si andre and kobe tinanong yung dalawa about sa nanay..eh may mga side comments si lolit na di maganda implying masamang ina si jackie...naniniwala ako si andre mama's boy kc nung natanong about dun emotional and teary-eyed siya...sinasalo na lang ni kobe...ayaw ng drama eh....pero dun talaga nagstart ang gulong eto kaya yan nagstart nanamn madepress si jackie about sa mga anak niya...tas siya ung pinapalabas na masama...eh ginawa niya naman lahat...makasama mga anak niya..
Napakasakit nito sa isang ina. Naiiyak ako s mga posts nya graveh. Hnd k ata kakayanin na d makasama or makita at makausap man lang mga ank k. Ang sakit lalo na sguro malaman m na galit sila sau dahil may pinaniniwalaan silang hnd nmn dapat. Sira head nung tatay at insecure ung step-mom nila.
That's a heartbreaking picture u got there. We don't know what really happened. We can't judge we weren't there. But I think something's wrong with Benjie too, she was 15. What was he thinking? Nevertheless I just wish she would stop posting in social media, it's not helping anything. Move on and keep praying that in God's time, every one's hearts will find forgiveness and be healed. Keep the faith
Swerte pa nga si Benjie at di siya kinasuhan ng nanay ni Jackie. In-love lang talaga si Jackie sa kanya kaya ipinaglaban sya.... pero si Benjie naman, being 25 then and still considered young, hindi rin naalagaan ng tama ang relationship nila
Given that all your statements are true and your ex wasn't good at all..Still, these kind of issue must be discussed in private. You can no longer change whatever happened in the past and you cannot blame your ex all your life, if you really want to win back your children then try the best way - do not talk about the past, speak to their father, ask forgiveness if you have to and forgive him as well, then next is children, they might refuse you hundred times but you can always try a thousand times, nobody can stop a loving mother. The process may not be easy but I think this is the most effective way.
Ayaw nga sya kausapin. I think ginagawa nya to para mag give in sa public clamor yung anak nya na kausapin sya. Atleast siguro para sa kanya that would be a good start.
Close lahat ng way para maconvey nya message nya sa mga ank nya at ang socia media lang po ang bukas. Kya hnd m din sya masisisi kung naresort na sya sa last option nya. Kahit ako ggwin k un.
bata talaga siyang nag asawa...kahit siya p ang may kasalanan...yung lang hira niya s pagbubuntis at panganganak at age that...dapat magpasalamat ang mga anak niya at si benjie..napakahirap manganak..totoo ang sabi nasa hukay ang isa mong paa..
I always read this type of excuse for bad behavior, in this case bad parenting, na kesyo "bata a siya nagasawa..." It is as if being bata will always be a cause for insufficiency. May mga kilala din akong bata na naging magandang magulang at ehemplo sa mga anak, kahit na naghihirap ang buhay. So please, stop making this as an excuse.
2:03 Lahat ng kilala mong batang nabuntis at nanganak naging magandang ehemplo? I don't believe you. FYI, sa mga unplanned and early pregnancies, maraming psychological effects on both mom and dad. Since si Benjie ay matanda na nun, si Jackie ang naka experience nun. May mga insecurities na yung mga ka age nya maganda na career, nasa school, looking forward sa magandang future, samantalang sya nagpapadede ng bata. Let us understand her. Alam ko mahal nya mga anak nya, pero tao lang din ang mga nanay, nagkakamali din.
Kaya nga ang mga babae ingatan nyo puri nyo at hintayin nyo na dumating ang TAMANG lalake at TAMANG panahon na pwede na kayo lumagay sa maayos at wag makipag-pre-marital sex at wag sumuway sa parents nyo!
The truth is, people are different. There are those 14 yr old girls who tackle the responsibilities of motherhood well, while there are those who struggle. It also depends upon the support system of the "mother child". Who are we to judge her? Both had their contribution why their marriage failed. Both should own up to their mistakes, forgive themselves and forgive each other for the sake of their children. Let go of the past and enjoy what the present moment has to offer. Benjie should take the lead and show his children that he is a good father. A good father does not deprive his children their rights to share some moments with their mother. He was given full custody but Jackie was given visitation rights by the court. Benjie obviously did some parenting mistakes which lead the children to hate their mother.
Tama! Ung pinsan k ganyn din. Mas malala p nga un kasi dedma sa ank. Pero dun sa second child kung saan mas mature na sya aba iba. Talgang buhos ang atensyon at pagmamahal sa pangalawa.
Wow, what big claims you have dear. 15 years old is not a child, still not of legal age by standards but nowhere near being a child. Also, I don't seem to see how she was forced in any way? Please enlighten us further.
hi lyxen! ikaw yan ano? mam ang 15 po ay wla pang sapat na maturity kaya bale forced sya ng matandang benjie. masaya ba ang buhay misis mo mam kasi parang galit ka sa mundo. nabasa ko post mo abt jackie's being a mother so bitter po e anung problema mam?
Si lyxen ay insecure na froglet at hnd masaya kasi forever nya makikita si jackie sa mukha ng dalwa. Ang layo kaya looks ng anak ni benjie saknya kumpara kina kobe n andre. Kasing lauo nang looks ni jackie at lyxen. Haha. Kung hnd ka bitter teh ikaw pa mismo gagawa ng way para ung mga bata mapalapit s knilang ina. Tulad nalang ni aiko melendes, jennilyn mercado, sharon cuneta and other showbiz personalities na sila pa gumagaw ang way para magkalapit ang mag ama nila.
Anti-You 3:55 according to the law a person below the age of 18 is considred a child. And it's considered statutory rape if an adult engages in sex with such a person (below 18).
Pinaglalaban nyang makita ulit yung mga anak nya na obviously nabrainwash ni Benjie at nung madrasta! You can't just tell her to shut up! Btw, you're using the word "peg" in the wrong context. Jologs!
SHUT UP YOURSELF!ikaw kaya ang nasa lugar nya ha?!na tingin ng iba si kalbo ang underdog at sya masamang ina.at the age of 15-17 ganyan na buhay nya.sana man lang matauhan ung 2 anak nya at kausapin sya.
She has to understand that her kids grew up with their father, and any they will always their father's side. She is going about it the wrong way. If I were her, I will stop going to the media and social network, talk to Benjie and his wife, and solve this discreetly. Stop making thing public.
Tama naman talaga na manahimik na si Jackie. Hindi porket ayaw ng anak sa nanay, na brainwash na! I should know. Same lang kame ng karanasan ng mga anak nya. I didnt like my father pero ang mommy ko pilit ako pinapakilala sa kanya. Tapos nagagalit daddy ko dahil na brainwash na daw ako. Malalaki na ang anak mo Jackie. They will acknowledge you as a mother, in time. Panget din na siraan mo ang tatay nila. Mas lalo kang kamumuhian ng mga anak mo.
Teh bakit naman shut up- kung ikaw ang may anak - iniwan mo asawa mo pero mahal mo anak mo tapos ayaw ka na kilalanin ng mga bata super sakit dba kaya humihingi ka ng tawad at gusto mo sila makasama pero sa halip na tulungan ka e sinisiraan ka pa ng madrasta mananahimik ka na lang ba
Benjie is a child predator. He took advantage and manipulated jackie. We should cut jackie some slack. Totoo naman ang sinabi niya na everybody thinks benjie is the good guy and she's the horrible parent. So let her tell her story, she's been through a lot and if sharing these things will help her then who are we to judge. Minsan magiisip muna bago mang bash...
Hirap din naman ng pinagdaanan niya. She had 2 kids during her teens, and whatever else might have gone wrong in their relationship mas dehado pa din siya kasi siya na yung menor de edad siya pa yung walang kasama.
I hope she finally fixes things with her two grown sons. I just think the two boys are uncomfortable that all these matters are being aired so publicly.
Aside from that. Her mom wasn't by her side so she was depending solely on Benjie who failed to take care of her.... imagine the hormonal changes of a teenager who became preggy twice?! Can u just imagine the natal depression she went through?
Jackie made mistakes.. Benjie surely did some of his own.. It has been a while.. Forgive and forget is easier than done.. But what can we do? Hate her for what happened forever.. Boys, she is your mom.. Forgive her, if you dont want her in your life, just acknowledge her being your mom.. Let go and just love and repect.. And things will be better, im sure..
Haaay, im also a mother. but does she think maayos ang lahat sa ginagawa nya ngayon? Her 2 older boys are doing ok now and they seem happy. She should just focus on her new family.
Easy for you to say. Mga anak nya yung nilayo sakanya. Hindi porke may bago syang pamilya, ok na lang na di nya makita si A and K. Anong klaseng mentalidad yan?
Of course I will never let go of my children, i will love them with all my heart. Pero hindi na ako gagawa pa ng ikahihiya nanaman ako ng mga anak ko. Palagay mo Jackie ano mafefeel ni A & K pag nabasa or makarating sa kanila yang post mo? Will they love you.or hate you more? Think.about it.
Sana dmo nalng sinabi na nanay k. Tapos ganyn ka mag-isip ang masasabi k lng anong klaseng ina ka. Haha! I pity ur kids for having a mom like u. Ewww! And fyi seems happy is different from happy. I know coz i've been there. Kelangan m ipakita sa mundo na ok ka kahit ang totoo hnd ka ok. Dahil iba talaga pag pinalaki kang may hatred sa puso m. Karga m un gang paglaki. Mahirap mag move on dahil dun sa lecheng extra baggage na un.
Anon2:32... nka drugs kb? Anung klaseng ina ka!?! kalimutan nlng ang anak porket my ibang family n? hndi kailanman mkakalimutan ng ina ang kanyang anak!
She forgot to mention how she was too much of a party girl back then. And minaltrato siya wala pa si Kobe. Tapos galit siya when they came back with a fever tapos walang nag-alaga. Then she "accidentally" got pregnant with Kobe. Ano yun napaupo lang siya kay Benjie? If you're going to tell a story, ikuwento yung buo... Not just the part na ikaw lang ang kawawa at bida. Yung mga anak mo ang kawawa sa pinaggagagawa mo. Hopefully they won't succumb to this kind of social media shaming. Isipin mo nalang how this will affect your kids. You'd think your kids will welcome you back with open arms after this? Particularly Kobe whom you've inadvertently referred to as an accident?
Accidentaly meaning it wasn't planned, ton**! Kung magsalita ka naman na napaka guilty ni Jackie akala mo may alam ka. Andun ka? Kung ibabalik mo yung tanong sakin, kayang kaya kita sagutin!
tulog na jackie. kung ano man ang kasalanan ni benjie sa yo, it was not reason enough to subject your kids to the abuse that you youself did to them. why don't you just come clean and tell us what happened in boracay?
Her story is biased of course. She has to look like the victim. Eh, siya nga ang naghabol kay Benjie dati. "Party girl" ba kamo? At 15, ang lifestyle niya parang 30 years old na. Hindi yan innocenteng 15 y/o. Siya pa kamo ang feelingera dahil naka bingwit ng sikat na basketball player. Kung magpamukang kawawa naman ngayon, OA. Alam mo Jackie, maraming nakakakilala sa calibre mo noon AT ngayon, so kung magkukwento ka rin lang, ikuwento mo LAHAT di yung puro half-truths and lies lang. Hindi ako kamag-anak niBenjie o ni Lyxen, pero isa ako sa mga maraming tao na nakaka-alam ng kuwento ninyo, nakakakita sa iyo sa mga pag-asta mo nung mga panahon na kayo pa ni Benjie. Nasa mga anak mo na kung gusto ka nila kausapin di mo mapilit yon. Wala kang pakialam kung sinong masaktan kahit mga anak mo kasi may bago kang magiging anak na lalaki. Nagmamalaki ka nanaman, hiding in the guise of concerned mother kuno. Bigyan mo ng katahimikan sina Andre at Kobe hindi yung puro pagiisip sa sarili ang ginagawa mo.
I agree with you 2:33 PM. Jackie acts as if she didn't do anything wrong. I think it's easy to say na Benjie should allow her to talk to the children. But the point is ayaw nila. You can say that Benjie brainwashed them. Sure ba tayo dito? Hindi kaya dahil partly may kasalanan din sya due to her partying days and neglecting her children? It's easy to say na patawarin sya, but in reality, it's not. So yung mga kuda nang kuda dyan na sinasabi na patawarin sya, I think kailangan nyo din isipin kung kayo ang nasa lugar ng mga anak, anong mararamdam nyo? Think it both sides, wag puro yung nababasa sa social media.
I'm sorry but she's just asking for sympathy by using social media to "share" her side of the story. There are things that needs to stay private and this is one of them. Instead of exerting your energy getting sympathy likes, how about reach out to your kids the humane way? It's easy to post pictures and write words, but acting upon it behind cameras beats 1k likes. The real question is, are you really doing something about your relationship with your kids? Or are you just posting on your instagram because it's convenient?
HUH??? I'm sorry, Jackie has to answer and take to account of her third child (after andre n kobe) who happened to be NOT of Benjie's (during their marriage) which was the reason why the separation and annulment, Benjie is a good father and provider. Benjie is a working professional (basketball, actor, and hosting) but where was Jackie? she abandoned her two sons at home, and she went out party, party party....pls pls pls, dont change the REAL timeline, the REAL Story, jackie is loosing her mind, is using the boys, is using the publicity....People in the TV and Basketball Industries the REAL score!
When Jackie was pregnant with Jared, wala na sila ni Benjie. Wag ka magmarunong. Naghiwalay sila dahil sa asawa ngayon ni Benjie na dating tutor nila Andre at Kobe.
Are we supposed to assume that it was only Benjie who wanted to consummate their love? What's his crime? That Jackie was 15 yrs old when this happened? Please. I'm pretty sure you've seen worse.
AnonymousFebruary 23, 2015 at 3:01 PM - accountable for what? pinakasalan naman niya si forster. nagsama sila ng matagal. so dahlil lang sa minor siya, accountable na agad? therefore, moot and academic na iyan!
Yes, i remember clearly siya ang humahabol kay Benjie coz during that time Benjie is super sikat na PBA player, db nagkaroon pa nga sila ng movie nuon kasama sila Patrimonio at iba pang PBA players na sikat while si Jackie naman kasama sila Joan Quintas ba yun. Yung group nila mga bago pero malalaki/matataas na babae kaya nga sila yung mga naging love interest dun sa movie. Recall ko lang.
Hormonal ang teenagers and idealistic about love. As the adult in their relationship, Benjie should have not married her and impregnated her until he was sure she was mature enough. I really have low opinions of men who impregnate minors. Ever heard of post partum depression? Some women get severely depressed after giving borth, kelangan ng love and support from her hubby to get thru it.
Ano na naman ba ang bagong issue sa kanila ni benjie at nag throw back si jackie? Kasi sa ginagawa ni jackie ang direct na naapektuhan ay ang mga anak niya. Kung regrets man na matatawag ang mga post niya, it's way too late na, at nangyari na, nasa 20s na ang mga anak niya, MOVE ON na. Bakit di na lang sa mga anak niya siya mag effort, mag post siya ng something na makakapagpalambot ng puso ng mga kids niya, Mas lalo kasing siya masasaktan, ma-i-stress, di makaka move on.
I think she is trying to air her side sa social media hoping her kids will read it since they don't even want to talk to her in real life. This is her way of reaching out hoping that kobe or andre's friends might read it and baka lang one of these friends would talk some sense to the boys.
Bakit kay benjie binigay ang custody ng bata? Opinion ko lang ha, sa pag popost mo, lalo mo lang nilalayo mga anak mo sau. lalo lang sila magagalit sayo. dka mag reflect bka may nagawa kang nasaksihan ng anak mo kya ganon na lang galit nila sau?
It was supposed to be a joint custody but Benjie didn't allow the kids to see Jackie. There was even a time when Jackie brought her lawyer with her to pick up her kids from Benjie's house but Benjie forced them to leave and didn't allow them to take the kids even though it was instructed by the court!
If this is true with the lawyer and such how stupid the lawyer na hindi ipursue ang rights ni jackie this is so stupid with court permission na tapos d pa din nakita? Ano un joke lang batas?
It was posted I think here on FP that Jackie and her lawyer were allowed to talk to Kobe but Kobe started crying because Jackie told him that they were taking him away to live with her and the boy wouldn't stop crying so Jackie and her lawyer were booted out of the house.
Hay... another drama queen. Ngawa pa more. Sana tumahimik na lang si Jackie... She wants to be the underdog. Di nya naisip na mas nakakahiya para sa mga anak nya yung ginagawa nya. Paano pa sya lalo mapapalapit sa kalooban ng mga bata if she keeps doing this? If she finds what she's doing therapeutic, then she should keep a journal instead of BRAODCASTING IN PUBLIC! Ang dami pa rin nya hangups until now. Forgive & forget, this will help you move forward, especially with baby #4 coming. Sabi mo masaya ka na sa buhay mo ngayon, so bakit kailangan pa hukayin ang nakaraan na dapat binaon mo na?
Well said anon 3:13pm. Ay naku Jackie kung gusto mong mapatawad ka ng mga anak mo ibahin mo ang strategy mo sa ginagawa mong yan lalong lumalayo ang loob ng mga bata.
sa totoo lang di na ko naapektuhan o naaawa kapag ang mga babae ay maagang nakapag-asawa. unang una sa gaya kong babae may choice naman tayo kung sino ang papatulan natin sa isang relasyon. hindi naman siya nirape di ba? ginusto nya yun. hindi na dapat ikinakatwiran na bata pa sya noon. ang pinakaimportante na dapat ginawa nya ay dapat nipriority nya ang mga anak nya. dahil ang mga bata matatalino yan. magaling makaramdam yan kapag may problema sa bahay, tingin m ba magagalit ang mga bata sa ina nila kung hindi nila alam ang dahilan. hindi na nadadaan sa brainwash ang mga bata ngayon.at kung mahal niya ang mga anak nya dapat kahit paano kumuha sya ng visiting rights. wala lang talaga sya ginawa o kaya kinulang sa gawa. kung maghihimutok lang sya dahil sa mga nagyari noon at wala syang gagawin para mapalapit sa anak ngayon. e ano ang pinaglalaban nya sa social media? attention? napakaraming paraan. walang pagkakaiba ang pagpopost nya ng ganyan sa social media sa mga pamilya na sakit ng ulo sa barangay dahil sa awayang pampamilya na dapat sa loob lang ng bahay e natsisismis pa sa kapitbahay dahil ang iingay dinig ng buong barangy.
yan din ang nkakapagtaka? that time why ddnt she go to court? fight for her children kahit wala xa work, andaming orgs n mlalapitan knowing she is a celebrity. nkikita ko pa nga xa s tv before nanonod ng games dun s jowa nyang bball player din.
My husband is also manipulative and abusive. Unfortunately may tao talagang ganyan. Even the marriage counselor napaikot ng husband ko. Kaya I pity Jackie. Only a mother can stoop that low just for the sake of her kids. It's a desperate cry for help.
Eh Hindi na nga kc sya pinapansin! She is Doing everything to make her sons understand what she went through. Matigas ang mga boys, grabe...ang galing ni Benjie magpalaki ng bata..tinuruan maging disrespectful ang mga anakis.
In a processf healing you have to narrate what had made you hurt. Accounting the past is painful but it will help you grow emotionally, it strengthen your passion of loving and accepting things as they are. So let her do what make her able to release the pain and realize the thigs she needs to do and not to do. Walang masama kung ibahagi man niya ang nararamdaman niya kung makakatulong sa pagkatao niya. We have our own manefestatiins or process of healing. let me remind you that she is in a relationship now that is making her happy and complete.
In a processf healing you have to narrate what had made you hurt. Accounting the past is painful but it will help you grow emotionally, it strengthen your passion of loving and accepting things as they are. So let her do what make her able to release the pain and realize the thigs she needs to do and not to do. Walang masama kung ibahagi man niya ang nararamdaman niya kung makakatulong sa pagkatao niya. We have our own manefestatiins or process of healing. let me remind you that she is in a relationship now that is making her happy and complete.
At whose expense? At kelangan talaga sa social media? Wala siya friends na masabihan? Or journal na masulatan? Sa ginagawa niya, I wouldn't be surprised kung lalong lalayo ang loob ng dalawang anak niya sa kanya.
I totally agree with this! The last 2 replies talk as if they are not guilty of it. Have you not posted anything on your fb account when you're mad just to release the stress or sabihen na naten to gain attention? Think before you speak. :) This is her way of releasing whatever she has inside so let us not judge her. There will always be 3 sides of a story and they both know what is the truth. I think Jackie in here is not asking for any support or financial matters. She is just trying to give her side of the story kasi mahirap yun na hindi nya makausap anak nya. Walang nanay ang ndi magmamalasakit sa anak kahit gaano pa ito kasama. Well, that I learned in my years of existence.
Basa basa sabi niya may mga friends and loved ones siya na nasasabihan nya which kept her sane. I guess she wants to find a way to reach her boys kasi they won't give her the time of day. I used to hate my Mom but my gay cousin who knows her side of the story talked to me and said "bali baligtarin mo man mundo nanay mo pa rin iyan, cnt you forgive her? Who know how long she has left to live in this world? My biggest regret is i hated my mom for cheating on u dad but when she died of a heart attack i felt awful. She left this world thinking that i hate her and now i cnt change that, she's gone." After that i talked to my Mom and we've been ok since then.
I think she's just desperate to see her children. Ang hirap talaga kapag silence ang kalaban, na kahit anong gawin, hindi ka pinapansin. Mas mabuti pa kung pagsalitaan sya ng masama, siguro titigil sya, kasi ayan na, may sagot na eh. Pero yang ganyang deadma, nakakaloka talaga 'yan. Nakakainis din ang mga lalakeng ganyan, hindi na naawa sa babae. Ang tigas naman ng puso ng mga anak niya. Naaawa ako sa kanya, sa totoo lang. Sana kalimutan na nya ang mga anak nya, I think it's so obvious that they don't care for her.
Naglalabas lang naman sya ng hinaing nya sa Instagram account nya, which, account naman nya 'yon so she can do anything with it. She's not asking for anything naman from her boys dyan sa post 'di ba? She's just whining...
Me too. Given the boy's youth back then, hindi sila magtatanim ng galit sa nanay nila if Benjie didn't fuel the fire, so to speak. Maaaring mali ang paraan ni Jackie, using social media to reach out, and perhaps she indeed was in the wrong kaya nagkaganoon ng ang relationship nila as a family, but the anger of the two boys can only come from Benjie, who should have known better, being the supposedly more matured one.
she's desperate na to see and win his children. Hindi naman si benjie ang may ayaw makita siya ng mga anak niya kundi mga anak niya mismo. kahit naman ako makita ko nakipaglove making ang nanay ko sa iba di ko din matatanggap
Jackie's parents acted like they did not care. They should have taken her away from Benjie, these all would not have happened. They have the right to do so because she was a minor. How did they get married? I wonder. 15 is not allowed to marry. 18 can marry but with parental consent. above 21 can marry with or without parental consent.
grabe naman tong mga anak nito, walang respeto! pero dapat si benjie at ang asawa nya ng mag exert ng effort na tanggapin na ng mga bata ang ina nila! sabagay may karma din sila!
Im sorry but, why shiuld we believe in you? Why did you leave your children to benjie in the first place. Im pretty sure it is not because of insufficient fund or you just cant. Im also a mother and i know that i'll die a million times not being with my children.
to the children (Kobe and Andre), for all those misunderstandings with your mom, please find to forgive her and love her more. She had you at a very young age
She is in depression mode. Medical & spiritual counselling is what she needs. Social Media will make it worst. it will cause more division. She must learn to forget the past and et the time pass for healing. She will never ever can move on if she continuously digging her bad experience. Just stay focus on the good side of her life.
Psalm 40:5, 12. Neither calamities nor personal shortcomings, no matter how many, will overwhelm us if we do not lose sight of the fact that our blessings ‘are more numerous than we can recount.
If she is trying to patch up things with her children then it seems like she's doing it the wrong way. In this day and age and with the ages of her sons at present, it is hard to believe that she can't find a way to contact them more privately and explain amongst themselves. Malalaki na ang mga anak nya na may sariling buhay na at hindi na nakatali sa ama. I believe both she and benjie went through tough times but better catch up on being an adult now.
ok we get it. you miss your kids. you feel that the dad and the step mom brainwashed them. that you were maltreated. but please, if you want to reach out to your kids, seriously, this is not the way. you are alienating them more. they are now adults, reach out to them privately. if you are truly a caring mom, to them, you shouldnt be doing this in this manner. pinapahiya mo lang sila lalo. and please, wag mo naman i blame sa dati mong asawa lahat. you had your share of lapses. grow up. admit them as well. wag yung parang ikaw pa ang malinis. may ginawa ka ding mali. own up and show maturity. and maybe your kids will nitice this and maybe they can reach out to you as well.
Somehow, there might be some truth to this especially yun part na hindi priority si jackie. Napanood ko si benjie sa tunay na buhay at yung basketball ang ikinabuhay nya talaga so yun ang binigyan ng importansya.
"I was finally allowed to enter your temporary home" - bakit sabi mo sa interview mo kay Abunda never kang pinapasok sa bahay nila? Ano ba talaga, teh? Nahahalata ang inconsistencies sa mga kwento mo. Sunog! Your pants are on fire!!!
No matter how bad of a person you are, no one has the right to deny you your parental rights especially if you are trying your best to be with them or be present in their lives. I guess this country has grown mature in some ways but has remained narrow minded in others that are far more significant. Benjie should put some sense into these kids' minds if it is true that the decision was theirs. If it were him feeding hate and resentment all along, isn't it time to stop? As for Jackie, don't ever stop reaching out to them.
Why whos denying her of her rights to be a parent? Her own kids dislike her doesnt want to be with her and its for a reason. Love is not something you force on someone, if this is her way to get her sons love back its a fail. you get what you give... If you really kind and respectful you will soon get what you hope for not by bringing your bitter past back just to prove you are better than Benjie.
she was 15 then, which she insisted more than 3 times? how old she is now? and still immature in handling her situation with Benji and his children. I dont think blaming Benji is going to solve ur problem. the children must have gone through a lot of bad experiences with u as well kaya ganun sila kagalit sayo, and brainwashing is not enough to make them hate u that much. I think ung mga bata mismo had firsthand bad experiences but they respect u enough they choose to be silent about it. imagine kng ang mga anak mo at so Benji any magkukwento ng mga pagkukulang mo.
I think it's okay to emphasize na 15 siya kasi talaga naman young siya and at that age people are usually too naive and immature. Inamin din naman niya na may pagkakamali siya and may reason kung bakit hinawa niya yun. Brainwashing kids is really easy especially if they are young, you can brainwash kids to hate someone. I hate to drag other people in this issue but look at sharon and kc, kc hated gabby for a while when her dad left. Pero sharon didnt let kc continue to hate him kaya nag effort siya na hindi lumaki si kc na may galit sa ama. Mahirap ang ginawa ni sharon pero it can be done namn.
kung mahal talaga ni jackie anak niya tigilan na niya pagpopost ng ganito, binata na kasi sila syempre mapapahiya ang mga yan lalo lang sila mawawalan ng gana kausapin siya. hintayin nalang niya dumating yung time na magkusa yung dalawa. kasi naman kung ginawa tlga sa kanya yan ni benjie hindi ba dapat una nya inisip anak niya at mghanap ng work hindi yung ngrebelde siya at kung anu anu kalokohan ginawa niya. lahat sila may mali at pagkukulang pero at the end of the day si andre at kobe padin ang pinaka kawawa sa kanila. kesa magpost siya bat hindi na lang siya gumawa ng letter i address niya sa viva o makiusap sa kaibigan niya na pakibigay kung duda siya kay benjie or gumawa siya ng way para makuha email ng dalawa. kung gusto marami paraan kung ayaw madami dahilan. hindi kasi masosolusyunan ang mali ng isa pang pagkakamali.
Maganda kase si Jackie and mukhang kikay kaya people perceive her differently. She has a party girl image. Eh si benjie, athlete, komedyante kaya nasa kana sympathy ng tao. kung bags, hindi madaling maniwala ang public if party girl ang ni-rape. I believe Jackie! regardless of what she did, she deserves to spend time with her kids. And I think, Jackie is taking it to social media so it can reach her kids. Paulit-ulit na si Jackie, lets give her credit .. pinaglalaban na nya mga anak nya ngayon. I hope she gets it.
So Jackie is kinda saying, all those years, walang nagawang mabuti si Benjie sa kanya? At all? Puro pagkakamali ni Benjie ang naalala nya?? Sya lang ang bukod-tanging nag-aruga sa mga anak nya? Absentee father ba si Benjie kay A&K?
Btw, sino kaya kumukuha ng photos nya with Andre and Kobe? Baka si Benjie din.
Ang may Kasalanan dyan c jackie at yung nanay nya. She was only 15 years old and dating a man a decade plus her senior and yet her mother did nothing and left her alone in the care of a predator? She should have fight for her child and made sure she was safe from that pedophile. Sa kaso nman ni jackie, she should have listened to her mother instead of going against her will. D b natira sa US cla so dapat alam nila na bawal magkaron ng relasyon ang minor sa adult. Tapos ang mali pa k jackie she left the kids in the care of her ex husband. Ang nanay never would leave her kids no matter what. On the other hand, Jackie should look at it as blessing in disguise. Her kids though they seem like they hate her, atleast they grew up quite well and one of her sons has a future in the US. There's not much that she can do at this point but to just look at the brighter side of things. If it's God's will, it will happen.
she may have been young, a party girl, immature or whatever but became a Mother when she was supposed to be all of those. and until now, she never gets tired of reaching out to her sons, kahit pa sabihin na nakakasawa na ginagawa nya...a mother never gets tired, never gives up on her son. and i can see that's what she is. i hope her sons will find it in their hearts to forgive her and accept her coz no matter what, they are still her mother.
Kung gusto mo Ng forgiveness, dapat ikaw mauna humingi ng tawad at magpakumbaba. Sa mga posts mo, ikaw ang inapi, ikaw ang biktima. Ang biktima dito Yung mga anak mo. Humingi ka ng tawad Kay benji at ayusin nyo Yung problema nyo. Tutal pareho Na kayo nasa edad. Kay benji walang mawawala kundi ka lalapit, so ikaw ang talo. There are many ways to skin the cat, but I doubt that your way is gonna work.
If the parents had a falling out I don't think it's right to feed the minds of the kids to hate their Mom. I don't know the whole story pero I wonder why the 2 boys grew up despising their Mom. Looking at theentire picture, kung may nagawa mang mali si Jacki I bet may mali din sa part ni Benjie.
The 2 boys are grown ups already. I hope in time magkaron nga sila ng enlightenment to filter things. They grew up hearing their dad's side of the story. I hope they give their mom a chance too. I also hope na everytime they look at themselves in the mirror nakikita sana nila ang mom nila.
Oh Jackie, please stop it!!! Publicizing it will never help! Your children do not and will not appeciate this. Do it privately - mahabang panahon at super malaking effort ang kakailanganin but you will get there eventually. Public pronouncements will only embarrass them and make them question your motives. Stop it!!!
taken for granted that jackie is telling the truth, pero kelangan ba sa ganitong paraan nya ilabas ang nararamdaman nya?does she even think what will her sons feel if they learn about this posts? matutuwa ba sila? if she wants sympathy from others, will she gain the same sympathy from her children? i dont think so. her sons are in their teenage years, peer pressures and all. d kaya lalo lang syang ikahiya ng mga anak nya? think wisely jackie! think! use your head. not everything is solved using your emotions.
Sumosobra na tong babaeng to. Mahal daw ang mga anak pero di niya magawang bigyan ng kahihiyan. Drama ng buhay ninyo ito wag na is ako ang publiko. Ikaw rin marami ka rin pagkakamali kaya wag kang magmalinis. #nakakainisfeelingvictim #kaliwete
Andre and Kobe proudly calls Lyxen Mom tapos when asked about Jackie they refer to their real mom as "her" ni hindi mabanggit na mom - ang sakit dba. Kung ako si Lyxen i will tell the kids na si Jackie pa rin ang mommy at kahit di sila nagkasundo ng tatay nila mahal pa din sila ng mommy nila. para positive lumaki ang mga bata. Kaso grabe manulsol ang Lyxen na to- basahin nyo ang post nya sa FB na nasa PEP sinisiraan nya si jackie dapat daw tumigil na kasi nagpabaya sya nalimutan na daw ng mga bata na galing sila sa womb nya, sya na daw (Lyxen) na nag alaga sa mga bata ang nanay na naalala ng mga ito. Anung klaseng babae ang ganito na di marunong maawa sa kapwa nya ina na nagsusumamo at humihingi na ng tawad sa anak? Matakot ka po sa Karma!
2:22 mam di ka updated. ako kasi as a mom masyado ko nasaktan sa katigasan ng loob ng mga bata kaya i follow this story. lahat gnawa na nya pero kinordon off sya ni benjie. lahat ng kaibgan nya at kamag anak pinutol ang communication sa mga anak nya even the ninangs na close kay jackie. di rin sya knakausap ng mga bata sa phone at hndi welcome pag pumupnta sya. ang last nga ay nung magdala sya ng dswd at na trauma daw mga bata. nagpadala din sya ng video ni hindi daw pnanood ng mga bata at galit nga kasi pinakita sa media. ayaw daw nila ng thru media kaso ayaw naman nila kausapin nanay nila privately pano naman yun e ang hirap kaya sa damdamin ng ina ang di mo makausap ang anak. only a mom can understand the pain.
I think that's basically what the boys do now...They've already forgiven you long time ago Jackie and they've move-on just like what you did. They've openly accept the fate of that failed marriage. Regretting all those not so good childhood memories, Andre and Kobe already passed that stage and I hope you do too. After all, the two boys is really doing great. Are you not happy? For once Jackie, let it go. Don't push them more..away from you by doing this. It wont help.
My goodness, ito na ba solusyon ni Jackie sa problema ng pamilya nya? ang social media lng ba ang pwede nyang gamitin para mkapag communicate sa anak nya. Nasa US sya, narun din si Kobe. Why not watch his game, leave some lil tokens to remind him of her? Same with Andre. You know Im a mother too but I don't force myself to my son so much because being a teenager they felt embarrassed when parents hover around their activities. May lugar at panahon yan. Kahit uhaw ka sa yakap nila, kumalma ka dahil may panahon talaga na hahanapin ka nila. Pambihira nman Jackie, above yourself, isipin mo naman kahihiyan ng anak mo. Isumpa mo na si Benjie at ang misis nya, pero ang pagiging discreet yun yung gift mo sa dalawang binata mo.
Why is it pag babae ang umalis, the blame is on her. He married someone very young. Does he think na ganon na lang iyon, he will keep the children to himself. I think Benjie siya ang dahilan that there is so much hate with Jackie. They will take side with the father kasi nga na brainwashed na sila. They have to prove their loyalty to him at the expense of the mother. Sana pag nag asawa sila and have their own children ma enlighten sila
even before pa i think may mali na kay benjie. sa mga interviews he would always say na may isip na mga anak nya, hindi na nya kontrolado. geezzz. nasa magulang yan kung pano mag isip ang mga bata, kung pano mo i instill sa kanila ang values. may asawa ka na at may mga anak na din yata..si jackie din namna ganun na. naka move on na kayong lahat. so ano pa kulang? baka ang kulang e psychatrist (spelling? nabobo na tuloy ako hehe) para sayo hehe
Love begets love. If your objective is to win your kids back then you have certainly failed. Matters like these are better discussed privately. Pinapahiya mo ang mga anak mo.
Let us all accept that their relationship didn't work well. Both parties have reasons. My take on this issue is kahit gaano na 'brainwash' si A and K ni Benjie and for sure nagkulang man kahit papaano si Jackie bilang ina. I hope dumating ang time na mas matured sila mag isip ay marealize nila na mas magaan sa loob nila kung respeto at pagkilala ang bibigay nila sa isa't isa. Maikli lang ang buhay, sana maimagine ng mga bata na kung namatay si Jackie, hindi sila maiyak at magsisi sa hirap ng kalooban na pinaramdam nila sa nanay nila. Maging successful man sila sa career ang mga bata, may kulang at kulang pa rin yan sa puso nila.
I believe her and I feel for her. Unfortunately her kids are between youth and adulthood. It will take time for them to really realize things. Putting this story out there may upset them today, but she and they deserve to hear her side- whether they like it or not. Mahabahaba pa to. Glad she has a new family who can love her in return.
When i learned about that moment when he was pushing andrei jackie, of course at that age, he would be afraid of his father's reaction! it was more like a threatening like, try to go to her! But still as a mom, just not to traumatize the children more, jackie said better do it next time. Still protecting the children was in her mind. I can imagine how controlling benjie was, and still is. Tsk tsk Those two kids are just afraid and manipulated by their father and stepmom. I feel for you Jackie, as I am a mother as well. God bless you.
I admire Jackie. Matagal na panahon na nung nakasama nya mga anak niya. And as a mom mahirap malayo sa anak lalo pa malapit ka na pero hindi mo sila mahawakan makausap. I feel bad for her. Jackie, I hope you get what you deserve and I hope you find peace and Happiness.
As for the kids, I may not know your side but if there is still love in your hearts for your mom I do pray for you to give her a chance maybe not now but in time. Para sa peace of mind niyo din yan lalo na pag nagkaroon na kayo ng sarili niyong family in the future.
Maraming nagcocoment na manahimik na lang dapat si Jackie at maghintay pero siguro panahon na rin na alisin nya ang tinik sa dibdib dahil sya ang lumabas na masamang babae.. Sa lahat ng ina,maraming makakarelate kai Jackie. Iba- iba ang ugali ng tao at kung paano makarecover sa stress. Matagal rin syang nagtiis at itinago ang tunay na damdamin dahil LAGING SI BENJIE ang HERO at reposable. Para sa akin pareho silang may kamaliaan at hindi dapat turuan ang mga bata ng hated laban sa ina. Very controlling father ang tingin ko kay Benjie dahil mukhang takot at na brainwashed ang mga bata kaya malayo ang loob na makipag ayo sa nanay.
The thing is Jackie has so much hang ups, I understand there are things that has scarred and hurt her in the past but that's why people have to learn to forgive and move on. Forgive not just who hurt us but also ourselves. Quit playing the blame game at this rate that she is going she is alienating her kids more.
ReplyDeletenanay ka din ba 1:23? kasi sa isang nanay napakasakit at napakahirap na di mo nakakausap ang anak mo, na galit sa yo mga anak mo. mahirap matahimik.gusto mo ipaliwanag ang side mo para mayakap sila ulit. siguro kung knakausap na sya ng mga anak nya matatahimik na ang loob nya. ang mas masakit pa hndi sya tinutulungan ni benjie at ng bagong wife na mareconcile sa mga anak nya. grabe ang mga paninira ng babae kay jackie nabasa ko sa facebook. alam ni jackie na sinisiraan sya kaya napipilitan sya lumaban at magsikap na mag reach out ang mga anak nya. maintndihan man ng mga anak o hndi parang ang hrap naman na di sya mag keep trying.
DeleteLet us not take it from her that she is a mother who is in a very difficult situation. Baka madami din kasi tayong hindi alam, ang mga bata matatalino yan if she was a good mother to them no amount of "brainwash" can take them away from her. Adult na sila ngayon legal age, may sarili ng isip hayaan natin na yung mga bata will come to terms with her when they are ready. And hirap kasi kay Jackie lagi sya yung kawawa, sya yung api at sya yung victim it takes two people to wreck a relationship. She never gave credit nga na lumaking maayos anak nila sa mga nagpalaki. At mas maganda na yung mga ganito hindi sa social media ginagawa, bigyan ng konting respeto si Benjie dahil in the end ama pa rin yan ng anak mo.
DeleteShame a parent and you will shame a child. Just be quiet, just support them and be happy with their success. Go to Kobe's graduation, even if you are not invited, just be there from afar. Go to Andre's shows and events, you don't have to approach them. Once they know that you are making an effort to be there for them without causing any drama then that when they'll know that you really are there for them.
DeleteNaaawa din naman ako kay Jackie kasi she had her children at a very young age. Her children may not understand, pero maraming effects kay Jackie yun. May mga insecurities, or time of depression, etc. I hope someday magdecide sila na kausapin na sya, tutal naman kahit anong gawin nila sa kanya pa rin sila nagmula. Kahit para sa utang na loob nalang. At that age, she could've aborted them if she wanted to pero hindi nya ginawa because a mother loves her children even before they are born. #nanaydinpoako
Deletejackie 4:58, ang dami mong time. pati dito nag-e-essay ka?
DeleteSuper tindi ng self-entitlement ni Jackie sa totoo lang!
DeleteTrue anon 4:58.... you can't feel Jackie's pain if you aren't a mom yourself. I feel her pain... kung pabaya naman siyang ina eh di sana hinayaan at kinalimutan na lang niya ang mga anak niya. But the thing is, she's not like that. She fought hard for her sons (and lost).... sino bang nanay ang gusto na tumanda ang mga anak niya na may galit sa kanya? Sobrang sakit non...
DeleteFeels ang moment ni jackie.. 15 years old diba highschool palang un? Its understandable ung situation nya, she loved this guy kaya okay lang ano mangyari and sa ganyang edad puro takot pa yan. Kung responsible parenthood ang hahanapin nyo sa aged 17, i guess you all should think twice kung 17 kau, ano palang nagagawa nyo? Mas kilala c benjie those times kaya cguro mas panig saknya mga tao. For her 2 children andre and kobe, its not to late to forgive and move on.. Life is too short not to be 100% happy.
DeleteNaawa naman ako kay jackie at naintindhan ko din siya. Mahirap din sa sitwasyon nya. Totoo nga na bata pa sya masyado nung time na nabuntis siya, kaya siguro di siya the best that time. Pero kita naman natin pano siya ngayon eh. Sana bgyan ni andre at kobe ng puwang sa puso nila nanay nila at sana mabasa nila ito once and for all mgkaayos na. Napakasakit ng nangyayari sa kanila.
DeleteKaya maging lesson yan sa mga girls na bata pa Lang puro kaimoralan na ang inaatupag imbes na mag-aral boyfriend ang inaasikaso. Sundin nyo mga nanay nyo kc bihira ang parents lalo na ang nanay na magpapahamak sa mga anak nila.
DeleteTomoh. mataas ang respeto ng mga anak nya sa tatay nila tapos sisiraan nya ng ganyan?? Lalong lalayo ang loob ng mga bata.. Pwede rin naman magpakumbaba at aminin nalang din na pareho lang sila nagkulang. Sige even if naging masamang asawa si benjie siguro naman naging mabuting ama un dahil ganon nalang paninindigan ng mga anak niya sa kanya. Di rin nagiisip yan si jackie. Tsk
DeleteThis isn't about forgiving. She wants a relationship with her sons. The father has
Deleteto bridge the gap. Obviously they are taking the cue from the dad. I'm sure kahit ayaw pag sinabi ng tatay they have to, they will. From the get go,
parang all Bengie does is alienate his ex from
the children. Yong step mom also has a role
na magkaigi yong mag nanay. Life is short. If may shortcomings man si Jackie past na yon. She is reaching out to them now. Give her a chance.
Hay naku, here we go again...
Deletepoor Jackie...
ReplyDeleteKasalanan kasi eto ni lolit solis eh!Tumahimik na si jackie after makapag asawa...di na siya nagpapamedia about sa anak nola ni benjie...kaya lang si lolit nung magguest si andre and kobe tinanong yung dalawa about sa nanay..eh may mga side comments si lolit na di maganda implying masamang ina si jackie...naniniwala ako si andre mama's boy kc nung natanong about dun emotional and teary-eyed siya...sinasalo na lang ni kobe...ayaw ng drama eh....pero dun talaga nagstart ang gulong eto kaya yan nagstart nanamn madepress si jackie about sa mga anak niya...tas siya ung pinapalabas na masama...eh ginawa niya naman lahat...makasama mga anak niya..
DeleteNapakasakit nito sa isang ina. Naiiyak ako s mga posts nya graveh. Hnd k ata kakayanin na d makasama or makita at makausap man lang mga ank k. Ang sakit lalo na sguro malaman m na galit sila sau dahil may pinaniniwalaan silang hnd nmn dapat. Sira head nung tatay at insecure ung step-mom nila.
DeleteThis is sad =( sana maayos na lahat. For Andre and Kobe too.
ReplyDeleteThat's a heartbreaking picture u got there. We don't know what really happened. We can't judge we weren't there. But I think something's wrong with Benjie too, she was 15. What was he thinking? Nevertheless I just wish she would stop posting in social media, it's not helping anything. Move on and keep praying that in God's time, every one's hearts will find forgiveness and be healed. Keep the faith
ReplyDeleteShe has no choice because the 2nd wife keeps on bashing her on fb.
DeleteSwerte pa nga si Benjie at di siya kinasuhan ng nanay ni Jackie. In-love lang talaga si Jackie sa kanya kaya ipinaglaban sya.... pero si Benjie naman, being 25 then and still considered young, hindi rin naalagaan ng tama ang relationship nila
Deletemenor de edad pala sya nang ma-knock out!
DeleteI think it's helping. Kasi that's her only venue to vent out. Dko naman maiintndhan or natin hanggat di natin nabasa sa post nya dba
DeleteCongrats Jackie. Kailan ang kasal?
ReplyDeleteBisaya Queen
pinagsasabi mo dyan
DeleteGiven that all your statements are true and your ex wasn't good at all..Still, these kind of issue must be discussed in private. You can no longer change whatever happened in the past and you cannot blame your ex all your life, if you really want to win back your children then try the best way - do not talk about the past, speak to their father, ask forgiveness if you have to and forgive him as well, then next is children, they might refuse you hundred times but you can always try a thousand times, nobody can stop a loving mother. The process may not be easy but I think this is the most effective way.
ReplyDeletewinner mommy!
Deleteayaw nga siya kausapin diba?! alma concepcion lang ang peg.
DeleteAyaw nga sya kausapin. I think ginagawa nya to para mag give in sa public clamor yung anak nya na kausapin sya. Atleast siguro para sa kanya that would be a good start.
DeleteDo you think she can manage all these along with having a child who battles cancer?
DeleteBut she can manage to post these things on social media while having a child battling cancer?
DeleteClose lahat ng way para maconvey nya message nya sa mga ank nya at ang socia media lang po ang bukas. Kya hnd m din sya masisisi kung naresort na sya sa last option nya. Kahit ako ggwin k un.
Deletebata talaga siyang nag asawa...kahit siya p ang may kasalanan...yung lang hira niya s pagbubuntis at panganganak at age that...dapat magpasalamat ang mga anak niya at si benjie..napakahirap manganak..totoo ang sabi nasa hukay ang isa mong paa..
ReplyDeleteI always read this type of excuse for bad behavior, in this case bad parenting, na kesyo "bata a siya nagasawa..." It is as if being bata will always be a cause for insufficiency. May mga kilala din akong bata na naging magandang magulang at ehemplo sa mga anak, kahit na naghihirap ang buhay. So please, stop making this as an excuse.
Deletethe thing is mas mahrap sa isang 15 yr old ang mag asawa kesa
Deletesa matured na.
2:03 Lahat ng kilala mong batang nabuntis at nanganak naging magandang ehemplo? I don't believe you. FYI, sa mga unplanned and early pregnancies, maraming psychological effects on both mom and dad. Since si Benjie ay matanda na nun, si Jackie ang naka experience nun. May mga insecurities na yung mga ka age nya maganda na career, nasa school, looking forward sa magandang future, samantalang sya nagpapadede ng bata. Let us understand her. Alam ko mahal nya mga anak nya, pero tao lang din ang mga nanay, nagkakamali din.
DeleteBakit ba gusto nya ipamukha lahat ng ginawa nya sa anak nya?
DeleteKaya nga ang mga babae ingatan nyo puri nyo at hintayin nyo na dumating ang TAMANG lalake at TAMANG panahon na pwede na kayo lumagay sa maayos at wag makipag-pre-marital sex at wag sumuway sa parents nyo!
DeleteThe truth is, people are different. There are those 14 yr old girls who tackle the responsibilities of motherhood well, while there are those who struggle. It also depends upon the support system of the "mother child". Who are we to judge her? Both had their contribution why their marriage failed. Both should own up to their mistakes, forgive themselves and forgive each other for the sake of their children. Let go of the past and enjoy what the present moment has to offer. Benjie should take the lead and show his children that he is a good father. A good father does not deprive his children their rights to share some moments with their mother. He was given full custody but Jackie was given visitation rights by the court. Benjie obviously did some parenting mistakes which lead the children to hate their mother.
Delete3:57 true. Meron din iba na nasa tamang edad na nagka anak pero irresponsible pa rin
DeleteTama! Ung pinsan k ganyn din. Mas malala p nga un kasi dedma sa ank. Pero dun sa second child kung saan mas mature na sya aba iba. Talgang buhos ang atensyon at pagmamahal sa pangalawa.
DeleteBenjie should be charged for statutory rape. Jackie was only 15, what do you expect from a child? Ginawa syang child bride!
ReplyDeleteWow, what big claims you have dear. 15 years old is not a child, still not of legal age by standards but nowhere near being a child. Also, I don't seem to see how she was forced in any way? Please enlighten us further.
Deletehi lyxen! ikaw yan ano? mam
Deleteang 15 po ay wla
pang sapat na maturity kaya bale forced sya ng matandang benjie. masaya ba ang buhay misis mo mam kasi parang galit ka sa mundo. nabasa ko post mo abt jackie's being a mother so bitter po e anung problema mam?
3:55 the way you think reflects your life. It must be SO BAD.
Delete3:55 READ about statutory rape so you would understand.
DeleteIn the states, nasa kulungan na benjie.
Delete3:55 hindi mo kailangan maging expert sa law to know na forced or hindi, statutory rape ang ginawa ni benjie. Isip isip din minsan.
DeleteYou are right. 15 yrs old is below 18 and considered a minor. Not a child, but legally a minor. Swerte niya at di sya kinasuhan ng statutory rape!
Delete3:55 alam mo ba yung statutory rape? Kahit pumayag yung bata considered pa rin yun na rape kasi di pa siya mature enough para magdecide.
DeleteSi lyxen ay insecure na froglet at hnd masaya kasi forever nya makikita si jackie sa mukha ng dalwa. Ang layo kaya looks ng anak ni benjie saknya kumpara kina kobe n andre. Kasing lauo nang looks ni jackie at lyxen. Haha. Kung hnd ka bitter teh ikaw pa mismo gagawa ng way para ung mga bata mapalapit s knilang ina. Tulad nalang ni aiko melendes, jennilyn mercado, sharon cuneta and other showbiz personalities na sila pa gumagaw ang way para magkalapit ang mag ama nila.
DeleteAnti-You 3:55 according to the law a person below the age of 18 is considred a child. And it's considered statutory rape if an adult engages in sex with such a person (below 18).
Delete#THANKS? I & A are too very far away from each other in the qwerty keyboard. But anyway..sad sad sad...
ReplyDeleteLaki ng problema mo te. Yan talaga napansin mo?
DeleteSHUT UP KA NA TEH!!! YOUR KIDS WILL BE MORE UPSET. STOP STIRRING ISSUE FROM THE PAST.. MOVE ON NA ANG PEG...
ReplyDeletePinaglalaban nyang makita ulit yung mga anak nya na obviously nabrainwash ni Benjie at nung madrasta! You can't just tell her to shut up! Btw, you're using the word "peg" in the wrong context. Jologs!
DeleteSHUT UP YOURSELF!ikaw kaya ang nasa lugar nya ha?!na tingin ng iba si kalbo ang underdog at sya masamang ina.at the age of 15-17 ganyan na buhay nya.sana man lang matauhan ung 2 anak nya at kausapin sya.
DeleteTulog na Lyxen...
DeleteKung mabuting tao si benjie..dapat di nya sinigawan ang nanay sa mga anak,.
DeleteJust like Sharon did to KC. Good job as a mother.
nag aaway ba kayo? 2:16 and 3:33.. ipagdasal nalang natin sila, para sa mga anak nila... mga puso nyo!!
DeleteShe has to understand that her kids grew up with their father, and any they will always their father's side. She is going about it the wrong way. If I were her, I will stop going to the media and social network, talk to Benjie and his wife, and solve this discreetly. Stop making thing public.
DeleteTama naman talaga na manahimik na si Jackie. Hindi porket ayaw ng anak sa nanay, na brainwash na! I should know. Same lang kame ng karanasan ng mga anak nya. I didnt like my father pero ang mommy ko pilit ako pinapakilala sa kanya. Tapos nagagalit daddy ko dahil na brainwash na daw ako. Malalaki na ang anak mo Jackie. They will acknowledge you as a mother, in time. Panget din na siraan mo ang tatay nila. Mas lalo kang kamumuhian ng mga anak mo.
DeleteTeh bakit naman shut up- kung ikaw ang may anak - iniwan mo asawa mo pero mahal mo anak mo tapos ayaw ka na kilalanin ng mga bata super sakit dba kaya humihingi ka ng tawad at gusto mo sila makasama pero sa halip na tulungan ka e sinisiraan ka pa ng madrasta mananahimik ka na lang ba
DeleteBenjie is a child predator. He took advantage and manipulated jackie. We should cut jackie some slack. Totoo naman ang sinabi niya na everybody thinks benjie is the good guy and she's the horrible parent. So let her tell her story, she's been through a lot and if sharing these things will help her then who are we to judge. Minsan magiisip muna bago mang bash...
ReplyDeleteCorrect ka talaga 2:18. It must've been soooo hard for jackie. God bless their hearts sana mgkaron na ng peace.
DeleteHirap din naman ng pinagdaanan niya. She had 2 kids during her teens, and whatever else might have gone wrong in their relationship mas dehado pa din siya kasi siya na yung menor de edad siya pa yung walang kasama.
ReplyDeleteI hope she finally fixes things with her two grown sons. I just think the two boys are uncomfortable that all these matters are being aired so publicly.
Aside from that. Her mom wasn't by her side so she was depending solely on Benjie who failed to take care of her.... imagine the hormonal changes of a teenager who became preggy twice?! Can u just imagine the natal depression she went through?
DeleteJackie made mistakes.. Benjie surely did some of his own.. It has been a while.. Forgive and forget is easier than done.. But what can we do? Hate her for what happened forever.. Boys, she is your mom.. Forgive her, if you dont want her in your life, just acknowledge her being your mom.. Let go and just love and repect.. And things will be better, im sure..
ReplyDeleteAgree!
Deletebest comment
DeleteKung wala c jackie wala din nman kaung dalawa K &A dto s mundo!
Deletesad to know.... but i hope mapatawad na nla ang isat isa..
ReplyDeleteMost decent comment on this issue. Simple and no judgement. Iba dyan parang ang daming negative na take.
DeleteHaaay, im also a mother. but does she think maayos ang lahat sa ginagawa nya ngayon? Her 2 older boys are doing ok now and they seem happy. She should just focus on her new family.
ReplyDeleteEasy for you to say. Mga anak nya yung nilayo sakanya. Hindi porke may bago syang pamilya, ok na lang na di nya makita si A and K. Anong klaseng mentalidad yan?
DeleteWow, 2:32 you are a mother and are you saying kung linayo ngganyanmga anak mo sa yo makakalet go ka lang ng ganyan ganyan and focus on another family?
DeleteOf course I will never let go of my children, i will love them with all my heart. Pero hindi na ako gagawa pa ng ikahihiya nanaman ako ng mga anak ko. Palagay mo Jackie
Deleteano mafefeel ni A & K pag nabasa or makarating sa kanila yang post mo? Will they love you.or hate you more? Think.about it.
@2:32 PM so best mother awardee ka na nyan, congrats!
DeleteSana dmo nalng sinabi na nanay k. Tapos ganyn ka mag-isip ang masasabi k lng anong klaseng ina ka. Haha! I pity ur kids for having a mom like u. Ewww! And fyi seems happy is different from happy. I know coz i've been there. Kelangan m ipakita sa mundo na ok ka kahit ang totoo hnd ka ok. Dahil iba talaga pag pinalaki kang may hatred sa puso m. Karga m un gang paglaki. Mahirap mag move on dahil dun sa lecheng extra baggage na un.
DeleteAnon2:32... nka drugs kb? Anung klaseng ina ka!?! kalimutan nlng ang anak porket my ibang family n? hndi kailanman mkakalimutan ng ina ang kanyang anak!
DeleteShe forgot to mention how she was too much of a party girl back then. And minaltrato siya wala pa si Kobe. Tapos galit siya when they came back with a fever tapos walang nag-alaga. Then she "accidentally" got pregnant with Kobe. Ano yun napaupo lang siya kay Benjie? If you're going to tell a story, ikuwento yung buo... Not just the part na ikaw lang ang kawawa at bida. Yung mga anak mo ang kawawa sa pinaggagagawa mo. Hopefully they won't succumb to this kind of social media shaming. Isipin mo nalang how this will affect your kids. You'd think your kids will welcome you back with open arms after this? Particularly Kobe whom you've inadvertently referred to as an accident?
ReplyDeleteAccidentaly meaning it wasn't planned, ton**! Kung magsalita ka naman na napaka guilty ni Jackie akala mo may alam ka. Andun ka? Kung ibabalik mo yung tanong sakin, kayang kaya kita sagutin!
Deletetulog na jackie. kung ano man ang kasalanan ni benjie sa yo, it was not reason enough to subject your kids to the abuse that you youself did to them. why don't you just come clean and tell us what happened in boracay?
Deleteandun sya si madrasta yan ganyan na ganyan sya magsalita abt jackie
DeleteHer story is biased of course. She has to look like the victim. Eh, siya nga ang naghabol kay Benjie dati. "Party girl" ba kamo? At 15, ang lifestyle niya parang 30 years old na. Hindi yan innocenteng 15 y/o. Siya pa kamo ang feelingera dahil naka bingwit ng sikat na basketball player. Kung magpamukang kawawa naman ngayon, OA. Alam mo Jackie, maraming nakakakilala sa calibre mo noon AT ngayon, so kung magkukwento ka rin lang, ikuwento mo LAHAT di yung puro half-truths and lies lang. Hindi ako kamag-anak niBenjie o ni Lyxen, pero isa ako sa mga maraming tao na nakaka-alam ng kuwento ninyo, nakakakita sa iyo sa mga pag-asta mo nung mga panahon na kayo pa ni Benjie. Nasa mga anak mo na kung gusto ka nila kausapin di mo mapilit yon. Wala kang pakialam kung sinong masaktan kahit mga anak mo kasi may bago kang magiging anak na lalaki. Nagmamalaki ka nanaman, hiding in the guise of concerned mother kuno. Bigyan mo ng katahimikan sina Andre at Kobe hindi yung puro pagiisip sa sarili ang ginagawa mo.
DeleteI agree with you 2:33 PM. Jackie acts as if she didn't do anything wrong. I think it's easy to say na Benjie should allow her to talk to the children. But the point is ayaw nila. You can say that Benjie brainwashed them. Sure ba tayo dito? Hindi kaya dahil partly may kasalanan din sya due to her partying days and neglecting her children? It's easy to say na patawarin sya, but in reality, it's not. So yung mga kuda nang kuda dyan na sinasabi na patawarin sya, I think kailangan nyo din isipin kung kayo ang nasa lugar ng mga anak, anong mararamdam nyo? Think it both sides, wag puro yung nababasa sa social media.
DeleteKeep a journal/diary. Therapeutic kamo. Dun ka magsulat at ilabas ang lahat. Dont do it online. Private matters.
ReplyDeleteso you read it? private matters? to the end? talk about hypocrisy
DeleteI'm sorry but she's just asking for sympathy by using social media to "share" her side of the story. There are things that needs to stay private and this is one of them. Instead of exerting your energy getting sympathy likes, how about reach out to your kids the humane way? It's easy to post pictures and write words, but acting upon it behind cameras beats 1k likes. The real question is, are you really doing something about your relationship with your kids? Or are you just posting on your instagram because it's convenient?
ReplyDeleteCorrect lahat ng sinabi mo teh
DeleteAgree!
DeleteHUH??? I'm sorry, Jackie has to answer and take to account of her third child (after andre n kobe) who happened to be NOT of Benjie's (during their marriage) which was the reason why the separation and annulment, Benjie is a good father and provider. Benjie is a working professional (basketball, actor, and hosting) but where was Jackie? she abandoned her two sons at home, and she went out party, party party....pls pls pls, dont change the REAL timeline, the REAL Story, jackie is loosing her mind, is using the boys, is using the publicity....People in the TV and Basketball Industries the REAL score!
ReplyDeleteBut shouldn't Benjie Paras also be accountable for impregnating a minor several times? (4 including the miscarriages).
DeleteWhen Jackie was pregnant with Jared, wala na sila ni Benjie. Wag ka magmarunong. Naghiwalay sila dahil sa asawa ngayon ni Benjie na dating tutor nila Andre at Kobe.
DeleteAre we supposed to assume that it was only Benjie who wanted to consummate their love? What's his crime? That Jackie was 15 yrs old when this happened? Please. I'm pretty sure you've seen worse.
DeleteAnonymousFebruary 23, 2015 at 3:01 PM - accountable for what? pinakasalan naman niya si forster. nagsama sila ng matagal. so dahlil lang sa minor siya, accountable na agad? therefore, moot and academic na iyan!
Deletealam na! ikaw na ikaw to lyxen! depensa pa more!
DeleteAy nako Panay nga nuod nya ng basketball dati
DeleteYes, i remember clearly siya ang humahabol kay Benjie coz during that time Benjie is super sikat na PBA player, db nagkaroon pa nga sila ng movie nuon kasama sila Patrimonio at iba pang PBA players na sikat while si Jackie naman kasama sila Joan Quintas ba yun. Yung group nila mga bago pero malalaki/matataas na babae kaya nga sila yung mga naging love interest dun sa movie. Recall ko lang.
DeleteFyi si benjie may love child din.
DeleteHormonal ang teenagers and idealistic about love. As the adult in their relationship, Benjie should have not married her and impregnated her until he was sure she was mature enough. I really have low opinions of men who impregnate minors. Ever heard of post partum depression? Some women get severely depressed after giving borth, kelangan ng love and support from her hubby to get thru it.
DeleteAnti-You, I hope you won't have 15yo kid who sleeps with an older man.
DeleteAno na naman ba ang bagong issue sa kanila ni benjie at nag throw back si jackie? Kasi sa ginagawa ni jackie ang direct na naapektuhan ay ang mga anak niya. Kung regrets man na matatawag ang mga post niya, it's way too late na, at nangyari na, nasa 20s na ang mga anak niya, MOVE ON na.
ReplyDeleteBakit di na lang sa mga anak niya siya mag effort, mag post siya ng something na makakapagpalambot ng puso ng mga kids niya, Mas lalo kasing siya masasaktan, ma-i-stress, di makaka move on.
I think she is trying to air her side sa social media hoping her kids will read it since they don't even want to talk to her in real life. This is her way of reaching out hoping that kobe or andre's friends might read it and baka lang one of these friends would talk some sense to the boys.
DeleteHayyys ayan kana naman Jackie, you are pushing your kids away from you.
ReplyDeleteBakit kay benjie binigay ang custody ng bata? Opinion ko lang ha, sa pag popost mo, lalo mo lang nilalayo mga anak mo sau. lalo lang sila magagalit sayo. dka mag reflect bka may nagawa kang nasaksihan ng anak mo kya ganon na lang galit nila sau?
ReplyDeleteIt was supposed to be a joint custody but Benjie didn't allow the kids to see Jackie. There was even a time when Jackie brought her lawyer with her to pick up her kids from Benjie's house but Benjie forced them to leave and didn't allow them to take the kids even though it was instructed by the court!
DeleteIf this is true with the lawyer and such how stupid the lawyer na hindi ipursue ang rights ni jackie this is so stupid with court permission na tapos d pa din nakita? Ano un joke lang batas?
DeleteIt was posted I think here on FP that Jackie and her lawyer were allowed to talk to Kobe but Kobe started crying because Jackie told him that they were taking him away to live with her and the boy wouldn't stop crying so Jackie and her lawyer were booted out of the house.
DeleteTotoo din kaya na nag-demand si Jackie forster ng malaking halaga ($65,000 not sure though) nung naghiwalay sila ni Benjie Paras?
ReplyDeleteAnd if she did? She was his wife and the mother of 2 kids. That's not a huge amount for what he was earning.
Delete$65,000 US DOLLARS is huge. Considering sa Pilipinas nagtatrabaho si Benjie.
DeleteSana nga totoo na nag.demand sya ng $65,000, kasi kulang pa rin yan!
DeleteNot even a million dollars would make me leave my kids. If it's true she took money, shame on her.
DeleteHay... another drama queen. Ngawa pa more. Sana tumahimik na lang si Jackie... She wants to be the underdog. Di nya naisip na mas nakakahiya para sa mga anak nya yung ginagawa nya. Paano pa sya lalo mapapalapit sa kalooban ng mga bata if she keeps doing this? If she finds what she's doing therapeutic, then she should keep a journal instead of BRAODCASTING IN PUBLIC! Ang dami pa rin nya hangups until now. Forgive & forget, this will help you move forward, especially with baby #4 coming. Sabi mo masaya ka na sa buhay mo ngayon, so bakit kailangan pa hukayin ang nakaraan na dapat binaon mo na?
ReplyDeleteWell said anon 3:13pm. Ay naku Jackie kung gusto mong mapatawad ka ng mga anak mo ibahin mo ang strategy mo sa ginagawa mong yan lalong lumalayo ang loob ng mga bata.
DeleteGood job Jackie! You just made your 2 boys hate you more!!
ReplyDeletesa totoo lang di na ko naapektuhan o naaawa kapag ang mga babae ay maagang nakapag-asawa. unang una sa gaya kong babae may choice naman tayo kung sino ang papatulan natin sa isang relasyon. hindi naman siya nirape di ba? ginusto nya yun. hindi na dapat ikinakatwiran na bata pa sya noon. ang pinakaimportante na dapat ginawa nya ay dapat nipriority nya ang mga anak nya. dahil ang mga bata matatalino yan. magaling makaramdam yan kapag may problema sa bahay, tingin m ba magagalit ang mga bata sa ina nila kung hindi nila alam ang dahilan. hindi na nadadaan sa brainwash ang mga bata ngayon.at kung mahal niya ang mga anak nya dapat kahit paano kumuha sya ng visiting rights. wala lang talaga sya ginawa o kaya kinulang sa gawa. kung maghihimutok lang sya dahil sa mga nagyari noon at wala syang gagawin para mapalapit sa anak ngayon. e ano ang pinaglalaban nya sa social media? attention? napakaraming paraan. walang pagkakaiba ang pagpopost nya ng ganyan sa social media sa mga pamilya na sakit ng ulo sa barangay dahil sa awayang pampamilya na dapat sa loob lang ng bahay e natsisismis pa sa kapitbahay dahil ang iingay dinig ng buong barangy.
ReplyDeleteyan din ang nkakapagtaka? that time why ddnt she go to court? fight for her children kahit wala xa work, andaming orgs n mlalapitan knowing she is a celebrity. nkikita ko pa nga xa s tv before nanonod ng games dun s jowa nyang bball player din.
DeleteMy husband is also manipulative and abusive. Unfortunately may tao talagang ganyan. Even the marriage counselor napaikot ng husband ko. Kaya I pity Jackie. Only a mother can stoop that low just for the sake of her kids. It's a desperate cry for help.
DeleteMinors can't consent, she was 15 while Benjie was 25. That is technically rape.
Deleteand yung mother nya, iniwan sya dahil against sa relationship nya with Benjie. Diba dapat mas lalo mo nga gwa-gwardiyahan yung anak mo.
Deletebasahin ulet kung wala talaga sya ginawa.
DeleteI believe in Jackie.....her children Andre and Kobe should hear her and should accept her as their mom and love her too!
ReplyDeleteit's hard to accept her when she posts things like this in social media.
DeleteTrue anon 4:50. She only push her children more away from her.
DeleteYa she should stop broadcasting to the public. How about doing some real action about it? It's easy to say thing on social media.
DeleteEh Hindi na nga kc sya pinapansin! She is Doing everything to make her sons understand what she went through. Matigas ang mga boys, grabe...ang galing ni Benjie magpalaki ng bata..tinuruan maging disrespectful ang mga anakis.
DeleteIn a processf healing you have to narrate what had made you hurt. Accounting the past is painful but it will help you grow emotionally, it strengthen your passion of loving and accepting things as they are. So let her do what make her able to release the pain and realize the thigs she needs to do and not to do. Walang masama kung ibahagi man niya ang nararamdaman niya kung makakatulong sa pagkatao niya. We have our own manefestatiins or process of healing. let me remind you that she is in a relationship now that is making her happy and complete.
ReplyDeleteAgree. Most sensible comment award goes to Imee joy!
DeleteIn a processf healing you have to narrate what had made you hurt. Accounting the past is painful but it will help you grow emotionally, it strengthen your passion of loving and accepting things as they are. So let her do what make her able to release the pain and realize the thigs she needs to do and not to do. Walang masama kung ibahagi man niya ang nararamdaman niya kung makakatulong sa pagkatao niya. We have our own manefestatiins or process of healing. let me remind you that she is in a relationship now that is making her happy and complete.
ReplyDeleteAt whose expense? At kelangan talaga sa social media? Wala siya friends na masabihan? Or journal na masulatan? Sa ginagawa niya, I wouldn't be surprised kung lalong lalayo ang loob ng dalawang anak niya sa kanya.
DeleteSo getting "LIKES" on instagram is her way of healing???? Wow!
DeleteTotally agree with you 5:22. Such a selfish woman!
DeleteI totally agree with this! The last 2 replies talk as if they are not guilty of it. Have you not posted anything on your fb account when you're mad just to release the stress or sabihen na naten to gain attention? Think before you speak. :) This is her way of releasing whatever she has inside so let us not judge her. There will always be 3 sides of a story and they both know what is the truth. I think Jackie in here is not asking for any support or financial matters. She is just trying to give her side of the story kasi mahirap yun na hindi nya makausap anak nya. Walang nanay ang ndi magmamalasakit sa anak kahit gaano pa ito kasama. Well, that I learned in my years of existence.
DeleteBasa basa sabi niya may mga friends and loved ones siya na nasasabihan nya which kept her sane. I guess she wants to find a way to reach her boys kasi they won't give her the time of day. I used to hate my Mom but my gay cousin who knows her side of the story talked to me and said "bali baligtarin mo man mundo nanay mo pa rin iyan, cnt you forgive her? Who know how long she has left to live in this world? My biggest regret is i hated my mom for cheating on u dad but when she died of a heart attack i felt awful. She left this world thinking that i hate her and now i cnt change that, she's gone." After that i talked to my Mom and we've been ok since then.
DeleteI think she's just desperate to see her children. Ang hirap talaga kapag silence ang kalaban, na kahit anong gawin, hindi ka pinapansin. Mas mabuti pa kung pagsalitaan sya ng masama, siguro titigil sya, kasi ayan na, may sagot na eh. Pero yang ganyang deadma, nakakaloka talaga 'yan. Nakakainis din ang mga lalakeng ganyan, hindi na naawa sa babae. Ang tigas naman ng puso ng mga anak niya. Naaawa ako sa kanya, sa totoo lang. Sana kalimutan na nya ang mga anak nya, I think it's so obvious that they don't care for her.
ReplyDeleteShe's been told before to give them space. She wouldn't listen.
DeleteNaglalabas lang naman sya ng hinaing nya sa Instagram account nya, which, account naman nya 'yon so she can do anything with it. She's not asking for anything naman from her boys dyan sa post 'di ba? She's just whining...
DeleteOnly a mother knows this kind of pain. Its not easy to let go of children that you love.
Deletegrabe tagal na kaya.. ilang taon pa ba yang Space na yan. Sana one day mabuksan puso ng mga anak nya.
DeleteNaniniwala ako kay Jackie.
ReplyDeleteMe, too.
DeleteAko din. -chin
DeleteMe too. Given the boy's youth back then, hindi sila magtatanim ng galit sa nanay nila if Benjie didn't fuel the fire, so to speak. Maaaring mali ang paraan ni Jackie, using social media to reach out, and perhaps she indeed was in the wrong kaya nagkaganoon ng ang relationship nila as a family, but the anger of the two boys can only come from Benjie, who should have known better, being the supposedly more matured one.
DeleteSame here.
Deleteshe's desperate na to see and win his children. Hindi naman si benjie ang may ayaw makita siya ng mga anak niya kundi mga anak niya mismo. kahit naman ako makita ko nakipaglove making ang nanay ko sa iba di ko din matatanggap
ReplyDeleteJackie's parents acted like they did not care. They should have taken her away from Benjie, these all would not have happened. They have the right to do so because she was a minor. How did they get married? I wonder. 15 is not allowed to marry. 18 can marry but with parental consent. above 21 can marry with or without parental consent.
ReplyDeleteBenjie was a jerk for taking advantage of a minor. And he is continuing his being a jerk by not helping.his kids reconcile with their mother.
ReplyDeletegrabe naman tong mga anak nito, walang respeto! pero dapat si benjie at ang asawa nya ng mag exert ng effort na tanggapin na ng mga bata ang ina nila! sabagay may karma din sila!
ReplyDeleteang sad :(
ReplyDeleteIm sorry but, why shiuld we believe in you? Why did you leave your children to benjie in the first place. Im pretty sure it is not because of insufficient fund or you just cant. Im also a mother and i know that i'll die a million times not being with my children.
ReplyDeleteto the children (Kobe and Andre), for all those misunderstandings with your mom, please find to forgive her and love her more. She had you at a very young age
ReplyDeleteShe is in depression mode. Medical & spiritual counselling is what she needs. Social Media will make it worst. it will cause more division. She must learn to forget the past and et the time pass for healing. She will never ever can move on if she continuously digging her bad experience. Just stay focus on the good side of her life.
ReplyDeletePsalm 40:5, 12. Neither calamities nor personal shortcomings, no matter how many, will overwhelm us if we do not lose sight of the fact that our blessings ‘are more numerous than we can recount.
Sometimes, we are suffering trials or are plagued by a bad conscience
ReplyDeleteIf she is trying to patch up things with her children then it seems like she's doing it the wrong way. In this day and age and with the ages of her sons at present, it is hard to believe that she can't find a way to contact them more privately and explain amongst themselves. Malalaki na ang mga anak nya na may sariling buhay na at hindi na nakatali sa ama. I believe both she and benjie went through tough times but better catch up on being an adult now.
ReplyDeleteI believe her
ReplyDeleteok we get it. you miss your kids. you feel that the dad and the step mom brainwashed them. that you were maltreated. but please, if you want to reach out to your kids, seriously, this is not the way. you are alienating them more. they are now adults, reach out to them privately. if you are truly a caring mom, to them, you shouldnt be doing this in this manner. pinapahiya mo lang sila lalo. and please, wag mo naman i blame sa dati mong asawa lahat. you had your share of lapses. grow up. admit them as well. wag yung parang ikaw pa ang malinis. may ginawa ka ding mali. own up and show maturity. and maybe your kids will nitice this and maybe they can reach out to you as well.
ReplyDeleteSomehow, there might be some truth to this especially yun part na hindi priority si jackie. Napanood ko si benjie sa tunay na buhay at yung basketball ang ikinabuhay nya talaga so yun ang binigyan ng importansya.
ReplyDeleteI hope you'll soon find peace. God bless you and your children.
ReplyDeleteIt's her right to air her side of the story in whatever way she likes. We shouldn't judge her.
ReplyDeleteteh.. may mga laundrymat jan sa tabi tabi... try mo rin.
ReplyDelete"I was finally allowed to enter your temporary home" - bakit sabi mo sa interview mo kay Abunda never kang pinapasok sa bahay nila? Ano ba talaga, teh? Nahahalata ang inconsistencies sa mga kwento mo. Sunog! Your pants are on fire!!!
ReplyDeleteOo nga 'no.....sinabi niya kay abunda na never siyang pinatuloy sa bahay, ang gulo ni ateng.
DeleteNo matter how bad of a person you are, no one has the right to deny you your parental rights especially if you are trying your best to be with them or be present in their lives.
ReplyDeleteI guess this country has grown mature in some ways but has remained narrow minded in others that are far more significant.
Benjie should put some sense into these kids' minds if it is true that the decision was theirs. If it were him feeding hate and resentment all along, isn't it time to stop? As for Jackie, don't ever stop reaching out to them.
Why whos denying her of her rights to be a parent? Her own kids dislike her doesnt want to be with her and its for a reason. Love is not something you force on someone, if this is her way to get her sons love back its a fail. you get what you give... If you really kind and respectful you will soon get what you hope for not by bringing your bitter past back just to prove you are better than Benjie.
Deleteshe was 15 then, which she insisted more than 3 times? how old she is now? and still immature in handling her situation with Benji and his children. I dont think blaming Benji is going to solve ur problem. the children must have gone through a lot of bad experiences with u as well kaya ganun sila kagalit sayo, and brainwashing is not enough to make them hate u that much. I think ung mga bata mismo had firsthand bad experiences but they respect u enough they choose to be silent about it. imagine kng ang mga anak mo at so Benji any magkukwento ng mga pagkukulang mo.
ReplyDeleteI think it's okay to emphasize na 15 siya kasi talaga naman young siya and at that age people are usually too naive and immature. Inamin din naman niya na may pagkakamali siya and may reason kung bakit hinawa niya yun. Brainwashing kids is really easy especially if they are young, you can brainwash kids to hate someone.
DeleteI hate to drag other people in this issue but look at sharon and kc, kc hated gabby for a while when her dad left. Pero sharon didnt let kc continue to hate him kaya nag effort siya na hindi lumaki si kc na may galit sa ama. Mahirap ang ginawa ni sharon pero it can be done namn.
kung mahal talaga ni jackie anak niya tigilan na niya pagpopost ng ganito, binata na kasi sila syempre mapapahiya ang mga yan lalo lang sila mawawalan ng gana kausapin siya. hintayin nalang niya dumating yung time na magkusa yung dalawa. kasi naman kung ginawa tlga sa kanya yan ni benjie hindi ba dapat una nya inisip anak niya at mghanap ng work hindi yung ngrebelde siya at kung anu anu kalokohan ginawa niya. lahat sila may mali at pagkukulang pero at the end of the day si andre at kobe padin ang pinaka kawawa sa kanila. kesa magpost siya bat hindi na lang siya gumawa ng letter i address niya sa viva o makiusap sa kaibigan niya na pakibigay kung duda siya kay benjie or gumawa siya ng way para makuha email ng dalawa. kung gusto marami paraan kung ayaw madami dahilan. hindi kasi masosolusyunan ang mali ng isa pang pagkakamali.
ReplyDeletetry mong maging ina..baka sakaling maka relate ka :)
DeleteMaganda kase si Jackie and mukhang kikay kaya people perceive her differently. She has a party girl image. Eh si benjie, athlete, komedyante kaya nasa kana sympathy ng tao. kung bags, hindi madaling maniwala ang public if party girl ang ni-rape. I believe Jackie! regardless of what she did, she deserves to spend time with her kids. And I think, Jackie is taking it to social media so it can reach her kids. Paulit-ulit na si Jackie, lets give her credit .. pinaglalaban na nya mga anak nya ngayon. I hope she gets it.
ReplyDeleteSo Jackie is kinda saying, all those years, walang nagawang mabuti si Benjie sa kanya? At all? Puro pagkakamali ni Benjie ang naalala nya?? Sya lang ang bukod-tanging nag-aruga sa mga anak nya? Absentee father ba si Benjie kay A&K?
ReplyDeleteBtw, sino kaya kumukuha ng photos nya with Andre and Kobe? Baka si Benjie din.
Hay naku Jackie.. pinapahiya mo mga anak mo with these posts..
ReplyDeletepoor jackie,sana maging ok na sila ng mga anak nya
ReplyDeleteAng may Kasalanan dyan c jackie at yung nanay nya. She was only 15 years old and dating a man a decade plus her senior and yet her mother did nothing and left her alone in the care of a predator? She should have fight for her child and made sure she was safe from that pedophile. Sa kaso nman ni jackie, she should have listened to her mother instead of going against her will. D b natira sa US cla so dapat alam nila na bawal magkaron ng relasyon ang minor sa adult. Tapos ang mali pa k jackie she left the kids in the care of her ex husband. Ang nanay never would leave her kids no matter what. On the other hand, Jackie should look at it as blessing in disguise. Her kids though they seem like they hate her, atleast they grew up quite well and one of her sons has a future in the US. There's not much that she can do at this point but to just look at the brighter side of things. If it's God's will, it will happen.
ReplyDeleteshe may have been young, a party girl, immature or whatever but became a Mother when she was supposed to be all of those. and until now, she never gets tired of reaching out to her sons, kahit pa sabihin na nakakasawa na ginagawa nya...a mother never gets tired, never gives up on her son. and i can see that's what she is. i hope her sons will find it in their hearts to forgive her and accept her coz no matter what, they are still her mother.
ReplyDeleteKung gusto mo Ng forgiveness, dapat ikaw mauna humingi ng tawad at magpakumbaba. Sa mga posts mo, ikaw ang inapi, ikaw ang biktima. Ang biktima dito Yung mga anak mo. Humingi ka ng tawad Kay benji at ayusin nyo Yung problema nyo. Tutal pareho Na kayo nasa edad. Kay benji walang mawawala kundi ka lalapit, so ikaw ang talo. There are many ways to skin the cat, but I doubt that your way is gonna work.
ReplyDeleteIf the parents had a falling out I don't think it's right to feed the minds of the kids to hate their Mom. I don't know the whole story pero I wonder why the 2 boys grew up despising their Mom. Looking at theentire picture, kung may nagawa mang mali si Jacki I bet may mali din sa part ni Benjie.
ReplyDeleteThe 2 boys are grown ups already. I hope in time magkaron nga sila ng enlightenment to filter things. They grew up hearing their dad's side of the story. I hope they give their mom a chance too. I also hope na everytime they look at themselves in the mirror nakikita sana nila ang mom nila.
ReplyDeleteOh Jackie, please stop it!!! Publicizing it will never help! Your children do not and will not appeciate this. Do it privately - mahabang panahon at super malaking effort ang kakailanganin but you will get there eventually. Public pronouncements will only embarrass them and make them question your motives. Stop it!!!
ReplyDeletetaken for granted that jackie is telling the truth, pero kelangan ba sa ganitong paraan nya ilabas ang nararamdaman nya?does she even think what will her sons feel if they learn about this posts? matutuwa ba sila? if she wants sympathy from others, will she gain the same sympathy from her children? i dont think so. her sons are in their teenage years, peer pressures and all. d kaya lalo lang syang ikahiya ng mga anak nya? think wisely jackie! think! use your head. not everything is solved using your emotions.
ReplyDeleteSumosobra na tong babaeng to. Mahal daw ang mga anak pero di niya magawang bigyan ng kahihiyan. Drama ng buhay ninyo ito wag na is ako ang publiko. Ikaw rin marami ka rin pagkakamali kaya wag kang magmalinis. #nakakainisfeelingvictim #kaliwete
ReplyDeleteEwan ko sa inyo, ang daming gullible.
ReplyDeleteAndre and Kobe proudly calls Lyxen Mom tapos when asked about Jackie they refer to their real mom as "her" ni hindi mabanggit na mom - ang sakit dba. Kung ako si Lyxen i will tell the kids na si Jackie pa rin ang mommy at kahit di sila nagkasundo ng tatay nila mahal pa din sila ng mommy nila. para positive lumaki ang mga bata. Kaso grabe manulsol ang Lyxen na to- basahin nyo ang post nya sa FB na nasa PEP sinisiraan nya si jackie dapat daw tumigil na kasi nagpabaya sya nalimutan na daw ng mga bata na galing sila sa womb nya, sya na daw (Lyxen) na nag alaga sa mga bata ang nanay na naalala ng mga ito. Anung klaseng babae ang ganito na di marunong maawa sa kapwa nya ina na nagsusumamo at humihingi na ng tawad sa anak? Matakot ka po sa Karma!
ReplyDelete2:22 mam di ka updated. ako kasi as a mom masyado ko nasaktan sa katigasan ng loob ng mga bata kaya i follow this story. lahat gnawa na nya pero kinordon off sya ni benjie. lahat ng kaibgan nya at kamag anak pinutol ang communication sa mga anak nya even the ninangs na close kay jackie. di rin sya knakausap ng mga bata sa phone at hndi welcome pag pumupnta sya. ang last nga ay nung magdala sya ng dswd at na trauma daw mga bata. nagpadala din sya ng video ni hindi daw pnanood ng mga bata at galit nga kasi pinakita sa media. ayaw daw nila ng thru media kaso ayaw naman nila kausapin nanay nila privately pano naman yun e ang hirap kaya sa damdamin ng ina ang di mo makausap ang anak. only a mom can understand the pain.
ReplyDeleteBenjie paras was a child molester he should've been put in jail.
ReplyDeleteI think that's basically what the boys do now...They've already forgiven you long time ago Jackie and they've move-on just like what you did. They've openly accept the fate of that failed marriage. Regretting all those not so good childhood memories, Andre and Kobe already passed that stage and I hope you do too. After all, the two boys is really doing great. Are you not happy? For once Jackie, let it go. Don't push them more..away from you by doing this. It wont help.
ReplyDeleteMy goodness, ito na ba solusyon ni Jackie sa problema ng pamilya nya? ang social media lng ba ang pwede nyang gamitin para mkapag communicate sa anak nya. Nasa US sya, narun din si Kobe. Why not watch his game, leave some lil tokens to remind him of her? Same with Andre. You know Im a mother too but I don't force myself to my son so much because being a teenager they felt embarrassed when parents hover around their activities. May lugar at panahon yan. Kahit uhaw ka sa yakap nila, kumalma ka dahil may panahon talaga na hahanapin ka nila. Pambihira nman Jackie, above yourself, isipin mo naman kahihiyan ng anak mo. Isumpa mo na si Benjie at ang misis nya, pero ang pagiging discreet yun yung gift mo sa dalawang binata mo.
ReplyDeleteWhy is it pag babae ang umalis, the blame is on her. He married someone very young. Does he think na ganon na lang iyon, he will keep the children to himself. I think Benjie siya ang dahilan that there is so much hate with Jackie. They will take side with the father kasi nga na brainwashed na sila. They have to prove their loyalty to him at the expense of the mother. Sana pag nag asawa sila and have their own children ma enlighten sila
ReplyDeleteeven before pa i think may mali na kay benjie. sa mga interviews he would always say na may isip na mga anak nya, hindi na nya kontrolado. geezzz. nasa magulang yan kung pano mag isip ang mga bata, kung pano mo i instill sa kanila ang values. may asawa ka na at may mga anak na din yata..si jackie din namna ganun na. naka move on na kayong lahat. so ano pa kulang? baka ang kulang e psychatrist (spelling? nabobo na tuloy ako hehe) para sayo hehe
ReplyDeleteTotoo ba na sinasaktan mo sila??
ReplyDeleteLove begets love. If your objective is to win your kids back then you have certainly failed. Matters like these are better discussed privately. Pinapahiya mo ang mga anak mo.
ReplyDeleteMMK !!!!
ReplyDeleteLet us all accept that their relationship didn't work well. Both parties have reasons. My take on this issue is kahit gaano na 'brainwash' si A and K ni Benjie and for sure nagkulang man kahit papaano si Jackie bilang ina. I hope dumating ang time na mas matured sila mag isip ay marealize nila na mas magaan sa loob nila kung respeto at pagkilala ang bibigay nila sa isa't isa. Maikli lang ang buhay, sana maimagine ng mga bata na kung namatay si Jackie, hindi sila maiyak at magsisi sa hirap ng kalooban na pinaramdam nila sa nanay nila. Maging successful man sila sa career ang mga bata, may kulang at kulang pa rin yan sa puso nila.
ReplyDeleteI believe her and I feel for her. Unfortunately her kids are between youth and adulthood. It will take time for them to really realize things. Putting this story out there may upset them today, but she and they deserve to hear her side- whether they like it or not. Mahabahaba pa to. Glad she has a new family who can love her in return.
ReplyDeleteWhen i learned about that moment when he was pushing andrei jackie, of course at that age, he would be afraid of his father's reaction! it was more like a threatening like, try to go to her! But still as a mom, just not to traumatize the children more, jackie said better do it next time. Still protecting the children was in her mind. I can imagine how controlling benjie was, and still is. Tsk tsk
ReplyDeleteThose two kids are just afraid and manipulated by their father and stepmom.
I feel for you Jackie, as I am a mother as well. God bless you.
Idaan mo sa korte para legal, not in the court of public opinion or social media.
ReplyDeleteKids! Respect your family especially your Mother!
ReplyDeleteI admire Jackie. Matagal na panahon na nung nakasama nya mga anak niya. And as a mom mahirap malayo sa anak lalo pa malapit ka na pero hindi mo sila mahawakan makausap. I feel bad for her. Jackie, I hope you get what you deserve and I hope you find peace and Happiness.
ReplyDeleteAs for the kids, I may not know your side but if there is still love in your hearts for your mom I do pray for you to give her a chance maybe not now but in time. Para sa peace of mind niyo din yan lalo na pag nagkaroon na kayo ng sarili niyong family in the future.
Maraming nagcocoment na manahimik na lang dapat si Jackie at maghintay pero siguro panahon na rin na alisin nya ang tinik sa dibdib dahil sya ang lumabas na masamang babae.. Sa lahat ng ina,maraming makakarelate kai Jackie. Iba- iba ang ugali ng tao at kung paano makarecover sa stress. Matagal rin syang nagtiis at itinago ang tunay na damdamin dahil LAGING SI BENJIE ang HERO at reposable. Para sa akin pareho silang may kamaliaan at hindi dapat turuan ang mga bata ng hated laban sa ina. Very controlling father ang tingin ko kay Benjie dahil mukhang takot at na brainwashed ang mga bata kaya malayo ang loob na makipag ayo sa nanay.
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